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2

I mean unless you are committed to one single girl there is np betrayal and no guilt. So if you can't take the guilt don't committ
/r/seduction23/07/26 08:15 PM
1

I'd say it's not how much you look, but how good your pictures are. Sharp pictures with good energy, expression and light for example. Tinder is like only self-marketing and self-branding. So It's equally about what 'vibes' you give off rather than looks alone
/r/seduction27/06/26 11:42 AM
2

Nope. I keep masturbating. It helps keep me focused if anything and less scattered.
/r/seduction08/04/26 05:03 PM
11

Let me put it this way. Cigarettes, cigars, and pipes are all male-coded. But in different ways. Cigarettes signal edge and danger. Cigars signal wealth and authority. Like politicians and CEOs. Pipes has more to do with tradition and intellect. Think professors and older men. Cigars and pipes are culturally less sexually significant than cigarettes. That's the distinction, and that's my essay for today.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:24 PM
6

Cigarettes carry a stronger masculine coding because of culture, history and whatnot
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:06 PM
7

Long story short: no don't go emotionless. Understand that attachment to one degree or another is inevitable. So better you own it. But the difference is that you must never emotionally over-invest where it is not reciprocated. That's the difference. You invest enotionally to the degree that she emotionally invests in you. Guys get heartbroken because they invest emotionally faster than the relationship is moving. She must meet you there if you want love. The rest you just accept.
/r/seduction28/03/26 08:21 PM
13

I have had success with Tinder. Have connected with several high-quality and serious girls there. I have actually had a great deal of success on dating sites of all places recently. But it's completely passive for me. My main arena will always be real life.
/r/seduction21/03/26 11:08 AM
6

Trial and error. It's good talking and writing to as many women as possible. As often as managable. And learn from your mistakes by any means.
/r/seduction18/03/26 10:29 AM
3

Speak to her body and feelings as much as possible
/r/seduction05/03/26 03:59 PM
1

For me it does. But it’s all in the photos you have curated. And their proper sequence. Display your sexual brand. That is the key.
/r/seduction23/02/26 06:39 PM
12

I work remotely but I use apps like Tinder in a passive way with success. Otherwise, spiritually speaking, I am into tantra and doing somatic work. So I try to attend those events in my city on a weekly basis. I don’t do cold approach, but I engage with women and people in those circles. And sometimes it goes deeper.
/r/seduction23/02/26 09:03 AM
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Brother, I know. We all need love and intimacy. You are not wrong for seeking that. Truth is that often the desire for intimacy and love is really a need to belong. Like social spaces or brotherhood. Just saying. You need a shoulder right now. Support. Women can not fill that emotional space for you right now. It’s unfair to both them and you. Women Will come. They will. But first stability. You already have the humility. Now just change. All the best to you
/r/seduction22/02/26 09:35 PM
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It will encourage you on a superficial level. Yes. But you are setting yourself up for disappointment following that strategy since a man’s stability is not derived from women. But from social stability. Financial stability. Etc. If a woman will motivate you to get those exact things: go ahead. But a woman cannot fix those fundamental, underlying patterns. Because in between the lines of your post it seemed to me that it’s not about seduction. You are just tired of being a loser. So I am address…
/r/seduction22/02/26 08:54 PM
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”I want to become a confident man. But it is a really long road, and may take years.” That is the culprit. Your mindset. The truth is that you start today. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Today. And that is as long as it is going to take. Don’t improve in a hypothetical future. But now mate. Right now. Or create a vow for yourself, that tomorrow you will be a changed man. And you will change your life. It is not even a matter of seduction or girls here. You need internal stability, direction and pu…
/r/seduction22/02/26 06:22 PM
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This is it. A man’s word is everything he has. Saying ”I’m sorry, I’ve changed” just leaks neediness. Even unconsciously. And if a woman senses neediness in a man she won’t trust his word. Even if it is true.
/r/seduction22/02/26 09:01 AM
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Edge, fantasy, and intensity is fierce. That’s just the nature of things. Bad boys create a space for women to burn hot, intensely, and fast. It is not safe and boring. It is dangerous and exciting. Something they rarely can experience but often dream about. Do you see? It burns fast and quick, my guy. It’s not a game for everybody. You have to let go. And it always hurts a bit. But that’s just the way it is. It’s a hell of a drug for women.
/r/seduction20/02/26 01:27 PM
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You put it beautifully. That is 100% it. I used to be a counselor for couples. And I saw continously how when sex dies the relationship slowly dies. But before sex dies, intimacy is already gone. And it does not happen overnight. But slowly. You start to feel comfortable and safe in the relationship. No stakes. No polarity. No tension. Just complacency.
/r/seduction12/02/26 07:21 PM
7

