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| 2 | How do I actually get laid?A neighborhood lottery, usually run by a local organized crime outfit. Works the same as state or national lotteries now, but instead of numbers being picked at random, they would usually be something like the last so many digits of the total amount of money bet at the racetrack the previous day, which was published in the newspaper, and was functionally random. That eliminated the need to trust a black box randomizer. | /r/seduction | 17/06/22 05:14 AM |
| 2 | European girls I've met are much much friendlier than the American girls, and its throwing me off-balance. Ideas?Well at least men don't act that way. Only reasonable ideals for us. | /r/seduction | 21/09/15 04:54 AM |
| 6 | European girls I've met are much much friendlier than the American girls, and its throwing me off-balance. Ideas?Is that what Swedish feminism is? Is that why Swedish has a gender-neutral pronoun now? And Swedish toy catalogs make sure to have boys playing with "girl toys" and girls playing with "boy toys?" | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 11:38 PM |
| 3 | European girls I've met are much much friendlier than the American girls, and its throwing me off-balance. Ideas?Because it's an unreasonable, ridiculous, unsupported reverse-nationalistic generalization, with a nice dose of sexism on top. If you can support the assertion that American women are inhuman (not as "humanly" as European women, and engaging in "inhuman behavior"), it might gain some credibility, but for now, it's bullshit. | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 11:33 PM |
| 10 | European girls I've met are much much friendlier than the American girls, and its throwing me off-balance. Ideas?I don't know what it says about us that I can't tell whether this is hilarious satire or your depressing actual thoughts | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Why Texting Her Is Ruining Your ChancesIt's not ideal, and it's always better to get face to face if you can, but it's about working with what you have. Younger people don't talk on the phone much. The scenes in the movie Swingers with the answering machine just aren't relevant to people in that demographic anymore. So you text, and you get the hang of when and how to text, same as you used to have to do with calling. That's what he's saying, not that the post is wrong. | /r/seduction | 19/05/15 03:38 PM |
| 1 | I see a lot of guys talk about girls approaching them, why does it happen and why doesn't it happen to me?Yeah, I get you on subjectivity, that's just not one I've heard before. Though I hadn't heard "nice forearms" either, even though apparently every woman on reddit looks out for that. | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 03:52 PM |
| 1 | I see a lot of guys talk about girls approaching them, why does it happen and why doesn't it happen to me?I don't think I've ever heard veins on arms being one of the most attractive traits in men | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 03:38 PM |
| 20 | What are your most effective online openers? Mine surprised me...Where does she think Kevin Durant plays? | /r/seduction | 01/05/15 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Some things I have learned in seduction.Damn, high school's changed. Where do you live? | /r/seduction | 19/03/15 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Some things I have learned in seduction.Just get high and do drugs? No sports or anything like that? | /r/seduction | 19/03/15 11:41 AM |
| 11 | How to respond to "I have a boyfriend" when she likely actually does and it isn't just a random girl who you will never see again?Well yeah, there's a gap between skulking around until she's available and leaving without a word. Like you said, just be a decent person. | /r/seduction | 27/02/15 01:35 PM |
| 7 | "All guys want is sex" shit testHe's saying that almost all of the "witty comebacks" posted (in pretty much any thread asking for witty comebacks) are garbage, which is 100% true. I don't know about you, but I'll take anecdotal evidence from someone who usually gives good advice over cheesy lines all day. | /r/seduction | 26/02/15 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Announcing Red Pill Magazine - A magazine from the heart of the manosphereMovember campaigns come to mind. Not necessarily political activism, but what political change have non-moderates brought about? | /r/MensRights | 25/02/15 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Sorry for the delay! As promised, the texting book is finally up on Amazon and I’ve made it free for the day for Seddit to grab itNow I want to know what your last name is. Hitchcock? Gcunt? | /r/seduction | 24/02/15 12:48 PM |
| 4 | Eliminating "Shit Tests".Calling a rejection a shit test is common, and removes blame from the person telling the story. That's what I'm getting at. 8 times out of 10, a "shit test" isn't a shit test at all. | /r/seduction | 15/02/15 10:16 PM |
| 7 | Eliminating "Shit Tests".It's tough to find a good article on the subject, because a lot of guys can interpret anything a woman says as a shit test. It's one of the most overused terms, and is usually code for "She was telling me she wasn't interested, but I didn't realize or can't handle that, so I'm going to call it a shit test." That being said, this was a very good article, except for the fact that "I have a boyfriend" usually isn't flirting (shit-testing), it's a way of saying "I may or may not have a boyfriend, bu… | /r/seduction | 15/02/15 06:17 PM |
| 1 | 29 Year old virgin - 4 questionsBut! But! Rule 1! And Rule 2! And only ugly guys are creepy!!!! | /r/seduction | 06/02/15 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Sit next to that girlWell look how late our Thanksgiving break is! But seriously, it's just not standardized. Some people go back the first or second week of January, some people go back this late. | /r/seduction | 20/01/15 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Sit next to that girlSome colleges. | /r/seduction | 20/01/15 05:05 PM |
| 30 | Sit next to that girlShow off your sick negs | /r/seduction | 20/01/15 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Living in a gay neighborhood has taught me some things.Most gay men act like people. Some take an active role in pursuing others some of the time, which is typically the "man's job" in m/f seduction. Why is it the man's job? Because that's how it's always been. That's the expectation. There's nothing biological that says "men must pursue" or "women can't ask guys out." It's all a societal influence. That's why stories like this that show a different perspective can be eye-opening. When you are pursued, you can see what weirds people out or makes the… | /r/seduction | 02/01/15 04:22 PM |
| 0 | Make It Simple: You Are Not Creepy and She Is Not Cruel. Get out of your head by forgetting about your "needs". See and live in the larger social world -- a world that also includes desirable women.It would go over very well there. Their game is calibrated toward attracting insecure women who would do things like bully and belittle someone trying to have a good time in their presence, and they advocate strategies like "belittle them back" when faced with that behavior. Personally, I find it easier to just associate with quality people. The problem solves itself. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 07:27 PM |
| 0 | Make It Simple: You Are Not Creepy and She Is Not Cruel. Get out of your head by forgetting about your "needs". See and live in the larger social world -- a world that also includes desirable women.You might want to rewrite your post, because: No one seems to understand what you're trying to say. For someone who's not an asshole, you're sure coming across as an asshole. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 07:18 PM |
| 0 | Make It Simple: You Are Not Creepy and She Is Not Cruel. Get out of your head by forgetting about your "needs". See and live in the larger social world -- a world that also includes desirable women.I actually agree with most of what you're saying here. One-on-one interaction is great, but the real game is played in groups. A lot of things posted here either miss that point completely or underplay it when the fact of the matter is that night game requires good group skills. The issue I had is that your view of social interaction is way too confrontational. That's an easy mentality to slip into when you're not someone with naturally good skills, and in a way it makes sense in that context. Y… | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 07:02 PM |
| -2 | [FR] When the girl is socially retarded, not youUsername checks out. | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 06:32 PM |
| 23 | Need seduction tips for a female. How to seduce men? I work in a tv channel and go out on weekends onlyApproach. The advice on this sub is gender-neutral. There are guys who say women can get any guy they want, just by going up to them, but we both know that's untrue. As a woman though, you will be playing on easy mode. Guys aren't approached that often, so the very act of going up and talking to someone is huge. Be charismatic, be fun, and don't be afraid to touch are the basic principles that should give you some success. | /r/seduction | 09/12/14 08:10 PM |
| 0 | jealus girlfriend opener, Classic openersYep. Being direct shows confidence, and it's easier to stay congruent if your "persona" is who you really are. | /r/seduction | 09/12/14 02:48 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14Wanting to keep the other party interested in a conversation no more "putting her on a pedestal" than wanting her to have a nice time when she's out with you. The issue is when you prioritize her interest, or her fun over your own. | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 08:40 PM |
