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alltrueism/r/seduction07/08/15 03:17 PM
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alltrueism/r/askTRP15/11/15 02:37 PM
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I understood this reference [T] /
/r/seduction23/07/22 12:04 AM
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Dude that's 10 crazy lays in 3 months
/r/seduction23/07/22 12:02 AM
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It's not all lack of confidence. A lot of men grew up just buying in to the notion that if you respect women, you'll get loved and respected in return. Hard part of it is, it doesn't work that way. Not saying to generalize women in anyway; it's just that men growing up in puberty within late 90s, early 2000s, somehow got the idea to suplicate women to win them over. My guess is that they listened to women at the time. Edit: wording
/r/seduction22/07/22 10:24 PM
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Spot on with this. Feels like it took 38 years to become the man I needed to be, as opposed to the 3rd wheel guy that tells himself he doesn't need anyone. Deep shit here, but my mom died at around 35 from alcoholic related health issues. As a result, I see women 35 and up unattractive unless thier super cute. I was a late bloomer and still can pass for early 30s. I have way more success with drinking age women than women approaching the wall.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 09:10 PM
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What's fucked up about her story is that it could be 100% true, but it is skewed to demonize Hardwick. She had anorexia, a mental illness. Her picture of her weight loss is labeled "progress pic," so it was obvious she's into "thinspo." Women like this can be obsessive with structure, from counting calories to planning out every five minutes of thier day. Add in the "daddy teach me issues," the rules she agreed to, and sexual dynamics she explained all make sense. It's likely she had this mental…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/18 02:43 PM
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I remember in my early 20s when I first tried cocaine. I hadn't really tried anything other than weed and I remember this guilty feeling of trying a hardcore drug. You know what? Other than it being addictive and expensive, it was fucking awesome and those preconceived notions that I was doing something society told me was wrong washed away. Same thing with this chick. Don't act like the age thing is a thing and it won't be. Because of your experience, she will automatically hamster that you are…
/r/askTRP10/04/18 04:53 PM
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I think #3 is what held me back for the longest time. Me being honest, logical, and sometimes robotic made me susceptible to manipulation because I assumed the female mind worked the same way. Now I say less than necessary, a&a, or just smirk in silence.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/18 04:21 PM
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I think we should all reflect on our benchmarks in life. I imagine myself sitting down in 5 years(40 trips around the sun), having a glass of whatever, and asking myself, "did I do enough? Am I thriving or surviving?" Time to revisit my 5 year plan..
/r/TheRedPill03/04/18 01:46 AM
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You know deep down. Don't let your heart ignore what your gut is telling you.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 04:06 PM
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I'd say Berserk series(anime). When you have to watch the only woman you've cared about get raped by a demon right in front of you.. Well, that's a hard pill to swallow.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 07:43 PM
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Good timing on this. I have a Tinder date turned plate situation. I just keep thinking how akward the whole situation felt. She is sexual attractive but has two kids. "not the first MILF I've banged for a notch," I tell myself. Truth discovered, I feel more empty because I know I can do better for myself. I'd rather be in a dry spell than fuck someone I'm "meh" about.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/17 07:27 AM
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It could be a comfort test. However, in my particular experience it meant she was going to sabotage the relationship and cheat. Not saying that's where your case is heading, but it's often that insecure women crave attention from more than one prospect to feel secure. In which case, she's not relationship material.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 04:36 PM
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I had noticed a relationship pattern where I would hit it off really well with a girl. The sex would be amazing, but the relationship itself would burn out quickly. I had a pivotal moment in my life where I walked away from a failed engagement. She was damaged but I thought that's what I deserved because I've battled depression most of my life. I started self-improvement. Reading 'No More Mr Nice Guy' and Mark Manson's 'Models.' I made a post in r/seduction saying "everything I knew about women …
/r/askTRP09/11/17 04:48 PM
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The more we know, the less we actually know. I'm aware calling an atheist arrogant is a a trigger. I know fuck all about parallel universes, but I don't think it's arrogant to dismiss it and lump into the theoretical category. Being agnostic is fake modesty. It's already been determined that if aliens contact and discover us first, they will be light-years ahead of us in technology and could probably destroy us.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 04:18 PM
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Agnosticism isn't a default state. It's actually more common in the formerly indoctrinated. An "on the fence" transition. Atheism is where you land when you realize that deities, pink unicorns, and FSM do not exist. Read Russell's teapot. This is basic shit
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 03:27 PM
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Everyone is missing the point. I feel like I'm the only one that gets it. GLO gained popularity by being controversial with his posts, yet delivering them with humor and not being a fucking bore to read. He's stated himself that is his marketing strategy to those in need. He communicates in extremes because that's the only way the new, often young and dumb brethren, will understand. Whereas TFA is targeting men that swallowed late in the game. That's the disconnect. Both of these guys are gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 07:35 AM
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Compared to Rollo, I think it speaks more to the lamen.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 02:01 AM
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He's military. It's kind of part of programming isn't it?
