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Aww, really? I’m genuinely sad that there other women out there who experienced the same thing. What a world we live in...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:02 PM
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Yeeeep. Instead of turning the conversation to how little stipends for advanced degrees have adjusted to cover cost of living, or how many programs that previously provided funding no longer do, or only guarantee funding and/or TA positions for a couple years. All of this as women become the majority of people earning advanced degrees, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:52 PM
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My porn obsessed ex could only really “get off” while with me by thinking about other men fucking me. Doubt his sexuality would’ve been so twisted by that fetish in the absence of compulsive porn use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:49 PM
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My ex used to criticize my finances a lot and tell me his friends said to watch out for me, I was probably a gold digger. I worked full time in retail and as a veterinary technician. He was a teacher. He was always critical of me not financially contributing enough even though I never asked him for money, paid for our groceries and bills, and spent the rest of my money on school costs I couldn’t cover with federal loans. In retrospect I realize how absurd it was to be so upset over that aspect o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:01 AM
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I'm not a gifts person, but I am a quality time kind of lady. And the guy I've been dating (and who has referred to me as his girlfriend, even though we didn't DTR) is off at some political convention in California since yesterday, where if he becomes a delegate he'll also be gone the week of my birthday for another one of these things. Didn't do anything to really spend time with me outside of his (also political) meetup group. Found out he was also planning to go on a (also political-themed lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:42 PM
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Yeah, that’s me... I told the current guy I’m dating that I don’t celebrate, and he’s going to some convention thing tomorrow into Monday (that he had planned before we ever met). I’m actually kinda bummed/upset I’m by myself. I was alone last year too despite dating someone around Valentine’s Day, so it stings a little actually. But I didn’t want to be uncool. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:42 AM
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The narrative that women are gold diggers is so bizarre to me. I grew up pretty poor/working class and it was always women in my extended family that were consistently employed and who generally had more responsibilities within their positions - like retail store managers by 30 and things like that. A lot of the men they dated, had babies with, or who they married often couldn’t hold a job and relied on “their woman” for the roof over their head. So many threads in the relationship advice subred…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:35 AM
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I ended up developing Bulimia, lol. So I can relate to how that kind of unhealthy expression of sexuality harms intimate partners. Sorry for what you went through and I’m glad you guys aren’t together anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:08 PM
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I remember writing about how to deal with my partner’s porn/sex addiction on Reddit years ago, and getting bashed for complaining that he rejected my suggestion to get therapy and perhaps even medicated (as he had untreated ADHD, which doesn’t help with compulsive behavior). Sex education, when it’s offered, seems about as unhealthy as abstinence only education in terms of what is seen as acceptable behavior...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:06 PM
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Lmao. Yessss 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:02 PM
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Aww. I’m sorry to hear that. I know it was really traumatic for me even though I tend to make light of it, so I hate to hear of anyone else experiencing something similar. It’s such a selfish and bizarre expression of sexuality that is absolutely linked to porn consumption. It’s really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:01 PM
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Nope! He actually has pretty nice hair. At least, he may. I haven’t seen his stupid ass in years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:00 PM
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Reminds me a lot of my ex-boyfriend of 3+ years. Had death grip to the point he could only get himself off, but I interpreted it as not being able to sexually satisfy him. He was obsessed with Reddit subs called “bimbofetish” and “boltedontits” and one time I even woke up to him masturbating to Facebook pictures of girls I tutored back when I was a nursing student. (He was on one’s profile because I had recently added her as a friend, I suppose.) His behavior was compulsive and unhealthy, but he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:16 AM
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The fact that he tells her multiple times she’s not independent when she has a good job in London and depends on her for rent... fuuuuck that’s so delusional. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:27 PM
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You ladies are the best. Thank you and congrats! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:08 PM
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Y’all are sweet. Thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:38 AM
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Yessss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:38 AM
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It really sickens me that anyone could think that way, leave alone ask that sort of question seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:46 AM
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Lol, I saved this one the first time I saw it. I love looking through my pictures and seeing this meme all of a sudden. Always makes me laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:37 PM
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This is the cycle I’m really hoping to break in my 30s. Second half of 30 is looking good so far, fortunately. I’ve become a lot more self-aware about my attachment and bonding habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:36 PM
