agreable_actuator Archive

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–	The topic is real men with saggy balls I am proud to have these big balls but they are large and saggy allegedly had anyone ever had a situation when a girl makes fun of your saggy balls and if so how did you respond? you tea bag her.	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/06/26 06:12 PM
18	Don’t change who you are even if it gets you results Interesting and thank you for sharing. Some random thoughts about mental models and the benefits and costs of essentialism follow. I have found it helpful to look at arguments or discussions like this as possible mental models, and to evaluate them based on their potential utility to me. For some men at some time in their life, this may be a helpful model. Example, If fat chicks make your dick hard then go fuck them. If you like to cos play at comic con do it. Every subculture has its groupies s…	/r/TheRedPill	25/08/24 10:57 AM
1	Dark triad theory is the only good thing to come about from incelosphere Ask the OP. I don’t know for sure what he thinks about this but would assume it’s because of his observation that women will have sex with men who aren’t the type to be good dads and r/k explains why. We just can’t see it from Birth rate because of wide spread birth control use. Maybe We didn’t see it in the past because women were protected from this part of their nature by a stronger family or social structure. So maybe patriarchy could be seen as a cultural technology shifting humanity to k s…	/r/TheRedPill	23/08/24 07:22 AM
3	Dark triad theory is the only good thing to come about from incelosphere From Wikipedia In ecology, r / K selection theory relates to the selection of combinations of traits in an organism that trade off between quantity and quality of offspring. The focus on either an increased quantity of offspring at the expense of reduced individual parental investment of r-strategists, or on a reduced quantity of offspring with a corresponding increased parental investment of K-strategists, varies widely, seemingly to promote success in particular environments. The concepts of q…	/r/TheRedPill	23/08/24 07:01 AM
9	The religious red-pilled Hitchens's razor: "what can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence" You haven’t defined red pill or provided examples from the either of these religions that would also fall in the definition of red pill. So you haven’t even made a cogent argument worthy of discussion or debate.	/r/ExRedPill	02/06/24 02:47 AM
6	İ dont know how to deal with this mindset which makes me feel insecure.. Instead of finding truth, can you instead go searching for adaptive mental models? I mean just because it appears to you that women like jerks, maybe there is something else going on at a deeper level you just can’t see. Maybe emotional neediness turns off women. You don’t have to hold any belief as the absolute truth, they can be provisionally true to the extent it helps you formulate your next step. Then reevaluate how useful that model was. This is kind of like the ooda loop - observe (where …	/r/ExRedPill	01/06/24 02:05 PM
21	Why aren't women attracted to men the same way men are to women? What planet do you live on? You don’t seem to be from around here. Here on planet Earth I see attractive women with ugly men every day. But if your head is stuck in Uranus maybe things appear different there. If you can get your head out of Uranus, suggest maybe you look closer to home for your answers. Maybe Stop worrying about all men and all women and focus on what you want out of life for yourself and what steps you can take to get there. Suggest you consider that complaining about all women…	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/24 03:31 AM
7	"Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not." You have not fully answered any of my questions so why would I play your game? You have indicated you are not arguing in good faith and have a hidden agenda. How about this- the human experience is widely variant. Individual people have differing experiences when it comes to expressing their sexuality. Some don’t date at all because they have arranged marriages. Some commit themselves to religious institutions with a vow of celibacy. Some are rich, some are poor, some have mental or physical hea…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 10:48 AM
20	"Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not." For reasons unclear you believed my call to question yourself more deeply as a call to not question anything at all. That is so odd I don’t know if there is a rational response to such a non sequitur. I would ask, who are you trying to convince? Yourself or someone else? Of what exactly? What specifically is the belief that you are trying to change? What types of evidence would be acceptable to them? Are you just trolling? Are you struggling with your dating life and just want some advice? Some …	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 12:00 AM