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 01:58 AM
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A book of entertaining short spurts and long rants? I'd buy it too, just leave out the RAPE.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 01:55 AM
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Hunter, in your defense, you are on hardmode.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/17 09:37 PM
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You are 10 months in. Stating your boundaries now won't do anything. Your current inquiry shows you are invested, and that's understandable. You can lay it all out on the line for her, but if she intends to cheat, she will tell you exactly what you want to hear, all the while doing exactly the opposite. Look for these signs: -trickle truth (she's already done this) -projecting (she will say things like "aren't you tired of me?" or something similar disguised as a comfort test -she spends more ti…
/r/askTRP24/10/17 02:53 PM
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My point was more oriented towards her hypocrisy and the fact that she carried on about the subject as if she never cheated herself, to the very same person she cheated on.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/17 08:07 PM
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On shared memories... I was talking to my ex at work today and she started going on about how some of the older married men would go to bars and take thier rings off. Shaming basically, and how it gives her no hope for marriage. I just said, "loyalty is a rare trait apparently." The whole time I'm looking at her while smiling, but inside I'm thinking, " bitch, did you cut out a part of your brain that remembers you cheated on me 8 months into our relationship?" It's been over a year, but I'll ad…
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 04:46 AM
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Read Allen Carr, 'how to quit smoking the easy way.' This will mentally prepare you. For physical, start exercising. Take a vacation from work and start a routine. Commit to it. The first week is the hardest. Everything after that is your mind thinking it's missing something.
/r/askTRP09/10/17 06:49 PM
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If she's trying to ease your mind with justifications as to why she's not into him, that usually means she's considered him and she will say anything. Here's the thing, you are trying to be open and honest. You expect the same from her but if she is looking to branch swing, it doesn't matter. Watch her actions, not her words. I've been in your situation and you will hate yourself more for taking her word.
/r/askTRP08/10/17 05:15 PM
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I've never seemed to have had any other way. Even when I'm on top of my spending, health, diet, (aka owning my shit), my brain is still a scumbag. All I can do is make positive associations. Write down a small list of goals and give yourself a deadline, like "start gym routine on X." Once you knock those out, keep upgrading your goals and working them. Regardless of how you feel, tell yourself "i know I'll feel a shit ton more accomplished if I do this and stick with it." Eventually you will get…
/r/askTRP03/10/17 10:11 PM
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Read 'Models' by Mark Manson. If you want to develop game, you have to put yourself out there and get rejected. Most guys avoid this. This book can prepare you.
/r/seduction27/09/17 03:43 PM
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I'm 34 with social anxiety and trust issues. I do indeed people watch and judge instead of networking, so you are right about the ego. It's something I'm working on with meditation and getting out of my comfort zone.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/17 01:39 PM
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Lifting and learning I have down. I've been avoiding the socializing because I'm the typical quiet intellectual that hates small talk and only comes out to swim at a depth nobody else dives to. Without the social, it just feels like I'm going through the motions though. Everything you said is extremely relatable however.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/17 03:52 AM
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That was my problem. I gave her a 2nd chance, so when she started acting shady, I made it my mission to know what my gut already told me. She was pretty dumb about it, and only changed her tactic when she got caught by switching to text and changing the name of her ex in her contacts. It was the exchange between her "poly" female friend that revealed all the lies and grit of the matter.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 02:49 PM
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I commend you on your escape man. I didn't live with my ex, but about 6 months into our relationship, I caught her crossing boundaries with her previous ex via messanger. (she left her login on my tablet so I could read everything in real time) I know I should have ghosted her then, but I ended up confronting her. Same situation, "he was on drugs and treated me like shit," "past me loved past him but I have you now," and "I was just suprised he was being so nice to me and I never got closure." L…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 08:07 PM
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Cheers. I guess men have thier walls too. At least for those that swallow the red late in the game. Eventually 40s will come and we will be past giving a fuck. Currently however, my prime years are being spent on plates that don't even give props to vaginal orgasms. The tone is set and you are a piece of meat
/r/askTRP02/09/17 07:04 AM
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Sadly, I'm 34 and this is me. I spent my 20s not giving a fuck and relied on potent chemistry to make friends. Now I live in a new state, work fluctuating retail hours that make it impossible to do anything not spontaneous, and I get disappointed when I get a phone notification that's an email update. I've been in my head for so long, I've realized that if I stopped talking to anyone in my life, they would not give a shit. Bit of a bummer despite my perpetual self-improvement.
