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To be honest, this whole thread is confusing me. When I was looking for a partner, I was looking for someone I could grow old with. Luckily, I found that. We will not have kids together, but we will go through various life stages together and will likely die a few years apart. Apparently the majority of people in this thread want to have babies with someone 20 or more years younger than them then die 20+ years sooner than their partner does. If you love someone, why would you want to leave them …
/r/MensRights30/03/26 01:43 AM
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I don't understand how this is men's rights. Aside from the baby being a boy, there's nothing related to males in this story at all (as far as I can tell... I don't see anything that indicates that she killed him because he was male). Claiming that this baby died because he was male is the same as claiming that the baby died because of race, or anything else. I'm all for men's rights, but this incident is not related to men's rights as far as I can tell.
/r/MensRights16/01/26 09:43 PM
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I feel bad that you're getting downvoted for this. I agree with you 100%.
/r/MensRights09/08/25 10:56 AM
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I know I'm getting downvoted to hell for this, but I find this post to be really concerning and close-minded. OP, you're saying that therapy hasn't worked for you, but there are men out there with issues that could definitely be addressed with therapy and you seem to be trying to convince these men that it isn't worth trying (which is not good for their mental health). Anyone who is reading this who has experienced trauma (abusive parents, abusive partners, loss of someone close to you, PTSD thr…
/r/MensRights09/08/25 10:45 AM
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I'm a female in my late 30s. I work with a lot of men who respond with "well my wife wants me to [insert lots of chores here] this weekend" when I ask them what their weekend plans are. And men who are basically servants for their wives nonstop. And men who really don't want to retire because they can't stand their wives. "Happy wife, happy life" quickly became a phrase that I absolutely couldn't stand after working with these people for a few years. I never want to make my partner as miserable …
/r/MensRights12/07/25 11:40 PM
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It can easily go either way. I'm female and the only photos I have with me and my kids are selfies.
/r/MensRights15/06/25 07:40 AM
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It isn't. Don't let that become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/MensRights05/05/24 01:00 AM
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I'm female and pretty much the exact same as you, particularly with your second and third paragraphs. I'm a huge fan of the idea of everyone truly being treated equally.
/r/MensRights03/12/23 12:33 PM
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"Happy wife, happy life: - implies that a man's purpose is to serve their wife.
/r/MensRights19/11/23 05:24 AM
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That's really a generalization. Personally, if I had to explain my dating motivation in biological terms, I'd say what I'm looking for is someone I can take care of... make dinner for, ask how their day was, make them smile. I have a strong mothering urge and I know my mental health will suffer once my kids move out of the house, so I'm planning ahead and hoping to solidify a relationship in the next 10 years so I don't feel useless and depressed once I'm an empty nester. I certainly fit better …
/r/MensRights09/10/23 10:22 AM
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Keep in mind that what media/social media posts isn't always fully accurate for absolutely everyone. Personally, I am attracted to men who are comfortable in their skin and make the most of who they are. I much prefer dad bod (to some extent... dad bod but not obese) over washboard abs. Since I'm short, my preference is men under 6', with 5'8"-5'10" being my preference but being open to anyone 5'0"-6'2" ish (taller than that and I feel like a child, shorter than that and I feel like I'm too tall…
/r/MensRights08/10/23 08:12 PM
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I don't benefit from it and never will. I can't see myself ever wanting to go somewhere where saexual harassment is so prevalent that they need to even consider a female and children only train. Also keep in mind that there's a good chance that the people who decided to have these trains are male, and men wouldn't make that policy if there wasn't justification behind it. I am hugely against us vs them... if there's venues that should justifiably be men only, like mental health, specific spirt le…
/r/MensRights08/10/23 03:25 PM
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How is OP's comment not also anecdotal? He's just ranting, and I'm saying that the same.rqnt.can be made by females (of males)
/r/MensRights07/10/23 04:56 PM
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My point is that it goes both ways. The same thing happens to me as a female. If I were "that" kind of person I could be posting the exact same thing on whatever feminism subreddit, to get other females pissed at males for doing this. But that just adds fuel to the fire. The problem isn't that females are doing what op is complaining about, the problem is that everyone is doing it. So op is making this a gender issue (further separating the genders and using a he/she mentality... adding fuel to …
/r/MensRights07/10/23 12:46 PM
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As a female who is strongly for men's rights, I want to thank everyone in this thread who has acknowledged that there are good reasons for this in certain countries. It's important to keep in mind that life isn't an "us vs them" and realistic views of things is what we need in order to resolve actual problems without causing "us vs them" mentality. So thanks to everyone who is keeping it real!
