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Sweetie, you're in the wrong sub. If you can't even be bothered to reply in the same place I'm not going to waste my time and effort reading your pathetic little rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/23 08:27 AM
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It wasn't removed. They just shifted to a different platform. Details in main sub page.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/23 09:33 AM
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I'm convinced those running the place have bought into red pill ideology. It's too much of a cess pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/22 01:27 PM
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Why is because the horror and rage you feel at seeing the nsfw post linked in this chat is the daily life of the mods. Your convenience at having this subreddit is directly causing them psychological harm. But why was it reposted on FDS? I mean for what purpose? To make a point of why we've moved to the website. Not supporting a site that promotes this content and to protect the mods. Is that not true, wasn't it like banned from reddit for a short time or something? FDS went private a while ago …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/22 09:47 AM
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It's that and "health issues" that makes me laugh. Think he'd be making more effort to look after himself since he considers himself to be worthy of a high value woman. He just wants a nanny bangmaid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:37 PM
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Nutrition expert. Chef. Interests: Takeout
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 11:21 AM
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Also, those who immediately get one and then expect you to jump into bed need to be dropped/watched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 10:44 AM
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I feel it too. Honestly I just sit with it, acknowledge it, and let it pass. I know I'm happier single and lonely than being with a guy feeling lonely and disappointed. Yes, it's different with a HVM but I'm not pinning my happiness, even theoretical happiness, on having a guy. Not sure if that helps but, I'm sat in my feelings with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:28 PM
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Thinking aloud: Male orgasm as a way to project genetic material from the male to the female. I imagine there was some kind of energy used vs 'value' to the male required a positive feedback for the 'investment' to occur, which would be the dopamine etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 03:37 PM
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Why can't women just exist. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 06:43 PM
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Time investment and "future faking" yourself by imagining a connection before you've even matched. I've started doing this after I realised I was getting disappointed at not 'getting a match' with literal strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 11:45 AM
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Men: "women only go for assholes not nice guys like me" Also men when she's with a genuinely nice man "He's such a square! What is she thinking."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 07:32 AM
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Someone who's entire self esteem is dependent on external validation (men's primarily, which explains her putting herself at risk like she does) does not take criticism well. You've triggered her fight or flight and, as a trusted safe person, she's lashed out at you rather than introspect or face the validity of what you've said. A good friend respects what's asked and gives space. Now, she asked me for space. I feel horrible. All I wanted was to help and protect her because I noticed this patte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:09 PM
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Great spotting, and calling out, of internalised misogyny 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:05 PM
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Depends where you are from. But specifically raise a 'grievance' not a complaint/concern. For example I've read that in the UK a formal grievance has legal protection and a process that must be adhered to (taking the bias of HR out of the equation). I believe there are similar laws in some states in the US. Googling <country/state formal grievance procedure> should cover if/what the process is. Assuming this is work experience as part of your education I'd also look into using your university's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 09:59 AM
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I honestly am so angry and would like to make sure that he looses his job but then I’m like, do I really have to waste any more time with this disgusting person when I know that I have many better opportunities lined up? What would you do? By the way I have to write a note about him too but I want to calm down before I do so. Your confidence in your ability to recover/not be impacted by his behaviour comes from your position of privilege (well off background). That's not a position other women w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 09:35 AM
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Absolutely agree with this. I got the ick about a guy who's first message is the day was "you alright" rather than "hi, how are you?". Felt more like a 'why haven't you messages ME' than reaching out to say hello. Poor communication skills just aren't acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:54 PM
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Which is why FDS tells us to have separate protected finances and always be in a position to allow ourselves to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:54 AM
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You're spending more mental effort thinking about him being lukewarm, what it means and how it will pan out than he has spent thinking about you. This is why we don't waste time with lukewarm men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:48 AM
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OLD match last weekend (I know) conversation was "hi" "how are you?" "how's your weekend?" Then him asking if I have WhatsApp. I responded that I'd prefer to keep talking on the app for now. His response "ok. I'm going out now might speak later." 🙄 Unmatched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 10:17 PM
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Instinctual behaviour only works in the moment. Parental instinct = get child to help/hospital so it doesn't die. Premeditated aggression/anger issues take you back to a smoothie place to shout at and attack the staff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:20 AM
