anabelchoc1 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	This poor woman. He definitely took advantage of her.	MALE DEPRAVITY	anabelchoc1	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/22 01:05 AM

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27	Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks. I agree. However I do believe doing so would actually perpetuate these gender disparities IF you don't use this privilege to help other women who aren't as fortunate. I've seen this in the workplace w attractive women leveraging their looks to get better work conditions, higher salaries, etc. for their coworkers and I think its incredibly admirable. A similar case involving colorism is where a Black passing lady (can't remember her name) used her privilege to get housing and loans for darker ski…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/03/22 04:53 AM
119	You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting him This!!!!! I will say that as women, there's a lot of social conditioning we have to undo. The whole "butterflies and spark" thing is bs. And many psychologists have said that it's usually either fueled by lust, the thrill of something new, or just plain anxiety. Over time, the experience, not the feeling is what matters. With that being said, your first instict is usually spot on. As we spend more time with people, we tend to explain away the red flags. So definitely pay attention to how he trea…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/03/22 06:12 PM
46	Insecure Men and their Allegations of Cheating It's reverse psychology. By accusing you of cheating, you do everything to prove to him that you aren't. This includes spending more time with him, not engaging with male friends, seeing female friends less, cutting him some slack (not nagging him about dirty dishes, stinky laundry, or how he hasn't showered in a few days). It also makes it easier for him to cheat because you're too busy trying to be Ms. Perfect and prove your innocence.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/03/22 08:23 AM
212	"I appreciate modesty in a woman" - says the man who watches porn. Because it's about ownership and entitlement: She dresses in a way that arouses me; therefore, other men must be aroused. How dare she!!! If other men find her desireable, then other men could come and take my property, I mean....woman, that I'm entitled to simply because I was born with a penis. She should exist solely to please me, not other men. What a whore! That's basically their thought process.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/02/22 09:03 PM
150	If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit? It's funny you mention this because I'm literally watching that episode right now. As a black woman, not dating women of your own race screams internalized racism. This goes for black guys and other men of color. Typically, colorism is a factor as they always "prefer" lighter skin women. Another commonality is that they over generalize the women in their race, and that's another reason why they won't pursue them...which is also an extension of internalized racism because they're stereotyping. Fo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/02/22 02:22 AM
3	Male highly driven predatory sexual appetite & drive VS women’s easily controlled, & sometimes non existent drive. Is this nature or nurture? Is there any coming back from generationally being hunted for sex from childhood? Aww, thank you! And yes, I agree, men used to have to perform. I briefly studied kinship and family dynamics for a course on pre-colonial societies, and it's quite interesting. Long story short, at the beginning of civilization, women had the upper hand because they had the one thing men could never have: the ability to produce children. Thus, matrilineality was common, and polygamous relations were quite normalized. Men had to be chosen based on what they could provide (either in terms of secur…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/02/22 08:00 AM
91	Male highly driven predatory sexual appetite & drive VS women’s easily controlled, & sometimes non existent drive. Is this nature or nurture? Is there any coming back from generationally being hunted for sex from childhood? So happy you're posting this, it's an incredibly interesting topic. I'll preface this by saying that I'm not making the claim that all science is bullsh*t, but science has historically been and is currently being used to advance social agendas. Thus in the realm of bioessentialism, it's very difficult to know "facts". Also, biodeterminism has been heavily criticized because in group variation varies significantly more than between group variation, and this is generally agreed upon. What I mean b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/02/22 04:34 AM
98	Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle? It's because every guy thinks they're the exception. Also, unrelated to the nature of the date, men on OLD see everything as a challenge. You could literally say "I don't like Italian restaurants," and you'll get the same exact response. I know because I've done it, lol. But yeah, they want something low effort. And they want the ego boost. They won't chase the woman who is fine with a coffee date. They'll chase the one who has higher standards so he can persuade her. It'll feed his ego to be th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/02/22 12:06 AM
32	Being attracted to something you want to be / feel you're lacking Thank you for sharing! And this is actually a really interesting perspective. I will say that in my experience; I viewed it somewhat differently. I dont think I was directly attracted to something I wanted to be, but rather, I felt so confident in myself and my goals that I sought out those traits because I figured I would be there to and want a partner on the same level. An example of this is how I only date men who make 130k+ (side note: I usually date 3-5 years older) bc even fresh out of col…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/02/22 09:51 PM
534	Swipe. Man goes on 63 dates, does not use FDS tactics, still single. Huh... Yikes. $500-600 he spent on 63 dates. That's literally the price of matcha latte and banana bread with tip in NYC. That's incredibly low effort, and he wonders why he's unsuccessful? Also, that time frame is concerning. That's 4 dates a week. He's probably worn out and tired, and it shows to the ladies he's dating. And there's no way you can plan 4 quality dates w 4 people each week for 4 months. I also find it hilarious how he was "so creative" with dates that weren't drinks, then says he chose…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/02/22 03:49 AM
216	8??? I think age is very important here. As other commenters have said, if they started dating in high school or undergrad, then this is fine. In fact, I think it's almost preferred...especially since 20s are time for exploration and growing into yourself. If they were over 24 when they first met then this is too long.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/22 11:13 PM
149	Can we talk about the difference befween Anna Delvey and The tinder swindler? Absolutely! They did the same things, but with the Tinder swindler, basically he didn't "do anything illegal," which sucks. I also know that the Tinder swindler was in Europe, so maybe he would've gotten a proper sentence had he been in the United States. In a completely unrelated note, I thought it was interesting how he didn't expect the true girlfriends (blond Russian models) to pay for anything. He used the other women's money on them. So, even a scammer still provided for the ladies he was …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/22 12:02 AM
31	Female Political Strategy Podcast: EP 12 - Could We, Should We, Desexualize Breasts? It is a bit difficult to say, and I do agree that "desexualize" means many things to many different people. However, I would say yes in the sense that women should be allowed to breastfeed publicly without shame or stigma. In an ideal world, women also shouldn't have to wear bras in order to be professional or presentable. I think this is totally different from the radical "free the nipple," which I'm not sure how I feel about yet.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 08:29 PM
69	What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something? I think they say it so they won't get women who demand too much from them. Essentially, they want someone who has a life; that way, they aren't bugging him for every little thing (since she's busy with her passions). I don't think it is inherently a bad thing, but LVM can manipulate it, so they date women who are too busy to care about what he's doing. So he can slack off while still getting gf benefits.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/22 03:06 AM
345	Jordan Peterson + Childless Women I hate the conversation so much. The way they frame career v family is so unrealistic. Those aren't the only two options. Has it ever occurred to them that some women don't want kids AND don't want to spend all their time on a career? For me, I plan on not having children, not because I want a strong career, but because I want to do what I want when I want without worrying about my actions affecting other people. Furthermore, one could argue that women wait because they agree that family is more…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 03:05 AM
35	Better than Botox: Something I realized yesterday about HVM vs scrote influence on your looks. I believe it. I'm 22 now and at 19 I had severe bags, a few grays, and some wrinkles. It was not due to a man, but severe stress from school/ mental heath issues. Stress ages the body and going through that made me realize the older women were right. The way to age gracefully is by not dealing w sh*tty men. I'm more intentional about living a stress free life now (school, relationships, dating) and all of those things have reversed.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 09:51 PM