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But yes, we do go for long stretches without it and sometimes I seem to be the only one who notices. I think that's mostly the issue then. Any idea on why that might be? Is he lower libido than the usual guy? Perhaps low T?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 10:38 PM
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My husband is a very restrained man. He is completely unlike my previous boyfriend who made it very clear that he desired me 24/7 (hands all over me, suggestive sayings, flirty looks). And sure, that was fun for a moment, and it made me feel like the hottest thing around, but it got OLD... fast. It grows your ego a little too much, you start thinking "Wow, I must really be the most amazing chick around. He'd drop anything to spend time with me." With my husband, it's not clear cut at all. He's p…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 07:18 PM
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Honestly, I think taking care of your mental health issues is a priority. You can't make a relationship work if both of you are suffering from depression/bipolar (or some other mental imbalance?) And even then, you might not be right for eachother. Both of you seem to enjoy drama a bit too much. Again, I would focus on addressing your own mental health to begin with. Go see a doctor and figure out if you need to be on any medications or mood stabilizers. Start there.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 04:27 PM
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I also grew up with a very domineering mother and mostly beta father. I also can be pretty headstrong, so for me, I feel most submissive when I stop myself from expressing all my opinions, and taking a turn to listen and really hear what he's saying. Also, not questioning a decision of his that I'm perhaps not completely sold on, or not picking on him for certain things that bug me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 12:59 AM
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A lot of people tell me traditional relationships leave a woman as a slave, what's your take on it? I think if you are with the wrong man, then yes, I can see how you will be taken advantage of in a "traditional" relationship. However, if you select wisely, what better place is there for a woman than in a secure and loving marriage? With a spouse who protects, loves, and cherishes you. I see this proven to me in my life all the time. Especially when I contrast how unhappy and bitter my single gi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 12:21 AM
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So many people imagine that RPW equates to being a pushover or giving into dominant and oppressive men, but this sub demonstrates time and time again that that’s not the case. Brilliantly stated.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 12:12 AM
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Thank you for that insight! You're right. And I will take a look at the resources you linked, thanks a lot!!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 09:34 PM
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Thanks, will check out the site! To me, it sounds a bit harsh. Not showing any physical affection at all can be harmful. But what about playfulness? Does your husband tickle or rough House with him? That’s a very masculine way for men to bond with their children. He pats him on the head, and if he's leaving for a few days he will give him a hug and a kiss. We also do have some lazy Saturdays where the 3 of us lay in bed and cuddle together and watch a movie. But in day-to-day, he won't hold his …
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 09:32 PM
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I guarantee he has a reason for everything he says towards your son due to experience in his life. He wants to see a better man than himself. You're absolutely right in everything you said. Thank you for the thoughtful comment.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 09:29 PM
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Yeah, it doesn't seem cruel, or done out of cruelty, more like him teaching a lesson, or instilling toughness (whereas I want to kiss it better haha). We have talked about it when the subject organically came up and husband said he's just trying to raise a good responsible man, and that he noticed our son is more sensitive than the regular 5-year-old and he's trying to help him with that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 04:23 PM
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My father wasn't overly affectionate with me, but I knew then and know now he would take a bullet for me, no questions asked. That's exactly how my husband is. Thank you for the comment.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 04:19 PM
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look at many men today: can’t do laundry, crippling anxiety, video games all day, incapable of relationship. I honestly think this is what husband is trying to avoid. When we've talked about the subject before he says son is very "sensitive" and he doesn't want him to grow into his anxieties, but more grow out of them.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 04:11 PM
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I think maybe it's one of your jobs as a Mom, occasionally, (not constantly,) to mention how very much his Dad loves him & is proud of him. I absolutely do! :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 04:10 PM
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Is your husband from a rural background? Not rural, but his parents are English academics, and they were quite proper and distanced with raising him (so I think his demeanor is partly due to that.) Your son does not need 2 mothers. You're absolutely right. I just have this instinct in me where I want everyone to treat son the way I treat him, but on the other hand I know husband is smart and knows what he's doing, hence why I don't question him in this. I think this month I've just let my emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 04:08 PM
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What little boy doesn’t want rides on daddy’s shoulders, to be spun around or picked up when hurt? Yeah, husband would never pick him up if he is hurt (unless he broke something maybe). If he falls down, scrapes knee and starts crying, husband will talk to him, "Are you in that much pain? Can you get up?" Son will keep crying and saying it hurts. "Well then we need to clean it up at home, but you have to get up first." That's the stuff that I do find a bit cold, but again...I think that's on me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 03:53 PM
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He gets a little sad (like in my example when hubby didn’t want to carry him), but overall I don’t see other signs.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 02:48 AM
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IMO if your husband isn't spending time with your son in a positive way to bond then always being so hard is wrong. Maybe let them go fishing, work on the car, basically hang out together and have some laughs. Perhaps I worded things in a one-sided way. They absolutely do spend positive time together. Husband spends time teaching him things, he is patient with him, and they have a good time. I think I was just having irrational worries about him rejecting physical affection and being colder than…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 07:02 PM
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Hi, thank you for the reply. It was an insightful read. If your son was ever truly sick or injured I have no doubt he would be as protective as you. Absolutely, I have no doubts. I think I was just second guessing. Sometimes I worry that he might be too cold to him, but overall he is a great father.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 07:00 PM
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That’s true. I’m just such a sucker for the kid. I still carry him around from time to time 😬 Which is quite a great arm workout.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 05:15 PM
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🤭😂
/r/askMRP28/02/18 05:13 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 05:03 PM
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Thank you, I think I am overthinking. I'm just such a sucker for our kid that I don't like seeing him sad, even for a split second. If you respect your husband and think he is a good man, then trust his judgement about how to make your son a good man. Absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 05:03 PM
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Men and women give affection differently and particularly different for sons/daughters. A man's life isn't easy. It's hero to zero at any point. Being sick isn't an excuse. There is no slack. Not everyone will treat your son as you think he should be treated. He either earns (or commands) it in life or he doesn't get it. Very good point.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 05:00 PM
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Chances are, your son will do what his father says without question, while he will argue with you - because he will know he can get you to change your mind. We're actually already seeing this play out. He will try to debate with me, whereas he takes dad's word as final.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:59 PM
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Thank you, I need to stop overthinking.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:57 PM
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Thank you for that, from the comments it seems that I am overthinking it!
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:53 PM
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Congrats!!! Calorie counting is absolutely the right way to go. That's what I did to lose the baby weight.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 04:08 PM
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