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| 2 | How To Deal With RejectionThanks! Shoot me a message if I can help: https://datingcoachonwheels.com/contact/ | /r/seduction | 03/03/17 11:19 PM |
| 0 | Commitment or Spinning Plates?Is she okay with messing around without a committed relationship? Are you okay with just messing around? Amin, The Dating Coach on Wheels https://datingcoachonwheels.com/ | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 02:27 AM |
| 0 | How to ask this girl out over text?Hey man, I get that you'd really like to have a date to the event. Did you have any kind of connection with this girl? Perhaps there is something you could recall from your conversations. If so, you can text "hey [name], I thought of you today. [question about something you remember]" As far as asking her out/or to the event, I suggest doing it on the phone https://datingcoachonwheels.com/blog/how-to-make-her-hotly-anticipate-your-phone-call Amin, The Dating Coach on Wheels https://datingcoachon… | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 02:18 AM |
| 2 | How to overcome two of my biggest weaknesses (taking rejection personally, not approaching someone I like)Congrats on your first post! There is always lots of learning when you honestly share what you did, and think about what you could improve. A common misstep is to try to go for the date as soon as possible. It definitely works sometimes, but for a high-caliber woman, it sends an unattractive message. It lets her know that you have nothing important going on in your life. By sending her this text, you indicated that you have no plans for brunch. An alternative would be to say "Morning cutie. I'm … | /r/seduction | 31/12/16 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Been a weird guy for 20 years, help me define and plan my way out of this sticking point.You're a well articulated, self-aware guy. You can do this. Unfortunately, we don't learn some tactical conversation skills in school. This will get you started on bridging the gap step 1 step 2 | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do I get blown off every fucking time?Have you tried calling her before the date? | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 07:37 PM |
| 1 | I'm 18 and have just started putting effort into women.The reality is that what you say doesn't affect her decision much. Either she is open to moving somewhere with you or not, and by the time you're dancing together, she's already decided. So I keep it simple. Just smile, offer your hand, and say "I want to talk to you for a minute, come with me" | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Any tips for approaching ladies at the office ?That's kind of the point haha. It wouldn't show confidence if it wasn't difficult | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 01:39 AM |
| 1 | What to say when you are out alone?I just pick a time that I want to go out and invite other guys along. If they show up, great, if not, I still go. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Any tips for approaching ladies at the office ?I agree with the previous advice, don't be that guy at the office. This girl is not showing any obvious signs of attraction towards you – most obviously she always ends the interaction. If she was into you, she would stick around a while longer. In the future, I suggest being upfront and saying "hey, I think you're cute and I'd like to take you out sometime." She will appreciate that MUCH more than you trying to continuously make conversation. If she turns you down, she will still respect you fo… | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 06:49 AM |
| 2 | I'm 18 and have just started putting effort into women.Congrats on starting! That's a huge step. Are you trying to transition off of the dance floor? | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 06:40 AM |
| 0 | Compared to high school, what types of guys do MOST beautiful women end up going for in the real world?You got some great comments here. But I'm wondering why you're asking – are you looking to decide something about your future based on this? | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 06:14 AM |
| 2 | [FR] I learned a very valuable lesson today. 3 seconds does matter.Got it, removed | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 05:42 AM |
| 1 | after 1st date?That's great news! I would target 3 days or later to meet up again. I know you're excited about her and you don't want her to lose interest, but trying to meet up too soon will get rid of the attraction you have built up. There is a concept of unavailability – women (and everyone) are attracted to things that are not completely available. Not in the manipulative sense, but in the sense that girls like guys who have things going on in their lives. For example, how meaningful is it when someone wh… | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Flirting with your friends target ?!Unless your friend has some pre-existing relationship with a girl, it's a bit odd to say she is off limits. However, I would never just go for it, I would bring my friend aside for a moment and ask him if it's okay. I would respect whatever he decides that night, and if he says no, I would reconsider whether I would want to go out with him in the future. There's no reason to destroy the friendship over the possibility of something happening with the girl, but you can definitely be more selective… | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 04:02 AM |
