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| 2 | Do you have any lasting feelings for the guy you lost your virginity to?Lmao no. Not even the slightest feelings left for him, I think this is the first time I’ve thought of him in actual years (and we dated for 2 years before I lost my virginity to him). Feelings change and people grow up and move on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 02:01 AM |
| 5 | What is something you're "supposed" to be physically attracted to but actually turns you off?Lmao same. It grossed me out. Like if you could lose a bit of food in there it’s too long | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/21 12:57 AM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.I mean young women aren’t old men’s equals. I can tell you that confidently as a woman in my 20s. We don’t want them. But if that’s your preference, dude go for it. Just don’t be surprised if many women don’t want you back | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/21 12:45 AM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Lol cuz I want an equal. And i can live a way higher quality life with someone that also earns well, nicer homes, better vacations, earlier retirement to do what we want. But say what you want, men court me more and do so much more for me now than they ever did in my early 20s. Most of my friends are in their 30s and the single ones have no lack of attention from quality men (not just looking to bang). That being said I live in one of the fittest towns in america with a high cost of living (medi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/21 12:24 AM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Late 20s, looks significantly better than I did in my early 20s (have been told I “glowed up”) all the women in my family age fantastically. I’m really not worried. Also I don’t really want kids ever so fertility is not something I care about and I think I attract likeminded men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/21 12:15 AM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Lol but I’m telling you as a youthful woman (that makes a great living on my own), an old man that has cash is not my equal; I have better options | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 11:59 PM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Lol I mean agree to disagree. One of my guy friends is attractive aerospace engineer (35) his girlfriend is a 33 year old doctor and absolutely stunning. We always joke how she’s the one settling because she’s just so incredible in so many ways. People are dynamic and not limited to one single feature like looks or bank account | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 11:46 PM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.I mean the guy she’s dating has been for 2 years now and they live together but sure And maybe I’ve just had incredible luck but pretty much every guy I’ve dated in the last 5 years has made between 100-500k a year (all under 33), all relatively tall (5’11-6’7), all what I would consider very handsome. I do agree with you that women earning less than that shouldn’t have ridiculous standards for the men they date. But nothing wrong with looking for an equal. I totally would rather be with no one … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 11:38 PM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.I mean; that’s assuming women want them. Most women aren’t attracted to middle aged men that are getting fat and losing their hair. My aunt is 56 and a smoke show for her age, the woman gets hit on more than any person I’ve ever met. Her current bf is 10 years younger (and a web engineer), her last bf was 15 years younger than her. Women will Almost always have more options than men and the mythical wall that appears at 30 doesn’t really exist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 11:25 PM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Lol okay. That’s why my friends who are aerospace engineers and doctors in their 30s are choosing to date women in the same age group (on apps like hinge, not ongoing relationships). Honestly you’re very set in your ways. I’m sure there’s a subset of men like tou, and many more men that are not. I personally have no desire at a young age to date men that only value me for my looks and fertility | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Lol I mean no. They’re now dating women in their 30s Also only 6-10% of men that get vasectomies reverse them. 90-94% don’t. But I just do not think it’s comparable for a woman to want a guy with an equivalent salary but a man to want a women much younger. Your comparison only works if the girl is broke | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 07:39 PM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.I mean, I’m in my late 20s. I have had 0 trouble getting men (that are handsome, tall and earn well) as I’ve hit closer to 30. Half of my guy friends are in their 30s and they’re dating women in their 30s. They don’t like younger women because the women are not established themselves and these men want a partner not a housewife. Tbh I don’t care if a 40 year old wants a 20 year old. I don’t want that dude. I’ve been hit on by men 10-30 years older than me consistently since I was 18. Never once … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 03:58 AM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.Idk I’ve had no shortage of men to date. A few in early 30s, most in 20s. The pool of men I meet is generally also in a similar industry or college education level and have very high salaries (doctors, tech execs, engineers etc). So you may say it’s super hard but tbh not really in my experience. I bring a ton to the table and expect the man to as well. And lmfao at the fertility comment cuz half the guys I know don’t want kids so that’s not even a cosnideration | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 03:39 AM |
| 1 | if you're a young woman that only dates men who earn 80k+, then you can't complain about older men dating young women.What if I’m just holding men to the same standard as i hold myself? I’m a girl in my 20s, earn 6 figures, am fit. I don’t want to date a bum. It’s not comparable to an old man dating young women because the old man is wanting something he himself does not have (youth) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 01:17 AM |
| 5 | Women, why is being "too nice" a thing, and why are a lot of you attracted to toxic behaviour?No. Video games and dating are two wildly different things. At least in my experience, “nice guys” text me every morning, respond quickly, are consistent, are sweet, but honestly it’s boring and often comes across as desperate On the other end of the spectrum is these guys that are probably higher on the narcicism scale. Sometimes they text quickly, other times, it’ll take days. They create this push/pull effect that is semi-addictive. I disagree with your hypothesis about “stuff” because I date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/21 03:21 PM |
| 24 | Women, why is being "too nice" a thing, and why are a lot of you attracted to toxic behaviour?This is a great explanation (applies to men as well as women) https://medium.com/game-of-self/why-unpredictability-is-so-attractive-f6c22b87dd5b Nice guys are often too predictable and don’t make us release as much dopamine. It’s stupid and somethinf a lot of people are aware of on some level, but they can’t change the chemicals their brains are releasing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/21 11:16 PM |
| -1 | Obsession with sexual historyLmfao why do you assume she’s using you for your money? This screams low value man. I’ve dated a handful of stereotypical “chad’s” seriously. Only one has ever even asked my partner count. They value my commitment as strongly as I value theirs. I don’t need their money, I make my own. And I bring a hell of a lot to the table. I don’t even have a high n-count but a guy who makes a fuss over it will get the door because it just highlights insecurity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/21 12:59 AM |
| 4 | Has a legit actual confirmed chad ever posted on here about what their dating and sex life is like?So a couples of my exes were a “chad” (one is an international male fitness model; another was a contestant on a very popular reality dating show). They definitely get women easily and get away with a LOT more than people would think — but the funny thing is they actually don’t date that many girls or spin tons of plates. They tend to be very relationship minded and neither had a wandering eye. I think they got so used to people admiring them than they legit stopped noticing it after a while | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/21 09:00 PM |
| 2 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?Absolutely, but I’m fine disqualifying people for it meeting my standards. Half the population has an IQ below 100. I have no qualms disqualifying them because I would be bored to death. Dating someone in school for a grad degree is an exception, because it shows ambition, which ultimately is important to me. And For those with a college degree, the average salary is above 60k. I run in circles where everyone is educated so it’s not hard to meet people that earn that. Idk why it’s so outlandish … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 09:25 PM |
| 1 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?I guess. I think for somewhere like San Fran it would have to be higher tbh. I’m in a pretty expensive city but not the highest in the country. But I don’t think asking someone make 60% of what I make is too much. I’m not trying to support anyone, and I’m not asking anyone to support me. I’m looking for a partner. If a guy can’t do that, that’s fine. We can be friends, no judgement. I just have 0 desire to date them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?Exactly. And even really handsome gets old. My ex was a male fitness model and after he was too irresponsible to make his bills a few months in a row, I started feeling like his mom and it wasn’t sexy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 07:17 PM |
