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"If Books Could Kill" is an excellent podcast on exactly that. Their episode on Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is pretty hilarious in how much it shows you the author is full of shit.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/26 03:14 PM
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What on earth are these words.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 03:32 AM
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I know nothing about it, but if it's in the same category as the other two books then it's probably poorly-written nonsense. If you want a book to actually go into perceived "differences" between men and women, then get Gender and Our Brains by Gina Rippon. It's a bit heavy on neuroscience but does well at demonstrating that differences within sexes are always greater than differences between them. It gets even more complicated when you bring in gender identities.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 07:36 PM
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Tomassi is such a nonentity to me that I don't care at all about him.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 03:32 PM
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He praises his wife for not getting mad at him for leaving her in the middle of a horrible post-partum emergency. He's a total deadbeat loser. Later in the book he says all men need to escape to the "cave" when things get tough so they can decompress, which is a thinly-veiled excuse for how he'd leave his family for days when he was overwhelmed. Dude's a fraud and a loser, don't put any stock in his book.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 01:03 PM
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He's a failed yogi from the 70s and 80s who got "degrees" at fake institutions or pay-to-win degree mills and developed a counseling center despite not being a licensed counselor. You really should just listen to the episode. This particular podcast makes it their thing to systematically analyze manosphere books and crappy pseudoscience. The hosts are very funny and very well-informed. If you're interested in the general grift these losers do, then you'll gain a lot from it.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 12:37 PM
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The podcast If Books Could Kill does an extremely thorough analysis and takedown of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus that you should listen to. Basically, the author is a complete crank who isn't a doctorate (got an "honorary" doctorate from a degree mill) and practically wrote the book justifying his crappy relationship with his wife.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/26 12:25 PM
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while marriage is all about commitment, deadbeadroom, chores and other shit. Chores are a fact of life for everyone, marriage or not. Someone still has to unclog the toilet. Who told you marriage is "all about" dead bedrooms? My wife and I have been together for eight years and frankly this is not a problem for us.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 03:54 PM
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What issues and what are you doing to work on them? Follow the 1 percent strategy. Find something that you could better by 1 percent (or whatever heuristic you want to use) and do that for 2 weeks. Rinse and repeat. A lot easier than attempting to make grand sweeping changes all at once.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 02:05 PM
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I’m trying to do something Like what?
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 02:03 PM
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With my partner for eight years, married for 1.5. I had a difficult teens when it came to dating, then after that had a long string of successive girlfriends/flings/one nighters. Here are some answers from my perspective and experiences: 1) As others have said, hygiene is the biggest one. You don't need to be extremely fit to be attractive. Brush your teeth twice a day, shower regularly (we all get used to our own smells), have clean clothes, and have a clean living space. I've always been a thi…
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 01:36 PM
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Sounds like a significantly problematic kid and I would pretty strongly recommend passing on him. All the red flags are there regarding not just redpill but crappy boyfriend in general. Having "extreme anxiety" isn't an excuse for already being jealous and basically asking you to be submissive to him. You're 19. Plenty of other mitochondria in the cell.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/26 07:22 PM
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Unfortunately, yes. That is textbook redpill bullshit. It's not on you. This guy was just a dick. Unfortunately we can't really build the antibodies against this kind of thing until we're exposed to it, and for you it had to be in real life rather than mediated through the Internet like others. It's not a fault of you in any, way, shape or form, and you are certainly not unloveable. Hell, being in grad school almost certainly makes you a better candidate for being a partner who can take care of …
/r/ExRedPill29/04/26 05:45 PM
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Nah dude it's weird and offputting from any gender. You're not special. That's your problem: weird and offputting. Wouldn't want to be friends with you in real life (or anyone, for that matter) with this creed lurking underneath your subconscious and coloring your very ability to go outside. My close, loving male friends worth being around can all be in a room for 20 seconds without losing their composure from women (which everyone around you can pick up on). It's one of the many things that mak…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/26 08:38 PM
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Sure wouldn't!
/r/ExRedPill03/04/26 08:27 PM
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You have me at "men should be vulnerable with each other" and lose me at "grrrr women! I hate them!". So fellas, men should be vulnerable and loving toward each other... just not like this guy's doing it.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/26 08:25 PM
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... I apologize, that's on me! I looked up the user I was thinking of and I completely had a different person in mind. My bad!
/r/ExRedPill29/08/25 01:38 AM
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If I'm remembering your post history here correctly, aren't you single and like 25? You're nowhere near what I'm talking about, but a lot of millennials know exactly this kind of mediocre dad who thinks life ends at 30 and/or marriage.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/25 11:44 PM
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Yep. My wife and I are both very close friends in addition to lovers. Yet both incels and 60-year old boring married men think that's insane and impossible.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/25 07:40 PM
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Is it possible to still have good, meaningful experiences in your 20s after university, especially if you didn’t have much of a social life during it? If you define "meaningful" as social engagements, parties, etc. - then yes, absolutely. I dealt with PTSD and depression for most of my undergrad experience, and post-undergrad was so much better for much of my social life. Helped that I did some guide work in the outdoors industry where that kind of lifestyle is common among outdoor recreation pr…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/25 03:18 PM
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I'm a feminist male and I am overwhelmingly sexually attracted to my wife. Arguably, me being a feminist means we fuck better because I actually pay attention to her needs. ... or perhaps you are confusing the word "feminist" with "feminine"?
/r/ExRedPill19/06/25 01:54 PM
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I’m financially stable and secure but not a millionaire (yet), so whenever I see a good looking woman, I immediately say to myself:”Ahh forget about it, the only language she speaks is money. She won’t even look in my direction if I’m not driving a Lambo.” What makes you say this, and what leads to it nowadays? Let's interrogate the thought process that gets from A to D and find out what B and C are. Anecdotally, I live in a well-off city. My wife met me almost 7 years ago when I was a broke lat…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/25 07:20 PM
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As I understand it, these people have helped men get into relationships. Well, there's the crux. Do you just want to have a relationship, or do you want to meet somebody and have a connection? All of these assholes might help you get some, but the end of the day they're still only teaching you how to be transactional in doing the "right things" to get a reward. That will never turn out healthily. Not to mention that they do not and never have known you, who you are, and what interests and experi…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/25 03:35 PM
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Nobody is like everyone else. When I say "view yourself as less special", I mean in the sense of these traits you might see as unattractive or specially uninteresting are actually pretty common. It's easy to find things like this as a springboard to engage with other people. As an example: my wife hates team sports, especially football. She thinks they're very boring. I don't care much for them either. I love individual sports, but don't care at all about team sports. I wouldn't say this is some…
/r/ExRedPill26/01/25 08:11 PM
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That's bullshit, it's pretty commonly discussed here that sexuality is a wide spectrum. Calling it "scientific facts" with zero sourcing other than "I once read an article lol" leads to exactly the kind of self-reinforcing onanism that always brings you back to this sub to complain and moan about your lot in life without doing the hard work to change it.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/25 05:53 PM
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For example, everyone likes sports. I don't. I don't see the appeal and don't get why people like it. I can absolutely guarantee you that not everyone likes sports. If anything, the majority of my friends don't care about football. Not because we're special and sought each other out; it just be that way. It might be a good framework to view yourself as less special. Not that you're unworthy, but that what you think of as unique and unattractive traits (e.g., don't like sports) are actually prett…
/r/ExRedPill24/01/25 05:48 PM
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Considering we've both seen each other in less-than-ideal body types and situations before now: yes. This is not to say physical attraction is not important to me. I wouldn't completely look past looks. I still like enjoying what I see. It is not a dichotomy of two extremes. ... And, my wife's personality and affect are precisely why she is the person to be with as opposed to anyone else.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/25 05:45 PM
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My wife is physically hotter than sin. But what upgrades her from "hot" to "smokin hot" is precisely her personality. She is one of the gooberiest people I have ever met, and it lends a playfulness and unpredictability to our relationship that makes her immensely exciting to be with, and without ever going into the bad kind of unpredictability. She's beautiful, yeah, but the person she is makes her insanely attractive to simply be around - and I mean "attractive" in all kinds of ways, from someo…