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HVM and HVW are the exception to the norm. Most men in your age bracket will be immature and unstable. A lot of women will be as well (especially in this economy and all the challenges the generation has faced). You are an exceptional outlier, you deserve the best, that means another exceptional outlier not some guy that, purely because they've had more time, look more stable. 43 year olds would have been settled into their careers prior to the housing bubble crash of 2008. 35 year olds tried to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:46 PM
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Yay for you being UK based as I can advise! Use this site. MSE gives good 101 on investing as well as ISAs. It's free and enough to get your money working for you while you decide if you want to actively do more with it. https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/savings/investment-beginners/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:59 PM
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Because one is censoring women (IG). The other would inconvenience men (porn).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 03:59 PM
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I... I knew what it was, why did I still choose to watch the video??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:07 PM
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Gotta love how they used his ex best friend dying as his get out of jail free card for being a scrote. It's okay he's a terrible human and abandoned you while pregnant, don't you realise how traumatised he is? Why didn't you, a woman, support him through this difficult time!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:06 PM
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It's their blatant cognitive dissonance for me. Women are gold diggers but also fuck women for having their own money. 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 11:34 AM
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A HV friend of mine took the full burden of his relationship when his partner for post partum psychosis. He commuted for worked looked after his child and drive >2hours to visit her at hospital where she was being cared for. And took on the full finances of the household as she couldn't work. Without complaint. He did lean, to an appropriate level, on his friends for emotional support because it was a truly stressful and horrifying experience for his family to go through. But there was no bitter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 09:12 AM
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Fantastic post and a really useful sign of my own personal growth. None of these, with a FDS lense, are things I'd consider subtle now but I'd likely be tempted to explain away in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 01:33 PM
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Stepping in. The personal you're arguing with isn't saying women shouldn't be criticises. She's saying that these men are not HV. Being HV is holistic; a man is either high or low value he is not a mix of high and low value traits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:23 PM
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Like... "Prove it, here's my PayPal link. Send $500" then block and delete once money is sent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:22 PM
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Oh my god. It's so true. Reach out to as many people as possible and hope some are stupid enough to take the bait, then pressure them into getting what you want 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:10 PM
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Initially I'd do it jokingly. Wow, if our life were a film we'd fail the Bechdel test. And if she doesn't know what that is explain it to her. It's a roundabout way of pointing out you only talk about men. Make a judgement on her response (she may get defensive or turn it round at you). And, feel free to set a boundary. "Hey, I'm trying to catch up with how things are in your life. I'd like to talk about things other than dating."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:02 AM
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... you don't have a kink if you've never had sex before. I wonder if she'd be into this stuff if her first time had been a guy making love to her gentle and slow like she's asking from her bf. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:12 PM
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My brain immediately translated LVA into Low Value Assh*le... 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:49 PM
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Ah, fair 😊 I read the third sentence as directed to me and it toned the rest of your comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:36 PM
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It’s not about what you feel. It’s about how you handle it. This to me is not being bothered by someone. You inferred a lot from a single sentence and used that as an opportunity to jump down my throat. I'll take it as a lesson to be more intentional with my words so as to not be misinterpreted like this in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:22 PM
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He knows she upsets you so he's utilising that as a weapon against you. HVW aren't bothered by scrotes and their nonsense. Take some time to define boundaries which are acceptable to you for your ex's partners. At what relationship status are you okay with what behaviour. Eg if he marries her is chatting up Christmas more acceptable. Then communicate only to the minimal level needed to maintain that boundary, grey rock if needed, and hold the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:10 PM
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Dudes got aspirations to baby trap & leech off successful women like Steve from SATC 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:28 PM
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The universe stepped in and exposed the true nature of someone you thought was kind and sweet. His mask slipped off, this is who he was underneath the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:26 PM
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What do you ladies think? Is this someone who is shy? Is there an attraction? Or he’s just playing around? Is there more flirting I need to do on my end to see clarity? Translation: "How do I get him to pick me?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:08 AM
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Just in case no one's ever said it. You don't need a man to have a child, you can get a sperm donation and raise the child yourself. Child rearing is only easier when you have a HVM. If having a kid is important, chase that dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:20 PM
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Men should feel honoured to be chosen to be reproduced with. They shouldn't just 'want kids' and expect it to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:18 PM