/r/MensRights05/10/23 11:45 PM
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The thing is, it's the lighthearted stuff that plants seeds in society and allows mockery to be accepted. ...then it gets worse. We should have a team mindset , not an "us vs them" mindset.
/r/MensRights03/10/23 10:09 AM
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Fellow female here, and I'm here for the same reason as you. If you have kids in your life, be sure to express your appreciation of men and teach them the value of males in their lives.
/r/MensRights25/09/23 12:47 AM
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That was my first thought when I read this too. I'm hetero female. Most guys don't know what they're looking for either. I don't think this has anything to do with men's rights.
/r/MensRights25/09/23 12:17 AM
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Totally agreed. To some, "men's rights" might mean things like parental rights, basic safety rights, etc, and for others they may think more along the lines of social perception ans how men are treated by others. The vastness of what the term covers makes it difficult.
/r/MensRights17/09/23 12:49 AM
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Thank you for acknowledging that what was done to me as a kid was not right. Tbh, I don't understand why my comment is being down voted. A quick Google search says 1/9 females and 1/20 males under the age of 18 have been sexually abused or assaulted. I never said that boys don't get sexually abused, but it is statistically true that more girls are sexually abused/assaulted than boys. Which to me, is a privilege, isn't it? I basically got down voted for answering the question.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 08:05 PM
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Thanks for acknowledging that it wasn't right. The person who abused me was in fact sexually abused (by a male) as a child.
/r/MensRights02/09/23 08:01 PM
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I am very much anti-feminism. I believe very strongly in men's rights, and express my beliefs even to the extent that some of my male friends don't even understand why I'm so passionate about male rights. But the thing is, once you are repeatedly sexually abused from 8-11 years old (I'm talking one step less than rape), and you have continuous (daily) sexual advances, and you've experienced a couple decades of people sexually objectifying you, it does really impact every aspect of your life. I'v…
/r/MensRights02/09/23 07:59 PM
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While that's all true, that information doesn't answer the question. The question is what privileges do men have. They have the privilege of not being sexualized as much as women at 8 years old, and not being treated as a sexual object in childhood (as much as women).
/r/MensRights02/09/23 07:52 PM
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I'm really surprised no one has mentioned sex yet, to the point where this made me realize that I guess most men don't understand how significant sexal assault is. I'm female. My body was used for sex starting at 8 years old (repeated sexual abuse). I've had to deal with inappropriate sexual advances continuously throughout my life. That kind of stuff impacts you mentally and at the frequency I've received it, it gets to the point where you have to change how you do things, and how you think. Mo…
/r/MensRights02/09/23 06:21 AM
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There were no female firefighters who died from 9-11?
/r/MensRights24/08/23 08:27 PM
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Thank you for posting this.
/r/MensRights22/08/23 10:36 PM
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I'm sure it stems from insecurity. That doesn't make it right at all, but at least there's a reason for it (sometimes)
/r/MensRights14/07/23 08:47 PM
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Woman here. One of the biggest things I look for when on dating apps is evidence that men have other male friends and I'm absolutely 100% in favor of guys going on camping trips with their male friends. Seems like a sign of good mental health to me.
/r/MensRights14/07/23 03:37 PM
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I've always hated the saying. It's as if the wife needs someone to make them happy because they can't be happy on their own.
/r/MensRights04/07/23 09:03 AM
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The whole "red flag" culture in dating is horrendous. ... meaning, people (probably mostly women) have a list of "red flags" or items that absolutely prevent them from dating people with certain criteria. They don't give people a chance, they just shoot ppl down for being one way or another. ... even for dumb stuff like being too short.
/r/MensRights03/07/23 08:14 PM
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I think you misinterpreted what I meant by comfortable. In the society I live in (not sure if it's universal), it would be very awkward for anyone, male or female, to say something like "I'm here for laughs, adventure, sex, no drama, but I really hope you cook for me every so often" on a first date. It's too forward, whether you're male or female. (Although its getting more common on dating apps ive noticed). So by "comfortable enough" I mean that I don't want to come off as an inflexible indivi…
/r/MensRights28/06/23 11:43 AM
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Frankly, the idea of marriage is awful for males or females when you really think about it, but society does definitely make it worse for males than females. From an "anyone" perspective (male or female), marriage binds you into a relationship that can last 60-80 years. Seriously? Why would anyone want to be in the same relationship for that long. Society romanticizes romantic/sexual longevity, but that duration is insane! I don't know many people who have held their friends that long so why wou…
/r/MensRights28/06/23 11:31 AM
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I'm actually female and try to do this if I feel comfortable enough with the guy that I'm with so that I don't feel like it will sound overly transactional and awkward. But you're right, it isn't a typical female trait. I really wish everyone could do this though.
