| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 59 | Mini-FR from Tinder | Field Report | alt323g0 | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/16 11:19 PM |
| 35 | Seeking Comfort/Discomfort | Red Pill Theory | alt323g0 | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/16 03:45 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 6 | Hate it when girls call me buddyWho. Gives. A. Fuck? Letting stupid shit like this get to you is the opposite of RP | /r/askTRP | 21/11/20 02:38 PM |
| 21 | Girl invites me over, cancels a few hours in advance, apologizes later and asks me to come over regardless, but now I've made new plans. How to proceed?"I made other plans. I'll be around on [insert day] if you ever wanna come by my place." Then don't say anything else. She cancelled on you and wasted your time, so you should only make plans for your place, where you lose no time if she flakes. Don't let her know this or explain. If she asks why your place etc., just say "that's what I'm willing to commit to now" and leave it at that. | /r/askTRP | 18/11/20 05:52 PM |
| 10 | FWB got super drunk and handsy with another dude in front of me. I dropped her from my rotation for blatant disrespect. Right move?Your friend sucks | /r/askTRP | 14/11/20 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Dating a conservative home-schooled conservative woman (f22) from Church. Great woman, solid values, but anti-vaxThanks for the link, I wasn't able to find anything about ineffectiveness of flu shots or the developing covid vaccines. It was still interesting information, though. | /r/askTRP | 11/11/20 02:56 PM |
| 0 | Dating a conservative home-schooled conservative woman (f22) from Church. Great woman, solid values, but anti-vaxPlease link studies proving ineffectiveness. Or don't but then I'm not going to believe you. | /r/askTRP | 11/11/20 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Why the fuck are there so many losers on here?First of all, anyone who has been here for a while knows that it used to be split between this sub and the old trp. This sub was always intended for people who know nothing to ask their questions. Second, why so emotional about it, OP? | /r/askTRP | 27/10/20 01:44 PM |
| 9 | Input appreciated on this conversation.Lol the other comments are right, you have no frame here and this is a great example of what not to do. You get sucked into the argument and the bs. It's so obvious that you still have a thing for this girl, especially because you're posting on here. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/20 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Hooked up with (ex)-buddy's girl. Should I tell him?Exactly! Good luck sir | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 06:46 AM |
| 3 | My wee-wee ain’t big enough...It's not a big deal. Be confident. Date women. Practice sex and get good. Continue dating/spinning the ones who don't mind. Forget the ones who do. The end. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 06:35 AM |
| 6 | She's not LTR material but has grown on me. She doesn't ask for much and I'm feeling good passively helping her out. Conflicting feelings as a result?Nothing wrong with helping someone. But that's not why you're posting, is it? You're posting because you want to LTR her, right? Why don't you actually ask a question in your post? | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Girl I’m going out with doesn’t want me to be seen with me?Why do you care? | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 06:25 AM |
| 3 | Hooked up with (ex)-buddy's girl. Should I tell him?He might have a meltdown and call you 20 times a day. Or he might come burn your house down, I don't know. Yeah he's BP but BP guys justify craziness "for love" and he's also a drunk with PTSD. Again, I simply would not play more into the drama. You kinda got yourself into this mess, but don't make it worse. Sometimes, people are attracted to drama and unhinged friends because they're generous people and have a soft spot for them. It sounds like this could be you. I suggest doing more straight-u… | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 06:11 AM |
| 1 | What the fuck does it mean when a girl calls you cocky?Like most things, I'd need more context. But for me, it has been only a good thing. Tom Cruise in Top Gun is prototypical cocky. But it's also sort of a shit test (you don't want to deny it or you lose the test). I don't really amplify, either, because that feels lame and try-hard to me, maybe other guys amplify but it's not my personality. I just shrug and say "yeah I guess I kinda am, huh?" | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 06:01 AM |
| 3 | Girl wants to change venue 2nd date"Nah, hit me up when you don't have to study." | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 05:56 AM |
