| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 165 | Things I've learned over the past year | Fundamentals | agentStag | /r/seduction | 25/02/24 04:49 PM |
| 116 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy? | Inner Game | agentStag | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 04:50 PM |
| 15 | How to stop thinking that an approach will be weird | Inner Game | agentStag | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 02:12 PM |
| 11 | [Daygame] Should I approach more? | Fundamentals | agentStag | /r/seduction | 07/04/24 04:46 PM |
| 5 | Use pickup content as medication NOT as entertainment | Fundamentals | agentStag | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 12:47 PM |
| 4 | Get your logistics right! | Logistics | agentStag | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 06:43 AM |
| 3 | Letting regret guide my approaches | Inner Game | agentStag | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 07:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you come back after failing a shit test or being insecure? | Inner Game | agentStag | /r/seduction | 03/09/22 06:37 PM |
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| 2 | You ever hire a dating coach? Is it worth it?Yes I did work with a coach that absolutely changed my life. The focus was a lot on internal work. Most guys that go to him can already approach. | /r/seduction | 16/01/26 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Why should I approach?Can confirm! Hit the gym, got some stylish tank tops and bam, every week I'm making out. I am also always having fun by myself and dancing to the music. I definitely have other things going for me but hitting the gym has done wonders. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 08:16 AM |
| 7 | Is it a coincidence that the women I treat like a second thought, generally care more about me than those I apply pressure on?This! Very well said. You don't really want to be with a girl that gets more into you as you pull attention and affection away. That's not a healthy trait. And remember, when a girl is into you, she'll make things easy. | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Is it still possible to recover?Move on brother. She might come back but don't count on it. It'll most likely be for attention. | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 06:03 PM |
| 2 | You’re Hotter Than You Think: Why Attraction Makes No Logical SenseThis is why you just have to shoot your shot and keep on improving yourself. | /r/seduction | 14/05/25 07:18 PM |
| 3 | How do you get the ACTUAL 10s?Finally a non black pill approach to this. Something that actually works! | /r/seduction | 10/05/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you pull girls in clubs ?Don't just feel it, try it out and see what works. | /r/seduction | 10/05/25 01:42 AM |
| 1 | How do you pull girls in clubs ?Haha I had that exact issue this weekend. Went to a party out of town and the girl was also from out of town, and the bathroom had a security guy not letting two people go in together. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Get your logistics right!Oh yeah I meant more of a pull that evening. I've done long distance all the way up to a 2h flight and it worked quite well. So that's alright. But similar to you, I wouldn't do that now. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 06:15 PM |
| 26 | How do you pull girls in clubs ?I'd say that I go out solo about 95% of the times. I am quite approachable and friendly so I meet people very often. Sometimes the girl asks who I'm there with and I say a friend but most times I say alone, which then gets them to be like "ah then you can join my group". Nice way to get approval from the friends or to swap girls if mine isn't super down. It's one of those "it's only weird if you make it weird" type of things. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:51 PM |
| 7 | How do you pull girls in clubs ?You can still get makeouts out of it and if you're a total beginner, that can already boost your confidence. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:48 PM |
| 6 | How do you pull girls in clubs ?Yeah, I've also done the bathroom pull in those situations. Luckily most girls have been down to totally dump their friends. That blew my mind. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:47 PM |
| 2 | I turn the "fuck it" mode on, here is what happenedHaha that sounds so creepy. Nah, it's more nuanced than that. I'm usually close to the DJ, but in an area where many people walk by. I go get my cola, I go to the toilet. I find a better place to dance, etc. You don't want to be the guy walking around looking, you're just naturally moving through the venue. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Went out to try a cold approachAnywhere really. I've met girls walking down the street. I've approached baristas. One of my favorites is when I see a girl, alone inside a cafe and I go in to talk to her. So ballsy and romantic, I love that and so do the girls. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Get your logistics right!Exactly! Moving to a bigger city does help because the volume and quality in your 5-20 block radius is better, but yes, you should keep distance to your place in mind. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 12:46 PM |
| 213 | How do you pull girls in clubs ?I personally do it like this: 1. Pick the right party. I don't go to what I like to call "status clubs", think girls in cocktail dresses that want to be seen and look fancy. I go to venues where people are more at ease, open and there for the music. I dress nice and show off my best features, which includes my smile. I dance and have fun, while moving around the club and making eye contact or until I find a girl that I like and I give her a compliment and see how she reacts to it. Let's assume I… | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 12:44 PM |
