aekimieme Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2046	GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"	STRATEGY	aekimieme	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 06:44 PM
1048	It was too good to be true.	CULTURAL MISOGYNY	aekimieme	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/21 01:55 PM
931	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.		aekimieme	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 12:34 PM
525	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS)	STRATEGY	aekimieme	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 03:03 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	depressed by misogyny today Just kidding ! Couldn’t help myself. Thank you for your detailed response. Love the demented patient approach with family actually. I will be using that one !	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/22 02:58 PM
5	depressed by misogyny today Oh okay.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/22 02:57 PM
8	depressed by misogyny today Mind elaborating on your last sentence ? I always love to learn more about boundary setting	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/22 10:00 PM
7	The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone. Your first sentence really hit me. My value and aspirations were always linked to a hypothetical man that would one day enter my life. Nothing I was warned about as a woman had to do with me taking care of myself only and learning how to protect myself. It was all about how I will have an obligation to a man and our children in the future and every decision will lead to that unavoidable end. I was, just like SayNad, hateful of the fact that I was born a woman and terrified of linking my life to …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/02/22 06:44 PM
63	The slow normalization of pedophilia Holy Shit. This is 100% happening ….	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/22 04:40 PM
68	Husband cares so little about pregnant wife who has an immune disorder & lies about wearing a mask & social distancing, forcing her to leave the home because he can’t be responsible. Poor woman. THANK YOU. It annoys the hell out of me when couples say “we’re pregnant”. The definition of pregnant is legit : 1 : containing a developing embryo, fetus, or unborn offspring within the body Is the man doing that ? No. So don’t call it that. I’d even take “we are expecting”. Ugh	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/01/22 09:54 PM
10	Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious! Weaponized himcompetence is why my dad was just another child of my mother’s. I’m really really not about it. No thanks. Immediate block/delete.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/21 07:15 PM
14	Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfems So those people you debate with say sex work is empowering and also call you a victim blamer ? So, which one is it ? Are they empowered or victims ? I see your point. No need to argue with them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/21 01:49 PM
2	'Body count': Do people count and what even matters? Damn. I’m so sorry this happened to you. …I also can’t help but to feel happy for you. He caused you great pain but now (especially with FDS) I’m happy there’s now space for a good man to come through.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/21 01:20 PM
68	'Body count': Do people count and what even matters? Listen girl. There’s men out there that will wait. I’m also in my late 20s and have been in multiple relationships that didn’t have sex cause I wanted to wait till marriage. My first one was really abusive and he would say things like “you’re lucky I’m with you cause no other man would put up with this”. I was 19 and didn’t know any better and truly felt guilty but not having sex with him was a matter of pride. Like, bitch, if you think coercion will work, think again. My next ex was much much a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/21 08:43 PM
24	'Body count': Do people count and what even matters? Do you know why exactly it’s stressing you out ?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/21 07:22 PM
9	No more wishy-washy men Happy to help ! Stuff we go through sucks but it is a great cautionary tale…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 04:55 PM
26	No more wishy-washy men I dated a guy for a year like that during covid prior to discovering FDS. Finding FDS made me realize I needed better. He was my first non-abusive relationship and I thought that meant he was the BOMB. But no, he was simply nice to me and not a narcissist lol. I moved in with him quickly due to covid - never again will I live with a man child - he asked me to pay half the rent cause I was always at his place during lockdowns even though I had my own apartment. I told him if I’m paying rent (alre…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 04:38 PM
16	I am responsible for allowing scrotes in my life Welcome! A lot of us are gravitating to what seems to be the only safe space on the internet for women. I remember when I found FDS, there were less than 150K subs and now there’s over 210K. Love this for us but also, it’s a clear sign of the state of the world…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 04:25 PM
44	I feel like I can't trust men I think you’re so right about taking your time and that a mask slips after a certain while. And I agree fully about “the mask may seem to stay on” only if you ignore the red flags. We have to be honest with ourselves. Our intuition is always guiding us but we choose to ignore it a lot of the time to feel loved, wanted, and accepted. I didn’t listen to my intuition for the longest time and thus found myself in abusive relationships w users and narcissists. Now, if I feel a tiny bit off or somethi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 04:19 PM
18	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. I watched a video about pornstars talking about their sex life and even they say it’s nothing like porn. How they seek intimacy and affection in their personal sexual relationships. They don’t say that porn is abuse but it’s implied.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 07:03 PM