/r/askTRP02/09/17 04:31 AM
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Can't lose if you don't play the game right? It's up to you to determine the point. Whether you are in high school or college, you will observe social constructs like that. Don't be an AFC. Do the work. Ask yourself what you want and start taking steps to get there. You will always be a bench warmer if you sit back, observe, and then throw your hands up because you don't like what you see. What you focus on becomes your reality.
/r/askTRP30/08/17 03:44 PM
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Depression is like riding in a boat taking in water. It takes a lot of work to stay afloat and sometimes you wonder what the point is. One thing that helps me is to create a mental ledger. Remind yourself, "if I eat McDonald's instead of making a healthier alternative, I know I'm going to feel like shit." Or, "I want to work out in the morning because I know I will feel better the rest of day with more energy and a sense of accomplishment." The point is to CHOOSE what your brain already knows is…
/r/askTRP10/08/17 01:55 PM
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Well said sir. I still to this day get angry when I think about the girl that cheated on me. In a way, it was a paradym shift in my brain. "All guns are loaded."
/r/askTRP27/07/17 04:30 AM
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She doesn't have the upper hand so she's justifying and incoming branch swing. "I'm not good enough for you" typically means she hid apart of herself and know it will come out eventually. Don't get too attached to this one.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 03:38 PM
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It's all right but it's not alright. Essentially, as men, we have all been duped. That's why there is an "anger" phase. True, OP sounds MGToW, but I'm starting to think that's healthy. The recipe boils down to this. There are beautiful women out there that are still in love with men that cheated on them. A part of them will always love them, and thus they still feel like they had settle with thier current partner. I've heard first hand accounts of this. So as a defense mechanism, TRP stresses to…
/r/TheRedPill21/07/17 05:30 AM
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She's setting you up. If she likes this guy and you lose frame, you are going to push her away and reinforce her mental justification. If she agreed to stop talking to him and is now drinking alcohol with him, she doesn't respect you. If she doesn't respect you, you've already lost.
/r/askTRP04/06/17 11:31 PM
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"he's just a friend, nothing more"
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 04:41 AM
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I'm always one foot out the door now, unfortunately for them.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 04:39 AM
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It is not as simple as that. Take "poly" women for example. Assuming they are half way attractive, they can gain access to the provider, the sex God, and the emotional tampon. Men will accept this with full disclosure, but I seriously doubt it has anything to do with the woman's seduction techniques. Men have to lie and evade to successfully bang multiple women without starting a shit storm.
/r/seduction28/03/17 03:21 AM
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I'm skeptical. PUA techniques are geared towards things like: feigning disinterest, push/pull, disqualifing and creating hoops to jump through to win back approval, negging, etc. All these techniques are utilized to sway the prospect into believing you are a high quality man that has options. We already know women have more options, so how could it possibly work the same way?
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:04 AM
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So does this imply that men are susceptible to PUA techniques in the same way? I've read the 'Art of Seduction' by Robert Greene and even Cleopatra used her sexuality as a tool to seduce. I've been oblivious to being hit on before and it didn't even dawn on me until it was too late, so I would be interested in learning what methods she used, and if she had to roll through a barrel of rejection before became successful.
/r/seduction27/03/17 06:30 PM
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"By the time you have the 'talk,' she's already planned her exit" -some guy that knows what he's talking about
/r/askTRP22/03/17 01:24 PM
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Additionally, if a LTR cheats on you, ghost the fuck out of her. Your history and lovey dove feelings will prompt you to confront her or try to gain some sort of "closure." This is bullshit. She should be dead to you, and there's no clarity to be had. You were deceived, but you wised up and figured it out. Now leave her in the dust where she belongs.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/17 12:51 AM
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If things are still hot between you guys after 5 years, ride it out. Life is bound to take you two in different directions eventually. The grass isn't always greener and you don't often appreciate what you have until it's gone.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:29 PM
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There seems to be "nothing new under the sun," in this sub. Even the quality posts are starting to feel rehashed. That is, until you actually start making progress. For instance, I just locked in my 2nd plate. Last year I was in a LTR that went south in November, so I feel like I'm off to a good start. So now I'm researching plate management, so to speak. I've never juggled more than one woman in my life, so I'm concerned with how empty it can feel at times. However, it's also kind of unique wha…
/r/TheRedPill14/03/17 12:20 PM
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I'll admit, something about the Australian roommate's accent does it for me. Other than that, the show has cringey blue pill moments more than anything.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 07:57 PM
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Christopher Hitchens. The man had a militant frame and watching his debates always left me inspired.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 07:35 PM
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I don't number girls in my head at the time; it's mostly a fuck yes or no. However, whenever IGN brought back the decimal ratings for video games, it both satisfied me and affected my decision making on whether I purchased a game or not. I. E. - 8.5 or above
/r/seduction09/03/17 06:54 AM
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There should be an app for this. I could see myself on a date, and she would be like, "wtf are you doing?" "Shhhh, I'm min/maxing my character stats to take you home tonight. "
/r/TheRedPill08/03/17 02:28 PM
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Ever notice how Bulma hamsters her relationship with Vegeta?
