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ASK RPWallhailthebitch/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:22 PM
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DISCUSSIONallhailthebitch/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 11:40 PM
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CULTUREallhailthebitch/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 12:55 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEallhailthebitch/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 05:50 PM
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Oh you're far too nice, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 09:24 PM
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I actually really appreciate this response. Thanks so much for taking the time to write it out, it's really great food for thought.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 08:27 PM
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Just wanna say thank you to everyone who has commented. This is why I love this community, tough love and helping me think differently. You've all been such a huge help. <3
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 07:35 PM
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You make a really good point. I will definitely start making that change, thank you for pointing it out, I'd have never thought of it that way lol
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 07:10 PM
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No he definitely didn't ask me to boost his confidence. Actually most times he tells me I make him feel great about himself. Maybe you're right. Do you think I should be taking a step back, or keeping my behaviour the same? Because I definitely don't want to be coming off like I'm trying to take the lead. Just trying to be the best for him :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 06:53 PM
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Very well said
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 06:48 PM
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I also want to be sure that I'm not failing him at all. It's the duty of a woman to ensure that she's being as loving and caring as possible. And I wanted to make sure that there wasn't an option I wasn't pursuing to make him as happy as I can. It's more a dissatisfaction with myself than him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 06:43 PM
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Definitely not upset that he's ambitious, it's part of why I love him! Just want to know if there's any way I can help him feel like he's a perfectly great man right now. If you think I should leave him be and let him feel those negative emotions (to let them help him propel himself forward) then I will definitely give that option a shot as well. I just want him to be happy and comfortable in his abilities.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 06:40 PM
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I really like this idea! I'll definitely give it a shot :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 06:33 PM
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As I mentioned before, men are hard wired to want that. Everything in their basic animalistic instincts tells them it's the right thing to do because it will help further the species. Women don't have that urge because we are the child-bearers, and we don't need more than one man to get us pregnant. So no, I don't think he will ever rid himself of that urge, every man has it. It's not their fault, and I do think it is a bit unfair of you to ask that he completely rid himself of something he cann…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 01:05 AM
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There's only so much we can do for you hun. On most posts there are conflicting pieces of advice, but it's up to you to decide what you think is best. We're just strangers on the internet, you're the one in the relationship. If I were you I would ask myself: is this man worth the time an effort needed to fix yourself? If the answer is yes, then do it. To me, it sounds like this is the only real problem you have. As long as he is not betraying your trust and is doing his best to ensure your happi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 12:34 AM
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I think at that point, you just need to learn to STFU about it. I know it's super hard, and it's a good first step that you recognize that you're hurting the relationship, but I think you need to give yourself some tough love here. Practice self restraint. Maybe start with things like only kinda bother you that you usually bitch about, and practice just shutting up about it. I know it sounds abrasive, but that's what I did and it worked. Be rough on yourself, practice self restraint, and you wil…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 11:30 PM
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I think you're overthinking this. He's obviously totally and completely willing to change for you, why aren't you willing to change for him? I don't mean opening yourself up to three ways, I mean allowing yourself to let go of the anxiety. If you actually trust this man, and he's saying that he would give everything he has to make you happy, then I think you should be giving your all to make him happy as well. This guy seems really nice and I'd hate to see you ruin your relationship with him bec…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 10:30 PM
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Question one: how long have you been together? Question two: have you talked to him about how you feel? If so, what did he say? If not, why haven't you? He seems like a logical and nice man, I'm sure he would be open to hearing what you have to say.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 09:25 PM
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As someone who does live with my SO before marriage, I think it's great. I have no doubts in my mind that we will always be together, and our relationship is extremely healthy. We originally didn't want to live together before marriage, because of our religious beliefs, but circumstances forced us into it. It did nothing but bring us closer together and give each other a better understanding of who the other person was.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 02:07 AM
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Distracting yourself can do wonders for that kind of anxiety. Also, my rule of thumb is that I will trust anyone until they give me a reason not to trust them. Give him the benefit of the doubt unless he gives you solid tangible proof that he untrustworthy. There will always be prettier, more interesting women out there, but he chose you over them for a reason. One of the most attractive traits a woman can have is confidence, and even if you're not as pretty or as interesting as someone else, co…
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 01:42 AM
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I have to agree with the responses the other ladies have given: it is not your responsibility to take care of your family. It is unfortunate that your father left, but your mother should have taken the reigns instead of shifting her responsibility onto her daughter. You are 20 years old, your whole life ahead of you and stars in your eyes. You deserve to have time to meet that cute firefighter and have ten kids. You may feel like a total bitch, but you need to tell your mom that it's time to fig…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 01:35 AM
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Honestly dear, I feel for you. But there is a bright side to everything and you need to start looking at it. You may not have experience with boys, but that brings a sense of purity and innocence that a lot of men will find attractive. I know I wish I had waited until I found my current fiancé. I know other things might be rough right now, but it's time to give yourself tough love. There's nothing less attractive than a depressed woman. Do things that make you happy, take up a new hobby, read so…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 04:59 PM