| 2 | I'm in a downward spiral.That's what I'm saying. If you can break down these compounding problems into smaller things, fix what you can fix now, and figure out how to fix the rest, it'll help you break out. | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 04:25 PM |
| 1 | I'm in a downward spiral.If that works for him, then yes. If that introduces more stress, then no. | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Fizzling Out?Sounds like you've got a form of Steve Sax syndrome. Relax and get out of your head. | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 03:42 PM |
| 4 | I'm in a downward spiral.Relax. Take an hour or two, put on some music that calms you down, and just try to rearrange your mind. Try meditating, even. You've got some problems, but it's nothing insurmountable. After you've taken the time to relax, come up with an action plan. Pick out one problem. What can you do right now to fix it? What do you have to do tomorrow? What steps are you going to take after that? Write it down and be specific. Break the problem down and it won't seem so intimidating. Don't worry so much ab… | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Part 2 from the confidence series is up ,awesome read !Even for an emotional, individualized topic like seduction, an article will have the greatest effect if you follow the same basic format you've been learning since grade school. Start with the intro. Broad strokes. What are you going to teach me? Why is is important? Why should I keep reading? Pre-frame the concept in a way that shows its importance and makes it interesting. The intro here wasn't too bad, actually. The real meat of the article comes next. Step by step. How do you execute the con… | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 01:06 AM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14Yeah, it is, but you work with what you've got. Asking in person would be better than asking over text which would be better than asking over Facebook, which is better than not asking | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 12:10 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14Asking is better than not asking | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Part 2 from the confidence series is up ,awesome read !Do you write these articles? Besides the formatting issues, which are cut back, but still obnoxious, I think you might benefit from drawing up an outline first to organize your thoughts. I couldn't understand half of the last article, and I don't have the patience to try to figure out what's being said here. What's with the strikethroughs? I'd love to discuss our different approaches, but when I can't understand yours, that's an issue. | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 11:34 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14No guarantee that she already has a boyfriend, she just might not be interested in you as more than a friend. Either way, this is a good opportunity to practice your social skills. Like you said, you can never have too many friends. That also speaks to your other question though. If you're cool actually being her friend (as opposed to a hanger-on with the eventual goal of dating her), then there's no reason you shouldn't be friends. If you're doing things right, you'll be being yourself no matte… | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 08:01 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14How about before class? Is she the kind of person who walks in when the professor does, or is she there early? Even a 5-minute conversation is better than what you have now. | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 07:53 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14Approach anxiety is a thing but it can't be this bad. Oh yes it can. How can I overcome this? Just have to take the risk and power through it. You'll get past it eventually. I read so many articles, but it seems that wasn't enough. Nope. Do you guys have any additions motivation/tricks you use? At the end of the day, the best thing is to approach. There's almost no downside. | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Recommended books not about pick-up?The writing on that show is amazing. Some of the best on tv | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 07:43 PM |
| 2 | [FR] My first real date.I liked the part where you and her each wanted something different from the relationship, and you were direct with her about it. Keep going, you're doing well | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Having a bit of relapse after a good few weeksDon't beat yourself up, it happens, and it's not your fault. I know you know that, and I also understand that it sucks anyway, but just try to relax. It'll go better next time. | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 05:30 PM |
| 1 | How and whether you would approach seduction during business meeting?Well you obviously recognize that you're being flirted with and it might not be sincere, so you could... Ignore it? As for "turning the tables," usual business/seduction crossover applies. Be confident, be assertive, come off as someone who knows what they're talking about. That impresses men and women. But for God's sake, don't try to pick up a sales rep. Stay professional, do your thing, represent your business as well as you possibly can. If any of them find that impressive, they'll come to y… | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Why, When, and How to Friend Zone LadiesThis post is good, but I probably would have titled it Why, When, and How you Should be Friends with Women. This is just my preference, but I hate the term "friendzone." It just brings up a mental image of someone who never made a move, but lays all the blame on the girl for not showing interest in him. I'm not saying the friendzone doesn't exist, but anyone who complains about being "friendzoned" has themselves to blame for either not making their intentions clear, or by recognizing that both p… | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 02:35 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?Haha, if I could have answered your question, I would have. I don't typically go after girls who aren't close in age. I just want someone who's close enough that my life isn't completely alien to her the way it would be if I dated an 18 or 19 year old. If you do want another little bit of anti-redpill writing though, feel free to read the edit on my previous post. I got it in at the same time you posted this one. More "big picture" instead of "help with the one thing you asked for," but hey, it'… | /r/seduction | 04/12/14 12:15 AM |
| 2 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?I'm glad you appreciate our conversation! I was actually worried that you wouldn't be thrilled at the way we traded unrelated walls of text all day. It might make me sound like a pussy, but I've gotten away from arguing with TRP adherents on the internet. It's one thing if you're actually having a conversation, but arguing through text is usually exasperating, with little to no benefit. I'm just a random person on the internet. No one has any reason to listen to me, and like I said, once you "ta… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Is being direct always a good thing?Hey do you speak English? What does this word here on the menu mean? I wish I had a dictionary on my phone. I don't live in a world where this would ever be a good opener. (edit: I see he operates out of Brazil sometimes. That makes more sense then.) The chief advantage of going direct over indirect is that it's easier to present a confident image because: You're displaying confidence by actually stating your intentions instead of "playing the game" where you "trick" her into having a conversati… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 10:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?Rekt. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Don't ever take your looks for granted.What do you look like, if you don't mind me asking. I know your face is one of the few things you can't change, and It's got to be tough to hear that that's where your issue lies. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 09:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?You're right. It's better to have 30 reports that say "I asked a girl out for the first time and got rejected" than 30 guys sucking down advice and not putting it into action. But if someone asks for advice, I'm more than happy to give it. I like being helpful, and that often has the nice side effect of crowding out that "get laid quick" advice you dislike so much. Win/win/win, I suppose. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 09:27 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?Ok, here's the point where I think we were talking past each other: it doesn't matter to me when a thread has some red pill advice in it, because overall the sub is moving in a very good direction. If someone comes and asks "what's the first thing I should do?" the top answer is "read Models." If someone comes and says "I'm making progress in seduction, I've read x and y books and I've approached z amount of girls in this way. Any tips?" one of the first five answers will be "Read Models. If som… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 08:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?I'm glad you liked my post, but there are two things we're probably going to have to agree to disagree on. A corked bat does give more batspeed for the length than a full-weight bat would give, but for the vast majority of hits, it won't impart more force than a lighter whole bat, or even a slower-swung unmodified bat. UMass Lowell did a bunch of baseball studies 10-15 years ago, and I'm reasonably sure that was the conclusion they came to. The advice to "raise SMV and maintain frame" isn't a ch… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 07:37 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?Um...Wow. Here's the thing. Your worldview in that post is extremely close to theirs, but I actually think theirs is more accurate. You both recognize that the current generation of men is missing the ability to attract women, but while you blame the previous generation for not teaching the necessary skills, they blame feminism for breeding a generation of entitled sluts. Now I'm not going to deny that feminism and social liberalism has changed society, but I do believe it's been a net benefit. … | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 04:42 PM |