52	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. There’s been quite a few comments on this post that I’m seeing along the lines of “If I man is getting his bag through prostitution, I would not date him but I’d respect his choice of work” that got deleted for obvious reasons. And those comments really bother me cause, how can you not see that what you are saying is off the mark ? it also is not respecting the conversation we are having, which is the SEXUALIZATION AND COMMODIFICATION OF WOMEN’S bodies with complete disregard for their treatment…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 06:56 PM
117	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. lol yeah, probably none.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 04:09 PM
42	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. Exactly. There’s nothing empowering about that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 03:46 PM
27	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. It was reposted on a page on insta asking “do you agree with OP?” And the answers were in the comments.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 02:37 PM
98	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. Thing is, very little women find it truly lucrative. There’s the people at the top, like in everything really. But the rest? They’re struggling. They’re making themselves extremely vulnerable with little to no “reward”.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 02:07 PM
332	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. It’s a world designed for women to never win basically.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 01:20 PM
472	They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite. The general consensus is that it is not a respected profession even though they all say it is… until it affects them personally. Notice that the only Times someone says they’re for it is when they can share in the profits. Either way, the woman is simply a commodity. I find it funny how men will scream up and down that a woman is insecure and intolerant when she does not approve of sex work but then, when asked, the answers are very telling.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/12/21 12:37 PM
19	Do you have a friend who reaches out to you when things aren't working out with her man, and then the minute they're okay, she's gone? Thank you, that is very kind. This is why we’re here. The support system here is unreal. I read FDS everyday and it grounds me. You also don’t deserve to be treated any less than how you treat others. I don’t subscribe to the idea of “treat others the way you want to be treated” because they never will. They will simply take advantage of you. I’m more inclined to believe “treat yourself the way you want to be treated” and set an example in that way. So, if you have someone not treating you with …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/21 08:07 PM
41	Do you have a friend who reaches out to you when things aren't working out with her man, and then the minute they're okay, she's gone? I used to and it took me about a decade to realize she’s bad for me. We became friends in high school and she was NEVER single. Always in a relationship. Always toxic, up and down, crazy fights relationships. She was in love with the idea of love and she was the biggest pick me I’ve ever met (and that comes from a really terrible past pick me). She was always MIA and only resurfaced when things went wrong. It wasn’t just that. It was that she only resurfaced to SEEK advice and TALK ABOUT THOSE S…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/12/21 07:07 PM
54	Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you? Anything looks big when your dick is so small, sir.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/21 04:38 PM
1	Protect yourselves against vengeful and bitter lurkers Also, use a VPN so the most determined of scrotes can't get to you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 02:02 PM
33	Women have been shamed and bullied into staying silenct and tolerating shitty, dangerous behavior so they don't look like a "Karen". Why is there no word for men who misbehave in public, much less men who creep out women? Damn. That was food for my brain.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/21 11:30 PM
8	Pickmeisha in Training: Very Sad If this is a real person, could you contact her with a link to FDS? That way, maybe she can get alternative views/perspectives?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/21 05:24 PM
20	It was too good to be true. Exactly. There is clearly an agenda. Assuming that investors were actually not down with it running only porn, then this could have been a way of rallying the people behind OF and to show the investors : " See ? Look! Everyone is cool with porn! They want it back! We can spin it in a positive way!"	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/21 04:24 PM
29	“Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates. “And who will ask me out and pay for me and treat me like the prize”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 04:17 PM
33	SNOOPING 101 Also, I don't know how it works for Androids, but with iPhone, if he has his "location services" enabled, you can find a map of every single place he's ever been to and how long he's been there. My friend caught her cheater husband that way. She was suspicious and checked his phone and found that when she was at work and he was "at home", he actually went to his mistress's house in the daytime and left before she was done work. She didn't ask what he was doing there. She cross referenced the add…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/08/21 04:14 PM
1	Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages! Question for you : Do you believe there's HVMs in the backpacker sphere? I love backpacking and travelling for extended periods of time and learning the local customs and languages. When I travelled in the past, I made some travel buddies and met a LOT of guys (generally fit, more good looking than whatever I find back home, open, friendly, adventurous, worldly, busy with discovering new things) BUT in hindsight, a LOT of them were LVMs, trying to get in my bed after one evening of meeting me in…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/08/21 06:51 PM
38	How to tell if a guy watches porn? OHHH CLEVER!!!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/08/21 03:08 PM
32	I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention. From what I understand, it's about reframing who is the "prize". Who is the pursuer and the pursued and basically bringing women down so they can give a terrible "man" a chance he would def not get otherwise cause he clearly does not see women as independant sovereign beings.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/08/21 02:43 PM
