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And it's likely not working because their current self is afraid of saying and doing what they want.
/r/seduction14/03/16 06:58 PM
1

Is it better to have one or three though? Those are the important questions.
/r/seduction13/01/16 11:06 AM
1

This won't be a popular opinion, but guys please don't waste your time on #3. I'm not doubting that some of you might have made some good experiences with it, but it's for the most part a placebo effect, as any actual psychologist would tell you. You won't always feel the exact same state of super-confidence after every workout, and touching a specific part of your forearm is just a minor stimulus, which leads to incredibly mixed feedback that would take years for your brain to consistently pick…
/r/seduction17/12/15 09:39 AM
1

I would prefer coconut oil but whatever floats your boat eh
/r/seduction20/11/15 11:05 AM
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A lot of no's mean "actually yes, but I'm kinda nervous and excited because I'm really into you". You'll usually see a very obvious shy smile in these situations. And then you should make a move, because she wants you to. When you're nervous about something, you also want others to give you a push. But yea, if in doubt, back off. Edit: I'll try to clarify once. You guys seem to have a different understanding of soft no's. If I reach out to hold her hand, and she pulls away, gives me a bright smi…
/r/seduction18/08/15 09:39 PM
67

"So the other day, my boyfriend punched me in the face when I didn't have time to clean the toilet." "Cool, he sounds like a good guy." "He actually killed my cat afterwards and proceeded to rape my sister." "Yeah, he sounds like a cool guy."
/r/seduction27/07/15 03:22 PM
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Your text sounds very submissive. I would recommend being more assertive and confident. And get rid of these smileys. You can use smileys if you genuinely find something funny or want to indicate irony, but your smiley doesn't have any purpose. It just says "I want to appear more friendly, hoping that you will maybe like me". I would go with something like "I'm free tonight. Let's hang out at x."
/r/seduction23/06/15 12:40 PM
23

Too risky IMHO. What if you have impure dreams.
/r/seduction27/05/15 03:01 PM
1

Then proceed to awkwardly fail at unhooking and switch to pretending you were just rubbing her back. Then try to unhook again, then fail yet again. When you finally got it, move on to being asked why you're being so annoying. Works like a charm.
/r/seduction21/05/15 12:16 PM
21

Or meet your hookah and smoke your cat.
/r/seduction30/04/15 07:26 AM
42

Says that the friend zone doesn't exist. Proceeds to explain how to avoid the friendzone that totally exists. But hey, you can make up for contradictions by overusing bold capital letters and insulting an imaginary audience.
/r/seduction01/04/15 02:14 PM
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There are a couple of them. You can look for reviews/books on scholar.google.com for instance and search for sexual selection/mate selection/mating/sexual attraction (you'll also find out how to seduce fruit flies and guinea pigs, unfortunately). But I don't know any good review that's written for an audience like this one (apart from some PUA gurus taking 1-2 studies out of context to support some random theory).
/r/seduction22/11/14 12:42 PM
1

Why wouldn't it be plausible to approach undergrads on campus? (If your office is near the campus, otherwise you may need an explanation why you're there.) I think that most undergrad women prefer men with a higher status (i.e. not an undergrad anymore) anyways. And yea, PhDs get very low monthly allowances, either as a stipend (e.g. from your graduate school) or as a job (attached to the institute of your supervisor or from a research grant). In fields like computer science or engineering you c…
/r/seduction07/09/14 06:14 PM
2

It's quite easy to have a balanced lifestyle (especially if you don't plan to stay in academia, so you don't have to publish like crazy). Procrastination is your worst enemy. Usually, your life is 'too' balanced in the first year and too unbalanced in the last year. Try to motivate yourself more in the first year to counteract this, even if there's no real pressure. To not become a lonely bookworm, I would highly recommend doing your PhD in a program/at a graduate school. That way you're still o…
/r/seduction07/09/14 04:53 PM
1

Am I the only one who's genuinely not attracted to girls who are taller than me? That's why the problem doesn't arise for me.
/r/seduction27/08/14 03:55 PM
3

