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alldownhillfrhere/r/askMRP18/01/24 02:26 PM
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alldownhillfrhere/r/askMRP29/12/23 03:02 PM
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The first time I tried it, I had a bit of nausea, but I fixed the dosing, and now I have no side effects. Horns is right, though; it's not a long-term fix, so you also have to work on fixing the root of the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 04:18 PM
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Dapoxetine killed my PE and turned me into a porn star in the bedroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 12:13 PM
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One of these days, you are going to be like... Bro, why am I in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to fuck me when I could easily have a relationship with many women who do. (Assuming the things you said are true) This OYS and work is just a justification for you as the donkey to stay tied to the metaphorical chair.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 03:19 PM
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"Good to know, I am very bad at spotting them because my beta brain can not comprehend it as anything else than a legit complaint." Words matter. Stop saying these things about yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 03:58 PM
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'It's fine, it's just a hurdle on the way, we'll solve this together our neighbor Sally has been giving me crazy sloppy toppy anyways. - This would have at least elicited some emotional response. You don't have any frame in this convo. You are just jumping through the hoops that she throws out at you. Ironically, you jumping through these hoops is the exact reason you are staying sexless. At the end of the day, you are just afraid to make moves, take action, and get what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 12:29 PM
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It seems like you are doing all of this for her. You win if she fucks you. I get it, I've been there. The issue is, at the end of the day, she gets to make the final move in this game. So, in reality, you are making all of these moves inside of her frame. Has this woman ever been truly attracted to you? It may be time to stop playing her game by focusing on your wife fucking you and game other women to see if they will fuck you. (You don't have to fuck them if you don't want to) This way, you wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 12:17 PM
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If you want to, do it. If you don’t, don’t. People aren’t going to judge you
/r/seduction18/03/25 12:52 PM
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What makes you stay in an LTR with a woman you don't want to have sex with? Generally, it's a nice guy's tendency to not to rock the boat by breaking up. At least that was the case for me. Now that I look back, it's pretty clear how silly of a mental model this was. Also, why did you choose a relationship that doesn't have a frame that you want? It's way easier to start a relationship with a specific frame than to build that frame year into the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 04:47 PM
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The game is a good start. If you can maintain a fun & sexy frame for an extended amount of time, it will lead to sex. Can be challenging, especially if your SO resists your game. FWIW - saying "don’t worry my sweet petunia I’m here now" isn't lewd. It's a fun and game-centric way to talk. The definition of lewd " being crude and offensive in a sexual way." You can do it if you frame and status is strong enough, but you are not there and may never get there in this relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:19 PM
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As far as I am reading, you have fixed everything but what you came here to fix. Your sex life.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:13 PM
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What is this community that you seek? Are you trying to create the next group of Branch Davidians?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:09 PM
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Do you feel like you are truly making progress at this point?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:07 PM
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" I can laugh off a dude saying my shirt or shoes look good with a no homo, LTR talking about glute strength still makes me sheepish" WHAT? Someone say something nice about an object you are wearing and you immediately think of "no homo'? Are you in 6th grade? Anyways, I digress. Also, if she can't compliment you on something as random as "glute strength" without you feeling sheepish, good luck ever getting her to ever say something sexy in bed. She probably feel like if she did, you would turn …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:06 PM
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You're toast, dude. A year in, and pretty much nothing has gotten better. If you're not seeing the changes that you want by now, it's time to take massive, decisive action. Otherwise, you are going to tread water till death.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:59 PM
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As someone who ended a 6 year relationship (not a marriage) after I fixed myself, I can tell you how this is going to go. You realize that being a man who doesn't fuck sucks. (So you find this Reddit) You improve yourself (hoping it is reflected in her, it will get marginally better but never what you hoped) (This is the dancing monkey program) You get to a point where you realize that you can't marry this girl after what has happened You break up and pursue other options as a better man Staying…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:52 PM