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 02:57 PM
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Contrary to the concept that most people can't think for themselves, this is exactly the type of structure that is seeked out and needed for hard changes. At the prime age of 34, I'm reaching a point where I need to take action now because my metabolism won't let me keep making shitty decisions without consequences for long. (Vices: booze, smokes, shitty diet, shitty bowel movements) I'm aware of the pain period that is to come with these changes. The cognitive dissonance over the next month wil…
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 04:24 PM
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The most therapeutic transition I've ever made in my life was embracing my masculinity. My 20's were spent in waves of depression, anxiety, and seeking "caretaker" type women that landed on my doorstep. After years of broken and burned out relationships, I developed a damaged perception of myself. I was stuck in a stasis of just keeping my head above water, yet not swimming to shore. One day in therapy, it just clicked. "I'm a man, and I'll handle it." There's power in that. It sounds simple, bu…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/17 03:03 PM
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Dude, there's nothing you can say or do that will get to her. Right now, you are probably numb. Later, you will be angry, obsessive, and may even come to reflect "fondly" of the good times. You will be looking for closure where there is none. I wish someone told me this when I experienced this type of betrayal, but you have to ghost her completely and don't look back. During your healing process, you will always come up with something you should have said to strike at her core. Truth is, there's…
/r/askTRP31/01/17 10:36 PM
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Her claiming to be drunk is the rationalization hamster. Do NOT get caught up in the idea that she loves you. Love is not enough, especially not for her.
/r/askTRP19/01/17 04:33 PM
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This is great advice for men in LTRs to consider. The idea of "Love" can cause men to overlook shitty behavior, or to forgive instead of walk away. It takes experience and heartache to listen to one's gut instincts, but learning to do so saves a lot of heartache in the end.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/17 01:50 PM
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We never lived together. I took my apartment key back though.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/17 07:54 PM
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Exactly. The big picture is, she's a piece of shit and I deserve better. I'm sick of rehashing the details, and I'm thoroughly surprised that even though I left out those details in my post, people seem to know exactly how I'm feeling, without nailing me to the cross with the TRP standards.
/r/TheRedPill29/12/16 11:46 PM
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Yeah dude, and now I'm caught in the paradox of loving the person she was and hating the person she became. The hardest part is forgiving myself, and I appreciate all support in these responses. But now I know better before I put myself out there again.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/16 03:16 AM
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All this cheating advice is really hitting home. I just got out of a 1 year LTR investment. I caught her crossing boundaries texting her ex 6 months in when she left her messenger login on my tablet. She trickle truthed and lied to the bitter end. Her convincing remorse, once she realized I knew, was of course a lie and I hate myself for taking her back then. 4 months later, I check her phone and she sent some dude, 'an old friend from high school", a modeling pic. I get that it's her "art," but…
/r/TheRedPill27/12/16 07:49 PM
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Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. The glass is already broken. She's not yours, it's just your turn. You can try to internalize all this, but only experience will drive it home. So many times I've had that gut feeling, but my heart wouldn't listen. I went through the motions anyway, and got burned in the worst way. Now if I see the red flags, I walk away. No second chances, no elaborate explanation.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/16 03:57 AM
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Rollo, Do you see any correlation between men with depression and being raised in an era of modern feminism? We only need to look back as far as our grandparent's generation, where it seems men could not afford to have mental problems like ADD, depression, and anxiety. So what has changed?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/16 07:17 PM
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Ever drive home from work and not recall the drive because you were so lost in thought? Chances are, you won't even remember what you were contemplating. This is essentially the brain on auto-pilot, or "thinking without thinking." Meditation is a conscious effort to take the brain off auto-pilot, to let thoughts come and go, and to be more present in the moment. In method of practice, this could be just taking 15 minutes a day to sit comfortably and focus on your breathing. As for benefits, ther…
/r/askTRP26/08/16 04:00 PM
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That "finally normal" superior feeling you get from meds isn't sustainable. I'm stating this from a combination of experience and hypocrisy. I've been(depended) on adderall for years. I still am. At first, yeah math is finally interesting or at least learnable and you can socialize easier. (mood stabilizing is a side effect) But it IS a crutch like everything else, and it's unfortunate that GP's hand it out like candy. It's also unfortunate that if you legitimately try to get tested through a ps…
/r/askTRP26/08/16 05:08 AM
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No, blood shouldn't hold them back from being warriors, but a bucket of ice cream and a Gilmore Girls marathon tends to.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/16 02:33 PM
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Me at 18: "Finally I can move out of my parent's house and do what the fuck I want." Me at 30: "Fuck, where are my parents?"
