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You nailed it man. This is why knowing some evolutionary psychology really pays off. What we have been designed for vs. modern society is worlds apart. Planning to write more about that topic in a fufure post.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/20 08:12 PM
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Yes, me and my buddy set it up in the last week. Glad to hear you enjoy it. More to come. Any feedback is greatly appreciated.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/20 08:09 PM
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Ive done all of these and agree 100%. Bootcamps are hit or miss though so be sure to do your research.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/20 08:00 PM
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A month is nothing. Keep improving. Keep socializing. Have fun and enjoy your youth.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 12:35 AM
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Boundaries are shit? Dude what the fuck are you talking about. You set boundaries at the beginning. If she crosses those boundaries you soft-next - is she supposed to read your fucking mind? ​ If you don't want her reading your shit then tell her. end of story. Women want to extract as much information out of you as possible because they can use it against you in the future. Don't cave.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 12:26 AM
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Try to see her first and ideally fuck her. That way she has an emotional attachment to you.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 12:22 AM
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The more you try to control her the more likely she will to defect. Anything forbidden is instantly more attractive. You need to practice abundance. Flirt with other girls. If she wants the other guy there's nothing you can do. Remember she's not yours, it's just your turn.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 12:21 AM
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Hypergamy is quite simple: As long as your the best man in her eyes, she will not branch swing. ​ Do you fuck every attractive girl you see? No, because you're not a slave to your instincts. Same with women. Only difference is they act on their emotions much more than we do. But we act on our horniness much more than they do. Social conventions and their own morality will play a role in determining their behavior.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 12:03 AM
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Sounds like imposter syndrome. ​ Don't worry, you'll get used to it. Just meditate and appreciate the good fortune in your life.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 11:57 PM
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If you want a fuck buddy, keep fucking her but don't do boyfriend things - limit to at most once a week. ​ If you want an LTR give her at least 3-6 months of casual dating and having fun together but seeing other chicks. If no red flags and you want an LTR upgrade her. If she gives an ultimatum stand your ground. She'll throw a fit but work harder for your commitment.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 11:53 PM
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How do you go about telling a girl you want to fuck other women but she's not allowed to fuck other men? I'm in a similar situation: She's a good girl but I want to fool around every once in a while or I'll get bored.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/19 02:40 AM
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didn't you know? "human" is now politically incorrect!
/r/askTRP07/05/18 01:41 AM
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Forget about getting laid for a while. My advice would be to start a hobby where you're surrounded by women so you condition your brain. I highly recommend any form of social dancing. With dancing you a) Learn a cool skill b) Meet lots of women and c) be close to them (touching, holding hands etc.). Pick a style that fits your personality and music you love. As for getting down on yourself, meditation and mindfulness help me break these negative thought loops. The problem is you identify with yo…
/r/TheRedPill21/04/18 12:08 AM
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Yes, that's the plan. The combination of lifting + nofap has me pretty wound up...These days I wake up horny enough to fuck a cat. Thanks for the advice brother.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 01:14 AM
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I get nothing from Tinder but my pictures aren't great. I was thinking of hiring a photographer in after a couple months of cutting. Will approach IRL for now.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/18 05:49 AM
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Hey man, was wondering about this. I'm currently 0, going on dates, improving myself etc. I generally go for HB7's or above; the idea of going for less seems like a waste of time. It probably would help with abundance mindset though.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/18 05:38 AM
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Oneitis is one of the most difficult things to overcome, but I believe having an abundance mentality is the simplest solution. Would you really be fantasizing about some chick who doesn't give you the time of day when others are waiting to grab your cock? Also don't try to get closure. don't try to make things work. Cut contact and focus on your mission.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/18 05:27 AM
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Thank you, just broke up with GF yesterday. I needed to hear this.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/17 02:52 AM
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Never tried this but have always felt shitty after watching porn. Let's do this brothers!
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 12:32 AM
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My mission: I will spend the next ten years becoming a master mathematician and developer. By age 40 I will be location-independent and have a healthy work life balance filled with music, dancing, love and happiness.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 09:27 PM
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100% agreed. This stems from the fact that we are attracted to feminine women, and being hyper rational is not a feminine characteristic. These career-driven types are often well presented and physically attractive but their personalities are garbage.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/17 12:01 AM
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I'm going through his maps of meaning lecture series which he's currently recording. If you like his philosophy you should definitely check it out. He is quite unfiltered and at times somewhat incoherent but overall quite brilliant.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/17 09:01 AM
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The dual mating strategy is well-documented and effective.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/16 02:05 AM
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Everything is about sex except sex. Sex is about power. Oscar Wilde
/r/TheRedPill29/12/16 04:02 PM
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This is what stoics refer to as 'negative visualization'.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 04:59 AM
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good job man. most likely shell be back after the relationship turns sour for some rebound sex.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/16 04:52 PM
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thank you for this, i really needed it. ive been constantly in my head lately, regretting every decision and negative self talk. it helps knowing others suffer these problems.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/16 04:38 PM
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I think that's what I need - more data points to confirm it's possible. I'm also analytical and INTJ. I guess it's a fake it until you make it situation.
