| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 37 | Need guidance about dating!! | DISCUSSION | anadreamy2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Needing guidance about dating!! | DISCUSSION | anadreamy2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:51 PM |
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| 112 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.Why do some woman think just because their cheating husband/bf comes back home to them it means he loves them? If he cheats on you he doesn’t love nor respect you. Seeing women put up with this kind of shit just make me feel sad for them and hope they wake up some day and realize that they deserve to be treated with respect. It’s quite frustrating to see how some women will choose to stay in a relationship like this just because they want to say they have someone even though they’re miserable th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 08:15 PM |
| 77 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Well I wouldn’t like to see a bf liking these kind of photos from other women( specially if it’s a woman he knows personally which can potentially be an opportunity for cheating). I feel like in this situation the best thing to do would to dump him because it does seem like he’s trying to make her insecure and triangulate her with all these others girls he finds himself more attracted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 08:15 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone else feel the pressure to explain your single hood to partnered people?This!! If they’re really happy about their own relationships they would not be pressuring people to potentially be in the same level as them. Specially if you never expressed being sad or frustrated about your single status then why do they care so much about it? or assume you want to date right now when you never said anything like that to them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 08:12 PM |
| 223 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooThey’re bragging about spoiling men financially for free and then getting cheated on in the process as well. The bar is really really low… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:19 PM |
| 451 | HeartbreakingReading this made me so sick and disturbed. The amount of distress this younger women may be feeling and the potential trauma she is going to develop because of this abusive dynamic is very sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:33 PM |
| 17 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"That’s sounds like a good thing to do because guys who expect you to trust him immediately or feel offended if you’re not telling them everything or that you not that open with them early on are a red flag to me. It’s like they don’t understand the reason why we would be cautious around a man we don’t know that well as if there’s no potential dangers for us while interacting with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 11:49 PM |
| 63 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡The way she calls herself pathetic for dating them but at the same time says doing this is such a fun and cool thing says a lot. It’s like she may recognize the issue a bit but she doesn’t want to accept the reality of how the things she is doing is probably an act of self harm that reflects some emotional or mental issue she might have. With women like this one it feels quite hopeless to try to help them because they will deny everything and would rather believe that they’re completely fine and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 11:33 PM |
| 27 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...It’s weird how wanting to maintain self preservation and be aware of potential risks women in general have to deal while engaging in casual sex and hookups is seem as being sex negative or even traditional. This makes no sense considering that in every other context where you are going to a place you don’t know for example people would generally advise you to be cautious and to be aware of potential danger but why in dating scenarios taking care of yourself and making smart decisions for your ow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 11:26 PM |
| 31 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.I feel specially annoyed by him referring to women as chicks. To me its kinda of a subtle disrespectful way to refers to us and why can’t they just say women? It’s really that hard to write that? Here’s again another example of a man that simply don’t know why he’s single when he thinks of himself as so great that no women would resist but he probably isn’t as interesting as he says or possibly come off as not very respectful towards these women so that’s why they don’t want him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:58 AM |
| 9 | Is it really worth trying to help PickMes?It’s worth to give them some information that is going to be helpful for them while they deal with their own issue and be willing to listen and support them but we still need to accept that not everyone is going to want to reflect on their problems and why they keep putting themselves in the same situations over and over again. So I would definitely want to help them and see them get out of whatever bad and abusive they may be but there’s a limit of how far I will go about helping them and if th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:23 PM |
| 17 | Male degradation/shaming after sexual encountersIt’s definitely is too risk but it’s also hard to know how to met guys if I don’t want to use online dating or if I don’t have much time to go out a lot , specially now with the pandemic ( at least here where I live the situation is still not as safe to go out too much). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:58 PM |