| 12 | Hooked up with (ex)-buddy's girl. Should I tell him?You hang out with a lot of fucking unhinged people. Don't tell your buddy. Also I would distance from him. If you feel bad for him you can still be his "friend" by giving him advice now and then, but what more do you have to learn from this dude? Also telling him is not going to end well, he's straight unstable (as are both of the women you hooked up with). Most importantly, it sounds like you are attracted to drama. It's your life, but yeah not too smart in my opinion. Find some people (guys an… | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 05:43 AM |
| 8 | Working on myself paid off!Everyone else's comments are correct. You want to flex because you still care what she/other people think. Which means you've made great progress (grats on the job man) but you have more work to do. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 05:19 AM |
| 5 | Lost my frame. How would you have handled this situation better?I disagree with most replies and don't think I would have broken frame. I would have just left and did something else. If she hits it off with her ex, fine, you move on, sucks for her. If she realizes that you left and chases you down and apologizes, fine, she can stay. Simple as that. Most importantly, you can't force people to do/be anything. The more you try, the worse it becomes. If you lost frame but stay with her, that's the first step toward more crap. | /r/askTRP | 19/10/20 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Caught LTR in lie tonight. Demote or just ghost her?1: no, you just venmo her, and never speak to her again. 2: if the guy cheated and the girl ran off with the money, people in this sub would probably react differently. 3: I gave my advice to OP and you engaged in a discussion with me, not the other way around. But if you want to stop now, that's cool. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/20 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Caught LTR in lie tonight. Demote or just ghost her?I'm sure they understood he was to pay her back. Why do you think he's asking strangers about it on the internet? You've got some expert-level rationalization going on, have you ever considered a career in crime? | /r/askTRP | 12/10/20 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Caught LTR in lie tonight. Demote or just ghost her?If she owes him money for other vacations, then I agree, he shouldn't pay. Otherwise, no, I'm not going to steal $2k from someone because they cheated. | /r/askTRP | 12/10/20 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Caught LTR in lie tonight. Demote or just ghost her?Ghost her but pay your share. The only reason not to pay is because you are butthurt (not RP) or you went on a trip you can't afford (not RP). | /r/askTRP | 12/10/20 12:02 PM |
| 7 | Bro's my life is going bad, not like petty bad, actually bad. What does a guy do in this situation?What are you talking about? YOUR life is going great. The people around you are the ones falling apart, not you. Get tf out of that house, just like you've planned. Build your life. Don't let them drag you down. Once you're stable, you'll finally feel like you can help them. But you won't be able to help them until you can help yourself. | /r/askTRP | 04/10/20 01:28 PM |
| 20 | How did you kill your neediness?"Redpill me please." It's that exact attitude that is the problem. Accomplish things by yourself. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/20 02:14 AM |
| 15 | How My Unattractive Friend Slept With Over 100 WomenFortune = luck, favors = prefers, bold = brave/courageous. So basically "luck prefers the brave." | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/20 09:30 AM |
| 12 | I’m fucking devastated guysYou're trying to be too cool on tinder. Just have some fucking common sense. 1) Don't pick her up in your car on your first date. Just dont. It's tinder, she doesn't fucking know you it's weird. That's why this happened. 2) Don't be planning shit the day of. When you lock down plans, it should be PLACE, DAY, TIME, DONE. Why the fuck are you texting her with like an hour to go to figure out how the date is happening? That's incredibly tedious, and if theres anything that turns girls off, it's ted… | /r/askTRP | 29/08/20 05:30 AM |
| 18 | Ignored messages after repeated flakes, now reaches out again on another channel of communicationAre you kidding me? The fact that someone flaked on you twice and you're still considering them should be an alarm bell in your head that you need to learn to respect yourself. Wow. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/20 08:08 AM |
| 9 | Ignored messages after repeated flakes, now reaches out again on another channel of communicationNo. | /r/askTRP | 17/08/20 07:25 AM |
| 0 | BumbleNo one asks for numbers anymore, man. Girls dont want some creepy rando having their number. Just set up a date. | /r/askTRP | 01/08/20 01:37 AM |