/r/ExRedPill24/01/25 05:39 PM
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There are plenty of reasons that have nothing to do with red pill, one of the main ones simply being that women couldn't divorce men until pretty damn recently in the USA. Anecdotally, the women I know who have been divorced almost all fit into two buckets: 1) They got married very young/fast and simply grew up into adults with different life goals and interests. 2) Their partner ended up being very shitty immediately post-marriage, or there were major incompatibilities that the men hid before g…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/24 03:45 PM
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This is a nothingburger. I don't mean that to insult you so much as to help you come back down to earth. Blocking someone for a few days on Instagram is nothing in the scheme of friendships or relationships. Take deep breaths and be calm to work yourself out of the panic mindset, and simply unblock/refollow. There, you're done.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/24 04:00 PM
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Just unblock your friend. Don't overly apologize or make it weird, just unblock them.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/24 03:49 PM
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Nah dog, that's a you-problem.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/24 02:39 PM
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How women love opportunistically men love idealistically. As a 32-year old male, my experience is the opposite. Men can be *extreme* opportunists when it comes to women. Look no further than redpill itself, which tells you to sleep around and get it while you can, not holding emotional ties to whom you sleep with. I'm sure you can think of plenty of men you've known who have played women, or how many men on the news buck that idea of men being "idealistic" with tons of high-profile stories of me…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/24 07:26 PM
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If what u/Allusionator is saying is true, and she got spooked from hooking up, then it's not about "you" in the sense of something about you that likely tripped her off. Casual sex and hooking up can be stressful, and she probably realized that she was really uncomfortable with what she was doing and that it isn't actually something she wanted. She got scared and decided she needed to get out of the situation, and that it wasn't for her. The best thing you can do is simply be an understanding pa…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/24 04:20 PM
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This might be one of those rare instances where derision for OP is the only option.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/24 04:37 PM
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Confidence is not the only trait that matters. I have known plenty of people who are confident but also not fun to be around. Or, people who are confident in their abilities and interests but those abilities/interests aren't something that align with mine. Where confidence is important is simply getting your foot in the door, and as a spice to the rest of your interests. Someone who's not confident in themselves is less likely to be engaged with their interests or in social dynamics. Simply bein…
/r/ExRedPill11/04/24 06:29 PM
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That's why I emphasized "in my experience". It'll depend on the gym and what you're there for, as well as the culture. I have zero issues being more social during bouldering or lead climbing (talking with partners!), but gym training in my activities is pretty specifically for training only.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 06:09 PM
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Cold-approaches at gyms are rather discomforting, in my experience. When I work out, I'm there to just do that - work out, or run. The most conversation I want with someone is "how much longer will be you be on the treadmill?". This is different when it comes to other sports-related activities, though. Bouldering is a fantastic way to meet people, especially if you're both projecting the same route.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 05:45 PM
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Yeah I've met a lot of women just through volunteering gigs at climbing/mountaineering centers. I'm not pursuing any relationships, it's just that they happen to be women friends!
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 05:43 PM
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You can kind of see Levitin's book as a successor to How to Lie with Statistics, though without the latter's baggage. Levitin's is far more up-to-date not only on how to use statistics, but in the various ways it's implemented for good and for bad. A lot of my professional work deals with statistics, so I check out books like Levitin's to see how people in my field approach laypersons. Just to understand your position, are you saying there are no differences in sexual behavior between genders th…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 04:38 PM
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It's a particularly insidious kind of pseudo-science because it purports a lot of things people feel to be true. This leads people to create post-hoc justifications (i.e. "I see this thing in society, which means it probably happened through x, y, and z) without counterfactuals. I can't really stress enough how much it relies on people "feeling" it to be true. Two other good books to kinda get into the process behind responsible methodologies and help yourself be more aware of "bad" science are …
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 03:23 PM
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I don't, other than my one-line summary. It's poor science that is emblematic of "evolutionary psychology" being little more than a joke to anyone who takes scientific processes seriously. For a book that actually dives into brain-gender myths and dissects actual real difference between men and women (spoiler alert: with better techniques, we find fewer meaningful differences), Gender and Our Brains by Gina Rippon is pretty good. It's heavy on the neuroscience and not a page-turner, but it's a s…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 03:02 PM
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That book is faux-intellectual nonsense that ignores all the actual advances in neuroscience of the last thirty years and the meta-analyses of later.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/24 03:07 AM
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As someone else said, a lot of contempt is pointed at arrogant people and assholes. Who wants to spend time with an asshole? The difference is that people with more confidence - even unfounded confidence - tend to be a lot more active in activities, dating, professional life, etc. This isn't a "good" thing, just an explanation of why they tend to be more in front than the person with low confidence who doesn't do as much.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/24 05:29 PM
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Why wouldn't it be? I like improving myself (professionally, physically, whatever) simply because I think I'm worth it. I don't do it so I can attract anyone - or to keep my fiancee attracted to me. I do the things I do because I like them and want to get better at them. Redpill's approach to self-improvement is based in an outward locus of control. Redpill might try to tell young men that it's about making themselves into men, but it's not - it's about getting the appreciation from other men an…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 05:31 PM
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No, I see it, but I also see that kind of mentality is going to suck them in regardless. Better not to coddle redpillers and simply say show them "yep, people like sex, and that's fine". My sexual life and opinions are antithetical to redpill, so if you (or someone else) sees that as pushing people to be more into redpill, then that's on them for a lack of critical skills.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 03:33 PM
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But I'm not talking about men's sexual experience, I'm talking about women's sexual experience. I am not a woman, so I cannot speak for what one would prefer. I can only speak to my own preferences as a man - a preference that is well outside of what redpill tells me I should believe. Redpill tells men that they should only go after virgin women yet have sex themselves. Men should embrace women's sexuality, not fear it. Redpill teaches them to fear it. I strongly believe that a healthy man shoul…
/r/ExRedPill19/01/24 01:29 AM
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Not really sure how. One of the redpill's biggest focuses (and biggest flaws) is a strong, nigh-monomaniacal focus on a woman not having any sexual experience before them. For me, part of simply growing up and being a man is welcoming sexual experience of previous partners.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 09:15 PM
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No, I do not want to date someone with no sexual experience. Mind you, it's mostly a moot point at this point in my life (31, engaged to a woman I've been with for five years) - but even if I were single, I would not prefer someone who has not had sex. There's a few reasons why, but it mostly comes down to sexual compatibility being an important part of relationships for me. Not that I need to have a lot of sex, but aligning on sexual interests, libidos, etc. is healthy - and I can't really know…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/24 01:55 AM
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No, it's fine if someone has preferences for what they want. It is, after all, a preference. The problem when talking about sexual histories is that frequently people wrap it up in the context of "you are unlovable" rather than "I am not attracted to you". It's just kind of... lamely solipsistic. And it makes you seem like you're just mad other people have lots of sex rather than couching it in something you prefer. You are 100% fine to not be attracted to people who tie sex less to love than yo…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 08:18 PM
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You know it's not binary, right? It's not like you either have sex with everything that moves or exclusively wait til marriage?
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 07:28 PM
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Yeah I'd never heard the phrase "body count" either until a few years ago with the Internet. I'm a younger Millennial; we just used the phrase "partners" or something. "Body count" feels gross and, like, attacking. Nah I didn't kill anyone I slept with haha.
/r/ExRedPill08/01/24 07:28 PM
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Facts dont care about your feelings. This line is always funny to me because it's exclusively used by men who are driven about what they feel.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/24 02:16 PM
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I have no doubt that you call threesomes disgraceful but would jump at the chance to have one yourself.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 06:32 PM
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This dude made up something in his head based on what he thought he read rather than what it actually said. Classic RP mind, right there.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 06:31 PM