35	"Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not." What possible difference to you would it make if me or anyone else in this forum believed one way or the other? Why can’t you make up your own mind in this? I think you need to find better things to do with your time. You are literally wasting your one and only life pondering this and related questions.	/r/ExRedPill	27/05/24 11:17 PM
5	How do I appear confident around dates and women? There is no guaranteed path, and even if there were, you’d have to walk it yourself. But some strategies come to mind: —practice self compassion. Every day ask yourself what can I do to be excellent to myself? Do those things. —practice unconditional self, other and life acceptance. This is from Albert Ellis work on the Myth of Self Esteem —define goals in domains of life other than relationships and take steps to achieve them. Get a big deadlift, learn to play guitar, found a 10 million a year …	/r/ExRedPill	16/05/24 05:37 PM
22	"You're the type of guy women will only appreciate when you get older" You seem to be asking about rewiring your thought processes from you seeing yourself as ‘beta bucks’. This process is known as cognitive restructuring. There is a lot of literature on this and you have to do the work yourself, learning the tools and methods and then using pen and paper to write out your beliefs, identify the distortions and develop more helpful beliefs. Three books if recommend are: Albert Ellis, How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything--Yes, Anything! …	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/24 02:27 PM
2	The point of life is NOT sex Another non sequitur, but you can only work with the tools you have. Good luck!	/r/ExRedPill	26/04/24 08:22 PM
2	The point of life is NOT sex Just seemed like it didn’t follow but maybe because you didn’t explain it as you did here. I can be slow at times	/r/ExRedPill	26/04/24 05:03 PM
9	The point of life is NOT sex You have an awesome home gym! I was asking your age as a rhetorical question just because it was a non sequitur following your non sequitur to the original post. I think you were meaning to say you thought the OP exhibited juvenile thinking but I think he was actually making a good point. But then I went and did my workout and it now life is good.	/r/ExRedPill	26/04/24 11:31 AM
13	The point of life is NOT sex How old are you?	/r/ExRedPill	26/04/24 03:08 AM
5	A failure of this, and similar subs is that the majority of people attempting to provide advice are women Compulsively Feeling like you are over responsible for everything sounds like a difficult burden to bear. So yeah, knowing where you end and others responsibility is important and I am glad you are there now. At the same time, many people don’t even stop to look and ask - I don’t like this situation, but what did I do to steer my life in this direction, and what can I do to steer myself out?	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/24 10:18 PM
23	A failure of this, and similar subs is that the majority of people attempting to provide advice are women So what I hear you saying is that it is always someone else’s fault your needs aren’t getting met. And in particular, it is the fault of women in this sub for not meeting your desires for quality free advice or sympathy. If you want a male perspective, Maybe you could start by addressing this life orientation you exhibit. Sounds like it hasn’t worked for you in the past, and I predict it is unlikely to help you in the future. Maybe Develop a stronger internal locus of control. Assume you are alw…	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/24 03:16 AM
5	I need help not getting triggered when my friends talk about things that are kinda black pill adjacent or similar No one strategy works for everyone but here is what comes to mind: Identify your values and long terms goals in multiple life domains (search for wellness wheel for some ideas about how to organize these domains) -seek out opportunities to express these values, and achieve these goals —make friends along the way with people who share your goals or are willing to support you in trying to achieve them. Doing the above should yield positive feelings outside your desire for sexual and romantic valid…	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/24 02:42 PM
4	Church elders White Knight! Simps appear and try to prevent young men from getting red pill truth! Recently a few young men at church asked me for advice on dating, and "getting da girls", unbeknown to me church elders eavesdropped and lost their minds! Hiking dates has worked for me and for you, maybe not the other guy. I think the criticism was perhaps that if you find you don’t like the person or don’t get along and you are on the first hour of a three hour hike, you are spoiling what could have been a fun time solo or with friends. So keeping first dates short is sometimes a better strategy. Plus if you meet up just for drinks and pick a convenient spot and find you are both wanting privacy it’s easier to move back to your place than find a…	/r/TheRedPill	04/04/24 11:25 PM
1	How do I make women friends again especially after me losing the majority of them? Can you just focus on making friends with people? You can do this regardless of their age, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, education, income, or political affiliation. Specifically looking for a friend who fits some demographic category seems weird to me.	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/24 11:46 AM