| 29 | Cheated on againLawyer and business owner here. I dont recommend functioning that way. | /r/askTRP | 28/07/20 08:30 PM |
| 1 | How to get over the fact that a lot of my friends are getting unemployment and I’m notGotcha. Well theres a lot of broken/stupid systems in the world, cant argue with ya there. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/20 03:08 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone get tired of chasing girls?Your post is full of excuses. All you do is list off reasons why you can't land girls. Let's see... - Not super popular, not a college ball player, not super rich, not partying all week, not willing to go to 5-star restaurants three times a day, etc. You don't have to be any of those things to land girls In fact, many of those things are counterproductive. Also, maybe you think those guys land girls, but want to know a secret - if they're trying to hard, they're probably desperate and are settli… | /r/askTRP | 03/07/20 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Allowing women to shittest you & wondering/caring if you pass or not is a Beta Trait. Change my mind?At least for me, the whole point of a shit test is not to care. If people care about "passing the test" then they're doing it wrong, as you point out. If you simply don't give af about the test, then as far as I'm concerned, that's the end of the story, you've handled it correctly. I don't "defend myself" from a shit test because I literally don't give a shit. I don't care if it's a woman trying to get under my skin or a six-year-old calling me a "stupidhead." Why do I care? Why do I need to def… | /r/askTRP | 01/07/20 03:43 PM |
| 2 | I have a lot of free time. What should I be learning how to do they will make me money?For money, definitely coding. Mostly for fun but also useful and potential money, you can learn a language. Everyone knows Duolingo but tbh my favorite app is Memrise. | /r/askTRP | 13/06/20 08:22 AM |
| 3 | Double standards in the workplaceAlternative idea: do it, get fired, and sue for gender discrimination. Is it a sure thing? Nope. Is it possible to win? For sure. Is it the most interesting option for us viewers at home? Definitely. | /r/askTRP | 24/04/20 01:07 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with my ex-girlfriend telling people lies about me?I had a similar situation. It's not about you, it's about her. Ego preservation. Don't worry about it. Anyone who is worth caring about already knows how she is or will learn eventually. | /r/askTRP | 20/04/20 12:52 PM |
| 2 | No hate please. My dad wants to give me his old range rover and I'm young.No hate, but it's obvious to me that you spend way too much time worrying about what other people think of you. | /r/askTRP | 06/04/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Can I get some feedback on my tinder profile?I think that's a very large part of it. It's good not too care too much, ESPECIALLY about any particular girl. But girls have kind of wised up to some things. Play it too aloof and they'll think you're just a player. I would be a little more responsive and helpful with the meetup. You can still follow trp advice of "stick to logistics" over text, while still progressing toward the meet up. I always ask the girl out pretty quickly, with a specific plan, place, and time. | /r/askTRP | 30/12/19 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Can I get some feedback on my tinder profile?Lol these comments... my smv is way lower than yours and I did very well online. 100% your issue is your messages. Its something you're doing when it comes to making plans via texts or in the app. How do you ask the girls out? What do you say? How long ahead of time? Where do you take them? I bet it's something with these. | /r/askTRP | 29/12/19 07:56 PM |
| 4 | Seeking Comfort/DiscomfortI don't experience that, but I dated a girl once who was kind of a perfectionist, and she experienced that kind of thing. She tried so hard to be perfect that, although it often motivated her, it was also crushing to her whenever she realized that she made a mistake. She often took criticism very badly. I broke it off with her because I felt like I couldn't even suggest that she did something less-than-perfect without her getting mad at me, apologizing, and then getting mad at herself. So I don'… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/16 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Seeking Comfort/DiscomfortI agree with you, technically. You can also say that there is no such thing is altruism, and I wouldn't disagree with you. But I'm speaking colloquially. So I'm talking about experiences that are uncomfortable on an instant/short-term basis, such as pain, awkwardness, fatigue, focus and hard work. Edit: Also, happiness and comfort are two very different things. I think that's really the purpose of my post. Lifting, playing sports, etc. all make me happy and I look forward to doing them. But maxi… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/11/16 05:27 PM |