I loved the book. I think the advice is solid overall and it's definitely something that more men need to know. As far as "good sex makes women addicted to you/fall in love with you", I couldn't agree more. Sex is by far the most emotional experience you can have with a person, and if that experience is amazing, then of course you become addicted. The pregnancy thing, that's a fantasy and I'm pretty sure that he put it very carefully in the book and didn't just write "tell everyone you want to m…
/r/seduction22/08/14 09:25 AM
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Physical escalation, confidence, looks: 10/10. Conversation skills, intelligence, humor: 2/10. There's a niche for being that aggressive, but it's not your niche, smart introverted reddit nerd.
/r/seduction20/08/14 07:16 PM
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It's completely up to her. If she allows it, she's usually unhappy with her current partner anyways. A lot of people are dissatisfied with their relationship and just don't break up because they are too lazy/afraid/didn't find someone better yet. If you approach these people you are basically rescuing them from continuing a relationship for the wrong reasons.
/r/seduction18/08/14 11:08 AM
0

80% mystery (i.e. irony/teasing/jokes) and 20% open vulnerability in the first minutes, 20% mystery and 80% open vulnerability later.
/r/seduction12/08/14 11:10 AM
204

Then use a magic dice that always shows the "go to my place"-number. Genius.
/r/seduction11/08/14 10:19 PM
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I think that there's a deeper problem behind the problem of not being able to hold conversations, and it's basically fear of screwing up. If you're afraid of that, and you're constantly thinking about what to say next, you're essentially missing the conversation and it will inevitably become shallow. Once you learn to let go of that fear, and allow yourself to just be in the moment and accept whatever happens, you can make a real connection. Just look her deep in the eyes and try to "feel her", …
/r/seduction09/08/14 12:26 PM
1

I think this is the right move. The more experience you gain, the better your future chances with your dream girls. Just don't kiss or sleep with them if it makes you feel miserable, you can still have fun dating these girls, right? But don't stop trying to aim higher, and don't stop working on your body and style.
/r/seduction07/08/14 09:17 PM
1

This is good. That's why I don't immediately "next" girls as soon as they send one flaky text message.
/r/seduction04/08/14 09:50 AM
1

but...but...if we don't call it anxiety we won't have that neat alliteration anymore...
/r/seduction31/07/14 09:37 PM
18

...so you're saying, before the pick-up industry existed, let's say before 1990, no man ever had approach anxiety? No man was ever nervous before approaching someone they were attracted to?
/r/seduction31/07/14 06:46 PM
2

No, it means that neuroscience just looks fancy from the outside. Luckily my PI generally lets his group members do their own stuff, within reason.
/r/seduction29/07/14 08:33 PM
2

Finally a chance to brag. In descending order: 1) that I'm a neuroscientist, 2) my blunt honesty, 3) my ability to understand the core personality of someone relatively quickly, and 4) my sometimes unorthodox views towards politics and relationships and humans and stuff. But seriously, since I'm doing neuroscience, things got a lot easier. For some reason girls are convinced that this automatically makes me intelligent, rich, successful, not nerdy (like other natural scientists), and that I can …
/r/seduction29/07/14 06:02 PM
97

Then threaten to sue her for harassment and blackmail her into sleeping with you
/r/seduction26/07/14 10:21 AM
2

I made the same experiences. If you go for the kiss, you need to make sure that it's more of a teaser that makes her want more, and not something that relieves (some of) the sexual tension. Make it short and push/pull. Personally, I almost never go for the kiss when I know that I can't escalate further at the location. The emotions are more explosive this way when you escalate, which makes the sex better and it's also good against LMR. (Also, I feel like a teenager when I make out in public.)
/r/seduction26/07/14 01:36 AM
3

This. And if she walks really far off and doesn't come back even after you wait for a while, don't be a dick, go after her and then say that. As long as you're relaxed about it and you're having fun with it, it won't make you look weak.
/r/seduction25/07/14 01:35 PM
1

Who wants to have cake and not eat it though? Pathetic. :-/
/r/seduction23/07/14 08:09 PM
1

If shit testing means gathering information to see if you really want her, then yes, men do that. If it means unconsciously testing whether the personality and confidence she portrays are real, then no, at least I've never seen that. And no, don't try to apply shit tests to your game. It'll just make her less comfortable.
/r/seduction23/07/14 04:53 PM
2

I might as well be that guy: Ask the fwb whether she likes threesomes?
/r/seduction23/07/14 04:34 PM
14

You'll notice. If you don't, you never had a good connection in the first place. (If you really think you need some signs, try these: Less emotions, less laughter, less interested in sex, less interested in seeing/texting/calling you, frequent fights, ...)
/r/seduction21/07/14 08:42 PM
1

You need to initiate. There's no way to stay comfortably shy and have sex. That's just not an option. Look her deep in the eyes, kiss, move your hands all over her body while kissing, and slowly move on to more intimate zones while kissing. After that, /r/sex/. In short: Shut down your thoughts, forget your fears, and do whatever your body wants to do.
/r/seduction20/07/14 04:05 PM
2

