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17	Women being sexually selective with their own partners makes almost no sense. I'm a woman who has always done the opposite to what you've described, probably because I'm neurodivergent. My relationship with my husband started off as a drunken hookup where we did some wild things, and the idea of being in a relationship with a man I don't have strong sexual chemistry with me has always been unpalatable for me. But a lot of men stop seeing a woman as relationship material if they get too sexual too early on, and feel more attracted to the women who don't act that way (becau…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/26 01:07 PM
–	non western women are better than western ones And the beauty of the women comes at a price for the men, literally. I have links to Latin America too and so many of the men are resentful about how much they have to buy for women just to get dates/sex, women faking interest in men only for their money, etc. Happens in the west too of course but it's another level there, a case of pick your poison in a way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 03:00 PM
2	Llevo casi 4 años con mi novio y quería saber si soy la única a la que le pasa esto. I dislike some of my husband's clothes and it's a bit annoying sometimes, like when I want to dress up for a date. But I try to accept it as part of the full package. One of the things I always loved about him is that he isn't materialistic and doesn't care what other people think, and as a result he has never expected me to present myself a certain way. So I can't really be annoyed at him for dressing badly sometimes, when that's the natural consequence of traits I liked. But in my case I find …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/26 07:07 PM
4	Would you date a guy with a lot of female friends that sees as "sisters"? I think the ideal is someone who can easily talk to and make friends with women but isn't actually pursuing those friendships. He might be outgoing and easily make friends with women at work or in mixed-gender groups, but that doesn't mean he has to be messaging them one-on-one or having intimate moments with them.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/26 03:00 PM
11	Would you date a guy with a lot of female friends that sees as "sisters"? He doesn't sound like the best prospect for a smooth relationship. Three exes who cheated on him and a crazy ex by age 18 probably means he's got a pattern of being attracted to toxic women/relationships (either that or he's leaving some info out of his stories which also isn't ideal). Loads of female friends who "are like sisters" at best means he's lacking some self-awareness and life experience (understandable for his age but still not ideal). Possibly could be someone who really wants female…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/26 02:12 PM
23	As an unattractive woman, will I never be loved because of my looks? This is great advice. A girl I went to school with was genuinely ugly, despite being athletic and looking after herself. She pretty much did what you've said in terms of maxing out other things and married a guy who is actually better looking than her facially. I don't know them well but he seems really proud to be with her, she's plastered all over his social media and he looks very happy in the wedding photos. She is very intelligent and hard working and also socially intelligent, so no doubt …	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/26 11:49 PM
1	What is a realistic weight/body goal? I'm only two inches taller than you and the 3-5kg difference you're talking about is barely noticeable on my frame. Not enough to change which clothes I fit into apart from my very tightest items. It can be tempting to turn to the scales for self-improvement because weight is such a simple metric. But if you're not overweight, it's probably not the most effective one to focus on. Take my mother as an example, she's 65 and is worried about how her belly is growing - yet she still weighs the same …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/26 10:19 PM
1	Unprotected On articles they have to say that pregnancy is possible, because theoretically it is possible so it would be irresponsible not to. But realistically it's very unlikely since sperm can only survive for 5 days before ovulation and the average woman ovulates around day 14, meaning they couldn't get pregnant on their period unless it lasts longer than a week. Some women do ovulate earlier, which could be the case if your menstrual cycle is under 25 days. But you'd basically have to be an anomaly in …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/26 10:10 AM
6	When will people admit that masturbating to lesbian porn as a woman is extremely gay? If a woman likes lesbian porn and/or finds the female body arousing but ultimately is only really interested in men, some people will find it ridiculous for her to identify as bisexual but some people will find it ridiculous for her to identify as heterosexual.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 12:26 PM
6	When will people admit that masturbating to lesbian porn as a woman is extremely gay? We can't win either way as some people will mock women who exclusively dare men but identify as bisexual for finding women hot	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 11:43 AM
–	Q4W: Would you rather date a man that is the same age as you but 5 inches shorter or a man that is the same height as you but 10 years younger? Shorter. I'm 29 and 5'9, I can momentarily forget a guy is 5''4 but the only way I can forget a guy is 19 is if he never speaks ever	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/26 10:34 PM