| 70 | Male degradation/shaming after sexual encountersI tend to have an issue with people who don’t respect privacy in general because I feel like they’re not very trustworthy and have no boundaries regarding their safety and how much they expose themselves and their lives to others. So if I’m dating a guy and he start to share too much with his friends or family I will be highly uncomfortable and even disrespected depending of what he shared with them(specially if I don’t know these people well at all). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:52 PM |
| 100 | Irritating mannerisms are a red flag and your intuition telling you that something is off!Often I feel like we will try to forgive these mannerisms because we don’t want to be judgmental of the other person. So even though there’s this feeling that what this person is saying or doing may be a dealbreaker and make us feel uncomfortable we forget about how we feel and instead try to be understanding of them and assume it’s just their personality. And that’s how we may stay a long time with someone that makes us feel miserable like there’s no compatible between you and the other person … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:16 PM |
| 23 | Typical emotional abuse- bodyshaming tactics & using feigned ignorance regarding his fiancée's health needsThis is so heartbreaking. He’s clearly abusive with her and doesn’t care about her well being at all She already had issues about her eating habits and body image and his presence in her life is just going to make it even more prominent. I hope he stays away from her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 12:45 PM |
| 10 | Man(27) gets 17 year old pregnant after one night stand and absolves any fault "she was drunk but she wasn't sLoPpy dRuNk"Yeah, we expect to see grow men acting their age and having some level of maturity but these kind of men never truly develop and want to maintain the same mentality and attitude they had when they’re a teenager. For them short term gratification is more important than thinking about the consequences of their actions and having long term goals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:47 PM |
| 16 | Look, he'll have breakfast with you if you cook him dinner!These grow men with the mentality of a teenager are so cringe like how they don’t feel embarrassed of themselves? Because it’s not cool or attractive to still acting like that past 30. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 01:25 AM |
| 12 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?I always had a weird feeling whenever I read this expression because it’s like we are talking about objects that we use and discard without much consideration and not human beings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:50 PM |
| 21 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?Yeah it doesn’t matter what we do people will always have a problem with what we choose to do anyway. I don’t get how fucking a lot of men equals being sexually liberated at all because what’s the point of doing that if most of the time we are going to feel used and undesirable after that? For me sexual liberation is about women knowing what they want ( and what they don’t want), not being ashamed of masturbation and getting to know their body. That’s truly empowering! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:46 PM |
| 59 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?😂😂😂 I don’t think I would be able to hide my embarrassing if I was there. Guys who do these forced sounds and expressions are just so cringe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:45 PM |
| 6 | No more wishy-washy menHonestly while I was reading I thought you were talking about someone in their early to mid 20s which would not be necessarily great but would be a bit more understandable to someone in those life stages to not be stable in all areas of their lives yet but this guy is in his 40s which shows that he most likely is not going to change at all and is probably very immature for someone his age. You definitely did a good choice by choosing to end this because even though during these 6 months he treat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:07 PM |
| 159 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeIt's weird how men want us to believe that women are the ones causing the problem and not them and that women fighting for their rights and freedom are somewhat wrong in doing that. They will deny almost any kind of harm that men and patriarchy have done to women and instead change the narrative to make it seem as if they are the victims of it all and the ones that are suffering oppression while never acknowledging any of the privileges they have in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:28 PM |
| 4 | The post says it all. If he’s too “stressed out” to talk to you he’s not all that interested sis.This idea that men pull away because he’s too overwhelmed by his feelings for you is bullshit and just makes it easier for you to be in the mode of chasing emotionally unavailable guys that don’t care if you are there or not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 12:54 PM |
| 10 | Seen this post on a fb group I’m in, and one of the comments under it 🤡 i can’t believe there is women who will excuse behaviour like this?There’s no excuses for this and this just shows exactly which are his priorities and they’re certainly not his own gf and her well being. It’s getting drunk with his bros as if he was still a little boy that can’t take any responsibility in life 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 09:07 PM |
