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so let me understand this. You think it's schadefreude to date a woman who is mature, is financially independent and stable, knows what she wants, is more confident, and (assuming you are dating) she wants to date you and finds you interesting enough to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:02 AM
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I mean the only way men have a higher N count is if the have sex with other men, sooo... I'm not saying I found a loophole, but it kinda looks like a loophole.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 03:39 PM
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Cool my guy... you date whoever you think fits your lifestyle and ideologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:06 AM
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I wouldn't say the both failed. But I do want to point out there's a lot more to the issue than women not wanting kids. Denmark's birth rate is slowly growing (with a slight dip in 2020). https://www.dst.dk/en/Statistik/emner/borgere/befolkning/foedsler Whereas in Romania, the reason the population is decreasing is a combination of factors: being part of EU (free movement act that allows people to live and work in any other EU country visa free) and poor society development (the minimum salary t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:26 PM
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I have 2 examples from recent history to give as to why one is better than the other. Carrot example: Denmark. Several years ago there was a campaign to encourage young Danish people to start families, having babies, etc. They are a nation that's fairly equal when it comes to gender issues. For example men and women are treated more or less the same in the work force, so there's none of the bs that men hold the economy together with their work while women are reaping all the benefits while stayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:51 PM
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Be elon musk
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:34 PM
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There are also boys night out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 06:53 AM
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Idk man, if I'd want to be liked by a girl, i'd ask girls what they like, not guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 08:12 PM
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There's not enough information about theor dynamics, priorities, ambitions, etc to say whether waiting is a good idea or not. People make choices for various reasons, and that doesn't mean it has to do with the other person. He could not be bothered by the ONS/fwb and still find something that is a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 08:03 PM
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There are also plenty of child free women, even some that don'tlook to mary, and pretty good birth control options (vasectomies for men). There are solutions to not having kids, and certainly people that share the same wants (or lack there or).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:43 AM
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Right??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 07:11 AM
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I saw a post somewhere recently that siad that some people seem to be conditioned to better themselves only if they have something to gain from other people (for example sex) and not so much for themselves a d their own wellbeing. I think what OP is asking, is why not do it just for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:09 AM
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Well hormones and hormone cycles are one thing. It shouldn't be an excuse, but let's just say people that are more driven by testosterone than estrogen and progesterone are more likely to develop muscle mass easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:22 PM
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I do most because I'm fairly crafty and like doing things with my hands. The only things I need help with are if the tasks require more than one person or greater strenght (drilling in concrete walls is a pain in the ass, or carrying a million cardboard boxes to recycling). Of course, my fiance will do them if needed, but I volunteer most of the times anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:40 AM
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Depends if you have shitty friends or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 10:08 AM
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Sounds like they had more issues than just not walking the girl down the aisle. Otherwise that's a wild reason to divorce, but we don't know theit whole story and relationships are complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:47 PM
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It was a refrence to the platitude the other commenter said, that women care about height. Honestly there is no winning when it comes to what women like, because regardless of what that is, it's wrong to have preferences 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 04:21 AM
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And women care about looks and financial stability, your point is? How is that different from men's wants and cares? Would you understand since you're not a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:15 PM
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If you want a honest and good relationship, don't lie. It's about finding quality, someone who fits your wants and needs, and you fit theirs. It might sound hard, but if you want a good relationship, it only needs to be one good one and you're set
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 04:06 PM
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I mean you can always say you are. Ot ok with the behaviour, and instead of controlling the other person (which rarely works or is healthy for a relationship), you can control whether or not you want to be in such relationship. It's a lot less effort to walk away a relationship that isn't working for you, than convincing or demanding your partner do what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:48 PM