/r/TheRedPill24/08/16 01:20 PM
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The way I imagine it, (I do it unconsciously so I have to imagine), you touch a female's arm when you light up with excitement upon an idea or an agreement within an engaging conversation. If she's attracted to you, she will maintain laser eye contact and not even notice you touched her arm or leg, but will feel close to you. It's called kino, or esculation. With all that said, I get very discouraged when an article that could fit on one page makes you tab through it. It would be nice if someone…
/r/seduction20/08/16 04:10 AM
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You just inspired me to create a goal board! I write and consolidate my goals on paper, but there's nothing like a life plan mounted on a wall, staring you back in the face like a crime conspiracy waiting to be solved.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 06:36 PM
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Only time will heal these wounds. I've been in doomed relationships where I knew the girl wasn't right for me, and I still got pangs seeing her move on. So it's not just her; it's the contrast of your life without her. If you are in the prime of your life, stay strong and stick to your guns. Move on and continue to focus on yourself, not her FB. Eventually the 5 years you spent with her will be a footnote in your life, and you will recognize these feelings for what they are.
/r/askTRP11/08/16 02:54 PM
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The irony in this post is OP doesn't give a shit about her, if he is being completely honest. It's like she didn't even hear that the only saving grace she has is to shut the fuck up. Granted, she could be a free-loading entitled bitch from drawing conclusions, but it seems like all he did was stated strongly he wasn't happy, and she did what it took to avoid rejection on his terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 04:42 AM
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I think the problem is that most guys stumble into this sub after being wronged, cheated on, or stepped on by a woman. They then absorb all this information which brings clarity as to why they were treated that way. So they start to implement strategy, eventually getting a taste of success, and fall right back into oneitus. Another issue is that in order to embrace TRP and make necessary changes, it takes money. There's this perception or idea of a man that is conceived when reading top posts an…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/16 02:23 PM
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Excellent advice. I don't ask much of her and I need to change that. She loves to feel wanted. This is an excellent solution
/r/askTRP29/07/16 08:38 PM
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I think you're right. I've always been introspective, but it's bogging me down
/r/askTRP29/07/16 06:55 PM
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I guess I'm lucky that since I'm such self-reliant loner, I don't have any negative influences to shed, besides my own. (Okay I have no friends, and have always preferred select few I have chemistry over networking) A looming concern is that I'm dating a woman a decade younger than me. While I may be enlightened in knowing that friends come and go, she pretty much knows that if I'm not at work then I'm at home. My availability appears to be wide open to her, and I don't have much cash to join a …
/r/askTRP29/07/16 05:59 PM
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I've worked for Home Depot for 15 years, and by aiming to be the "#1 service retailer in the world," we have created a demographic monster. Customers have corporate on speed dial and know if they bitch and moan enough, they will get thier way or be compensated. There's no loyalty; it's all about entitlement. Interesting enough, I have never pondered the analogy between customers and relationship partners, but I do miss the days where you could tell someone showing thier ass to fuck off... and no…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 07:16 PM
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After one last sexcapade of course ... Noted.
/r/askTRP14/07/16 07:39 PM
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Sound advice. I took screenshots of some of the things that pissed me off. Small indicators that she still cares for him. I'll edit the post when I get off work
/r/askTRP14/07/16 07:13 PM
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I think this is the best action. Either way, she lied to me twice. She told me she couldn't sleep that night (well after we stopped texting) and I asked her why. She just shook her head, shrugged her shoulders, and lost eye contact. So that and omitting that she talked to her ex all night with content indicating she still cares for him, is a bad sign. This post also helped me put things in perspective : https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4a5akh/shes_not_yours_its_just_your_turn_the_gla…
/r/askTRP14/07/16 06:59 PM
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This exactly. A string of shitty relationships can, overtime, leave one with a sense of short comings. That in combination with learned behaviors and schemas from past traumas, creates a sense of self that guards against recreating past experiences. This only creates cognitive dissonance and insecurity. It's better to accept what one has been through and own it with confidence, and if a female prospect can't accept that, one is better off for it.