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Being "lewd" is never sexy. Sure, you might get away with it if you are attractive and have high enough status, but you are more likely to sound like a sexually repressed loser than someone who can speak their mind w/o giving a fuck. If you are trying to push the envelope for the sake of seeing what happens, I would suggest trying to push the envelope on other topics first. Deal with the frame control there. You don't want to be thought of as a pervert. Once someone views you as a pervert, they …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:40 PM
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Assuming you have enough muscle to look good at 11% bf you are in a pretty tricky position because being a fat loser isn't the issue. So it has to be something else... It probably boils down to one of these two things. Your mental side sucks so much that it repulses women You are with someone who will never opt into the sex life you desire. As you fix #1, you will come to see if #2 is true
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:34 PM
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What do you think about the community entices you? I had the same desires at once, but underneath that desire was the desire to be more attractive, be the center of attention, and talk to other women in front of my LTR w/o guilt. Unsure what building a community entails, but it could be as simple as having a party and inviting people you like to it or inviting people to dinner. ' Communities with open doors attract a lot of weird people, but maybe thats what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:28 PM
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I would look at the language you use on yourself. It’s hard to be internally strong when you use phrases like “faggot brain” to describe your own mind. Words matter. Someone else calls you a faggot? Fuck em. Calling yourself a faggot? Then you become one
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 10:07 AM
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Is your LTR your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 10:01 AM
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As someone who joined this forum with an LTR (and not a wife). I went through something similar. You have next to nothing to lose by leaving this LTR. You are in many cases the horse who is chained to the plastic chair. The "I must fix this is just a narrative in your head and not actual reality." If you can get other women, why not do it? Also, FWIW (for me), taking 200MGs of TRT, being in public as much as possible, and chatting up as many people/women as possible has made my life a 10/10.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/25 05:46 PM
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What do you mean by "compared to when you break free? Break free of what?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 06:05 PM
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OYS #24 Stats: 33, 5'8, 154, 14%bf. Together with gf for 6 years. No kids. Lifts: SQ - 240 OPH - 100 DL - 300 BP - 160 Read Sidebar - I am currently reading "The Courage to be disliked." Relationship & Sex - About 6 weeks ago, I gave the FMFY you speech. I told my gf that I wanted to break up due to our sex life being full of denials. She told me that she has had a lot on her plate lately with work and that now she was going to actively try to work on everything on her end. To my surprise, this …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 10:29 AM
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Do you have any recommended resources for game?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/24 09:49 PM
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Were you at the alter thinking “damn, I don’t want to do this”?
/r/askMRP19/07/24 10:28 PM
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Just curious - why did you marry someone you were apprehensive about marrying?
/r/askMRP19/07/24 10:03 PM
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It's a good question, I'm not out of the clear. However, I did determine what goals within my business and life. Both my business and life come first and I am relentlessly pursuing those goals pretty much every waking second. I skipped the fourth and the weekend do work on what I want to work on. It's caused me to stop thinking about my relationship. Ironically my sex life this week has been great. Even the sex itself has been better than before. Is it a fluke? Perhaps. But it has given me aim a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 01:06 PM
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My mission - To stop lying to myself, see reality for what it is, adjust my expectations to meet it, set goals, make a plan, and execute. This isn't bad, but isn't going to motivate your to get out of bed. It's also not going to motive you to dump your wife incase she is holding you back from achieving your mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 12:19 AM
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Mission: Start being my own man, stop letting life just happen to me and make my own way in this world. This has LARP all over it. How do I know? I've been there. Your mission should be more impactful and challenging. Think about what you want, head towards that at lightning speed. If your marriage causes you to move at .8 speed vs 1.25 speed towards your mission, then you should dump your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 12:14 AM