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Ice him out and journal/therapy/mindfulness/handle your own shit with your emotional reaction (with kindness but stop being wrapped up in being the tortured hero of unrequited love. This is also known as having self respect, you deserve someone who had time and will treat you right. It'll hurt like fuck, it'll be thrown in your face and you might break down a couple of times. But as you actively choose to get over him it gets easier. One day you'll wake up and realise he doesn't mean anything to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:52 PM
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100% guarantee her guy 'friend' likes her, was rejected and feels like she deserves to be attacked. Very convoluted (to normal people) misogynist thought patterns: I didn't get what I want from you, therefore you're a bad person, therefore bad things should happen to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 10:55 AM
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You are right. You don't deserve any of this. Men are cruel because they've been socialised to hate women, they don't see us as human. They see us as consumables.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:35 PM
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Wanted: marketable female that I can use to fulfil intricate masturbation fantasies while also profiteering from your sexual appeal by hosting this on onlyfans. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 10:18 PM
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Ugh I'm so sorry he's still creeping on you through social media (include this in the report). I think this will be a healing journey for you. It's stuck in your mental landscape and this should help dislodge it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 12:15 PM
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Yes, you can call your local station and say you'd like to file a report. You have the right to request a female officer to discuss filing, as well as request a female officer to take your statement. Don't let them talk you out of your right to submit this report. They will take a statement of events from you, be clear with details of the night. What you told him etc. How the night went. His behaviour. If you only had two drinks but we're very drink. The details of how he convinced you to his wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:58 AM
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For the first time in a while I drank too much and this guy took advantage of me (not rape though, but I was too drunk and if I were sober it would be a no!) Non consensual sexual activity is sexual assault. Alcohol removes your ability to consent. You'd clearly stated an intention to not have sex until marriage. If sexual activity occurred, due to you being inebriated and unable to say no, then you were sexually assaulted. Absolutely press charges. But you'll be accused of "regretting it" rathe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:31 AM
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There are some red flags that I have ignored here and there Welcome to FDS, I am so so glad you found us. Literally all of your post after the line quoted above was unnecessary. Women who value themselves leave at the first red flag. His lying about porn use, gaslighting you I feel hurt but Im not even sure if I should? Yes, if not hurt disappointed is a valid was to feel. Is this just normal guy behavior that I should brush off and accept? It's normalised behaviour in guys but that doesn't mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:13 PM
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I wholly agree. You are not insecure. You are not weak. You are not too much. You are not incapable. You are not worthless. You are not undeserving. You are not dumb. You are not powerless. There is not something wrong with you. None of these would be 'discovered' in a healthy relationship. You don't think you're secure then have a mirror held up to insecurity. Same for weakness, who goes in thinking they're strong and discovers themselves to truly have been weak this whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:02 PM
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Next step "you got rid of the dog that I bonded with 😭(ignoring that he never spent time doing anything with the dog) you should have another baby to make it up to me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 08:50 AM
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If it isn't bs it's an important reminder to always be vetting if he is dating a FDS member, and she has been vetting they're still together despite him being this way. Always, always vet ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:35 PM
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"I lost one of my best girl friends to her predatory abusive boyfriend who dislikes me because I see through his bullshit and he doesn't want me to take off the blindfold he's placed on her." 😞 I'd see if you can reach her on social media and just let her know, regardless of how long it is, you'll always be there if she wants to reach out. I'm sorry this has happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 10:51 AM
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Yes, and she absolutely loves it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:29 AM
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Couple of reasons I can see but I am not from a culture where arranged marriages are the norm so will delete my comment if my voice isn't needed in this conversation. As marriage is still seen as vital for women (globally in general) and evidence of her worth it's easy for men to feel like the prize in arranged marriages. I think they then are disappointed to find themselves with an actual human rather than a submissive little lady to cater to their whim. The recent news about mariatal rape legi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:28 AM
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This is not SIM swapping. That is when your SIM is fraudulently sent to another device, losing your access to your account and information. If you had been SIM swapped your phone wouldn't work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:18 AM
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The assumption of immediate, unquestionable access to a wife's body for sexual gratification through the act of marriage is being challenged. They're angry because they assumed a wife is a masturbation sleeve. If mariatal rape is illegal they know their intention is to rape a potential wife. It makes me sick. But more importantly it makes me recognise the privilege I have to be in a country where this is already in law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 12:50 PM
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Like when #killallmen was responded to with #rapeallwomen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:05 AM
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Well done you for not biting, turning it into a defence of you being 'obsessed' sounds like a rehearsed deflection tactic to me. It's giving creepy predator vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:40 PM