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Boredom basically. But i only spend a it of time in the evenings, before bed. I mean if you spend any time on social media, you're bound to hear some of the same things you see here. And they are also topics that trigger people to respond and debate. But sadly, I don't really thing they are very constructive. Or at least ones that I've read.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:31 PM
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I like you. You have a great point with your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:25 PM
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It's different for every person. I'd doubt you'd be so happy with just about anyone if you has so many matches. Of course you'd probably want someone or something more specific that fits your needs at that moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:38 PM
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Obviously I have not said all men are criminal, just as not all men are victims. Not all women are victims either, but there are institutions that measure such statistics. I didn't pull that number out of my ass. To answer your question, from a fairly evenly distributed population overall, having an 85 % male to 15% female arrest rate (out of total arrests) should give an idea that maybe there are more men that commit crime. If you don't like the numbers, then take it up with the UK government w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:31 PM
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Ok, but let's take this example. Even though it does say there are more male victims than female, and it does admit to some bias towards men being more harshly punished than women, we can't ignore the numbers indicating that only 15% of 640k arrests done in 2019/20 were women. Don't tell me there is such a huge error margin due to bias or misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:13 PM
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It's still mostly men that kill other men. So your point isn't as good as you think
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 08:22 PM
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If your only goal for having a girlfriend is to give her your sausage, then I don't wonder why it's so hard to approach them. Also women in general can't be all so unapproachable, because believe it or not, we're all different people. The only common denominator is you. Look into that. Try being friendlier without having expectations. That makes you more approachable to people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:03 AM
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You might get a girlfriend, but if not, at least you get friends. What's wrong with that? Go on tinder if you're only goal is a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:56 AM
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Louder for the people in the back
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 04:11 AM
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There's more to a relationship than exclusivity of time, companionship, and sex. Especially when considering a family and other big decisions. Of course you can have them without the relationship part. Most just prefer to do these things with someone. Also 26 is still young and you'd be surprised how much you can do for yourself within 1-2 years. I mean self improvement, both physically and mental health wise. And remember that relationships are more about compatibility, than just people looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:03 AM
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I'm happy it worked for you. Yes, it is mindset, but also discipline and persistence. And like any other addition, the person need to be ready and want change for them to get better. This, sadly, doesn't apply to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 08:25 PM
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I'm pretty sure most overweight women have tried losing weight at least a few times in their lifetime. I can say, it's not easy. It's a constant struggle between the desire/motivation to lose weight and self soothing in some way with food.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:14 PM
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The lack of self awareness is part of Kanye's mental health problems
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:12 AM
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Didn't know the freedom to choose who your partner is, and to that matter if you even want a partner at all, is degeneracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:06 AM
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Expectations and managing them. just because you re exposed to a larger dating pool than you would in n "old fashioned" way (like going out to meet people), doesn't mean that you'd find a good match to your personality and preferences. It may seem like you won't ever find someone for you, but irl sorting people out of the "maybe i'd date them" group is a bit more automatic/without giving much conscious thought to it. Also the pseudo connection some people make before getting to know someone, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:41 AM
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Isn't letting people choose cutting the middle man out?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:37 PM
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Honestly, it low key sounds like shifting responsability on people that shouldn't be responsible for your (in a general sense) lack of success in relationships. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, idk Obviously I don't mean you personally, because I don't know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:19 PM
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More awful than being stuck in a toxic, unhealthy, and/or abisive relationship because they couldn't choose? I believe this happens quite often in places where arranged marriages are the norm. There's a reason they aren't so mainstream in a global sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:15 PM
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As far as I know there are already somentax benefits to being married, so..
