alendiel Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
276	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue?		alendiel	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 02:48 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	All in favor of putting an end to the 'men's rights movement' say AYE. I really don't think I would have handled myself as well as you did. Congratulations, only halfway through reading this I started shaking it made me so upset. I don't know how to talk to other women who are feminists without feeling like they are murdering me in their heads and many times with their words. I'm bad a confrontation. Thanks for sharing this though, while unsettling, it was very insightful.	/r/MensRights	26/05/14 12:50 AM
5	Need a Safe Space to Vent Like you said, you were on public transportation and all kinds of people use it. It's possible that her maternal instinct kicked in and she didn't know what to think and took it as a threat although you were being innocent and playful. If I was with my child in an environment such as that, I may not have turned around and given you the glare to stop, but I would have stopped my kid from turning around in case you were a weirdo. I'm not trying to defend her actions here, just give a little insigh…	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 03:28 AM
1	You know what I like about this subreddit? Yessir (or ma'am) haha.	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 03:21 AM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Yeah I was going to say that the process of this seems to be like an exhausting after just wrecking your entire body. Having a dad there would make all the difference. Dad's are important!!!	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 01:50 AM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I think it's sad that people think that way, and that I've thought that way before sometimes. I don't think my own father is subordinate to my mother. My mom went back to school when I was very young so I did everything with my dad. Each parent is equally as important, they both have important roles to play in their kids lives, together. Also, I'm not scared, I really enjoy this subreddit. (Did I say something to make you think that?) It's really opened my eyes to a lot of issues I never would h…	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 01:30 AM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? And the missing the point award goes to drumroll Jennifer from Texas!!!	/r/MensRights	03/05/12 01:23 AM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? How did they go about toilet training an infant? Diapers are changed a dozen times in the first couple of days.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 10:22 PM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? It's different because your child is more important than your toilet, or a new couch you're going to buy or what have you. I just can't equate a desire to know about a child's health, the way they are, how they are, etc. to a "toilet's new flapper." (I don't even know what a flapper is.) But, like I said before, I've never experienced the issue you're talking about. Maybe it is as horrible as not being able to get a doctor or a teacher to talk to you about your child.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 10:02 PM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? It is true, look through the comments these men have made. Read the article. I've never had a problem, as a woman, being disregarded when working with people. But I know how to assert myself in a respectful way. I'm not discounting the issue you have, but I don't feel that it's on the same level as a man being ignored as a parent, especially when he is the primary caregiver.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 09:50 PM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Assert yourself more. It's easier to do that with plumbers, salespeople, bankers, etc. than it is when a parenting issue is involved.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 09:15 PM
5	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Being ignored as a parent is not a tiny issue.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 08:55 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Meh, that's a sorry excuse. We have to ability to educate ourselves, but we tend not to because it's so "boring" to read educational things. But that's another topic for another subreddit.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 08:43 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? To be honest I've never heard this opinion, but I try to surround myself with reasonable people. Sounds like those women need an anatomy/physiology lesson on babymaking.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 08:25 PM
4	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Wonderful! Thanks :)	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 08:24 PM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I don't think the mother should have sole naming rights in the cases of both parents being involved. You both made the child, you both should have equal say over what the name should be.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 08:16 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I think it's also because I'm young, trying to make a life for myself and thinking about that kind of responsibility makes me want to dig a hole, jump in and never come out!	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 07:53 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Thanks for this. I'm still young and waiting until marriage, so it's a long way off for me if my future husband and I decide to have kids.