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In my experience they're pretty fun. The problem is many dumb boys/men think "ooo threesome, two at once hell yeah" and nothing beyond that. Boundaries and each partner's values are the most important thing to consider, and some people just aren't for them. Which is fine - sexual compatibility is neither zero-sum nor universal.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 05:55 PM
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3rd-wave feminism simply means "you can choose whatever path you want so long as it is free of coercion". That means supporting the decision to be a stay-at-home mom as much as being a high-octane careerer so long as the decision was made by the woman and not forced standards of tradition. The man-hating stereotype is distinctly 2nd-wave. 2nd-wave feminism was hugely reactionary against the stereotypical roles for women, whereas 3rd-wave is far more inclusive. You should learn more about 3rd-wav…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/23 03:42 PM
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No. Plenty of people fuck around when they're committed regardless of sexual history. I'm a man who has a fairly detailed sexual history. I'm not bragging - I don't see it as something to brag about - and I'm only bringing it up because it's relevant. I am head-over-heels in love with my fiancee. She is the best person I know, my best friend, and my best sexual partner. I'm fully committed to her and not a day goes by nowadays where I can't wait to have our wedding in the California Sierra next …
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 02:15 PM
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That wasn't my point. My point is that controlling yourself is easy if women are around who are interested in you. You said it was "hard". It's not hard. Just don't be a weenie.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/23 07:19 PM
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Controlling yourself sexually is easy if you aren’t a coward.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/23 06:23 PM
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Man this comment is the perfect example of message vs. tone.
/r/ExRedPill13/04/23 01:22 PM
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Yeah but you know this guy's American.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/23 12:59 PM
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I compare different news outlets like the BBC to fox news and try to digest both sides. While this is important, you need to learn when not to equivocate. Equivocation is extremely dangerous and intellectually dishonest. There are many, many things for which there are not "two sides", and where the truth really does not lie in the middle. If you always look at stuff (not just redpill, but in general) as having an "always in the middle" deal, you will easily be led astray into thinking untrue thi…
/r/ExRedPill26/12/22 07:34 PM
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Yes, absolutely. Especially when they're active in other activities that get them outside meeting people.
/r/ExRedPill08/12/22 02:57 PM
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No. Plenty, plenty of people are not on social media nearly as much as you think they are, and plenty of people have tons of hobbies that are off the Internet and significantly active in other lifestyles. The only time I hear people say others have "unrealistic expectations" and are not "willing to approach others in real life" are.... the kinds of people who themselves are not approaching others in real life and have most of their world experienced mediated by the Internet. It is an insidious b…
/r/ExRedPill08/12/22 02:56 PM
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Duh. That's not what she's asking.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/22 04:57 PM
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Six pack is not really healthy Not totally true. Though it's demonstrative of a low body fat percentage, a six pack can be a natural effect of just being extremely fit in a chosen sport or discipline. If you get a six pack through extreme dieting or significant, sudden weight loss, then absolutely that's a problem and should be considered. A visible six pack is more a factor of very low body fat than strong core/superficial abdominal muscles. But dropping body fat because of other activity is no…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 05:02 PM
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This is terrible advice. If you're in a toxic relationship, then leave it. Staying in a toxic relationship just to satisfy a stupid revenge fantasy is utterly counter to true self-improvement.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/22 08:21 PM
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Someone who doesn’t care for redpoll YouTubers.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 11:11 PM
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Again - who? I feel like people here focus waaaay too much on what Random Internet Man #274 thinks on YouTube. I don't care about this guy and neither should you, by the sounds of it.
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 07:15 PM
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Who?
/r/ExRedPill15/11/22 07:11 PM
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People post "what do you think about X person" here all the time, and I have no idea who the fuck these people are or why I should care in the slightest.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/22 10:01 PM
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Who?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/22 12:14 AM
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It doesn't work for you, and it doesn't work for some other people as well. Others do and did just fine with it. Some people have higher sex drives or whatnot. It's part of the tapestry of being human. The problem with redpill thinking and your thinking is that a person decides the think casual sex is unfulfilling for themselves, and therefore they decide this must to apply to everyone else's sex life as well. There are absolutely people who have casual sex and then regret it. But, there are ple…
/r/ExRedPill03/11/22 02:27 PM
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Who?
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 05:27 AM
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Who?
/r/ExRedPill25/10/22 09:15 PM
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Yeah, exactly. I've had sex on the second date before. I've also not kissed until a month in. It just completely depends on the relationship dynamic, what you're feeling, and what they're feeling. There isn't a firm timetable, and expecting one is a good way to feel unfulfilled. What matters is that you and your partner have consistent communication and are on the same level for your romantic and sexual values.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 05:08 PM
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simply resorted to an appeal to authority You obviously don't know what logical fallacies are if you think this is "appeal to authority". Appeal to authority is along the lines of "X person said Y, therefore Y is true". What u/SweelFor- is asking is what your specific training and understanding of statistics is, and if you have the ability to explain inter-correlation and effect modification that could influence ostensible outcomes. This is simply asking "can you explain to me why this is true?"…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 05:05 PM
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What the hell are you talking about.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 04:58 PM
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So by "study", you read a few books and called it a day? Also, part of being an informed member is knowing what therapy works and what doesn't. Past-life regression therapy is bullshit. Congrats, that's pretty well-known. Does that kick out the metric fuckton of research behind cognitive behavioral therapy and EMDR that are well-established throughout an evergrowing corpus of literature in fields that range from financial consulting to psychology to neurology? No, absolutely not. It's like sayin…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 03:36 PM
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Don't offload this dude's problems on some other country.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 03:31 PM
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Because I used to be a hardcore redpill enthusiast You used to be - and you still are, too. If you truly feel "disgusted" even by being around a woman or unironically think that women are "low IQ", then you unreservedly are deep in redpill beliefs and have a ton of self-hatred in addition to hatred for those around you. And hatred for no real reason whatsoever. You've got a lot of work to do, my dude. Start on it.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 03:29 PM
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Therapy is for people with low IQ, so I'm not gonna try that :) Nah, if anything is "low IQ", it's having this belief. Therapy is great in helping people work through why they believe what they believe, as well as whether or not it's ultimately beneficial for their long-term wellbeing. There is nothing quite like talking to someone who is professionally trained to listen to you and help you figure things out. I'm a pretty successful public health consultant whose mountaineering life has taken me…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/22 03:28 PM
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Thank you! Very new and we’re both very excited :)
/r/ExRedPill21/10/22 01:19 AM
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the more you show her how much you love her the less she'll respect you even if everyone else thinks you're a mean and hard dude. Ah fuck... I was nice to my girlfriend and now she's a fiancee! Ahhh! Where did I go wrong!!
/r/ExRedPill20/10/22 06:54 PM
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Nah, there are plenty of guys I've known who are good-looking and successful but girls don't date because they're known creeps. This stereotype exists online where it's easy to cherry-pick examples, but the real world doesn't work this way.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/22 04:34 PM
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You kinda nailed why I can't take them seriously. MGTOW never actually "goes their own way", they just get even more obsessed about women. In the early 2010s, I was at the nadir of my struggles with PTSD and untreated depression. It was pretty damn bad. I finished undergrad, sure, but I never really had any close friends, and I was always on-edge in a bad way with issues concerning sex and love. Ended up losing the relationship I thought would be a lifelong one, and I just kinda did nothing for …
/r/ExRedPill13/10/22 01:09 PM
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Absolutely, you've got it all down. Everyone else lacks nearly the same level of self-awareness as you.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/22 01:44 PM
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Totally. You’ve got it entirely figured out and everyone else here is a sheep. I remember thinking this way when I was young and a little too convinced of my own intellect.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/22 11:59 AM
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Not only that, but if he has even an iota of understanding of statistical models then he'd know the studies don't back up the claims he's making. Hell, his whole mantra is a textbook definition of the environmental/epidemiological fallacy. But he doesn't, because he's an intellectual and moral coward - as has been well established here.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 08:39 PM
11