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:12 PM
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I think people have personal preferences and it's different from person to person 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 04:40 AM
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Right!? Why so much stress
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:05 PM
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When will people understand that this is a compatibility issue and not a numbers fame. Not every person has to bend over backwards to please the other for whatever made up reason. It would save more time, effort and mental capacity to just not put so much meaning in first time encounters, and if good things happen, they happen. And if they lasy long enough to call it a relationship, then that's ok too. And if they won't, it just wasn't meant to be. Let go of all these bs expectations that you cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:38 PM
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Some of those didn't have the best social skills tho, despite being highly intelligent
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:09 PM
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Maybe you should spend a bit more time trying to figure out what women are really interested in and not just the superficial things you can pick off social media. Also 99% is a bit skewed. For someone who claims to be as intelligent as you are, I'd hope to have more concrete statistics like these
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:06 PM
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Honestly, it's their own choice. If that's how they want to live their lives, then who am I to have a say in it? Everyone does the thing they're doing in the pursuit of their own personal happiness, even if it sometimes leads to some heartbreak. No one has the ultimate answer to how to do things and it always changes from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:22 PM
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I believe it was on this reddit board I was told women over 30 aren't as valuable because they're not in their prime age for making abbies. I suppose it was a man commenting this. Seems a bit hypocritical seeing your comment in contrast with what someone else that shared some sort of dislike for women had to say about them. Also there are plenty of men preferring smaller, not necessarily as successful women. It goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:04 AM
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I agree with OP here. The implications of women expecting men to be the bread winners vary from case to case, but I don't think anyone would feel 100% ok with not having some financial backup or income, so they don't have to completely rely on their partner. That in itself is a big driver for women to pursue careers, and be less "traditional ". On the other hand, I remember seeing a post that up until ca. WW2 women also worked to support the household as the majority of people weren't wealthy en…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 12:52 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that. You should really give it a chance, and meet and talk to women. You might be surprised. There are plenty of men that are movie nerds and others that want to grow on social media. Same goes for women 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 07:55 AM
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I'm sorry to see that you have such a limited view of what women can offer. Yes, we are the ones carrying the babies, but maybe we're also complex human beings with likes, hobbies, ambitions, etc. You know, what men also have 😊 I also know men that would like the companionship too, not know someone that makes them babies. Otherwise what's the point of gay relationships? Edit to add: I wouldn't generalize men that way either. It's quite shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 07:17 AM
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I don't think this is an example of women are beautiful. First we only know his perspective, like you said. But from this, I see that instead of him taking thing into his own hands, I see that he's a bit selfish because his lack of experience. This is not his girlfriend's fault and is not fair to be resentful towards her. Most people that tend to end a relationship because they want to play the field, especially if they lack experience, are disappointed mostly because they need to put in the eff…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 07:08 AM
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But don't men want a good looking woman too? Idk, but I don't find it unreasonable for a woman to want a guy with his shit together. Especially if they're older. Same goes for womes having their shit together, because, realistically, you can't control aging, but you can take care of yourself to the beat of your abilities (and I believe a lot of people are still learning how to do this in a reasonable manner).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 06:41 AM
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With the population growth i don't think women as a whole are that much of an impact. I think it might feel that way if you're not very successful with having a relationship. But there are plenty of women that want children and a family. It's honestly a matter of being a good match with your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:43 PM
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Unrelated to the question, but aren't red pill men talking about wome in the same no nuance manner?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:17 PM
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Men can also have plastic surgery on their face. There's no gender restriction for that. It's just that many don't consider it. Also easily getting surgery done is a bit of a stretch since it can be exxpesive and risky.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 08:09 PM
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Although there are people who are conventionally and, dare I say, universally attractive, they aren't as many as we think. For the vast majority, we're all within somewhat average. In this case, attractiveness is subjective, so calling your friend's girlfriend below average only shows your subjective view. Another thing that should come into consideration is the personality. Yes, looks can help establish contact , but personality can make or break it (i wouldn't assume you'd stay in a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 08:34 PM
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I think it boils down to psychology, and it's valid for either men, women, or anything in between. I read that people who tend to go for abusive relationships typically come from abusive families. It's an unconscious familiarity. And not in a comforting sense, but more like "I know this behaviour and I know how to deal with the sotuation". This by no means is healty or sustainable. But people don't like change and unfamiliar things, so the brain kind of freaks out when the person finally sees th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 07:58 PM