Dinner and movies work fine if that is what you do. The activity is never as important as the intimacy it creates. If you have dinner at home, if you cook, surprise him with his favorite food. Then for dessert, prepare sonething that requires fingers to use. Or something you smear on eachother. And you sit on his lap, and you feed eachother. This is all about intimacy. Or in another situation, after you two have been to the restaurant you two park the car somewhere private. Try jerking him off o…
/r/seduction12/02/26 07:14 PM
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As someone that used to be in a 7+ year committed relationship.. don’t fall into habit. Be attentive to not fall into habit with your partner. Habit is the killer of attraction. You need to continually break the mold of ordinary routine life you two share. That is: go on adventures. Go to restaurants. Do things together. Keep your partner guessing. Surprise them in unexpected ways. You wanna break the monotony that is easy to fall into. Continously invent and experiment in the bedroom. That is p…
/r/seduction12/02/26 06:55 PM
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Have pictures of warmth and smile. Diversify according to who you are. The more multifaceted you appear the better. One picture of social validation is important. You being with another girl (in a friendly way) or with your buddies. One shirtless picture is good. It signals sexuality which is a good thing, but outdoors during summer is perfect. Like in nature or on the beach. Or in an artistic fashion. Not just in front of the bathroom mirror.
/r/seduction11/02/26 07:12 PM
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That’s right. 100%. Because women respond more to whether a man’s attention is settled. Whether his desire is contained. Whether your life has motion independent of them. Possessiveness is so antithetical to that kind of man.
/r/seduction10/02/26 07:12 PM
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Talk to her feelings. Not her logic. Talk to her body. Not to her head. Ask her more about how she feels. And pivot from there. The rest is about gently disarming her, building rapport, and escalating. And then lead her deeper. Deeper. And deeper. So it’s never so much about the things you say, but how you make her feel. Women love to talk. Your job is to have fucking composure. Be cool as ice. And make her feel good. The rest in terms of topics to talk about comes on it’s own.
/r/seduction06/02/26 05:17 PM
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This sounds very exhausting, but I respect it.
/r/seduction06/02/26 04:06 PM
1

Cooking-specifically make a dish that invites intimacy. Like eating with your fingers. Think sushi or tapas. Those kind of dishes make it easier to get a foothold and escalate while eating together or whatnot. Remember, the dish itself is not as important as how you guys eat it together.
/r/seduction15/01/26 03:15 PM
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Say after a long conversation.. that her defenses are lowered. You have passed the tests, and she is disarmed. And if the timing is right and she gives a window where she surrenders emotionally? Like.. where she actually dances with you? 100% reply right away. That’s the time to deepen the tension. No time to waste. Outside that.. I personally see little strategic value for instant reply. It is just the psychology of desire: pull and tug. There is no anticipation or imagination being triggered i…
/r/seduction12/01/26 08:36 PM
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Why would Tinder clamp down it? It is literally their bots. It’s the trade-secret. It keeps swiping going. That’s money for them. I don’t even swipe anymore. Now I just let it be, and I let interested girls swipe. Then I can just triage whichever interests me. Less likely to be bots from my experience.
/r/seduction12/01/26 03:56 PM
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I know what you are saying. Of course it can be gastrointestinal or just nerves. But regardless of those things I’ve had success with charcoal. Whatever works
/r/seduction08/01/26 03:21 PM
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There are those charcoal tablets. Charcoal helps against gas and whatnot. Ask ChatGPT about this and you’ll see what I mean. In the middle of the date, go to the restroom abd chug 3 of those down with water and your problem will be gone.
/r/seduction08/01/26 02:45 PM
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The less attractive you are the more you must compensate with language. That is, win her over with the use of language. Caress her with words. Undress her emotionally. Penetrate her mind. If she is susceptible the good feelings you give her will override much of physical preference. In other words: enchant her.
/r/seduction07/01/26 12:08 PM
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Abundance means you are already succeeding. Now all you have to do is harnessing it. Manage your focus. Don’t dilute energy and attention. Distribute it wisely. And don’t become too confident. And above all: respect the women and their needs. Naturally the best one’s will rise to the top. Good luck
/r/seduction02/01/26 12:13 PM
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Having 5 fwb is fun. But priorities will be inevitable. There is always going to be 1 or 2 favorites. Because otherwise you dilute your energy too much. And too much dilution is almost as bad and tasteless as not having anybody at all
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:56 AM
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If they leave you hanging once in awhile. That’s fine. If they consistency leave you hanging you find new people. Simple. Your silence is your integrity. Integrity is your power.
/r/seduction30/12/25 11:16 AM
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Bedding and materials I do not know. Taste differs. What I do know is this: a nice, large mirror opposite your bed. Good bedposts. Good rails. Good manacles. And she won’t leave the first time around.
/r/seduction22/12/25 02:14 PM
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’Being you’ here comes down to finding your STYLE. That is why you are confused by all the various approaches. You need to know yourself good enough to identify your style. Cold approach is not for everybody. Hot approach is not for everybody. What approach works for you? Then lean into it. Then you can learn to game. And you will be successful. But you must play YOUR game. In YOUR arena. You know you’re in the right arena when you can use your strengths NATURALLY.
/r/seduction14/12/25 10:58 AM
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Good post. 100% agree
/r/seduction13/12/25 05:31 PM
9