/r/askTRP14/07/16 04:07 PM
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'We all make choices, but in the end our choices make us. "
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 04:20 PM
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Save the expression of your passions for the date. After a connection has been established, then you can text here and there to further establish rapport. The idea of vulnerability is putting yourself out there with confidence. That won't come through via text initially. Like Mark says, it's your intentions that matter, not so much what you say. If a girl sees a dude excitingly spouting ideas and intrigue about a movie trailer, and she has any interest at all in you, she will by proxy get excite…
/r/seduction12/03/16 05:11 PM
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Dude, I'm 33. And while I'm not autistic, I have dealt with depression and anxiety since I was 18. I still have that voice in my head that says, "I'm damaged, so the only way I can get a girl is if she's damaged." Or, "a girl has to fall in love with me to accept me as I am." This is self-deception at it's best and kills the effort behind Self-improvement. The future is going to happen anyway. Just take small steps, and find your self-worth outside of your current experience, which is not a refl…
/r/seduction08/01/16 01:16 PM
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Yeah at the time I was ignorant of frame maintenance so I got all butt hurt about it and responded like a AFC. Lesson learned though.
/r/seduction07/01/16 02:55 PM
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Great progress man. Congrats. I have the same body type. Zero pectorals and looking slightly malnourished. I'm currently doing home workouts with dumbells until I can afford a gym membership. I feel like I'm in the same cog slot in my transition as well. Conquering depression and anxiety where medication and therapy failed. I'm trying to establish male comradery with different friends to increase my likely hood of going out in social atmospheres, prior to approaching women. I already feel a self…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 02:33 PM
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Truely inspiring. Every approach I make here out I'll be thinking of how much confidence and power my balls will add to the seduction process. Metaphorically speaking.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 01:43 PM
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As a cynic I know where you are coming from. But that is the same attitude I had when I was beta as fuck, stuck in the matrix. I'll say right now, swallowing the pill has yet to pay off for me in practice. I'm still dwelling on my past mistakes. I'm still working on my SMV; lifting, reading, and just trying to gain balance in my life. So like you I'm going through the motions. However, what TRP has done for me in the interim far outweighs getting laid left and right, (a side-effect that comes la…
/r/askTRP07/01/16 01:25 PM
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It varies on your perceived SMV. I personally like a thorough back and forth exchange to establish chemistry. It gets me stoked to meet the person. Then again, as an artist intellectual type, I'm limited to these types of interactions as "sure things" because I don't have the value to bake responses, nor the tolerance to navigate the women that are shitty. I had a girl who's bio/interests was basically "guess." I wasn't even that attracted to her, but we had a high match percentage so I opened h…
/r/seduction07/01/16 09:16 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with opting out. Voting, in my opinion, is like a sports fan that speaks of the team's wins as if he was out on the field. "We crushed out there man." When thier team loses they don't take the same pride. It's always some "bullshit." Same with religion, same with politics, same with patriotism. My parents had sex here. I had nothing to do with it.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 05:21 AM
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In hindsight I probably jumped the gun on that. At the moment, It just didn't quite make sense to me because I immediately pondered the current state of feminine features, developing in younger women due to the non-socialogical factors like he mentioned, at a rate where jailbait is actually a problem.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 04:54 AM
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I always wanted to create an indie graphic novel. But much like the difference between playing video games and making them, it often does require a team of collaboration. That's not going to hold me back though. I'm know I'm capable. If I get started and stoked about it, the avalanche will carry me through it. Thanks for the sub nod. I tend to embrace it, because your response was more intuitive than you know.
/r/seduction01/01/16 03:17 AM
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Damnit, thought I was golden until the Netflix caveat. I do have to work earlish tomorrow.