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It might be a case of, if you're not putting yourself out there, you won't get noticed. And this is coming from an introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:37 PM
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I saw an interestig thing that said that a lot of what we see in movies is made from the male perspective - what men think women want (think writers, directors, producers, etc). Which isn't necessarily what women want. Maybe that is a partial cause if those high expectations in both men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 08:04 PM
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Based on who was performing these jobs while the backbone of society was off to war, I wouldn't go underestimating people's capacity to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:55 AM
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Probably because they're not always just the physical ones. Other than the basic grooming, health related ones, I would say personal preference, body language, photo quality and tinder bios (if that's what you're referring to).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 07:47 PM
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Kind of out there stating your roomate's girlfriend got aroused. Maybe that's a bit playing into your narrative. I'm not saying fit people aren't attractive. Mostly because that shows health and self care. But people can also have varying preferences, like valuing character traits and personality over pseudo ED behaviour to look buff. Women also put a lot of care in their appearance whether it is for themselves or to look good for a potential partner. Guys putting in effort in the way they look …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 06:26 AM
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I can only say from the content that I consume, only a small fraction advertises, for example, Adam and Eve online shop, but I don't recall ever being mentioned specifically a vibrator. They tend to keep it fairly neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 01:16 PM
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Since not too long ago women were kind of thought to not enjoy sex, and thay the whole purpose of their sexuality was to have kids. But I think women's sexual toys were always a low effort way to get off without the added stress of getting pregnant. You do see that a lot of the sexual empowerment movement for women started around the creation of effective birth control. The whole "hysteria" more recent history stems from women not getting off because that wasn't their main purpose for sex, as sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 05:15 AM
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Seems to me that it's not really abiut being outside the sexual norm, but rather less talked about. If you think about it, women's sexuality was outside the sexual norm for a long time. Anything else than the virginal or low count woman was (and sometime it still is) considered undesirable. But talking and advocating for it made it more normal. Even though people still have issues with women being sexual. Also there are plenty other toys men could enjoy, but not talk about due to the fear of bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:57 AM
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I don't think people who do advertise for online sex shops do it specifically for vibrators
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:50 AM
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I've seen a fitness youtuber advertising tor Adam and Eve. If you look at him, he is the very stereotype of what you might think it's manly, yet absolutely no problem advertising that. (Which I find it cool of him to do)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:48 AM
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Why do you say they have to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:41 AM
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I see where you're coming from, but with online dating, 5 guys isn't really enough to make an assumption that guys are more aggressive. Just from a numbers perspective, not taking anything else into account. I do agree that they were inappropriate and too pushy. Sadly, in online dating, it is a numbers game.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:11 AM
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Maybe because girls are cute and cool. Idk. To each their own. Also maybe the algorithm just figured you have a type and that is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 09:14 PM
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I think people in general like other people that are emotionally mature. It's not even about being or not being emotional. (Or feminine - whatever that means in today's world). Somehow I feel that the rhetorics here frame this as you either have all the emotions or none at all. While i understand unhinged emotions may not be attractive, that's not true for people that are mature about what they're feeling. Same goes for withholding emotions to "seem strong". There are moments in life when it's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 06:35 AM
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Yes self relationship is a great barometer! Small things like what you said can make a world of difference. And the way you feel about yourself does reflect in the way you connect and interact with others. What I meant is that you get a lot of feedback from people through interacting with them. It might not ne always good, but it certainly says something about the interaction. Of course, depending on the interaction itsef and on the people involved in it, you can ask yourself: is it something th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 11:32 AM
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Don't be so hard on yourself! It's good to want to improve. Everyone should do that and be the best version of themselves. But do it for you and you feel good because of it. Interaction with people in general is a bit tricky and needs some trial and error. Otherwise how would you know that what you're improving is actually working?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:45 AM
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Would love to hear your take on OP's question.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 06:42 AM
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Neither what you or OP said are facts. They might seem like that because you feel so strong about it. Life isn't a constamt war betweem the sexes, not a constant pursuit of them. But don't bash others when you actually want validation. There are actually more nuances here and would do you great to try to not put things in black and white boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 06:17 AM
