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Are you attracted to him?
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/26 04:21 PM
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I am deeply concerned about you. The fa t that you were able to write all of that out and still have to post it to get third party verification on what would be obvious to any stable woman is scary. I'm scared for you. I hope you seek therapy. I t think it would be the single most important thing you do in your life. Best wishes to you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 03:26 PM
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I will say, men who struggle with emotional intelligence are hard to feel adored by. And imo its risky to make them fathers, because that can sometimes translate to being harsh or unfeelings towards little children and their emotions as well. We all know toddlers aren't "logical!" My advice is to see how willing he is to learn and grow, but dont be afraid to move on. After all, we aren't just dating for fun, at the end of the day, most of us are auditioning for the fathed of our children and I d…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 11:09 PM
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Often times men will mistake being "logical" for lacking emotional intelligence They feel they are being logical because they are disregarding any emotional input, rather than understanding it. Therapy will help with this IF he is willing to admit his way isnt the only right way. It will feel uncomfortable for him, so he may resist it. I suspect this may be the case, because you point out he DOES have emotions and can express them, when theu are positive or feel good for him. I'm guessing its on…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 10:13 PM
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So.....a mid 30s man, divorced, living with his mommy and with no money, plan, or full time job, and no ACTUAL drive (discernible actions toward a goal)? And his good points are...he's nice to you?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/26 12:02 PM
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Most men don't want their wives to just submit to sex. And I can't think of a single woman who would want to have sex if they've never orgasmed from it. Do you desire to clean your toilet? Of course not. If sex isn't Fun for you, or never has been, of course you don't want it. But it does sound like your husband loves you and wants to make a good for you. It seems like you are unable to let yourself enjoy it. I would suggest seeing a sex therapist with your husband. Have you ever felt physically…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/23 10:56 AM
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Replace love with respect. Men who will resepct you will do so from day one. Men who dont, will never.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 08:01 PM
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You need to find a way to handle your anxiety without outsourcing it to other people (your bf, his married friends, etc) to make you feel better. If you feel like there is an intruder, call the police. Otherwise, handle yourself.
/r/RedPillWives17/05/23 11:58 PM
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I think this issue is highlighting some things for me. If the reverse were true, and in the future you had a medical issue like pregnancy or childbirth or complications from that preventing you from having what you call good frequent sex, would you be okay with that being a deal-breaker for your partner? I totally understand the fear of infertility, especially if you are into parent yet that can be debilitating. The fear of the unknown in general is really overwhelming when thinking about marria…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 08:20 PM
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I disagree, but I think it's understandable that our perspectives would differ on this topic considering your lifestyle. Edited to add, I do support wifely submission, but out of love, honor, respect, and Trust in my husband that under no circumstances would he ever do anything to harm me. I would want the same thing for my daughter. Having love, honor respect and Trust in my husband that he would rather die than harm me, helps me to submit to him in All Things. I do not do it because I know I w…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 05:00 PM
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Totally agree, almost every one of us is having sex with our partner, and it's important to include that aspect of a relationship in the community, so I can see that point. Where I think I differ, is the lack of transparency regarding what is a sexual component of your relationship, and when that bleeds over into other aspects of the relationship. For example, If part of your sex life included knife play or choking during sex, that can be a perfectly healthy expression of sexuality if it's done …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 04:59 PM
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.........ok
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:59 PM
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Yeah, a man who can devalue his wife to the point of physical violence is not somebody I want leading me. I wouldn't want to watch my husband beat my dog for making a mistake, I'm definitely not going to feel loved or cherished if he beats me for making a mistake.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:52 PM
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With all due respect, you would hear the exact same description in a fetish community
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:51 PM
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Can you give an example when you wpuld ask your husband to hit you so that you can...be better? More disciplined? Or is it in reaction to a perceived wrong, like self harm unsing another person? Is there like a formal process or does he just wack you in the kitchen? Is it only on the butt or can he hit you elsewhere to? What if he hits you and you arent expecting it? Do you have any boundaries where physical violence would be considered abuse, or would you consider any physical violence to be ap…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:50 PM
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Really? I feel like i see this at least once a month if not more and it makes me really suspect that someone is asking these questions as a mean to get sexual fufillment through our responses and it makes me feel gross. It is so common here on reddit and i wish this could be a safe space. There are countless fetish forums that happily discuss "dimestic discipline", and i dont think it fits in to red pill ideology due to its overwhelming sexual focus/background/participation. It just requires a s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:46 PM