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Mission: Work in progress. Be physically and mentally strong and have fun along the way. I assume this is your mission because you naturally don't think of yourself this way. Being mentally strong is pretty easy when you have a clear destination. If the grocery store is 2 blocks north and your wife is telling you to walk 2 blocks south, you would say to her to shut the fuck up or ignore her. (And be mentally strong because it involves something you know with certainty.) However, it doesn't look …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 12:06 AM
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What is your mission? If a lifelong is too much to think about, where do you want to be in 5 years?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 11:58 PM
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Mission: No change. Building up my family farm + furthering my career + competing at my very-niche-and-not-very-physical-sport. Still needs better definition. Trying to ensure that I'm competing for the fun of it, not for the validation it brings. You will have a better life (with more women) if you aim a little higher with your goals and mission. Your relationship will largely become insignificant when you spend every waking second to achieve your goals. Ironically, many of the issues that you …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 11:55 PM
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Good call, I just did it and got the number. She was quite surprised and then gave it to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 03:04 PM
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OYS 24 - MRP Since November - 30s with live in gf for 5 years Reading: Sidebar + rereading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" (NMMNG). I realize I still have many covert contracts, which now seem deeper. Examples of covert contacts include: if I change, others will change another one is if I have a 6-pack, my girlfriend will continue to lose weight If I get myself to a place where I am happy, then I'll be able to have hard conversations Lifts: SQ 225, DL 275, Bench 185, OHP 100, Rows: 135 Since starting my …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 02:00 PM
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Do you have any information on how to demote a live in gf to a plate?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 11:25 AM
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OYS 23 - 30s living with gf for 5 years. Read: Sidebar Stats: Weight: 166lbs, BP: 190 3x5, SQ: 250 3x5, DL: 315 5x1 - Mission: Pursue happiness. Do things that make me happier. Remove myself from situations and things that make me unhappy. Gym: I've been doing 5x5 for 7 months. I would like to move to a new routine. Any suggestions? Relationship: Since I've decided to break up, I've developed a bit of OI. I've noticed that she is now picking up some of the slack. She's very touchy and wants to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 04:48 PM
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OYS 22 - 30s not married, together 6 Read: Most of the sidebar. About to reread NMMNG Numbers: 5'8 168. SQ: 255, BP: 190, DL: 315 Mission: Pursue Happiness. Remove myself from things that make me unhappy. Always respect myself. Relationship: After the victim puke last week, I've put a plan together to end the relationship. I'm over trying to get this relationship where it needs to be for me to stay. I should have left a while ago but have consistently rationalized a way to stay. (Maybe it will g…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 01:39 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: early 30s, 171lbs, not married, no kids, living together for 6 years (6 months in) Lifts: SQ: 250, OHP: 105, DL: 315, BP: 190, Row: 135 - I seem to be stuck at the 250 mark. I believe it might be due to a weak core. I am also thinking I have gotten low T this week due to lack of morning wood lately. Read: Sidebar + Finishing unchained alpha Business + Social Life: Pretty well put together. I've been noticing some social deficiencies lately though. Once I get past the intro small t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 01:45 PM
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Damn - this is a 10/10 peer review.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 04:41 PM
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I appreciate you bringing these perspectives up. I believe u/hornsofapathy wrote the post you are referring to. Every time I offer help, it sets me up with a covert contract. I help with the expectation that it will be appreciated and followed through with. Perhaps I need to work on this. It would be a 2-way open relationship. I really think that would be the only way to do it without contempt building up. Although, I'd have a hard time believing she could maintain a relationship with someone hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/24 11:58 AM
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No problem with her being emotional. I am just not going to put up with her being bitchy towards me. That brings me unhappiness which runs counter to my mission
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 04:15 PM
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OYS 19 (I took a twelve-week break) Living with my GF of 6 years. No kids. Read: Sidebar + Finishing Unchained Alpha Lifts: SQ: 250, BP: 185, DL: 315 I've bulked from 140 -> 169. I've gotten a bit thick, so I am planning to start a 3 month cut next week. Mission: Take responsibility for my happiness. Align/pursue myself with things that make me happy and distance myself from things that make me unhappy. Sex: 2/6 initiations I've come to terms with the fact I am a horny bastard. I want sex often.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 01:46 PM
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Don’t answer anything in a straightforward way, tease her, let her know she’s below you
/r/askMRP28/04/24 05:37 PM
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We’re not going to make the decision for you. Own your life.