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I'm sorry you feel this way. Seems like you have a lot of resentment and honestly that's kind of sad. I do disagree with what you said about respect. There are plenty of people that don't condone that kind of behaviour, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 05:44 AM
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Sorry you feel that way about women. There's a thing I learned a while back that people tend to go for what is familiar to them so if they come from certain backgrounds or have certain issues, they will always end up with people that aren't the beat for them. It's called a self fulfilling prophecy It might be uncomfortable at the begining and you might need to deal with some frustration or other feelings, but going for women that aren't really your type, or even just socializing with women for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 08:19 PM
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Seems like he's a bit upset. You know... the more upset you get about something, the more it shows that you kind of want it. At least in some cases, but idk the guy 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 08:07 PM
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*people don't respect people when they don't have to. There, I fixed it for you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 08:03 PM
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If it's a first date or early dating period I personally don't feel comfortable having the guy pay for me. That's just for me to not set any expectations that I have to put out because some dude bought me a drink. If course if he insists, I won't say no. But it also depends on the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 06:57 PM
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That does seem to be the direction OP's question seems to head towards. What if they are shallow? Don't you think that shows in more areas of their life than just looking for a partner? Should they not deal with or accept it? People will call others all kind of things no matter who you are and what preferences you have. There will be at least one person not agreeing with your choices or preferences. Could you really change that? Could you literally go to every person and convince them you're not…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 07:09 PM
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He's still allowed to have that preference though. He may not be very popular with others, but that's on him to figure it out whether or not to manage his expectations. The only thing you can change is yourself (hopefullyfor the better), no matter how much you cry that so and so doesn't like you. It goes without saying that this applies to anyone, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 06:53 PM
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Of course As I said in another comment, I think I got a bit annoyed by the tone. It might as well be me interpreting things. It just seemed a bit "why do girls like x guys (and not me)?"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 04:32 PM
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I'm not saying anything about oppression or denial. I guess i got a bit annoyed because OP's post seemed like they're complaining about other people's choices. Or maybe I was reading too much into that. On another note, such general preferences and on one hand kind of like trends (see how the heroin chic trope was seen attractive in the 90s and now the more plumper women have the spotlight) and on the other hand it might be instinctual that you want to be with someome with a good set of genes. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 03:22 PM
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Because people are allowed to have dating preferences :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 11:47 AM
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I agree. Personality is a great reason for attraction. The thing with dating apps and sites is that you get to gring through way more profiles than your average outing, be it a bar or the church. And if you look at it as a numbers "game" type of thing it makes sense that you don't immediately find your love of your life there. There was a great TED talk explaining this here it is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 07:41 PM
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But if, for example, you go out to a bar/club whatever, would you not socialize or ask out someone you first find attractive? I mean it's not exclusive to dating apps that you first go for the looks and then you get to find out how the person is. And I believe it's not relly that fair to put people in "attractive " & "not attractive " boxes as, even though some are conventionally attractive, people still have personal prefrences when it comes to who they want to share their life with. Just my 2 …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 04:06 PM
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You mean friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 08:10 AM
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I appreciate you putting so much effort in sharing this. I believe your statistics hold for either sexes. And there are usually many other issues underneath this, that promiscuity might be just a symptom. I stand by my opinion though. So if you're ok or not with people who prefer to have n number of partners, that's ok. You do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 09:56 PM
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Honestly, i feel like the way the data is presented is biased towards showing more modern women as crazy promiscuous. Yes, women are having more sex today than in the 50s or 60s. No, that is not a bad thing, lol. Sex feels good for everyone as long as it's consensual. Some reasons why women choose to have more sexual partners: lower risk of unwanted pregnancies thanks to birth control, more education in regards of sexual health and STDs, people being more financially independent and in charge or…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 09:38 PM
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I didn't read everything so take it with a grain of salt. On what Esther Perel said: Women cheat more - a compared to how much they claimed they heated before. It might be because women are more independent and don't feel like they should stay in a marriage/relationship because they don't have jobs or means of income, etc. It's not compared to how much men cheat. From what I observed, it is somewhat more acceptable that men cheat so there isn't as much stigma surrounding it, whereas women are se…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 09:13 PM
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