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agh_missedit/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 05:29 AM
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I don't ask for phone numbers or contact info of a man, but provide mine if I'm interested. I don't send the first message. I reply quickly to his messages and do not pout when he doesn't reply quickly to mine. I don't plan dates. I give my opinion if he asks "would you rather like A or B" If I have something particular in mind, like a hike, I would say "I would love to go on a hike" and let him plan. My dating behavior changed vastly this time around in singledom. Before, I did all the opposite…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 10:31 PM
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Here are some things that you can do. Its hard to cut contact cold turkey so here are some things to consider. This is all under the assumption that you already told him straight out that you have no interest in pursuing a relationship with him. 1) Make a conviction - You recognize there is no future with him which means that you need to be able to envision your life without him. This includes him being your best friend. If you want to have a happy and fulfilling relationship with another man, y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/16 07:39 AM
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I'd add dressing well and skin care to the list!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 11:51 PM
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I'm just gonna guess here. I think this is related to RPW in the sense of self-care. The better a woman can take care and love herself, the better state she will be in to be a good partner.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 07:47 PM
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"You know, I had a lot of trouble with that too. I read this book that helped me a lot." and then I send them the Amazon link to Surrendered Single. They pick it up, or they don't. That's all you can do in a situation like that. I don't usually recommend this sub mostly because reddit can be overwhelming. Most of my friends are not that internet savvy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 01:05 AM
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It is really refreshing when AWALT comes up when my boyfriend and I are talking about the dynamics between men and women. He says "I'm glad you're not like that." I smile and say thanks, but I know that inside I am like that. I am AWALT. But I have a leg up on all women. I know that keeping up the discipline of patience, understanding and surrender is the key to my happiness with myself and my relationship. If I falter in my practice, I can devolve into AWALT which is the nasty form of myself th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 12:28 AM
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For those who don't know, there are really great resources over at /r/xxfitness about women's health and fitness. The most important body part for a woman to "sculpt" is the glutes (aka "dat ass" or "booty") A man who sees a woman with a nice butt will think "hey, she looks healthy and can bear my children!" because it's hardwired into the human brain. The human brain is honed in on partners with good glutes. This goes for women looking at men too. Bipedal walking (walking on two legs) is a trai…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 12:07 AM
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He has a lot of good qualities that make a good captain. He encouraged the best in me, physically and emotionally. Patient, loyal, hardworking, funny. He has his flaws and I admit that we are mismatched in some ways. I've gone on dates with men that are more compatible with me, but I haven't quite felt the same spark. I think part of it is because I'm still emotionally hung up on him so I'm not allowing myself to fully experience these new encounters. I would say that what I can't seem to let go…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 08:48 PM
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I do have a tendency to get into relationships like this. I didn't come under the RPW wing until recently so I've re-evaluated a lot about how I relate with men. It has been eye opening and in many ways made it easier to be a women. Shedding the past is a process that I'm still going through.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:56 PM
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Hi tinted. Thanks for calling me out. I wasn't manic when I wrote it, but I had a feeling it could be crazy. I needed outside perspective and you gals delivered.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:53 PM
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In my mind, I was framing it more like spending time with my brother is the plan and if the guy wanted to go for a date, I would be available. I guess using the phrase "move in" didn't quite convey my meaning correctly. Of course I would pass it by my brother first, but I don't think he'd have a problem with me staying over some weekends.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:48 PM
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You're right. I have dialed it down with him significantly and have recognized that I was chasing him and putting effort and emotion into a drain. It's good to hear that I'm travelling down the right path. These days, I'm not initiating contact as much and I'm working towards not initiating at all with him. He reaches out to me occasionally and I respond, being careful not to overtake the flow of conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:44 PM
