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| 1 | Get flirted with and/or stared at on a daily basis by women, yet still a kissless virgin, help.Hey, what do you mean by depth here? | /r/askTRP | 28/06/18 08:40 PM |
| 9 | TRP making me miserable. How about you?World tells you you need to be successful at something or you suck -> you obsess -> you don't succeed -> self esteem takes a hit. Happened to me, too. Slowly peeling back the onion on some of the ideas, like "a man is defined by his relation to women" and all that shit. Fuck the noise, take your time, recover, revitalise, and come back in when you think it's best. I trust you to not hamster this away. | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?Thanks, bro. Saved for the hard times. Appreciate the support, not enough of that on here | /r/askTRP | 27/06/18 01:45 AM |
| 0 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?No, just...she's getting her endgame and here I am still fucking stuck | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?Right? Right? He was sort of saying that himself. That it worked because he was vouched for heavily. I got some work to do, i care too much and step too carefully. I worry too much what people think, and I gotta be bolder and more willing to burn a bridge with a chick. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?You right you right overanalyzing is my jam and I need some butter for a change | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?First time it's happened to my face. Friends have confirmed it, and I've run jerkboy game before and beaten out some niceguys, but first time I'm running good guy game and seeing it lose in front of my eyes. It's very different to see it losing first hand. I run good guy game, I'm not a niceguy. We planned to do this on the same girl deliberately, so the difference was glaring. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?You're hurting because you identify yourself with your game. Your game has become 'you', who you are. Because your game isn't as good as your friends', it hurts and you feel like your persona is being rejected. Like I said somewhere above, feels like I spent all my time sharpening the wrong goddamn tool and that's time I'll never get back. You may also be right about identfiying with my game. I just found out an hour ego my ex got engaged. Frustrating day, man. | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?the other hand was validation seeking for her, "oooh I know people from Bama too! Aren't I cool?!?" Nope. That's not it. Who the fuck is proud of being from Bama? Lol. I just rolled with it, neutrally. Seemed like an introduction to me, I asked where she was from since she said she had just moved here. I didn't see it as something to be validated or dismissed. I just treat everything as a platform to raise energy or to banter. Banter/cocky funny is my bread and butter. "wait Alabama? Are you sur… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 03:41 PM |
| 5 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?treat everyone as you would like to be treated. so I'm interested in them as a person, I banter and i validate and tease | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 05:44 AM |
| 6 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?I do some push, just not huge rapport breaks. I do "so you're that kind of girl?" "I bet you do X too and say you're not Y", shit like that. She introduced herself as "Hey, I'm Veronica from Alabama." His response: Just laughed at her. She just completely lost her composure. My response, same intro: I have a friend who claims to know everyone from Bammy and how would you like to make some money by helping me win a bet with him? Like some pseudo Chad vs Ted Mosby. I'd never consider his method. I… | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 05:34 AM |
| 3 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?Always figured that would show non neediness, since I'm having a greast convo...and then leaving to talk with someone else entirely | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?how do i stop caring about this shit man, i'm tired of caring and tired of trying | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?what | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 03:17 AM |
| 10 | Saw TRP beat my game style first hand. Ya'll were right, and I hate it. How to calibrate?This part stung, didn't it? like a punch in the gut, heavy dose of reality I'm hurting, man. and i dont even know why. feels like i built up a lot of skills that were supposed to get me somewhere but in reality I'm still on square 1 ish | /r/askTRP | 26/06/18 03:07 AM |
| 16 | Is it okay to take a girl's number from her friends and introduce myself through texts?Only if she already knows you socially and thinks you're cool. Otherwise, NO. | /r/askTRP | 24/01/18 06:57 AM |
| 7 | The empathy trap, testosterone, and the power of holding frameI don't disagree with you, but I don't agree with you either. There are merits and demerits to your arguments, and with the video. Locker room talk is not sexist. Locker room talk is just guys talking about women. Women talk about guys too. Sexism implies that you're saying women are less than men because they're not men. Most of the people I know who are highly liberal and empathetic are not weak willed robots. They're people who have lived/experienced third world country life, and know what it… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/01/18 12:47 AM |