/r/MensRights27/06/23 01:54 AM
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I personally have no idea why the terms of male-female relationships are so secretive. Wouldn't things be better if we could all state "this is what I can offer you I'm this relationship and here's what I hope you can offer me". Then if you don't like it you say "no thanks brah, I'm outta here!"
/r/MensRights26/06/23 05:01 PM
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In my opinion, it's a bit of both.
/r/MensRights26/06/23 03:01 AM
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There are theories in psychology which say that people seek behaviors that they experienced as a kid, even if they're negative behaviors. It's possible that the women you're referring to had lots of negative experiences as kids and they don't know what do to with the concept of a man being kind and courteous, etc. That's on her (them), not on you. Save yourself for someone who appreciates your kindness... she's out there somewhere.
/r/MensRights25/06/23 04:56 PM
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This is my personal experience as a female. I was sexually abused by my uncle for 3 years starting when I was 8. My dad was emotionally abusive and the most anxious person I have ever met. My brother (16 months older than me) was narcissistic and didn't give even half a sh!t about anyone other than himself. I had two 35ish year old stalkers when I was between 14-19. In university I had men constantly hitting on me in school and suggesting that I should leave my long-term boyfriend for them, whic…
/r/MensRights24/06/23 07:30 PM
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Best of women and the other minorities she mentions (age and race).
/r/MensRights22/06/23 11:16 PM
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"how about they figure out why they don't instead of instantly talking about statistics that might not be even effecting most people's decisions." We all know why women don't cycle, it's because they often don't feel safe doing so. The article is written as a lobby for safer cycling facilities. It is not seeded in sexism, it's literally just saying "hey, there's generally only one demographic that is using these facilities because they don't feel safe to the rest of us (be it age, gender, herita…
/r/MensRights22/06/23 05:18 PM
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I'd say that this entire post is paranoid feminism. There's no sexism in her post, but the comments in this thread all seem to think that there is.
/r/MensRights22/06/23 05:13 PM
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Is there something wrong with Muslims cycling? I really don't understand what you're saying. Isn't biking for everyone?
/r/MensRights22/06/23 05:10 PM
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"The opinion of this woman is that men in lycra are bad" It does not state that anywhere. The point that she's making is that there are SEVERAL demographics which were there on the "car-free day" and they all disappear when cars come back on the road. She mentions seniors, race and gender as having influences on who feels comfortable riding on the road. The MAJORITY of the article is speaking about cycling safety and lobbying for safer facilities in which the "8 to 80" crowd would be able to use…
/r/MensRights22/06/23 05:08 PM
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According to my 2 second google research, London has 58% of their population that identifies as "British white" or "other white". Which is far from 90%.
/r/MensRights22/06/23 04:55 PM
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I'm a slim 5'2" female. I cycle anywhere other than highways and I'm super assertive as a cyclist and in general. I'm about as confident as anyone could possibly be on a bike, but I'm still a super short person with a very petite build and likely super vulnerable should a collision occur (because I have very little fat on my body to protect me). I agree with you, my confidence does lead to me being safer on a bike than someone who is scared, but no matter what I do, I'll always be a 5'2" small/s…
/r/MensRights22/06/23 01:10 PM
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But so what if women are less risk tolerant? The point is, the demographic of people cycling should be representative of the demographic of a city. If females don't feel comfortable riding, then add bike lanes. It's not an attack on men.
/r/MensRights22/06/23 12:57 PM
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In the article: Someone indicating that when roads are safe for cycling (ie: closed to traffic), the demographics of people cycling is representative of the demographics of the City as a whole ("men and women, old and young, black and white"). She then states that the demographic shifts to 70% male and 90% white demographic when there is traffic on the road. Any normal (empathetic) human being: "Geez, you're right... there really is an issue if certain demographics are scared away from cycling w…
/r/MensRights22/06/23 12:18 PM
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Yes... Journal of Transport & Health: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214140515002236 University of Minnesota: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0965856416303639 Had you read the article rather than dismissed it, you would have seen that both were linked directly in the article.