| 1 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?Idk the line for me id say around 60k (that’s around 40% less than I earn). It’s enough they can live on their own, provide for themselves, maybe save a little. Obviously I wouldn’t be upset if they made more and it’s not a hard a fast rule (I don’t ask for paystubs lol). But I feel like it’s a safe amount to basically live comfortably without stressing about money all the time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 03:58 PM |
| 4 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?I didn’t say I don’t view them as humans. I just don’t view men that cannot provide for themselves * (*key word cuz I don’t need anyone to provide for me), as compatible mates. I’m sorry, but what’s their excuse? I’ve had 2 head injuries, heart surgery, dysautonomia and I’ve managed to make 6 figures by the time in 28. And I would say I’m pretty attractive by most people’s standards. I want a partner, not a grown child | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 03:57 PM |
| 4 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?Bruh. I literally did pay rent and my exes students loans for months before I realized I was done with guys that cannot support themselves. I don’t require anyone make more than me, but keep up with me or get out of my life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 03:53 PM |
| 4 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?This is exactly what I meant. I can pay for myself. I do. I won’t tolerate a guy who can’t keep up, especially because I have likely had more challenges at my age physically to succeed than he has. No one wants to date a freeloader. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 03:52 PM |
| 10 | If you're an independent career woman who is very financially successful would you be interested at all in a younger intelligent man with a normal job who would be willing to support you in your career and take responsibility of the domestic chores? Or do you still expect an older career man?I’m a later 20s female. Idk if I’d consider myself a career woman but I have a great job and make around low 6 figures. I don’t expect an older guy with stacks but I deff won’t date a dude without a decent job anymore. I’ve dated dead beats who “help around the home” and honestly it gets old and hard to respect them after a while. I’ve managed to be successful despite some insane health issues (including heart surgery this last year), so it’s hard to be attracted to a guy that can’t even get his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/21 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Is there something wrong with fat girls?Actually there’s very little plastic surgery where I live (mountain town). I dont know anyone, personally, who’s had anything done besides maybe a nose job for one friend. It really is about fitness, medical health, and aesthetics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/21 06:17 AM |
| 5 | Is there something wrong with fat girls?I agree so much that it’s relative. I live in one of the fittest towns In america. I’ve seen maybe three truly fat people in the 3 years I’ve lived here. So now, my slightly-above-weight-but-not-even-fat friends feel and sometimes are treated like they’re giants. Meanwhile, in a state I grew up in that is more southern, I have much larger friends who think they’re super models because they’re much thinner than the average woman there. Where I live now there’s definitely a huge aversion to weight… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/21 09:03 PM |
| 1 | [Q4ALL] Whats your thoughts on Catfishing in dating?Agreed to the old photos thing. Met up with a guy two years ago... he was about 12 years older than his photos with grey hair and a pot belly in real life. I was 25 and NOT having it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/21 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD, do you workout?Yes. Currently limited due to some post TBI issues, but before that I did about 30 min of cardio and an hour of heavy weights 5-6x a week. Now I do mostly yoga, long walks, hikes, and some light weights during recovery. Also intermittent fast and don’t eat junk often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/20 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Are most people nowadays alcoholics?I don’t really drink at all (27f) but I’ve noticed none of my friends care because I’m happy to tag along to bars and breweries. And I don’t ever shame them for it. I just basically say I don’t like how drinking makes me feel but they should feel free to partake. Maybe that’s an angle to shoot for? Unless it genuinely bothers you, then try to find friends that don’t drink, but ya, most young adults drink at least a little | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/20 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Is it the same group of men who simultaneously look down on women for having casual sex yet also expect sex within the first three dates?Because spending money is just one aspect of a relationship. Just as sex is one aspect. I legit could not care less if I went on a first date with a dude for free at a park while he dropped 1k on a diff first date once. It’s also how he talks to me, treats me, etc. your line of thinking is seeped in insecurity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Can you explain to me the “not ready to have sex yet” mindset?What changed about your feelings for a girl after a month/3/6/year? They grow as you get to know a person. Sex is often tied to emotion and feelings with women; it’s not purely physical. I’m comfortable letting someone in once I have an emotional attachment to them and feel connected on a deeper level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/20 09:20 PM |
| 1 | None of you edgelord fags are going to wait 3 months just to pump n dumpNever been P&D but keep trying to insult me. Your insecurity is showing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/20 06:47 AM |
| 2 | None of you edgelord fags are going to wait 3 months just to pump n dumpOooo dig. Except I have tons of quality men available to me and I still have years of my 20s left. But sure. Good luck getting your sock pregnant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/20 06:42 AM |
| 1 | None of you edgelord fags are going to wait 3 months just to pump n dumpLol okay. I make a great living and have more in savings than any dude I know my age, but sure, I need welfare? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/20 06:37 AM |
| 1 | None of you edgelord fags are going to wait 3 months just to pump n dumpThat’s assuming she wants or needs your resources. Most of us can provide for ourselves in case you haven’t picked up a newspaper in 70 years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/20 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Literally all it takes for women to be above average attractiveness in America is to not be overweight.Agreed. I live in one of the fittest towns in America and it’s super rare to see even chubby people here, so I don’t think being not fat works in anyone’s favor | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Are men just not that attractive?Not really true. I have thick healthy hair down to my butt. Also have a chronic illness. My immune system is crap. But my hair is 🔥 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/20 08:41 PM |
| 2 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexI agree with you about sexual preference not being phobic. But I do think biphobia is a real thing people face because a lot of the lgbtq community doesn’t full accept them (and not just sexually) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/20 09:00 PM |
| 2 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexNot really, because they get ostracized from both the gay and hetero communities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexAnd the exact same thing goes for men who sleep with men. There are legitimate scientific reasons why it’s riskier to sleep with them Edit: source: https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CID/DCDC/CDPH%20Document%20Library/Gay-Bisexual-Men-STDs-Infographic.pdf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/20 01:13 AM |
| 1 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexNo I don’t think so. Honestly it’s not a rational thing. It’s just unattractive to me. I could still 100% be friends with him, I would just look at him differently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/20 01:12 AM |
| 10 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexIt’s more comparable to guys not wanting to date girls that have been with a lot of men. They’re just turned off by it. Those women aren’t gonna actively sleep with other men while they’re with their partner, but the partner merely knowing turns him off. Is it right? Not really, but it is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/20 07:59 PM |