I really hate dishonest fucks with no understanding of statistics who willingly misinterpret statistical models, yet here we are.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 08:35 PM
10

/r/VigilanteJusticia was talking about the "pair bonding" myth. There is no scientific consensus on that. Don't have your finger on the trigger with a twitch like that.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 08:34 PM
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It's the topmost one in this post, my dude. Right now it calls you an intellectual coward in the bolded edit, and I don't really have a reason to disbelieve that until you show otherwise.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:43 PM
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it is much more likely that they stem from a common cause. This is why I want so much to look at autocorrelation between sexual health subjects like this.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:42 PM
6

I see you're still responding with link-dumps and failing to engage with people who actually read them whatsoever. Could it be that you're not actually willing to intellectually engage with these sources or any of your own beliefs? Because it seems to me you're gish-galloping and nothing more. You're on a whole lot of bullshit buddy, and everyone but you can tell it stinks.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:38 PM
5

Got sources for me to analyze?
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:25 PM
6

People have equated leftism to communism. It's a dirty, dishonest tactic, but it's extremely effective. I also noticed that you did not respond to my analysis of the sources you cited. Care to?
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:24 PM
4

judgement and shame are what keeps society functioning Really, lad? That's what keeps us functioning? Fuckin hell.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:17 PM
6

Pretty strongly correlated though, can't blame the dude for being skeptical of you.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:16 PM
11

Like I said, I got nerd-sniped! I love stats!
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 10:15 PM
9

Causal relationships vs. correlation are such a big thing in my field that it's literally a cliche, heh.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 08:22 PM
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edit- If you're just coming to this now, then go ahead and turn back. OP is an intellectual coward who's not actually looking for an understanding of his sources. I'm a statistical epidemiologist, and I'm feeling just nerd-sniped enough to respond to this. Fincham et al.: There's a difference between "associated with" and "causes". Are people who are unfaithful to their spouse that way because they had more sex partners? Or are people who are already pre-disposed to infidelity more likely to see…
/r/ExRedPill27/09/22 08:18 PM
12

And what about that means it isn't loneliness?
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 10:55 PM
8