33	Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burning Thank you and yea I am ❤️ thanks in part to FDS !	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 08:05 PM
144	Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burning I've heard that one before. "It takes two people to break up." and my NO boundaries young self was like... okay, I guess? and stayed in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship for 3 years :) after I "attempted" to break up with him after 2 months...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 06:03 PM
2	He’s just not that good for you. He's also not good TO you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 05:47 PM
11	Say NO to bonding over past trauma Thank you. I fully agree with you. I love your perspective and nuance you brought to it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 02:40 PM
115	Diary of a recovering pickmeisha Hey sis, I'm sorry you went through all of that. This was a really impossible way to learn those lessons. My heart goes out to you and I'm so happy you found FDS so you can protect yourself and your body <3. You are worth way more than just your body and I'm very happy you are on your healing journey!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/07/21 02:34 PM
3	looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behavior I’m so sorry you went through that sis. It really is a hard learned and painful lesson. That “guy” was garbage and you deserve to be loved and cherished and with FDS, we will find that one day. I gotta believe it ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 10:35 PM
24	Blocking is therapeutic. Block block block block 🎶🎵	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 06:53 PM
1	GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?" You’re very welcome sis !	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 06:42 PM
1	FDS aligned Youtuber recommendations? Found this lovely lady recently and LOVE her content. Asha Christina I've watched so many of her vids this week. I watch all my videos at 2x speed so I can consume more efficiently!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 06:19 PM
11	looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behavior In high school, my ex told me : " You're not smart. You're just a hard worker." because I was at the top of my class (that he was also in) and he could not deal with me doing better than him so he tried to put me down. Jokes on him though cause that's the one thing I'll never believe. This same ex added me on facebook the day after he got married (7 years later) and when he had his daughter (2 years after that). I never declined the first invite. I just left it hanging forever because I'm too in…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 05:28 PM
7	looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behavior I fasted for Ramadan in random conversation the line “ can I feed you my dick after sunset “ was said. What the actual fck? What did you do?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 05:22 PM
3	looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behavior Yes please!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 05:18 PM
3	Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 6) I love this. Thank you yet again for this gem. I have saved the whole series to remind myself why this is monumentaly important. My self respect is more important than any feelings I might have towards a man. Always.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 03:58 PM
18	Gift back? I agree with you. If I see it as a hella embarassing thing for him to do then I wouldn't stoop low to that level. The intention when the items were given is that they were to be kept by that person, it wasn't conditional on them staying with you or else no one would give any gifts since we can't predict the future. If you lent stuff, that's different. But once something is given, it's theirs. Whether they deserve it or not.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 03:32 PM
3	GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?" You're right about ACTION ACTION ACTION. Very important.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 03:19 PM
2	GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?" you're very welcome :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 12:55 PM
6	GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?" I've never used OLD so Idk how to answer that but I'd love someone else to chime in! I'm very curious too!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 11:03 AM
29	Pink offers to pay female Norwegian handball team’s fine Hell yeah! Women supporting women! Here for it!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 11:47 PM
66	GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?" Love this!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 11:40 PM
54	Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction. Men never pursue a woman or enter a relationship with her if they don't find her attractive. Period. Why are we expected to do any differently? I don't necessarily think these women want you to be miserable per se. I think it's just all they know and couldn't even imagine a healthy happy relationship cause they've basically been taught by life that it does not exist and thus see your standards as too high or you're too picky... It is my dream for every woman to know her worth.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 05:20 PM
74	Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction. Nice men can also be porn addicts. My ex was and I was so suPPoRtIvE…. I used to be such a pick me about porn and now after having lived the experience of dating a guy who watches it the moment you leave for hours and hours at a time… no. Just … no.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 03:34 PM
195	Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction. I live in a constant state of cringe for dating a very feminine short boy with long hair that was mistaken for a woman everywhere we went. I was not attracted to him in the SLIGHTEST but he was nice to me, which I had never experienced before... lol Oh man, trust me sisters. NOT WORTH IT. He also admitted to me after we broke up that he liked walking around with me because it made other men respect him... so I was his trophy. I will like to add that even the "nice ones" can be no bueno. He told …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 02:04 PM