Definitely not advertisement
/r/seduction09/12/25 08:18 PM
1

First of all.. there is little to no context here. Like your masturbation habits. Porn consumption. Quality of life. Do you exercise. Etc. It’s impossible offer slightest advice without context. I fixed my ED by fixing these things.
/r/seduction27/11/25 06:31 PM
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I don’t know how you can date without money. I would not prioritize dating if I were you because you need the means for that. This might be a good time to expand your horizons and contemplate having sex more on public places. It could be very exciting for both of you.
/r/seduction23/11/25 11:32 AM
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Yes, but not for you
/r/seduction16/11/25 10:44 PM
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I don’t see texting itself as a problem. Don’t blame the vehicle for a bad driver you know. However what’s bad about it is the non-stop connectivity it makes. It can easily escalate into over-connectivity and that kills attraction. Tension needs pause, space and breath. Not constant validation and attention
/r/seduction12/11/25 09:02 PM
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Might sound cliche, but truth is be comfortable with yourself
/r/seduction11/11/25 07:27 AM
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Don’t be scared of being honest with women. Only fear being too honest with women that take more than they give.
/r/seduction09/11/25 01:57 PM
53

I wonder how happy/content you truly feel. You might look into it. From my own experience, when your quality of life is bad it cannot but bleed into your libido.
/r/seduction06/11/25 11:21 AM
1

Be in circles/spaces that interest you. And you will find what you seek
/r/seduction02/11/25 01:20 PM
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Don’t react, play it cool, and take the bottle. Shit test or not. Simple
/r/seduction01/11/25 10:40 PM
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And this is how a toxic dom looks like. He does not close the emotional space, and he feeds of emotional dependence. You probably also have work to do in terms of your own emotional independence. Not giving your power away to an asshole. So good riddance. It’s good it went this way. Now you can reclaim yourself.
/r/seduction28/10/25 11:27 AM
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Don’t be manipulative. Don’t be careless. Not ’dirty’ as a form of revenge. But definitely step into your dark, restrained and benevolent side. Without guilt or shame. To be capable of harming, but choosing not to. Always consensual. Always intentional. In service of her.
/r/seduction28/10/25 10:44 AM
13

I’m a fan of pasta dishes. Spaghetti all’Assassina has become my signature dish personally. And it’s delicious.
/r/seduction24/10/25 01:25 PM
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Ummm… that’s a good question. We’ll be in touch.
/r/seduction24/10/25 01:21 PM
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I prepare a killer-dish She arrives. Offer wine. We eat. Have dessert. More wine. Chocolate. Cheese-platter and whatnot. Grapes. I invite her to sit on my bed or couch. Only darkness. Living candles. More wine. Time to get intimate for real. We hopefully do bondage. All deep foreplay We actually have sex. Aftercare: shower together We hit the bed. Might be a third round. Or maybe not. Depends on energy. Wake up next morning for more sex. Breakfast. And she leaves. Be clean and intentional with e…
/r/seduction24/10/25 10:11 AM
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Based on my experience, paying for Tinder but only for 1 week is worth it. But Only the 1 week plan. It’s more ’expensive’ in the short term, but it actually works. Whenever I pay for the month long Tinder plan I feel like it’s rigged because I literally get almost no likes (even though I get fair amount of likes on 1 week plan). Just experience.
/r/seduction23/10/25 12:39 PM
3

