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35	Things I have seen "PUAs" and daygamers do that get them labeled as Creepy Pickup Guys. Why should you say something else ? It's not originality that wins the game. Usually you know everything you need to know by looking somebody in the eyes and smiling at them. After that you could tell them "Have we met before" or "Hi" and it wouldn't matter. There are no lines that will work like a cheat code.	/r/seduction	01/11/22 01:51 PM
7	Things I have seen "PUAs" and daygamers do that get them labeled as Creepy Pickup Guys. Basically if it sounds like harrasment it's not a good idea. It's pretty sad for all those seducers who used to convince people to sleep with them with psychological manipulation, pressure, drug and alcohol. It was pretty effective for them. I think there was a lot of hubris from them thinking that they had a magical method to seduce women. When most of them could reckognize an easy-fuck. Dress like a clown in a nightclub and behave like a magician and everybody knows what you are looking for. W…	/r/seduction	01/11/22 01:46 PM
1	Unpopular opinion: most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex. We just feel immense amount of pressure to make moves on dates because we don't want to be friendzoned. Yes it's an echo chamber. But so far I haven't seen anybody address their insecurity. The OP statement remains a big worry for many men.	/r/seduction	19/09/22 12:01 PM
1	Unpopular opinion: most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex. We just feel immense amount of pressure to make moves on dates because we don't want to be friendzoned. Is it his phrasing that makes it sounds gross. He's only saying what the majority of people are saying in this thread ...	/r/seduction	19/09/22 11:10 AM
1	What do I say when women ask me, “how many girls have you slept with”? Confidently ask her if she would be your first. That's one way to doge the question. I think it's a shit test and the fact you ponder so much about indicates you would fail.	/r/seduction	28/08/22 03:14 PM
2	Worry less about 'rejection' on cold approach Yep, and being rejected after an approach is not rejection. You might think that you are making a seducing approach. But you are only doing the most normal thing. It's only normal in social situation to approach people. The seduction comes later. I don't suffer from the rejections when doing networking at social events or when building my social circle. It's only approaching and despite sometimes having further intent, when you learn to talk to anybody, you know that many people don't want to ta…	/r/seduction	16/08/22 02:59 PM
2	What to say when she says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone? I say "Lucky guy" and then go on my way. The veracity of her claim is irrelevant. Either it's true or she doesn't want to speak with me. Thus no reason to escalate the situation.	/r/seduction	01/08/22 06:53 PM
1	I Never Get the Women I Truly Desire (Help) You can't be so focussed on looks and those girls not noticing. Many women are better at reading human beings, and if you're not cogent then you are fake to them. Those girls have been targeted whole of their life by shallow and sneaky liers. They can spot you miles away.	/r/seduction	01/08/22 01:40 PM
1	A study of 65k+ women finds that "Attractiveness" is not a top 5 feature that women look for. No wonder OLD sucks for men. Depends on her experience and emotional maturity. There are so many people I wouldn't date regardless of their attractiveness.	/r/seduction	25/07/22 05:48 PM
1	genuine question but how do you personally treat women you’re not attracted to? I disagree as I tend to treat everybody the same way in a social situation. Maybe because I am a good person, but also because the girls I am interested in will obviously notice any kind of shallowness. Also I believe in the social circle effect. So joking with the children and the grandparents or whomever makes the situation interesting is only a good thing for me and increases my value. I think that most of the people I know actually behave that way. Usually when I feel discriminated and think…	/r/seduction	25/07/22 07:39 AM
1	Stop chasing and pick the women who choose you Some stunners might be into you. Many go for the approchable nice guy.	/r/seduction	24/07/22 06:41 PM
2	Do you call woman cute? I'd call them fair. But English is not my first language and I don't know if that word is still used nowadays and has the same meaning.	/r/seduction	23/07/22 12:14 PM
3	Do you call woman cute? I don't know if it's a good thing. But when girls tell me I am cute, it's usually sounds like a realisation. That's why I don't like OLD very much. If I can meet somebody in person, I gain in attractiveness the longer they know me.	/r/seduction	23/07/22 12:13 PM