I'd say this isn't a problem for about 5-10% of women who are confident and liberal enough to acknowledge their sexuality, but for the rest: Escalate non-verbally, don't give her rational mind an explicit reason to get defensive, give her rationalizations why it's okay to come to your place (she really needs to see some youtube-video/collection/picture/whatever), say you usually don't do this so quickly but you're just so overwhelmed, pretend like things just seem to magically happen. Say that t…
/r/seduction19/07/14 01:04 AM
3

Excellent points here so far. Just one more thing that I can think of: You need to take care of 3 things: 1) attraction, 2) trust, and 3) making her not feel like a slut. I find that last part especially annoying, because it's the only thing that interferes with how honest you can be. "Let's get home and fuck, you look horny" rarely works, even if it's 100% true. Can women please stop projecting these heavy social penalties for female promiscuity, please.
/r/seduction18/07/14 10:55 PM
5

Also, make your job fun, not just seduction.
/r/seduction16/07/14 08:31 AM
5

2/3) Start small. Don't expect to smoothly pull off the whole escalation ladder, that's just not natural for someone with your background (I have a similar background btw, no touching whatsoever and nobody ever talks about dating or sex). Your brain needs to learn that kino is natural first, because right now it's convinced that initiating kino is inappropriate, and this belief can only be removed through lots of experience that says "oh look I did this and it actually felt good for me and her".…
/r/seduction15/07/14 09:35 AM
2

If you managed to build up a lot of attraction, usually no. But if she is only somewhat interested so far, then yes. The problem is that her decision to see you is only based on a memory of attraction, and memories fade with time. If you would see her regularly, you can just cause attraction again whenever you want, but you can't do that with text messages. So if you can only send text messages, you need to keep the memory of attraction up. Maybe not after a week, but definitely after 2 or 3 wee…
/r/seduction09/07/14 09:51 AM
0

It can be helpful for you because of placebo effects, because the theories give you some inspiration for new ways of thinking, because part of the suggested behavior can be effective even though the underlying theory is wrong, because it motivates you for some reason, etc. But it's not helpful because the theories are true/reliable, which I would consider to be the "right reason". So I would suggest to look into some actual empirical psychology if you are looking for ways to reduce fears/manipul…
/r/seduction08/07/14 11:56 PM
0

Woo-woo fad that doesn't really work. It's more of a religion than a science, and their theories are unreliable. The field is rejected by academic psychology, and it's at the very least a misnomer, because "neuro-linguistic programming" makes absolutely no reference to some actual neuroscience or linguistics. And if they do, most of it is just plain wrong. That being said, some of it could still work for you and you might find it helpful. Just not for the right reasons, if you ask me.
/r/seduction08/07/14 10:01 AM
0

Tyler may not be promoting dishonesty and tricks, but he doesn't strike me as someone you should take as an idol either. I don't know him, but from the videos, it sure as hell looks like Borderline personality disorder. Doesn't seem like a healthy, emotionally stable mind to me. And he seems to be more about getting quick lays than about being vulnerable and making deep emotional connections.
/r/seduction26/06/14 11:31 AM
2

You too, friend! ...love is in the air, dumdumdumdumdumdum...
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:42 PM
1

I do. We just have different opinions. On an off-topic philosophical note: I think your mindset of impermanence is an idea that we can approximate and try to live by, but not one that we can actually accomplish. It's basically the idea of Nietzsche's "Uebermensch", but I don't think that's biologically possible for us. It requires having no preferences, but we can't help to have preferences. When you're hungry then you want to eat. You can choose to not eat, but that doesn't change the existence…
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:33 PM
3

That's a healthy attitude. But let me try to put it another way: So you meet this mind-blowing, hot, funny, smart, perfect "HB10". Outcome 1: You can have sex with her. Outcome 2: She rejects you. Given the choice, do you have a preference towards any of these outcomes? If so, then you're not outcome independent. Sure, you can still have fun with outcome 2. But, given the choice, you would still probably prefer outcome 1, right? Then this is by definition not outcome independence. If you would r…
/r/seduction13/06/14 12:12 PM
2

Jessica Alba was supposed to be an example of a girl that has high value for most men, if she doesn't have that for you and if she is a shitty person, then replace the name Jessica Alba by any of your 4+ women in the example. I'm not assuming that girls have more to offer to me than I can offer to them. It's just that it takes time to find girls that have something to offer to me, and that reduces my outcome independence.
/r/seduction12/06/14 11:36 PM
4