3	Do you think a woman exerces different sexual acts depending on the individual? Completely agree. I've done more adventurous things in a long term relationship but I think it's purely because it was a natural progression, both of us felt more comfortable and discussed/learned what each other liked. Can only imagine things getting to that point fast in a casual situation (without prior communication) if either one person is very bold or entitled, or it's a fluke where they have super high chemistry and both feel comfortable to take the risk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/26 07:22 PM
3	Women want a wedding, not marriage. I know two cases where the parents kept their daughter's wedding photos on display in the house, years after she got divorced	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 08:55 PM
3	The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now. Yeah, agree the main reason is it's just not very controversial anymore. I think single mothers got a lot of hate because of a sense of injustice that they (supposedly) made bad decisions and then still secured a man to provide for them, while so many men struggle. But then single mothers became one of the most hated and judged groups, at least on these online spaces, and most single mothers said they were fine with some men not wanting to date them... So what more is there to say?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/26 07:12 PM
9	The profile of women wealthy men are dating are marrying? I think what the people who say this online are getting at is that success/competence/intelligence/status (and therefore education by proxy) is a major driver of attraction for women and not men, who prioritize physical attraction. But men who are wealthy and successful usually have enough options to be able to find a partner who is both physically attractive and compatible with them - and more often than not, that means a similar education, background, intelligence level, career, etc .	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/26 02:53 PM
5	Women have you ever turned down a man because you realized he was out of your league? Seems like it, the ones who answered the opposite also got insulted 🤦‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 12:46 AM
8	Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier. I mean, things seem to be moving in that direction. I haven't heard any woman say she wants to be the provider or look after her man, but plenty of women end up in that position and say they're happy with things that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 07:57 PM
15	Women have you ever turned down a man because you realized he was out of your league? I'm assuming you mean "league" in a holistic sense and not just looks. In that case I think I have - I felt intimidated by his career prospects and popularity and kept him at arm's length. Just checked his social media and he's engaged to a woman more attractive than me, so I guess I was right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/25 04:20 AM
1	How is a man the 'leader' in a relationship? I think in an ideal world it would function with the man/CEO still having an active role (not in every little thing but definitely when it comes to something as important as parenting, or going over over the budget himself if he thought the woman was spending too much). And then because he is actually involved/aware, the man would have ultimate authority to tell the woman to do things differently if he believes that's in everyone's best interest. In reality I have seen it function more like you'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/25 02:36 PM
12	4 Types Of Men Over 30 Why are all types bad?? Right, like I was going to be kind of annoyed about the multiple past partners thing and then I realized there's not even a type for happily married men to women with no past partners	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/25 04:54 AM
5	Dating with a promiscuous past I was in the same situation at a similar age, I didn't say much on your last post because I don't feel I have any special insight that's better than the general resources on this subreddit. But I had a body count of 7 at 20, then met my husband at 20, and we've been together 8 years now. I wasn't aware of red pill at the time so my past wasn't something I tried to hide, but he never brought up the topic until I did (and has avoided it ever since!). I won't say that he doesn't care at all, but it…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/11/25 03:57 AM
5	Women are more attracted to social status than social skills. They kind of exist but usually it's people who are already in a relationship (so stopped making an effort with friends) or people who are highly work-focused and don't socialize outside of that (but their work network would like them for their social skills so they'd still have social status) So neither case really works for OP's hypothetical	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 11:10 PM
2	Would you prefer if men put as much effort into their looks as women, or if women put as little as men? If we're going by your definition of taking care of yourself then I'd prefer women to put in as little effort as men I guess, because I definitely don't desire a man who wears designer clothes and gets pedicures.... I don't do most of the things you mentioned yourself and I consider myself someone who takes care of herself, my husband jokes about me being high maintenance. But if we go by my definition of taking care of yourself then I'd prefer men to put as much effort as women. For me it's abo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/25 05:24 PM