Men seem to prefer casual sex while women want a man who will commit to her. This isn't true and actually perpetuates a really damaging myth that all men want sex and specifically casual sex.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 10:54 PM
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Man you've got one hella persecution fetish. edit- Coward blocked me for calling out his bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/22 10:53 PM
3

Because it's an animal without sentience. Cows breed, humans are a little more than that. The point is that I, a human man, desire more from my partners than "a woman to breed with". Don't be too much of a fool.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/22 07:06 PM
6

I'm not a woman.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/22 02:46 PM
1

My personal preference is to date fit women. I'm also very physically active, so I want a partner who prioritizes similar things. An overweight person is less likely to have that same interest or value. This isn't to say whatsoever that an overweight person isn't worthy love, just my preference on who to date and how it can align with what's important to me.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/22 02:25 PM
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whereas we want a woman to breed with Nah, I want a little more than someone to "breed" with. I'm not a cow, motherfucker.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/22 02:21 PM
3

I agree with everything that person said as well.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/22 12:15 PM
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OP, I second everything this person is saying and then some. This is the advice you need to hear - hard advice, but advice nonetheless. It also sounds like you've made your entire identity around being single. I get that - I faced that a bit in my late teens and early twenties. And it probably made it harder for me to be into the things that ended up making me my unique "me". For example, I do a lot of hiking and climbing now. Do I do it because I think it'll make me sexy? No, although my quads …
/r/ExRedPill13/09/22 07:32 PM
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How much government funding goes to prostate cancer vs breast cancer again? And what, exactly, do you know about the potential harm of prostate cancer? The two aren't the same - breast cancer has a far greater risk of malignancy than prostate cancer. The risk of prostate cancer metastasizing is very very low - hell, one of the reasons why we don't recommend prostate exams for men over a certain age anymore is because even if prostate cancer were detected, it spreads so slowly and is generally so…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 09:01 PM
4

For example, veterans healthcare has been emphasizing men’s suicide rates and creating lots of support for those individuals for the past decade. Just because you don’t see it in a TikTok post doesn’t mean it hasn’t been helping thousands of individuals (because it has been immensely beneficial for many individuals and has raised great awareness in the healthcare community). Veteran-focused outdoor therapy is huge for this. There are a TON of hiking and climbing organizations in the Northeast th…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 08:03 PM
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Yikes no, MensLib says every problem a man has is men's fault. They'd never admit that actual women can do anything wrong. They're part of the r/ Feminism hegemony. No thanks. Also I'm not a MRA, I can't deal with the "my gender, right or wrong" aspect of MRA's or feminists. However dissent is NOT allowed on MensLib, AskaFeminist or any of those subs, but MensRights allows me to vehemently disagree with the patriarchal and tradcon elements that infest that sub without getting banned. Nah, I've b…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 08:01 PM
12

Exactly - it's like how MGTOW is far from going their own way. It's just complaining about how much women suck. If you actually want to go your own way, then post shit about subsistence lifestyles in Alaska or your mega-cool bachelor pad.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:42 PM
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Sure. If someone close to me who's an active and engaged part of my life said something outwardly misandrist, I'd absolutely call her out because that's what friends do. I'd also be curious about why she said that given I don't make friends with people who are misandrists or misogynists on first blush.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:33 PM
13

Nah, r/ MensRights is just another place people go to whine about women rather than actually finding ways to better things. That sub is "let's pull women down" rather than "let's build men up". An actually good sub for men's issues is going to be something like /r/MensLib. Or, don't go to reddit for men's issues at all. It's reddit, it's not real life, and you're bound to just be swallowed up in the kind of bitterness and resentment towards any kinds of women's issues. Men bring their issues up …
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:28 PM
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I've never had a woman friend be an active misandrist in the way men can be misogynists. I have had women express frustrations toward men in the sense of talking down to them, interrupting them, or issues with dating - but this is far from misandry.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:15 PM
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There are lots of men's issues out there worth discussing. Suicide, loneliness, expectations of masculinity, custody battles, etc. My problem is - specifically on reddit - lots of men's issues are only brought up in response to women's issues. As if the existence of men's issues is used to invalidate why someone focuses on an issue that disproportionately affects women.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/22 04:14 PM
2

Fuck off bot, "69" is only funny when you're 12.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 02:45 PM
1

I have been working out for 9 days So first off, 9 days is nothing in working out. The thing with intense, physical exercise is that people who aren't accustomed to it think they'll get buff within a couple months, or they'll start seeing gains quickly. That's just not true - you will start to feel stronger for sure, but physical gains and significant muscle mass or tone only occurs through sustained, focused exercise and cross-training. I don’t want to leave MGTOW because it makes me feel buff …
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 02:44 PM
1

Totally agree with that!
/r/ExRedPill03/09/22 12:47 PM
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Women’s bodies aren’t a monolith, and what applies to one woman might not to another. It’s definitely important to know where the clitoris is, but knowing the theory of women’s bodies isn’t the same.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 12:20 PM
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Haha you had me worried in the first half, but I absolutely agree with your conclusion that you should pursue activities or life goals because you want them, not exclusively to impress women. I hike, run, and climb a lot. I like to think I have a good body as a result. But did I seek this out for women? Nope, I just enjoy these things as a part of me, and my girlfriend finds my love for them interesting. That’s the big thing a lot of redpilled dudes miss.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 01:36 AM
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I’m glad you ask. I happen to be an infectious disease epidemiologist. (My username was my favorite band back in 2013 and is only coincidentally related to my career choice.) I noticed you didn’t respond to my comment on the hypocrisy of referring to “traditional sexuality”, but I’ll take that as my point was both made and salient. Tl;dr - the actual associations between various forms of birth control itself and STD risk is highly mixed, with chlamydia and gonorrhea having no association, and HI…
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 01:31 AM
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Oh, because we were doing studies in the 1880s on that? I repeat- we’ve always been having sex. Hell, read up on historical counts on STDs. Birth control made it easier to have sex without fear of pregnancy or STDs for all types of encounters. The idea that somehow it’s a new thing is just preposterous and super red-pilled thinking. The idea that it’s the downfall of “””traditional””” sexuality is just nonsense. (And which tradition, how far back, for which culture? And what class? Sexual mores …
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 01:24 AM
3