| 1 | How do I start interacting and talking to women? Right now I can only smile at themA lot of people on this sub, try to seem more than human in that sense. They disguise their weaknesses (even several of the higher tier vanguard-ish guys) and seem impervious. But for a lot of people that sets an impossible standard to aspire to, and the truth is, we're all human and we all mess up in different ways. If its any consolation, any awkward thing you ever done has been done by some other dude in the past. It's really no big deal. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 08:22 AM |
| 2 | How do I start interacting and talking to women? Right now I can only smile at themIDK about you, but I do well dropped off the deep end. I went from 0 to cold approach. First one was at the university gym. Then between classes, in the lawns, etc. It got a ton easier with time, I've frozen up after saying my opening line, walked off after great responses chickening out of asking for her number, etc. It's okay, man. In the end, progress, not perfection, is what matters. Might mess up today and tomorrow but at the end of 3 months your game will generally be a lot tighter. You'll… | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 07:32 AM |
| 1 | How do I start interacting and talking to women? Right now I can only smile at themI went from fuckall experience socially to being in 2 completely diffeernt social groups within 7 months. Approached about 60 girls in that time, and honestly you sound like experience will show you it's really not that scary! | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 07:12 AM |
| 1 | How do I start interacting and talking to women? Right now I can only smile at themGoal is always to have fun/have a good conversation. If that happens, feel free to ask for a number and see her again. Don't pay attention to the micro details for now. Just get the major shit in place - some dude will take issue with the fact that I said 'ask' for her number instead of 'tell her you want it'. Repeat after me - micro things don't matter until macros are in place. No one tells a starving man to get enough zinc. They tell him to get some fucking food. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 06:48 AM |
| 2 | How do I start interacting and talking to women? Right now I can only smile at themWould it be good to talk/ask about something relative to where I am at the time, or just whatever? Like I said (and like you said), thinking of what to say initially is the hardest part. Anything. Location ("Is there a good juice shop nearby? Kinda feeling some lime soda rn"), Weather ("Goddamn is it always this hot or is it a tuesday thing?"). Something contextual, basically. Once met a girl because we both laughed at the girl in the starbucks line ahead of us | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 06:06 AM |
| 1 | How do I care less about things? I'm tired of caring so much.Yes! There's just part of me that thinks 'maybe with the right incentive or punishment I can get them to change'. Need to work on acceptance. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 05:28 AM |
| 1 | How do I care less about things? I'm tired of caring so much.I've read the sidebar, my post not about women, women aren't even that much of a focus for me right now. Can you explain your mindset a little to me? How would you deal with, say, an inconsiderate housemate, or a shitty landlord who has it out for you, or a bad boss? | /r/askTRP | 17/01/18 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Charisma Myth - I have warmth and presence, how to cultivate/show power?What do you mean? Elaborate a bit | /r/askTRP | 16/01/18 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Charisma Myth - I have warmth and presence, how to cultivate/show power?NMMNG Done. It's more that I hate when someone spreads bad feelings into a group by breaking rapport (unless you're very familiar) so I never do it. I'm not doing it for validation, but I expect people to remember you more by how you made them feel than anything else so I walk on eggshells a bit. Way of Men - done, helped a lot. Working on WISNIFG. Started lifting as well. Since the place I meet people the most is at work, is it safe to break rapport and expect people to be normal again? Seems l… | /r/askTRP | 16/01/18 08:48 AM |
| 18 | How do I start interacting and talking to women? Right now I can only smile at themYou're psyching yourself out. You think about anything enough and you can psych yourself out of it. Then you beat yourself up ad infinitum FOR getting psyched out. That's dumb. If you want to talk to someone, do it in 3 seconds. Count to 3 and GO. Just say whatever, dude. Opening is always the hardest part if you're in the right mental place. Once you open, you'll show up. Here's a plan. Start small. Cashiers at Walmart, clothing stores, start with people who are likely to be pleasant and have t… | /r/askTRP | 16/01/18 08:05 AM |
| 3 | How do you TANGIBLY add value to a social group?Wut | /r/askTRP | 11/12/17 06:33 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread December 06I've noticed the exact same shit. I meet a girl a day after breaking nofap, I'm cool, aloof, interesting but not enthusiastic. Day 9 of nofap, I'm aggressive, forward, and shooting myself in the foot. Mfw | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/17 04:26 PM |