/r/askTRP01/08/16 08:47 AM
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Ideally yes.
/r/askTRP31/07/16 05:05 PM
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I urge everyone who feels depressed to go travel somewhere new and exotic. Every time I get in a funk, travelling gets me out. All routines are broken. You're out, experiencing new things, engaged in the world. You don't take yourself so seriously. You're forced to meet new people. Each day is an exciting challenge, but there's no wrong decision. A similar concept is what the French call Flâneur - to explore your city like you've never been there. Stroll without a destination, get lost, and get …
/r/TheRedPill12/06/16 04:53 AM
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I flew halfway across the world to go to a marriage because I was the best man, even though I philosophically disagree strongly with the idea of marriage. For me supporting friends trumps personal views.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 09:25 AM
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I like the overall message of this post, but it's all over the place and fairly incoherent. Also don't use vocabulary to sound impressive, use vocabulary to communicate effectively. I think it's important to keep in mind success, and life in general, is not linear. As goal-seeking creatures, we have this worldview of attaining things which sequentially improve our happiness piece by piece, but the reality is everything can go to shit in an instant. Often it feels like one step forward, two steps…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:40 PM
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Interesting question. My guess is no.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/16 08:37 AM
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There are many many problems: No regulation on industries (food, medicine etc.) No law enforcement A lack of civility and extreme selfishness Total herd mentality No creativity or innovation All of these problems stem from the fact that there's too many people. The baby boom of the west is nothing compared to what's happened here. The overpopulation has caused so much competition that you have to have connections or bribe someone to get a job, and similarly for education. The students spend 24/7…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 11:43 AM
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There's lots of opportunities everywhere, just depends on what you want. I've heard Shenzhen is pretty depressing. Kunming has nice weather and not too populated, just a quaint Chinese town of a several million.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 11:33 AM
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Diversity is always touted as a positive thing. Except there's absolutely no evidence this is true.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 05:55 AM
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Interesting, I'm also living in China (Kunming) until the summer. Looking forward to coming back to the west. China has its own set of problems. Where in China are you?
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 05:54 AM
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Trigger warnings are...a real thing now? Society has become a joke.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 05:49 AM
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I agree, fuck policing speech. I just feel challenging them is a waste of time. Better to focus on myself.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 12:50 AM
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Are abortions free in Canada?
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 12:49 AM
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I am officially embarrassed to call myself a Canadian.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 12:48 AM
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Anyone who claims they are not sexist are lying to themselves. The problem is now calling someone sexist is an accusatory weapon to shut people up. "You're a sexist!!! Of course I am. We all are, and to deny that obvious truth is delusional double think.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 12:44 AM
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Thank you sir!
/r/askTRP02/05/16 05:30 AM
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I agree. Stoic wisdom for the win.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/16 05:29 AM
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I'm also highly sensitive. Any tips or resources for dealing with this?
/r/TheRedPill29/04/16 05:58 PM
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This is the best refutation of feminism I have seen. Very nicely written.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/16 05:04 AM
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Any tips for the speech? I was just gunna wing it.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 02:47 AM
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Thats awesome. I agree every man must make his own decisions. Sometimes you gotta learn the hard way. But ill be damned if i wont be waiting at his door the day shit goes sour to show him the light.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 02:11 AM
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Agreed, i wont push it. Just focus on having a good time.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 02:08 AM
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Thanks, i will, although im fairly sure the bridesmaids are all whales. Ill take him to a strip club for the bachelor party. That should be entertaining.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 02:06 AM
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These were my leanings as well. Appreciate the feedback man.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 02:04 AM
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Any recommendations for a more scientific explanation in human sexuality? I'm very interested in this topic.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:42 AM
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Hah, funny you say that. I'm listening to the audio book right now and it's starting to piss me off. For one it's narrated by a pretentious-sounding woman, but mainly it just comes off as cherry picking, pretentious pseudo-science that tries to poke holes without making a sound argument. For example, they criticize the standard narrative by summarizing it as "your mom's a whore". That kind of oversimplification and derogatory tone underlies the whole book. I was hoping it would get better, and I…
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:40 AM
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Totally agree. I wouldn't say I gave her my time. I just found something so ludicrous that I thought it would spur an interesting discussion. But I understand what you're saying: any attention is good attention. As men it is our job to set the rules for appropriate behaviour in our relationships. If people (men or women) violate these rules or disrespect our authority, there must be consequences. People will continuously test your boundaries to get away with as much as possible. What are the con…