1	Do you call woman cute? Genuine compliments are not frowned upon. But using compliments as a bait is not genuine. Compliments on physical appearance are always welcome when somebody feels ugly or need reassurance on their appearance. But the person doesn't need to be ugly. Even the most perfect girl is not happy with her look. She might have pretty invisible birthmark in her armpit and lose self-confidence for that. Then you can tell her that she's cute nevertheless.	/r/seduction	23/07/22 12:10 PM
5	Do you call woman cute? I've met plenty of cute girls who hated being called cute. Some of them were not very tall either and they were really annoyed of being infantilized as small cute girls. They felt that everyone always categorized them as that stereotype. And people don't value them for themselves.	/r/seduction	23/07/22 12:06 PM
7	After first approach in ages I was told to kill myself. Should I continue with seduction? It doesn't matter what the girl look like. It doesn't matter if she's even a girl. You can approach anybody and start a conversation. You can flirt with grandmas and gym bros that are not your sexual orientation. Once you can do that, it's a piece of cake approaching a girl you're really interested in.	/r/seduction	20/07/22 02:41 PM
1	After first approach in ages I was told to kill myself. Should I continue with seduction? You should not take it personally. She only wanted to be left alone. Imagine being constantly harrassed by beggers and homeless with less than refined social manners. Well that's how you appeared to her. As an awkward begger of love. Putting her in an awkward position with the responsability to bear the weight of the interraction. I am a good person. But I tend to cut it very short with beggars, and if needed I am mean. I hit hard and fast so they leave me alone. Before going to talk to a girl, …	/r/seduction	20/07/22 02:33 PM
3	Using social circle as main way to find dates feels like a fucking prison ! You can go to a bar or an event alone and build a social circle and social proof on the spot.	/r/seduction	18/06/22 09:28 PM
5	I stopped giving her validation by muting her social media posts/stories, and she came back It saddens me but I wouldn't try to go out with somebody like that. She is manipulative in her way to get validation. You are in a weak spot and ready for it. You found out that you could play the same game. In the process you're becoming manipulative yourself. There is part of that in every relationship and I know how to play that game and get what I need. But I wouldn't do it anymore. I've been mistreated myself and I would't do that to somebody else anymore. I won't reproduce toxic behaviours…	/r/seduction	25/04/22 11:44 AM
22	She says I'm too old for her It's not the time now to start being insecure about your age. If it was a shit test then you fell for it. Unless she says no or desire to stop the communication. Then there is nothing preventing 2 conscenting adults from writing their own path.	/r/seduction	05/04/22 10:35 AM
1	Getting shamed for dating women younger than me Even if 'old women are jealous' is a prejudice and not true. Conversly there is a long standing and refreshing stream of exceptions that do exist. And even though it sounds like the most degrading statement from a man activist on the verge to the pitt of hell. The stigma exists and it's for a 'reason'. Many women have internalized this talking point. And human beings are insecure. Women should be affraid of younger women's competition. It's rather sane and not crazy. I have far more success now …	/r/seduction	01/04/22 02:02 PM
1	Getting shamed for dating women younger than me You right that when it comes to predation age is only a number. I am 40 and when I was dating a 25 years old people assumed I was the predatory creep. When in reality she wanted me mainly for her own validation. She was extremely manipulative and toxic. If there was a victim that was me. I find younger women more attractive at first sight. I appreciate women my age or beyond that have wisened up to life and their baggages/experience is an asset to them. I wouldn't generalize any of these things.	/r/seduction	01/04/22 11:16 AM
36	Keep getting better as a man and you will get more pussy with age I've prevented myself from going out with younger girls in part because of the stigma. TBH I like girls my age who have shared the same experience as me and can sing anime openings from my childhood. But it's true. The younger girls come to us. Compared to younger guys we are probably more confident and reassuring. I see younger guys being very emotional and self-centered. They shoot themselves in the foot constantly by saying stupid things. They treat women as alien.	/r/seduction	28/02/22 07:21 AM