| 9 | Went out to try a cold approachI have to disagree with you here. I'm an introvert but I can socialize and cold approach has been very good for me. Out of my first serious 18 daygame approaches, I got 8 numbers and 3 lays on the ones I followed up with(I was looking for a girlfriend and not lay count). | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 06:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you approach after an eyecontact ?Just approach if you find her attractive. During the day I get a lot of looks and smiles, but those approaches are rarely the best for me. Whenever I just go out of my own attraction to the girl, I get better results. During the night though, eye contact is my one move. Once you get it, it's game over! I usually dance and see if they match my moves then get closer, grind a bit, makeout, pull if it's on. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Dating with a model is the best self-improvement I could haveI echo this sentiment. I've dated girls from different Eastern European countries and the entitlement was horrible! Many wanted the traditional masculine traits in a guy but didn't embody the feminine traits of their elders. So be careful brother. | /r/seduction | 16/04/25 08:55 PM |
| 3 | I turn the "fuck it" mode on, here is what happenedFocus on the music, truly enjoy that. I also don't drink or take any drugs so the music has to be on point. Learn some basic dance moves and follow the rhythm. Walk around the club dancing, making eye contact, smiling. | /r/seduction | 02/04/25 08:18 AM |
| 3 | I turn the "fuck it" mode on, here is what happenedWelcome to the other side brother! I hope that your logistics are good because you can pull quite a few of these girls as well. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 11:55 AM |
| 14 | I turn the "fuck it" mode on, here is what happenedI've done this alone countless times. The key is to have fun. Girls will flock to you. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Went home with a 10 after the bar, first time going home with a girl after a night out at all(success story from a long time lurker)25M.This hit me hard bro. I struggle with feeling good enough for the 10s and it sucks! Even after dating some and making out with a bunch of them in the club, I still feel like I'm not good enough, especially during daygame. | /r/seduction | 08/01/25 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Why did you guys start all this seduction?Definitely NOT with the Simple Pickup stuff. Didn't even try it. There are better and more honest ways to do it. | /r/seduction | 06/01/25 08:30 PM |
| 4 | Starting from less than zeroSocial Animal on YouTube | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 05:06 PM |
| 6 | Why did you guys start all this seduction?Watched a couple of Simple Pickup videos and thought "woah, no way that's possible". | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 11:14 AM |
| 2 | The Mindset That Attracts Women InstantlyMore how attractive the girls were. These were girls that I'd easily make excuses not to approach. | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 09:43 PM |
| 10 | The Mindset That Attracts Women InstantlyTHIS! Recently landed on this idea of Self. I had never heard of it but I got a coach for a session and he guided me through a mediation practice that got me to approach 6 girls I was truly attracted to later that week. I'm not "fixed" but I feel like I have the tools to deal with this going forward. | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Should I hook up with girls I don’t find attractive just to gain experience/wins?I've done that and I wouldn't advise it. Ending things with them or not being fully present because you don't actually find them attractive is not a good vibe at all. You should be asking yourself: why don't I approach and attract the girls I actually want and how can I do that? That fear/excitement you feel when you see a girl that you truly like is amazing! It'll fuel your approaches and how awesome the experience is. But I'm 29 now and I've done what you did so maybe you have to walk the same… | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Dating while improving on yourself: the ultimate double-edged swordI know it's wild to think that it'll one day overwhelm you, but trust me, it will. You'll have to do a lot of rewriting of your internal beliefs to adjust to it. | /r/seduction | 29/11/24 05:10 PM |
| 6 | Meeting a hot girl at a techno club, any tips?Go out there and have fun. I've been in a situation like this, albeit not at a techno party but the girl invited me to a group hangout as the first meetup we had. I just chilled, spoke to all of her friends, barely spoke to her(we were far apart) and then towards the end of the night I went to another club, texted her to join me if she didn't want to go home yet, danced a bit(my killer move), make out, brought her back to my apartment about 15 minutes later. So yes, it can work but just don't fo… | /r/seduction | 17/11/24 03:35 PM |
| 1 | How to stop thinking that an approach will be weirdIs there something specific that you think about to snap you out of the spotlight effect train of thought? | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 04:38 PM |
| 2 | How to stop thinking that an approach will be weirdThese are great tips! Especially the fighter one. When I'm with a friend and they say "go approach her then" I don't even think, I just do it. But when I'm alone it's a different story. | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 04:31 PM |