| 9 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 12/1/14Yep. At the very least don't lead with "you've been working hard this year, so you deserve a treat." It sounds like the creepy setup to a bad porno. I'd suggest something like: Hey X, you doing anything [day]? I was thinking of going down to [place], if you were interested. If she asks for a reason, you can respond with something like "you've earned a night out after working so hard," and if she says she'll need a place to stay, you can say you've got space. No need to cram it all into one messa… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Pretend that today is the most attractive that you'll ever be.Agreed, up to a point. I'm not sure he'll ever be more attractive than he was in that coat at last year's super bowl. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 03:01 PM |
| 5 | If men are attracted to breasts and butt in a woman, then what do women look for in a man?This is the thread you're looking for | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 02:44 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?Eh, maybe it's the way I think, but I always took those two concepts as the grains of truth in their awful philosophy. It's pretty much what we teach: everything's a numbers game, so do what you can to make yourself attractive and that will raise your number, and you have no reason not to be confident. There are differences though. Referring to SMV subtly takes the human element out of the "numbers game" by framing it as an economic concept, which is probably very effective at getting the concep… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 02:34 PM |
| 9 | Dancing - a criminally underrated skill for your gameDo girls ever grow out of flocking around the guy whose guitar repertoire consists entirely of a horribly off-key version of Wonderwall and assorted power chords (maybe with a bit of "wagon wheel" thrown in)? Honest question, I stopped going to those sort of parties after freshman year of college | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 02:17 PM |
| 9 | Is anyone else as disillusioned about 'nice' dinner dates as I am?This is probably the best answer. If this really is something you do for your friends, and your male friends appreciate it, but your female friends don't, then you need better female friends. I was about to say you're being a "nice guy," but you're really not. A dinner out is a fairly big time commitment, and genuine appreciation is the least you can ask for. As for reciprocation, if you're all on the same financial footing, and they're not even offering reciprocation in kind (spending time with… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Smart Kid SyndromeEverything sucks. But you do what you can to make stuff suck less. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Smart Kid SyndromeJust making sure! It's a tough cycle to get out of, and can slide into depression really easily. Glad to know you're doing well though! | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Smart Kid SyndromeSometimes people grasp certain concepts well, and all that really needs to be learned is a list of terms, formulas, etc. that help you put those concepts into action. I can't really speak, because I've never taken orgo, or anything outside high school chemistry, but some of my best grades in university were gotten by reading through an econ textbook the night before the exams. I assume someone who had a natural aptitude for chemistry could do the same for that "more difficult" subject. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Smart Kid SyndromeYou're not alone, but you have to fix that. Like, yesterday. Trust me on this one | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Help... Get a number while working....without being allowed to ask for itYeah, it's a tough situation. Smile, eye contact, all that. The more conversations you can get in, the better your chances. That being said, it's not much of a chance, unless you can get the word out that amusement park workers can't ask for numbers. Or break the rules. | /r/seduction | 18/11/14 01:02 AM |
| 2 | I get smiled at and am totally confused...Honestly, it could go either way. I don't know where you are, but I get random smiles even in the traditionally frigid Northeast. Look for some other indication (eye contact that lasts just slightly too long is a good one) to go with the smile and you'll know for sure | /r/seduction | 17/11/14 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Help... Get a number while working....without being allowed to ask for itAs much as I despise this advice and always downvote it: Sigh... Step 1. Be attractive. Step 2. Don't be unattractive. Keep having whatever conversations you have and pray, I guess. There's always a chance you'll score on a shot you didn't take, so you might as well keep your stick on the ice and be in the right place. | /r/seduction | 17/11/14 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Smart Is Sexy (Intelligence), and how to signal itAnd you're saying the article is focusing on bar and club game instead of lower-key, lower-energy general game, day game and social circle game. It doesn't specify, so I took it as a general guide. Intelligence doesn't matter if no one can hear you speak, you're right. But in the grand scheme of things, it's very important. | /r/seduction | 17/11/14 08:47 PM |
| 4 | Smart Is Sexy (Intelligence), and how to signal itThe second one is really the only one that will help you get and keep a girl. Kindness and intelligence tend to be way more important than looks or money in relationships. You're not getting quality girls to date you if you're an idiot dickbag, no matter how often you hit the gym. | /r/seduction | 17/11/14 08:24 PM |
| 1 | How to Avoid the Friend-Zone: Unveiling the SecretIt is. Throw the ball in the hoop over and over, and eventually you'll internalize the underlying skills you need. You could write blog posts on the importance of follow-through, or why you even need a guide hand when your dominant hand does all the work, but if you're actually in a game, you can't afford to overthink your mechanics. You just have to put the ball in the hoop. It's funny, in that last post, I considered mentioning this, but left it out. Willy Mays, one of the best hitters in base… | /r/seduction | 16/11/14 05:58 PM |
| 3 | Women will reveal exactly how to seduce them if you ask the right questions.He asked them to do it. Not a selfie. | /r/seduction | 15/11/14 05:46 AM |
| 1 | How to Avoid the Friend-Zone: Unveiling the SecretI supposed the answer to how to pick up girls is, just go up to them say hi and "pick them up" ? Well... Yeah, pretty much. If you have solid inner game, you have just about everything you need to take that approach. Don't overthink it. | /r/seduction | 15/11/14 05:06 AM |
| 1 | First Julien, now Owen just got blown up by a SJW article on Vice... where does this go from here? How does this affect us?This community's already drifted away from RSD's outer-game-focused style. The current guiding wisdom is based on Models. Stop being needy, become an attractive person, and then be yourself. Obviously RSD's around, but it's become supplemental for the most part, and even if someone came in here talking about how horrible we were for "following their lead," they wouldn't be able to pull too many threads to prove their point. We'll be fine, because they aren't us. I hadn't even heard of Julian bef… | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Help not being a pussyDon't hate yourself so much. You're not going to be able to relax enough for healthy people to stay with you if you overthink a comment like that (which isn't uncommon at all) and it drives you up a wall. | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 08:50 PM |
| 2 | How to Avoid the Friend-Zone: Unveiling the SecretMake a move. That's the secret. Commit to either trying to date the girl, or to being actual friends with her. But if it's the second, you give up the right to complain about how you're "stuck in the friendzone." | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 08:47 PM |
| 10 | Women will reveal exactly how to seduce them if you ask the right questions.Not necessarily tons of questions, but a lot of probing questions, unless you're in a relaxed situation where you're already comfortable with each other and that would be appropriate. And you might be right, my main issue could be with the article's style, but it seemed to me to say "ask a woman what she likes. If she gives an unhelpful answer like 'for a guy to be a gentleman, ' keep pushing until you get an answer like 'I enjoy guys who bite my neck." The issue with that is it requires a high … | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Women will reveal exactly how to seduce them if you ask the right questions.Honestly, I don't disagree with you, but it just seems like more trouble than it's worth. If it works for somebody, that's great, but there's no need to rewrite the playbook. | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 08:12 PM |
