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| 13 | How to communicate my (20F) needs with my boyfriend(20M) and have him start putting in effort again? | aliyah_200018 | /r/askFDS | 17/11/20 09:33 PM | |
| 1 | Feel as though he has stopped putting in effort/trying to court me? | DISCUSSION | aliyah_200018 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Why do women let themselves go in relationships? | LTR/MARRIAGE | aliyah_200018 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/19 11:41 AM |
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| 4 | For a legit HVM, what does he get out of dating an FDS woman? What's in it for him?Exactly my mentality re FDS. I tried those some of their strategies while in the early stages of seeing my current partner, needless to say it pushed him away slightly. I cut the shit and acted like myself, we now have an incredibly loving relationship. Better than I could have ever asked for. He is also an extremely HVM. He has a great job, he provides for me, he is intelligent and caring, masculine, gorgeous, hes planned all our dates. And we had amazing sex from the day wet met. Without a dou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 4 | Female Dating Strategynot sure why you’re trying to argue with me? you’re not going to change my mind. in my experience, as a woman who has been raped and abused, i do not trust men until they give me a reason to trust them. their titling and phrasing is evidently their own sub cultures humor, the way TRP has their own. Was giving my opinion to OP, not you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/21 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Female Dating Strategyi like their content relevant to personal growth and empowering me as a woman and i like to take their tips on how to become a better person for myself. i just personally don’t apply their relationship fundamentals as i find them excessive as im already in a very healthy happy relationship. i compared it to religion in the way that it is a guide on how to lead a more positive life, i think women recovering from abuse will benefit greatly from their suggestions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/21 05:03 AM |
| 7 | Am I crazy or how am i so in love with his BO?hahahaha its not as weird as you think! I am literally obsessed with how my partner smells. Like we'l be in bed, on the couch, in the car, anywhere and ill just put my face in his chest or his neck and smell him which hes now used to I think it has to do with pheromones, and my mum always said that she was obsessed with how my dad smelled, and when i grew up and met men i would know we were good for eachother if i was as in love with his smell. Funnily enough i was always repulsed by the smell o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/21 04:01 AM |
| 8 | Female Dating StrategyMy experience with FDS is probably 50/50. I still frequent the sub as i find they do give great advice at times, key here being not always. I think the intent is there, and as a woman who has been abused in the past i fully see why its an important community. I relate it to religion or belief in a way, if it helps you and guides you positively through dark times then by all means embrace it and live by it. However I do want to note, I am now in a very healthy, loving relationship, and I know tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/21 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is your current boyfriend in the top 20% of men looks wise?Yes he is! He is how i always pictured my dream man in every sense of the term. He is a very good man and makes me very happy, and yes because in this sub i need to clarify, his looks ARE just a bonus. physically he is; 6'4, dark features, fit, traditionally handsome, well kept, dresses well, great smile, etc. personality wise he is; sociable, charming, intelligent, generous, loving, in touch with his emotions. I am very grateful for him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/21 04:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about men wearing makeup to increase smv?Oooh okay, that sounds really frustrating! I used to have really bad dark circles, not even makeup would cover them well, for me it was a matter of finding what was causing them and treating accordingly. for me I found that no screens close to bed time, adequate, unbroken sleep, less sugar, dairy and other inflammatory foods, drinking enough water and using an eye cream with niacinamide (helps fade pigmentation, i use the Tatcha one i mentioned) was a really effective solution for me. With any i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 04:31 AM |
| 3 | How do you feel about men wearing makeup to increase smv?in terms of dark circles, get Tatcha - The pearl. Its an eye cream that I use for every day, really helps reduce eye circles and has the slightest amount of pigment so it will help conceal instantly. Much more natural than concealer. You will not be able to tell you have it on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 04:07 AM |
| 5 | How do you feel about men wearing makeup to increase smv?yes this is exactly what i thought of hahaha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 04:06 AM |
| 3 | How do you feel about men wearing makeup to increase smv?wow i've never seen SMV summarised so bluntly, im intrigued, what would you say female SMV is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about men wearing makeup to increase smv?Not for me personally. Loveeee men maintaining their appearances through getting their eyebrows done, skincare, hair cuts, shaving, etc. But makeup is a no no for me. just too feminine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: What Don't You Understand About Menwow, you just perfectly described something ive been trying to make sense for ages now. you’re so right that when im upset about something i want comfort not a solution, where as he always automatically tries to solve things which i now understand why. do you have any good resources you can recommend for looking into these differences further? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/21 05:09 AM |