49	I can’t stand the older generation of pick-mes that made men so damn entitled. I'm so sorry this is a situation you find yourself in and have to deal with. You are a strong woman and you love your children and I admire that so much. It sucks to carry the burden of EVERYTHING. I watched my mom do it her whole life until she got cancer and almost died. After her "rebirth", she doesn't take shit from my dad, uses all his money and lets him complain all day long because they BOTH know that he's too old to be with anyone else and he would die without her so he tolerates her "la…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 06:25 PM
5	Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination? I don't even pay attention to ANYTHING outside of what is the Qur'an. Those stories passed down from generation to generation? I mean, let's be real, we've all played the game "telephone". The bullshit we're hearing is clearly non-sensical. Makes absolute sense so many ppl are leaving Islam (especially women) when it does not serve them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 06:09 PM
5	Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination? Yeah of course. I found the PDF of it for free. Can we link things here? It's called "Quran A Reformist Translation" by Edip Yuksel, Layth Saleh al-Shaiban, & Martha Schulte-Nafeh. I don't love the title reformist cause I feel it's misleading but it is very eye opening and I know that if I were to take my faith that direction (towards islam), it would be with the LOGICAL principles I learned. This is the first page of it: "The Reformist Translation of the Quran offers a non-sexist and non-sectar…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 05:56 PM
5	Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination? Yeah, it's a lot... it's like having to learn to REPROGRAM yourself.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 03:52 PM
16	Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination? This is going to be a bit of a Storytime post and how I dealt with it. I was raised in a very conservative Muslim household where my dad controlled EVERYTHING as he was the MAN and the PROVIDER and my mom was basically a slave. I grew up with the messed up ideology that sex is for men's pleasure and when you get married, it is to please your husband (told to me by my MOTHER). I was forced to wear the hijab at 16 and had to wear it for 10 years until years of depression and terrible life experien…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 03:33 PM
17	Even some men in the comment section were saying that they wouldn't like it if their lady proposed to them but were attacked like anything ! If he wanted to... he would.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 02:44 PM
50	Men won't listen to women on how to "repaur" their dead bedrooms. I'm sorry this was your experience sis	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/21 04:31 PM
32	44 years old with mommy issues🤡 the jokes write themselves atp that brought me physical pain lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/21 04:25 PM
11	When I was with my NV Ex husband I used to have to come home and clean after work while pregnant! My now boyfriend does my yard work and cleans while I’m working… we don’t even live together 🥳 I see what you did there hehe	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/21 12:06 PM
3	The new dating scam. Ahaha that made me laugh ! I like your style !	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/07/21 12:29 PM
2	The new dating scam. Thank you :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/07/21 12:28 PM
19	The new dating scam. Tell me about it!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 07:02 PM
22	The new dating scam. Thanks girl, that's why I'm on here! To learn and grow and never repeat the same mistakes so I appreciate you taking the time to write that!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 06:04 PM
27	The new dating scam. I totally respect where you come from. It's just.... I have this righteous rage in me right now and I could care less what he thinks and wants. I was with him on and off for 5 years of my formative years... wasted. He had the audacity to call me on a blocked number, not once but like 7 times in the past few months (because he said he knew I wouldn't pick up if it was him and I nicely reminded him that I have not had his number saved on my phone since we broke up lol. In his head, he is still imp…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 05:38 PM
102	The new dating scam. THank you girl! I went through my banking transactions of those years and I am ready with the receipts. I don't have his contact info, only the email addresses he had back in the day. So, I am sending a request to each email and waiting a few days between each cause I'm reasonable like that. If no money is transferred, then he will be in trouble with his momma. BTW, when he called me recently, he told me he was still living in his momma's basement where I left him 7 years ago. I would like to ad…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 03:08 PM
21	"How come you are still single?" Love this. I shall use it this day forward!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 02:47 PM
193	The new dating scam. This reminds me of a time... when I was 21 and my ex at the time was 20. I was in university and he wasn't so I had a lot of bills to pay and he didn't. He said for our 1 year anniversary, it would be really cool if we got matching macbook pros. I said okay and saved up for 4 months working part time during my schooling. Comes the day to buy the macbooks, we go to the apple store and I'm ready. I saved up, I increased my pay limit on my card. We pick our computers and go to the cash. I pay mine …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 02:01 PM
2	Beware of the over-helper It's that damn saviour complex. "Let me save you so I feel good about myself and then hold it against you forever." When a guy says " Look what I did for you." I'm immedaitely turned off. I don't do things to throw them back in your face so I'd appreciate the same respect.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/07/21 01:14 PM
105	The amount of times Incels have misunderstood my kindness for flirting 🤮 ah. it all makes sense now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/07/21 03:31 PM