| 52 | Women will reveal exactly how to seduce them if you ask the right questions.To quote the article, I don't buy it. Is he advocating that you ask her what she likes, and if you don't think it's a good answer, keep probing until you get one you like? Because if so, get ready for 10,000 hours of rejection, because unless you're a perfectly calibrated master, that technique is a one-way shot to creepville. It's SO much easier to learn by doing. Start by testing to see if she likes something, and if she does, go for it. If she doesn't, move on. Everyone likes different things… | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 07:45 PM |
| 11 | In one short sentence, sum up the most important tip you've learned to succeed in the art of seduction.~Wayne Gretzky ~Michael Scott | /r/seduction | 13/11/14 05:58 PM |
| 5 | In one short sentence, sum up the most important tip you've learned to succeed in the art of seduction.Relax and let it flow. | /r/seduction | 13/11/14 04:08 PM |
| 1 | How do you, personally, qualify girls?Your advice is good, but OP was probably talking about how "feeling out" someone isn't as empirical a method as he would like. So it's not that someone who's stable is too emotional, it's that OP is trying to quantify how to tell whether someone is stable. The issue though, is that seduction (and all interpersonal relations, really) is a lot like cooking. Some people need a recipe with everything measured out, others can just wing it, throwing bits of different spices into the pan, tasting every… | /r/seduction | 13/11/14 04:00 PM |
| 4 | Anyone here who *didn't* grow up being social and mingling with girls (i.e. hard-mode seduction)?But... But... Step 1 is be attractive! | /r/seduction | 10/11/14 01:56 PM |
| 6 | This is my cheat sheet. Might be beneficial for some of you.Hey, he asked. | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!Here | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 08:03 PM |
| 7 | This is my cheat sheet. Might be beneficial for some of you.Glengarry Glen Ross came out in 1992. Boiler Room came out in 2000. | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 07:47 PM |
| 7 | This is my cheat sheet. Might be beneficial for some of you.Yeah, I can. I've got a good-paying job with advancement potential that I love. I've got a strong social network with several different groups of friends, none of whom feel alienated due to my views on women. I put on a bit of weight when I switched from retail to my current job, but I've finally started getting it off. I'm active in my community, and perhaps most importantly, I've got a girlfriend whom I love, and who loves me back. All of this comes after a cripplingly abusive, forced-codepend… | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 07:05 PM |
| 11 | This is my cheat sheet. Might be beneficial for some of you.Which shit? The part where you should treat women as though they have the intelligence of children (because they do)? The part where it's ok to seduce a woman in a relationship, because "sexual strategy is amoral" and women can't help themselves from cheating with a higher value man (but having your girl cheat on you is on her, and not at all a reflection of your value as a man)? Anything involving "Dread game?" TRP is a place that says that there's an abuser in every relationship, so it might a… | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 06:43 PM |
| 12 | This is my cheat sheet. Might be beneficial for some of you.Glengarry Glen Ross did it first | /r/seduction | 06/11/14 06:31 PM |
| 1 | How can I come off as a sexual person who likes sex without being creepy?Not as good as the Pats game! | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 10:33 PM |
| 1 | A trick that worked for me when I was "desperate" and didn't want to come off that way.It's a fine line. You don't want to be an asshole, but you don't want to be intimidated either. OP is probably the kind of person who judges people in his mind, but doesn't telegraph it in his speech or actions. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 03:40 PM |
| 4 | When you're not feeling it, do you still go out and socialise?Yeah, this is a good answer. I'm not going to be a hypocrite and tell you to never stay in when you've got plans lined up, but if you find yourself doing that more than once or twice in a while, you're not doing yourself any favors. Grab a cup of coffee and just try to kickstart yourself into having a good time | /r/seduction | 31/10/14 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Longtime lurker, been putting what iv'e learned here to use with moderate success, now Im stuck and need advice.Don't get fucked up. Roll with it. If she's out with you, interested in you, and willing to go out again, I'm not seeing a problem. Just keep doing what you've been doing and escalate when you can. | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 03:21 PM |
| 3 | After about 1-2 months of seeing a girl, they always hit a sort of peak of interest, where they clearly show they're very interested. Then it quickly fades away and they lose interest...Saying something more interesting than "how was your day" is good advice, but it's not so about what you say, but how you say it. Learn to tell a story in text as well as you can in real life, starting with a compelling teaser, and you can make anything interesting. You won't need to use any crazy lines that, to be honest, really aren't funny or interesting. What you need to do is ground yourself in reality or you risk becoming "wacky" or fake. Also, exactly zero people give a shit about other p… | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Guide on drinking with friends/acquaintances and sharing intimate stories?This isn't that uncommon, if not always exactly as you describe. Basically, when I'm sitting at someone's place having a few drinks in a small group, everyone's either friends or part of the same social circle. So if you need a guide, regular social circle game should work fine. Just remember, the number one rule of gaming in your social circle is "be careful." This is the group you've fallen into, and it can be tough to find another one. Don't do anything stupid that will strain the group dynam… | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 02:04 PM |
| 15 | Seddit, what's a book which helped you improve your game?Deep, man. | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 06:57 PM |
| 2 | How to respond when a girl implies that you should get her a drinkClassic, simple, not stupid or insulting. I like it. | /r/seduction | 19/10/14 05:42 PM |
| 1 | THIS ENTIRE SUB-REDDIT IN ONE SENTENCEYou should actually read what's on the sub. Five years ago you'd have had a point, but right now you're preaching to the choir. | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 09:54 PM |
| 9 | THIS ENTIRE SUB-REDDIT IN ONE SENTENCEJust for the record, I didn't downvote you. In fact, I agree. There's a post somewhere waaaaaay back in my history that advocates getting rid of the HBX terminology, because it is completely pointless. That being said, using stupid terms is a hell of a lot better than telling men the way to a woman's heart is through dehumanizing actions (manipulating, negging, social circle isolation), or by fulfilling some arbitrary definition of "Alpha" that can be soul-killing when applied the wrong way. (ac… | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Now i know how hot girls feel. (Being Treated Like a Sex Object)Not really. Sure, it's fun the first time you automatically get to sleep with someone, and the second, and probably the third too. But after a while, you start to want something more than sex. For most people, this isn't an issue. If you spend a night out with someone building attraction, and then sleep with them, that's great. And then you spend another night out with a different girl. And you build attraction and then sleep with her. Then on a third night, you go out with a third girl. You go … | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 09:03 PM |
| 2 | THIS ENTIRE SUB-REDDIT IN ONE SENTENCEThere's always going to be a need for outer game, but what I think OP's getting at is that it's not "say this, do this, get laid." The outer game needed is a lot more flexible when you're able to be confident with what you're able to offer. There are (e)books out there filled with nothing but openers, but now you have guys talking about their success with things like "I don't think we've met yet. What's your name?" Having great inner game turns the difficulty way down. You don't have to worry ab… | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 05:30 PM |
| 59 | THIS ENTIRE SUB-REDDIT IN ONE SENTENCEYep. That's why I like this place, and what makes it different from the older "Mystery-style pickup" it's so often associated with. I'm unbelievably glad the community's gotten away from the borderline manipulative bullshit and adopted the "make yourself a good person, then be yourself" model. | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 03:01 PM |
| 2 | What are some healthy interpersonal attitudes?When I talk to people, I always assume they're on my level. You can't go into an interaction assuming that you're smarter, wealthier, more personable, less stuck-up, or in any way better than the other person. It shows, and at the least, it comes off as awkward, but more often, it's just condescending. People are good at picking up on subtle things like that. Similarly, you can't assume anyone is better than you. They might have more money, they might be smarter or have a better degree, but that… | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Now i know how hot girls feel. (Being Treated Like a Sex Object)Most people are missing the point then. It's dehumanizing. | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 01:29 PM |
| 6 | Now i know how hot girls feel. (Being Treated Like a Sex Object)Probably something that drastically misunderstands the situation while simultaneously being blind to their own members' tendency to do what OP's complaining about. | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 01:08 PM |