| 6 | Q4Women: What Don't You Understand About Menwow that was actually incredibly helpful, thank you for responding!! looking forward to your video :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/21 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: What Don't You Understand About Menwow that is an extremely helpful point, thank you!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/21 11:44 PM |
| 24 | Q4Women: What Don't You Understand About Meni cannot wrap my head around how majority of men do not understand emotional response/being told an action of theirs is hurtful/etc.. i have never in my life met a man that can understand this concept. not one. you'll be crying in front of them over something they did and they look at you like an alien? OR say you're in an argument (whether its text/irl) and you give multiple points as to why you're upset/they're in the wrong/whatever and they respond to one singular thing. i.e female: ''i am so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/21 11:41 PM |
| 6 | Social Media Insecurities100% normal for you to feel like that. I'm fortunate my boyfriend doesn't engage with the thirst traps on his feed, but the fact he follows so many girls has been a topic of tension for me. I eventually just stopped bringing it up and now just generally try to forget about it, as he says all of those girls he knows irl/friends with, so i guess i dont have a lot of ground to stand on, and its so hard to describe why it makes me upset but it just does, so i completely understand how you feel. Its … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/21 03:51 AM |
| 3 | Do you want to be the “ pretty “one in your relationships ?did 7 different fashion weeks 2014-2016 and did high fashion for about 4 years, so yes you are correct i was a model, my boyfriend however is just hot in his own right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/21 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Do you want to be the “ pretty “one in your relationships ?This is really bizarre. My boyfriend and I are both very conventionally attractive, both tall, fit, pretty, etc. I never get insecure about how attractive he is and vice versa. However when i was single it was common for men to approach me only for me to be told my level of attractiveness is intimidating/im out of their league/i would never settle which funnily enough resulted in hurting my self esteem. i think its more prominent among men being intimidated by attractive women rather than the ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/21 09:58 PM |
| 65 | 4 years with a LVM and I don't know how to get out.Block and delete. nothing else you need to do. you have no financial ties, you are not dependent on him in anyway. You owe him nothing. Block and delete. | /r/askFDS | 05/02/21 02:35 AM |
| 4 | Women bully each other into hypergamyyes my friends (no longer my friends) did this to my partner too! they made up so much shit about him, find out as much as they could on him and his ex and tried really really hard to get me to drop him. it was really awful to deal with but im so happy i saw through their lies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/21 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Women bully each other into hypergamythis is veryyyy true. The friends i had when i started dating my partner were supportive until i started getting serious about him. My partner is very conventionally attractive, so there wasn't really any negative comments on his appearance, except for one ''friend'' who would try to take racially charged jabs which i shut down fucking instantly, she had never been racist before this so i had no idea she had it in her. anyway. My friends were just HYPER suspicious of him, im the baby of the grou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/21 12:40 AM |
| 2 | How to stop being jealous when hearing other people’s cute virginity stories?Hey! First of all I just want to send you my love and support, we're all here with you. I have a very similar story to you actually, so i hope you can find comfort in the fact i can relate The first time i technically had sex was when i was 17, to man who was in his 20's who i had known since i was like 15. Around this time i was getting teased by a lot of my friends at school because i didn't have sex, so my bestfriend and i made up a story that i had already had already had sex like a year ear… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/01/21 04:03 AM |
| 1 | What proportion of the self improvement you do is solely for purpose of getting opposite sex attention?Female None of it. I've always maintained high standards for myself and love making myself look good. Exercise for my health (mental & physical), all of my preening and maintenance for me (get my nails done when i feel like it, get my hair done because i like how i look blonde, etc), wear makeup when i feel like it, dress in a way that reflects my mood and vibe for the day, you get the gist of it i do not do anything to please anyone else and i have always had this mindset. in saying that ill as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/21 01:29 AM |
| 2 | What’s your physical type?its kind of funny because mine is literally my boyfriend: very tall, thinner but strong, dark hair, eyes, features, olive/dark skin, works with his hands, hyper motivated and driven, patient, emotionally intelligent, generally intellectual, we have the same style, everything. as we got to know eachother it just became more perfect | /r/askFDS | 27/12/20 11:21 PM |
| 4 | Do you regret losing your virginity? Do you suggest someone wait or not?TW on the topic in case anyone is sensitive to it. my virginity was taken from me, without getting graphic my “boyfriend” who was almost 7 years older than me held me down and i wasn’t strong enough to get him off me. i don’t regret it because it made me extremely vigilant of men after i finally figured out i was being abused and groomed (took me a while, i was young and had a rough teenage life) and im now with a really amazing guy who makes me feel safe and we have amazing sex. i never had sex… | /r/askFDS | 20/12/20 03:00 AM |