/r/askMRP09/04/24 09:44 PM
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Up to you OP - You can talk to other women and see what happens with your validation needs or you can mentally masturbate with u/boredandsucks. For me, having reality validate me killed my need for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 11:50 PM
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Yeah, it's called catch and release. There are hundreds of examples on this subreddit of it working. Catch & release at its core is validating whether or not you are attractive to fuck other women.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 08:44 PM
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Start small. Could be a wink, could be a hello, could be a compliment. Does wonders for confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 04:37 PM
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erections are weak There are some success stories resolving this in r/AngionMethod. Just FYI it's NSFW
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 03:59 PM
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You can also get attraction validation from other women without cheating on your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 02:31 PM
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OYS #18: 32, 29 gf, not married, no kids Mission: I want to have fun, build communities, generate attention, have deep conversations, have options, and be honest with myself & in my frame. Read: Sidebar + reading Dread volume 2. Lifting: Squat - 230, BP - 140, DL - 265, OPH - 100, Row - 110 Height - 5'8Weight - 155 Social: I've been doing much more socially and meeting many people. In terms of social life, it's vibrant. Last week, I mentioned how I've set a goal of chatting up a random cute woma…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 02:28 PM
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Two girls at a table next to me was giving me IOI’s. I was just thinking “alright, thanks for that”. Next my friend comes and join me at my table. We talk, connect, have some good laughs etc. Now a new table with two girls are also IOI’ing me. 20 minutes later people are being seated at the table next to us. A beautiful brunette arrives and eyeballs me as well. I’m thinking “wtf is with this place”. Then it strikes me I have been getting an unreasonable amount of attention from women in their 20…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 01:34 PM
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This is pretty much the most unattractive thing someone can say. Reminds me of child
/r/askMRP12/03/24 01:30 PM
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This is really only good advise if you want to divorce. Divorce isn’t a game of who can serve who first. What do you want? Do you not want divorce? Then get your paperwork in order and start fixing your issues. Make sure the problems in the relationship are not you. Do you want divorce? Get your paperwork in order, serve her papers, and start fixing your issues. Tbh, I’d focus on fixing you first. You’re going to have to do it anyways. Doesn’t matter whether it’s before or after the divorce.
/r/askMRP12/03/24 01:28 PM
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I'm going to say you actually haven't read the first book based on this DEER
/r/askMRP11/03/24 07:13 PM
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Why do you specifically want to build and create groups? What is it about it that you find interesting? If you can answer that question, you might find the 'doing' part a lot easier, as it may not be 'making groups' that you actually want, but rather something else. I enjoy being the social nexus. Deep down I think it is because I enjoy the elevated status of being the leader/creator of a group. Are you actually doing this though? The rest of this section reads like a 'plan' rather than somethin…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 01:50 PM
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Unless you want to use condoms, you are in her frame by using them
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 06:23 PM
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You can bench press more than you can squat? That doesn't sound right. Assuming your physical stats are right, you must be decently attractive. Why are you here? Are you not getting laid? Why do you think that is?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 03:46 PM
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OYS #17: 32, 29 gf, not married, no kids I took a short break from posting. I wasn't putting in effort, so I wasn't getting much out of it, so I spent time thinking about the point of participating here. This is an opportunity for me to put my thoughts into written words. I can clarify thoughts in my head and get feedback on the concepts I've developed. Mission: I want to have fun, build communities, generate attention, have deep conversations, and, most importantly, be honest with myself & in m…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 02:30 PM
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Started eating eggs - I don’t like them but I’m learning to. Nice. This is the way to being a man. (Obviously, I am kidding)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 01:41 PM
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I can see the covert contract. I do enjoy the sex, but tbh, making a girl cum deff feels good.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 09:42 PM
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You are probably not going to get laid until you can lift more than an Ethiopian during a locust famine.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 08:19 PM
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Online dating profile? That's a quick way to enjoy the downsides of getting caught cheating without the upside of actually getting laid.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 06:59 PM
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I want to lead my wife life with true abundance and OI. Fixed it for ya
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 05:34 PM
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The relationship with a higher power is important to me too, as I think that's an important (potential) source of strength for a lot of people. Nah, not really. Real strength comes from within. You can't externalize your strength no matter how powerful your God is. It won't work.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 04:55 PM
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Did you get seduced? Was this girl a seductress? Lol - just own it. You wanted to see what it was like to flirt with other women, so you did it. No harm, no foul.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 04:51 PM