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Hi Tempest, thanks for commenting. I was really. hoping you'd reply because I value your opinion. All the comments you made I agree with. I don't believe that I was one of many woman because he's a good guy and I trust him completely. He said he was faithful to me and I have no reason to believe he's lying. I do think that this crazy set up that I envisioned would make it even easier for me to become a "plate" though, so I'm reconsidering.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:10 PM
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Hi thanks for your insight and sharing your experiences. It is relieving to hear that someone recognizes that I'm halfway out of crazy town instead of still being a maniac. I have gone out on several dates and have met some different men. It has helped me a lot to keep things with this man in perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:06 PM
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That was another relationship. This one was about a year.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:00 PM
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My brother and I are very close! He will often come to my place as well. If he were to ask the same of me, I wouldn't hesotate to say yes. He wouldn't mind but thanks for bringing up the cost aspect. I'll be sure to help him out in that respect.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:34 PM
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I have less anxiety about seeing/texting him these days. In the past it was because I didn't have my own life and the "hamster" ran all the time. Now that I've established my own personal space and boundaries, I feel more sure of myself and less anxious about him. I was thinking that being close may make it easier for us to get together, if he wants. I'm not dictating that since I'm there, he must take me out. I want to create more "just a lunch" date opportunities where he can lead how long a d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:32 PM
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Hi, thanks for your comment! I'm a little hesitant to bring it up with him right now since it has been weeks since we've had any loaded conversations. I've just wanted to keep it fun and light. And most importantly, I haven't felt the need to dump any serious topics onto him. He's mentioned in the past for this kind of arrangement but I always fought it because I really really wanted to stay with him. Him: "If you're going to be here for any reason, maybe we can meet up." Me: "But the only reaso…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 02:25 PM
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Most gals in the comments are giving great ideas for wearing non-skirt, non-dresses and they are great! It doesn't seem like anyone has really talked about skirts/dresses so I wanted to share my two cents. I'm a huge fan of wearing skirts and dresses. I prefer to wear them over pants because they really help boost my inner sense of femininity. It does take some getting used to. You will be getting attention, especially since your social circle isn't used to seeing you dressed that way. Also, the…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:25 AM
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I wonder how this applies for distance relationships. I was in a distance relationship for about a year and I constantly felt snubbed because he didn't respond quickly or with the same amount of enthusiasm as I put into it. The led to a lot of tension. His texting word count vs my texting word count ratio is, I would guess, 1 to 5. I encouraged more telephone calls too, but who wants to talk to someone on the phone when there's already been bad feeling over text? Since then, when he asks me "how…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 04:50 PM
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Thanks for the examples! I read the post, but there weren't any concrete examples like what you posted.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 11:01 PM
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I'm reading those two lines, but can't quite grok it. Can you give some examples? I think that'd be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 09:42 PM
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Take a look over at /r/xxfitness I've taken a liking to weight lifting recently and joined a gym. Before that I was doing bodyweight exercises at home which took about an hour. I was following the bodyweight workout program in Strong Curves. I switched to going to a gym because I wanted to have a social environment to workout in and access to more equipment. For me, tracking my progress is what makes it feel like it isn't a chore or inconvenience. The sense of accomplishment when you see your nu…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 09:39 PM
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I'm backwards from your sentiment. For paying, I am prepared to pay if he asks me to but I wouldn't offer to pay. When the check is brought to the table, I don't make a move towards it. I let him make the move. I'm surrendering the control here. I'm not going to dictate the pace of the date. Most times when he finally does get around to picking up the check, it is accompanied with something like "wow, I didn't even realize this was here. I've been having such a good time talking to you/I wish we…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 07:58 PM
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Talking about exes is not totally off-base for me if the conversation topic happens to be "relationships really shape who we are, here are some relationships that I've been in." That's fine. However, when the date manages to steer any conversation topic into talking about exes, that's when it gets bad.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 07:31 PM