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he's been dealing with people overreacting about his age for years. "Why do these people keep getting angry at me when I lie?!" What an immaturity creature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:30 PM
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Omg possible self growth from a scrote. Final line. "I accept that I'm an asshole, not because of all your abuse but because of the kind of people agreeing with me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:28 PM
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After the first few dates "I don't want to discuss that." Is a more than reasonable boundary to have and communicate. Again give it no ceremony, state it elegantly but firmly, no elaboration. If asked why not, "Because I do not want to discuss it." Then just give him a 🤨.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:57 PM
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No abuse trauma but only have one parent remaining. I just answer the questions at face value and divert the conversation away from follow ups. "Where do your parents live" "My mother lives in location + reference to help find location in their mental map. Have you ever been there it's beautiful." The reference allows a natural conversation transition. How many siblings do you have? "I have two brothers, one older one younger. Haha saved from middle child syndrome by being the only girl." Then a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:44 AM
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A HVM would have ensured the driveway was cleared to ensure his wife could safely drive up and park after her 12 hour night shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 08:31 AM
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Ugh he's an idiot. Trying to brag about himself and saying nothing of substance Me an: Aspiring thinker Motivated thinker Clear thinker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 08:28 AM
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I think that the patriarchy is why the men with poor genes and personalities have been allowed to proliferate. I honestly think men are a lower overall attractiveness on average than women because of 'selective breeding' of women and patriarchal controlled marriages giving ugly men access to procreate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:19 PM
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Yes! If you have to proving an 'acceptable excuse' to avoid sex then it's always coercive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:52 PM
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Men: She told him repetitively? Nagging is harassment, that's abusive. She obviously didn't communicate clearly! He'd have done it if he understood. She's so emotional, there's not a problem her husband, being a logical man and therefore correct by default, knew this and disregarded his promise because men know best. What a crazy bitch, wanting her baby to not die what about her husband being made to do one night if childcare. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:24 PM
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I choose to believe Sean is a HVM trying to make his brother commit/convince the girlfriend to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:52 AM
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A solid year of all women responding to men with the same energy as her would transform the world. But the incel scrotes would go on murder sprees in retaliation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:29 PM
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Him: "But indent her a really nice message about how I wanted to marry her and have babies 😭" probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 05:27 PM
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Someone who lived in my building did this. She moved to be closer to family/it was a 1 bed flat. She and her baby girl are blissfully happy and it's the best thing she ever did. Similar situation, always the dream and didn't want to wait on finding a man. I'd say go for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:17 PM
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If it wasn't Christmas, would we not consider this to potentially be love bombing to purchase a gift this soon in a relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 10:01 PM
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I fully agree. If men were anything like what they could be male birth control options would be as readily available as female birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:42 PM
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If the aim is to prevent any possibility of an underage pregnancy then, again, proper education dramatically reduces the likelihood of such events occurring. In order to put in place mandatory vasectomies we'd also be in a position to ensure proper sex and relationship education. I guess the question is really: If boys are no longer brought up with a patriarchal, toxic masculine mindset that such measures would aim to address; would these measures be required?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:13 PM
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Works for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:08 PM
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Yeah... Forced, albeit mostly temporary, sterilisation of children is the pendulum swinging too far as a counter from the oppression of women for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:21 PM
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So? I empathize and grew up in poverty myself but why on earth is it a good thing if people who can barely feed and take care of themselves and maybe one child get encouraged to have even more children they can't provide for? That's selfish. The children are the ones who are going to suffer. Being encouraged to have more children is not the only alternative choice to penalising those who cannot afford to have children. Yes, children deserve to be brought up on homes where they can be adequately …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:16 PM
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as a society need to start penalizing people for having more children than they can (or want to) take care of and afford I fully get your point but this is classist. Female education has a direct negative correlation to fertility rates; the higher a women is educated the less children she is likely to produce. Rather than punishing those who have less we should continue pushing for initiatives that promote women's education. And then there are scrotes like this who impregnate women all over the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:19 PM
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maybe I should have just compromised with the walk Ma'am, doing the thing they want instead is not a compromise!! Compromise is driving a park and taking a short walk so you both get your needs met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:53 AM
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Ah, true, good point and well made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:46 AM