/r/seduction01/01/16 02:44 AM
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I'm not hating on his success, whether it was handed to him or he built it from the ground up. He may be "shaking things up" in the political realm which makes him stand out. I just don't think he's a man worth looking up to. Elon Musk is a successful business man worth promoting. I'm not saying that because he's clearly less of an eye sore, but because he's a game changer through intellectual pursuits and sacrifice, not nickel and diming budgets.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 02:28 AM
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Cheers. Learn to enjoy the process. You will be bitter. You will be angry. You will dive further, and the sidebar will be your Bible to the point of paralysis. What you know will spill over in your interactions. You will resist the commitment needed to get it right, because the beta version of you didn't have to do any work with the brainwashed misconception that you would be loved and accepted as you are. You may face depression, anxiety, and even despair. Especially if you discovered the truth…
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 01:50 AM
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Maybe it's just me, but I think you are spot on. As men of value, we should recognize and respect other men of value. Now OP can cherry pick his book, and squeeze out some RP truths, but let's not forget this man is running for president. He's not a man worthy of respect. He's a joke. A reality TV star. Not a man to be admired. Now imagine an atheist like Sam Harris running for president. That is a wild card I could get behind.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 12:49 AM
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Strong scientific retort but you nearly lost me towards the end. The reason men have become more feminine is due to a direct result of environmental, conscious, and subconscious influence over generations. Raised a mommy's boy? Your bound to have feminist traits. Buy into feminist culture thinking your nice guy approach will help you win with women? Sure, you think like a woman, but that doesn't mean you are in her head. Did you have a strong male father figure in your life but he pissed you off…
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 12:40 AM
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I feel your pain bro. It's like when you have this gut feeling that a woman was cheating or crossing you in some way. As you lash out she manages to spin it and make you feel like shit. Only you find out later, your gut was right. It was all bullshit. So then you get triple pissed for doubting yourself in the first place.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 12:14 AM
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One major point. She fucking CHEATED on him. How does he not know that is a mirror that, once broken, you can never put back together for a proper reflection? Fuck leading the kitchen, this guy needs a crash course in nexting.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/16 12:07 AM
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I can't believe she's 26. Her face reads like she already lost her soul to having a kid.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/15 11:57 PM
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Being a "Nice Guy" is toxic. If a girl says, "your such a nice guy," you should feel insulted. Here's why: Nice guys may be considerate, kind, and understanding. They think this will give them brownie points and help them stand out from all the douchery. They find that it is easier to talk to girls this way. They may even find that women will say things like, "I enjoy talking to you." This is a comfort first approach that kills sexual attraction. You immediately set yourself up as the emotional …
/r/TheRedPill31/12/15 01:35 PM
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I have to say man, this resonates in my left titty. I have been thinking I need to increase my value first with shit like, "I need a better apartment than my shitty one bedroom, I need to work out and beef up(I'm skinny), I need to work on myself(via therapy, meditation, etc.) Here's the thing. I realize I am projecting and disqualifying myself. I have a decent job, a working vehicle, and even though money is tight, I'm relatively debt free and financially independent. But since I'm 33, I have t…
/r/seduction31/12/15 12:44 PM
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Thank you for this man. I'm always trying to appeal to women intellectually, because that's what turns me on as a nerd. Reading this, I realize I'm still in denial. I need to take a hiatus to work on myself. Lately instead, I've being the AFC complaining about: how women just kick back and collect validation, can polarize easier than men and still be considered attractive, or how fucked up the online dating world is. (Practically a shot in dark in my area where there's little to no alternative w…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/15 02:59 PM
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The whole point was not getting to the point. But thanks for the wrap up. I couldn't hold it any longer.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/15 01:44 AM
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I'm not sure if Dude Buddy's technique is guided, but I recommend Headspace app. Ten free 10 minute sessions you can repeat. The guy's voice is tolerable and he helps you through the process. When the guy's voice does get annoying because it feels like he's interrupting you ; that's progress. As for the anxiety, I've been there. It can be difficult because you are essentially turning up the dial as check in with your body. The guided meditation can keep you in tune with your breath, instead of y…
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:30 PM
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I meant my openers get responses, but the back and forth eventually falls short because I'm trying to build rapport. This is my mistake I'm sure.
/r/seduction07/12/15 07:40 PM
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I get solid results with the connection approach. Unfortunately I have trouble keeping it light and playful. I have to dive into this deep philosophical level that noone swims at because I'm so introspective. I look forward to your follow up post on how to keep it going and transitioning to a date.
/r/seduction07/12/15 04:35 PM
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I read your post and all I could think was, "I need to stop playing Fallout 4 and level up my life."