10	I desire to be a stay at home wife/mom, for woman who have achieved this, how did it come to you? And while looking how did you not get discouraged <18> You’re 18? I think the men in you’re dating pool just don’t understand the reality of parenting and economics. That's a good point. I've noticed some guys are happy to provide after they find a partner they love and trust when they realize it's the best option, but weren't open to being with someone who was explicitly looking for that from the beginning. It can work the other way too, with some 18-year-old guys into the idea of being the provider theoretically but without the ability to actually…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/25 12:48 AM
–	If a loner guy gets attention, but from overweight women only, does that mean he is not THAT "off"? I'd assume there's something "off" but he has some other redeeming feature(s)	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/25 03:18 PM
1	The idea that older men dating younger women are losers - is a woman's revenge fantasy. We're not talking about the same group then as my comment is specifically about women under 21 and especially girls aged 16-18. So often not even old enough to go to clubs/raves, depending on where they live. And I saw plenty of serious relationships lasting 1-2 years or more	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 11:48 PM
2	The idea that older men dating younger women are losers - is a woman's revenge fantasy. It might be hard when looking at one specific guy in isolation. But I can identify broad trends by comparing the type of older men my female peers dated at different ages. When I was 16-18 every girl I knew with a much older boyfriend was dating (in retrospect) a "loser", whereas once I got into my 20s, the women I saw dating older were with men that had something to offer. So it seems reasonable to assume it was the women in their 20s filtering out the "losers". Lifestyles varied. One went to t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 11:16 PM
11	The idea that older men dating younger women are losers - is a woman's revenge fantasy. I don't think many of them were necessarily reasoning much at all, they just seemed to cast a wide net and the very youngest women/girls were the ones to take the bait. A lot of the guys I encountered lacked a social circle of people their own age and weren't very successful. In my experience the younger the woman/girl is the more likely this is to be the case.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 06:48 PM
50	The idea that older men dating younger women are losers - is a woman's revenge fantasy. When I was in the sub-21 age group, it was absolutely a phenomenon for "loser" older men to date women my age because older women didn't want them. Especially when we're talking really young girls, like 16-18. I appreciate you specified women in their 20s in your post, but as a woman, seeing this happen so much in our formative years shapes our worldview. But I agree with you that there's a point where the overall trend switches, and older men are choosing younger women due to preference not nec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 02:55 PM
5	How to raise my value as a woman with past My husband is vehemently anti-religion and didn't want to know. I brought up the topic of past relationships because I was curious and he just didn't want to know much about mine. But he already knew my behaviours, life experiences, etc and analyzed me a lot, I think he trusted his own judgment enough to assess me based on those things. Ultimately, even if you do ask, you still have to trust your own judgment/assessment about whether the person is being truthful, so I think it's reasonable that …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/11/25 05:55 PM
3	Do women generally prefer to date someone who is to the right of them on the political spectrum? Me and my husband are pretty aligned on policies and economics but he is more socially conservative in some ways and definitely less idealistic. I'd say guys who are more conservative are more likely to have traits women find attractive, which explains the trend you're seeing. Like willingness to take on responsibility, being very grounded/realist, conscientiousness, being a provider and protector. Not saying liberal men can't be these things, just that those traits are more common for conservat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 05:18 PM
2	People with extreme fetish and kinks why does that turn you on? I can say I like anal and I don't have any bad memories or insecurities related to the bathroom, when I realized that most people dislike doing a number 2 in public I was surprised as it had never even occurred to me to care if other people hear me, haha. The confusing thing is that often kinks do seem directly linked to shame though. Like for example a misogyny kink or raceplay, the taboo nature could be part of it but I would assume that most people with those kinks feel some kind of shame aro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/25 03:25 PM
–	What is your probabilities? It's impossible to conceptualize really. I think the statistics are only helpful when people are looking for very rigid and rare things, like green eyes or being 6'5 or earning $200k. I always knew I wanted someone "intelligent" but it's not like I had a fixed intelligence level I was seeking or a way of measuring it. I'm married and I was looking for some quite niche things that in theory would make my odds low...but I also knew I'd be very compatible with someone who had those things, and that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 09:50 PM