| 14 | Now i know how hot girls feel. (Being Treated Like a Sex Object)It is different though. OP is partly upset that the game's too easy, but he seems to be more upset that he's being fetishized. The girls aren't interested in him, they're interested in "taking home a black guy." America is constantly said to have a "race problem," and we absolutely do, but simply by having so many people of so many races, we've at least taken steps in the right direction. Scandinavian countries have been so homogeneous for so long that they don't always recognize the issues that… | /r/seduction | 17/10/14 01:06 PM |
| 35 | How do I actually get laid?Play the numbers game. Go out, look your best, and just approach everyone. If you need to get laid ASAP, without any adjustment to who you are, that's what you have to do. | /r/seduction | 15/10/14 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Women banned from competing for having too much testosteroneEastern European people are more likely to do better in chess because it was (and still is) seen as a way to get on the international stage without having to spend the huge amounts of money necessary to develop most athletes. In Armenia, a small post-Soviet republic between Iran and Turkey, every student learns chess for exactly this reason. Naturally, the country has many more ranked chess players than you'd expect. Meanwhile, their football team is very bad, and their hockey program is defunct… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/10/14 08:27 PM |
| 2 | At 51 am I too old to try and meet 36 year old women?Own those typos! | /r/seduction | 08/10/14 07:52 PM |
| 1 | At 51 am I too old to try and meet 36 year old women?It's a rule of thumb from xkcd, not a hard and fast rule. And besides, there are always exceptions. For the most part, it's just Sith (and redpillers) who deal in absolutes. | /r/seduction | 08/10/14 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Tips on escalating on dates that aren't dates.You're right, I should have said something like: If you find people who don't care, that's great, more power to you. The issues happen when you assume that everybody has no value outside of sex. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 10:41 PM |
| 1 | I'm 29 and got a girl's number....but she's only 18.Oh, just that 18 would be a bit too young for me. To each his own though, I wouldn't have even mentioned it if your comment didn't stick the Power Rangers theme in my head. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Tips on escalating on dates that aren't dates.I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that no one here has ever gotten burned by assuming his recurring sex partner considered herself something more than a realdoll with a pulse. Metaphysics. I mean, I guess questioning why you should treat a person differently than, say, a lamp is technically metaphysics, but I'm speaking in the context of psychology, with maybe a touch of sociology. Women are people, people aren't stupid, and most people want to at least pretend that they have more worth t… | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Tips on escalating on dates that aren't dates.Yeah, but don't you think it's helpful to consider what they are to themselves too? You know, since they don't stop existing when they leave your bedroom, and some of their experiences out there might influence their relationship with you? And I (probably) don't know OP, and I'd be willing to bet you (probably) don't either. I'm going to trust what he says over what you think he "means." | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 09:43 PM |
| 2 | I'm 29 and got a girl's number....but she's only 18.I don't 100% agree with you, but I do need a gif of this image with "GO GO OP!" at the bottom. And the music playing. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 09:28 PM |
| 7 | Tips on escalating on dates that aren't dates.Because thinking like that is dehumanizing. Just because your relationship consists entirely of sex doesn't mean they "exist only for sex," and from the sound of it, OP doesn't even want that kind of relationship. You use OP as a reference that all FWB relationships are doomed to fail, but OP isn't saying he's dissatisfied with FWB relationships; he's saying he's not satisfied with only having one FWB. Even if the rest of your post holds up though, if the core of it involves thinking of women as… | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 09:19 PM |
| 6 | Tips on escalating on dates that aren't dates.They are people who exist for one purpose: sex. Oh, that's healthy. | /r/seduction | 07/10/14 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, I think it is time to start endorsing your top contributors.What I have learned however through all these years interacting with different people with different level of game, the guys who really know their shit can give you insightful answers for almost any situation. You're completely right on that point, but that's the corollary to what I was getting at. The master of club game might not get endorsed because of his limited skillset, but that doesn't mean the advice he gives in his specialty deserves to be placed under anyone else's. In that case, you … | /r/seduction | 06/10/14 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, I think it is time to start endorsing your top contributors.It's not a bad idea, but I worry that it would give almost too much weight to the endorsed contributor's words. There's honestly no one right answer to a lot of what we talk about here, and plenty of wrong answers to most of it. On top of that, there's a HUGE variety of situations, personality types, prior life experiences, etc. that come into play, and someone who's endorsed because of their help in one area (let's say they're great at club game) might be miserable in something like day or text… | /r/seduction | 06/10/14 04:42 PM |
| 15 | Decent success with casual or direct approaches, but almost always a hit when they're business clients???You are now tagged as "Sherpa" | /r/seduction | 17/09/14 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Stagnating in pleasant/conversational mode instead of escalating to intimacyMusic always works for me. Certain songs help me clear my mind, get in a good, funny mood, or just get me loose and excited. | /r/seduction | 04/09/14 06:50 PM |
| 2 | The Art of Manliness presents: The Brad Pitt RuleExactly. You say "Oh, yeah, definitely!" so any NSA observers will think you two want to make plans with each other, but then you proceed to never do so. It's like a fun code. | /r/seduction | 22/08/14 08:53 PM |
| 1 | How to turn small talk into smart conversationBut that's so weird! You're jumping straight into deep personal assumptions with someone who may or may not want you to go that deep. I'm sure it works for some people, but I'm much more risk-averse, and the only reward is ~20 minutes of my time | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 04:54 PM |
| 1 | How to turn small talk into smart conversationI know, I used it earlier too. What I'm saying is even in that scenario, it probably wouldn't hit, unless your life is produced by Chuck Lorre (in which case, you've got issues that are too big for me). Nothing major though, obviously you'd substitute that line with something actually funny. | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Shadow LivesI'm not sure it matters what it's called. You can try to find out if you want, but if you identified with this story, and you're not alright with that, what's most important is to get over what boils down to approach anxiety and overthinking after the fact, both of which have a ton of material written on them. Unfortunately, all that material tends to reduce to "identify the behavior and stop doing it." I'd say you're halfway there. | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 04:46 PM |
| 0 | How to turn small talk into smart conversationUpvoted at "know your audience," cringed at the example. | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 04:39 PM |
| 1 | How to turn small talk into smart conversationOh God yes. I put that as a subset of "guy who says weird things," but it absolutely deserves mentioning. I guess the real advice is "use them sparingly, if at all." | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 04:26 PM |
| 1 | How to turn small talk into smart conversationI forget where I read it, but I really like the idea that you ask things like "why'd you go into consulting? Why not finance, or back to grad school?" That gives the other person a few choices about where to take the conversation, and makes you seem more interested and engaged. It takes quick thinking and practice, but what doesn't? | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 01:42 PM |
| 16 | How to turn small talk into smart conversationThe first half was great, but if you try to go from introvert straight to "Pearl Harbor weather observer/denier" without the tools needed to pull something like that off, you're just going to doom yourself as "guy who says weird things." | /r/seduction | 05/08/14 01:39 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Just got an interesting "no" when I asked for a dateThis is the attitude to have. Good going | /r/seduction | 15/07/14 10:24 PM |
| 1 | To all the virgins out thereEh, you'rel both right. You can be the most successful guy, but if you never learn social skills, you're not going to have women throwing themselves at you. At the same time, social situations get a lot easier when you're not in a run somewhere. Yin and Yang. | /r/seduction | 14/07/14 04:29 PM |
| 3 | To all the virgins out thereMaybe, but it's all a mental thing. The anecdotes you refer to are most likely what OP said: realizing sex is great, but it's not something to obsess over. It's a fine goal, but not at all at the level some people act like it is. The sooner you realize that, the better, even if you're a virgin. | /r/seduction | 14/07/14 04:25 PM |