| 2 | How to stop thinking that an approach will be weirdI can do the approaches you describe but because of the size of my city ~300K, mostly Engineers(the whole city is basically built around tech), I don't often just run into girls I find attractive. That does happen in other cities around me(45min - 1h train rides). That's why I want to grab every opportunity I get because they don't happen very often. | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How to stop thinking that an approach will be weirdOn the second scenario I would run up slightly past here. I will NEVER approach from behind. I'd preferably like for he to notice me before I say a word. | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Spotting Interest under 10 MinutesAgree. I do a couple of checks after the open: did she smile and stop? is she facing me? is she asking me questions? If those things are true then I proceed, otherwise I wish her a good day. Closing on those kinds of girls hasn't yielded any results for me so far. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 07:59 AM |
| 0 | Letting regret guide my approachesYeah man. One of the girls I met during my "quota" phase was craaaazy. Telling her that I didn't want anything serious with her after 3 dates was a whole episode. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 08:08 PM |
| 6 | I Approached Thousands Of Women – 4 Surprising Lessons I Learned In The ProcessTo your approaches or is this something you heard online? | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 06:33 PM |
| 1 | A Philosophical Perspective That Might Help You Get ChicksI basically think that I'm inferior to most people. Even though i factually know that I'm not, I still got that in my subconscious. I've been hearing a lot about this the past month or so. That the only way to get over it is to give your brain A LOT of proof that you are indeed great. Approach more. Make that business a success. Get that fit body. Any other tips? | /r/seduction | 07/10/24 03:23 PM |
| 7 | A Philosophical Perspective That Might Help You Get Chicks"The woman isn't a woman. She is everything you unconsciously and consciously make her represent." This hits home! This is most likely the source of all my approach anxiety. | /r/seduction | 07/10/24 02:58 PM |
| 3 | How many women do I need to approach?OP I know exactly where you're coming from. The thing is, in those two months are you telling me that you've approached EVERY single girl.you found attractive? That's the thing with momentum. Even if the girl you spoke to today wasn't your absolute 10/10, you still made her day and it'll help you be more loose and confident the day after when you do see your 10/10. I posed the same question some months ago and trust me, keeping the momentum is key. | /r/seduction | 06/10/24 02:02 PM |
| 3 | How many women do I need to approach?Have you had a girlfriend before OP? It's very possible to fall into a relationship with the first girl that pays attention to you. That doesn't mean that they're a good match, it doesn't mean that they're still having sex regularly, it doesn't mean that they're happy, etc, etc. Cold approach gives you the choices that most guys don't have and makes you better in so many ways. Forces you to face your fears and insecurities. | /r/seduction | 06/10/24 01:59 PM |
| 3 | How many women do I need to approach?6 women in two months isn't enough. Not necessarily because of the number but because of the momentum. Try to do at least one a day and you'll be fine. Really see it as working out. If you workout 6 times in two months, good luck getting any muscle. If you workout everyday for at least 10-20 minutes then you'll see MASSIVE gains. | /r/seduction | 06/10/24 01:56 PM |
| 0 | How many women do I need to approach?It will not be 700! These extreme numbers are probably assuming that you're an absolute 0 when it comes to socializing and you're not well put together at all. If you're an average guy, got some friends, decent looking, works out, etc then you'll be fine with anything sub 100, even sub 30. Watch some Social Animal videos and see guys get numbers and dates after 10 approaches in a day. | /r/seduction | 06/10/24 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Motivation and volume in daygameWhat is the population size of your city? I struggle to find more than 2 in a session. | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 04:13 PM |
| 36 | If you go to bars solo, should you lie about why you're there alone?Nope. If you're confident about it then everyone will respect you for it. It does help to have someone there but it's totally fine to be alone. I'd say I go out alone about 90% of the time. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Accidental London daygameGreat job! I found that doing approaches like this feels a whole.lot better than going out for sessions. I'm more in the moment and at ease. | /r/seduction | 18/09/24 05:33 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Indicators Of Interest. | /r/seduction | 15/09/24 11:18 PM |
| 2 | What is/was your goal?Find one partner that fits nicely into my life and I can see myself marrying. Approaching takes time. Spinning plates is quite demanding as well and not very fulfilling to me. I want to be able to focus on making money and having a steady relationship with a gorgeous girl that matches my vibe. | /r/seduction | 15/09/24 01:41 PM |