| 11 | CMV: As a bisexual guy women are generally far more homophobic than men are when it comes to their partner being bisexual or having experimented with the same sexthis is an intriguing post as I’m a straight woman who would be weirded out dating a bi guy But I have tons of friends who are gay/bi and it doesn’t bother me. I thought about it and it has nothing to do with competition, but rather boils down to two reasons: 1) STIs. Men who have sex with men are one of the riskiest populations to sleep with in terms of sexually transmitted infections — particularly HIV. 2) this one is definitely social conditioning but it just makes the man more feminized in m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Why shouldn’t women choose attractive men if they can get them?And this my friend is why female dating strategy was born (and why guys always ask why women have a waiting rule). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/20 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Why shouldn’t women choose attractive men if they can get them?Fair enough. I just think only a small amount of girls will come off that way. I know many a girl that seems very wholesome who has had an...experienced past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/20 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Why shouldn’t women choose attractive men if they can get them?I’m talking LTR not hookups. Every single guy I’ve dated seriously has never even asked and they’re all super high value with lots of options. My 3-year relationship that almost turned into marriage with a very very attractive male model never asked. My year relationship with a very handsome lawyer never asked. The guy I dated for 2 years that is a super successful management consultant never asked. And maybe it’s cuz I don’t put out “slutty” vibes but I honestly think it’s more they don’t care … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Why shouldn’t women choose attractive men if they can get them?I date a lot of men with options. None have asked me about my sexual past. These guys screen for things like looks, intellect, chemistry, not partner counts, because they’re not insecure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Biggest BP lie: exaggerating the number of demisexual womenIdk if I agree with this. I would identify and semi-Demisexual and here’s why. I can 100% think a guy is attractive without speaking to him. BUT, I won’t want to sleep with him until I have a genuine emotional connection. Have gone out with some gorgeous men and chose not to sleep with them because that connection wasn’t there. It has taken me many dates to sleep with anyone because I need that emotional aspect to feel like I want to actually have sex. I HAVE found a couple guys not that attract… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Q4M In your opinion, at what number would you consider someone a high N count female? Do you have a cut off number for too high to consider dating?Oh you’re right. I read half her age somewhere else and just misread this comment. Good call :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/20 06:41 AM |
| 3 | Q4M In your opinion, at what number would you consider someone a high N count female? Do you have a cut off number for too high to consider dating?Lol so 8 at 18 is fine but 14 at 27 is not? Kinda a flawed system | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/20 01:48 AM |
| 2 | What do guys consider "fat"?There are literally dozens of documentaries on this. That sugar film is a great one. No one is unaware that obesity is bad. And certain things that can help you lose weight: ie: exercise or intermittent fasting, INCREASE neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine which help cure depression and stress, and are far from miserable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/20 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Do you believe that body standards are rougher for women than for men?Not true. I have super wide hips but a white girl booty. Big butts became popular because of hip hop culture going mainstream | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/20 01:53 AM |
| 6 | [CMV] The 3 month waiting rule is always a bad idea for any girl who slept aroundNot 3 months specifically but I’ve never had sex in under 3 dates. Some guys have been earlier others waited like 2 months. Was all about connection and where I was emotionally and timing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/20 10:41 PM |
| 0 | Question for casual sex people: Do you have HSV/HPV?About 80% of people who have HSV do not know. And it’s almost impossible to test without an active outbreak because the blood tests are incredibly inaccurate and takes up to 3 months after contracting to show antibodies. Just FYI. So a lot of people thinking they are clean are likely not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/20 07:07 PM |
| 10 | [CMV] The 3 month waiting rule is always a bad idea for any girl who slept aroundLol unless you live in a smallass town, there is legit no WAY you would know if a girl slept with another guy quickly before. His is a fantasy 1) no guy has ever asked me how fast I’ve slept with other men. 2) if he did, it would be easy to just lie if I had slept with men faster or a lot of men. 3) it’s not like anyone posts random hookups on social media. I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months and have yet to post him on my page. Literally I have one guy on my entire social media page and that’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/20 07:00 PM |
| 1 | If you dislike facial hair but also prefer men with full heads of hair, what exactly is the difference?I find facial hair beyond scruff completely repulsive but love a full head of hair, even longer hair on a man. Here’s why: 1) beards/mustaches are like making out with pubes. Feels horrible 2) when you eat something crumbs/fragments get in your beard. This is gross af to kiss and be near. Sure you can have good hygiene and wash it everyday but you eat more than once a day 3) it’s just unattractive to me. I’ve seen GORGEOUS men on dating apps before who have a giant beard and it’s an instant no, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/20 01:49 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Women who make men wait for months just don't like sexhygiene isn’t a compatibility issue because it’s easy to fix and you can generally tell how someone smells by their other body odors. Or you know the bases leading up to penetrative sex might give you a clue. I think the amount of women that are super wide or super shallow are small. I’ve literally never had an issue with waiting with men and then being disappointed that it doesn’t fit right. I HAVE had crazy intimate kinky sex the first time we sleep together because we waited and built a deepe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 06:33 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women who make men wait for months just don't like sexHave you never talked about sex with friends? You don’t have to want to fuck someone in the moment to talk about what you like. I can talk about it with someone without being ready to have sex with them. It’s not necessarily comfort . Sometimes it is. But it’s also I want to emotionally feel for someone and feelings don’t come super quickly for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 03:21 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Women who make men wait for months just don't like sexI can tell exactly how a person smells from being up close to them without having sex. And if I can’t feel it through the pants then I have a good indication on size. I’ve avoid a LOT of bad sex by just not having sex when the chemistry is meh on just making out. I haven’t had bad sex once actually since I started filtering this way. In college if I was into someone and I didn’t trust my gut on the kids chemistry I’d end up sleeping with people and that’s when it sucked. Going on 6 years since t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 03:20 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Women who make men wait for months just don't like sexYou can teach them that process without doing it. I’ve had dates where we’ve talked about what we like before we ever get to the good stuff. By the time it happens it’s actually really fucking good and skip the shitty sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 12:25 AM |
| 10 | CMV: Women who make men wait for months just don't like sexI’ve always been able to tell sexual compatibility from things like a heavy make out session. I know if a guy is timid or aggressive or if we have chemistry based on that. And it’s never been wrong. On date 5 once things got heated and I could tell the sex would be bad so I just dipped before it even progressed to that phase. I’m extremely sexual in a relationship (multiple times a day for years with me often Initiating), but I also just don’t like to have sex until I’m emotionally connected to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 13 | For those women who believe in the 3 month wait ruleI don’t follow a 3 month wait rule but I definitely don’t have sex right off the bat or within 3 dates or whatever. Only ever had one guy dip because of it and he came back later. I tend to date high value men. Besides that I think I’m fun to be around and I offer good conversation and my own career and independence, I cook for a guy I’m seeing, I give massages when I’m with them, I let them vent to me about stuff, I’m a great nurse when they’re not feeling well, I’ve painted for a guy I’m into … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/20 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: What are some things about a woman that would make you automatically unattracted to them?I get that a lot of these are partial but this almost reads like a checklist and I think it’s an unhealthy way to filter out partners. Things like bad teeth or substance abuse are valid, but the person needing to like hiking or public transport is kind of ridiculous. My dad is a marathon runner. My mom despises cardio. They’ve been happily together for 40+ years. A person needs to have the same values but not the same interests | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/20 01:02 AM |