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 07:29 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? This is a really good/interesting point. We all have things to fight for. Marriage is an equal partnership and should be treated as such on all fronts. I believe that when people are married they become one and everything is shared. There was an article on the frontpage of Yahoo! this week about how it is becoming harder to hide financial matters your spouse. It was dumbfounding to me that people do this. You're married, you share everything. Why are you hiding? But, I grew up in a home where my…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 06:49 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? As a frequent babysitter, I have to say it's not something we think about. It's also usually the mother reaching out contacting me to babysit. I never realized I could actually be offending the dad by not conversing with him. I mean I try to look both of them in the eye while we're talking, but if I have a question about something I usually ask the mom. I should be asking both. I'm not doing it as a "well, he's the dad, he wouldn't know", society/media just perpetuates that the mom is the one wh…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 06:42 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Yeah, I don't necessarily see women actively causing this to happen, it's definitely a cultural thing. When you think about who knows the most about how a child should be taken care of, you think of the mother. When I babysit, who am I talking to about feeding, dressing, washing the kids? The mom. Dad's do that stuff too, I should be able to address the questions to both of them equally. The mom doesn't have to be the end-all be-all voice on the matter.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 06:37 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? If you can't access the article let me know It's from the Australian journal on Nutrition and Dietetics. It basically concludes that it doesn't help produce milk but prolongs the duration of milk yield and results on the alcohol effect on infants are inconclusive because, obviously, it is unethical to do alcohol testing on babies. Many pediatricians support the abstinence of alcohol consumption during breastfeeding stages because of the lack of knowledge of how it effects them developmentally. B…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 06:29 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I was actually posting in support of your view and in support of the hope that she kept it to one beer. I can break out the JAMA if you want haha.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 06:02 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? It's silly to me that women would push for the role of "supreme caretaker". It takes to two to make a child. If you both consented and wanted to have children the child belongs to both of you. And then at the end of it, no one ever considers what the child wants.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 05:36 PM
1	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Maybe if the mom is in the same place as the daughter during high school years she'll reach out to your more. No one wants their parents around as a teenager, especially not at school. I sure as hell made it hard on my parents. We've reconciled our differences by now though. Good luck to you, I hope you become more readily recognized as a great figure in your daughter's life.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 05:32 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? What would you do to change this? Or have you accepted that this the normal view?	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 05:28 PM
2	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I hope she keeps it to one beer. But one picture can't tell the whole story. Mixing alcohol and breastfeeding scares me though because at that point in an infant's life is when they are making the most neurological connections in their brain and I wouldn't want to be responsible for hindering that in any way.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 05:24 PM
4	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? He wants them more than I do. I'm a bit apprehensive to the idea, mostly because of prior depression and postpartum depression/psychosis scares the hell out of me.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 05:18 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Have you thought about askreddit? There a lot of lawyers and attorneys on reddit that may have some answers for you or resources for you to look into. I know I'm just a stranger on the internet, and this probably doesn't have much merit to it, but I really really hope things work out for you and that your kids won't be taken away from you. The system is corrupted and it fails too many fathers. I hope, in my heart of hearts, it doesn't fail you.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 05:08 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I agree that men are becoming more involved and it's awesome. My next door neighbors have 3 children. The dad travels overseas every other week sometimes for a whole week or more for his job, so he's not there often, but when he is home he is wholly devoted to his children. They camp in the backyard, they ride bikes, they hike, they're always doing something. It's amazing to see how devoted he can be despite his constant travel. I hope the system changes for the better. My mom is a therapist who…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 04:57 PM
14	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? :'( Maybe you should find a new lawyer if he's telling you to not even try. If you love your children, (and you didn't do something to legitimately strip of your rights to custody) you should fight for them. And so much for impartiality if the judge won't even consider your side. No one should have their kids taken away unjustly. Also, if you're seeing a therapist of family counselor of some kind they can greatly help your case if you deserve rights to custody.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 04:50 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? It's encouraging to hear that this hasn't happened to you. What region do you live in if I may ask? I wonder if location is a factor. I'm from the south so things are very traditional here, me being an example. Men have their duties and women have theirs, don't step on any toes, that's generally how we're raised.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 04:32 PM