Yeah, I absolutely wouldn’t want to marry someone I didn’t sleep with because that sexual chemistry is important to me.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 01:17 AM
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Nah, people were having sex way before birth control. Every generation just thinks they’re the first one to discover sex.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 01:16 AM
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The truth is that while this field lacks the same scientific rigor of the natural sciences And right there, this is the reason why I'm fine with dismissing evopsych. it's not "science", it's working backward from conclusions. OP should listen to science - which is why they shouldn't listen to evopsych. And I say this as a scientist, specifically a statistical epidemiologist whose entire work focuses on causality. Evopsych as a field broadly fails in causality.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/22 10:08 PM
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I suggest listening to Dr. David Buss who is an evolutionary psychologist who is an expert on mating. This sentence is red flag heaven. OP, ignore evopsych. Most of it is nonsense that works from a conclusion backwards to a hypothesis.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/22 04:27 PM
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You’re getting downvotes but I think what you’re getting at is “women like men who are confident and successful in their pursuits”, which is (mostly) true of everyone. Money is often used as a quick shorthand for success. Not for everyone mind you - there are plenty of demanding jobs that don’t pay much - but for lots of people it is.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/22 10:41 AM
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Nah, plenty of people have money because they got lucky or inherited. I wish money were a meritocratic value but it isn’t and hasn’t been.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/22 10:38 AM
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A fairly fit/muscular woman is extremely attractive to me. Not body-builder kind of muscle (which I'm not finding attractive on anyone regardless of gender), but a bit more muscle and solid tone. My girlfriend does yoga and has recently gotten into climbing, and man is it hot.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 09:53 PM
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Attractiveness is subjective. And, oftentimes people have overlapping subjective qualities that they find attractive. This doesn't make it "objective", just that people have multiple similarities with others in what they find interesting/attractive.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/22 09:52 PM
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As others have said, you don't necessarily need someone who exactly shares your hobbies. Finding someone who appreciates your interests is important. This is easier in a hobby/activity space, but that's not the end-all. I am extremely into underground metal music, climbing/outdoors, and modernist fiction. My girlfriend is not - with the exception of the outdoors, though even then we express our interests a little differently. And it's fine! We like the wealth of interests that each person has.
/r/ExRedPill11/05/22 04:08 PM
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Sure thing, Trump. Anyway if you're not going to bother clarifying your point - like someone who prides themselves on their communication would do - then there's no reason to listen further.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:31 PM
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No, I read it, you're just not an efficient communicator.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:18 PM
6

Then what are you trying to say? Your original post was pretty word-salad.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:16 PM
3

What? This is what your post says!
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:14 PM
3

I'm confused. Exredpill people posting comments telling people things contrary to what the redpill believes is actually still redpill? And the people who comment more redpill-aligning things are the ones telling the "truth"? Bold move, nephew.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:07 PM
1

Adding onto this, it's way more important that someone make an effort in sex and try to be good rather than just have a dick. Lots of men think sex is just the old "in-out-in-out" when it's so much more than that to actually pleasure a partner.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 02:44 PM
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It's mostly the nonsense phrases of "high value men" and "high value women". Improving one's abilities and pursing one's interests aren't bad advice at all. It's the language wrapped up.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/22 05:39 PM
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Practically everyone "struggles" with attracting the opposite sex at some point in their life. For a variety of reasons, too - be it life circumstances, appearance, work/family obligations, maturity, etc. I am no exception to this. My late adolescence/very early 20s were pretty bad in connecting with women. In retrospect, this was entirely because I was kind of an entitled jerk while also not as mature as I thought I was. I flagrantly go against your statement that "one has to either have tattoo…
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 02:58 PM
2

Counterpoint: me.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 02:06 PM
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Yep. The important part of my comment is "when I was younger and kind of a jerk". Though redpill wasn't really a thing when I was in my late adolescence (approximately 2007-2012), I definitely believed some redpill traits. It turns out that my looks and hobbies really weren't what kept me from women - I was just kind of a jerk and really bitter about the perceptions I put on the world.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 02:38 AM
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"If you don't meet women or are in an area to meet women, then you won't meet women." Yes? If you're working for home and don't have any other activities that get you outside of the house, then you won't meet women. If you live in a place with an extremely low population and you don't meet people in it, then you won't meet women.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 08:39 PM
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I have an ex-girlfriend who got a tattoo of her Coast Guard dad's helicopter out of love for him. Keep your shit out, my dude.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 07:02 PM
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That isn't a huge number either, my dude.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:08 PM
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Nah. I’m a thin dude with no tattoos. Always have been. I’ve also not had issues with women, outside of when I was younger and kind of a jerk. Women are like men in there being a huge, huge wealth of preferences and styles that people find attractive. For example, my girlfriend really finds my thinner body more attractive and outwardly dislikes large muscular guys (“I don’t want to date a guy who looks like he would strangle me”). There are so, so many people in the world/country/state/city that…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 02:38 PM
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Ah, when I hear "masculine", I think of both physical and personality/interests.
/r/ExRedPill24/04/22 09:13 PM
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As others are saying, this is a part of the nebulous answer "everyone has their own preferences". Which is simply true - with the literally billions of women in the world, everyone prefers something different. My girlfriend's mom married and was physically attracted to a fairly large, overweight man - and she was very aware of his weight, too. I've always been a thinner guy, preferring sports that either focus on endurance or don't favor a more muscular build (climbing, long-distance hiking, run…
/r/ExRedPill24/04/22 09:01 PM
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I had no idea who this person was before opening this. I briefly opened up a page, and he strikes me as just another snake oil salesman selling "masculinity" to make a buck. Pass.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/22 04:16 PM
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The “attractive people are less successful” thing is silly. Life is not a DND game where you put points in certain attributes at the expense of others - e.g. an attractive person has high charisma and low intelligence. There are plenty of attractive, successful, smart people. There are plenty of unattractive, unsuccessful, dumb people. There are plenty of attractive, successful, dumb people. There are plenty of unattractive, successful, dumb people. That’s just how the nuance of life works.
/r/ExRedPill22/04/22 12:00 PM
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They talk a lot for sure, but we now live on the other side of the country! Whereas I don’t really have any relationship with my blood family (by all choice on my end), so it took some getting used to when she and I began dating.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/22 05:05 PM
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It’s whatever makes you feel comfortable, really. I’ve dated women who lived with their parents for one reason or another. I live with my current girlfriend, but she has an extremely close relationship with her parents and visits them every couple months.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/22 03:59 PM
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You’re only saying that because it’s the first comment to align with your expectation of it not being okay. The “truth” is that this is an example of how people have different values or interests, and that a dealbreaker for one person is not a dealbreaker for others.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/22 03:38 PM
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No, it’s just like any trait. Some people like certain things, others don’t. There are plenty of traits I have that someone might like, and some of those same traits will turn off other people. That’s just part of the tapestry of different people in life.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/22 02:14 PM
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Nah. Plenty of people live with their parents for a variety of reasons - cultural, financial, etc. A good number of my friends briefly lived with their parents after college, and others did so when they were working simply to save up money. The only time it isn’t something necessarily good is if the person living with their parents isn’t doing anything. Like if they’re living with their parents but not working or in school despite being capable, then that’s a bit of a red flag.
/r/ExRedPill09/04/22 11:46 AM
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Redpill is about abusing and manipulating women, not actually finding a healthy relationship. It "works" in the sense that some people who follow redpill advice might occasionally get laid - but it's through subterfuge, and it's about targeting emotionally vulnerable women rather than actually developing something meaningful.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 05:03 PM
1