| 3 | #NoNothingNov 2016: Give Up Vices, Forge New Habits.eating: no delivery, no thai food, no eating after 9pm no video games lift, mma, or cardio every day | /r/TheRedPill | 05/11/16 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Mini-FR from TinderAt least you recognize and can admit that. Have you ever been in a situation where your dates/texts with a girl are extremely frustrating/stressful and rife with miscommunication? That's often the "opportunity" you receive if you were overly supplicating to reach that point. With the time/energy you save, you can work on those "various reasons", whatever they may be. Good luck man. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/16 05:54 PM |
| 18 | Mini-FR from TinderYeah. She probably doesn't consciously view it as a control thing. For her, it's probably a general attitude of "I'm amazing and all men should bow down for the privilege of being around me." Not someone I'm trying to get involved with. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/16 01:01 AM |
| 5 | Mini-FR from TinderIf she knew a place then she would have suggested it. The sunk time of sending a few messages is nowhere near the time cost of a date. Did you even read my comment? She was petty for wanting an extra 3 min. I didn't avoid the meeting for the 3 minutes. I avoided it because I learned she was petty. Logic isn't your strongpoint, is it? | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/16 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Mini-FR from TinderI have a car. Don't know if she does. Girls are usually good about logistics for me, too. I did acquiesce. The second place would have been about a 15 minute drive for each of us. And I totally wouldn't mind driving an extra 3 minutes. But it was a turn-off that, after I gladly compromised the first time, she still wasn't satisfied and asked for something 3 minutes closer to her. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/16 12:31 AM |
| 1 | How do you become a man.Seek discomfort. | /r/askTRP | 06/09/16 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Running my life into the ground. Need TRPThis is where you start: /r/StopGaming Cold turkey; not moderation. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Think I may have went overboard on the blue pill in red pill/blue pill balance in my LTR. Advice on how to proceed?I honestly think it's too late for that. By your description, it seems like she wants a safe, no-drama way of moving out so that a breakup can happen shortly thereafter. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 11:50 AM |
| 4 | Gentlemen...I think I found a unicorn, how is it possible? 45/M/CA I might be getting married..So just to be clear: you've met up with this person once, hugged her once, and now you're planning your wedding proposal? If so, I think you need to stop and think about the above fact for a moment. Or a day. Or a month. I think even a fully BP person would agree that you've basically been hypnotized. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Tried to get plate to fuck tonight, no dice. Feedback on my responses?I think you did alright and the "ok" at the end was good (though I probably would have opted with no response at all). Most importantly, it hasn't even been 12 hours since this interaction! Don't worry about it. I'd expect her to reach out to you again in no more than a week or two. Passing time and soft-nexting is part of this process and it takes time for hamstering to happen. | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 11:36 AM |
| 3 | GF admitted kissing somone on spin the bottle and says "it's not cheating"...WTF!?People are telling you to break up with her. I'll take it one step further: she wants a breakup. I've seen this happen plenty of times before. Whether they know it or not, some girls do this when they aren't strong enough to initiate the breakup themselves. She likes you as a friend but the attraction is all but faded, and initiating the breakup will be hard and will make her feel like a bad person, so she's acting out, instead. I say do both of you a favor, do the deed yourself and move on. Don… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/16 11:28 AM |
| 6 | Winter DateAs a non-drinker for most of my life, I disagree. Asking to meet at a bar, letting the girl order alcohol, and then not ordering alcohol yourself will make her think, "why the hell did he invite me to a bar if he's not drinking?" and will also make her feel awkward and unsafe about being the only one drinking. Edit: if you randomly talk to someone at a bar/party, it's fine and no big deal. But when you specifically chose the location/activity, it's weird. Also gives the impression that you liter… | /r/askTRP | 20/01/16 04:39 PM |