| 5 | Why does it seem that women always push for cohabitation as early as possible? Do you think cohabitation benefits women more than men?“My personal experience” are keywords. that’s purely anecdotal and everyone else here will also have their own version. In my case it was the opposite. My ex pushed moving in together for MONTHS before I agreed. And I saw the same thing happen with my best friend. But, again, that’s anecdotal so I wouldn’t generalize that all men push women into cohabitation the same way you cannot generalize that all women do the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/19 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Waiting for sex: research agrees with FDS women that it is associated with better LTR outcomes.This just tells me you’ve never had a serious relationship or been loved by another human and I’m sorry for you, because it’s honestly the most incredible human experience. I hope one day you grow up and realize there’s more to life than using people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/19 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Waiting for sex: research agrees with FDS women that it is associated with better LTR outcomes.Lol ok so companionship love and support don’t count for anything or the fact that men who are married have a longer lifespan than unmarried. But it’s cool if all you want is to get laid have fun; you’re exactly the type of guy I would never ever even consider sleeping with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/19 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Waiting for sex: research agrees with FDS women that it is associated with better LTR outcomes.Lol cuz you miss out on the exact girls you whine don’t exist. But I’ve literally been nexted by one dude ever for not putting out on date 2 and a year later he’s in my DMs asking to take me out again so I think you underestimate how abundant guys are and that it’s not a big deal if we’re nexted by a chauvinist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/19 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Waiting for sex: research agrees with FDS women that it is associated with better LTR outcomes.Lol “no one.” I’ve literally never slept with a guy faster or slower because he’s hot. Every guy waits until I’m comfortable which takes a minimum of 4-5 dates at the absolute quickest. In fact, it’s been a year and a half since I ended my last relationship and I haven’t slept with a single person in that time — and I have literally hundreds of guys hitting me up at all times sooo I kinda am in the position to make rules if I feel like it. Not sure where you got this jaded bs from | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/19 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Does FDS promote a zero-sum dating world?Have you never picked up a woman’s magazine? All it does is talk about how to get fit or look sexy or improve yourself for a man (mostly physical). Women don’t talk about improving ourselves because it’s been coming at us from birth whereas men only start hearing it when they get older | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/19 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong?I think attractive women don’t skate through life in every sense but when it comes to men, there’s a lot of truth to it. I would say I’m considered very attractive and I’m always surprised at how nice men are, whether they’re actively trying to sleep with me or not. For example, I recently have started fundraising for a chronic illness I have and only a handful of female friends donated a few dollars while a shit ton of guys — both close friends and ones I had interacted with maybe once years ag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/19 02:31 AM |
| 3 | Crazy levels of infidelity from women in my experience. Stats just can't be accurateIt’s true surveys are not foolproofZ Anonymous surveys are more accurate to some extent. But regardless, I trust a survey of thousands of people more than looking at a handful of people in a very limited pool of my peers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/19 11:45 PM |
| 10 | Crazy levels of infidelity from women in my experience. Stats just can't be accurateStats are much more accurate than anecdotal stories. I’ve never cheated and don’t know a single relationship where the woman has cheated. It depends on who you surround yourself with and confirmation bias. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/19 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areYou don’t need to advocate for women in order to not bash on them. But all you’ve done in your posts here is bash on women instead of raising men up. Which does nothing for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 10:09 PM |
| 2 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areThat’s awesome, please encourage men and support them. But do it in a way where you don’t have to tear women down. That’s where progress begins | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areYeah but your post is just trying to put women down as a way to bring men up, which is the same misguided thing that a lot of women do. Rise up man. We don’t need to add more hate and fuel to the fire. There are shitty people of both genders and amazing and intelligent people in both. Holding onto this intense anger you seem to have isn’t going to impact your life in any positive way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 10:02 PM |
| 3 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areWhere did I make a value judgement of the men I don’t date? You keep putting words in my mouth that I never said because you’re determined to believe what you want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areWhere did I say they are inferior? They’re not; they’re just not men I want to have sex with. I have high standards because I can get them. I’ve dated professional athletes, CEOs, television personalities, etc. And they actively pursue me, because I provide that same level of success and value back. At the end of the day people can want whoever they want. And they’ll end up with what they can get. You can want a 18 year old virgin that looks like adrinna Lima and that’s 100% fine, but if you can… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 09:46 PM |
| 4 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areNo I come here because I’m interested in psychology and the genuine differences between men and women, and I enjoy intellectual debate. But simple “WoMen SuCk ThEy DuMb” comments are quite frankly stupid and add nothing of value and encourage polarization. I have no need to put down men. I don’t believe equality is bashing one group to bring another up. It’s just about raising the other to the same level. I’ve met and dated some incredibly smart and attractive men in my life. But I’m also not as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 09:31 PM |
| 0 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areI didn’t say rejected by women. I meant rejected in general in life. Bitterness is created, not born. Also literally look at your username Edit: also never did I say you’re ugly. Your personality is for sure though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 09:18 PM |
| 0 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areNo my point is some men are bad some women are bad. All our individual stories are anecdotal, but you honestly sound like a bitter person who’s been rejected a lot so I’m sorry and hope you find happiness in your life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Men rate themselves as more attractive than they really areOr we just have the choice to be selective? I don’t think most women think the majority of men are ugly. We just don’t find the majority all that attractive, almost like neutral. And lol love the anecdotal evidence about women being less intelligent. I can give anecdotal evidence too about how I’ve survived 7 men with the same title as me being let go while I got a raise or how I performed better in college than any of the men in my class. Please list these studies because anecdotal stories mean… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 08:29 PM |
| 5 | [Q4W] how come jerking to porn "damages" male brains but high N-count doesn't "damage" female brains?Did you literally not read my initial comment? I said that porn has been shown to be linked to changes in the brain. I then said this is SIMILAR to sex addiction (and even states that applied to both men and women) but it’s not comparable with a woman sleeping with like 20 men in her life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 08:17 PM |
| 4 | [Q4W] how come jerking to porn "damages" male brains but high N-count doesn't "damage" female brains?That makes no sense. If casual sex was damaging to their brains (regardless of climax or not) brain imaging would be able to detect it the way they’ve detected damage from porn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 07:11 PM |
| 2 | [Q4W] how come jerking to porn "damages" male brains but high N-count doesn't "damage" female brains?Where did i say sex addiction didnt exist? I said that brain damage is probably similar for sex addicts as porn addicts. The difference is sex addiction is less prominent and harder to obtain than porn. However, most women having sex are not doing it addictively | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 07:10 PM |
| 28 | [Q4W] how come jerking to porn "damages" male brains but high N-count doesn't "damage" female brains?Because research literally show that watching porn is similar to addiction and can physically change how the brain is wired including making it less connected, less active, and even smaller in certain areas. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050060/ https://www.livescience.com/46006-can-porn-shrink-brain.html There are no such studies proving physical brain damage based on n-count. I would posture that someone (of either gender) with sex addiction would have similar damage due to add… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/19 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What percentage of men do you actually find attractive?Ya not my type is NOT a synonym for unattractive. I have a very specific look I like and often I’ll see men who are very objectively attractive but they just don’t do anything for me personally, because I have a type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/19 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Will women and men ever see eye to eye on this - not having sex immediately even though she has beforeI get that but what I’m saying is by having a hard and fast rule that no sex by x date means you’re pumping in dumping or just ghosting means you may end up losing out on a lot of quality. I think guys here believe women are all manipulating them and while that’s deff true I don’t think you can make it the rule. Rather just feel out a dating scenario instead of having some stupid must have sex by date 2 or 3 rule | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/19 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Would you agree this post (from r/OKCupid) accurately represents the online dating experience for most women who are 5.1 or better?I would say this is true and it’s WHY so many women are extremely picky on OLD. For example, I’m a 26f and I probably have a 99-100% match rate plus an absurd amount of daily DM requests. So I barely ever swipe and when I do I’m super selective because otherwise I get overwhelmed and end up ignoring everyone. I met my ex via bumble and I joked that meeting up with him was as good as a chance encounter because it’s really like another face in a deck of cards for most women and luck of matching so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/19 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellI agree that for older people those are more apparent, but the people in their 50s are for the most part removed from the dating market which is what this post was primarily addressing. So if we’re looking at people in their “prime” that are trying to date, the majority are not prevented by exercise and those are genetic or unfortunate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/19 03:35 PM |