Because depression and similar mental health issues are often chemical imbalances, not “being sad”. By RP standards, I have a pretty good life. Great job, strong social network, lots of actualizing hobbies, and a phenomenal life partner. And yet, I have had depression since I was at least 15, as well as issues with PTSD. Why? Well for depression, who knows? I just have a lot of trouble feeling… anything. Additionally, being attractive and successful does not necessarily mean you don’t experience…
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 12:23 PM
2

Terms evolve, that's just language. The definition I just shared is the primary definition used by people when they refer to "sex positivity". It is a consistent and widely-used interpretation of the phrase. This is not an uncommon definition or term. "Sex positivity" simply means encouraging people to make decisions on whether to have sex or not have sex based on their values. "Sex positivity" does not mean "you should be having sex". These are very different concepts.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 02:29 PM
3

That's... simply not true. Many, many, many women enjoy sex. Many women who are sexually active have sex because they enjoy it. Orgasms and pleasure exist - and even women who have issues achieving orgasms still find pleasure and enjoyment in sex. Stuff like RP exists because certain men aren't having sex, and the women don't want to have sex with them, so those kinds of men have to manipulate the women in order to have sex. Whereas women not wanting to have sex with those kinds of men doesn't j…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 02:28 PM
3

Are you trying to imply that non-asexual women don't like sex?
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 12:08 PM
3

No... No. "Sex positivity" refers to the idea that sexual decisions should be made according to one's own morals and values around sex. While it originally came from the idea of making having sex acceptable (in contrast to abstinence-only education, for example), sex positivity is very broadly applied to mean that it is okay to have sex, and it is okay to not have sex. In fact, there is a huge focus in modern health behavior and health education that sex positivity very much should incorporate d…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 12:07 PM
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I’m curious what you think sex positivity means.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 01:33 AM
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I see what you're saying, but it still furthers a dichotomy about sex. The dichotomy is no longer "having lots of sex is great, having less/in relationships is not" - now it's "having lots of sex is shallow/dumb". In contrast - humans are complicated, and people have sex for lots of different reasons. Having a lot of sex when you're younger (or even later in life) doesn't automatically mean you'll be 35, single, and talking about previous slays. Many people have casual sex and end up in happy, c…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 09:19 PM
3

Don't worry, I wasn't going to invite you.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:55 PM
1

Yes very. It isn't 'good' dancing, there's no choreography an barely any rhythm to it, it's mainly just moving my body to the music in ways that feel good to me Honestly that's some of the best kind of dancing. I actually studied dance in undergrad (didn't major in it, but I did do a lot of ballet and tap dancing), and my favorite form of dancing is the kind of house rhythm and groove I get when I'm at an electronic music show or something similarly. Moving your body in a way that feels good is …
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:23 PM
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That's on me, I shouldn't have been flippant. I would define this as the actual, true interpretation of "misogynist". In the sense of having active disdain of women and seeking to belittle them while viewing them as sexual conquests without full personhood. You could also describe this person vaguely as having Don Juanism, or potentially as a libertine.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:20 PM
1

One I stand by given the evidence you've shown in this post and your post history. You should check yourself before you wreck yourself and assume everyone else is the problem. I see nothing here but a need for very, very serious self-reflection.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:18 PM
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Let me get this straight. So, you have no evidence for your statement that they're all attracted to abusers. You just think they do based on what you already conceive. You also use an 80s pop song as "evidence". You have never ever talked to these women at all, so you have no idea who they actually are and what they're like. The problem here isn't the women - it's the fact that you are so absorbed in your idea of what they should be that you've never even bothered to talk to them. This is entire…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:16 PM
1

Based on what you're saying, you sound like you'd be abusive yourself. So, perhaps they actually aren't attracted to abusers at all - else they'd find your anger and entitlement attractive?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:13 PM
2

Some of my favorite people are tattooed lefty female potheads whom I met at parties. Sounds like pretty fun people, tbh.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:12 PM
15

"Moron".
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:12 PM
6

"Confidence" does not mean swagger or douchebaggery. "Confidence' is broadly defined as being assured of yourself and your person. It's following your life and being okay with it. The problem with redpill ideology is that it perverts the concept of "confidence" as arrogance. Confidence does not mean exerting your will without thought for others - that's arrogance. Confident people aren't necessarily extroverts who are always a part of the conversation, nor are they necessarily people who are doi…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 01:05 PM
3

Don't do it because you believe it will "solve" your self-doubt. Then you'll place your motivations on something extrinsic rather than actually building self-efficacy and confidence. Plus, there's a very good possibility that things won't necessarily go absolutely pitch-perfect the way you want - which is simply how life is. You should go because it seems like it could be a good experience and opportunity in general. And it's a huge life change, so who knows what will happen?
/r/ExRedPill22/03/22 02:07 PM
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Would she ask me to do stupid shit I don't like to do if she was worried about losing me or would she go out of her way to win me over? I only hear this from men who are incapable of loading the dishwasher or folding their laundry. Simple life tasks that have somehow been co-opted as being "less manly" despite basic life functions.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 05:08 PM
12

"You were abused because you allowed it, so the abuse is your fault." Fuck outta here.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/22 09:27 PM
5

Yes, and I am asking why it would be hard to understand they're equally liable. Sex isn't something men have to participate in, nor is it something that men don't have final say in having. Both people have the final say in sex; it is mutual.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:53 PM
6

As a guy with limited sexual access it hard to believe that men can be equally liable for matters of sex and reproduction Why? Of course men are liable for sex and reproduction - they're having sex, after all. Consent and risk is shared.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 08:34 PM
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If the man followed the law and paid his support I can I fault him? Your fault is not applied equally. You are mad at your mother for what you perceive as emotional neglect. You give your dad an utter pass for emotional neglect.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 01:06 PM
2