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This is a kink. I wish we would stop using this sub to disciss this kink and wish they would keep it to NSFW subs 🙄🙄🙄
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 10:55 AM
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Right? Mixing roles between adult bed partner and child is......gross and dangerous. I wouldnt want a man who flirted with that boundary to be a father
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 10:53 AM
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Curious. As an adult woman, you have at this point learned no prefereable method of self regulation/discipline than physical reprimand from another person? Does it ever strike you as juvenile or toddler like in the lack of ability to provide those things within yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 10:58 PM
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This is a kink lifestyle and not traditional values imo. I would not consent to physical abuse by the man I chose to love and protect me from the world. How hypocritical would that be. And I strive to live by Logic
/r/RedPillWives16/03/23 10:51 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 04:23 PM
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He is feeling solid, logical, reasonable, and a good leader. That's what you want, is it not? It looks like you found yourself an actual masculine man. Now comes the hard part, following his lead. Do you care more about holding on to this relationship which honestly sounds fantastic compared to the garbage I read on here. Or do you care more about looking impressive to the people who ask you passing questions?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/23 04:14 PM
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He doesn't sound like a very strong masculine man to be honest. Most men who are secure in their masculinity don't need to go around belittling their partners or women in general to assert that fact. I definitely wouldn't be entering into a long-term partnership with anybody who would side with other people over me. Argue with me all you want behind closed doors, but we present a united front to the public, and anybody who can't do that is too weak to stand up to the opinions of others. Weak men…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 07:20 PM
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So, my husband and I kind of made a promise to each other that we would always try to look as attractive as we can for the other person. But we made that as an internal promise to the other person, neither of us placed that restriction on the other person. And that is a world of difference. So the heart of the comment, is not necessarily wrong. The way he went about it, the fact that he does not consider this a two-way street, and the fact that he seemingly doesn't care about how you achieve thi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 02:50 PM
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This is a toxic and imature relationship full of red flags on both sides. Therapy will help you move on.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/23 11:39 PM
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You need a therapist to help you work through this. That would be the best outcome
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 11:26 PM
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Are you sure you are attracted to him? This is an honest genuine question. When you look at him, do you imagine him touching you? Do you feel your body respond when you think of him in a sexual way? Do you fantasize about him? A lot of times we can feel romantic love for somebody, especially if we have a long period of relationship before sex is introduced, but the physical or sexual component just isn't there.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 11:17 PM
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You fundamentally misunderstand the nature of jealousy if you believe that not hearing about the things that cause you anxiety in a relationship regarding jealousy and cheating are better left unsaid to be discovered on your own. But good luck to you. Maybe consider that the shooting people and watching them die in your line of work is contributing to your lack of ability to access your own emotions?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 10:35 PM
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It is his responsibility as a leader to heal his own "burns", not project that onto his partners. It isnt any woman job to fix his past, he needs to fix it BEFORE he tries to lead a household. A "burnt" man is an unstable head of household.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 09:57 PM
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Are you suggesting a better idea to be hiding that information and having her foance potentially find out otherwise? How on earth would that be healthier? Just because the fiance is exhibiting unhealthy behavior is no reason for OP to be toxic in response.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 09:55 PM
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Then you are an immature and easily provoked person who deserves the downvotes you're getting. You learn to regulate your emotions like an adult. Or you don't have any business getting married yet.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 06:07 PM
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This is a sexual kink. If it works for you, that is your buisness.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 04:51 PM
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Are you sure you are ok? What would he do on the ride home?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 07:29 PM
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He is bullying children to make himself feel better socially?? Your husband is not a man. Are you ok? Really? Is he ever thoughtful or compassionate?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 07:29 PM
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If you didn't see your relationship going anywhere, that it's quite possible that you don't actually think that this man is so amazing that you can't stop thinking about him. It's at your board, so you're projecting everything that you want in a man onto this poor guy, when an actuality he isn't any of those things at all. You need to get out in the real world and meet real men in order to find somebody real who likes you and you like back. Daydreaming about this guy and pretending that he is so…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 03:02 PM
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No, it is not. He isn't capable of leading a family right now.
/r/RedPillWives24/11/22 12:55 AM
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Okay, maybe we are both confused. What the original poster is talking about, is a husband dying and a wife committing suicide in order to die with him. What are you talking about?