3	Any reason to trust this graph? Because I don’t know who collected the data, from what population, using what methods or for what purpose, I can’t say to what extent this chart is useful for your purpose. However, it is directionally true based on my personal observations that women generally, but not always, prefer men a few inches or more taller than them. But the chart doesn’t show that interest is zero for even the shortest of men. Ans I doubt this chart reflects the entire set of 4 billion women. I suspect it selected for…	/r/ExRedPill	29/03/24 10:56 PM
7	Any reason to trust this graph? What do you mean by trust it? What difference does it make to you if some stranger on the internet trusts it or not? If I had an argument that strongly supported this or disproved it, how would either outcome impact your life?	/r/ExRedPill	29/03/24 09:24 PM
5	Why is being overconfident seen as so much better than having low confidence? What exactly do you mean by confidence? What is your working d function? Do you mean that you want to be able to expect that women you try to speak to will be receptive to your advances? That isn’t guaranteed to anyone. Do you mean that having confidence is feeling awesome every second of the day when you try out new things? Not sure that is helpful. Could you instead try and develop outcome independence to your daring success? Maybe it would be helpful to develop a Practice of self compassion a…	/r/ExRedPill	15/03/24 02:59 PM
3	Porn addiction is ruining my mental health It’s possible porn may not be the issue at all. Instead it may be exercise scrupulosity/ religiosity: false moralism and so forth. See https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-esteem/202101/is-porn-addiction-really-a-disorder The shame you say you feel after masturbation may be nothing more than you shaming yourself because you didn’t live up to some imaginary standard someone else set for you and you internalized without self reflection on whether this belief worked for you. Think for yourse…	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/24 11:22 AM
12	Gonna see a mental health professional. Best wishes! This is a great step! Please be aware that you won’t click with all therapists, or with a particular therapeutic approach. So I hope you have a great experience, but if you don’t it’s not a reason to give up. Also, you may need to do homework. As in journaling. I get a lot of mileage out of Behavioral Activation tools (a daily planner where you predict achievement, connectedness or fun against planned and actual activities . Also get mileage out of REBT ABCDE method, and the tools i…	/r/ExRedPill	28/02/24 01:27 AM
40	How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman? To have a friend with benefits, you first have to have a friend. And you will may need a number of them to find one that would want to have sex with you without commitment. And then, after a while, they may want a commitment and date so then you have some deciding to do. So, first step is to go make a lot of friends.	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/24 06:48 PM
12	Idk how to not be bitter that I will never be desired in the same way attractive men are You say you don’t know how to not be bitter, but you don’t say what you have tried. Have you studied the stoics and tried to implement their approach? Have you tried living for a purpose beyond yourself? Have you tried therapy or at least learned about REBT, traditional CBT, metacognitive therapy, and behavioral activation? This is your one and only life. You can spend it bemoaning your situation or you can try to change it or try to deal with it through change of mindset. But no one is going to…	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/24 06:26 PM
3	Is it true that most women are sexually submissive and have rape fantasies? Abstract This study evaluated the rape fantasies of female undergraduates (N = 355) using a fantasy checklist that reflected the legal definition of rape and a sexual fantasy log that included systematic prompts and self-ratings. Results indicated that 62% of women have had a rape fantasy, which is somewhat higher than previous estimates. For women who have had rape fantasies, the median frequency of these fantasies was about 4 times per year, with 14% of participants reporting that they had rap…	/r/ExRedPill	12/02/24 12:36 AM
5	I think my boyfriend is a redpiller Thank you for providing additional detail. This is difficult. I think he’d benefit from improving his critical thinking skills but damned if I can figure out how you could ever suggest such a thing. I have taken logic classes at college which really helped but few are interested in that. I also like the works of Albert Ellis and David Burns who have books on challenging your assumptions that are leading you to unhelpful emotions. Other than that, maybe try positive reinforcement (smile, nod, ent…	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/24 10:19 PM