Dunno bro you’ve gotta take me to dinner first.
/r/seduction21/10/25 05:56 PM
2

’Cool’ hobby is relative. I’d say do something that helps resonate You. Who You are. Maybe playing some instrument is solid. Doing photography (erotic or ordinary). Cooking. Wine expertise. Writing stories. Curate music like already mentioned. You don’t need much. But pick something that shows you
/r/seduction17/10/25 05:56 AM
4

A man of my own taste.
/r/seduction15/10/25 10:23 AM
54

Be an asshole. But a kind, warm and restrained one.
/r/seduction11/10/25 03:04 PM
45

Convenience has already been said is a factor. But it’s also just hot. I love sex with co-workers. Because you straddle both the rigid, professional persona as well as the intimate one. That’s tension. That’s excitement. Slightly taboo and forbidden. Obviously depend on your role at work, too. If you are in somekind of leadership position - even better.
/r/seduction10/10/25 07:32 PM
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Everybody is different. No man is alike. Same with women. You know. I’m not being dogmatic here. Styles and tastes differ. Simply sharing what works for me. I’m probably not for you then - and that’s fine. It’s normal That’s why I advocate that men find their style.
/r/seduction05/10/25 08:14 AM
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sigh
/r/seduction05/10/25 07:22 AM
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Not like that. You say: “Will be heading to this bar tonight. Join me if you like.” Has initiative and punch. But not lacking warmth. No question marks. No circles. Just forward. That gives her the freedom and space to join without pressure or feeling like she’s taking initiative. You sound like a man on the move just doing his thing. Which is the goal.
/r/seduction05/10/25 06:51 AM
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Ideally don’t ask anything at all. Just lead her along your path. If she joins - she joins. Don’t seek her permission just lead the way.
/r/seduction05/10/25 06:40 AM
4

Find yourself first. You don’t have to be alone for the rest of your life, but you can train yourself being content. And once you archieve that I think you’ll find not only sex but also relationships more stable and fullfilling. Instead of filling your void with meaningless connections. Connect with yourself. And you will notice a shift.
/r/seduction05/10/25 06:16 AM
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I don’t try to stay motivated. I want to be with women because I like them. Not based on outcome. I don’t pursue results. Because I am already happy and content with my life, career, daily choices and whatnot. Like, the satisfaction of working on yourself and evolving is often greater than from what I get from women. I have stopped relying on women outcomes as a basis for my quality of life. Now I just love coasting with them - and that’s it. If anything happens: it happens. But I know what you …
/r/seduction26/09/25 03:23 PM
1

It depends on the purpose. For example, posting on IG is way different than say Tinder. But key points are as long as you make it intentional and it reveals something about you it can be powerful. Posting pictures itself shows nothing. Confidence is reflected by how you come across. Your demeanor. Your gaze. Your vibe. Lifting weights at the gym or shirtless pictures are so damn generic I would personally not use it for pictures seduction-related except for maybe one. If I live at the gym and al…
/r/seduction26/09/25 11:32 AM
2

Nah I don’t agree man. Only partially. Attraction is like evolution. Not only the strongest survive, but the one’s who adapt. So if you are not that rich, good looking dude that didn’t have to work for it use your charm and charisma. Be intentional with your looks and how you behave. Women aren’t just about how you look but how you make them feel. No doubt money and good looks are factors but sure as hell isn’t everything. Many guys don’t even know themselves. Look inside and get the best out of…
/r/seduction24/09/25 03:21 PM
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Honestly, you should be yourself, but while projecting who you want to become. You should be yourself while actively working on becoming the best version of yourself. Because not being yourself or some other fake persona is equally terrible
/r/seduction24/09/25 02:56 PM
3

Talk about her. Make her talk about herself. Find out what she’s interested in. Your interests are not as important
/r/seduction23/09/25 07:35 AM
1

That is what it is about. I believe facing your fear is one, if not the most important thing, about seduction. Seduction and fear don’t go well together. I’m happy for you bro. At it!
/r/seduction21/09/25 12:55 PM
2