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 01:23 PM
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I'm confused. In this context, if the woman did an honor killing, wouldn't her husband already be dead? And therefore unable to go for her next younger friend? What an odd odd comment
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 01:16 PM
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Let me add another perspective then. Any man who would want his wife to commit suicide to follow him into the Afterlife as you put it, is a sick and twisted individual who does not love that woman. No man I have ever met who truly loved his wife would ever want to consider that possibility for her. Not a single one. And my heart breaks for any woman who's in a relationship with a man like that
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 11:21 PM
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I think the practice is disturbing. I think a healthy human mind is hardwired for survival. I think we all are here for a purpose, and that purpose does not necessarily line up with the exact timeline of someone else's purpose. I think that suicide is an indication of mental illness. I think that if you are considering suicide, or even having suicidal ideations like what you are describing, you need a licensed therapist or psychotherapist and this is above the pay grade of reddit. I think romant…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 07:30 PM
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A real Red Pill Man wouldn't be insecure to the point that he's trying to control your life. That sounds like an insecure low value man who is trying to compensate and make himself feel better by controlling somebody he sees as beneath him. Find somebody who actually appreciates the femininity and polarity you bring to the relationship instead of trying to squash it out of you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 11:43 PM
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Have you had your hormone levels checked by a doctor? They can have a pretty significant impact on things like anxiety and depression, and the thick facial hair you mentioned makes me think that there's something out of whack with your thyroid. It can make a fantastic difference with women who pursue treatment. Please let me know! I wish the best for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:18 PM
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I was just about to say this. It's no wonder that somebody feels like a social outcast if they cannot seem to lower themselves enough to hang out with anyone they don't feel exactly like themselves. Op, there is a great big giant world out there filled with millions of people, and experiences, and viewpoints. You don't have to agree with everyone of them but if you can't find some common ground on which to build a surface level friendship, then I would suggest that it is your character you need …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 07:17 PM
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Did he seem nice or was the version of him you romanticized in your head nice to you? Because you didn't write anything that he does that is nice for you. If he is your first, I think that it's likely you've fallen into the Trap of making this a romantic movie instead of your life. Of a man treats you badly, he's not a good man. You have written a role for him in your head in which he is the sweet perfect boyfriend and now you are getting irritated with him when he's not living up to that expect…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 12:49 PM
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I agree with this, I know that there are a million and one resources and articles and even infographics with things that you can do when you feel overwhelmed with a new baby and resources for people who don't feel confident leaving a baby with a caregiver. I just can't remember them anymore, and women in those sub rabbits will be more immersed in the new mom Arena
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 11:18 PM
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I totally understand wanting clarification, I was just trying to be delicate because I know that some things can be really upsetting for new moms to read. I personally know of someone and I've heard of too many other women who have trusted their babies with their own romantic Partners only to be called an hour after they left for work or 20 minutes after they left for the grocery store being told that their child is being rushed to the hospital. Some of these were because of bad men and some of …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 09:45 PM
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I wish you didn't, but........this means you have some very difficult choices to make about your priorities and responsibilites. You have been a mother for such a short time and my heart breaks that you have to be here but now is the time to consider the mother you wish to be. I hope i am saying this gently enough So so many mommies wish they could go back to where you are RIGHT NOW and make a different choice and save their babies. Don't be one of them 💔
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 08:10 PM
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I'm concerned about this too. Are you hiding the fact that you get therapy from your husband? What about his potential reaction makes you think that you need to hide it from him?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 06:52 PM
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Okay, I want to say this very gently. I think we can all agree here that Wally want to be the best woman for a man that we possibly can be, our role as mothers means we need to protect our children and babies as first priority. Can you please read the above comment to yourself again? You know he struggles with his emotions, somebody who gets road rage easily is concerning. If he can't handle small annoyances without getting violent, that's very very concerning when it comes to small children, to…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 06:52 PM
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I've skimmed the comments and I haven't seen anybody take this approach so I'm going to offer it, and if it is against guidelines players remove it. I had a lot of young children too and I remember what it does to the emotional mind and your body. If you have two kids under four, you've spent most of that time pregnant or postpartum. I'm a big believer that whatever is inside of us is what we give to others. So if you start trying to become the perfect wife for your husband but you don't fix wha…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 06:47 PM
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I think it's inappropriate for your brother-in-law to be talking to you about his own marital issues. I think it's inappropriate for you to comment to your sister-in-law on marital issues that she did not ask you for advice for. Your brother-in-law is breaking trust with his wife by talking with another woman about his problems with her, just as he is breaking trust with her husband by going on a vacation he's asking her not to go on. Both of them are wrong, and you are participating in it. Bow …
/r/RedPillWives07/11/22 06:28 PM
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This. Catty behavior making assumptions of strangers based off appearance or style is trashy and unfeminine.