| 7 | Dunning-Kruger.I feel sorry for all these women that had sex with this guy( if that’s is even true to begin with and he’s not lying about that number). Men like this should just stay away from us completely because how can you feel proud of yourself for not making any women orgasm when this is something very easy to do? It’s not that hard with you put the effort to know the other person’s body and listen to what they need but men like this just don’t care about any of this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:48 PM |
| 45 | Wonder why he stuck around for 3 dates... Just when you think men can't get any worseMen will date people they don’t find attractive and then act surprise when they need to be accountable for the choices they made. If he didn’t want to be in a situation where he would need to say that to her then the right thing to do would be for him to not went on a date with her but he probably wasn’t thinking about how this is going to affect her, his own satisfaction was more important than her feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 09:41 PM |
| 110 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”Even when he was younger there was nothing really wow about him tbh, maybe the fact he was famous made him look different and gave him an additional allure but if he didn’t have this status he would just be another regular guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:02 PM |
| 23 | Woman posts about her LVM in 2015 . . . and then updates SIX years later about leveled up lifeMy heart always gets warmer when I see a woman leaving a bad relationship and changing her life in a good way after that😊💜. And love that she made that update because it can work as an incentive for more women to see that their relationship may not be as good as they want to believe and that they have the right to leave a relationship that doesn’t add value and good moments in their lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Negging her when she was SICK + embarrassing her in front of friends. At least* commenters got it rightPeople who do this to others are just straight up mean and assholes. Taking advantage of someone’s vulnerable moment and then attempt to make fun of it and then call them too sensitive and dramatic. Like no she’s not too sensitive for rightly expressing how sad she feels about what these people did, both her bf and her friends are just a bunch of mean people that doesn’t deserve her at all. Hope she can find better people to be around who respect and care about her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:30 AM |
| 6 | Complimenting other women - red flag?If you feel uncomfortable with this then it’s a problem. And I can see how a guy could use this in a way to make you feel insecure or create a triangulation with that celebrity or maybe not even that could just be a girl you know or a random woman in the street. At least to me it’s quite weird for him to be making these kind of comments because he’s not making a good impression either on purpose or because he doesn’t care( not sure if this could be a red flag or a yellow flag but it certainly no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:48 AM |
| 4 | “What we not finna do is waste our damn time!” YES 👏🏻Omg I love this so much xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | How big of an age gap in relationships is acceptable?I’m in my early 20s and for me the max is 2 years anything more than that start to weird me out. Some people may say well you dating a guy 5 years older than you isn’t a problem but people don’t realize how much a person can grow and change during these 5 years. So the person you’re when you had 20 is probably going to be very different from the person you’ll be with 25 and so on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:38 AM |
| 62 | Your kinks aren’t quirky, this is abuse!This is so sad and disturbing😣. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 12:50 AM |
| 31 | More negs which aren't always obvious and guys try to act like it's "normal conversation"I remember receiving that subtle neg about my age when that random guy approached me when I was by myself reading a book( which was already a clear message that I didn’t wanted to be approached. But he clearly don’t know how to read basic social cues because I wasn’t making eye contact with him and was visibly uncomfortable and annoyed by his insistence on getting my number 🙄). Then he asked my age and I said and then he proceeded to say “ Are you really 19?” and at this point my mind was alread… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 02:28 PM |
| 26 | The importance of lying about your disfunctional familyQuestions like this should be asked after you went on some dates and already know each other quite a bit. And even then you don’t have the obligation to share about this if you don’t want to, specially if it involves some form of trauma for you. People should be careful about asking personal like this to someone you barely know and I see this as an attempt to force intimacy but trust is something you have to build with the person over time and show them that they can trust you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 29 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costThat’s a thing I see in my own family and you can clearly see that they are miserable in their marriages and that they don’t truly love each other at all but they will stay together either because they fear being alone or for the sake of maintaining some sort of tradition that love in unconditional and that you have to stay in that relationship no matter what. Which is just a way to glamorize abusive relationship and not allow people to break toxic and traumatic bonds that not only bring damaged… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 01:21 AM |