6	I think my boyfriend is a redpiller To me, both the terms red pill and ex red pill are too broad of a label to be used for critical thinking particularly when it comes to your personal life. The terms are container words that are loaded with varying connotations from each person who uses them. Also some of the books recommended by self identifying red pillers may be written by actual psychologists in good standing and are more about developing emotional maturity vs neediness, a generally good thing. And some may be about getting s…	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/24 08:56 PM
1	Graduate Study I had to look up National University. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_University_(California)	/r/ExRedPill	30/01/24 01:17 AM
4	I can’t Un-RP myself How is the hypergamy hypothesis an issue for you? Which of your problems in life is related to the fact that some people believe this to be a valid social science theory? See https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy I guess what I am saying is maybe the truth or untruth of the many variations of the belief in the hypergamous nature of people in general or women in particular is less of an issue than how this mental schema is playing out in your unique, beautiful, worthy life. You want to live y…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/24 07:23 PM
-1	Female "Shittests" real or redpill myth? Without the specific claim laid out it’s difficult to discuss. What specific claim are you wondering about? Who made it and when? Further, what does it mean to be real? Also, the question can probably only be answered within a paradigm such as evolution. Do you believe humans evolved, and that sexual selection was a driver in that evolution? And if so, exactly how do you propose that human females make choices about which potential partners to actually have sex with? If human females were intere…	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/24 01:54 PM
4	Can people tell my relationship history with women by looking at me, and knowing me for a year but I keep everything private? No. For your worry about Beijing judged, read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson and 2 more	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/24 03:10 AM
7	How do I not grow resentful of my better looking more sexually successful friends? You have to put in the work to undo the bitterness that is already festering in your heart like a rancid poison. What steps your journey requires is uncertain, and will be unique to you, but delaying or avoiding change, and being a help rejecting complainer will just prolong your misery. No one is coming to save you. This is a journey you must undertake yourself, like Telemachus searching for his father in the odyssey. You must search deep within because what you seek is not without, it is withi…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/24 06:36 PM
12	I'm failing to see how the idea of AF/BB and the 80/20 rule aren't real Is your dog dead? Then go bury and mourn him. Is your dog sick? Try to heal him. Is he living? Then feed him, take him for a walk, play with him, enjoy him while you can. Living in fear and anxiety of his and your eventual death is foolishness. Your issues seem far deeper than trying to figure out the 80/20 rule. You seem to be unable to enjoy life in the only place it exists, in the here and now. If finding a partner is your concern, why not ask about that? Asking 80/20 stuff is avoidance behav…	/r/ExRedPill	13/01/24 11:45 PM
14	I'm failing to see how the idea of AF/BB and the 80/20 rule aren't real What is your purpose here? What would you be doing differently if sometime could demonstrate the 80/20 rule is true or not to you? What difference does it make to your life? Spending time in navel gazing exercises is an exercise in staying stuck in your current level of misery. You sound unhappy. How is the information you seek going to improve your happiness?	/r/ExRedPill	13/01/24 11:12 PM
0	Why does getting a dog instead of a gf is advice from the redpill? #newbie What exactly is red pill logic? Is there a list of maxims, rules , definitions that define red pill? Who sets those standards? In their a governing body? Based on observation neither the red pill forum nor the ex red pill forum have consistently defined terms in a way that facilitates discussion, analysis, clarity or understanding. Red pill seems more a marketing term, a boo-word like communism in the McCarthy era. It clouds rather provides light.	/r/ExRedPill	12/01/24 11:00 PM
13	Why does getting a dog instead of a gf is advice from the redpill? #newbie Who said this? Can you link or provide source? Without more information it’s hard to say intent. Even then, you’d never know what was in the authors head. In general, there are several good reasons I’d think: (1) having a pet can be psychologically beneficial. It can also teach you responsibility. You may simply become a better person by learning to take care of a pet. This is likely to make you a better partner. (2) some men have deep emotional wounds from childhood neglect or social deficits g…	/r/ExRedPill	12/01/24 03:23 PM