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Submissive: ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 What normal person wants that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:45 AM
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Men are so penis obsessed I think they'd prefer life in prison over losing it. To me, it's disarming them; they've shown they cannot be responsible for keeping one and not using it as a weapon so... prevent the possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:38 AM
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I'm so irritated that I didn't screenshot when I first read it (have no idea where I first saw it, can't find it again) but there's a quote I'll badly paraphrase to remember below. The just is there but the real one was much better 😤 When you're not used to it, standards feel shallow, boundaries feel mean and self love feels like arrogance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:02 AM
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And thank you for your honesty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:06 PM
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Is important so you can deal with 4. and then achieve 6. without this tsunami of anxiety you're currently carrying. Your comments (with awareness that I'm reading tone which may not be the one you intended when you wrote these) are intertwined with an almost panicky energy. It feels like you're feeling trapped, this does not have to be true but there is emotional work you have to do first. I'm not saying "make peace with being alone forever" I'm saying "you can wait for the right guy, you don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:06 PM
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Questions: What about living alone was missing? What does living with your mother give you? How would a man fill that spot? What is the emotional need that you're using other people as a crutch for? Can you really not move? If it comes between your job and finding a HVM which are you prioritising? Can you get a therapist and see them weekly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 02:40 PM
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Kind of feels like normalising stealing women's shine/success to me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:19 PM
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what he thinks I “actually” look like ... What in the actual fuck??? 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:20 AM
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This!!!! My LVM-ex would take huge bites of food then chew loudly. Like boy, take smaller bites and stfu when you're eating 😑.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:17 AM
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There is definitely a blind spot in boomers that they justify with the slightest inconvenience experienced through their lives to behave as they do. You and your sister deserved better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:13 PM
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Oh this is such a tough situation you must be going through. How disappointed you must be to have her behave the way she has done throughout your life. I know it doesn't really help but I'm sorry she's let you down. You deserved to be looked after properly, from your childhood, to being prioritised above her boyfriend's and for your future to be considered in her choices. I can tell you are nothing like her; you are sensitive, respectful of others and considerate. You deserve boundaries that mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:49 AM
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If you find the group dinners uncomfortable the boundary can be extended. Don't forget, boundaries are how we protect ourselves and doing that is always the right thing. I only mentioned money as the stored wealth in a house tends to make up most people's inheritance. I'd hate you to lose out financially on top of the emotional distress you're under from this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:32 AM
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I'm going to be very unhappy about it and the consequence will be that I won't feel comfortable coming over often and will probably refuse to visit This is a boundary. And it's a perfectly acceptable one as long as you accept that what she does with this information is up to her. If she's moved into the same town as you she can visit you at yours, a neutral location. She's an adult, you love her, but we aren't responsible for preventing other adults from making stupid choices. The only thing I'd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:10 AM
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Late bloomer who's heartbroken over a LV scrote who wasn't able to give her what she deserves from a relationship who only recently found female dating strategy, obviously hasn't had time to internalise the handbook so that she can be better protected from the above happening again. Who says she doesn't want to date but intends to do so in a couple of months anyway. I'm not Eye rolling her for wanting to date, I'm eye rolling the contradictory sentence I had quoted. She's absolutely still seekin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 06:23 AM
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I'm now realizing that I don't need a boyfriend for the sake of having one but maybe I'll return back to the dating scene in a couple of months ... I don't need this, but imma do it for the validation anyway... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:59 PM
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Absolutely block and delete but to add We have only seen each other 7 times. send I miss yous Love bombing By the 5th date he brought up wanting to be exclusive Had you ever mentioned not sleeping with a guy unless you were exclusive? After dinner I slept over He then says he has doubts Did you sleep or put out? If the latter he was only putting in the time in order to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:56 PM
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Tried to get you to do all the mental load of choosing a day and time. Doesn't (I assume) message for two full days and still doesn't have a full plan for the date? No. You should not go out with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:05 AM
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If they don't do it for you, make them change or leave them Don't stay with a man that disgusts you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:43 PM
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You deserve the life you will have on the other side. I promise you, you are worth the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:25 PM
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I've noticed you've only engaged in 'quick fix' suggestions such as reading a book or checking on your birth control. You need therapy and to process your past trauma. Your avoidance of acknowledging those suggestions makes this very clear. A healthy sex life is worth working in, put on your bravery pants and put in the work. That is what HVW do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:14 PM
42