/r/MensRights22/06/23 12:10 PM
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Since the people downvoting me (and u/fulanomengano) don't seem to know how to read, here's the link to the U o Minnesota study: https://genderpolicyreport.umn.edu/bicycles-gender-and-risk/ And the Journal of Transport & Health study: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214140515002236 If you were to read the studies (which are both linked in the article I posted) you would see that there's scientific evidence that women are more at risk. I'm getting downvoted for providing evide…
/r/MensRights22/06/23 12:03 PM
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I linked the article because it was easier than adding two links
/r/MensRights22/06/23 11:53 AM
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Her saying there's too many "men in lycra" on the roads is the same as her saying there's too many "women in bikinis" at a beach... it's a specific demographic, not just the gender. What she's actually referring to is the strong and fearless category of bike planning: https://cyclingchristchurch.co.nz/2012/11/06/are-you-interested-but-concerned/
/r/MensRights22/06/23 10:58 AM
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I 100% agree. Females deserve to be safe and heard AND men deserve to be safe and heard. What skin is it off your back that she wants to safely ride in her city?
/r/MensRights22/06/23 10:55 AM
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There are at least 2 studies showing that women are more at risk then men whipe cycling because of behaviour towards women. https://www.theguardian.com/environment/bike-blog/2019/oct/04/why-are-female-cyclists-targeted-by-aggressive-drivers-for-abuse I'm strongly for men's rights, but assuming that safety of females cycling has something to do with a female's ability to bike safely is way off. Your comment is really minded. "Men's rights" =/= "anti-female"
/r/MensRights22/06/23 10:51 AM
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I disagree. Reverse the genders. If a man tells his girlfriend that she's boring when sober and amazing while drunk, society goes after the guy with a flaming pitchfork. Both women AND MEN are vulnerable, and that's okay. The women are to blame for their behavior just as much as a man would be in the situation I described.
/r/MensRights19/06/23 09:38 PM
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I agree, it's not most women. And saying "most women" do this or that or whatever kind of just gives women the feeling that they can do that to be like "most women", doesn't it?
/r/MensRights17/06/23 12:45 PM
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They're likely seeking confirmation bias as well. They've been told that men are evil so they are seeking evidence to confirm their beliefs, so they can feel good about being right.
/r/MensRights14/06/23 08:53 AM
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What Dreams May Come (Robin Williams). ...I don't actually recommend watching it though. Too sad.
/r/MensRights29/05/23 09:47 AM
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Speaking of Lions... Lion King?
/r/MensRights29/05/23 09:43 AM
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Not everyone can. I'm female, tried the pill for 4ish month and never felt worse in my life. Periods suck, but for me the symptoms associated with the pills (dizziness, nausea, migraines, anxiety, depression, feeling not like myself) were far worse. So now I just deal with 2 days of migraines each month and about 2 days where I can't swim because my flow is too heavy. I personally don't understand what's wrong with a female complaining about menstruation and saying someone is lucky for not havin…
/r/MensRights28/05/23 04:53 PM
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You may be right. ...all the more reason for women to educate themselves and speak up on these things.
/r/MensRights27/05/23 09:50 AM
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I disagree with the first part of your statement. I'm a female who has been casually vocal about men's rights for the past few months. Most women that I know are open enough and respect me enough to hear my thoughts and actually absorb them. Only the fake "feminists" ( the kind who hide behind their gender as a free pass to try to get ahead) are not willing to understand my viewpoint on things.
/r/MensRights27/05/23 02:15 AM
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Just wanted to chime in to say that I hope these thoughts are only geared towards single mothers who exhibit that kind of behavior and not single mothers in general. I'm a single mom (50% custody) who doesn't have any sour history with my ex. I certainly hope that people don't perceive me negatively or make assumptions about me solely on the fact that I'm a single mom.
/r/MensRights27/05/23 02:08 AM
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That's entirely not fair to any of the parties involved.
/r/MensRights26/04/23 12:20 PM
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I disagree. If you were taught to fear people of a certain race, that's what you were taught. In most situations, people don't get to choose what they are taught... they learn from their parents. That part is reflective of the beliefs of the people who taught them, and not of their own beliefs. It's not my fault that I was taught that... the part that I'm responsible for is to make sure I unlearn that.