1	What are some great seduction books for men, written by women that are an ethical alternative of Pick Up Artist books? I don’t think there are any tricks. Become a better person, including being emotionally mature, physically fit, have a plan for your future, and go out there and meet people. If you are unhappy, there are many mental models out there of where you help orientate yourself for taking steps. I like this one: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six-factor_model_of_psychological_well-being Pro tip: getting more women sexually interested in you is not the main focus. However as you increase personal well b…	/r/ExRedPill	11/01/24 05:34 PM
1	Sex and selfworth Your HEMA group sounds awesome! Way to go! I have struggled with the “I can’t feel good about myself unless a woman strongly desires me” thing. I wonder it relates to not being loved enough as a child. I think it takes years of work to undo such conditioning. I have seen improvement but it still comes up occasionally. Some books that have helped change my mindset include: How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything--Yes, Anything! How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself …	/r/ExRedPill	11/01/24 01:39 PM
1	What would it take for the world to recover from the modern degeneracy (i.e feminine men, hypersexual society, hypersexual media, etc) that impacts men? Thanks! Wish I was as laconic as you. I have a bad habit of over explaining.	/r/TheRedPill	02/01/24 10:17 PM
15	Red pill beliefs are ruining my life Cognitive behavioral tools like this should be taught at school.	/r/ExRedPill	28/12/23 01:01 AM
2	Red Pill “Bad Boy/Nice Guy” Dynamic Nothing to add but thank you for sharing this. A simple upvote didn’t seem enough.	/r/ExRedPill	25/12/23 06:21 PM
242	What would it take for the world to recover from the modern degeneracy (i.e feminine men, hypersexual society, hypersexual media, etc) that impacts men? While I used to ponder the same things, I am now more inclined to think such an approach is a mind trap, a waste of time and energy. Maybe men’s mental health would improve when they stop idolizing an imaginary past and focus instead on improving themselves in the world as it exists today. Maybe society would improve when men stop asking what men as a collective should do, and instead become the best version of themselves they can be. So if you want to improve the world, go lift. If some young m…	/r/TheRedPill	22/12/23 05:08 PM
0	Dealing with toxic in laws Funny, automod got me because I mentioned another relevant forum. Any way, a helpful approach is to read the mrp side bar including the books no more mr nice guy and when I say no I feel guilty. Also read rian stones book on Frame and listen to his videos. Then try to implement the ideas in those books. And lift. You didn’t share your deadlift, squat and benchpress numbers so I’m just assuming you are working on them. Seriously, if you aren’t lifting you probably aren’t doing enough in the rest …	/r/TheRedPill	19/06/23 12:06 PM
18	Struggling to truly be at peace with TRP teachings. Glad it resonated. One hobby of mine is reading philosophy. However, I have noticed myself and other people develop symptoms compatible with ‘existential OCD’. Look it up if curios. The cure is that Sometimes you can be too much in your head and just need to get back into your body. You can do this trough combat sports, lifting, woodworking, whatever. Your brain can formulate Some questions that just can’t be really answered. The later Wittgenstein was on to this issue and would throw an chalkbo…	/r/TheRedPill	07/02/23 05:06 PM
76	Struggling to truly be at peace with TRP teachings. In a certain way, ‘you’ don’t exist. There are behaviors that are familiar and comfortable to your brain, and there are behaviors uncomfortable to your brain. The perception of you not being yourself is just a set of words used to describe the sensation your brain has when it notices your mouth saying things it usually doesn’t, in ways it usually doesn’t and your body moving in ways it usually doesn’t. You’d have a similar perception if you learned a new musical instrument. For a while, it would…	/r/TheRedPill	07/02/23 04:15 PM
19	I think I lost an attractive girl because of my PIED. You may be overthinking. ED is a real thing and may have many reasons. Maybe see a urologist. Maybe get tested for low T. Maybe try and address any underlying anxieties you have about sex. Maybe it’s just a temporary case of jitters. It happens and worry makes it worse. Try and live a healthier life -lifting, nutrition, rest. Most of the time ED goes away without drastic measures. I doubt you lost a girl due to it, but maybe due to loss if confidence/frame. PIED is a made up issue up at worse, t…	/r/TheRedPill	22/12/22 08:14 AM
4	A Bit Confused/Lost I don’t know. Everything is a risk, even walking down the street. Having sex with a married woman seems like wanting to ride a motorcycle, naked, no helmet, while drunk, and waving a nazi flag, straight into an antifa rally where they are all carrying baseball bats with barbed wire wrapped around them. If that sounds fun to you, have at it. No moral judgement from me. I just hope somebody gets the end result on video.	/r/TheRedPill	02/11/22 06:54 PM