My pleasure, it’s something that I’ve also had to struggle with with my own goals and desires. Defining success as a “obtainment of an objective“ can be paralyzing. Incorporating success into goalsetting is fine, but it’s definitely easy to make it the ultimate judge of progress.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/21 07:31 PM
5

I don't disagree with that! I interpreted OP's statement that this is how the paradigm of self-improvement applies to everyone, not just those with a negative relationship with the idea. I have a lot of criticisms of Manson's book, with his application of detachment in context of self-improvement being one of them. Those for whom the idea of improvement is inherently negative might have more to deal with it, but OP sounded a bit absolutist, like all self-improvement is negative.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/21 03:28 PM
1

Eh, I think that success is fine to have as a goal so long as it is not the goal. I want to improve my climbing because I like climbing, it's fun to develop my body, I enjoy the mental stress/challenge... and I also want to be "good" at it in a way that I define as successful. If the intangible goal of "success" is your only drive, then that's a problem, but I see no issue with including it.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/21 02:40 PM
3

Exactly. Polyamory and multiple partners requires conversation and consent with all parties. If you’re doing it behind women’s back, you’re just a fucking coward.
/r/ExRedPill31/12/21 01:48 PM
7

I strongly disagree with that statement. The process of self-improvement is not a belittlement of my current abilities, but a celebration of what my body is capable of. I do a LOT of outdoors activities, with climbing being my number one. I focus very hard on improving my climbing not because I think I’m bad now, but because I get great enjoyment from challenging my limits. Likewise, I see self-improvement in more abstract concepts as ways for me to facilitate what I love to do rather than treat…
/r/ExRedPill31/12/21 01:05 PM
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No, it is a girl giving you an answer, but not the answer you wanted. You came here wanting people to validate your dualistic and reductive opinions on sex and relationships. When that did not happen, you decided all the women here were actually wrong and you still had it right. The issue here is that you don’t like the answers you’re being given because it challenges your red pill mindset. Do you actually want to change and become a better man?
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 03:59 PM
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You don’t have a truth man, what you did was insult and demean the very people from whom you were trying to seek advice when it didn’t go your way.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 03:57 PM
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How does one become a dom? "Becoming" a dom is not the best way to think about it, as you're not changing something about yourself necessarily. The best way to consider it is being honest with yourself about what you want to do during a sexual situation and how you would respond. Like the post implied, a good dom understands the responsibility of their partner's/partners' pleasure and how they want to evoke or play with that. Being active in kink communities is a good way to explore that in a sa…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/21 04:11 PM
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Oh boy more standards to aspire for!
/r/ExRedPill15/12/21 06:11 PM
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unfortunately redpill shows you the reality of human beings It really doesn't though. Redpill "bro science" does not have basis in fact, and those that are chosen by redpill are often either overblown anecdotes or misunderstood interpretations of legitimate research. It's totally possible to return from redpill bullshit. The best way is to just interact with human beings. Once you stop spending so much time in online spaces (there's a reason redpillers don't get together in real life), you'll fi…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/21 11:34 PM
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For a second I didn't realize what sub this was posted in and was about to say "nah, SSRIs saved my life". But otherwise.... yes! Firm agree with all of this. In retrospect, I was not redpill or anything of the sort, but my adolescence in the mid-2000s were definitely spent being bitter toward a lack of dating success when actually I just needed to, as the cliche goes, focus on myself and ask the hard questions about things. Was it because I was "too nice", or was "niceness" itself not a bare mi…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/21 08:14 PM
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A broken-hearted man? Women wont go near him romantically. Sure he might get sympathy, but there is nothing more unattractive to women than a sad, depressed, lonely man. I gotta starkly disagree with this, and it edges into redpill nonsense. Men who experience heartbreak aren't unattractive to women, and going through a heartbreak isn't unattractive either. Hell, my current girlfriend started talking to me on the basis of me having ended a previous 2.5-year relationship that made for a difficult…
/r/ExRedPill23/04/19 04:04 PM
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Of course. I'm happy to help another person in the way I wish I had back in the day.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/16 06:35 AM
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I have no experience in the feminism subreddit, so I can't speak from anything there. Feel free to send me any questions or thoughts that you have about speaking with women about sex and relationships. I literally plan on making a career out of these kinds of discussions.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/16 05:44 AM
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What's the exception? How did I prove the rule? That statement is in itself rather nonsensical. I have quite a few partners and non-partners with whom I speak about these issues. It doesn't sound like you have any women in your life with whom you talk about sex and relationships, so your view is inherently flawed and not from their perspective. Stereotypes are frequently incorrect and subject to bias. I recommend Gurevitch & Curran's Mass Media and Society if you truly want to learn about that a…
/r/ExRedPill25/04/16 08:00 PM
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Please don't tell me that people who have a lot of sex have it because of their ability to form deep emotional connection. I have a lot of sex. I have it because I like forming emotional connections with people, and I like sharing my body with others. It's extraordinarily emotionally fulfilling to me, and it's led to some excellent friendships and relationships. What you say here is an inherent problem with TRP: a blanket statement on what sex is/isn't rather than accepting individuals' nuances …
/r/ExRedPill25/04/16 04:53 PM
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Men do not have quantifiable higher sex drives than women. That is a very nuanced topic that is down to the individual's drive and needs rather than something to which you can apply a blanket statement. Anecdotally, I have a very high sex drive, and I've never had a female partner who didn't want the same (at least once per day). And that is TRP's greatest fault: they generalize, they don't individualize. Everything is boiled down to a general, broad dogma of how men and women should and do act,…
/r/ExRedPill25/04/16 04:48 PM
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My pleasure! Like I said, it's a weird phenomenon; your body doesn't know that the act isn't supposed to be enjoyable, if that makes sense. It's a disconnect between body and mind, but like tickling there isn't really a way to turn it off. Glad I could shed some light!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 06:22 PM
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I can support it. I'm interested in reproductive health in the medical field, and I volunteered with a victim advocacy center for some time in undergrad. Women absolutely can have orgasms during vaginal rape, and it's a factor to consider during therapy and pressing charges against the assaulter, as women who achieve orgasm during rape often think they enjoyed it. Sorry you got downvoted. It's a legitimate question, and it sounds counterintuitive when one first thinks of it. /u/130911256MAN's an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 06:16 PM
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Oh jeez. This comment made me flashback to my first time a partner brought a bullet vibrator into my sex life. I almost fainted, it felt so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 06:12 PM
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