| 11 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.The way she ends the video saying that she hopes he proposes her next time is so sad to hear because if he really wanted to propose he would have done that already. She did all these things for him on her birthday to a guy that not only didn't care to prepare anything for her but even blocked her number after she tried to propose to him, he obviously doesn't care about her or love her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:09 PM |
| 21 | FDS IS OFFICIALLY 200K STRONG!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳WOW!! so happy to see that this community is growing, it’s definitely a helpful and fundamental place for all women!!💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Thanks to r/FDS I was able to walk away from a BDSM obsessed man! Thank you so much!Omg I'm so proud of you for walking away from this and sticking to your boundaries, FDS is definitely a very important community for women and seeing how this platform is actually helping a lot of women out there is very comforting and exciting. Keep leveling up, you're doing well!!!💜💜✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:25 AM |
| 9 | For your safety if you want to reject men don't do it in person (I highly suggest not doing it at all)Omg I used to think the same as well and that ghosting as a bit disrespectful for the person and that the considerate thing to do would be to tell them why you are living or don't want to continue to date them, all this stuff. But not long ago I reflected a bit more on that and ghosting is actually the one of best way to end a situation specially as a woman because you never know what this guy you're dating or already in a relationship with is really capable of. So in order to protect ourselves … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:08 AM |
| 14 | Is this Instagram activity acceptable in a relationship?To me it's a dealbreaker because even though yeah people can find someone's pretty while being in a relationship this is completely different from what these guys are doing because they're engaging with those girl they find attractive. So while now they're just liking their pictures this can easily escalate to something more tangible. I feel like you and your friend should consider if it's really worth for both of you to stay in a relationship with these guys because if they do these things and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Why did he choose her over me?Yes, it's certainly very difficult to move on and the fact that he tried to talk to you after getting with this new girl migh be a way for him to prevent you from moving on from him and the relationship you had with him. And don't look at that situation as why he choose her over you( because he can be treating her as bad as he might have treated you) instead ask yourself why did you choose him to be your bf and what made you fall for him in the first place because this is going to help you under… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 01:32 PM |
| 28 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateI'm proud of you for not only recognizing but also accepting that this may not be a good time for you to date, showing that you are in touch with your intuition and can take care of yourself. You made a good decision for sure!!💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 08:10 PM |
| 37 | FDS Success - Thank you!WOW this sounds very good and congratulations on buying your new house. Hope more good things happen in your life💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 01:10 PM |
| 76 | I can’t help but feel there’s some propaganda going on to influence women away from education/ financial success… in favour of being a dedicated wife to a less intelligent, low earning partner. Here’s the evidence & my response:Society is always trying to convince us to lower our standards and give way opportunities that are going to add value and positive outcomes to our lives to be in a relationship with someone that is just going to make us stressed and unhappy or even in worst cases that will make our lives into hell. If more and more women could just enter relationships and get married without having to endure shitty behavior and any kind of abuse then probably we would be less likely to be single but most of the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:09 PM |
| 3 | FDS is BACK!So happy to see that the sub is back, I missed it so much because it's such a helpful and comforting community for a lot of women and there would be no reason for me to be on reddit at all if it wasn't for FDS 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Evidence A: Don’t spare these fools any sympathy or play Bob the Builder and take chances on a cheater! They will always throw it back in your face. These men will use you as a stepping stone whilst broke & promise you the world only to cheat on you with younger women when they hit bigImagine hearing from your own family that it would be embarrassing for your cheating fiancé to just leave him before the wedding but why don't they say that it was an embarrassment for her to discover that her fiancé is sleeping with seven women behind her back. It doesn't matter anymore if they have been together for 10 years or if he's still treating her well or if he says he loves her( which is not true because you don't treat the people you love with such a lack of respect and consideration)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 11:56 PM |
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