Well, just do it man
/r/seduction20/09/25 05:43 PM
1

Appreciate that, doc 🫡
/r/seduction08/07/25 08:15 PM
3

This is literally it. True feelings develop through absence. There is no other way. Time is your friend. Use that time to work on things you love - maybe in your career or hobbies. If she gets back to you eventually you’ll know the relationship is something real and it’s reaching a new level. Just don’t wait for it. Even if she never comes back to you, you are still happy and content.
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:27 PM
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Basically just advertisement
/r/seduction27/05/25 01:30 PM
1

I have done this and gotten laid with girls that did not know how I looked like. At all. So the attraction cannot have been physical. The reality is that attraction is also subjective. Not just objective. We see what we want to see
/r/seduction26/05/25 10:27 AM
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It’s a good post but I don’t fully agree. If the girl you are texting is the visual kind of person that uses her imagination a lot - you can definitely build attraction with words alone. I have gotten laid with girls simply by texting without going on a single physical date. It is all about activating her imagination using selective language. Pulling her into your mindscape. Speaking to her desires using metaphor. Perhaps a bit poetic. But that is the way. Done properly you can give her a ’menta…
/r/seduction26/05/25 07:36 AM
6

Can you make up for it on the 2nd date? Or is the 1st really the dealmaker?
/r/seduction25/05/25 09:10 PM
5

I appreciate it man. This is wisdom.
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:03 PM
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Thank you my friend. I needed this. Currently in this position with this girl, and she’s got better restraint than I do and basically left me on read. I like to take regular pauses between messages. Building up the tension. Not giving myself away to come across as needy or desperate. But sometimes I fail and my emotions get the best of me and I fall into it. Especially if the girl is like really special and out of the ordinary. It’s always a humbling experience. But it is the most transformation…
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:26 PM
1

Beautiful post. This is the stuff we need.
/r/seduction20/05/25 01:01 PM
31

The biggest lesson I have learned? That there are many kinds of seducers. I notice people here having various personalities, temperaments and styles I never thought of. Each offering their own unique touch to approaching a scenario. It’s pretty cool. And helps me to become more multifaceted in this art.
/r/seduction19/05/25 05:05 PM
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To limit the amount YOU yourself talk during a session - or the amount of sessions you two have with each other during week? Which one do you mean? But yeah, in general, creating space and distance creates tension. Tension = Attraction. Familiarity breeds disgust. Avoid familiarity like the plague.
/r/seduction18/05/25 07:25 PM
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Good for you man! Glad to hear dancing works so well in your favor. Keep at it. I can learn from this. Been ages since setting my foot on the dance floor. But yeah, dancing is powerful.
/r/seduction18/05/25 10:45 AM
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You need to find your life purpose man. You need to fix the fundamental issue here instead of chasing women my friend. Get yourself in order internally, then get your life in order externally. That is your main priority here
/r/seduction18/05/25 10:37 AM
3

This is it
/r/seduction16/05/25 01:43 PM
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If she likes you, and you guys have known or talked for atleast awhile - try reaching out again. But create some space first. Maybe a few days or a week to weather the situation. And when you do, redirect her attention back to the root of what connected you guys in the first place. Act as if you never over-emotionalized. If she still does not respond then it's over, and you will man up, accept it, and move on.
/r/seduction15/05/25 08:54 PM
1

The void is natural. All of us feel it once in awhile. But you must develop your emotional independence my friend. Only when your void is filled with something of your own making and you develop self-love can you Truly appreciate women. You dishonor women by treating them subconsciously as a battery to fuel your own desire for attention and validation. You must settle this yourself by creating an emotionally nourishing life without women. Women must complement your life, not complete it.
/r/seduction15/05/25 07:10 PM
2

This is fascinating. I’m curious of what the results will be.
/r/seduction15/05/25 11:25 AM
2

You nail it my friend
/r/seduction12/05/25 08:13 PM
5

Having humor is such a powerful skill. It instantly releases any tension. It makes people less self-conscious. Less anxiousness. And people love that. But if you don’t have a good sense of humor (like myself), atleast don’t take yourself too seriously. Atleast that.
/r/seduction12/05/25 02:07 PM
54

Going back to Byzantium are we?
/r/seduction08/05/25 10:26 AM
4

It’s highly probable. He’s consistent with approaching you. He’s getting personal by using your name, and by asking for your age. He wants to be in your space. Offering help is typical courting behavior guys generally do. So yeah.. the odds are in your favor. If you want to ’test’ it simply create a bit of distance from him. Nothing crazy. If he’s into you he’ll pursue you. Good luck.
/r/seduction07/05/25 09:35 PM
3