1	What are words other than "cute", "beautiful" or "hot" you can give to a woman ? Imagine being a girl and not being taken seriously only for that reason. Imagine being a cute girl and never being taken seriously on that account. Then you might find it demeaning to be called cute. They don't wanna be seen as cute. They wanna be seen as competent, idependant, strong, intelligent, smart, interresting, ... You're job is to reassure them and validate them. Also your not really doing that by calling them beautiful, hot or cute. You're just confirming that you wanna get into their …	/r/seduction	06/02/22 12:33 PM
1	How do you guys act around your friends GF? Usually I wouldn't mind. She can casually flirt with guys or girls and so can I. What worries me is your mindset. You're saying yourself that you're attractive and charismatic. You wonder whether you should tone down your personality or dress down. As if it was destiny that simply by being yourself (and you don't even flirt with them), their GFs will irremediably fall under your charm and would cheat on their boyfriend if propositioned. As if you would be powerless to prevent it. In a way relinq…	/r/seduction	02/01/22 12:10 PM
0	[deleted by user] That's insecurity talking. The relationship could end for any good reasons. There is no way to guarantee otherwise ... You don't own her. If she is really the one, then invest in the relationship through emotional labor to strenghten your ties. Be very open and find a way your can both be vulnerable and support each others. Make plans for the future. I am not telling you to start a family. But sort of make her family. Life is tough. Once you have a reliable partner that has your back and conside…	/r/seduction	26/12/21 02:27 PM
1	Type of women you can attract It is so true. I used to and still am able to attract feminist, atheist, left-wing, vegan kind of women. Sadly, even though I still share many of those sensibilities, I am far mor nuanced. And those women usually don't like nuances and find me rather provocative upon inspection. Now I genuinely despise most people who describe themselves as such and make it their identity. I need more depth. Nowadays I'd be far more into less judmental women with a wider set of sensibilities. Women that would be…	/r/seduction	21/11/21 01:23 PM
2	My strategy for tinder and bumble You might disregard his advices at your own peril. This guy is only 20 years and he dishes out pretty genuine, common sense and wise advices. But you're more looking for a reason why you don't succeed. You're looking for a confirmation bias. That's sad. You could attract the same girls and be far less attractive. Sure on Tinder and Bumble that counts a lot more. But in person, as long as you're acceptable to that girl (and that can vary quite a lot). And as long as you are confident (not repeati…	/r/seduction	15/11/21 04:43 PM
1	How do I make the first move? You could start by taking the weight off of both your shoulders. Decide that you can both try, on any, date and that you don't have to go to the end (whatever either of you picture is the end ;-). Even better, decide that you won't go till the end, whatever happens, for at least a few times. If it starts to work, then you will build a crazy sexual tension. Now what do you do ? You build that tension. You can try anything you want. Maybe try to flirt with innuendo, find ways to be playful in regu…	/r/seduction	07/11/21 03:58 PM
2	[deleted by user] Yep. He acted like he didn't care about the attention. This often leads to attraction (very similar to avoiding a cat's gaze). But once you stop doing that, and you give attention then what happens ? It feels like you gave in. There are many other things that builds attraction like confidence. But maybe, just maybe, you are not made of 100% pure titanium confidence and when you try to share other interesting part of yourself you might feel like you gave in because the previous behaviour worked a…	/r/seduction	23/10/21 09:57 PM
14	[deleted by user] Not really. Even if you don't know how to dance, as long as you have a good time and they see you having a good time, they'll want to be part of it. Stop your self-limiting belief and offer an experience people want to join. They will.	/r/seduction	23/10/21 09:49 PM