/r/MensRights26/04/23 01:25 AM
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I didn't understand all of the article, but the part I did understand (I'm pretty high) I believe was that parents who speak negatively of the other parent, in front of their child, repeatedly, can be charged for abuse. That's the part I understood. Anyway if I understood this right, THANK GOODNESS! I've seen way too many women speak negativity of their exes, to the point where it harms the children. I'm happy to hear this.
/r/MensRights26/04/23 01:06 AM
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I don't understand how that's the same. I was taught that all men were bad and had to work on coming to the realization that men are individuals with their own amazing, unique strengths and traits. The whole point of my post is that there was bias (that my mom taught me) that I had to resolve. What you've posted isn't the same at all. If it was that simple, I wouldn't have had to go through 2 years of therapy to get to this point.
/r/MensRights23/04/23 01:07 AM
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I think the important point is that my mom and I both experienced similar negative experiences with SOME men. Neither of us had enough negative experiences with men to conclude that ALL men are bad... really no matter what happened, no one should draw such poor conclusions that 50% of the population is bad based on a few bad experiences. Small brains such as hers fall back on making hazardous assumptions that all men are bad. But with that being said, it was sexual abuse that she's chosen not to…
/r/MensRights23/04/23 12:59 AM
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I'd give you an award for this if I could! <3
/r/MensRights23/04/23 12:51 AM
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Not fake. I'm a real person trying my best over here and trying to raise my kids the things I've learned over the decades.
/r/MensRights23/04/23 12:49 AM
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I got in a heated debate with my mom about feminism a few weeks back. I told her that there's no way that her grandson should suffer or receive less opportunities because of the opportunities that his grandparents had decades ago. She disagreed. I was flabbergasted.
/r/MensRights23/04/23 12:46 AM
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Thank you! I appreciate that.
/r/MensRights23/04/23 12:40 AM
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I've been doing something similar. I've been choosing male hairdressers massauces, therapists, etc.
/r/MensRights22/04/23 01:13 PM
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Good point. I can't even imagine how hard this would be if I was told that I was the problem. Thanks for sharing!
/r/MensRights22/04/23 11:51 AM
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It isn't as black and white as this. Most of the arguments people have made here are true, but equality shouldn't be about who's more privileged OVERALL. Imo, aiming for equality at this point should now be focused on situational privileges rather than overall privileges. Women have far too many privileges, particularly social privileges. And those really do need to be balanced out. But to answer the exact question you asked, men do have privileges too. Some workplaces have systemic discriminati…
/r/MensRights09/04/23 06:56 AM
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Thanks for this info. As a Canadian I wasn't aware of this.
/r/MensRights01/04/23 12:34 AM
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Can you explain "exemption from military services "? Isn't enrollment in the military entirely voluntary in most of the western world?
/r/MensRights31/03/23 03:32 PM
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In my experience as a female engineer, there have been circumstances where I have seen systematic discrimination in my employer's hiring system. ...the hiring process favours candidates with personality traits that are generally (but not always) more common in men. And based on who gets hired through the process, it's generally men. But that's not a "right", it's just something specific to this specific HR system that is injust. I can cheat the system and pretend to have that personality trait i…
/r/MensRights11/03/23 12:07 PM
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I think women are allowed to be top less in Canada, maybe other countries as well.
/r/MensRights11/03/23 11:57 AM
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He has the right to have emotions and opinions about circumstances that bother him regardless of his age. Based on what he's written, I get the impression that he's probably really intelligent and likely considering the things you have listed above (whochever ones moght apply to him), as well as the things he's listed above. Please don't make assumptions on what he should be worried about based on his age.
/r/MensRights11/03/23 11:51 AM
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Hey, I'm a 35 year old woman and I just wanted to say I totally hear you and feel for you. The way society is going is totally not fair, especially to men and boys your age. It's not right. And as a female, I make continuous effort to treat every situation fairly. I do have a suggestion though. Please hear me out, I'm saying this for your own good and not to sound like a jerk. I realize that what you've written is a rant, and your perspective, and you have every right to have your own perspectiv…
/r/MensRights11/03/23 02:45 AM
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I don't think she ever said there were no barriers. She just kept asking "what barriers?". I think she was mostly trying to point out that the barriers people were talking about were mainly on race and ability, not on gender.
/r/MensRights06/03/23 07:22 AM
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