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Not the spouse at all. I missed seeing my kids every day. Worst heart ache pain ever.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 04:41 PM
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Mine told her family and mine a bunch of lies about me. All of he family disowned me and part of mine(brother and sister in law) did as well. I kept my head down and rebuilt my life. I dated some. I got remarried to an amazing woman. Then the lies started again that we had met while married (not true) and my ex even told my wife’s ex the same lie (he went and told the kids). I never knew my wife until well after our divorce, but it didn’t matter. Fast forward ten years. I have full custody. My e…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 05:18 PM
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I’d wait to date. But if you don’t, pay cash. I was separated but living the single life. Had my own place to live and everything just trying to sort out divorce. When our divorce came up she subpoenaed my financials and two women I dated to try and prove I was using community funds. It cost $15k or so to battle over that. She got nowhere, but I gave her ammo. Be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 09:18 PM
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Remarried 4 years ago. Got my house in order starting with the one thing I can control….Me.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 03:45 AM
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Bud I’m ten years past you. It gets better year after year. Baby steps. Stay the course. You will get through this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 03:21 AM
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Not for everyone, but my shrink prescribed me Valium. It helped a ton.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:26 PM
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Great plan. I promise you won’t regret that plan.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:25 PM
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Mine did something similar. She filed (when we agreed in therapy to not file yet). I moved out and eventually got a place of my own. When I started living my life as a “single” guy she started rumors I was cheating in the community. I don’t recommend you start sleeping with anyone until your divorce is final.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:02 PM
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There is man. I promise. I worked on the one thing I could control, ME. Lots of therapy and reading. Stay healthy and in a routine for your kids sake. Limit alcohol to weekends. Be the best version of you that is possible. All the BS and the mud slinging etc will sort itself out in the end if you take the high road.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:23 PM
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I’m remarried and happier than I’ve ever been. I went through an ugly divorce and I’ve had to go back to court four times with someone that is extremely difficult. She’s recovering addict with little to no contact with the kids (at the kids choosing). It’s been a decade of hell. I was just talking to my wife last night. I don’t regret the journey to get to where I am today. I liken it Andy Dufresne having to travel through 900 yards of shit to come out clean on the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:50 PM
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How old are you? You might try broadening your target. Plenty of hot “40 something” soccer mom divorcees to go around.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 03:28 PM
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That’s like saying you got it from a tractor seat while wearing your swim suit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 12:43 AM
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I’d go easy here is kids are involved. No reason for either party to share this info with the public. This kind of stuff sticks around in neighborhoods for decades.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 07:07 PM
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Sorry to hear about this man. However, you’re smart and this was well played. I’d consult an attorney. I think you’re in pretty good shape.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:09 PM
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Same. It feels so great when with someone who actually WANTS to be with you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 11:00 PM
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Damn. It’s every three years in my state.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 03:10 PM
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How often can she order a reevaluation of your earnings?
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 12:19 AM
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Your situation sucks. I’m sorry about that. But don’t make your kids feel weird about this guy. You have no idea how long they will be in each others lives. None of this will make you feel better.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/23 12:42 AM
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Don’t lean into the “I want her to have a good life”. Fight for the lowest payments possible. If you want to give her more after the fact, then you have options. People change. Financial situations change. Don’t be on the hook for something when you can control giving her more if you choose.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 07:12 PM
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I wasn’t a good man back in the day. Cheated on numerous girlfriends. I would never ever cheat on my wife. People can change. I wouldn’t be here without therapy though. With that said, stay in therapy man. You’ve got some stuff to work through (as we all do).
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 07:09 PM
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Any chance you can and your gf can move there? Seems crazy but I’d hate to miss the next few years.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 09:07 PM
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Well said. I went through a NASTY divorce and said “never again will I remarry”. Fast forward and I’m remarried and couldn’t be happier. I remarried for two of the three reasons you stated (legal and religious). The social aspect I hadn’t thought of, but as a couple we have been very active in the community. It’s not for everyone. I liken it marriage to tattoos. Some love them and don’t understand why everyone doesn’t do it. Some hate them and can’t imagine anyone doing it. Some regret them afte…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 06:40 PM
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Dating before divorce was final. Trust me, you’re not ready.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 12:53 PM
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You need to move closer to your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 03:38 AM
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Stop sleeping with people until you’re divorced. Trust me on this one. Finish your divorce first.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 12:32 AM
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Lawyer up. Don’t leave the house. Cheating won’t matter much if any. Just go for 50-50 no child support. If she doesn’t want to do that tell her you will take her to court and subpoena her side piece and force him to testify.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 08:53 PM
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Yep. You have to move on and work on you. She can do whatever she wants now as long as it doesn’t involve your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 04:43 PM
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Mine did. She went from a great mom with great career and solid moral compass to an absolute shit show. She’s turned into a being a serial cheater, liar, and alcoholic. She’s been to rehab and struggled with alcohol and drugs. She lost a great paying job. She’s strung a guy along for years that she claimed was “just a friend” while she dated others. He was basically living there with my kids yet holding themselves out as “just friends”. My kids came home one day and they guy was living there. Sh…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 07:01 PM
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Married 14. Divorced for 4 years. I’ve been happily remarried now for 4 years and I’ve never been happier in my life. Divorce is like escaping Shawshank. You have to crawl through 900 yards of shit to come out clean on the other side. Now I’m finally free and living in “Zihuatanejo” so to speak. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:09 PM
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Damn bro. No advice I can give, but tons of well wishes. You’re a good man.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 12:50 AM
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What assets do you currently have? What is your current net worth?