1	Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is. Happy to help ! :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/07/21 03:16 PM
39	NOT ALL MEN DESERVE THEIR GENES BEING PASSED ON TO THE NEXT GENERATION - ladies please be careful with who you decide to have kids with Did I just read it right? HELP pay for it? So not even paying it fully himself. A surgery that only he wants.. for his own pleasure? Seriously? I noticed that too. Disgusting.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 07:27 PM
35	Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is. It translates to : "I know you're way out of my league and I'm projecting my insecurities on you cause if I was in your position, I'd cheat."	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 05:29 PM
31	Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is. I'm disgusted. I'm sorry you went through that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/21 05:28 PM
5	Why we don't do "girlfriend" title but I think it's something you don't tell to men What's the thing you don't tell to men? I scrolled up to see what you're agreeing with and I think I missed it or can't find it!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 05:53 PM
28	Letting Go of the Fear of Marriage I can relate to this so much. Same with the dad thing. I told myself I'd rather die than become my mother. Thing is, I think it's easy for humans to go to extremes when they're been raised in extremes. For example : Witnessed toxic marriage = never get married Instead of Figure out why marriage was toxic = avoid toxic marriage in future I was anti marriage too cause I didn't want a man controlling me but realize now I was approaching it the wrong way and ended up attracting guys who were users/n…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 04:52 PM
6	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) Yes. 100 times this. It's so hard to unlearn decades of beliefs! It's a process for me but they're not messed up yet so this will protect them!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 04:33 PM
18	I love FDS and FDS loves me too! I feel the same way. I'm a newbie here and I feel like I found something so sacred that there is no way I could ever go back to my old ways. It feels like reaching the point of no-return to a new life and I love it. I'm so happy for you ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 04:03 PM
14	Boundaries vs. Control. "When a man says no, it is the end of a discussion. When a woman says no, it is the beginning of a negotiation." I read that on some youtube comment and realized how terribly sad but true this is... I've never said NO to a guy without him trying to convine me otherwise.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 01:01 PM
13	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) I love your idea of role playing. I will 100% try that with my sisters. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 07:14 PM
24	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) "But the more important point (in my opinion) is that you want to be with a man who LIKES YOU, WANTS TO BE WITH YOU, and MAKES AN EFFORT." Yikes.... Sad to admit I never experienced that (and I was engaged lol)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 06:48 PM
12	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) You brought up a lot of good points. It's true that when you get tt know someone, they're a stranger and we can't just open ourselves up to someone we don't know at all. The risks are high.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 06:17 PM
5	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) I'm saving this comment ! thank you :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 05:47 PM
14	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) "The biggest give away here will be your increasing levels of anxiety (which you likely won’t connect with him) about yourself and life in general." I'Ve never been more at peace than when I was single! You're so right about this, we get depleted and don't understand why it's so hard to function when there's an NVM/LVM in our lives. Edit : added quotation marks	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 05:28 PM
26	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) women need to view things from men’s perspectives so for those who think paying proves they’re independent, that’s not how men see it, they see it as a way to exploit liberal feminism’s idea of equality This. So helpful! thank you :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 04:39 PM
32	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) Agreed 100%. Unless a guy can provide, he's not worth your time and teenage boys obviously can't provide. I so regret dating as a teen or in my 20s. You really have to get to know yourself before you allow a man in your temple!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 04:38 PM
54	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) I feel like the only way to know if a man sees women as people is by having firm boundaries of what you tolerate and see how he responds to you asserting yourself AND not giving him sex.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 04:35 PM
10	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) Love this. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 04:34 PM
120	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) I always felt like I "owed" the guy intimacy if he paid. My first boyfriend, when I was 16, told me that: - Since he paid (when he paid for like an ice cream or something) , I owe him blowjobs (never touched his peepee) So I got really traumatized and stopped "letting" him pay. After that, I never let a guy pay and I deeply regret it now lol. I just can't even begin to imagine a guy being "happy to pay".	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 04:32 PM
43	EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS) Thank you so much! I'll mention all those things. I'd like to add that when I was talking to them, my 10 year old brother was there and he didn't understand why it was fair. I decided to leave him out of the conversation to not put pressure on a ten year old - he has 5 older sisters so we're always talking about the low value of men - (he's very aware of how bad guys can be). His only male example is my dad (who's a terrible male example of misogyny, lack of respect for women despite having 5 da…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/06/21 04:29 PM