| 5 | What Hand-to-Hand style should I study first?BJJ. I took it up recently. I have some experience in tkd and a bit of karate. Found that BJJ is more challenging and deeper. I did begin to crave some striking, though. Luckily my gym offers muay thai and boxing for no added cost. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/16 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Ex-GF saying she wants to commit suicidehttps://claytontheobvious.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/ivan-drago.jpg | /r/askTRP | 18/01/16 05:29 PM |
| 1 | If I don't get married or have children, what can my ltr do too me?Aside from the common law marriage stuff, know that you're also probably stuck living with her for a bit if you break up. Unless you want to move out... But it's very difficult to legally kick someone else out if they don't want to leave. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/16 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Trouble keeping frameThis is great, concise advice here. I have many BP friends and the above advice is about as close to RP as I'll get with them. This language also makes sense to BPs. Obvi I don't use RP terms. | /r/askTRP | 15/01/16 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Why nice guys suck at datingI get the impression that you have not read "no more mr. nice guy." If not - you really, really need to. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/12/15 04:25 PM |
| 12 | Nerds can be Alpha too: FR after half a year down this rabbit holeYep. At worst, they'll think, "wow, that person is out of shape... but still doing better than the 90% of society that doesn't leave their couch." | /r/TheRedPill | 29/12/15 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Might have gotten response from a classmate, how do I amplify?Sure. But I think that risk exists with all women, whether you meet them in class, on tinder, etc. Always be cautious and try to make a bit of a "paper trail." That being said, I don't think classmates are more dangerous than anyone else. Co-workers are, though. | /r/askTRP | 17/12/15 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Might have gotten response from a classmate, how do I amplify?I agree about coworkers but I think classmates are totally different and fair game. | /r/askTRP | 17/12/15 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Am I missing out on something by not drinking?Non-drinker until about 6 months ago (I'm 29). In my opinion: life is pretty much the same. except it's nice to be able to grab a beer instead of having to explain to people that you don't drink. having a drink or two just isnt a big deal. still haven't been drunk so I can't speak to that. I'm sure I will, but not in a rush and havent felt the need. | /r/askTRP | 15/12/15 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Where can we find some common ground?Great post. I'm gonna read the rest of the replies when I'm not on mobile. I don't agree with you 100% but man, it is good to read an objective post for once. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/15 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Career/Life AdviceAs an ex-gamer, my advice is to avoid even aiming for moderation. Moderation doesn't work. Quit for good. Also check out /r/stopgaming. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/15 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Two Questions: How to deal with Sore Losers?I love my younger brother but he's the sorest loser I know. IMO bragging or "sucks to suck" brings you down to the person's level and keeps the whining around. I learned to ignore his whining, even when he incorrectly accuses me of taking an unfair advantage. This has been the only thing that works. Literally just ignore it. | /r/askTRP | 08/05/15 06:36 PM |
| – | Brand New To TRP and This Is What Finally Pushed Me HereYeah she did some pretty contradictory stuff. My guess is that she thought, "I had fun, I should make more plans." But then later, when it came time to actually see you, it wasn't "I'm super excited to see him!" but more of an "I'm feeling OD'd on this guy" kind of thing. I'm sure you've felt overdosed on someone before, so you know the feeling. You also probably killed the mysterious vibe too soon, especially with the long date etc. I don't think it's terrible to make future plans at the end of… | /r/askTRP | |
| – | Brand New To TRP and This Is What Finally Pushed Me HereThe driver incident wasn't the reason - just forget about that. If anything, you did well there. This was just the reason she gave you (and herself) because she didn't know or didn't want to admit the real one. The actual reason is because you went on a 4459-hour date (or however long that shit lasted) with her and even tried to set up next plans before it was over. I'm not saying you can't have fun or have longer dates, but you just met this girl. When you spend ridiculous amounts of time with … | /r/askTRP |
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