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:28 AM
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This is an interesting topic. From my experience women can get over a relationship much faster than a man. Why is this the case? I'd be interested to hear anyone's opinion.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:23 AM
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Women are good for more than sex. You just have to set the terms so they know the rules.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 06:21 AM
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It was more a tongue in cheek jab at the over reaction of TRP to shit like this. In many ways I am for a return to primal order. Society is fucked up. In the book Sex at Dawn they argue that pre-society humans had multiple sexual partners and were fiercely egalitarian. I'll help raise your kids if you help raise mine. It's an interesting contrast to all the norms and contradictions inherent in our modern day. But regardless of which theory underlying human sexual behaviour is correct, no woman s…
/r/TheRedPill31/03/16 10:24 AM
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She has a degree in bullshit I'm definitely using this line. It's strange that people can delude themselves into perceiving a situation to protect their egos. I suppose all humans are hungry for validation, and as it's so readily available in our society (cam sluts, hungry betas, fame culture etc.) we get addicted to that dopamine rush. These people lack internal validation because they don't respect themselves, so all they have is external validation.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/16 10:16 AM
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Went to a party this weekend and saw a cute italian chick i had gone out with before but nothing happened. She was dancing with another dude so i didnt bother. As i was leaving she saw me and we talked some bullshit, but she gave me the doey eyes and was pretty drunk. Gave her a hug and left. I then said fuck it, went back to the party and danced with her. Tried to seal the deal by taking her outside but got rejected. She left with the other guy 20 minutes later. You live you learn. Im proud of …
/r/TheRedPill07/03/16 02:35 PM
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I can offer two pieces of advice: simplify and start small. simplify: It's really important to separate the signal from the noise in this day and age. Before doing things, we have to decide what to do. Basically decide what projects you want to focus on, and everything else accept that you won't waste mental energy on (but perhaps work on in the future). What's that one project you've been putting off but would most improve your life? Bring you closest to your long-term goals? Whatever it is, ma…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 09:07 AM
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Telling yourself you're going to change is way easier than actually changing. This is why the self-development field is largely a placebo effect, we get a natural high just from thinking of doing something. I agree and disagree about "asking why". On the one hand, if you're depressed and constantly asking what's the point (i.e. why) of doing anything, yes this is toxic. You have to pull yourself out of that mental loop and just start doing shit, for example exercising every day. Ultimately that …
/r/TheRedPill13/02/16 08:59 AM
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This is a solid, back to basics post. Good style and backing up with your personal experience. Everyone should have these concepts down to get the most out of them. Its not enough to understand on an intellectual level, you must take action.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 12:42 PM
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Cool, thanks man. Ive always been interested in meditation like you and i read a similar book called buddhas brain. It was all about the scienctific evidence supporting the benefits of meditation
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 12:39 PM
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Have you ever seen an attractive feminist? Didn't think so.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 05:56 PM
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Feminism exists because women feel bad about themselves and don't want to take accountability for it. This man speaks truth. Thank you sir.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 05:53 PM
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"The pain was so bad, she recalled, that she considered going to the hospital the next day. Instead, she accepted Ghomeshi's pleas to give him one more chance and meet him again in a public place for a platonic outing. They ended up watching TV at his house and cuddling." Hey guys, let's do a fun thought experiment. Imagine you're hangin' out with a guy you just met, and you guys start to wrestle. Suddenly things get out of hand when he takes it too far, and he manages to injure you so badly tha…
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 05:45 PM
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Isn't the last emperor pre-communism? Also, is it worth watching? I live in China now so I like to learn about all this shit.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 03:43 AM
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They've actually removed the one child policy recently, which will hopefully help to curb the insane amount of infanticide of baby girls. But yeah, the kids now are extremely entitled, immature and generally don't give a fuck about anyone.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 03:37 AM
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More specifically, they were publicly shamed, humiliated and/or beaten up. Many of them were then forced to move out to the country to experience what "real labour" looks like. Mao wasn't a big fan of intellectuals.
/r/TheRedPill06/02/16 05:38 PM
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I'm probably gunna get downvoted to hell for this but the whole argument from nature is a moot point because guns aren't natural. I'm all for self-defense but everyone having guns is not gunna end well. Mass shootings are a lot less common when it's hard to obtain a gun.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/16 04:12 PM
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Nice find! I'll add it to the post.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/16 01:56 AM
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Agreed, the Harper government was a shit show. From censuring public figures to all the behind the door deals, basically anyone is an improvement after him.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 03:28 PM
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A fellow Canadian? So we're not all nice guys after all!