18	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? It really is a lot more than it means today. In the suburb I live in there are many, many privileged families here and being a stay-at-home mom means having a nanny and taking tennis lessons.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 04:07 PM
10	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I don't want a gold star. But, pardon me for coming here after seeing an error in my way of thinking and wanting r/mensrights view on the issue. EDIT:* I just also wanted to point out that when you type in Men's Rights on google this subreddit is one of the first links on the page. So anyone (men and women) looking into the issue can easily be directed here. I've found this to be a very welcoming place for anyone to learn and discuss misandry and other issues facing men. Don't push away people w…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 04:00 PM
8	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Neither do I, but I do do it anyways. Heh, doodoo...	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:53 PM
14	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Now that is stuff I have noticed before. I don't watch too much TV, especially not sitcoms. I don't find things like that funny because it perpetuates the idea that women are always wonderful and men are always stupid pigs looking to cheat on their wives. I feel like all the shows on ABC are about adultery and they glorify it for the women but when the men do it, well then he should just be shot dead right there. I remember when I was little and there would be things on the news about people dyi…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:53 PM
10	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? There was a post I saw on r/pics the other day of a woman drinking a beer while breastfeeding and the title was along the lines of "And this woman is getting custody of my children". It was a sad display and I felt bad for the man, because drinking alcohol DOES effect breast milk which will effect the child. Anyways, the comments were horrible. Everyone was dogging him as if something was really wrong with him (although, to be fair, he wouldn't say why he was losing custody) and that the woman d…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:33 PM
8	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Thanks! :)	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:30 PM
3	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I'm sorry people give you funny looks. It always fills me with joy to see a dad with his child, especially when our culture is filled with things like this. We assume that men work late so that they don't have to spend too much time with kids before their bedtime so as not to deal with the dirty stuff. So when I see a dad so invested in their child's life, it's very encouraging. The bonds between father and child and mother and child are different. It's great that your son has really bonded with…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:27 PM
18	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? This is true, this is just one I know I've perpetuated all to often and now that I've become aware of it, I can actively change that.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:09 PM
10	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Yes, yes! My boyfriend and I have talked about the issue of parenting a couple of times and he told me he never wanted to change a diaper. Needless to say, I gave him the eyes of disapproval and we had a further discussion about equal parenting and how I didn't want to do all the "heavy-lifting." His response was an, "Oh." I think it's important that dad's are elbow deep in it too. :) Also, good luck with the adoption process, I know it can be a daunting and challenging and draining process, but…	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:07 PM
4	You know what I like about this subreddit? Hear hear! I left twox a while ago, but only recently found this subreddit. I agree completely with you and the acceptance here is marvelous.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 03:03 PM
34	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? Do you think this stems from "back in the day" when women were primarily stay at home moms? They were the ones that really did care for the child and the dad was there at night to play with the kids and on the weekends, but they weren't as heavily involved in their kids' lives as they are now. It seems it's time for a change in the way we think about parenting, and it's a little late coming.	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 02:59 PM
57	As a women who may be a wife and mother some day, this thought NEVER occurred to me. What do you men have to say about this issue? I think I've done this all too many times as a babysitter and to my own brother who has two children. I always go straight to the mom because it is instilled in me to think that the mom is the primary caregiver and the dad is just kinda there to be an extra support for their kid. After reading this article I'm shocking myself. Dad's care just as much about their kids as moms do and it is unfair of me to think "We don't need you to be part of the conversation, Dad. We've got this covered." As if …	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 02:52 PM
2	TIL that in 1993 Nine womens studies students posted fliers, with the names of random men who attend their college, around campus under the headline "Notice: These Men are Potential Rapists" This is true, think about that German nymphomaniac that has been plastered all over reddit for a couple of days now. 'Notice: These women are potential nymphomaniacs that will rape you for 36+ hours."	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 02:34 PM
1	TIL that in 1993 Nine womens studies students posted fliers, with the names of random men who attend their college, around campus under the headline "Notice: These Men are Potential Rapists" These women are a disgrace to my gender and to non-radical feminists who really are fighting for an even playing field (and there hasn't been that many that I've come across and I'm not one.)	/r/MensRights	02/05/12 02:31 PM