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OYS #16 - 32/29gf, together for 6 years, no childrenRead: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1, Ryan Stone YT, Book of Pook, Frame, Way of the Superior Man, Mindful Attraction Plan, Listening to RM 2, Reading Psycho Cybernetics.Weakness: I've been a nice guy. I've had covert contracts everywhere and lacked the spine to enforce boundaries. Also, I have a habit of manipulating myself out of achieving happiness by doubling down on things that make me unhappy Why am I here?: I wasn't p…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 04:47 PM
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I'm confused - what do you want and why are you here? Seems like you are fine and should be out enjoying life.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 02:59 PM
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Well, there you go; this is likely how you react when your wife says something annoying/shitty to you. If you cut out the reaction (and DEER less), you can get out of her frame and into your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 08:22 PM
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Dude, you’re at least 35 weeks into this and still 6’ at 170. You’re not getting results because you aren’t putting in the effort. Lifting & gaining weight has drastically changed my relationship. You don’t get a badge for being a year & posting OYS #52, and still having a shitty life/relationship. You need to shake shit up now and make a move.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 01:24 PM
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Oh boy, do you feel ready for the wedding? Is it what you want? Or are you doing it because everyone else wants you to do it? The wedding date is coming up soon. We both have work to do I don't want to be saying this walking into my wedding date
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 05:28 PM
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OYS #15 - 32/29gf, together for 6 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1, Ryan Stone YT, Book of Pook, Frame, Way of the Superior Man, Mindful Attraction Plan, Listening to RM 2, Reading Psycho Cybernetics. Weakness: I've been a nice guy. I've had covert contracts everywhere and lacked the spine to enforce boundaries. Also, I have a habit of manipulating myself out of achieving happiness by doubling down on things that make me unhappyWhy am I here?: I wasn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 03:55 PM
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OYS #14 - 32/29gf, together for 6 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1, Ryan Stone YT, Book of Pook, Frame, Way of the Superior Man, Mindful Attraction Plan, Listening to RM 2, Reading Psycho Cybernetics. Weakness: I've been a nice guy. I've had covert contracts everywhere and lacked the spine to enforce boundaries. Also, I have a habit of manipulating myself out of achieving happiness by doubling down on things that make me unhappy Why am I here?: I wasn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 02:03 PM
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All this shaming yourself kinda makes me think you want validation that “you aren’t that bad” from us
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 03:31 PM
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I've used an app called Dr. K for erection quality. It's been great; I also last a lot longer now.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 02:40 PM
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This is great - I appreciate it
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 02:21 PM
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OYS #13 - 32/29gf, together for 6 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1, Ryan Stone YT, Book of Pook, Frame, Way of the Superior Man, Mindful Attraction Plan, Listening to RM 2, Reading Psycho Cybernetics. Weakness: I've been a nice guy. I've had covert contracts everywhere and lacked the spine to enforce boundaries. Also, I have a habit of manipulating myself out of achieving happiness by doubling down on things that make me unhappy. Why am I here?: I wasn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 01:48 PM
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Other daily comfort test “could you please get me that/put my phone in the charger..” and so on. Those I dismissed with either a witty remark or just a “no”. Correct response. Not a comfort test. If the sole purpose of the test is to prevent you from doing what you want to do (be lazy) so you can help her do what she wants to do (be lazy), then it is not a comfort test. It's a shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 04:26 PM
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When you read NMMNG - you will comes across a section about DEERing. This post is a real life example of DEERing.
/r/askMRP23/01/24 02:56 PM
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Good call out. However, I believe, on some level, I should take into account how others/reality treat me in order to understand where I stand so I can take action to improve. For instance, if no one wants to have sex with me (reality), then I must assume that something about me is not attractive. (reflection) If no one wants to buy things I am selling (reality), then I must suck at selling or selling something that sucks. (reflection) It has to be on a spectrum: what you believe vs what reality …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 02:41 PM
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OYS #12 (In many ways it feels like OYS #1. Finally waking up) 32/29gf, together for 6 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male, Ryan Stone YT, Book of Pook, Frame, Way of the Superior Man, Reading: Mindful Attraction Plan Weakness: I've been a nice guy. I've had covert contracts everywhere and lacked the spine to enforce boundaries. Also, I have a habit of manipulating myself out of achieving happiness by doubling down on things that make me unhappy. Why am I he…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 01:34 PM
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This pretty much sums it up Reaffirms that I should continue to do the work until I land a sydney sweeney by turning my girlfriend into one or leaving at a point when I can land one
/r/askMRP18/01/24 05:06 PM
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This is true. When we started dating i had some fucked up mental models. I wanted to date someone who I could bring around and people liked socially and had a good career ahead of them. I got what I wanted. I thought I could change all the other things. So far, no bueno. I’m working on changing myself now. We will see if she changes into who I need. She probably won’t but that I ok, I will be able to be who I need to be in order to be with who I should be.
/r/askMRP18/01/24 12:49 PM
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What do you mean vote with their feet? Their actions?