| 3 | A question for women who have strict standards about heightI’m 5’7” so I’ve always preferred taller men around 6 feet and up. THAT BEING SAID, I’ve seriously dated a few men who were 5’10 or so and recently went out with a guy who was 5’8”. Shorter than me is a hard no, but otherwise height is like icing on cake, but it’s a relatively flexible criteria because face, personality, ambition, kindness, etc all matter more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/19 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Will women and men ever see eye to eye on this - not having sex immediately even though she has beforeAt least once a day, often more, for years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/19 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Will women and men ever see eye to eye on this - not having sex immediately even though she has beforeThis is just not true at all. My ex is the most attractive man I’ve ever laid eyes on to this day (signed model), and I didn’t sleep with him by date 3 or even date 4 or 5. And despite it not happening right off the bat, we were living together for years with a VERY active and healthy sex life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/19 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Will women and men ever see eye to eye on this - not having sex immediately even though she has before... but what if she hasn’t given it up for free easily? I’ve never in my life ever had sex with a guy even by the third date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/19 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Pastic surgery is the equivalent of guys earning more moneyI second your intermittent fasting comment. I Started it for medical reasons unrelated to weight. Lost 10 pounds and now my bone structure is poppin. I’ve been asked if I got cheek fillers just from losing a little facial weight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/19 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Why do such a large % of women think less of a guy if he accepts her "offer" to split the bill?I think most women offer either because they’re not interested or because offering is a polite social convention like saying “I’m fine” when someone asks how you are when you bump into them. Most women have hundreds of guys trying to take em out all the time and so if a guy won’t even pay for a cheap coffee, it kinda feels like why waste time when there’s men out there who clearly has funds and a bit of chivalry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/19 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellI’m not talking about people in their 50s. I’m talking about young people with congenital issues, autoimmune disorders, dysautonomias, MS, etc. exercise can actually TRIGGER flares in many disorders because it’s a physical stressor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Does the N count of men matter?Yeah I’m not sure tbh. I’m in single digits and have never had a one night stand but I tend to date pretty outgoing guys who definitely have had a few and/or participated in threesomes and things that rack up numbers pretty fast. It doesn’t create an ick factor for me though, so I don’t care that they did. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Does the N count of men matter?Obviously there are exceptions if you had a long relationship or you’re very young. I just personally have never dated a guy that hadn’t been with at least 10 or more women since I was like 19. So to meet someone that had little experience and was single for years would just feel more odd than anything. Clearly there are many women in this thread that would prefer someone like you to many of the men I’ve dated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Does the N count of men matter?I feel like I’d be weirded out if a guy had only been with 5 women if he’s past college. For me it’s like above 5 but under triple digits is the sweet spot. After that it starts to feel gross but really idc if a guy was a bit of a man whore for a while as long as he’s not anymore and he’s clean. I’m not a woman who sleeps around either, but like as long as it’s not extreme in either direction I don’t really care | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellThis response is awesome and kind and I’m so sorry for those in your life that suffer a similar fate. I agree wholeheartedly that genuine laziness is enraging, and I would just say to appreciate and take advantage of your body working for you, if you can. For those that aren’t taking care of their bodies through diet and/or exercise, well they likely will suffer for it down the road, and it’s not worth getting worked up about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellNo but I think a large percent not represented in that 40% have some form of chronic injury or pain that does so the total is likely around 1/3 if I had to guess. I think able bodied people underestimate how many people are challenged because you often don’t see it (I definitely underestimated it before I got sick). I’m fortunate because my illness is invisible and I still am pretty active despite it all, but I straddle both worlds and I think you’d be shocked to see how many people struggle jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hell...you do know chronic illnesses are not all genetic right? And id rather sick people reproduce than dumb people🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellI have a chronic illness I’m not fat at all. 19% bf as a female. BUT my chronic illness does prevent me from doing a lot of exercise — and it’s forced me into the hospital many times because I’ve tried to continue with exercise even though my body literally can’t handle it. Not having legs is different than a body that will kamikaze itself when you put any physical strain on it. I said that you can stay in shape by eating well but assuming everyone who doesn’t exercise is lazy is fucking bullshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellI got a chronic illness during the fittest time of my life, while I was 21 and working out 6 days a week. Most chronic illness isn’t prevented with exercise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/19 01:29 AM |
| 10 | Women who claim that being physically fit is an impossible or high standard for women to be held to are lazy as hellI don’t disagree at all that eating plays a HUGE role, but i di disagree about the exercise bit. 40% of Americans have some form of chronic illness, many of which limit exercise (these aren’t outliers). Another huge portion legit don’t have time whether it’s between kids or work or other commitments. It’s a bit of an ableist viewpoint to think it’s laziness that prevents people from going to the gym. I 100000% agree they can just eat less and still be in shape (my mom is in amazing shape and abh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/19 10:50 PM |
| 2 | WOMEN ONLY PLEASE: do women still meet men in bars, clubs,m restaurants, activities or through friends in your universe?26F. Occasionally I meet guys through social circles, and I do get approached by men at bars, but I live in a college town so most of these guys are much younger than me and I’m not interested. I’d say the bulk of men I’ve dated I met through an app or Instagram, and that’s true of almost all of my friends as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/19 07:27 PM |
| 1 | What is the "real" N count for women these days?It’s definitely EASY to rack up numbers, but it doesn’t mean all women do. Or that they do it consistency. I have MANY friends that got married young or have only been with 1-3 men in their life. I have friends that are at 40 or 50 by their late 20s. But those average out. Also a lot of women just continue to sleep with men they’ve slept with before so even if they’re with 6-7 guys in a year, very rarely are all of them are new. And just because a woman is single doesn’t mean she’s sleeping arou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/19 05:49 PM |
| 1 | What is the "real" N count for women these days?Where on earth did you get that number? I’m almost 27 and no where even remotely close to that. There are deff women who have hit that (and no judgement to them) but I 1000% don’t think that’s the majority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/19 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Most men have a fundamental misunderstanding of what women experience sexuallyThis has nothing to do with ability but generosity. I’m not saying these men were better at technique (that would be experience), but they were much more invested in my pleasure than their own which has nothing to do with experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/19 05:51 PM |
| 0 | What personality traits do guys like in girls?does she disrespect everyone else who eats meat? Is she now eating meat FOR you? Because otherwise it just sounds like her not pushigg big her beliefs onto you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/19 04:43 AM |
| 2 | It's better to have a personality that's completely repulsive to women, than to have a personality that's tolerable/ friend material to women.Except I’ve literally set up so many of my guy friends with girls they’ve either hooked up with or dated. Social circle game is a real thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 1 | What personality traits do guys like in girls?Why is it annoying for her to respect that you can have different beliefs? I don’t eat meat but it’s a personal choice. I’d love if the person I dated would go meatless as well but that’s HIS decision, not mine to make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/19 09:20 PM |