5	A Bit Confused/Lost I think most all of us have settled for something less than we could have found had we worked for it more. The easy way, the easy lay is always tempting, but the time costs add up. You could have been working out, expanding business or finding hotter women. On the other hand, you have the right to spend your time how you want. Sounds like a win win. If you stay, fun times with no commitment, if you go, you could probably find hotter.	/r/TheRedPill	02/11/22 06:23 PM
5	A Bit Confused/Lost Do what you want to do. No one here can tell you how to live your life. I do wonder what is holding you back from fucking a younger, hotter woman or women with less baggage, who doesn’t fight you for frame and who doesn’t have a husband who may shoot you in the head while you are enjoying said old used women? Identify what is holding you back and address those deficiencies. If you have more and better sexual options, the allure of this one may fade. It is possible that your so called enjoyment o…	/r/TheRedPill	02/11/22 04:56 PM
1	How did i fuck up? Everyone has this moment. Making a bone headed mistake is like taking a shit. Healthy If happens once a day or so, not so healthy if once a week or less. Happy hunting! You built some karma and it will come back to you.	/r/TheRedPill	29/09/22 11:47 PM
1	How did i fuck up? Maybe, just maybe, the problem is not what you did or did not do but your attitude going in. It ain’t what you do it’s the way that you do it, as cab Calloway done told you. Maybe you are over invested in this fantasy you have of this woman. You don’t know anything about her really. Being over invested like this gives may give a stink of weakness and desperation to anything you do. Do more approaches, practice outcome independence. Have a life so filled with fun, hobbies, friends, meaning, and s…	/r/TheRedPill	29/09/22 11:20 PM
4	GF losing respect You put the left foot out, then the right foot. Keep alternating left and right till you are far away.	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/09/22 11:52 AM
2	Broad stood me up last night, how do I proceed? all your proposed options seem like an over investment issue. Maybe it’s good you got flaked on as it allows you to see a hole in your game. Time spent breaking her or putting her in her place is time not spent on improving or enjoying yourself.	/r/TheRedPill	18/07/22 06:55 PM
12	Need Help Gents! You have far deeper issues than your text game. First is you have oneitus over this girl when she should be one or dozens of potentials. And you should building more potentials each day through dating apps, and cold approaching when there, and planning to develop a new social circle around your hobbies and work for warm approach. Also, what hobbies do you plan to pursue in this new place? Do you have a bjj gym? A lifting gym? Get those. What are your lifts like? Can you deadlift double body weig…	/r/TheRedPill	22/06/22 01:05 PM
1	My gut is telling me to dump a good girl with n count of 1 That sucks! Sorry that happened. Do what you want, but I don’t know i would break up over her past. You may not find lower n count. Women are women and no one is truly special, unless you decide to make her special. Ideally, you’d have learned to shake off a bad play or bad luck on the football field in school. Now, you may need some focus on developing greater emotional resilience. Suggest study if the stoics. Maybe learn some cognitive therapy tools from books by Albert Ellis or David burns. I…	/r/TheRedPill	20/06/22 11:06 PM
1	Trust The Numbers Game Thanks! I like that concept of ‘you are the league.’	/r/TheRedPill	13/06/22 05:38 PM
5	Trust The Numbers Game Just spitballin here- but if you were considering challenging some dude to a fight to the death, then yeah, maybe consider their weight class may be decisive even if your skill level is higher. But cold approach of a woman isn’t a fight to the death. It’s just practice being social with women. Sparring with people bigger and better than you is a great way to improve your fighting skills. So talking to women allegedly out of your league may be a good way to sharpen your game. Do this enough and Y…	/r/TheRedPill	13/06/22 01:06 PM
1	Dating is 100% a numbers game for men, and it is inherently humiliating. Yes, nasty rejections are far far worse and more difficult to deal with. At the same time, some men seem somehow been able to develop a stoic resolve and not be bothered by even nasty rejections. Seems something to strive for at least, even if difficult to do. Anyway, I hear your frustration and share it. At the same time I stubbornly cling to the belief, however irrational, that I can improve my situation. Whether that is through stoicism, cognitive disputation, Mindfulness, lifting bigger, tak…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/22 03:29 PM
1	Dating is 100% a numbers game for men, and it is inherently humiliating. Why wouldn’t knowing it’s a numbers game be liberating rather than humiliating? By defining it as humiliating you set yourself up for failure and self loathing. Why do that? If it feel humiliating to you to be rejected you can chose to work on that. Maybe therapy? Maybe more practice at getting rejected? There was a Ted talk on this, outside the context of dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/22 10:15 PM