1	Guys falls asleep in my bed but doesn't want to cuddle?? He's actually comfortable with you. It might be a good sign if you want a relationship. It is not a scoreboard. You obviously don't want him too comfortable like he's your brother. Your questions are valid. They don't need to be answered in sex right away. Calm down, breath. Try to collect yourself and be honest with him, about your expectations that you deserve to have. Then see if he's only a little boy playing around or whether he has some substance and could go along some of your expectation…	/r/seduction	20/07/21 08:32 PM
1	How to approach girls when your native language isn’t a romantic language? No it's not. Arabic, even the morrocan dialect is a thing of beauty. The fact that you speak it and don't realize it, it sounds to me like you internalized bad prejudices against your own languague. I'll be the first to admit that street morrocan sounds like a shouting match. But it doesn't have to be that way. Also French and Spanish are (or used to be) far more common than english in your country (amiright ?), methinks. And morrocan pop music is super popular all over the arabic world. Why, be…	/r/seduction	24/01/20 01:30 AM
2	I feel insecure when talking to girls I'm interested in because of my body. (20M) You are on a calorie deficit. It works in the short term but in the long term your metabolism will decrease to 1200 calories and then eating more than that will make you gain weight. So either you cycle your restricting diet with a healthy diet every other week/month and doing a lot of sports or you can use keto and use your fat metabolism rather than sugar metabolism and lose weight faster without diminishing your caloric intake. You should also look into intermitent fasting (eat only in a wind…	/r/seduction	08/01/20 05:20 PM
51	Funny piece of advice from an r/askreddit post got me laid Yep, I doubt it would play out the same way with a bicycle.	/r/seduction	01/09/19 03:00 PM
1	Women are uncomfortable around me, what do I do? IMHO you suffer from social anxiety and you envision negativity in your social interactions. Your lack of self-knowledge about yourself is a telling hint that you don't get any constructive feedback regarding your behaviour. First learn how to be social, practice an activity, a sport. Then try to make friends with no hidden agenda. If it's tough then learn in books and on the internet. Every social situations has rules, and they are not secret. But you need to engage in those situations. Whe…	/r/seduction	11/11/18 05:49 PM
3	How do I not get cock blocked by other dudes ? You're starting with a higher rapport than they have. So use it, dive and take charge. When the first guy arrives, e.g. : say "Oh you're so attractive all the guys wanna speak to you. Let's see what they will come up with". Then you judge each of them with her. Making comments. You were two people talking together. Now, new people are comming trying to join your group of 2. She has to feel you are already a pair to some extent. But whatever you do be obvious, qualify yourself as already above th…	/r/seduction	10/08/18 02:22 PM
4	In the age of tinder + bumble, what's the point of hitting up bars and clubs? Eventually you'll have to cut the middleman (tinder/bubble), and meet your match IRL. I don't know what you expect but those app put a lot of expectations on one's date. Also as you mentioned those apps are very frequently 'looksmatch'. There are plenty of girls you wouldn't match or that wouldn't match with you, but who you would feel attracted and the other way around IRL. Also you can gain a huge advantage by displaying social value and being the one approaching. Also going out doesn't need t…	/r/seduction	03/02/18 03:16 AM
1	32 year old loser looking for advice It's not about what specific hobbies you have but rather how passionated you are about them. That's what people and girls will like about you, when you are able to speak with passion about what you do. So if you don't know what you like then start anything, a cooking class/ knitting class/ contra dancing/ light saber fighting classes and see what sticks. Whatever group activities you do, if you realize you like that activity even a little, eventually when it will lead to making friends, increase…	/r/seduction	09/07/17 08:16 PM
1	32 year old loser looking for advice You can build a social circle pretty fast by doing activities (taking dances lessons, impro classes, ... volunteering). The key at the beginning is simply to be present. And when offered an opportunity to further socialize, always say yes. You will pick up pretty fast how other people socialize, what is acceptable or not. By doing that you might get friends pretty fast, become able to socialize and maybe those activities will become your passions.	/r/seduction	09/07/17 05:13 PM
2	9 Small Steps To Become The Social Guy That Women Want To Be Around [xpost from /r/socialskills] Take a plane.	/r/seduction	08/07/17 11:02 AM