/r/RedPillWives30/09/22 08:05 PM
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You will often find that you won't agree with everyone or will no longer agree with people as you both grow in opposing ways. Handling that with grace and humility is what a feminine minded woman does. You can simply unfollow, a random youtuber does not really owe you anything, never promised she would stay the same forever, and if it bothers you enough to try to start a discussion about her, perhaps it is time to reach out and express your concerns directly. I'm of the personal belief that if y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 12:00 PM
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There is no pair bonding that happens in the case of sexual assault and rape, only trauma. Perhaps if you had some therapy or a psychology course you would understand this. Please look into those
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 08:03 PM
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Nothing I said warranted such harsh words from you. It's clearly obvious that you are triggered by this, I suggest therapy to work through whatever issues you have surrounding sex. But I won't be your punching bag. And if you had some reading comprehension skills you would see that I never once said to hide anything, I said to use discretion about who you revealed details about your sex life too. Feel free to ignore my advice, I don't care what you do. But you should stop being so emotional
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 08:01 PM
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It isn't. Not everybody who takes you on a date deserves access to every part of your past. If you think that, you have a very entitled outlook on life. And that's fine, you wouldn't date me I wouldn't date you. Editing to add, can you imagine being on the first date and a man asks you your body count? Ew. No. Low class behavior in my opinion. It's the exact same as a woman expecting a man to reveal his bank account balance on the first date. That's private information for serious partners, not …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 05:47 PM
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I dont have casual sex, i only sleep with men i want to date. Also, having sex and providing a detailed account of past encounters are different. I mighg sleep with a man after four or five dates, but wont disclose my past for clkser to 6 months. At that point if my past overrides what he has come to know about my character, i throw that whole man back. I want a secure and confident man, not someone insecure about my past.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 03:56 PM
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Your past is your own to share until you are considering marriage. I personally dont share details about my sexual interests or past until a man expresses interest in dating me (sexual interests) or a lifelong commitment (past). But i am also not attracted to men with hyper christian values, so i wouldnt be in the dating pool for a virgin who wants a virgin anyway. Long story short, share what makes you comfortable. People grow and change, allow yourself the space to see yourself differently
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 03:38 PM
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Thanks! The judgment from some replies made me pause. I love the inclusion
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 03:30 PM
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How is that obvious? I would never commit my life to anyone I havent had an established sexual connection with. And i dont know many high value man who would marry a woman and commit to supporting her for life if they arent sure the sex works. Is this again christian rhetoric bleeding into red pill?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 03:29 PM
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Really? Like.....you have friends and coworkers and know ZERO men who have done this? I know several wealthy men who have refused to propose until they lived together 6 months. Lots of crazy behavior can be unearthed living together. I thought this wasnt a christian sub?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 12:19 PM
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Not having a single conversation about it prior to just throwing you the keys with a demand would be a red flag to me. You are here asking because a part of you feels uneasy about it. Something felt off instead of respectful and appreciative. Explore that, don't try and find excuses for why that red flag might look green in a certain light. Ask him about it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 11:37 PM
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I would be highly suspect of any man who's attracted to women with childlike traits. Or who wants them to be more like children. Or needs them to act stupid in order to validate himself. I thought the purpose of this was to find a high-value man? A high-value man is a high-value man no matter who he's with, not somebody who seeks out somebody less intelligent or more childlike than he is. I understand having a childlike enthusiasm, spontaneity, and playfulness, but what you are describing is the…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 08:04 PM
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First of all, I'm so sorry that happened to you. The Betrayal trauma of that runs deep, and it's imperative that you heal so you don't take this baggage into the next relationship. I would really suggest finding a therapist or a life coach, so you can talk over the red flags you ignore the last relationship, how to heal from it, and what you really want out of life now that it's on your own terms. I'm guessing that you've made choices for the last many years with a specific person in mind, and n…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 01:17 PM
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Please don't feel bad about yourself, we can't help how we feel. Emotions happen to us, we don't choose them. You can choose your actions though, and as far as I read, you weren't seeing him or making him feel bad about himself or belittling him, quite the opposite in fact! You clearly care about this man as a person, and want to see him as the best version of himself. And I can tell that you'll continue to care about him, whether you decide he is the man for you or not. Sometimes feeling guilty…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 12:54 AM
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Do you feel like you may be projecting your dissatisfaction with his less than Alpha personality onto his height, because that's an easier thing to focus on? After all, if you are a problem is only with his height, that's a problem you can fix within yourself. But if you are dissatisfied with aspects of his personality, those are more unfixable and you have some harder questions to ask yourself. You aren't a bad person or wrong if you've dated a man shorter than you and even though you liked him…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 12:37 AM