Fuck, I'd partially fused porn and masturbation for men as well! Thank you for helping me realise that. 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 03:07 PM
9

No, the commenter. No nonsense, advocate for yourself first and men can either step up to be what we are worthy of or they need to waste our time. Ultimately, you're wanting to be nice is more wanting to advocate responsibility for 'hurting' someone's feelings. But this guy is a stranger and you are not responsible for his feelings. You are responsible for your physical and mental health and safety. Just message saying you don't see a connection and so are cancelling. Then block and delete his n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 02:13 PM
5

The blond from sex and the city
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 02:04 PM
28

It's a great thing OP is trying to work out how to cancel a date she didn't want then...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 01:59 PM
128

I know plus size women really shouldn't be dating instead they should be focused on leveling up to become HVW. This is internalised misogyny. Being high value doesn't have a weight limit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:54 PM
9

There is the freeze response which might cause someone to not leave the situation but you'd not look back at something causing that and think it's hot 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:42 PM
20

I was on the "well if you switch the genders it IS sexual assault" until "I'm not gonna lie, it was kinda hot".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:45 PM
25

Taking a shit and pissing clear waste from our bodies and so are useful functions. Unlike men's 'sexual needs'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:30 PM
13

Are you willing to put up with people who think this about you for the rest of their lives? If this continues after marriage etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:43 AM
5

I saved the Lisa Simpson one 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 11:28 AM
58

Similar story. Just shy of 8 years, never faked it. Still didn't get any 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 11:27 AM
28

Life is a continual journey of learning. No need for anger at yourself as long as you take the best actions for you going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:20 AM
53

straight up ask him to pick me Maybe slightly unfairly but I think you've become a pick me for this guy's attention. Please read the handbook again and if he has shown any red flags, dump him them block and delete. You deserve better than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:42 AM
90

You call him out on it Him: "omg haha no idea how my fish managed to send that. Sorry... Or did you like it 😏" 🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:41 PM
56

This just goes to show you… it doesn’t matter how beautiful you are. It doesn’t matter how smart you are. It doesn’t matter how well rounded or family-oriented you are. It doesn’t matter how goddamn perfect you are. This is so important!! It's not us it's them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:24 AM
76