-1	The real world treats men in their 20's - 30's onwards who are virgins as failures. I haven't met a single virgin women in my life (Met hundreds) past the age of 20 I have, most of them seem to have some kind of trauma around intimacy that makes them push people away though. So chances of them getting together with the male virgins probably aren't great...	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 08:57 PM
5	Do women like sober casual sex? It's definitely not optimal but by far the easiest. And yeah I mean bonding I guess, and eventually that could build to arousal	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 11:35 PM
11	Do women like sober casual sex? Not sure how typical I am but in my case I just had drunk sex because I needed the liquid confidence for the first time, otherwise I preferred sober casual sex. I didn't want to meet up with strangers on apps or go up to random guys sober asking for sex, I just wanted to occasionally sleep with guys I felt chemistry with. But to do that sober either I'd have to be very forward or the guy would have to be insanely bold. In a situation where everyone is drunk there's more of a mutual understanding…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/25 10:59 PM
7	Does statistics matter in dating? Statistics for an entire country of over 300 million people most of whom you will never meet in your life are not necessarily relevant for any given individual's dating prospects. Yeah, this why that standards calculator drives me crazy. It makes it seem like a college student is being picky for only considering men in their 20s...	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 07:40 PM
3	Does statistics matter in dating? Thank you for going to the bother of finding the data for that, I was scratching my head at his comment because I'm a 30C and pretty sure my breasts are smaller than 90% of women...30DD and even 34DD isn't exactly huge	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/25 03:28 PM
4	Not feeling Christian enough I think the biggest concern here is that he wants you to raise your children Christian, and I'm assuming you might feel uncomfortable with that. Have you talked about exactly what that's going to look like? If you can get on the same page about that I don't think this necessarily has to be a big deal, I know happy couples with children where one person is religious and the other isn't. I'm not religious and if I was in your shoes, I'd try to approach Christianity as a research project rather tha…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/25 10:27 AM
14	I feel like most mens' lives are decided as early as middle school I imagine that holds true for men who are particularly unattractive or attractive looks-wise, especially if you include extraversion/introversion into the equation for "attractiveness". Don't think it holds true for men who are just average looking (by that I mean someone who is roughly average height, weight, skin and hair in ok condition, no hideous features). Loads of guys I went to school with who were invisible to women at the time are now married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/25 01:00 PM
5	Where do autistic and adhd men fit in? Yeah a lot of the discussions about autistic men here end up being about either those who are struggling themselves or people talking about the classic "autistic guy who is diagnosed and so obviously autistic that everyone in their orbit knows it". That may well only be a small percentage of actually autistic men. My husband works in a profession that attracts neurodivergent people as it's technical not social, and we speculate quite a few of his coworkers are autistic. Nearly all have families.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 07:56 PM
3	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). None of those but taking care of myself better (reducing stress and starting weightlifting) definitely helped.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 01:04 PM
4	Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post). I can believe that women would enjoy sex more with a more physically attractive man, but I find it hard to believe that's the main factor driving if women want to have sex or not. The common pattern is for a woman to enjoy regular sex in the first year or so of the relationship, then lose desire, while the man doesn't. I think it's because men only need the woman to be visually attractive, whereas the woman's attraction depends a lot on the man's behaviour. Speaking for myself I've been with my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/25 11:10 AM
9	An hugely understated "purgatory" for men is being stuck in the "zone" between average and the top 10% You're making out as though every fit, young-ish woman is automatically hot enough to be an underwear/Instagram model. I'm late twenties and go to the gym regularly, but there's nothing too special about how I look and the same goes for 90% of the fit women my age who I see at the gym. There are definitely way more of us than there are tall guys making $250k, so most of us end up with a guy like Jack.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/25 02:12 PM
0	How can you tell if a guy is genuinely interested or just being polite when he texts you? A lot of guys would give you a response with the bare minimum to be polite rather than ghosting you completely, especially the younger ones. But the number of guys who would keep responding for two weeks and asking follow-up questions to someone they have no interest in is pretty low. I won't say it never happens, I used to have a male friend who was extremely friendly/polite and he was replying to the messages of a girl he had no interest in for a whole year or so... but he's an edge case for s…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/25 04:52 PM