| 6 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Yeah, that's kind of why I decided to stop having sex with these girls. It wasn't really that fulfilling. I'm searching for a therapist. Hopefully I can get one in my area, otherwise I'll try BetterHelp. There's a lot to unpack and that excites me. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 09:16 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Hahah this is so relatable. I fumbled one yesterday after she came up to me in the club to say that she was happy to see me and I looked good. I was NOT ready for that. I hope that we're able to let go of that soon. I received some affirmation videos from another redditor so I'll try those and see. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 09:13 PM |
| 2 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?That's another reason why I wanna sort this out. I don't wanna waste all the attention. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 09:10 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?hahah 7 was a crazy night man. Indeed my normal is 1-3, but some nights it goes beyond that. But definitely the threeway makeouts(only had 2 so far) are crazier. This is stuff I never thought to be possible. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 09:09 PM |
| 2 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Probably a little bit. But also personality wise. Accepting that people want to be around me and enjoy it. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 06:05 PM |
| 2 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Check some of the resources on this thread. it's looking promising! | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 06:04 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Great job man! I used to go after my shittiest breakup a few years ago but I need to go back now. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:47 PM |
| 5 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?That's statistically correct indeed. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:45 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Oooo I see. I already have a good-ish inner coach that doesn't let me get into negative loops. So I think I could pull that off. Thank you | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Humn I see. I'll look that up as well. Because definitely there is a misalignment here. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:43 PM |
| 27 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Brooooo! First and foremost CONGRATULATIONS 👏👏👏! What a beautiful journey man. Really good to hear this. What got you over that hump and into acceptance. Honestly man, I don't know you but I'm very happy for you! 💪💪 | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:26 PM |
| 7 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Thanks man! Gotta own it indeed and let go of that "ugly duckling" that was "too skinny", "frog eyes"😂 and would "waste your big opportunity". Humn, just writing that makes me move "get back to therapy" further up my list. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:23 PM |
| 3 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?I also have impostor syndrome in a professional side. So it's a common thread that I really need to talk to a therapist about. I'm still very grateful that I have a "problem" of getting called attractive. Worked hard to get here but my brain hasn't caught up yet. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:20 PM |
| 2 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Actively seeking one! I used to have one but she moved away so I'm trying to find a male therapist in the area or through BetterHelp. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:16 PM |
| 6 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Not comfortable sharing my face. Quite insecure about getting a "ah, you're not even attractive". That would probably crush all the positive feedback and hard results I got. That's why I really need to work on this. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:14 PM |
| 17 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Focusing on my life is probably what got me to this point. I'm doing okay financially and improving. Got some pretty cool and interesting hobbies. I provide for my parents. Have an awesome group of friends. Really grateful for the life I have right now 🙌 | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 05:12 PM |
| 3 | How to accept that you're an attractive guy?Thanks! Any specific search terms I should use? I haven't used those things before so I'm not sure how to find the right videos for my situation. | /r/seduction | 14/09/24 04:59 PM |
| 1 | I approached a beautiful woman on the train today, here’s how it went.Looolllll | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 03:51 PM |
| 1 | To the guys who’ve gotten significantly better, how bad do your past fumbles still fuck with you?You won't be thinking about them when you're balls deep in YOUR perfect 10 and she's telling you how much she loves you. So push on brother on to the next one. Sometimes they come to mind but we all got those fumbles as part of the journey. | /r/seduction | 08/09/24 11:10 AM |
| 5 | Is she interested or nah ?Her being at work makes it very tricky for you. I'd suggest you talk to her about something fun you did or a common interest. If you click over that then you can ask her to join you next. WARNING: This isn't worth it in my opinion. She works with you which means that if it goes south, it not only affects you romantically but potentially professionally as well. How many other girls you have dates planned already for the next few weeks? If the answer is none then I'd suggest you focus on that inst… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 02:09 PM |