HVW trigger pick-me's cognitive dissonance. If they can convince you to fall in line then you'll stop highlighting what's wrong with their life, even when that highlighting only happens through you existing as yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:24 PM
19

…guess she couldn’t keep her legs closed long enough for him to deal w his emotions This one I found horrifyingly insidious. "She should put her life on hold until he is over her."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:02 PM
125

The second guy 😂😂 "do you know me?!" Someone telling on themselves!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:29 PM
21

Isn't there also evolutionary theory that the presence of hair in humans is a sexual selection; it has no beneficial purpose from a survival perspective. Hair is our fancy feathering. Male peacocks without rail feathers don't get the ladies; men without hair shouldn't be surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 04:36 PM
25

"Changing men is too much to ask of them, have women adjust their expectations so men can stay the same!" 😑 There was a rate my guy website, it was removed for bullying or some nonsense like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:10 AM
109

Libfem propaganda about owning our sexuality and "sleeping around like men" pushes us to abandon reasonable boundaries and protections around mate selection for sexual intercourse. With this there is an erosion of our natural instincts; like our ability to pick or choose based on mate selection criteria like "attractiveness". This is done through destruction of our boundaries and standards. Add to that a life time of 'the wall' and other misogynistic rhetoric plus 'romance' based on societal unr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:59 PM
40

"it's been 10 years it's time for marriage" I think this is why he's looking elsewhere as well. Forever boyfriend energy and unwillingness to commit and the feminine women he's looking at will also be younger in their 20s. "Lost youth" vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:44 AM
8

Self awareness to me underpins being HV. Constantly checking in on our boundaries, behaviour, goals, values etc is important. We talk about all the hormonal chemical things which can influence our behaviour, even HV experience these hormones or can get caught up in 'love'. Choosing to return to HV away from a pick-me relationship is a true sign of a FDS HV woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:46 AM
81

All the time women will "befriend" a loser at work long-term and giggle to her friends or write scathing reports on this sub, This is also a huge red flag in her baseline personality. What a horrible way to behave, scrote or not that's the attitude of a bully. HVW have standards, boundaries and will defend these and her right to them. HVW don't actively look for those she sees as lesser in order to sneer and feel superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 10:31 AM
81

Can't wait to get my flair because the days without FDS on my feed were boring. Tried to get a similar fix from a female named sub but the comments from men derailing or spotlighting themselves is exhausting and infuriating. I add my thanks to the mods. This space needs to be protected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 06:24 PM
2

I missed FDS showing up in my feed and am so excited for content around the new flairs!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 05:07 PM
52

Summary: "Wanted, one prostitute, no I won't pay you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:10 AM
16

Guarantee the revelation that it was a get put fund came after a long series or badgering and harassment by him to gain access to that money as she went through a list or explanations of why it wasn't to be touched by anyone but her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:13 AM
2

Get her details also that when you move out you can let her know what a POS he is. Send proof you were living there and when you broke up. He'll be preparing her for you being a 'crazy ex' so don't expect her to welcome your message but if you plant the seeds in her she'll be on the lookout more than she was before. I'm sorry he was such a disappointment but I'm proud of you and glad for you that you've taken this step and are cutting him out of your life. If it keeps you safe then might be wort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 09:53 AM
2

I love the examples they give about FDS and that the men's one they use negging as a contrast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:54 AM
3

Would he do it for you? No he wouldn't. Don't do it, think of his situation as karma he's welcomed into his own life. You sacrificing another part of yourself won't make him love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:21 PM
58

Men want to break strong women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:29 PM
10

My GP told me to report any increased pain, especially sharp pain and including worsening cramp symptoms, to her to make sure nothing had gone wrong. IUD perforations can occur and they're dangerous. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Everyone involved in this from the medical side has failed you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:14 PM
5

Ugh, I've had to do the chin to neck avoidance before. Random guy sat next to me in the university cafeteria tried to pull me in for a kiss. Fucking horrible. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:03 PM
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