| 1 | talented womenI think talent is like icing on the cake that can push a woman into another category of attractiveness but not make her attractive in its own right. For example I would say I’m a pretty attractive woman, I’ve always done well with quality men, but of course many still just wanted a hookup or something. A few years ago I discovered I’m a very good painter. Once I started publicizing it, I went from getting “u up?” Texts to having men say they love me on first dates, getting girlfriend tracked rig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/19 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What is a typical first date like for you or your friends?Generally either coffee or dinner for me. Sometimes it’ll go from coffee into dinner if the date is good. Occasionally it’ll be like an activity like riding scooters around town and going to the botanical gardens or a museum. Have never hooked up before being taken on a date. 26f btw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/19 01:24 AM |
| 3 | Do women have completely different standards of what's appropriate and what's not depending on how attractive a man is?100% agree. I recently went on a date where I was “catfished” by a man I was not attracted to. He made a lot of suggestive comments and kept touching me on my waist and back and I got very uncomfortable. I realized, however, that I would be totally fine with that behavior if I was attracted and interested in the man. But I also think it’s about reading the room. Like after the first time he touched me back I noticeable shriveled away. Any man, good looking or not, who keeps pushing it when it’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/19 07:44 PM |
| 1 | What makes a girl physically attractive to you?You do know how absurd a .65 WHR is without surgery right? Like I have a .72 WHR and I constantly have people commenting on my hips .65 is legit absurd to expect | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/19 01:32 AM |
| 23 | I’m a Woman in her early twenties who has never ridden the infamous “Cock Carousel” nor do I plan on it. AMA*you’re | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/19 11:48 PM |
| 3 | STDs at an all-time high, condom use in decline, and syphillis is highest among ages 25-29.Because I have female friends... Regardless I just said that saying it’s one or the other is a blanket statement | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/19 11:31 PM |
| 5 | STDs at an all-time high, condom use in decline, and syphillis is highest among ages 25-29.This is such a blanket statement. In my experience, men have always been the one to push no condom. In fact, the other night the man I’m seeing tried to have sex without one and I insisted since Idk his STI status and he begged and pleaded and agreed and then kept trying to “slip it in” without one anyways. Until I finally had enough and kicked him out. This isn’t an isolated experience. When I bring up using a condom in a non monogamous relationship men seem like a deer in headlights. Yes it’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/19 06:47 PM |
| 1 | If you can't negotiate attraction, does that mean a man should never pay for a woman?Ultimately you’re just kamikaze-ing your chances with women by having that mindset. The reality is, unless you’re a supermodel male, women have more options than you and so you do need to put on a show to stand out initially. That’s not to say you always should pay, but on a first date, absolutely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/19 03:42 PM |
| 1 | If you can't negotiate attraction, does that mean a man should never pay for a woman?Absolutely not true. I give back a lot in my dating relationships. But I dated a bum who I paid for for 3 years in my early 20s, so now I screen out bums. And as I said, I’m happy doing a free date like a hike, but if a guy invites me to dinner and doesn’t pay, it just looks bad. I would also argue I’m a higher-value female, getting asked on many dates per week, so If it comes down to it, why on earth would I choose a guy who looks like a tit-for-tat cheapskate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/19 03:40 PM |
| 1 | If you can't negotiate attraction, does that mean a man should never pay for a woman?It’s funny because I was just talking today about this with my friend (26f and 25f), and we’re both okay with a cheap coffee first date or even just walking around a park, but if we go out with him for the first time and we go somewhere where payment is involved and he wants us to split it, its an instant turn off. Signals a low value male. I won’t sleep with a guy cuz he bought me dinner; that comes down to genuinely liking him. But I can guarantee the guy that doesn’t want to pay on the first … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/19 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Why would people put a high priority on looks when searching for a long term relationship?Agreed. Overchoice is a MAJOR issue nowadays with dating apps. Having specific looks or other criteria (if you can manage to land those people) helps cut that down | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/19 06:51 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Most men severely underestimate the work women do in terms of working out/diet to just "not be fat".I think you are overstating the effort it takes to not be fat. It’s a lot of effort to be 12% BF for a woman or to maintain a super flat stomach and bubble butt at all times. But to maintain a healthy, thin weight really isn’t difficult. Stick to healthy portion sizes and eat clean. Exercise is just like a bonus at that point. And when you go out, you can eat but you don’t need to eat the whole portion — take some to go. Don’t drink 3 nights a week if the calories are a problem; that’s pretty si… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/19 06:55 AM |
| 3 | Are men on the autistic spectrum usually seen as undesirable mates by women?My brother is semi high functioning Aspergers (genius smart, but quite socially awkward), and he’s never dated at all... although a lot of that is for lack of trying. After growing up with him I’m not sure I could personally date someone on the spectrum just because I find that my personality clashes with the black and white rigidity and emotional outbursts that come with it. Also I find that while my brother can be caring at times, others he’s very cold and distant which for me is a no-go datin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/19 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Tattoos and piercings = damaged?Anecdotally you can go either way. I’m a 26f with two tattoos, a very small one on my ribs, a larger black one on my forearm. I don’t drink. Don’t do drugs. My parents have been together since my mom was 15. I graduated college with two degrees, have a good job. Don’t have any mental illness. There are damaged people on both sides of the fence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/19 12:07 AM |
| 1 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?I appreciate such a thoughtful answer. I think there’s tiers of attraction. Tier one is the person you’re just magnetically drawn to, can’t stop drooling over. There’s no helping that attraction. Tier 2 is a little less than that. Attraction with maybe some flaws and less chemistry. Tier 3 are people you’re not initially attracted to but they can grow over time for their other traits. I’ve personally chosen at this time to only go for men that are in my tier 1 or 2 levels of attraction because I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 03:30 PM |
| 1 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?That attraction number includes both physical and mental traits and was just a random number I put down. But yes, I am quite picky, which for the time has worked out fine for me and I honestly don’t feel limited at all — it’s always been easy to meet men that are interested in me that I’m attracted to, and because there are fewer, it’s allowed that attraction to flourish into more serious relationships without distraction. And LOL RP has so many stereotypes, I guess I confirm one, that I’m selec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 02:18 PM |
| 3 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?I’m not ending any friendships. I said if it pains a guy to be friends with me cuz he has feelings or all he wants is sex, than he can walk away. I’m a great friend to people I care about, but I definitely owe no guy friend sex. So if he feels that way then yeah he can walk cuz it says he’s not a real friend if the only reason he wants to hang around me is for his dick. No one is forcing him to be my friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 09:04 PM |
| 3 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?Haha take my upvote | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 07:17 PM |
| 6 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?Maybe so. But we’re not talking about MM friendships. We’re talking about FM friendships and clearly the dynamics are slightly different since this whole post is about banging female friends (which they wouldn’t do with male friends) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 07:12 PM |
| 6 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?An equal amount. I listen when they have girl problems or in ones case, goes through a BPD episode. I’ve made soup and gone out and bought stuff for my guy friends when they’re sick. I’ve picked them up from airports. Etc etc etc I treat them the exact same I would my female friends. And I don’t ever expect them to put in all the work — that’s not a friendship then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 07:09 PM |
| 9 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?LOL do you think our male friends just sit around telling us how pretty we look all day? No. They’re real friends. Friends who have been there when my dad was sick with cancer. Friends I’ve talked down when they were spiraling in depression or dealing with a breakup. Friends who drive each other to doctors appointments and ask for advice. Friendship is a two way street and they’re not orbiters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 07:04 PM |