| 19 | [FR] The Third Wheel is an AdvantageVery nice. Glad everything's working well for you. The only thing I'd suggest is stopping the creepy mental stuff. There was likely no difference between you walking in the dead middle of the path or the end, besides the way it boosted your confidence. Adjusting her arms might have subconsciously reminded her of making out, but it's likely that if she put her hands on your shoulders first and you adjusted them to your waist it would have turned out the same way (not criticizing the move, just th… | /r/seduction | 09/07/14 06:28 PM |
| 2 | How to tell stories betterI feel like an asshole posting this "advice," but that just means you picked the wrong story. For whatever reason, it didn't hit. You have to shake it off and know that it happens to everyone, and that you're never going to say the right thing 100% of the time. As far as avoiding the "no reaction," you have to know your audience, learn to read them a bit better, things like that. If you're good, you could switch tacks once you realize you're bombing and make the end of the story something better… | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 07:10 PM |
| 1 | First night out solo, success!Maybe. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 07:09 PM |
| 1 | First night out solo, success!I don't really define body language (Which Op says he improved) as "looks." Maybe it's because I never had any instinctual social skills and had to consciously learn everything (you know, like a sociopath), but I always put how you sat, keeping eye contact, etc in the behavior category, rather than the appearance category. Agree to disagree, I suppose. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 06:33 PM |
| 1 | First night out solo, success!That's fine to be jealous, but nothing he is or does will ever impact you. Some people are going to be more attractive than you, that's just a fact of life. Work around it, because you're never going to be the best looking person in the room. If he's just on here to brag, so what? Isn't it just easier to give people the benefit of the doubt? If he's just on here obliquely fishing for compliments, why does that affect you? You can ignore the post. You can laugh to yourself about how he needs vali… | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 06:06 PM |
| 1 | First night out solo, success!Cool. You're playing on hard mode. You win the difficulty competition. I lost 20 pounds recently. Can I post a FR of my next date, or do I have to be re-evaluated? I'm actually decent-looking in real life, but I look horrible in pictures. Should I only post FRs of Tinder dates? What about the fact that I have no trouble talking to people, but I need to work on transitioning to getting girls to think of me as a potential bf? In that light, would I be able to post FRs of dates I meet in bars, or s… | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 05:42 PM |
| 1 | First night out solo, success!You're right, most guys can talk with a girl who approaches him. But maybe he couldn't. Or, maybe he wouldn't have had the confidence to go out alone before spending some time here. Or maybe no girl would have ever considered approaching him because when he did get out of the house, his model-like face and toned body was offset by the way he slouched over his drink and looked closer to "depressed alcoholic" than "guy looking for girl." OR maybe he made it all up and is whoring for imaginary Inte… | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 05:23 PM |
| 1 | First night out solo, success!It doesn't matter how attractive he is though. You could be David Beckham, but if you can't talk to women, you're still not getting anywhere. Obviously his issue was with confidence and conversation, and from the sound of his story, lurking here has helped him take the first steps to overcome that. I'm pretty sure that's the entire point of this subreddit. No sense being a dick because he's facing different issues than you. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 05:08 PM |
| 4 | First night out solo, success!Yeah, because attractive people never have any issues. I say we shouldn't let new people (like this guy) post here anymore without providing a picture to make sure he's ugly enough to get any sort of support. Because, you know, he's obviously only here to troll everyone and make fun of us, because anyone who's at least a 6/10 is just swimming in women. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 07:31 AM |
| 46 | How to tell stories betterBefore you tell the story (or while you're telling it, if you think on your feet well), think of why you're telling the story, and how to get to the point while giving the bare minimum amount of detail. Like another poster said, it's not (usually) about you, it's about what happened. As an example, say last Thursday, you were running late at work, so instead of catching your normal commuter train, you had to take the subway and try to beat the train to one of the other shared commuter rail/subwa… | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 07:12 AM |
| 5 | My rules for improving my lifeAside from the "learn how to fight" point, which is good advice, but could use the disclaimer that getting into an actual fight becomes an embarrassment after a certain age (usually around the age getting frat-party-wasted becomes embarrassing), this is a solid list, which I'm reading as I shit at work, incidentally. | /r/seduction | 11/06/14 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Got engaged about 3 years after discovering r/seduction. Some stuff you might not think about when starting out.Right, but at the same time you run into the same issue with taking that too literally. You need to find the balance between only looking into the eyes and making it obvious that you're intentionally looking elsewhere (to avoid that "shifty eyes" look). That's why I prefer talking to a group. It's so much easier for me to maintain a connection to four or five people than it is to nail the right kind of eye contact with a single person. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Got engaged about 3 years after discovering r/seduction. Some stuff you might not think about when starting out.You and Jay-Z both. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Got engaged about 3 years after discovering r/seduction. Some stuff you might not think about when starting out.With a $100 budget for a haircut and clothes ($80 clothes budget in my city), you're not going to be going anywhere that pays based on commission. The key is deciding whether the low-paid worker actually thinks you look good, or just doesn't give a fuck. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Got engaged about 3 years after discovering r/seduction. Some stuff you might not think about when starting out.There's a line between good eye contact and creepy eye-staring. It's unnerving when a person just stares and there's no eye movement. I'm not really sure how you can better that, because it's not as simple as "look away every once in a while," and it's difficult to see how others do it. Maybe quickly glance at their nose or mouth sometimes, or refocus on their entire face instead of just their eyes occasionally. It'll help. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 01:39 PM |
| 5 | Got engaged about 3 years after discovering r/seduction. Some stuff you might not think about when starting out.Try going on there, for starters. It's basic color matching, for the most part, along with a bunch of recommendations for clothes that really don't go out of style. Sure, they tend to lean more toward the "skinnyguy hipster" look, but the closest thing to the "oppressive fashion machine" you're describing is them telling you to get unpleated pants. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Three tips you would give yourself on your first dateI don't see how going to a comedy club is different from going to a movie on a first date. That wouldn't make my list | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 12:52 AM |
| 8 | Three tips you would give yourself on your first dateYeah, it requires a level of social awareness a bit too high for a blanket rule. That actually seems like a really cool hobby, but it's way too easy to fall into the "creepy guy who really likes knives category." I'm glad you seem to have found a nice balance. | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 12:50 AM |
| 8 | Three tips you would give yourself on your first dateRelax. If I'm overthinking something, I'm not relaxed. I don't know how many people on here are used to improvising in a musical sense, or just jamming, but the way to get something to sound good is by clearing your mind and letting everything flow. Whatever comes next will come. Be fun. Yes, have fun, but more than that, be fun. I can't tell you the number of times I've gotten bored at a party and played "How long can I get this girl to continuously laugh?" Even if you're not having as much fun… | /r/seduction | 13/05/14 09:22 PM |
| 4 | "Give me your number", "I don't like that you're so demanding" shit test?So OP was wrong? He actually did get her phone number? I'm confused. When what she says matches up with what she does, doesn't it have a high likelihood of being what she actually thinks? | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Guys friendzoning girls ?But for real, it's very tough to tell, especially from your description. If you're willing to take the risk, ask him out. If you're content with what you have, eventually he'll lose interest and just be a friend no matter what his feelings now are. | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Guys friendzoning girls ?Only one way to find out...:) | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 07:03 PM |