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To be honest, I was raised by a very successful single mother (she made nearly six figures a year) and I was also separately raised by my father who was a deadbeat and abusive. I'm honestly very surprised that I turned out the way I have, feeling totally comfortable letting myself be supported by my man. I have moments where I worry what I would do if he somehow died and I have this huge gap in my working history. I'm very conscious of financial things, and very frugal, but overall, I don't know…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 09:02 PM
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You do make a good point here. I'm just a bit sensitive on the subject obviously. :P
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 09:48 PM
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I think he's being smart. He obviously likes you, but wants to take things slow to make sure you're not the rebound girl. I would tread carefully though, he's going to be lonely and sad, and will probably one point or another try to take things too fast. Give it a few months, and if he's still into you, it could turn into a LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 08:43 PM
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I usually don't encourage it either, but it is my own personal opinion that this is a bad situation that she should not be putting her children through. As I said, I had a father similar to the one described by OP, and it was incredibly hard living the kind of life he is providing. You learn so much in childhood, and they're not learning anything from this man other than what not to do. If it was just her, I would say that with some serious work on her part, she might be able to make it work. Bu…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 08:38 PM
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I understand that as a man, this is hard to deal with, and I understand why he's having a hard time doing things like seeing a financial advisor. But there is a time where you need to swallow your pride and put your family first, and that time in now. He doesn't seem to care about the wellbeing of your family, just because his pride as a man is on the line. A true man would put his children above all else, would do anything to protect them and provide for them because that is what men do to say …
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 08:06 PM
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8am: I get up with with my hubby before he goes to work (currently working towards getting up early enough to make him breakfast) 9:30: hubby goes off to work and I get showered and ready for my day 10:00: I'll pick up around the house and get something to eat and then run any errands that need to be done 12:00 do all my daily chores (dusting, dishes, laundry, taking out trash, etc) 3:00 I make my hubby lunch and take it to him so I can spend his lunch with him 4:30: I'll come home and have some…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 12:04 AM
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Current housewife here. Honestly, it's rough. But it's well worth it. People will judge you, tell you you're lazy, tell you that your SO is a misogynistic piece of crap, etc, etc, etc. But if you're really dedicated to doing what you want, you learn to develop a thick skin. As long as you're financially stable, there is nothing stopping you aside from what other people think of you.
/r/AntiFeminists08/03/17 12:59 AM
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He pretty obviously likes you. It's always hard to tell when you're the person being liked, but he's definitely into you. He might just be taking things slowly, or he's nervous because he might not know if you like him back. If I were you, I would just let him figure it out. If he takes too much longer, I would say he's pretty beta and lacks self confidence and you might not want that. Leave it up to him, and if he grows some balls, he'll make a move. Either that, or he wants some friend with be…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 11:38 PM
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I think you've got a GREAT mindset for keeping the relationship healthy and loving as you grow into the more serious stages. It's incredibly important to keep yourself being the person he fell in love with and being loving and affectionate. I've been with my fiancé for two years, and I have to say the most important basis for our relationship is three things: We always tell each other the truth, even if it's hard to hear. Don't ever shy away from things just because it might not be a pleasant co…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 11:31 PM
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Well, as someone who did in fact leave a piece of crap partner for a better one, I can say that we do in fact do it. In order for you to be able to follow someone and be the kind of partner we talk about here, there has to be a capable male in the relationship. I don't think it's settling, so much as recognizing that a real man is not always going to be mega-wealthy and successful, but is worth our time and effort despite their downfalls, and making a good relationship work to its best ability. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 11:16 PM
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I totally agree with you! There is nothing more off-putting than someone who can do nothing but complain and self-criticize. Being able to say "thank you" when some gives you a compliment rather than "ugh no, I'm so ugly", or having the confidence to say "Man, I'm awesome!" Is such an attractive quality. The people around you will be more positive, and they will admire and respect you for it. Not to mention it's such an important quality to have in a relationship, if you can't love yourself, som…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 11:08 PM
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I know it feels like someone just ripped your heart out and stomped on it with spiked shoes right now, but trust me when I say it will get better. There are people who only come into your life to teach you something, and then when you have learned what you needed to, they leave. It hurts, but know this: when the person you were meant to be with comes along, your ex will pale in comparison. I've been right where you're at, and when my fiancé came into my life, it was like everyone I'd ever been w…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 11:02 PM
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To be perfectly honest, Jackie Kennedy is both a style and personally muse for me lol, she was always so beautifully put together while also being a very normal looking woman. Even on her lazy days, she always had a scarf to hide her messy hair and some gorgeous sunglasses to hide those bags under her eyes. She always looked and acted like the epitome of class. She was also always so gracious and respectful. She seemed like the kind of woman that would have been the model stay at home mother.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 10:55 PM
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I am so beyond grateful that I have such a hardworking fiancé. He just had an 8 day week working 11 hour shifts every day. He's such a boss, and appreciate how hard he works to make sure we have a good and stable life. I am grateful that I've had the ability to try some new recipes lately! We were getting tired of eating the same things all the time, and working to improve my cooking ability has brought us some seriously tasty dinners! I am grateful for God's presence in my life, and knowing tha…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 10:43 PM
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Does what he says he's going to do Is honest even when it's hard to hear the truth Confident Financially secure Independent from his family (dad can't be paying for his phone bill or making payments on his car for him) Realistic view on life Ambitious Knows what he wants/needs from a woman, and it isn't afraid to make those wants and needs crystal clear Makes an effort to ensure that the relationship is high on his priority list Is willing to admit he had has flaws and actively works to improve …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/17 11:31 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, why do you have that perspective?