| 11 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?Thank you for acknowledging that there’s no right way. Yes in an ideal world we could all be 1000% truthful, but for many woman, we have HAD men freak out being truthful. I had a guy friend who was my best friend for 6 years kick me out at 3 am screaming that I’m a whore because he decided to make a move and I was truthful and told him i wasn’t interested in him. I love the guys I choose to be friends with; I just don’t want to sleep with them. And I don’t want to hurt their feelings either. So … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 06:44 PM |
| 7 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?I don’t mean they don’t care about me as a person. I just mean that they’re not emotionally attached romantically. Like they like me as a friend and are a real friend but want to bang with no attachment. Pretty much every guy friend I have would say yes if I told him we could sleep together. The majority of those have no romantic feelings for me beyond lust. But they’re good friends when you take sex out of the equation. These are the guys I’m referring to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 06:12 PM |
| 16 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?I agree they deserve the truth IF they have real feelings for me — they deserve to be able to walk away because a friendship may be painful. If they purely want to have sex with me (basically every guy friend realistically) and have no emotional attachment or feelings beyond friendship (aka they just wanna get their dick wet with a “hot” female friend) then no me saying I find them sexually repulsive will only hurt their feelings and ACTUALLY ruin a friendship. Instead there’s a way to close the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 05:05 PM |
| 17 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?If a friend had a horrendous haircut that they couldn’t change would you tell them they look awful? Or would you say it’s not that bad and it will grow out. White lies to spare someone’s feelings happen all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 02:56 PM |
| 28 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?Why? We’re friends. I never agreed to put myself in a situation for anything beyond that. If a friend straight up asks me (I had one guy friend profess love), I will be honest that I’m not interested. But beyond that, no I don’t owe them an explanation to their hints. If they aren’t cool with just friendship then they don’t have to continue speaking to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 02:54 PM |
| 37 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?If I have a friend that I genuinely enjoy being around AND I find attractive enough to sleep with, then I’d want it to go to relationship territory — if he just wants sex without the emotion, then it would ruin the friendship. But for the vast majority of male friends (99%), I’m simply not sexually attracted to them, so I’d never go there. I think women say it will ruin the friendship in this case to soften the blow on the guy so it’s about their friendship being ruined by sex and not that she’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 02:21 PM |
| 2 | What’s a typically unattractive physical trait you find really appealing in men?Also hate beards over here! I can dig some stubble but can’t stand actual beards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/19 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Is taking your pre-teen sons to hooters bad parenting?My first job in college was as a waitress at hooters and there were dozens of family tables there a night, and even more often, travel baseball teams of 10-14 year old boys and their parents would come in to eat. It’s not some overly sexual strip club — i wore tank tops and short shorts with tights so thick they were basically nude-colored pants (nowadays most young girls wear that or less in summer) I don’t think they came in for the “girls” but more the wings and kid friendly food. But honestl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/19 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: Do you ever fret that you are not the best sex your SO ever had?I love reading these comments and will add Mine in; no I’ve never worried about being his “best.” Most of the men I’ve been with have fairy large partner counts and I’ve still never worried about it. I’m confident in myself and why he’s with me at that moment. It’s funny because it really does show how much more insecure a lot of men are about this, and I’m genuinely curious as to why. I do think women worry about a man caring more about a girl in his past more or finding her more attractive tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/19 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Tinder study confirms that 80/20 rules applies to sexual attractionI used famous guys because otherwise it’s anecdotal and you can’t picture them. And not just status and wealth. Personalities are extremely important (where I think guys get confused is it’s not JUST about personality. Most women have a minimum looks threshold and then that’s where other factors matter) But tbh why would a woman want to date a guy who is ugly, poor, and no charisma? you guys love to spout off all the characteristics women need to have and are shocked when women want quality as w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Tinder study confirms that 80/20 rules applies to sexual attractionLol that’s just not true. A very good looking guy can lack charisma. Yet a mediocre looking guy can steal the room. Someone like Adam Sandler, for example, is not shockingly handsome. Yet he’s incredibly charismatic and (without fame) could most likely charm many a woman. Or how about Steven Tyler — nothing about that mouth is classically handsome but it’s how he carries himself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Tinder study confirms that 80/20 rules applies to sexual attractionNo...I don’t swipe very often (haven’t swiped in weeks), but when I do swipe, I’m very picky because I know I have the options. If it was for attention and validation I wouldn’t be picky because I’d just want attention — even if it was from men I wasn’t interested in If I know I’m going to match with better looking men, then once matched I’m going to give preference to them over the ones I’m on the fence about. I’d rather only match with someone if I know I’ll want to give them my full attention… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 03:04 AM |
| 3 | Women Say Looks Don't Matter That Much. Is this true?You took the words right out my mouth. Looks absolutely do matter but they are not the ONLY thing that matters. I’ve gone out with drop dead gorgeous men with the personality of a toenail clipping. I declined the second date. I’ve gone out with less attractive men who I (and this is important) still find somewhat attractive — and they’ve had personalities that I’ve fallen head over heels for. There’s a minimum threshold for most women as far as a mans looks, beyond that, other factors are more i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/19 11:01 PM |
| 6 | Tinder study confirms that 80/20 rules applies to sexual attractionI agree with you 100%. On dating apps I match with everyone I swipe right on, which has made me insanely picky because otherwise I’m overwhelmed. In real life, that’s not always the case. I once met a man on NYE who was initially not extremely attractive to me (i.e., would not have swiped right due to my pickiness), but he had so much charisma and charm that by the end of the night I was pining after him and proceeded to fall hard for this man. There is so much more to attraction than visuals bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/19 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: To what extent is your femininity influenced by a man’s masculinity?Looks wise, Id say I’m quite feminine around everyone (waist length hair, feminine clothing, moderate makeup etc), but I definitely find myself acting and speaking more femininely around masculine men. Around guy friends my voice is probably a bit lower, I’ll say things like “dude.” I’m not very touchy etc. Around regular guys on dates I’m a bit more feminine but nothing special. But on the occasion I’m with a man who is very masculine, I find I vocal fry less, I tend to do things like play with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/19 06:09 PM |
| 2 | If there are so many nice and good guys out there that women are ignoring for assholes, why is getting a good man so competitive?I agree with you! Religious men are a different breed entirely but my point basically is many good men exist at MANY ages. but if you have those high standards (I personally do), you need to make sure your value matches up. Otherwise you gotta drop em | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/19 04:25 PM |
| 3 | If there are so many nice and good guys out there that women are ignoring for assholes, why is getting a good man so competitive?I hate the idea that you think these men can just be “snatched” up. Many quality men will not settle in their early 20s simply because they do not have to and they want to play the field before settling down. My brother is what many would consider a “good man.” 24, 6’3”, fit, earns over 6 figures, close to his family, has lots of productive hobbies, etc. he’s never had a super serious gf because relationships have not been a priority to him while he’s building up his life. Many woman “try” to en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/19 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Playing hard to getStrategy: a plan of action or policy designed to achieve a major overall aim. I legit don’t think you understand what strategy means. I had no AIM. And no plan of action. Being comfortable isn’t an overall aim, it’s a necessary requirement. Strategy is to achieve or gain something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Playing hard to getYou are missing the point of her post. In my first high school relationship I did not have sex for 2 years (!!) because I was young and not ready. But we were in a COMMITTED relationship for 2 years. So there was no “strategy.” It was purely about getting comfortable with the idea of sex. The poster here is saying adult women can also need time to have sex even if it’s not their virginity — regardless of if there’s commitment or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 03:09 PM |