Yes he’s into you.
/r/seduction07/05/25 09:11 PM
6

Good advice. Especially Nr. 2. If you cannot please your gal you bet somebody else will. So put your gear to use.
/r/seduction07/05/25 05:40 PM
9

It depends on context man. If the girl is genuinely busy but is still interested in you she might just be the type that drags it out. Sometimes those are worth being patient for. Sometimes they are not.
/r/seduction04/05/25 06:30 PM
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You have the mindset my friend.
/r/seduction02/05/25 10:51 PM
9

This sub is getting flooded with bots recently
/r/seduction02/05/25 11:44 AM
1

That’s actually interesting. Never thought about it that way
/r/seduction01/05/25 03:38 PM
2

Over-thinking. Over-analyzing. The Nr. 1 issue.
/r/seduction30/04/25 01:35 PM
1

Some guys can never be satisfied. Having a lifetime partner is not for them. For some guys, they are perfectly satisfied with a lifetime one. You better find out which one you are before committing to anything. There is no right or wrong. Unless you go the whole ’poly’ route or whatever. But I personally think that path is bs.
/r/seduction30/04/25 12:36 PM
1

Yeah.. maybe you come from a different part of the world where being so forward in sexual advances is socially acceptable. But if not I would definitely reconsider
/r/seduction30/04/25 08:42 AM
3

Not to sound too abstract, but this would be my guess. Limiting beliefs are not you. Instead of making up your own boundaries of who you are, what you are.. etc, look at who you really are, what you really are capable of, and work with those boundaries. Instead of making up stuff. So the line is really where you put it
/r/seduction29/04/25 07:23 PM
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This is solid advice. Your point on being good with the fingers and tongue is spot-on. There is no excuse for guys that don’t have the stamina or the size. Powerful foreplay alone is so important. And everything else will follow suit.
/r/seduction29/04/25 03:29 PM
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To be genuinely interested in who she is and not just in how she looks like
/r/seduction27/04/25 06:34 PM
1

Yes. Those scenarios suck. When they don’t give a second chance. Or at the very least don’t give the opportunity sharing thought about it. Since everything was cut short it doesn’t feel complete or like it was finalized. But now you are going to step up and overcome this. Process your feelings. Don’t bottle them up. That way the negative feelings will pass faster. Never get too emotionally invested my friend
/r/seduction27/04/25 06:32 PM
5

Can relate my friend. You froze up. Your nerves got the best of you. It happens. It only means you really did like her. You lost the battle but the war isn’t lost. Do you two still talk? If so, try to maintain contact in a friendly way. Give it time. Be patient. And try make her warm up to you again. You must reconnect to the thing that actually made her like you and wanna go out in the first place. But ultimately if it doesn’t work and there is the same distant vibe or whatever just let it be. …
/r/seduction27/04/25 05:08 PM
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It already seems like you know what to do. She’s very obviously into you. But with this type of girl: shy, submissive etc.. the last you wanna do is to play any games. It can lead to a hell of misunderstandings. But use fairly frequent, small communication. She’s rellying on you to move this thing forward so take initiative.
/r/seduction27/04/25 10:27 AM
3

That happens my friend. All part of the journey. Went through a similar experience recently. We live and learn.
/r/seduction26/04/25 06:49 AM
7

Because porn leads to porn addiction and unhealtht thought-patterns. It’s cheap, low-effort, instant gratification junk food for a quick fix. It’s detrimental to becoming better in bed long-term. Jerking off without porn contributes to better mental habits and state of mind. It actually helps your mind more long-term to not rely on porn for quick satisfaction.
/r/seduction23/04/25 10:25 PM
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Workout. Masturbate with moderation. But practice jerking off without porn. And like others said.. get a hobby. But I personally think the first two are most important.
/r/seduction23/04/25 09:18 PM
1

You are not wrong but it also depends on the person. Body type, diet etc. Some can do it daily while some can’t. Then every two days or whatnot is better. As long as you consistently do push ups throughout the week is all that matters. Rest as much as you need. Just keep doing it
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:25 PM
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Even if you can’t go to the gym just do 100 push ups daily. It’s all about consistency
/r/seduction13/04/25 12:58 PM
9