| 4 | Question the QuestionThe issue with this post is that it assumes that any of the Velcro shoe wearing Sperg children on TRP are interested in acquisitioning information by their own time and effort. At some point in life, they'll realise that having their friends run them through the summary of a chapter ain't gonna be enough and they gonna fail. Until then... | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/17 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Question the QuestionWe kind of treat them like children, but our treatment assumes that those babies are being regulated by some adults and will evetually be reined in. If not, someone's gotta. | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/17 03:17 PM |
| 12 | Question the QuestionThe problem with allowing the questioning of the question is that the whole point of a question is to elicit a particular answer. It is guided/directed towards something, and the guidance here is the frame in which that question operates. You challenging the question is you challenging their frame of reference. Frame battles against accepted systems are meant to be swatted down...until they are big enough to challenge the system. As an aside, GLO, your background shines in your writing, and you … | /r/TheRedPill | 28/11/17 03:15 PM |
| 1 | About Insecurity and Friendship.You ever invite them to things? "Hey dude, Tesla Motors is doing a roadshow, let's go!" "Dude you wanna look at some programs for grad school Friday?" You gotta DO shit together. All my good friends, we DO something together. It's harder to replicate these things after college, but there should ALWAYS be something going on on campus you can attend. Why is this not happening for you? | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 03:04 AM |
| 1 | About Insecurity and Friendship.I wasn't getting at something in particular. That said, insecurity gets in the way of vulnerability which is an intergral part of friendship. I would also look at why you have nothing in commong with any of your high school friends outside of hanging together? For eg. one of my friends and I are into pickup, so we get on fine. Another one and I are learning the piano together so we have something in common. Another one was on the same sports team as me, so we have shit to talk about. How are the… | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 02:38 AM |
| 1 | About Insecurity and Friendship.This insecurity I talk about makes me maybe too competitive What I mean is less forced competition, and more general 'accomplishment'-ish. Like you're sizing up your own peer group vs you? Doesn't need to be active, can be just a passive feeling. | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 01:47 AM |
| 3 | About Insecurity and Friendship.I don't have your answer - just the same question. Generally, whenever I try to get closer to someone, I feel like I'm being inconvenient, and it seems like my only option to not appear needy is to withdraw, but if I do the counterpart don't usually reach out. It's like I'm always more invested in anyone else than they are in me. I can empathize with this feeling a lot. If I care more, I seem needy. If I care less, it seems like nothing will happen at all. Do you compete a lot with your own frie… | /r/askTRP | 27/11/17 01:09 AM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread November 22Grad school for what? Depends. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/11/17 09:47 PM |
| 5 | An evening with an Alpha (married guy)Your argument is well thought out, except that he isn't an alpha purely by the TRP definition. What if you cared so little for pussy that the opinions of people on a message board dedicated to getting it meant absolutely fucking nothing to you? Western countries measure their dick size by how often they get their dick wet. Is it conceivable that there are people who don't care that much about it? There are people who don't care about money, and people who don't care about physique, and while the… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/11/17 09:42 PM |
| 1 | How do you shift between understanding the frame of an interaction (meta cognition) and actually acting in the moment?Yeah, I just got outmaneuvered by getting sidetracked. If I want to go to a movie, for eg. I wanted to see Justice League, and I got A to join. B (guy I'm talking about) said he wasn't in for JL but had heard Murder on the Orient Exp was awesome and that C would probably be interested. Once C got hyped (C will usually go with B's ideas) A became ambivalent and we ended up going to murder. It's not about the movie, it's about seeing the dynamics. A is usually somewhat ambivalent and open to ideas… | /r/askTRP | 22/11/17 04:55 AM |
| 1 | How do you shift between understanding the frame of an interaction (meta cognition) and actually acting in the moment?Yeah, I have a partial to full profile about him. You're spot on with your assessment. Anything that's hhelped you before? | /r/askTRP | 22/11/17 03:09 AM |