| 1 | friendzone helpYou don't know why you want to have sex with her? Why is it just her, can you focus on other women? | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 03:58 AM |
| 28 | No More Mr Nice Guy Book ReviewThanks for the summary! I've heard good things about the book but haven't read it. Totally agree with the idea of having strong male friends around you. | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 03:57 AM |
| 1 | [FR] I learned a very valuable lesson today. 3 seconds does matter.Amazing lesson man! Yes, after all the learning and reading and studying, it really comes down to less than a few seconds. Action is the name of the game. I find that I can keep AA most at bay when I'm doing something every day to extend my comfort zone. Do you do it consistently? | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 03:54 AM |
| 3 | What to do when she suddenly ignores?Hey man, this is really tough, sorry that happened. As guys, we just want to get in there and FIX the problem. Unfortunately, women don't work that way. Just give her space at this point. Let her come back to you when she is ready. The BEST thing you can do at this point is give her the time she needs. If you do that, she will think better of you because you are respecting what she needs right now. If you keep trying to communicate with her, you are putting yourself and your insecurities first, … | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Will she lose interest?She may still be interested, and the best way to find out is to go up and talk to her. What are you going to do in the break to work on the AA? Consider challenging yourself to take one step every day to overcome it – if you need a plan, there's one here: https://aminl.com/blog/destroy-approach-anxiety-in-7-days | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 03:28 AM |
| 2 | Need help with my mindset around old friendsPerhaps. Have you tried professional counseling? I'm giving that a shot recently, maybe I will soon be able to bring up these things. | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 10:23 PM |
| 2 | What to say when you are out alone?Great point. If you have the confidence to do this, that's great. Personally, I get a little boost from the low risk social approval of bouncers and waitstaff, which makes me more confident with women. I would not wait to talk to a group if I see them, but often they are within the club and I chat up everyone on the way there. | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 11:27 PM |
| 3 | what does your 'transition' look like?I think they are all valid, and you should ask yourself which one best serves your goals. What type of women are you interested in and do you want to surround yourself with? I use a wheelchair, and my biggest issue was that when I approached women, they would not think of me as a sexual option. I handled that by dressing very sharply, and by pretty quickly letting them know that I was hitting on them. So I tend to be direct and say "hey, I think you're cute, and I'd like to meet you." I also fin… | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 02:08 PM |
| 23 | What to say when you are out alone?This is really tough to do, but also very good for building your courage muscle. Whenever I do it, I start by making friends with all the staff and just being friendly with everyone there. I start by approaching the bouncer, waitstaff, and guys in groups, just trying to have a good conversation and be friendly. Get their name and make them feel good by asking them about themselves. This usually makes it seem like everyone knows you and you're a friendly guy, so the question may not come up. If i… | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 01:55 PM |
| 3 | Need help with my mindset around old friendsI think a lot of it will be tied to those specific people, because they trigger the same patterns from your past. It definitely happens to me, I feel I have more insecure around my family, even though I have developed personally and have quick connections with new people I meet. Unfortunately I don't have an answer, but I'm curious of what you learn. | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 01:45 PM |
| 2 | I have a pressing dilemma that i could use some advice on...How about just going for a walk, and explaining your story in a fun way? | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 01:57 AM |
| 1 | How to respond to maybe?Ah, and that may be the issue. It may not be clear to her what you are looking for. I suggest saying "I'd like to take you out" somewhere in your message. Don't end up in the situation I was in, please. Https://aminl.com/blog/2016/3/26/dont-hang-out-with-women-go-on-dates | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Infield Report- Mall Pickup- Critiques appreciated!That's a good sign, she respected your confidence | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Coffee, Movie, or Dinner? Or a combo?My favorite is an arcade | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 03:06 AM |