/r/askMRP16/01/24 10:36 PM
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You don’t believe you can achieve your fitness goals? It’s literally the 1 thing you can achieve in the most straight forward way. Nothing separates you and the goal other than discipline. No one/thing else involved. Track calories and hit the gym. That’s all. If you can’t do that, good luck with anything else. The pathway to success in the other parts of MRP are way more obscure.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 01:03 PM
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Regarding sexual jokes - these are just girls and probably girls that you met on the internet. If you have a chance to make a sexual joke, do it. What's the worst that can happen? She doesn't accept it, and you must match with another girl from Bumble? She will probably like it, if it is congruent with your vibe.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 12:24 PM
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OYS #11 32/29gf, together for 6 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male, Ryan Stone YT, Listening to Book of Pook Weakness: I seek external validation. Difficulty avoiding conflict. Mentally resentful. Allow life to pass me by. Why am I here?: Initially, I came here because there was a lack of sex in my relationship. We had been together for 3 years and were already in a dead bedroom. I knew I couldn't take the next step (propose) with this issue in my life. Mis…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 11:44 AM
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Great post. I fell into this trap for a year.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/24 01:52 AM
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I think I get it - Since I am focusing on sex and "fixing" our sex life, it has caused sex to disappear. I.e. What you are desperate for will avoid you. One would only be desperate for something that is required for them to live or gives them a since of validation. As a go through the layers of my psyche, I am still trying to figure out what does our sex life validate. Did it validate me? Or did it validate our relationship? I'm starting to believe was using "sex" as a way validate a relationshi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 03:06 PM
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What makes you say that?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 12:33 AM
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Can everyone do OP a favor and not answer his question?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 04:37 PM
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I found a solid therapist from the NMMNG resources section. The sessions started to help me realize some of the co-dependencies. It is hard to be OI when you are emotionally dependent. Discipline, time, and recognizing/eliminating covert contracts are also helping. I think you also need to buckle up and realize that you will likely be here for 1 YR +. So be patient and take RP practice/discipline seriously.
/r/askMRP09/01/24 04:23 PM
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You are still a drunk captain in her eyes. Why should she follow you? Because you read a couple of posts on the internet? It takes time to demonstrate leadership. Also, you may not have realized this yet, but you are the problem. You are still in the anger phase. Give it more time. Some people move out of the anger phase around the 3-month mark. Lastly, you have a massive covert contract. Just because you did a couple of things that strangers on the internet suggested, you expect her to respect …
/r/askMRP09/01/24 04:10 PM
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IR7 is what caused me to part ways with my relationship. The 800-pound gorilla (sexual & value incompatibility) will always be in the room. If you are on this subreddit before marriage, you shouldn't take this relationship to the next level. It's tough, but deep down inside, I'm sure you know she's not right for you. Take your time to process this. Remove all codependencies. Remove all the reasons why you "should" marry her. At the end of this exercise, once you are truly in an OI state, ask you…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 01:05 PM
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OYS #10 32/28gf, together for 6 years, no children Read:WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male, Ryan Stone YT, Listening to Book of Pook Weakness:I seek external validation. Difficulty avoiding conflict. Mentally resentful. Why am I here?:Initially, I came here because there was a lack of sex in my relationship. We had been together for 3 years and were already in a dead bedroom. I knew I couldn't take the next step (propose) with this issue in my life. Mission:Create value, be a thoug…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 12:38 PM
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I feel like I lead us here, so I need to lead us out. I am starting to think this is a rationalization.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 01:59 PM
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I see what you are saying here. Why would I stay if she is not working to keep the relationship together? It's not my job to fix it; I need to improve and lead us to where we need to go. I hold the value, I have abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 05:13 PM
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OYS #9 32/28gf, together for 6 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male, Listening to Book of Pook Weakness: I seek external validation. I have given up what I want to avoid conflict. Why am I here?: Initially, I came here because there was a lack of sex in my relationship. We had been together for 3 years and were already in a dead bedroom. I knew I couldn't take the next step (propose) with this issue in my life. Mission: Create value, be a thought leader, be s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 02:31 PM
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When you say “she is a reflection of you” do you mean she as a person is a reflection of me? I have the power to mold her specifically into an accurate image of myself? Or do you mean “your partner in general” where I should probably end this work on myself and then find someone new who is a reflection of what I want to be. I think the part that I am struggling to figure out the most is: If AWALT, what’s the point of ever leaving? Instead everyone should be turning their SO into their idealized …
/r/askMRP30/12/23 01:27 AM
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This is spot on. Skinny fat - started strong lifts 8 weeks ago. Leadership & masculinity - 3/10 Building attraction - starting to plan dates more The problem is me, but I can’t commit (propose)to her until I’ve fixed me and the relationship feels like one I want to marry into.