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Well, your first stop should be talking to him about it. Do you trust him to tell you the truth? If the answer is no, that's her first red flag. If he is honest with you and says he is watching p*** or has a problem with it I, personally I would insist on treatment. It is Well documented in scientific Community how pornography can literally warp your brain and ruin your sexuality. I would really caution against anyone entering into a serious relationship with someone with a pornography problem w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 10:10 AM
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Well, it seems like either your husband has terrible manners and doesn't know how to keep her thoughts to himself, or intentionally said that to you to make you feel bad about the way that you look when your looks aren't up to his standard as a way of discouraging you from not putting in effort. Either way, it goes against everything that I think a husband should be. My husband is a protector and a provider, in the protection extends to your heart as well. I can't imagine being married to somebo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:47 AM
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Agree but people tend to focus on the mistakes that are very visible versus the ones that are easily hidden. For example, pornography is a well documented and scientifically proven to be very detrimental to all aspects of a sex life, yet many women will think that they are marrying a virgin prince only to find out that their sex life is dead in the water with a husband who is unable to get an erection, sees women as objects only for pleasure, or has found their way into deviant sexual fantasies.…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 10:08 PM
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Body count is inconsequential for the health the long-term marriage. I would much rather have a husband with a high body count with learned and grown from those experiences and a good husband now then an incel who has only slept with me but is resentful of that fact and toxic in their attitudes towards sex and relationships. You should focus on the character of the man and not the details of his past mistakes. But to each their own, many women learn this the hard way
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 09:30 PM
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Then I would categorize this as him wanting to do better but not knowing how or where appropriate boundaries are. In this case I would definitely encourage the conversation where you explain to him why what he said made you feel insecure in light of the things he has already done.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 01:31 AM
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Has he apologized? Done anything to show that he understands that it was wrong and it hurt you? If not, I'm not sure what advice I can give you. My personal standards are if a man breaks my trust and does nothing to earn it back, I don't wait around for it to happen again. I'm not sure if that is red pill or not, I definitely don't want to just give leave him advice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 05:46 PM
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From what I'm seeing here, the comment that he made is not the issue. By itself it is completely innocuous. If somebody came to me and told me that hearing that made them feel this insecure, I would be thrown off. And then you mention that he has a habit of having emotionally inappropriate relationships with other women. With that in your background, of course you are highly sensitive to the comments that he makes. What has he done to earn your trust back after those transgressions? Are you able…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 05:34 PM
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This is the problem with broken trust. He broke your trust, and sometimes that just cannot be repaired. You don't always know that until you try, which you did. But what I feel like you are asking is help with convincing yourself that an untrustworthy person is trustworthy. The fact that you can't trust him right now is based on actual solid evidence, and that's what your intuition is trying to alert you to. As a woman our intuition is highly valuable, you should listen to it. This is not the ma…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 12:28 PM
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Maybe he's communicating this poorly because he is so young, but it seems like he's trying to get a handle on your financial situation. I was also raised that it's pretty rude to ask about finances except if you are dating very seriously. Maybe he wasn't raised those values? Either way, you would hope that he would be able to pick up on the social cues that this made you uncomfortable. On the other hand there is the chance that your modeling career could make him feel insecure, or he may have a …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 06:51 PM
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Again, if this isn't what you it will help me with someone else please way in here. But if someone still denied it to my face, I feel like that would be the answer that I needed. Making him show you the messages isn't going to change the fact that you had to force him to be honest. If you have to catch somebody in a lie in order for them to tell you the truth, that still isn't honesty. If you really want further clarification if he denies it, you could try asking something like do you think usin…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 03:39 PM
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Honestly, I'm not sure how mature or healthy this is so someone else can weigh in here if this is bad advice. But, you know the messages exist. He knows messages exist. I would point-blank asked him directly in a conversation if there's anything about his relationship with this girl that he hasn't been entirely forthcoming about so far and if you would like to come clean. And then just sit there silently and wait and watch him. He could deny everything, and try to make you feel like you are craz…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 03:24 PM
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I've read through the responses now that they are there and agree that there are more details that are certainly relevant when giving advice. Unfortunately, you can only comment based on the details that are available at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 02:54 PM