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Since reading Surrendered Single, I have gone out on a myriad of first dates. My expectations are simple. My date picks me up, plans the activities and doesn't fuss about paying. Whenever one of them doesn't happen, it starts to go downhill. Here are some first date stories: Guy #1 lived really far away (over 90 mins of driving) and offered to meet half way. I told him "I prefer to be picked up" and he was okay with it. I chatted with him on the phone a bit a few days later and felt there was a …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 07:03 PM
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Thanks for describing everything about my ex. I'm glad I'm out of that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 12:34 AM
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In addition to The Surrendered Wife, she also wrote a book for singles (The Surrendered Single) I'm mentioning it in case single ladies are reading this thread. Another personal favorite of mine is "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie. I read it before I adopted RPW philosophy so it might not totally represent RPW, but it has some really great ideas on how to process nasty thoughts like it annoys me so much when my husband does X.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/15 04:49 AM
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Journelle!!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 12:51 AM
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For me, patience is tied to trust. Practice trusting others and understanding that people do things differently than you. The best example is when you're riding in a car with your SO. You both know where you're going, but he's taking a different route than you would. If you're impatient you might say something like "take a left here, it's faster." To be more patient, trust what the other person is doing and understand that it doesn't matter if they take three rights instead of one left. You'll s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 11:46 PM
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nope, asian beauty is not "for asians" but rather it follows the asian philosophy of beauty. Western beauty is typically very light on cleansing and skincare, and heavier on foundation and make up. Asian beauty is more about the daily skincare routine. Cleansing and applying moisturizer, essence, serums and etc have way more importance than make up and foundation. The aim is to have healthy skin so you don't have to cover it up with concealers and foundation. An evening skincare routine is somet…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 04:12 AM
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Korean skincare routines can get long and pampering because of the steps that it goes through. Check out /r/asianbeauty for more info. The products are also inexpensive compared to their western counterparts. It feels great when you take the paper mask off and your skin feels super dewy and gorgeous.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 02:05 AM
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Check out /r/fitness and /r/xxfitness for more info on working out. I'm not a fitness expert, but I've read that lifting every day is not optimal and you need rest and active rest days. Your lifestyle seems to be good and all you need is a few tweaks here and there to make it work. Looks like you already got some great ideas from the comments here. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 10:30 PM
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I think just by having a hobby is not attractive to men, but rather what you do with them. Knitting alone doesn't make a man want to commit to me, but if I make him a beanie with his favorite sports team colors, that makes me stand out from the crowd. Granted, I must also be physically attractive and have a good demeanor. No girl is going to win over a man by being ugly and knitting him a whole closet.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 07:30 PM
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You are surrounded by new people all the time. Go to the coffee shop? Grocery store? Out for a bite to eat? Library to study? If you're studying, I presume you have a campus to go to. like CureMeNot says, you should make yourself pretty and attractive. It should be your goal to turn heads wherever you go. These days most girls are lazy and dress in sweats and don't care about their appearance so it is easy to stand out in a crowd just by wearing a dress and having a healthy body shape. Along wit…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 07:25 PM
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I think having a diverse set of interests and hobbies is really important for a woman. It is about self-improvement. The problem that many girls have is that they don't have any hobbies so they spend their nights clutching their phone in their hand wondering why that cute guy hasn't called. I believe TRP calls this hamstering? Instead of hamstering into outer space about how her man's boys night out is going, an RPW is better served by appreciating her personal time by indulging in hobbies wheth…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 07:21 PM
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Buy her a copy of The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle and then back away from her. She needs female companionship and perspective on her problems. Hopefully there are some healthy, no-drama women in her life (mom, mother in law, aunts, etc) When she asks you for advice or talks to you, dismiss with a simple "I don't know how to handle this. I'm not a woman. You should talk to someone else about this."