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 07:52 PM
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I tend to just wear leggings and a tank top or a cute shirt. When it's cold out, I love adorable sweaters.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:48 AM
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I'm 21 and feel the same way already lol. Just know that getting older is actually a great thing, you're becoming a classy lady instead of a young girl. Try out some new stores and see what you like there. Places like Nordstrom and Banana Republic have really nice stuff, and if that's a bit too pricy Macy's and Kohl's have really great cute stuff for people who aren't 19 anymore lmao. Everything is crop tops and booty shorts anymore anyways, so I think it's okay to not look "hip and young".
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:42 AM
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Exactly! I barely have a down moment at all. I wake up early in the morning, run all the errands, take care of all the finances, clean up every room, make all the meals, etc. I don't know where people get "lazy" from, but even when I explain everything I do, that's what they take from it. Hearing everyone's replies here have made me feel so much better, and I feel like I really can let people's bad opinions slide off my back because I know I'm not alone anymore. It's a nice feeling for a change …
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 06:01 PM
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Yeah probably lol, I've noticed that it does that on my phone too sometimes.
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 07:53 AM
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I suppose I'll add my own. I personally really enjoy theglamoroushousewife.com it has a plethora of information about quite a few topics. I could spend hours just perusing around this site lol
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:07 AM
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I can't wait to try some out, it all looks delicious!
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 12:15 AM
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I do absolutely everything I can to make sure that when he is home, that is his time of absolute relaxation. When he's at work, I make sure everything is perfectly clean and tidy, I have dinner ready by the time he walks in the door, if it's been a particularly long day I will give him a foot massage while he watches some Netflix. I just mainly make sure that he feels free to leave work at work, and forget the stresses of his day while he's at home. It makes such a huge difference.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 11:26 PM
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I tend to try and mix it up a lot because I don't want our meals to be boring and predictable. For breakfasts, my go to is things like pancakes (which you can spice up with chocolate, berries, or different spices like cinnamon or nutmeg, plus so many toppings options!), and scrambles with things like bacon, onions, and peppers. You can throw anything into a scramble and it's different every time! Dinner is the most important meal for us because most times he's not home for lunch or breakfast, so…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 11:20 PM
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Honestly, it sounds like he needs to buck up and either get a better job or let you work. Part of being a man is realizing when you need help, and accepting it. To say he would LEAVE you if you got a job is really extreme and manipulative. I'm all for women staying at home, I think it's where we should be, but if you're really on the rocks financially, he needs to step up and realize that this is reality and problems don't just go away if you ignore them. If this were me, I'd dump this guy and f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 11:09 PM
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Just be gracious, use good manners, make pleasant conversation, and leave the rest up to him. You'll go on a lot of dates before you find someone you're serious about, so just use the dates as a learning tool! You're new to this, so just try to relax, have fun, and enjoy your time with your date. Don't worry about what comes next. If he is interested in anything further, let him contact you and make those plans.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 08:41 PM
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And I'm sure that you're incredibly happy and fulfilled, sitting there on your computer making hateful messages to people you don't even know.... judge yourself before you judge others.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 09:26 PM
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I think what this comes down to is what is more important to you, being a housewife, or writing. I've actually been in the exact same boat you're in currently. I'm a stay at home wife, but I also love writing. Not to be published, but just because it's satisfying and makes me happy. What I did was I did everything I needed to do that day while my husband was at work, and if I had time left before he came home, I would write. That's still how I do things, so maybe give that a try.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 09:24 PM
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This is just a man doting on his pregnant wife.... I think it's sweet that he cares that much, and she should feel grateful to have someone who goes above and beyond to make sure their child is safe. This is like saying a man looking at your ass while you walk down the street is sexual assault. You may not like it, but it's definitely not abuse. It's all innocent and good-natured. She just needs to calm down and think from his perspective for maybe even just a second. Such a selfish way of think…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 08:56 PM
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I'm 21 and been engaged for a year. I was totally blown away by how amazing this community is when I found it a few days ago. I live in such a liberal place that finding anyone who agrees with my opinions is near impossible, so finding such like-minded women was a HUGE relief. I felt like I was the only one sometimes!
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 02:23 AM
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Good advice, thank you .^
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 10:06 PM
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That's a way I haven't thought of it before! I'll definitely be using that the next time someone brings it up :)
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:58 PM
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We've gone into very long discussions where we talked about kids, and he has said that if I wanted kids, he would be okay with it, but he'd prefer not to. He's also the one who asked me to quit my job and stay home. He's very happy with how things are set up, and so am I! We also said when we turn 30, and we are more financially stable, we might revisit the idea of children, but ultimately we don't want them now at the very least. I guess I was more saying, I just wanted a little support on my l…
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:46 PM
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