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 10:53 PM
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You’d hope. I literally lost a brother and sister in law. People pick sides and it sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 12:32 AM
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People will hear one of the three sides of your story regardless. They will believe the one they want to. Your professional life , social life, and reputation will never be 100% the same. That’s great reasonwhy divorce sucks. You will lose friends, colleagues and even family. It’s almost unavoidable.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 10:23 PM
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Get out an volunteer! I coached pop Warner football. Three days a week practices and games on Saturday kept me out of the bars and helping kids. It changed my life. Still some of my best friends i have today I met there. I also met my future wife there as well!
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 08:02 PM
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If kids want you to get a card for her then take them and let them pick one out and sign it. That’s taking the road that’s best for your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 04:52 PM
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If you got her to sign a lease then maybe. But the idea is awful.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 12:14 AM
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I went through a multi year divorce costing me 60% of my net worth. I said the same thing. Eight years later I’m married to my best friend with a blended family. I have someone to grow old with. I’ve never been happier in my life. Marriage isn’t all bad. I do think marrying the right person is harder than people realize. A lot of warning signs are ignored by many.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 04:36 PM
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Therapy is your friend. You’ve got a lot going on. Trust me on this. I’ve been there.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 01:46 PM
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MOST of your friendships will never be the same. You have to embrace that and know it’s not personal. I became a GREAT Dad and volunteered every chance I could to be around my kids more. I also learned who my real friends were. You will get thicker skin and stop worrying about all the petty stuff with regards to worrying how people perceive you. Eventually, people will see all of the true colors of all parties.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 03:35 PM
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But they can retroactively order back child support. It happened to a friend of mine in Texas.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 09:00 PM
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I am not saying this is incorrect. I would just confirm with an attorney. I have absolutely heard of retroactive child support.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 06:55 PM
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OP I hear you and I’m sorry you’re facing this!! Man I went thru a NASTY divorce. Cost a ton of money and sucked bad. Then years later had to go back and get the decree amended which cost another $17k and took 18 months. It brought back a wave of shit I wasn’t expecting. But guys……it gets better!!!!! I’m remarried to a rock star of a woman and now have two “supplemental” kids to add to my two. Life kicks ass! We love our new family. I PROMISE It gets better guys.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 02:12 AM
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If you’re in shape, you could get laid as much as you want. The problem is, it can start affecting your day to day work life. Not to mention your moral compass. If you just want to have fun and not date serious, be honest. There’s still plenty of women out there. I hooked up with too many girls. It was almost impossible to not go out and get laid at least once a week if you wanted to. I woke up one day and found myself going out during the week and not being able to get my work done. I’m almost …
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 01:39 PM
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Man I’m so sorry. This is triggering for me. My ex did the same shit and we had to file “motion to compel”. We had an agreement several times and she just wouldn’t sign it. I feel for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this. If you want some advice, spend the money now to get it done RIGHT. Read the SHIT out of that decree. I promise you, you’re ex is going to be impossible to co-parent with. Think about where you might be in three, five or seven years. If you get remarried and your new wife ha…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 02:32 PM
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AA can’t hurt but neither could therapy on your own. You both likely need some help to get through this. Alcohol is most likely not her problem with you. I’m sure there is something deeper there and that’s the outlet she has chosen.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 05:38 PM
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My advice (not a lawyer). Just my advice. 1)Make your county the primary county the kids will live in. Don’t move for her. Keep them where they grew up. 2)Get her to start paying child support. There’s no reason she shouldn’t be 3) don’t go for full custody. Kids need their moms AND dads 4) clean up your decree including extra curricular expenses etc. she should pay her fair share now that she’s going to make more money.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 02:07 AM
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