| 5 | Playing hard to getLol you are literally the definition of twisting things to fit your narrative. You clearly believe what you believe, so even if 1000 women all said the same thing as me, you’d still believe your own narrative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 12:03 AM |
| 8 | Playing hard to getNo I never said I waited so he’d commit to me. I wait because I don’t physically want to have sex with someone until I’ve developed an emotional connection | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:53 PM |
| 8 | Playing hard to getIf you are hard to get you just naturally act that way. You are not playing games. Withholding is a game. Waiting is not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:49 PM |
| 8 | Playing hard to get🤦🏻♀️Then you’re not playing hard to get. You ARE hard to get. The fact that you don’t see the differences genuinely amazes me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:43 PM |
| 8 | Playing hard to getBy the time I’ve decided to sleep with someone it’s already moving towards monogamy so yes. I’ve never slept with multiple men at one time. However, if the man is withholding commitment, I may continue to begin early first dates with other men and if I like them more, enough to want to get physical then I will drop the first guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:33 PM |
| 6 | Playing hard to getNo it’s not. Withholding is a manipulative act. Waiting is not. It’s like a rectangle and a square. A square is a rectangle but a rectangle is not a square. Withholding is a type of waiting but NOT all waiting is withholding | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:27 PM |
| 7 | Playing hard to getThere is a distinct difference between waiting to have sex and withholding sex. Waiting is a personal choice for the woman — she may want to get to know the man better, be in a committed relationship because it’s emotional or moral for her etc. she is NOT trying to deprive the man of anything or manipulate him; she’s just following what makes her comfortable Withholding is the intentional act of not having sex in order to obtain something. It is a part of playing hard to get, but as another post… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/19 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Okay. I come from a family where my mom has been with my dad for 40 years and are still in love. I believe in the “fairy tale” because I’ve seen it. I’m sorry you are most likely not a man that the majority of women go for, so you feel jaded. But I’ve never made a man wait cuz I’m not interested in him physically. My last serious relationship was with hands down the most attractive man I’ve ever seen in person and it took weeks before I would get physical — because looks are just one facet of wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/19 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"That’s just a completely jaded point of view and will prevent you from finding a good long term partner. Every guy I’ve made “wait” has been what you would consider an “alpha.” (Never gone after a man for his resources And/or if I wasn’t extremely attracted to him) Because, again, I am not making him wait as a means to extract resources and I’m not a self-control-lacking animal who can’t restrain herself around a hot guy. I am waiting because I am not comfortable getting sexual with a man where … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/19 05:49 AM |
| 1 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Okay but why does that mean you have bad character? You can say the same about the woman in that she only is concerned about herself and not what the man wants. NOT AT ALL. if a woman is not having sex because she is not READY and/or doesn't want to be hurt, her motivations aren't inherently selfish, but self-protecting. yours are selfish. all i can say is I would NEVER want to be involved with a man with a mindset like yours. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"It means you’re only concerned about yourself and don’t care about why the woman wants to wait. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-true-love/201002/bad-men-dont-wait-have-sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 11:33 PM |
| 4 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"I’ve already listed the negative traits associated with it, but in simple terms; It’s just a red flag. The same way many men red flag women for high-n counts or partying. Some women will be fine with it. Most of us would prefer a man who shows he cares about more than immediate sex and isn’t impatient. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 11:30 PM |
| 6 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"It’s not the desire to that lacks character. It’s the willingness to reject someone solely on the basis that they are not ready to very early on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 11:19 PM |
| 5 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Because it shows impatience, impulsivity, lack of character, and inability to delay gratification. So many awesome guys WILL wait more than a couple dates; so why would I waste my time with the impatient guy who’s showing me he’s just after sex. Literally so many woman here are saying we don’t want men like that so idk what answer you’re after but that’s how a vast majority of us feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 11:15 PM |
| 7 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"It’s not a game! I am not having sex because I value sex and the men that DO have sex with me are special. That’s why they wait. (Why do people spend thousands on designer bags — people want things that not everyone can have and that they think have value). I am dating what I think is the top 5% of men — and MANY are willing to wait. Because it’s not a game — I am waiting because I value myself and my sexuality and have said yes to very few men. I am showing attraction and physically escalating.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Lol if every guy a woman dates won’t wait for a woman (with the exception of years or marriage before sex) then it’s probably the woman. These men were never going to seriously date her anyways so when they couldn’t get sex quickly they dipped. And because not all woman (or people) are master strategists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"I think there are women who are and who aren’t. I do agree that a lot of people are short sighted. But I don’t think it’s limited to young or old women. Just people in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 08:31 PM |
| 5 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"There’s many answers. They want to have sex quickly. They have low self esteem and think it will keep him around. They feel pressured. I don’t use waiting as a manipulation tactic. I simply don’t want to have sex with someone until I have feelings for them and want to. I didn’t sleep with a guy on the second date NOT because I wanted to be seen as “gf” material but because it was simply too early for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 08:17 PM |
| 4 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"I sleep with a man because I LIKE that man and have feelings for him. I don’t need to convince someone to be with me. For the record, I’ve never had a guy dip after I’ve slept with him so I think my method of waiting until there’s feelings there is working. That being said, you are free to leave if a woman isn’t sleeping with you fast enough. I’m very honest and tell men I date that If they’re looking for a hookup I respect it but it’ll be wasting their time. But you are doing exactly what you c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 08:06 PM |
| 9 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"That’s true of everyone as they age. But as a mid 20s female, I still get a LOT of attention, and I don’t think I need to sleep with a guy in hopes of keeping me around. What kind of low self esteem BS is that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Also as a women I think you forget we have so many options (at least while young). If a guy moves on cuz I won’t have sex with him on date 3 then there are literally dozens of men I can go out with next who WILL wait | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 07:53 PM |
| 15 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Ya but you are doing exactly what you say the women are doing: possibly giving up an incredible person because of one feature (not having sex quickly). As women it seems we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t. If we sleep with men quickly we are sluts and will quickly rack up #s. If we don’t, some men (in my mind, less desirable men) won’t wait or we’re labeled prudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 07:52 PM |
| 16 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"Or men are disqualifying otherwise amazing women who don’t want to have sex quickly. I personally need a strong emotional connection to want to have sex with someone so I will never do it before then. I am not a prude by any stretch, I just don’t ever want to do something until I feel like I want to. And yes, maybe I am “disqualifying” impatient men, but that also tells me something about them — will they be impatient with kids down the road? Will they be impatient if something happens? Will the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 07:43 PM |
| 13 | Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"I definitely think there are men out there who will next you for not sleeping around fast. On a second date I wouldn’t get naked so I got ghosted. But MOST men I date (who y’all would probs categorize as “chads”) are fine waiting for my timeline. I will not sleep with someone quickly because it will get me nexted otherwise. If he won’t wait longer than a few dates, then sucks; he probably won’t be a good partner longer term. And there’s many men who will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 07:34 PM |
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