/r/seduction17/11/15 09:49 PM
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The confidence conundrum. I have yet to figure this out myself. I'm in the same boat: depression, anxiety, ADD. I'm also in therapy and meditate daily. There's still something in my core that is lost to depersonalization. I try to polarize and use my personality to play to my strengths, but this just makes it more exciting when I do connect with a girl, chemistry wise, and makes it even worse when it doesn't work out. I know the answer to this is to find your value, and live for yourself to be t…
/r/seduction17/11/15 09:09 PM
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In my situation, a lot of my vulnerability can come off as baggage in the eyes of people that can't relate to it. I've dealt with depression and anxiety for years, been a Guinea pig to a psychiatrist that threw medicine at me to the point of depersonalization, and even have scars from self-harm from my early 20s when I had bad coping skills. All this comes out eventually, and if it freaks them out or turns them off, it probably wouldn't of worked anyway.
/r/seduction30/08/15 07:03 PM
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I am very new to online dating, and have had women appreciate my inquisitive initial messages. But after that I found it hard to transition because I guessed I expected tit for tat. Thanks for the tip on the 3-1 ratio of questioning. I avoided this at first to steer clear of the "interview" tactic but I guess online is a different ball game. So it's preferable to ask for the date and the number exchange towards the last message? I guess this makes sense because of mobile dating apps. It just fee…
/r/seduction12/08/15 12:10 PM
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As a male, I've found bisexual women easier to approach. The fact that they don't necessarily need a man makes them more attractive, and there seems to be less of a power struggle in the interaction.
/r/seduction11/08/15 09:51 AM
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A perfect analogy to this, another Mark Manson gem, is the rope used to restrain the elephant as it was young, is the same size used to restrain the elephant as an adult. The elephant could easily break the rope, but it's been conditioned to believe, nearly since birth, that it can't break free. Brilliant post.
/r/seduction08/08/15 01:31 AM
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Thanks, I plan to check it out. I would love to get to a point in my life where I didn't want a relationship. There is a good chance that my brain has been primed to believe I do.
/r/seduction07/08/15 09:26 PM
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It was indeed complicated. In the worst of times, she required a lot of attention and validation. She would go through emotional cycles where she would push me away, sabotage, or hold me to a ridiculous standard. Everything was a crisis to her. She was very draining emotionally. Through out all this push/pull I tried to be supportive, but the line between her being upset from therapy and her being unsatisfied with me became very blurry. As a result I felt like I had to walk on eggshells around h…
/r/seduction07/08/15 08:52 PM
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I think you are more right than you know. A part of me is still in pain and unraveling from the epiphanies, and I'm looking to jump ship to stay afloat. I will bare this in mind for sure.
/r/seduction07/08/15 08:06 PM
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Subscribed. Time to turn my spare tire into a rolling rock.... Or something.
/r/seduction07/08/15 05:30 PM
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I think it's mostly irrelevant because even before her, my relationships were based on some form of dysfunction due to my own insecurities. I get the problem is with me. If you have read 'No more Mr Nice Guy' then you can pretty much guess that I was emotionally distant, with myself and others. I claimed I didn't need anyone or anything, but I was clearly in denial. I buried myself playing video games all day thinking it was a "passion." I never put myself up for rejection and accepted what land…
/r/seduction07/08/15 05:04 PM
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Thanks for the reply. I've dealt with depression and anxiety since I was 18, so a lot of progress in my life was hindered through maintaining safety and not awaking the darkest days again. I'm thrusting forward these days though and feel like I have a future to project, so thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction07/08/15 04:52 PM
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Sound advice. I think my problem is I'm still programmed wrong. Like when I do art work for other people, it's always better than what I'm motivated to do for myself. I get that's the nice guy talking, and I understand the behavior now, it's just correcting it in application and experience I lack.
/r/seduction07/08/15 04:47 PM
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It's complicated. She had ptsd from early childhood abuse, and I had my problems. It was great for years, but I admit I settled for a lot of bullshit because of who I was, as did she I imagine.
/r/seduction07/08/15 04:33 PM
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I just finished this book and I didn't consider myself a nice guy either. However, it did make me realize certain aspects of myself throughout my relationships, that were on a subconscious level. For instance, I never consciously understood why women in my relationships always ended up asking for change from me, when I claimed to accept them as they were. My passivity ended up having the the women in my life blowing up at me to get a rise out of me. This was a plea for me to stand up for my self…
/r/seduction08/07/15 07:22 PM
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I went to Barnes and Noble today to see if anything caught my eye. A petite brunette who looked like a runner, (gym shorts, ponytail), actually put herself in proximity of me while I was checking out the graphic novels one one side, and she checked out sci-fi novels on the other. I froze up and kept on with my nerdy pursuits for comics, and she eventually left to go to the bathroom adjacent to the aisle. Of course all this is hindsight, but I do feel like this was a missed opportunity.
/r/seduction07/07/15 08:09 PM
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