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The thing is, there isn't a ring on her finger and she doesn't have to support him if she isn't supportive of it. Not saying he's wrong for doing it, but she isn't wrong for being uncomfortable with it either. She's deciding for herself what she wants in a partner and if this isn't it she's free to make that choice. If it's important for him to have a partner who's supportive of having women in his music videos, he's free to think that choice too. It isn't personal, it's rational. And thank you …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:36 PM
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I agree that I jumped to some conclusions, I didn't think that through. I do think that people get to decide for themselves what makes somebody high-value or not, we all set are different standards. If this makes her uncomfortable, that's an indication that this person doesn't align with her value system, and it's okay if that's true. It doesn't mean that she's insecure, it doesn't mean that she should give the green light if she doesn't want to. I agree that it definitely sounds like she may be…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:19 PM
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It doesn't matter what I think about their value, if the person dating an onlyfans model doesn't respect onlyfans models, then he's free to not date them. People set their own boundaries for themselves. If you don't want to date an Entertainer who grinds on other women, and your partner is asking to do that, you have every right to say that's my boundary. If somebody else's standard is financial success and doesn't really care about other women, this would not be an issue. They are free to set t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:17 PM
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I'm sorry if my comment to somebody else made you feel bad. It's awesome that you think his budding music career is cool But I disagree, this is absolutely that serious at the original poster feels that it is serious. You don't get to make that determination for other people There are lots of things about a career in the entertainment industry that do not always match up with settling down and having a family and a long-term relationship. He is indicating that might be true for this situation by…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:05 PM
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Are you just with this man for fun right now? Or are you considering him as a long-term partner? A man who will make you look stupid now by trying to have women in a music video ( which in itself is not exactly a high-value man material. Is he trying to launch his rap career? LOL) That the same kind of man that going to make you look stupid when you're in labor having his baby and he's texting other girls. It may not sound like those two things are the same, but his disrespect for you and lack o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 10:54 AM
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Has he actually DONE anything? Or are you just in your head?
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 10:28 AM
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Kindness, forgiveness, a willingness to listen to me with repect even if he doesnt agree, not prone to physical violence (punching walls, yelling in your face, etc.) No emotional manipulation or immaturity (i guess im just a terrible bf- when you try to talk anout any issue) Willing to stand up to others for you Willing to tell you what he will/wont tolerate w/o being a jerk ( i love you, but the silent treatment is immature and you cant act like that if you want to be with me) Are all his exs "…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/22 03:09 PM
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That's important to know. How long will see it as his duty as a husband to help you? If you break a leg? If you have to get chemo? What if you suffer from postpartum depression or anxiety and you just aren't up to doing the same things you were before? You develop a thyroid issue and your energy plummets? That's what happens in a marriage, the idea is that we go into it with sometimes don't pan out with life situations. Just like he wants to be the provider, but if he gets into an accident in bo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:54 PM
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Every relationship is different, but in reading your reply I have something come to mind. I would want to find out if the option to work or not also comes with support from him with kids and household if you choose that. Sometimes men who picture a homemaker as a wife will say that their wife has the option to work, but they have no intention of supporting her in that, and will expect her to do everything that she would normally do if she did not have a job to support him. I will tell you right …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 12:57 PM
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If you have ANY hesitation or you find ANY reason to believe that he may abuse his position (use his power to manipulate you into sex, putting up with verbal abuse etc) slam the brakes. Even love cannot trump differing plans within marraige. Having the same life goals can bind even the least interested. Finding a pre marital counselor can help ask the right questions, help you both clearly understand the picture each of you has of married life, and if those two pictures can be merged.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 12:42 PM
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I think you should be less focused on how to make him motivated, and take a step back and really look at his character right now. You said that he wants to improve himself, but with blacks the character necessary to make himself follow-through. Pay attention to this quality. This might be revealing itself over working out now, but 10 years down the line when you have two kids and he wants to get a better job it just doesn't because he's playing video games all day, you might look back at this re…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 02:22 PM
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I agree, there seems to be a giant missing piece here and I would be very concerned that he isn't being upfront about it. In my opinion you are right to go to your parents house and provide some distance until he can start being honest and assertive
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 09:29 PM
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This would absolutely be a red flag to me. What kind of man can't stand up to his own brother to protect his intimate time? Is hanging out with his bro higher on his priority list than sex?? He sounds like a 17 year old with impulse control issues. Are there other examples where he HAS stood up to someone? Is he normally so passive?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 09:08 PM
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I bet you are super smart too, the smartest guy in the room. So smart. So big.