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 03:15 PM
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I agree that you shouldn't take it to the extreme. The whole point of trying a new approach is to make life easier. Like he says in the book if it's too much hassle you're not going to bother.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 03:11 PM
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Reading the book was useful, but honestly I don't think you need to. I'd say do some research online, implement the techniques you think are valuable and if you have any questions PM me.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 03:05 PM
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Haha, I use Google Keep as well. For the lists anyway. I find its simplicity is key. As long as the system is quick and easy, any method will suffice. For all my references/ideas/projects I use Evernote. I haven't looked into onenote, though it sounds quite similar?
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 02:54 PM
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Yeah, the whole point of the system is to make it as easy to deal with the things you need to deal with as possible. If your shits unorganized, you have a bunch of different projects you want to work on but you are vague on what they are or how to start, the tasks will seem too daunting so you won't make any progress. The system tries to make doing things as painless as possible. It's similar to the idea of forming new habits by making that habit as easy as possible. For example, if you want to …
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 02:50 PM
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Living in China, I have a plate who comes over to my place and occasionally cleans my place, cooks traditional food etc. The first time this happened I was literally shocked. In the west a girl would never dream of doing these acts that "repress women". They simply don't understand how much a man appreciates them.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 11:20 AM
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Thanks man. You just inspired me to hit the gym in some cold ass weather. Never stop working on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 11:00 AM
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She doesn't respect you. No amount of 'social engineering' is going to fix that.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/16 11:06 AM
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Generally speaking, yin and yang is about contrast: masculine contrasts feminine alpha contrasts beta strength contrasts weakness You cannot have one without the other. The key is to identify what parts of yourself are too extreme in one spectrum (e.g. too beta) and work on balancing both sides.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 05:13 PM
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Hello everyone, for the record I'd like to note that I am officially a bitch. Damn...that does feel good.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 05:03 PM
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Or how education is largely biased to girls.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 01:58 PM
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This really exemplifies how feminism has nothing to do with equality. Shouldn't we be up in arms, protecting men and writing laws to ensure they get "fair and equal" opportunities? Where's the outrage? Oh right, no one gives a shit.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/16 01:52 PM
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In our society it's so easy to just externalize your problems. We don't want to take responsibility for anything. I find myself doing this quite often, and I have to metaphorically slap myself in the face and realize I'm the only factor I can control. The next time someone complains (including yourself), notice if they have any plans to actually do something about it.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/16 11:58 AM
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Fucking great. I'm officially embarrassed to be a Canadian.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/16 11:51 AM
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Thanks man, gotta work on my escalating.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 06:38 PM
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Yeah, I didn't have a sexual frame from the beginning. Will keep that in mind for next time.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:02 PM
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Or at best, as we get older we tend to derive all forms of love from a single human being. We expect them to be our lover, best friend, therapist etc. This is the problem with oneitis: The expectations are totally unrealistic and the pressure it puts on both parties is insane.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/15 07:27 AM
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Modern day feminism: Equality when its convenient.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/15 08:51 AM
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the optimal reproductive strategy for our species This is misleading as evolution doesn't act on a species as a whole, but rather the individual gene.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 03:41 PM
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99% all cases covered by this.
/r/askTRP01/07/15 01:35 PM
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So....she wants to take half the male physicists and turn them into nurses. Finally, I understand feminism!
/r/TheRedPill12/06/15 04:13 AM
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Hey man, I can totally relate to that feeling, because honestly most people are, on the surface, boring. But that's because most people are societally programmed to talk about boring shit. The skill of connecting with someone and finding something you both are interested in is a skill that you can work on. You need good listening skills to empathize and relate to the details, and charisma to steer the conversation and make yourself interesting to them. The right mindset has a large impact as wel…
/r/askTRP30/05/15 11:49 PM
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Going out with her this week, so we'll see if she's still feeling it or not.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 11:29 PM
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Yes, a wingman seems obvious in retrospect. Had some buddies around but didn't think to take advantages of their services. Next time.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 11:28 PM
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Yeah, I was focusing too much on the girl, good call.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 11:27 PM
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Soon we're gunna need pre-texts: "Please confirm tonight's sexual activities are consensual. Thx babe ;)"
/r/TheRedPill26/05/15 11:53 AM
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That's the plan, already planning a new routine. Thanks.
/r/askTRP26/05/15 11:05 AM
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Thanks...I actually want to take a break from gigging for now anyway and work on an album. I'm not sure I can communicate how I felt effectively. I know she'll just get defensive and the conversation won't go anywhere. I think radio silence will prove to be just effective here.
/r/askTRP26/05/15 09:42 AM
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agreed, listen to their actions, not their words.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/15 10:18 AM
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Definitely proud of my father, even though he is very much BB. After divorcing my mom he found a new wife, but seems to bend over backwards for her. Yes, he I wish he taught me more about women and being a man. But he was always 100% supportive and has a great sense of humour. Hearing about other people's fucked up family lives make me appreciate him even more.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/15 08:52 PM
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