| 4 | Men who couldn't get any women to talk to them to getting women to sleep with you, what changed?I was never that bad but what improved my game drastically was becoming an overall nice person to be around then hitting the gym. Making money helps but only after the first few dates and if you wanna get into a relationship. But ay, hit the gym guys! Don't believe the "dad bod is the new thing" B's. Get ripped and you'll see some wild shit happen to you(borderline SA to be honest). | /r/seduction | 16/08/24 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Using alcohol to start cold approachingNo. Just don't! Don't use a crutch. That's it. Don't do it brother. | /r/seduction | 15/05/24 10:06 AM |
| 0 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsAnd definitely worth going for! | /r/seduction | 13/05/24 09:31 AM |
| 1 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsYou can definitely find that but it's much harder than just finding a pretty girl. | /r/seduction | 13/05/24 06:08 AM |
| 11 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsI was also feeling this way a few months ago. I'd literally prefer to stay home and watch something, rather than let a girl come over. So I tried romanticizing the whole thing a bit more. I watched a few rom coms and kept searching for a good emotional connection that would make me feel something, good or bad. I've found that and it feels great. Cuddling with a random 10 vs cuddling with your emotional and physical 10 is a whole other level. | /r/seduction | 12/05/24 07:52 AM |
| 2 | How do I navigate thisdon't move on from Girl #1. The date is set. Just text her on the day with something regarding the date that already assumes she'll be there. Maybe something playful about where you'll be sitting. Just something that makes sense for your interaction, assumes attraction and doesn't make it seem like a flake is even a possibility. Girl #2 is a goner. Onto the next one. | /r/seduction | 09/04/24 09:54 PM |
| 1 | [Daygame] Should I approach more?I need more practice in crowded areas. The spotlight effect is definitely my weakest point. I tend to do more "romantic/serendipitous" approaches when I'm just going about my day. When I do an actual session, I try to merge it with some activities or sightseeing around the city. | /r/seduction | 08/04/24 08:42 PM |
| 2 | What to do as a beginnerI also don't drink or smoke and I go out every week. Actually that used to be one of the core staples of the pickup community. Regarding the girls, your goal is to take them out on a date so your conversation should be moving towards that. Check some of Todd V's text game videos on YouTube. | /r/seduction | 08/04/24 06:59 AM |
| 1 | [Daygame] Should I approach more?I just checked some of his approaches and it feels a bit incongruent. Maybe it's just my "direct mindset" speaking. I can definitely see myself using it at a grocery store though. Hopefully my vibe isn't too off because of the mismatch between my intentions and the approach. I usually go with the "Hey <acknowledge the randomness of what is happening> but I just had to bla bla bla". | /r/seduction | 07/04/24 07:58 PM |
| 2 | [Daygame] Should I approach more?Hahaha thanks man. That's a great idea! I'll do that but in other cities as well. The city I'm in kind of has a slightly small community around those things so I might run into the same folks often. To remove the awkwardness I always acknowledge it and it works well. I did the some when DM girls on Instagram and got good responses. | /r/seduction | 07/04/24 07:50 PM |
| 2 | [Daygame] Should I approach more?That's a good one. I usually go direct because I was always the "nice guy" growing up so to avoid being friendzoned I open directly. How do you open indirectly if there is no common context, such as being at a grocery store, bookstore, event, etc. If I just see her walking by, it feels weird to go indirect. | /r/seduction | 07/04/24 06:02 PM |
| 4 | I slept with her on our first night hanging out. Thankful for this sub.You handled this perfectly my guy! Good job | /r/seduction | 03/04/24 08:29 AM |
| 4 | First messageI've heard my girl friends complaining about this to me. Guys that see them and behave differently from what they do online. First and foremost if you do this online it doesn't really show that you're a strong confident guy. Just go up to her and say something like "I see you so often <possibly a compliment> but I have no idea who you are. My name is Anon" then proceed with a normal conversation and go for the close. | /r/seduction | 02/04/24 03:14 PM |
| 2 | #1 reason for frustrating dating livesHey man, unfortunately OP can't force you to get laid. I understand that your lifestyle creates limitations but if you really want this then you have to come up with solutions ok how you can still do approaches. | /r/seduction | 23/03/24 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Things I've learned over the past yearMentally unhealthy women like assholes. Don't date those girls. "Women don't like nice guys. They like good men". In practice this means: - speak your truth and don't mince words to please her. - set boundaries and be willing to leave when crossed - give her honest compliments. Not to get her to like you but because you just wanted to give her the compliment. - disagree with her - lead. lead. lead. pick the food if she's indecisive. pick the movie....preferably based on what she also likes Basic… | /r/seduction | 29/02/24 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Things I've learned over the past yearThere might be something about your vibe that isn't right. You can try and do a voice recording of your interactions. Watch some Social Animal subscriber challenges, find a guy that kinda looks like you and see how he does. Also, don't wait for the girl to do something. You're the man, the burden of approaching and risking rejection is on your shoulders. | /r/seduction | 29/02/24 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Things I've learned over the past yearParties where most people are there to dance instead of making Snapchat stories and look good holding a bottle. Festivals are good as well. | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Things I've learned over the past yearGreat words here! On a more practical note as well: Don't just get fit, look fit. I've seen some guys that can lift a lot of weight but still look fat. Most girls(except those that are into it of course) won't care about the specificities of your workouts, but they'll fuck you because your arms looked veiny and biceps were big. On fashion, find a guy online that kinda looks like you or that women seem to love and wear what he wears(within acceptable boundaries). You can also simply find a store … | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 09:19 AM |