One of the worst places to try to get laid. There aren't many places to meet girls (they often stay in the house and don't go out at night), there are heavy social penalties for publicly flirting/showing any sign of romantic interest, and most Indians don't dare to date foreigners. Arranged marriages & no sex before marriage is still widespread. Check out hostel/hotel lobbies and go for backpacker/tourist girls. You'll probably find most of them in Goa.
/r/seduction11/06/14 06:55 PM
12

Why don't we leave out the extremes and hold some reasonable intermediate views then: If you're not a natural, the most important thing is focussing on your mindset towards seduction, and you generally shouldn't try to memorize specific behavioral rules. That being said, some rules of thumb are still useful to help you transition from being a beginner to being an expert. Plus, there are some special issues with text game that are useful to consider (like the fact that misunderstandings are much …
/r/seduction10/06/14 10:43 PM
80

Guide to not-getting-laid for everyone who's not naturally good at this: 1) Do whatever you want
/r/seduction10/06/14 05:05 PM
24

Struggling=interested, avoiding=disinterested
/r/seduction10/05/14 09:37 PM
3

Or explain unfamiliar concepts by using familiar concepts. So explaining women with maths should work out perfectly for reddit geeks, right?
/r/seduction08/05/14 08:23 PM
1

Depends on what you want. If you're just in it for the sex, change nothing, and don't see her too often. If you also want love, you need to tune down the demonstrations of outcome independence. Answer her texts and show her that she means something to you/that you love her. This is the relationship phase and not the courtship phase, there's no need to pretend to be tough anymore. I think the right attitude is to think that if she would leave you, you would hate it, but your life would still be i…
/r/seduction08/05/14 09:35 AM
1

Sounds familiar. I really don't think that your looks are the problem at all. If you would be fat, short and stupid and you would exclusively go for tall topmodel 10s, then yeah, there's not much "game" that can help you. But come on, you're tall, in great shape, and fun to be around. You have interesting hobbies and you seem smart. The dating world is wide open to you. Maybe ask for some fashion advice or get a better hairdresser, but that can't be the source of the problem either. It's obvious…
/r/seduction26/04/14 09:21 AM
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My favorite move for the later (!) stages, when she already trusts you: When she's walking around in her/your apartment (preparing drinks, looking at something, whatever), slowly approach from behind, touch her hips, get close to her ear, smell her. Then move her hair to the side and kiss/bite her neck. This is the single most powerful zero-to-horny move that I know. It's intense because she doesn't expect it. And it's creepy as fuck if you do it too early.
/r/seduction24/04/14 09:42 PM
2

Read through the archives about outcome independence and oneitis if you wanna solve your problems. Your problems have absolutely nothing to do with facebook.
/r/seduction14/04/14 09:10 PM
1

I don't plan these things ahead anymore. I choose date locations that have good logistics, but apart from that, I just decide spontaneously whether I feel like it or not.
/r/seduction13/04/14 09:59 PM
2

I'm surprised that OP & many people in the comments are surprised by this. This just seems like standard LMR to me. You're lucky that she actually explicitly said that you could've had sex with her earlier, most girls that show LMR don't even do that and just secretly wish that you go for it at some point. But it's of course way too risky to actually start to force it and just hope that she'll like it (even tough I'd expect that this will be the perfect solution in 99% of the cases, but the rema…
/r/seduction10/04/14 09:17 PM
3

Some things: Misinterpret things she does, ideally as attempts of her trying to pick you up. Exaggerate everything until it's obviously absurd. Say unexpected and polarizing things. Be sarcastic and ironic. Use a lot of adjectives to make funny stories more lively. I don't think you should train some external activities to become more funny, the best practice is to just try to make every situation more funny. My personal favorite is to misinterpret everything that happens and get really deep int…
/r/seduction09/04/14 09:06 AM
3

I completely agree with you. And I do think the game is a science, because psychology is a science, and I do think you can in principle reduce human beings to a formula (which also needs to take into account things like personality traits and current states). There's just one problem: It's a very complex set of variables that you need to study, and it would require extensive research to reveal all the variables and their relations. But that research is not available, because hardly anyone invest…
/r/seduction08/04/14 06:31 PM
8