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 11:41 PM
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This is what you say - "I'm going to the race. I really want to row because I enjoy it. I am an awesome boatswain and I want to help my team win." Then go do your thing and be super proud of yourself. You are not intentionally pissing off your boyfriend. You are doing you, an awesome boatswain. Rowing is part of your self-care. It is part of what makes you you. Even you said it yourself in bold letters. Surrendering is about being your own self. Understanding who you are, what you want and self-…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/15 11:46 PM
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I hate to hi-jack but I have a similar questions. Any ladies have ideas for GOFL type interactions when you're apart? In my case, we see each other about once a week and I stay at his place for about half a weekend. The rest of the week we communicate mostly via text and occasional video games.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 12:49 AM
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Hi Laura, thanks for your thoughts! I really appreciate it. Do you think it should be said "I'm really looking forward to being your wife one day?" or keep it a general statement of a wife? Does it make a difference? I'm in a relationship currently and I've asked him whether he wants to get married if he were to find the right woman and he says yes. At the very least, I know he's the marrying type. He hasn't made any suggestions, light hearted or otherwise, about marrying so I think he's not qui…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 11:18 PM
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How long do I wait for a man to ask me to get married? It seems like a silly question as if there is some magical number. (Is there? haha.) What do I need to keep in mind when I am in a long-term relationship that seems like is on the slow track to marriage? I'm reading Surrendered Single now, but haven't gotten through all of it. Thanks for writing the books and sharing your ideas!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 09:55 PM
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I gorged myself on RP philosophy after I found out a few weeks ago. RPW especially helped me. I always knew the truth, but modern society made me doubt myself. Now that I know that I'm not crazy, I've become a lot more confident about how I behave in relation to my boyfriend and other aspects of my life. I can't help but want to grab every man in my vicinity and say "Dude. READ THIS. It will change your life." I have a lot of guy friends who I respect as men, but I didn't really know how to help…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 06:18 PM
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Maybe its just me, but I'm in fearing attack mode quite a bit. I think it is in the nature of being woman. We're physically smaller, weaker, etc. Perhaps I'm a tinge more wary than the general public. If I walk down an empty street and there's a man coming towards me, I would be lying if I said I didn't have a little fear of being attacked. In that particular scenario, there was no real threat, only the possibility. He definitely was the aggressive type, but for me to say "oh crap, if I leave he…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 06:05 PM
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The reason that I do a little housework when I go over to my boyfriend's place is because it makes his life a little easier and makes me more pleasurable to have around (mostly on a subconscious level) This is the type of thinking and behavior that sets me apart from the hordes of other women after his tail. It also gives him a chance to express gratitude and intimacy towards me which I like and I consider that in itself a reward. Homemaking, when compared to sex, is a low-risk investment to inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 05:57 PM
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I can't wait for the AMA. I have a list of questions in a Notepad txt file.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 07:56 AM
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I once told a girl friend of mine about an sex encounter that I really should not have gotten myself into. It was a bad decision all the way around, but I didn't know how I was going to get out of it when I was half drunk and half naked in his room. I didn't know him that well except he had muscles and was rude to waitstaff. I had a choice. I could get up and leave but I feared that he would attack me, make me feel bad and maybe even stalk me after (he had shown those tendencies before). Or I co…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/15 05:42 PM
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I read the suggestion question as: "Would it bother you if I allowed another man into a position to assert his dominance over you?" That's essentially what the question is asking. The only answer a man would give to this question is "Yes" (any other answer comes from a cowed beta male) Of course it would bother him because you're letting another man the position to be a man in his place. Your boyfriend might be an alpha in every single way over this other man but you've just undermined him by re…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 04:32 PM
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You can't talk to him about your feelings about this. He's a man and they just don't like talking about feelings, especially when they're feelings that they can do nothing about. You: "Honey, I'm mad that Jess stayed three nights and cooked for you." Him (in his brain): Ok... and what do you want me to do about it? Undo time? What's your point in telling me this? Oh wait, its feelings time. I'm gonna be really patient and listen the best I can. I'll try to come up with the right responses that s…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 04:15 PM
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If your husband doesn't respond to you wearing lingerie, there's no outfit that you can wear to turn him on. Accept that he likes seeing you naked and waiting on the bed. Don't expect that he'll come fawning over you just because you have a new get up on. If you wear it because you want a "hey you! look at me! find me sexy! doesn't this make you want to do me?" out of him, then you're trying to control the situation. Men don't like being directed when to have sex. That doesn't mean that you shou…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 04:14 AM
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Hehehe, you mean not complaining, nagging and gossiping, right? I know what you mean, but your comment gave me a good chuckle this evening. Thanks ;)
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 01:59 AM
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