| 3 | Things I've learned over the past yearI didn't want those FRs to feel like I'm just bragging, that's why I decided to distil them into these learnings instead | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 09:11 AM |
| 2 | Things I've learned over the past yearThank you so much bro! This is exactly what I was looking for. Absolutely love this community. | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 09:07 AM |
| 4 | Things I've learned over the past yearI now see this happening to me as well because of a few different things. This mainly happens in nightgame but during daygame you might not be at the same spot for long enough for this to happen, that's why you should just approach and if she's not excited about it(or flakes) just go on to the next one. Trust me lads, there are girls that will fawn over you out there. | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 09:05 AM |
| 2 | Things I've learned over the past yearYes! I also do this before I approach. James Tusk suggested that you picture her naked and that also works wonders. | /r/seduction | 26/02/24 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Things I've learned over the past yearLooking at a woman with intense desire. Basically that "I want to have sex with you" look. Of course this needs to be calibrated and not creepy but I found that building this up inside me has helped with escalating physically. | /r/seduction | 25/02/24 07:35 PM |
| 31 | Things I've learned over the past yearIf you do one approach today. The one you do tomorrow will be easier. If you get a makeout on a Friday, your confidence will be up on Saturday so use that momentum to do the next approach. Thing is, the more experiences I got the less I felt like I had to start from zero. Those experiences mean that I don't have to approach everyday to stay sharp. Does that make sense? | /r/seduction | 25/02/24 06:45 PM |
| 5 | How to Transform From a Shy Guy into an Approaching BeastThis is similar to what Ruben from Social Animal talks about. This mindset is incredibly powerful, especially the visualization part. It radiates. I'm struggling right now to get back in the game and hopefully this will help. | /r/seduction | 29/06/23 06:54 PM |
| 9 | 40 matches and 0 dates. Conversations never start or die after one or two messages. What am I doing wrong?Because online dating sucks. Take the power into your own hands and go out to approach. There are higher quality girls. More success. You grow a whole lot more and most importantly you're in the driving seat. You make the choice. | /r/seduction | 01/09/22 08:45 AM |
| 72 | You’re on a date and having a good time but you can feel things getting a bit too platonic - what’s the best way to sexualise things?THIS! And I'd like to add something. Let your mind wander and sexualize the situation. Think about how desirable she is to you and you'll start giving off that "I wanna fuck you vibe". Hold eye contact and when she expects you to answer her or just as she says something just go: "I'm so sorry to cut you off but you have the most beautiful eyes. I could look at them for ages". That can immediately switch the vibe. And remember, she came out on a date knowing full well that something might happen.… | /r/seduction | 31/08/22 08:13 AM |
| 1 | How many cold approaches until your first success?The Netherlands. Girls here can be pretty forward as well but I wouldn't depend on that. | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 01:44 AM |
| 2 | How many cold approaches until your first success?In my experience daygame has less rejections than night game but that might just be me and the country I'm in. I could easily approach 1-2 girls a day an de have at least 3 solid phone numbers that I could turn into dates. Whereas in night game I could get the occasional make out but they would always flake. Girls at night just seem preconditioned to reject you, but during the day they are too surprised and amazed by the courage. | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 12:19 AM |
| 2 | How many cold approaches until your first success?I personally find daygame much easier than night game. The girls don't have a shield up and when done properly day game feels more romantic and a better story for the girl than night game. Imagine her telling her friends: "I met this cute guy randomly while at the farmer's market and we're going out tonight" VS "I was drunk last night and I made out with this guy but I don't even remember his name". | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 10:25 PM |
| 1 | I gave myself a little goalI did 1 girl a day and success came pretty quick. Just make sure you stay consistent. You cannot go back home without at least one approach. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 07:31 PM |
| 2 | I freeze after introducing myselfWhy do you freeze? What's going through your mind in that moment? "She's so hot", "What do I say next?" | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 09:18 AM |