| 31 | Income inequality in a relationshipI'm sorry but this is a recipe for disaster. IMO having the same financial and lifestyle goals is IMPERATIVE for a relationship to work. That initially was one of the most attractive aspects of my boyfriend, we want the same things in life, namely to work very hard, earn and invest money to be set up for life. This is important because we motivate each other, understand why we both do the things we do, and just all around have the same beliefs and goals. As someone who is very financially motiva… | /r/askFDS | 17/12/20 11:14 PM |
| 6 | I can't stop seeing all men as predators {trigger warning : rape}Wow, i had a very similar experience with my first boyfriend, when i 'lost my virginity' i was raped, and this went on for some time. He was extremely physically and sexually abusive and i was genuinely scared of being alone with men for some time after i finally realised what was happening wasn't right and cut him off. he still continued to try and turn up at my house, where i worked and made so many fake social media accounts after the fact, i almost had to file a restraining order until my br… | /r/askFDS | 15/12/20 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Do you think your views on sex and relationship dynamics are shared with average neurotypical individuals?im BP soooo yeah. i think cause i was raised quite conservative (im trying to get over all of these ideals and feel okay not following them) i.e. no sex before marriage, etc. there are still parts of me that may be a little less average, but for the most part yes its a pretty standard approach | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/20 12:05 PM |
| 1 | "Women prefer assholes"; a more well rounded perspectiveas a woman i don’t prefer assholes, i prefer men who do not completely dote and simp and offer no excitement. the whole fun of dating is the chase, if youre giving me everything i want its no fun and if you’re giving me absolutely nothing ill just dip | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 04:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men need two women to be satisfied: A wife and a Mistressi would hope that my future husband would love me enough to only want to love me, if you marry someone thats a commitment you make to love them through it all, the same way i would love him through it all. wholeheartedly disagree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 04:00 AM |
| 3 | Couples with unbalanced sexual histories.it mostly stemmed from the fact if i would ever actually tell someone they would never believe me and it would just turn into me having to try and find a way to prove it so guys knew i wasn’t being dishonest, but then when i hit 19 i just started lying about it all together as i thought people would think i was a prude or something ahhah i wouldn’t say im necessarily “proud” of it now but i am happy my bf is the only person ive had a real sexual relationship with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 09:40 AM |
| 3 | Couples with unbalanced sexual histories.My boyfriend has had a long term relationship, a couple shorter 'things' and his body count is (while still average for a guy his age I'd say) significantly higher than mine. I had only slept with 2 people before I met him, and not much at that. I had sex probably 7 or 8 times in my life before I met him. Had some things happen in my life that gave me absolutely no desire to have sex. At first it sat in the back of my mind a little, I was really worried I wouldn't be able to satisfy him the way … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/20 11:13 PM |
| 8 | How to communicate my (20F) needs with my boyfriend(20M) and have him start putting in effort again?i have read it although not thoroughly, but tonight im going to really study it and take notes. will also start prioritising myself in the way i used to, and completely appreciate your comment and advice, am feeling really excited to focus on myself more 😌 | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 01:38 AM |
| 2 | How to communicate my (20F) needs with my boyfriend(20M) and have him start putting in effort again?have started reading it more in depth and taking notes as first time through i feel like i didnt absorb a lot, but absolutely will begin making myself a priority and reminding myself (and through one clear and direct conversation, him) what i will tolerate and what i wont, and really stick to that. thank you so much for the advice i really appreciate it! | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 01:36 AM |
| 4 | Hooking up and doing ONS on the side while in the beginning stages of dating a real relationship prospectmy current SO and I were not offical until 3 months in, and we were both open about the fact we weren't seeing other people in that period from about the month in from meeting mark. I don't know what went on that first month, and while I wasn't doing anything I wouldn't want to know if he was. I don't think technically its wrong, but maybe use your best judgement. if I knew he was sleeping with other girls during that initial stage I wouldn't have followed through with the relationship, and whil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/20 04:32 AM |
| 3 | How do women treat below average looking guys in social settings?I think it has more to do with personality and how they behave. Before I was in a relationship it didn't matter if they were hot or not, if they were being creepy/were uninteresting I would actively avoid. if they made me laugh and we had good conversations I was more inclined to talk to them. at my work there are both attractive and not attractive men, the ones I am more friendly with are the ones who are more entertaining and I am not uncomfortable around, one of which is like 150kgs with cyst… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/20 04:17 AM |
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