/r/RPChristians07/03/21 06:38 PM
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Anybody who can call the advice that somebody else gives idiocy should be able to handle a joke. After all, we're not snowflakes here, we can be a little sarcastic. Especially if it's dished out to me first
/r/RPChristians07/03/21 04:39 PM
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I bet you're super smart. Smarter than all the rest of us.
/r/RPChristians07/03/21 03:51 PM
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Hi! People live in different regions. Services in that region can vary greatly by cost of living. Pelple often give advice based on what is available in that region. You learn something new everyday!
/r/RPChristians07/03/21 01:23 PM
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Working out at a gym is expensive and really only necessary if you are REALLY intense and serious and have graduated to needing a gym and its equipment. You are on Reddit, so i assume you have access to the internet. Buy some body resistance bands online ($8) and look up workouts on youtube You should NEVER lift weights until you master your own body weight anyway. Quick way to hurt yourself. Crap, I'm sorry i thought you were a woman! Look up cody nickson on insta. Has a whole program and is an…
/r/RPChristians07/03/21 12:17 PM
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Thank you for completely insensitive reply to a suicide of my family. Hopefully you're never in the position that I'm in right now. Have a great day
/r/RPChristians06/03/21 03:53 PM
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Ah, I see. So he's a bad conversationalist. He isn't able to pick up intuitively when a person is tired of hearing him talk and his advice isn't being well-received. Most people can pick up on those subtle body language signs. You know what that's what we're going to do things like this are easy to correct, a couple YouTube videos or one book about positive communication skills should nip it in the bud. However, that's only if he sees this as a problem. Some people, this is a personality charact…
/r/RedPillWives05/03/21 11:55 PM
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Are these close female friends or family members who steering this with? Even so, I would be highly uncomfortable and more than a little weirded out if a friend's husband started talking about my breasts and anyway, even in context of feeding my baby. Let alone the fact that birth and breastfeeding are two of the lender that belong to women only. I definitely wouldn't appreciate hearing advice from a man about a topic he will never experience. Just validating to you that this is indeed creepyish…
/r/RedPillWives05/03/21 11:02 PM
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Agree. A lot of humans create their own problems, and never being able to even gently point it out is just reinforcing bad behavior and toxic relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:51 PM
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This. Labeling your wife with such harsh words is not being a good leader. You are going to treat her the way you think about her, and if you believe that she is lazy, you will see everything she does through that lens.
/r/RPChristians05/03/21 01:40 PM
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You are free to disagree! I come from having someone close to me commit suicide from ptsd in the marine core, so naturally our opinions will be a little different. As neither of us have actually studied the subject, i think that's perfectly fine. I will be on the lookout for anyyhing i see yo supportt your claim. Have a great day!
/r/RPChristians04/03/21 11:53 AM
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Oh hon, thank you so much, you didn't need to do that! I really hope it helps, it really validated things for me too.