| 12 | If you could go back and tell your newbie dating self anything, what would it be?Smile, say hi, have a normal conversation. You are good enough for any girl. | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | What's the best lesson you've learned on your seduction journey?Be honest. Don't play games or tricks. Be true to yourself and be honest with the girl. Don't pretend to be her friend when you want to get in her pants! | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Stats on 40 Cold ApproachesThis! You gotta go in to see if you vibe with the girl. She hasn't won YOU over yet. This drastically changes how you feel about rejections and how you come across. I didn't keep a total approach count, only a daily(at least one a day, everyday) and within two weeks I could be going on two to three dates. I dress well, I workout at home, I'm black living in a western European country, I always have a positive vibe, strong eye contact and I can make a girl laugh. I put that out there because many… | /r/seduction | 06/07/22 05:47 PM |
| 1 | tips for Coffee shop conversation?Yes I agree! Good catch. I tend to be more honest and I've noticed that "stunning" still works well because it doesn't have to be purely physical like "hot" or "beautiful". I usually follow up by mentioning how they combined their clothes which is something I genuinely look for in women. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 11:01 AM |
| 6 | tips for Coffee shop conversation?These would be my tips if the coffee shop is small: 1- Approach while leaving to avoid getting rejected then having to sit right in front of her afterwards. 2- Acknowledge the situation. e.g: "Sorry to bother you, you seemed lost in your book but I just had to say that you looked stunning..yada yada". 3- From then just follow your regular conversation. No need for any fancy topics, if you got to this point then you've done plenty. Be friendly but masculine and make sure that your eye contact and… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 02:11 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Feel the pain. Cry. Sit with it for a while but don't stop your life. Keep doing things like going to the gym, hanging out with friends(A LOT!!! BE AROUND PEOPLE), then start to approach. That last bit is very important. Once you have 3,4 girls ready to see you, the excitement will quickly trump what you're feeling right now. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 11:03 AM |
| 2 | I lost a hot woman because I think I was needy, how do I fix this nice guy behaviourSame answer as with most complaints here: approach more girls. You got a girl that looks like her interested once, you'll find another one and maybe even better. Abundance does wonders. You become more selective and you only invest in girls that are a match and that put in the effort as well. You should consider yourself lucky that it ended so soon. Imagine being with a woman that treats you like that for years! Next time, try to talk to at least 3-4 girls at a time before choosing one to make h… | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 08:23 AM |
| 55 | Should I give her a hearing she deserves?Leave her on read bro. | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 01:45 PM |
| 1 | (Field report) How badly did I screw this up?Yup. If you carry on with confident vibes and do some leading then it will be seen as a cute moment. If you are not confident then the attraction will die down. | /r/seduction | 23/01/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | After the hookup... Am I missing something?It's up to you bro. Lead! If you like this girl and you'd like to see her again, then say that you'd like to see her again. If she doesn't want that, it'll be very clear. If you don't want to see her again, just be polite with your rejection of future plans. And remember, she might get attached to you, when that happens, be very mindful and honest before she falls in love. Remember to leave her better than you found her. | /r/seduction | 23/01/22 03:34 PM |
| 0 | What should I do now?This bro!! Get to know her better and be the exciting spark in her life. Don't even mention or think about this guy until you wanna go steady. If you do your part right, she'll drop this other guy quick! Especially if they are still having sex. And bro, don't you dare get onetis!! You can always find another girl just as awesome as she is. Trust me. | /r/seduction | 23/01/22 03:30 PM |
| 2 | 1 Approach a DayBe honest on the open(you probably stopped her BECAUSE she looked cute, say that) and then have a "casual" conversation. Make sure to tease them, crack a few jokes and just have a good time getting to know her. Dressing well helps as well. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 04:53 PM |
| 2 | 1 Approach a DayDon't make assumptions about their state. Most girls will be very happy that you approached, just be calibrated, smile, deliver your compliment, give them space and be ready to move on if they clearly don't want to continue with the conversation. Always remember that you are not out there to make a girl like you, you are out there to show yourself in the best light and find girls that will naturally be attracted and want to connect with you. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | 1 Approach a DayThis! I've been doing this challenge for a month or two now and it's really incredible the results and confidence boost I'm getting. Cold approaching in a calibrated way during the day is such a rare thing for girls that you immediately standout. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 04:48 PM |
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