| 20 | "Give me your number", "I don't like that you're so demanding" shit test?Not a shit test. Chances are you're being too demanding and she doesn't like it. Solution: don't be so demanding. Stop reading old pickup material. It's calibrated (most likely) for a different type of girl, or a different situation, or would work better if the person delivering the material was different than you. Don't be needy. Asking questions or making requests isn't needy, making needy requests is needy. By the time you ask for her number, she should be interested enough in you that it's n… | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Because this keeps coming up - sex on the first date.Really now? You're going to go that route? Let's start with this: abundance mentality is NOT the same thing as a polygamous mentality. "Abundance mentality" is a sciencey-sounding term used to refer to the "plenty of fish in the sea" platitude. Basically, if you get hung up on one girl, you're behaving as though girls are scarce. You're going to keep trying to land this one girl for whatever reason because you feel as though she's the only option. By having an abundance mentality, you recognize … | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 06:16 PM |
| 5 | Because this keeps coming up - sex on the first date.I think you're conflating abundance mentality with non-monogamy. Some people prefer to be monogamous, this mini-article explains how sometimes it's not better to have sex on the first night with a girl you've already attracted. | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Approach during rush hour commuting?I'm usually half-asleep or wearing headphones on my morning commute (usually miss rush hour in the evening), but on the off-chance I'm not, I look for eye contact and a smile. Most people at that time just want to get from point A to point B, and you see girls complain all the time about guys on the subway hitting on them when they're trying to read or listen to music. Basically, if you start out inconveniencing her, the rest of the interaction won't go well. | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Friendly reminder to everyone: RELAX and stop over thinking everything.What I like about the community in the last few years is it's turned from "do this and you'll get laid" to "make yourself someone interesting, then be yourself. And then you'll get laid." | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 02:02 PM |
| 1 | My friend and I have created a really large guide on how to be more outgoing. What do you think /seduction?It's really funny how people assume "oh, if I were as tall as allnose, I'd be irresistible." And this isn't just short guys either, the average height of my friends is around 6'. I'm 6'4", which is maybe one or two inches from being "freakishly tall." More height is great if you know how to use it, but if you stuck a 5'8" guy in my body, it would be a disaster. For one, we've just got so much more arms and legs to be awkward with. That image of the lanky tall guy who looks ridiculous? Not just a… | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 01:03 PM |
| 2 | [FR] (UPDATE) I just went on a date with the hottest girl in my college "I've never had anyone be so sassy to me before."The way it tends to be interpreted, in my experience, leads to people saying things like "I'm not going to openly apologize, I don't want her to think I'm like the rest of the pleaser beta males she likely has clamoring for her attention." You're right, you shouldn't be a bootlicker. There's no reason to apologize for showing up 5 minutes early or late. There is a reason to apologize for showing up 30 minutes late. Being "alpha" doesn't mean you shouldn't apologize when it's warranted, but that'… | /r/seduction | 07/05/14 06:39 PM |
| 6 | How to keep a dominate frame if you're trying to earn forgiveness?Honestly, depending on how bad what you did was, she's not lucky to be with you. Just treat her like a person. Apologize, and if it's a little thing, she'll forgive you, and if it's not, she won't. It's out of your hands at this point. Be decent, and expect decency in return. | /r/seduction | 07/05/14 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Should you give more weight to a girls Indicators of Interest or Indicators of Disinterest?A flake is special. It's got potential to be a huge IOD. The way I play it is everybody gets one legitimate excuse. Any more and they're obviously not interested. | /r/seduction | 07/05/14 01:03 PM |
| 7 | How to keep a dominate frame if you're trying to earn forgiveness?If she can't forgive you the regular way, using pseudopsychological "dominance" techniques won't help you maintain a healthy relationship. | /r/seduction | 07/05/14 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Picking up girls while living with your parentsI'm going to go out on a limb and say OP doesn't live in Brazil. Things common over there, like living with one's parents or gaming entirely in Portuguese aren't as common here and would require different stategies | /r/seduction | 07/05/14 12:34 PM |
| 45 | [FR] (UPDATE) I just went on a date with the hottest girl in my college "I've never had anyone be so sassy to me before."Sorry, I tried to ignore it, but the "alpha vs. Beta" dichotomy isn't a real thing and focusing on "being alpha" is only going to distract you from the confidence you're trying to emulate. The most "alpha" guy at my school played baseball. And D&D. And acted in plays. And treated girls really well and basically went against every rule of "alphaness" on here. If you want to do something, do it. Own it. That's what makes you "alpha," and it'll be recognized. Don't pay attention to what anyone on t… | /r/seduction | 07/05/14 01:32 AM |
| 2 | [Humor] No One’s Slick As Gaston: A Pickup Artist’s GuideHaha, I'll make sure to work these into my game right away! My what a guy, that Gaston! | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 11:25 PM |
| 1 | [FR] (UPDATE) I just went on a date with the hottest girl in my college "I've never had anyone be so sassy to me before."Sorry, one more thing. Some girls HATE couples who sit on the same side of the table. As with anything, don't force the issue if she says she's not going to come to you. Some girls love it though, so don't be scared to ask. If she comes over, great! If not, forget about it. | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 11:16 PM |
| 1 | [FR] (UPDATE) I just went on a date with the hottest girl in my college "I've never had anyone be so sassy to me before."Oh! And don't forget to relax. Just tell yourself that any individual thing won't kill you, and you'll adapt no matter what happens. It's not good to think so much on the date or be so hard on yourself after. You did well! Now go do it again | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 10:54 PM |
| 81 | [FR] (UPDATE) I just went on a date with the hottest girl in my college "I've never had anyone be so sassy to me before."First off, everything up to the bold text was great. Don't be bent out of shape because you didn't say she looked good; most guys on here would tell you not to directly compliment her on the first date anyway, and to never compliment he looks while you're still chasing her. Compliment her dress, her nails, her purse, whatever, just don't make it anything specifically about her and DEFINITELY don't make it about her looks. I don't subscribe to that, but I still like the dress comment because it's… | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 10:52 PM |
| 3 | She doesn't want to even "just be friends."Yeah, but the way you're phrasing it makes it sound like they're relatively recent additions to your circle. I had a friend's SO in the same position as your female friends. The difference is that eventually they broke up, got over it, and she will ditch plans with her new boyfriend to hang out with us all the time. We treat her like one of the guys, and she's cool with that. She probably wouldn't have helped me move back when her and my friend were dating, but I bet she would now. Similarly, th… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/05/14 07:25 PM |
| 2 | [FR] I just picked up the hottest girl in my collegeWay nicer than the post OP replied to. I see where you're coming from, but I think he might just be giving an objective judgment. I mean, yeah, I know nothing about him, and statistically, that kind of thinking might be symptomatic of giving her too much credit, but what if, according to whatever scale OP uses, she is the hottest? No sense not giving her her due. I know I seem pedantic and focused on semantics, but the story made me think of a friend of mine when we visited another friend's scho… | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 03:50 PM |
| 4 | Losing female friendsIt's rare, but it can happen. I've got one close female friend for a long time now. We messed around a little, but nothing serious, and it ultimately didn't work out. Over the years, we've gotten the same kind of trust bond that I have with my male friends, the only difference being that we sometimes hook up when neither of us is attached. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/04/14 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Research overwhelmingly concludes that humor is one of the biggest components of attraction. How do I make myself funnier?No idea, but improv's a great hobby, even if you take the class's just for yourself. Though the "tons of hot girls" can be a bit of a dice roll. Funny girls though, definitely. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Research overwhelmingly concludes that humor is one of the biggest components of attraction. How do I make myself funnier?It's tough to learn how to spontaneously point out humorous things, but, like another poster suggested, I'd try improv classes. The intro level tends to be short-form things, games and the like, but even that's a solid foundation for connecting with people and getting your mind to cycle quickly enough to come up with things to say. They also get rid of the fear of failing and looking stupid, which could help if you have any lingering AA. If you like the first classes, it's worth it to try some l… | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Research overwhelmingly concludes that humor is one of the biggest components of attraction. How do I make myself funnier?Seconded. Improv classes are kind of shit on in some of the seddit-type places I've seen, but they get you comfortable speaking off the cuff and teach you how to keep the conversation interesting. Even if there are no humor-related benefits, there are worse ways to spend your time. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 02:30 PM |