/r/askMRP29/12/23 07:16 PM
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Valid. I'll answer over here. She moved away from her hometown to be with me. She's been loyal to me. My friends love her. She does some stuff here and there. I'm not sure she does much to win my love on a day-to-day basis or a week-to-week basis. Or at least not things I appreciate. She's sad, I'm sad. A lot of it is due to my shitty leadership. I am holding out hope that the change in me will reflect in the change in her. But it's too late.
/r/askMRP29/12/23 03:33 PM
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She does a good job of keeping me close to friends and people I care about. It's something I used to value a lot. She is loyal to me, I honestly don't think she would branch swing if given the opportunity. (I believe I have a scarcity mentality about this after being cheated previously)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 09:36 PM
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OYS #830/27gf, together for 5 years, no children Read:WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male, Listening to Book of Pook Weakness:I seek external validation. I have given up what I want to avoid conflict. (This is the primary source of all my problems.) Why am I here?:Originally, I came here because there was a lack of sex in my relationship. We had been together for 3 years and were already in a dead bedroom. I knew I couldn't take the next step (propose) with this issue in my life. Mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/23 12:42 PM
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OYS #6 30/27gf, together for 5 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, Reading MMSLP & Listening to Rational Male Weakness: I seek external validation. I have given up what I want to avoid conflict. (This is the primary source of all my problems.) Why am I here?: Originally, I came here because there was a lack of sex in my relationship. We had been together for 3 years and were already in a dead bedroom. I knew I couldn't take the next step (propose) with this issue existing in my …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 09:37 AM
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This is a great call out. It shows that I still view sex as something she gives me. Thanks horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 11:24 AM
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This is a great call out. It shows that I still view sex as something she gives me. Thanks horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 11:24 AM
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This is a great call out. It shows that I still view sex as something she gives me. Thanks horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 11:23 AM
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OYS #5 30/27gf, together for 5 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, Reading MMSLP & Listening to Rational Male Weakness: I seek external validation. I often go against my internal feelings and thoughts to keep others happy. Why am I here?: Originally, I came here to see if I could turn my relationship around. See if I could change her into a woman who has an innate desire to look good for me and have sex with me constantly. (I now realize there is a massive fucking covert contrac…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 10:36 AM
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OYS #4 30/27gf, together for 5 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, NMMNG, Reading MMSLP & Listening to Rational Male Weakness: I will light myself on fire to keep everyone else warm. After four weeks, I am starting to say no frequently, and it has a lot of beneficial effects on my life. Why am I here?: I came here to see if I could turn my relationship around. See if I could change her into a woman who has an innate desire to look good for me and have sex with me constantly. (I now rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 02:30 PM
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OYS #3 30/27gf, together for 5 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, Currently Reading NMMNG Weakness: I will light myself on fire to keep everyone else warm. WISNIFG is becoming my bible. Why am I here?: I came here to see if I could turn my relationship around. See if I could change her into a woman who has an innate desire to look good for me and have sex with me constantly. Now, I am here as I am starting to understand this discipline is what I need to get everything I want out of li…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 01:23 PM
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OYS #1 30/27gf, together for 5 years, no children Read: WISNIFG, Many Posts, Currently Reading NMMNG Weakness: I will light myself on fire to keep everyone else warm. WISNIFG is becoming my bible. Why am I here?: Originally, I came here to see if I could turn my relationship around. See if I could change her into a woman who has an innate desire to look good for me and have sex with me constantly. Now, I am here as I am starting to understand this discipline is what I need to get everything I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 12:37 PM
2

Purpose Building community. Being a leader that helps the people I care about better themselves. Abundance and outcome independence mentality always. Why am I here? I live a great life on paper. I’ve been angry. Angry every day. It’s distracting me from my job and family (pulling me away from my mission). And it’s all from my girlfriend. Lack of sex and validation shriveled me up into a man ~30/yr old with a frame the size of a raisin. Lifting? Working on it, but I am currently traveling, so I’v…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 07:29 PM
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