The Nr. 1 female fantasy is to receive pleasure against their will. So showing a bit of force goes a long way. Happy it worked for you bro
/r/seduction01/04/25 08:23 PM
3

Not really a fail in my book. You still went really far. Even though you didn’t get the full experience just take it and move on
/r/seduction29/03/25 03:04 PM
12

It certainly cannot lower your chances. You can be skinny and still be muscular. Just put on some muscle
/r/seduction20/03/25 12:28 PM
1

Saved
/r/seduction16/03/25 11:19 AM
1

Do both, but take it with a grain of salt. Doing game while not having own residence is both awkward, and expensive. Unless you have a lot of money.. hotels over and over drains the wallet. But hey, maybe you have the money for it. Do yourself a favor and prioritize career more than anything. Game can wait a little bit
/r/seduction02/03/25 11:36 PM
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Yes sir. You got it. It is a form of psychology
/r/seduction15/02/25 06:51 PM
2

Like others here say. Porn usage.. and masturbation are two factors. Also psychological factors. Depression is a killer for one’s libido. The insecurity about not getting hard is going to continue haunting you and lead to a viscious circle of making it even more difficult. You must resolve this issue at the core bro
/r/seduction04/02/25 11:27 PM
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Bro… chill. You are just licking your wounds right now. Your mindset has to change. You are being too hard on yourself over nothing. Getting laid is not the goal of your life. Work on yourself FIRST. Work on your own mindset and self-development. Don’t make women Nr. 1 priority. So other dudes are getting laid? You are not them. Stop comparing yourself. The whole notion of young dudes having to get laid asap is a fucking social construction. Break free from it dude. Run your own race. You will g…
/r/seduction05/01/25 01:52 PM
2

This is it.
/r/seduction31/12/24 04:58 PM
1

This is it
/r/seduction28/12/24 07:55 PM
1

Exactly this
/r/seduction19/12/24 10:17 AM
2

By all means share your wisdom my friend. It would be greatly appreciated!
/r/seduction14/12/24 10:50 AM
16

Aight, bro, lemme break it down for ya. First off, don’t be out here tryna act like someone you ain’t. Just be real, be confident in who you are. White girls (or any girls, for that matter) wanna vibe with a dude who knows himself and ain’t tryna play no games.
/r/seduction12/12/24 10:44 PM
7

Fucking great answer.
/r/seduction10/12/24 10:04 AM
1

Touché
/r/seduction02/12/24 08:18 PM
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I know what you are saying. Been there. You just gotta do what you can do. If you don’t like your current situation do anything to improve it. Because being unhappy and doing the 9-5 grind can be a killer of the soul. Remember that if you are fundamentally unhappy in your life it won’t matter how good your game-success is. Gaining women for a sense of confidence and self-value is essentially a Pyrric victory. Improve your number one, and make women number 2.
/r/seduction01/12/24 12:37 PM
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You can’t depend your success and self-confidence on women. You need to aim higher. For me personally that was to create a business. It could be anything. Something that kerps you up at night because you can’t stop thinking about it. My sense of ’success’ is now attached to my business. And confidence naturally follows. And so does women. Women should never be the number 1 priority. Because women can fail you. Your personal ambition can never fail you unless you let it.
/r/seduction01/12/24 11:53 AM
1

That’s pretty hot. Thank you for sharing that.
/r/seduction15/11/24 04:02 PM
6

Absolutely not over-generalizing lol
/r/seduction12/11/24 03:55 PM
2

100% this ☝️
/r/seduction10/11/24 12:42 PM
1

Dating through LinkedIn? That’s a new one for me. Sounds pretty unprofessional.. but what do I know. Could be a scam so be cautious.
/r/seduction05/11/24 10:46 AM
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Mate… if you value your life just let it be. Going after a married woman is bold enough, but your neighbor. Bro. That is the height of stupidity. It is not worth it, but you will find that out eventually
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:08 PM
2

Women always seem to orgasm when I do missionary on them. Maybe try that one. When it comes to ”dominate and make her want you more” you have to think deeper. Conquer her mind. Alternate a bit between pain and pleasure. Cruelty and kindness. Predictability and unpredictability. Dance between these extremes and she will truly be yours.
/r/seduction04/11/24 03:05 PM
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I 100% agree with this. Good seduction is mutual benefit and growth for both parties. Seduction is ultimately about personal development. It takes skill, tact and desire to accomplish.
/r/seduction04/11/24 12:30 PM
2