| 5 | Research overwhelmingly concludes that humor is one of the biggest components of attraction. How do I make myself funnier?That's definitely true, but it's not the be-all, end-all of humor. Think about it; if we only appreciated the jokes of people we like, how could we possibly find new comedians funny? What would be the point of releasing comedy albums, where the listener literally goes in blind? People do find things objectively funny. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Opinions on the Reader LettersI always shied away from "classic" PUA stuff because of the reasons you mentioned. It was just easier to tease high-self-esteem girls and find someone who liked me for what I brought to the table and what I said off the cuff instead of worrying about writing openers or when to move from attraction to comfort and all that. Looking at /r/seduction now though, it seems like opinion has shifted towards my natural style, with an emphasis on self-improvement and being the kind of person women want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/14 04:42 PM |
| 2 | TBP/PP women: If you were a man, how would you go about getting laid?As a man, this. Everything's a numbers game. Say OP's parameters result in 99% of women being repulsed by him. Assuming the fixable stuff is all taken care of (confidence at a max, personality good or unalterable, clothes fit, posture good, well-groomed, etc.), that's the number you're working with. Does it do you any good to say "well that guy has only 30% of women repulsed by him," or worse "girls have it so much easier, only 5% of men are repulsed by them"? Of course not. Because you've done … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/14 03:10 PM |
| 1 | My GF won't sex meDump her. Making someone who pisses you off your main girl is going to hurt you in the long run, and will hurt her even more. If the endgame of applying RP philosophy is to give you both a fulfilling relationship that benefits you both, which is how it should be, guilting her into sex is just going to make her resent you and further poison both your relationship and the relationship of whoever she goes to once she shakes off the emotional abuse. | /r/askTRP | 07/04/14 05:04 PM |
| 2 | How to piss off not 1 but 2 women at the same timeI know that, and that's why I don't use the scale, because at the end of the day, it's meaningless, but the people who defend it say that it doesn't measure attractiveness, but is supposed to be a relative guide of how the woman thinks of herself. | /r/seduction | 05/04/14 07:21 PM |
| 0 | How to piss off not 1 but 2 women at the same timeTechnically that's not what it means, despite the extremely high potential to be misinterpreted as the 1-10 attractiveness scale everyone on earth uses. Technically it refers to how a woman rates herself, though people outside (and inside) the community will often misuse it. You'll see a lot of guys just not use the notation at all. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 08:18 PM |
| 1 | This subreddit and PUA in general is serious over-thinking and mental masturbation!! You really have to change your approach... Approach angles? Learning to half-face smirk properly? Are you kidding me???I've got a portable trapeze setup that works pretty well. I figure why open over the shoulder when you can open OVER the shoulder | /r/seduction | 01/04/14 03:44 PM |
| 7 | I see so many cute guys (strangers) daily, how do I start a conversation with them?The far less famous Trojan Fish, in which it is said that the Greek women hid so that they might get some of that sweet, sweet lovin' | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Slightly off the usual topic vein, but what are some of your favorite pre-game songs?Three songs, always. A lot of this is sentimental feelings from past experiences, so YMMV. The General - Dispatch Chill song, relaxes the hell out of me and clears my mind. Crazy Rap - Afroman Rude, crude, and just a whole lot of fun. This gets me in a really social, joking state. Ignition (remix) - R Kelly It's the remix to "Ignition"! This one is the most dependent on my prior feelings toward the song, but dancing around to it always puts me in a good mood and ups my confidence | /r/seduction | 21/03/14 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Tips/ advice on how to seduce someone who is a dominate character?That view of women sounds kind of messed up. In my experience girls like that aren't interested in a power struggle, or exploiting weaknesses, they're just having fun. I do the same thing at parties when I get bored. To say that you have to stop a girl from "standing proud and tall" by pointing out her weaknesses implies that you've got some underlying issues with women in general. | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 04:47 PM |
| 9 | [FR] Dated a HB 9.5, things went a bit awkward in the end.Suggestions for improvement welcome.I don't know how it went, but it sounds like she was treating the "date" as more of a business interaction. I guess all I can say is that offering to provide a service in exchange for a beer might be something a friend would do, rather than a boyfriend. She doesn't want a romantic relationship with you | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 03:39 PM |
| 0 | The paradox of sexStop. This doesn't require a philosophical treatise, especially when you answer your question in the comment. Sex is incredibly context-dependent, as are most things. That's it. | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Tips/ advice on how to seduce someone who is a dominate character?Oh man, I love girls like that. Tease her, give her a challenge, be a cheeky little shit. Keep letting her try to one-up you and reassert her dominance (which turns her on) before you undermine her with some little smart-ass comment that puts you right back on top (which also turns her on). You can play that game all the way home, into bed, during sex, and keep going through the next morning (and at least the next couple months, if your natural sense of humor plays to that). Just be sure to be c… | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 02:09 PM |
| 1 | F 22 trying to play games with (M)E 27Most likely. People don't react well to being told they're liars, even when they are. And even though I'm sure you'd have more tact than that, at the heart of it, that's what you'd be saying. Unless you were talking about my shit test statement, which is also true. Somewhere along the line, this idea came out that girls would consciously throw out these unanswerable questions and use the results to judge guys. Since the questions were unanswerable, the only way to "pass" would be to brush them a… | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 07:25 PM |
| 1 | F 22 trying to play games with (M)E 27In my experience, "shit tests" are WAY overblown, but that's beside the point. If she says she's single, it's because she likes the dynamic she has with you. You might be able to get her to admit she's playing games, but that'll be the end of you two | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 07:06 PM |
| 2 | F 22 trying to play games with (M)E 27Do you like the relationship you have? If yes, keep going as is. If not, break it off clean. Confronting her will break it off too, but with a lot more drama than you need. | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Article about being "Alpha."Holy shit. I'm sorry if this is your writing, but I almost gagged before making it to the end of the article. There seem to be way too many people here who are obsessed with the notion of being "alpha" to the point that the term is a giant red flag, especially for people outside the community. The article describes something closer to an inquisitive empathy, which is a fine thing to have, but has nothing to do with being alpha, and the self-righteous "look at how good I am because I 'show concer… | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on maintaining strong eye contact?Some looking away is actually normal, which is why it feels so weird when someone stares directly into your eye. Just practice with anyone you have to talk to; friends, your boss, whoever. It'll feel weird at first, but soon it'll become habit, just like anything else, and try to make your looks away be infrequent glances to other parts of the face before reestablishing regular eye contact. | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 11:53 AM |
| 1 | So, I'm probably not a bag of spiders, and apparently good at getting laid. AMAHmm, that sounds an awful lot like something a bag of spiders would say... Good advice though. You know what's up. | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 05:45 AM |
| 44 | Flaking is damn frustrating, here's a way to cut it in half'Hmm, what did I think of Damien?' - 'Weird birthmark, creepy and off-putting, but damn, he knows when to make out with a girl. Would date again.' | /r/seduction | 19/03/14 05:43 AM |
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