| 3 | Seddit, Would going from 5'7" 125lbs to a more lean and muscular body make a difference with women?I see. How do you dress? That's an often overlooked step #1 https://aminl.com/blog/the-very-first-thing-to-say-to-woman | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Infield Report- Mall Pickup- Critiques appreciated!Sure, there's a lot you can learn from having female friends. Have you thought about doing that? Perhaps you will have a shared interest that you can enjoy together. Platonically without the quotes | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 03:04 AM |
| 2 | How to respond to maybe?Depends on how you are asking for the date, what do you do? | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 03:02 AM |
| 1 | I keep feeling embarrassed internally about trying to get better with womenYep, this is a very normal thing. I was mortified that someone would figure out that I needed help https://medium.com/@aminl/i-hired-a-dating-coach-e5f89442fcc0#.w1wwtl9ly | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 02:53 AM |
| 3 | Seddit, Would going from 5'7" 125lbs to a more lean and muscular body make a difference with women?Being more lean and muscular is always good, but not required. I wasn't able to do that, because I have a disability and use a wheelchair, but I was still able to get the results I wanted. What results are you not achieving? | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Infield Report- Mall Pickup- Critiques appreciated!Good start, how about just chatting with her a bit even though she does have a boyfriend? Maybe ask her about her dating experiences? Could teach you a lot and be fun https://aminl.com/blog//i-have-a-boyfriend | /r/seduction | 10/12/16 02:16 AM |
| 1 | How to make her hotly anticipate your phone callThat's interesting. Was this for girls you met online, or in person? When scheduling calls, would you try to get her to agree to a reasonable time or just tell her when you would call? | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 05:37 AM |
| 1 | How to make her hotly anticipate your phone callThanks for the feedback. I'd love to hear what has worked for you? | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 04:56 AM |
| 0 | Possible 'break' from approaching, plus general thoughtsI think a break is a great idea, but not from people. Consider shifting your energy towards developing very strong conversation skills with any stranger (male or female) for a little while, and then start approaching women. Here's a blog post that may help: http://aminl.com/blog/2016/3/3/how-to-start-a-conversation-with-anyone Amin Lakhani The Dating Coach in a Wheelchair aminl.com | /r/seduction | 10/10/16 04:01 PM |
| 2 | What to say to strangers in the elevator – my top 3 tips [from a dating coach in a wheelchair]Haha I love that! Thanks for sharing :-) | /r/seduction | 17/05/16 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Don’t “Hang Out” With Women – Go On DatesNope, I would start the other way around. It takes confidence to tell a woman you want to go on a date, and that is a respectable quality. If you later decide you are not interested, let her know that too. She will appreciate the straightforwardness. | /r/seduction | 28/03/16 07:11 PM |
| 1 | How To Rapidly Fill Your Social Circle With Interesting New People – My #1 Social HackThanks! | /r/seduction | 23/03/16 12:31 AM |
| 1 | How To Rapidly Fill Your Social Circle With Interesting New People – My #1 Social HackI do it anyway. I want to be friends with people that are social and can handle this situation. | /r/seduction | 23/03/16 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Charisma is improving, sexual attractiveness... not so muchHey Tronald, I have often had a similar concern. I have muscular dystrophy so I have to use a wheelchair, and I wondered if women were just being intimate with me because they felt bad for me. Yuck, it's not a good feeling. The truth is that this girl wants to sleep with you, but she just needs you to initiate. In practical terms, I think you're jumping the gun. Start with just holding her hand, good eye contact, and a smile. If that makes you nervous to initiate (happens to me too) just look he… | /r/seduction | 23/12/15 06:13 PM |
| 13 | [FR] Went to a club lone-wolf styleHaha yes, I need to use a wheelchair because I have muscular dystrophy. I mentioned that because sometimes people think nobody will reject you if you use a wheelchair. In my experience, that's not true. You can use a wheelchair and present yourself well or present yourself poorly, and people respond differently to each. | /r/seduction | 23/12/15 05:39 PM |
| 80 | [FR] Went to a club lone-wolf styleHey gerq, I've done this several times myself, and here are some tips. First, it takes a lot of balls to do what you did. Know that most people do not have enough drive to actually do that. And also know that because you are pushing yourself, you are bound to experience more "undesirable" situations, but that is what you will learn the most from. My two main questions for you: 1. How are you dressed when you go to the club? 2. What is the first thing you say to people when striking up a conversa… | /r/seduction | 23/12/15 07:40 AM |
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