Have patience. It is a practice, as much as a habit. By turning off your thoughts only 30 mins everyday it will become second nature long-term. But it takes time so it is best to enjoy the ride. Don’t do this for extensive hours every day. Becoming too self-aware happens to me as well. When you focus too much — on Not thinking — it will ironically have the opposite effect. Thinking about Not thinking… is thinking. It can make you too self-aware and anxious. Don’t try to do it so hard. It should …
/r/seduction31/10/24 02:08 PM
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I will give my own input here. To reduce anxiety atleast: control your thoughts! If you are someone like me with a hyperactive mind — this is an absolute must. I like to meditate. I have a mantra that I like to focus on and repeat inside of myself. It helps my mind to not move into negative or intrusive thought-patterns. Negative thoughts is the quickest way to become anxious, have self-doubt and low confidence. Once anxiety sets in it is really fucking hard to stop. You need to have that ’inter…
/r/seduction31/10/24 12:12 PM
8

Yupp. I’ve asked myself the same question many.. many times.
/r/seduction30/10/24 08:44 PM
15

I see many posts here related to how people fail because of not going in strong enough or whatever. But posts like this is the opposite. Too much excitement is a killer.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:39 AM
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As a lover of mature women myself I have this to say. From my experience being a good conversationalist is incredibly important. Deep conversation is a good thing. Be polite. Don’t use too much slang or crude verbiage. Be nice and kind to her. Show as much respect as you can. Know your place. Seldom have I met a mature women that wants to be dominated or bossed over. Shower her with appreciation without excess. A mature woman can easily spot bullshit so don’t try to rush getting laid. Take your …
/r/seduction26/10/24 05:33 PM
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This is excellent. We don’t see enough of posts lile this explaining the texting side of things. Much appreciated OP!
/r/seduction24/10/24 07:58 AM
3

Apologize for being an asshole for rejecting her first time around I guess? That’s a good start
/r/seduction13/10/24 08:26 PM
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This.
/r/seduction13/10/24 08:22 PM
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Can’t agree more. Dating apps definitely serve a function though. They are usually extremely specialized and niche which is great for certain people looking to hook up with someone likeminded. Say.. people sharing the same kink or whatever. Traditional human2human dating is way more direct and exciting. And it puts you in control on a whole other level. But it is less specialized than online dating. Both have great use cases.
/r/seduction12/10/24 01:22 PM
1

You better be a masochist because otherwise you won’t like what’s coming. Very coquettish behavior
/r/seduction10/10/24 09:49 AM
1

”It’s all Greek to me.” But yes, it has and does work.
/r/seduction09/10/24 09:32 PM
1

Well it depends on how you ask. Try to atleast Pretend to be sincere. That way there should be little cause to be suspicious about it.
/r/seduction09/10/24 09:11 PM
13

Sometimes a good opener can be as simple as an open question. For example: ”Excuse me miss, but would you perchance know where X store is?” Often people are happy to oblige. She responds. You thank her for her help. And that is when you have their attention and you can go further. ”Oh by the way.. if you don’t mind me saying, but you look absolutely stunning.” Your odds to get a good response will be much higher.
/r/seduction09/10/24 09:01 PM
17

Solid advice sir. Love it. 👌
/r/seduction09/10/24 08:48 AM
1

Saved this comment. Great advice!
/r/seduction08/10/24 05:34 PM
6

What have I done to you man? Lol
/r/seduction08/10/24 03:20 PM
8

I know he is. That is a very good thing. Trying to be ironic in a friendly way
/r/seduction08/10/24 03:16 PM
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I know that you shamelessly posted this to indirectly advertise yourself. But thankfully for you — you succeeded. Very good post.
/r/seduction08/10/24 12:55 PM
1

Can you get a girl if you are ugly? 100% YES. If you harness your insecurity and vulnerability and USE IT to act like yourself you will act with confidence. It is a myth that you must be good looking to seduce. Many ugly people in history have been great seductors. But few things carry as much seductive power as embracing your imperfections. Your uniqueness. You need to own it. Not be ashamed of it. Can you get a girl without money? Let’s put it this way: getting laid won’t have to cost you much…
/r/seduction07/10/24 06:28 PM
11

That was not ”shitting where you eat.” Sounds more like how to turn down a meal
/r/seduction07/10/24 02:58 PM
6

Best advice. ☝️
/r/seduction07/10/24 10:01 AM
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