Be prepared that there are a lot of people that will accuse you of misogynism when they find out (to be fair, I'd say that's actually true for ~70% of the community). And thanks to popular media coverage, be prepared to defend yourself against things like "pickup artists use 'negs' to make women more vulnerable to rape". If you're lucky and these things don't happen to you, it's still not good for your game. Does an alpha male need to lurk on creepy internet forums to work on his "inner game"?
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:57 PM
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Well written and those are definitely 4 essential traits for attracting women. But your assignment of those traits to the specific aspects of lust/love/long-term relationships is really weird. Being physically powerful creates lust, okay. But you also create lust by showing a high value through confidence, intelligence, or wealth. You honestly don't create love through intelligence and confidence, you create it by building up mutual trust, empathy, and by showing that you care for and understand…
/r/seduction05/04/14 11:56 AM
5

Maybe it's because you're sort of an entertainer. Everyone loves to be around a fun party guy, but your interactions with girls need to be different. Jokes need to be more flirty and not just funny, more eye contact, more teasing. Maybe a bit more mysterious, slower speech, and don't laugh too much yourself. These things create tension. Funny and entertaining guys create tension and then release it with a joke, guys who are good with girls create tension and don't release it.
/r/seduction03/04/14 03:11 PM
1

You mean the weird zen philosophy square peg into the approach anxiety round hole. ;) I totally agree here, but that's just a matter of opinion, I'm sure this can be helpful for others.
/r/seduction31/03/14 08:04 PM
21

Think about sex a lot. Which most of us probably do anyways. Also, when you see an attractive girl, imagine the concrete steps that lead to you having sex with her. How you will approach her, how you will talk to her, how you will touch her, where you will go with her, how you are getting to your apartment, how you will escalate there, and how you will have sex with her. If your eye contact then projects "I know all the steps" and "I know what I want to do to you", you'll have a strong sexual vi…
/r/seduction30/03/14 12:05 PM
1

Nobody is ever 100% outcome independent when they talk to someone they're attracted to. That would be a contradiction. It's a continuum, sometimes you care more and sometimes less (with individual differences on the range of that, some people generally care more, some less). If you're a "PUA", your range might never be in a bad place, but the current state matters for most people. And you can do things to get into your less caring state.
/r/seduction27/03/14 10:24 PM
5

Related story to this: A girl who I hardly knew slept in my bed, she said she just didn't want to sleep alone that night. This actually was the main reason, but she was also somewhat attracted to me. When we went to sleep, I said that it's actually kind of hard to resist her. I started touching her, she pushed me away with a huge smile on her face. I tried to kiss her, attacking from different angles, she always turned away. But she totally loved it. Started kissing her neck, and she was very sl…
/r/seduction26/03/14 10:45 PM
5

I used to do this giving-false-hope thing too. It works. You can casually date girls that don't want to casually date you with this. But you're really messing with their lives here, and you're making the inevitable break-up harder for her, that's why I don't do it anymore. (I know "white knight" blah blah...)
/r/seduction23/03/14 11:34 AM
6

I guess the content is often the same, the main difference is how you formulate and convey it. E.g. when she is skeptical about a date, "Please, just give me a chance" vs. "Come on. It'll be fun.".
/r/seduction20/03/14 07:00 PM
6

Appreciate the effort and agree with the message. But let's be clear that this is not a scientific explanation, but merely somewhat reasonable theorizing. The evolutionary story sounds convincing, but there's no empirical scientific justification behind it (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Just-so_story). And if I were you, I would stick to evolutionary theories and completely skip hormonal and chemical aspects. There is very little research on mating in general, but hormonal explanations of specifi…
/r/seduction12/03/14 11:31 AM
18

I would usually just give her the honest speech and tell her what I think, bla bla bla. But if I come across a girl that is really insecure/shy/emotionally unstable/etc., then I just keep increasing my response delay. At first I answer after hours, next time after a day, next time after a couple of days, then a week, etc., until I don't respond at all anymore. That's sort of psychologically more gentle for her emotions than the hammer of truth ;), because her realization that you're not interest…
/r/seduction09/03/14 02:44 PM
1

I guess I misphrased that...check the "edit"-part in the main text now, should clear up the misunderstanding.
/r/seduction01/03/14 04:44 PM
10

Half-Indian here. Well, I think race can just be a little handicap when it comes to the initial interest of the girl. You can still convince most girls, but you would have had an easier time if you were a different race. Her level of attraction for you might have sort of a lower starting point. Two reasons for this: 1) Genetic preference biases. We just have different general preferences when it comes to physical appearance. But race is not a special case of a handicap here, it's just like being…
/r/seduction01/03/14 11:57 AM
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