4	Women way overestimate their value and they get burned for it. Why? I might be wildly wrong but I'm guessing either: - women who discussed these topics with their partner and ended up getting hooked (doubt I'd have discussed with the same detail/nuance/honesty with friends or hookups) - autistic women being more likely to hyperfixate on these topics and also more likely to be in a relationship (it's easier to maintain a romantic relationship than friendships)	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/25 10:24 PM
3	NO, autistic women do not mask better than autistic men That's a good way to word it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/25 12:31 PM
27	NO, autistic women do not mask better than autistic men Sure but total social isolation seems way more common for autistic boys, whereas autistic women more commonly say they were mistreated by their friends or felt like they didn't truly fit in. I don't remember any girls at my school being 100% friendless but plenty of boys were, of course lots of the girls with friends were still bullied or had struggles.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 10:22 PM
37	NO, autistic women do not mask better than autistic men Also most autistic girls easily manage to join a friendship group of girls early in life because of the things you mentioned. That gives them a taste of social acceptance and more opportunity to improve their social awareness by learning from their friends. And if they're attractive they'll get even more positive social feedback and can basically use it as a way to mask more. Very few autistic boys get that, so it makes the gap between the two wider than it would have been. I do think the gap ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 08:41 PM
9	NO, autistic women do not mask better than autistic men But it's only mentioned here because it was already the consensus in places completely unrelated to dating/relationships, so people then started to apply it to that sphere too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 08:20 PM
–	How to match my standards I'm a bit puzzled by your post, and I come from the UK myself so I understand the social class system we have. I imagine that other people are going to be even more confused. You say you want someone from a different social class to you and you're not attracted to the well-educated bohemians. But you only specify that you want someone ambitious, confident, and respected - those qualities can be found in men from any social class. So could you explain the focus on social class? Are you just using…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/10/25 05:51 PM
8	Interactions with feminist women I used to identify as a feminist and was able to find plenty of common ground with a socially conservative/trad friend I made. When we actually discussed what we believed with relation to feminism, it turned out that the main disagreement was just that she thought all women would be happier working in the home and I didn't. Now I've accepted red pill teachings and have feminist friends, and again, it's mostly common ground. Usually the main fundamental disagreement is just that they believe gend…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/10/25 02:17 PM
3	Where to find a boyfriend/ husband? What kind of place do you live? If there aren't many students or young professionals then yeah, most of the activity groups end up with mostly people aged 50+ I doubt that everyone your age where you live is just into clubs and bars though. You might have to go to dozens of different groups to figure out which ones have more younger members, and I'd focus on groups for physical activities. If you want to join things like chess clubs, book clubs, board game clubs etc then maybe you could travel t…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/10/25 09:54 AM
4	Can a guy truly move past a girl’s past if he really loves her? Some guys can, usually they just don't ask or avoid thinking about it and manage to compartmentalize it. Some can't and it sounds like this guy might have some deep-seated issues to get through. He has such strong feelings about a woman's body count and yet he finds himself falling in love with a woman who has a high number, and it seems like he found out almost straightaway too. If he's managed to sleep with 60 women surely he could just find one of the many, many women in your age group with a…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/25 09:20 PM
7	Should I leave my marriage over this? I think you're going through a rough patch and being too drastic. It's really common to feel the way you feel, but I rarely see it end well for women who actually leave their partners because of a vague idea there could be something better out there. That's not to say it never ends well for them, of course. People who are hyper-ambitious are generally that way because they're motivated by coming from struggles, their own insecurities, or a purpose/love for what they do, with a few people just …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/10/25 01:28 PM
3	Would you show up? Yeah I'd probably see this as more of a red flag if he wasn't about to go away, but that changes things for me. I'm sure he will ALSO want to have sex, but I wouldn't assume it's his only/main motivation. Just be clear about your expectations going forward, and if you turn up and the vibe is off then you don't have to stick around.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/25 11:56 PM