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Yeah, I would say that you’re not wrong, although it’s not the money/spending per se so much as what it represents. We all have resources that we pour into relationships - money is like time, in a lot of ways, where we can choose to spend it on people to show we’re romantically invested in them. So when things don’t work out and we look at something in retrospect, we understand an unwillingness to spend on us (money, time) as a clear indication of lack of romantic investment that we ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:56 PM
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Yeah, I would say that you’re not wrong, although it’s not the money/spending per se so much as what it represents. We all have resources that we pour into relationships - money is like time, in a lot of ways, where we can choose to spend it on people to show we’re romantically invested in them. So when things don’t work out and we look at something in retrospect, we understand an unwillingness to spend on us (money, time) as a clear indication of lack of romantic investment that we ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:56 PM
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Yeah, I would say that you’re not wrong, although it’s not the money/spending per se so much as what it represents. We all have resources that we pour into relationships - money is like time, in a lot of ways, where we can choose to spend it on people to show we’re romantically invested in them. So when things don’t work out and we look at something in retrospect, we understand an unwillingness to spend on us (money, time) as a clear indication of lack of romantic investment that we ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:56 PM
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My experience isn’t good enough for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:04 PM
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The number of times I’ve seen posts in the relationship subs with guys complaining about their partners gaining weight when they’re at best skinny fat and at worst overweight too... or complaining about not being able to find anyone but it turns out they’re super picky.... is pretty insane. A lot of men are incredibly picky without having any basis for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:44 PM
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For awhile I was kind of perplexed by why I could find relationship after relationship back when I was in HS, in college, and then seriously underemployed for years while also being overweight... but had/have so much trouble in the past few years now that I’m in pretty good shape, independent, and have a great job. Have come to realize there are not a lot of men that are actually into women they can’t exploit. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:19 AM
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And they think women have a victim mentality... we are more likely to at least strategize on how to deal with structural and social inequalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:05 PM
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I feel like those dudes live in some kind of alternate universe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:48 AM
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I manage a 60 person team that’s 85-90% male and some of the guys are so fucking sensitive it kills me. One guy, who’s 30+ and has a son, wrote me a novel about how I made him cry because I was dismissive one day (I shooed him away because I was in the middle of training a group of new people). After playing baby sitter to a group of grown men for a year, I’m even more baffled by any arguments that men are more logical/stoic/rational than women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:28 AM
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Oh, that’s fair. It sounds like you may have some attachment issues (especially because you mention not being interested in those who actually want you), which I am not bringing up to be unkind. I was in a similar boat for awhile and therapy helped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:39 PM
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I don’t know if this excludes me from level up status, but I’ll just seek one night stands when I’m not actively dating. I love sex and physically closeness too much to abstain completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:38 AM
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I wonder about their success rate in finding someone actually willing to go with a FWB thing when they're not very attractive. Around here, I see a lot of men who are both super underemployed and not attractive at all touting the "not looking for anything serious" line and can't help but think some rude thoughts. Really hope there aren't any women indulging these dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:01 AM
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Trust my instincts and always enforce my boundaries. I had a really bad year with dating: my boyfriend at the beginning of 2019 turned out to have a girlfriend who knew about me, but who I had no clue existed. There was plenty of evidence I ignored... and then when I moved across the country I met someone I immediately clicked with and who I did some wife-y shit for even though he was dating around for the whole time we were seeing each other. And who would get in my head and convince me it was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 02:09 AM
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If they ask me out and pick the place, I kinda expect them to be willing to pay. I know not everyone is rolling in cash, but if that's the case, men can try to get a little more creative with their dates and find something that's fun and cheaper than dinner and drinks. If it's well planned and involves making an effort, then how much $$$ is spent doesn't matter. Unfortunately I've found many men to lack imagination. Or even willingness to do something different. When I've suggested indoor climbi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:15 PM
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Living in Vegas, I meet a lot of (usually unsuccessful/failed) professional poker players. Massive egos and they don't really respect people with more traditional work schedules. I'm also in an industry that's sort of adjacent to poker, and find that they still assume I know nothing about what they do/poker or, even more infuriating, don't know my own industry. Definitely avoiding them after dating a few for a bit when I first moved here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:21 PM
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I attract the sort of guys who claim they’re “nice” and this quote really explains why I hate those types. All nice means is trying to appeal to what other people think of you. It’s not specific enough in terms of existing as an actual quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 10:12 PM
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