/r/RPChristians04/03/21 02:09 AM
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Replying just to second that it has been scientifically proven with brain scan that same shuts down brain activity. I'm an educator, so this was studied ad nauseam when I was in college. Shaming anyone, an adult or a child, shut down the brain and creates a trauma response. So not only is it not productive in the moment, you're ruining future progress when you do it. Because she's going to have a trauma response anytime she's in that situation again, and her brain will freeze again, regardless o…
/r/RPChristians03/03/21 01:42 PM
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There's a difference in having confidence in trying things out that you are an expert in, and not being able to admit you're wrong. I always imagine the scene in the office where Michael Scott demands that the GPS has to be followed and drives his car into a lake. I know that silly LOL, but a person who can't admit he's wrong, it's going to drive a lot of cars into a lot of lakes
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 05:22 PM
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So you are dating outside of your religious beliefs, you are hiding relationship from your family so committing Ally yourself, he is lying to you about what he's doing and who he's doing it with. Both of you are liars right now, you just have the toxic relationship. Sort out your family situation and find a man who doesn't lie to you, and one you don't have to lie about.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/20 01:05 PM
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I know people hate on it a lot, but athleisure is my go to look when I want to look put together, but I also need to be comfortable and move around. I have a 3 year old boy is my youngest, so I need to be able to move on a moment's notice lol. Black everything seems to be a seamless and classic look, even if it's just leggings and a running top. If I want to be comfy but still look nice, I'll pair leggings with a longer sweater and some pearl earrings. I live in the midwest where it's freezing c…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 12:19 AM
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Women want a man who is able to have emotions, but not be overwhelmed and broken by them. It's a big difference between confiding in your significant other about being nervous about a project at work or how today is hard for you because your mom died on this day 3 years ago. And then you have the type of man who is punching holes in the walls and he's angry or falling down crying like a snotty mess when they have a fight or somebody said something mean to him. Or freaking out and texting 20 time…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 11:46 PM
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It could be that your feminine vibe that you're giving off is very maternal, and the men you are encountering already have a mother and they're not interested in being friends with another one. If you're truly interested in attracting more male attention, focus more on flirtation and light teasing than mothering
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 05:31 PM
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My husband has never called me a name in our 16 years of knowing each other. Don't settle for a man with good "sides". A fruit rotten on one side still has a nkce side, but is not edible. Wait for a good man, not just one who hides his rotten side.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 11:19 PM
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Like good grooming? Self development? Housekeeping?
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 07:15 PM
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Honestly the idea about trying on different things to see what fits makes sense too! As long as someone doesnt feel like they failed or "aren't doing it right" if it feels weird, then feel free to experiment away! Im an enneagram 4, so feeling and aesthetic really makes sense to me and I forget sometimes that others are more analytical. In the practical sense, Pinterest is a great way to view lits of different expressions and get inspiration!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 02:30 AM
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Nope not what I was saying at all. I was just expressing myself and how checklists express themselves in my actions, and offering a caution against becoming to wrapped up in certain things and less focused on the feeling. Isnt that the ideal? To actually fully express inner femininity, even if that looks totally different on the outside? The gardening, homesteading, bread baking feminine is going to present differently than the ballet dancing, opera attending, piano playing feminine. And what di…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 02:06 AM
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Ok. I think I kind of answered that too, though? I focus on concentrating on things that make me feel really feminine. Simple things, like the way my skirt feels around my legs, the smell of the bread and baking, the feel of my shoulder against my husband's. And I really focus on that and enjoy that and that makes me naturally react in a way that is more feminine. Also, if I really focus on the masculine things that my husband is doing, I find myself becoming more attracted to him and the way I …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 02:00 AM
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I dont do any of this..... I dont think we should be striving to check femininity actions off a checklist... It just rings inauthentic and....vaugely manipulative? I think its more growing into your own inner feminine self and the fruits of that growth will naturally show themselves. I dont know maybe its the same. But I know when I focus more on just focusing and relishing in my femininity and my husbands masculinity, I naturally find myself leaning in more, giving kisses, sweet smiles etc. And…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 01:42 AM
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I feel like I say the same thing every time I come in here, but here I go again LOL. This false under correctly wedding her spouse. Would you are doing! You don't want to be with a man who can't teach you things, who isn't smart enough to recognize what he doesn't already know and want to improve, and who isn't at least respectful enough to listen to your views with an open mind. What you are looking for is good character, and keep looking until you find it. Don't settle, or think that the probl…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 01:02 PM
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It sounds like you teased having a serious mental health problem (self harm) as a test and he didnt react with the attention that you were craving. There is a good chance he was highly uncomfortable with what you said and didnt know how to react. I would suggest working on your issues with a mental health professional and stop expecting your boyfriend to go through verbal gymnastics to meet your needs in exactly the way you think he should.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 03:33 PM
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This seems closely tied to a sexual kink and is probably not for everybody......
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 11:06 AM
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Sometimes I get ragey, like I could have a problem with the way the mailman delivers my mail lol. On those days I make sure to let me partner know, so if im accidentally rude he knows to gently bring it to my attention so I can apologize instead of it turning into a whole fight. But im so lucky in that he does understand women and knows I have a hard time controlling it. Other times I just get sad, which is easier to deal with. I just watch sad songs on youtube and cry lol. This is also easier f…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 11:01 AM
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