| 1 | How do you shift between understanding the frame of an interaction (meta cognition) and actually acting in the moment?We're all good friends. It's not that kind of aggressive alpha posturing kind of shit, I need some subtlety, not a hammer. I'm not trying to placate, just that...he either convinces the other guys or makes it seem like his is the best way/most logical way. Your friend doesn't give a fuck about you. He's more invested in getting what he wants. You either accept that and keep bargaining, or start putting yourself ahead of other people's needs. With that said.....this is worth thinking about. Thank… | /r/askTRP | 22/11/17 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Should I stop being friends with my best friend?And this person is your best friend? Why | /r/askTRP | 05/11/17 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Should I stop being friends with my best friend?If you're a girl, the advice on this subreddit is not for you. Alpha and beta are descriptors of male behaviors. You sound about 15 years old. Get off the internet and live life, but yes, a girl who says that is probably going to be an issue if you force the hangout. | /r/askTRP | 05/11/17 07:52 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?You're right about the target part. But with any new people there's a settling in period. I don't think people do it for the sake of points or anything but I'm accounting for where it's coming from. Like if someone is socially awkward and they say you shouldn't do daygame I'm not taking their advice. | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 05:47 PM |
| 3 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?Y is an intensely private person who also seems pretty repressed and has said as much too. What a normal person would consider an accident (like accidentally reading some open document) he would consider nosy because he's that private. It's also why I won't take his words at face value. Because he's probably worried I'd read his shit. Lol he's not that important to me, this is definitely a one off incident. If it comes up again I'll be a bit more assertive about him Saying shit | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?Y is an intensely private person who also seems pretty repressed and has said as much too. What a normal person would consider an accident (like accidentally reading some open document) he would consider nosy because he's that private. It's also why I won't take his words at face value. Because he's probably worried I'd read his shit. Lol he's not that important to me, this is definitely a one off incident | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 05:43 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?I'm explaining to you, man. I didn't say all that to Y. I just said its cool because X and I have talked about this. | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 05:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?Nah I just left that part out to not get caught up in the details. X left some documents on our kitchen counter. That's where we leave mail. Thought it was mine and read a line or two. It was some composition X had written at work. X and I are kinda cool about that, we've discussed his compositions before. Y thinks I was being nosy. First of all, it was very obviously on the counter where people are going to look for their shit. Second of all, it was definitely a harmless document and I'd never … | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 04:27 PM |
| 5 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?Replacing the people won't fix the problem, better I learn how to deal with it than run away | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 04:22 PM |
| 0 | askTRP Megathread October 18Dude, your answer doesn't try to understand what I'm asking at all | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/17 02:03 PM |
| 1 | askTRP Megathread October 18What is the advantage of having traits be labeled masculine and feminine? I was debating with a friend (as carefully supporting men as possible) and his point was by shitting on more assertive women and less assertive men, we are enforcing stereotypes that aren't necessarily true at all. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/10/17 03:03 AM |
| 0 | I have an incredibly self defeating voice in my head that I've struggled to kill. How did you guys get over that?I'm a little confused, elaborate for me. I'm just talking about self doubt, lack of genuine confidence. Not seeing how it ties up with you here | /r/askTRP | 07/10/17 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Would game have changed the situationTo extend your analogy, all I know is that my bench is failing and everything feels weak. Lol. I'm looking for possible causes of failure. Have you seen those girls at a club who are fantastic dancers but only seem to be there to dance? | /r/askTRP | 30/09/17 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Would game have changed the situationI'm looking for IOIs, like tonality or IODs that might help. Don't project, I'm looking to improve, if there are things to look out for, that's feedback I can use, things I can look for next time. If you can't learn from a 100 games they're mostly wasted. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/17 07:43 AM |
| 0 | Ok seriously need some advice on why im not cool. This is urgent literally will pay someone for help.PM me, I just got back from a night out. | /r/askTRP | 30/09/17 07:30 AM |
| 0 | How do you critisize and belittle The Red Pill in public, at work, without feeling resentment?It's like pranking your friend who's an idiot. "Yeah Dude YOu should deifnitely trying brushing with peanut butter, all the stuff in your teeth will stick to it" And then you laugh aside on your own or with woke friends. Like Jim and Pam on Dwight in the office | /r/askTRP | 19/09/17 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Mentally Recovering From Being An OmegaThere's no alpha and beta either. It's all just a choice of words to depict an idea, and it's based off an inaccurate idea in the first place (the wolf study proven to be false) | /r/askTRP | 13/09/17 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do many of us turn to self-pity in times of difficulty rather than facing our issues and remaining hopeful? Is it easier to just live in self pity? Or does it simply feel good to be self loathing?It's because there's allegedly a light at the end of the tunnel, but not everyone is close enough to see it. Sometimes you're not sure if you're making it, or if all you're doing is in vain, and whether there's a point to this journey at all if no progress is visible and no end is in sight. They turn to doubt because doubt is all they've ever known, and when their new frame of "I'm gonna make it" falters, the doubt slides in to fill that void there is some regressions/stagnation mentally. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/17 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Those who are successful in life, I need your honest answers to mimic your success. What makes you think you have mastery, courage, strength and honor? What makes you think you are a winner?As a back up to this, i have a friend who works in a similar field. These fields start off with super low salaries and then hike up real fast , so the poster here seems to be in the range of making-it-big/made it. Seems legit to me. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/17 03:57 PM |
| 3 | What do these shit tests that I commonly get tell you about me and my gameRules to beat shit tests: 1. Everything that happens here is entertaining and funny. 2. Nothing anyone says can get under my skin, because I don't give a fuck, and people who act like shitheads won't get my attention further. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 04:33 AM |
| 5 | Being uncomfortable around Alpha Males.Have come to the same realization myself, would have written a post on it eventually. Story time: So I have a hyper successful uncle. Premier alpha, professional scuba diver, just sold a startup, spits game like cobras spit venom, and it is downright impossible to make him do something he doesn't want to do. On the surface, I could not be myself around him, because it was intimidating, he's in my field of work and he's a legend. As long as my frame was pseudo adversarial (let's face it, the only… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/08/17 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?I'm well dressed, tall and pretty good looking. I'm not ripped yet (thin but mildly skinnyfat and working on it 3x a week + running), let's see what it's like when I literally give no fucks | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?yeah you right you right | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?I'm not interested in her, I already tested the waters carefully and backed off a while ago and I don't do second shots at first impressions. I can handle the superficial charm requirements, I'd probably get an A+ in banter on a good day. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?We're Bay Area and tech, so i don't expect that to happen, but I'm a lot more careful about my words than even my co interns. I'll rarely if ever join conversations about race/politics etc. I'll let my peers determine what's kosher for that group, since I'm not strongly affiliated to any of these topics. I try my best to stay out of drama (actual or potential). | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?I think I get what you mean - like "Oh yeah you think so huh mmhmm" with a "I literally couldn't care less" look | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?You think this would happen less if I were ripped and smiled less? | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?I'm tech but I'm super social, people have mistaken me for sales before. I have a pretty good rapport with most of the interns, and a lot of people who work there. I can do the cold thing, I don't do it enough with people in general. She's told me before that she wishes she knew other interns (LMAO you work in HR and you know less people than me) and I am one of the few people who can connect her to them - when she was distant I found other people to chill with and I did. I'm not interested in h… | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?Stop whining doesn't go anywhere towards being useful or actionable advice. Least you should do is add a Do X because Y or Change the way you see things to Z statement | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 01:32 AM |
| 3 | Masculine Girl at Work Acts Dominant, But her dad works there. How to deal with it?"wonder if you'd even get the internship if your daddy wasn't the vp" That's a Defcon1 nuke, that's not what i meant at all - hope what I write below helps to explain. It's not like she's making me get coffee or ordering me with one curly come hither finger, it's more like legitimate reasons where she's showing a little more dominance than I'm comfortable with. We're not close friends, and she's presuming familiarity when she sasses me often - ball busting is ok as long as I know you or if we're… | /r/askTRP | 28/07/17 12:52 AM |
| 2 | June 23 - Weekly Improvement & Progress ThreadSeems like my part time job will get me a full-time offer. Been very social at work, and took one L with grace (will set a tone of 'its all good' when I see her next). Been lifting for a month now. Working on my standup act too, and buying a guitar soon. Very gently invited a girl out for coffee whom I'd gelled with, her response: "if I'm not in a meeting sure haha". Went to coffee place on my own anyway, and later replied "haha yeah no worries I went early, maybe later" Gonna be absolutely norm… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/06/17 03:28 AM |
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