6	Would you show up? It's true that if he only wants sex he would be likely to suggest this. But equally, if he has feelings for you and is about to go away for a few weeks, it seems really likely that he'd prefer to spend time with you in private rather than going out to a public place. I don't see any reason to assume the most cynical interpretation based on the information given. Would you genuinely prefer to go out, or do you just feel like that's what you're supposed to do? Edit: I suppose personality is a big …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/25 09:51 PM
2	New To RPW - Seeking Advice, Tips and Resources on Vetting The planning sounds like something he could improve with some time and effort, I'm concerned about you saying notice him contradict himself and make zero sense though, especially since it seems he also lacks the self-awareness to realize when that happens? I can't imagine being fulfilled in a relationship or submitting to a man who I know with 100% certainty is often wrong yet won't even admit it/accept it... You've asked about vetting, but at least for me, discussion was essentially my vetting …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/25 02:56 PM
1	New To RPW - Seeking Advice, Tips and Resources on Vetting I'm writing this in response to your comments than the original post. But do you think maybe you're struggling to respect and submit to him because he isn't communicating with you on the level you need intellectually, whereas he's expecting your submission without it, and it's making him act in the ways you're describing as abusive?	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/25 12:19 AM
6	Early on in the dating process, how can I get over him hooking up with other girls? Some women are happy to turn a blind eye to their husband stepping out on them in their marriage because they deem him "high value" enough. Some women would consider a guy to be "high value" because he never has and never will fuck around with women sexually. So I guess it's up to you to decide what you're okay with and what you consider to be high value. Personally, I would expect a man to feel a strong enough connection/attraction/interest in me to stop messing around with other women after ge…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/10/25 08:45 PM
3	How much should an engagement ring cost? I think that reasoning kind of works if you want to marry someone who is already established/wealthy. Like, if they have everything and they're splashing the cash on other luxuries, it might seem like they don't value you if they buy a cheap ring. But if you're just starting your lives together and have finite funds then it's purely a case of tradeoffs. For me, an expensive ring was way less important than buying a house or starting married life with a financial buffer instead of debt.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/10/25 03:33 PM
12	How much should an engagement ring cost? I can't see any reason not to go for it, other than checking it's good enough quality to stand the test of time (I've heard silver can be less durable but I'm far from an expert). The only problem I can see would be if you were repressing your desire for something more valuable but it sounds like that's not the case. I ended up picking up an antique ring as a combined wedding/engagement ring, I love it and have never regretted it.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/10/25 12:33 AM
7	Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying Pure I've found the repulsion/dislike of casual sex to be a very common sentiment among people with a low "body count", and I'm talking about college-educated, non-religious people who are generally liberal (as those are the circles I've moved in). Of course it's not everyone. I don't think many people obsess about the number of people their partners have been with asuch, just that people who are on the same wavelength about sex/relationships tend to end up together. Like you, my husband never asked …	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/25 04:28 PM
12	Boys Sowing Wild Oats vs. Girls Staying Pure There aren't many people I know well enough to know the sexual histories of them and their partners. But in my experience the most common scenario is that the two people are roughly aligned but the man is slightly more experienced. Women who were virgins ending up with a man with 1-3 previous sexual partners, women with 1-3 previous partners ending up with a man with 5-8 previous sexual partners, and so on. Me and my husband fit this pattern. Most women I've known who believed in saving themselv…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/25 12:43 PM
2	Is 22/23 too young to get married?? I got married at 24 for visa reasons, which was a lot younger than I'd ever imagined marrying, and I didn't really feel ready. We weren't even living in the same country when we had to organize things, and it was during COVID, so everything was really rushed and tense and overwhelming. Of course none of this means your outcome would be the same as mine, but I'll tell you how it went for me! It did make the first year or two of marriage hard. Other people talk about newlywed bliss and so on, but …	/r/RedPillWomen	11/09/25 08:53 PM
4	How did you get into a male-led relationship? I wasn't consciously looking for a male-led relationship at the time, and my husband wasn't either. I was looking for someone competent and not too agreeable who I had chemistry with, he was looking for someone he could trust who he was attracted to. We're both non-religious. I'd be inclined to agree with you about leaving that out from your profile, based on my personal experiences. But then again, my husband was 25 and I was 20 when we met, so maybe older people would have a better understandi…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/08/25 10:38 PM