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1	Is this legal? Aside from the fact that a HELOC should never have been issued without joint consent if you both are on the title… you left out the most critical piece of info here, are you actually divorced yet? That fact alone will determine if the debt is hers alone or y’all’s together.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/12/24 09:27 AM
1	Wife had an affair If by his area, you mean a major TX city, per your reference, then yes. I’m not suggesting that he ignore the advice of counsel, I’m suggesting that he ignore the other 95% of the BS assertions you are attempting to pass off as fact. That type of advice may discourage someone in the future from gathering important evidence, so I’d recommend you keep that garbage to yourself. OP can and should record any and every conversation that he is a party to. His attorney will determine the utility and opt…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/24 04:10 AM
1	Wife had an affair You have no idea what you are talking about. OP, it seems you already figured it out, but don’t listen to this guy…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/11/24 09:51 PM
1	In Texas, question about child support. This 100%. If 50-50 is the goal above all else, get that agreed to on the record, and set the precedent for it immediately. Especially since this is TX. Worry about CS and everything else at a later date. In my case, we had a rule-11 agreement put in place at the beginning of our suit which established 50-50. Of course when we got to a temporary orders hearing many months later, she wanted to change it. The judge wouldn’t even entertain it - and this is a judge who does NOT give out 50-50. Judge…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/09/24 05:21 AM
3	In Texas, question about child support. Well you should only expect to receive it if she either agrees to it, or if a court orders it. As already stated, guideline child support in TX is simple: the non-primary parent pays the primary parent 20% (+5% per additional child) of their net monthly income, up to a certain limit. It doesn’t matter how much more one of you earns than the other — there is no law for “offsetting” your respective incomes like in many other states, nor one that recognizes 50-50 possession. But at the end of the d…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/09/24 03:06 AM
3	How much did you spend on your divorce? 110k so far, highly contested. We’ve had a couple temp order hearings, and final trial will happen soon. At least 150k when all is said and done.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/09/24 05:07 AM
3	How do you manage the anger of a 50/50 financial split? Yeah sorry, I’m gonna be the asshole here…. Quit being a little bitch and appreciate that you took half of your marital property. I recognize that you acknowledged others have it worse, but are struggling regardless. I’ll still be a dick because you seem lack perspective nonetheless. You think you’re entitled to more? Why? Is the mom entitled to more time with kids because she carried them? Do you believe you are entitled to more finances because you did “that” part in the marriage? And if the l…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/24 10:19 AM
2	Does this sound like circumstantial evidence of an affair? Common sense says yes, obviously. The law? 🤷‍♂️. Do you live somewhere where it actually matters?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/24 08:30 AM
1	How do you manage the anger of a 50/50 financial split? I left out the part where in all states, it depends - it’s often somewhere in that gray area between yes and no. A quick google search indicates that at least to start, KY is a state where the appreciation of separate property remains separate property. Which is a good thing obviously. But the “it depends” includes the assumption that it was probably commingled in some regard. You seemed to hint that y’all have lived in that property during the marriage? If so, don’t count on it all being 100% s…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/24 07:35 AM
1	How do you manage the anger of a 50/50 financial split? In some states yes, in others no.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/24 05:33 AM
3	SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of state The negative factor at play is that, according to the Texas Family Code, 50-50 is not in the best interest of the children… the SPO is. The court will almost always respect an agreed-to 50-50, but most are not inclined to order it if the suit goes to trial. When you say you got 50-50, was that through an MSA or by a ruling at a final trial? If the latter, consider yourself fortunate that your case was assigned to the minority of progressive judges who are willing to do that.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/24 03:08 AM
10	SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of state You need to go talk to an attorney and file ASAP before she wises up. Depending on which county you are in, the court may have standing orders that go into effect immediately after the other party is served, and should order that the children do not leave the state (among many other things), without needing to wait for a temporary orders hearing. Based only on what you’ve stated, she would likely be the one designated as the primary custodial parent. However if you stand firm about the kids rema…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/24 01:42 AM
1	SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of state Entitled to 50-50 in TX? Maybe if you get lucky and your case is assigned to a court with a progressive judge… but that’s the exception, not the rule (i.e the law).	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/24 01:33 AM
2	Need help with interpretation of a statute. Not sure what state you are in, but barring any other relevant statutes, your interpretation sounds correct. It works like that in TX - appreciation of separate property remains separate property. However a spouse can claim a reimbursement to the marital estate for any increase in the value of separate property resulting from the use of marital property. For example: if marital funds are used to pay the mortgage, they can claim a reimbursement for the difference in mortgage balance between the d…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/24 02:21 PM
3	Toddler transition between parents changing demeanor This was the first time he’s stayed with you? Was it the first time sleeping away from his mom? I’m not a professional, but I suspect that this is perfectly normal behavior. This type of adjustment will take time, possibly a long time. Young kids seem to place a big emphasis on their sleeping arrangements. I have my 5yo 50% of the time, and my ex and I have lived separate for nearly 9 months… yet sleeping can still be a struggle sometimes. Bed time is the only time he expresses that he wants his…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/05/24 05:36 AM
4	It's week 3 and I'm already being accused of violating the standing order for moving money. Better get accustomed to her living in her own twisted version of reality - she can and will accuse you of whatever the hell she wants. Her opinion is worthless. And unless you’re actually doing something shady, the court probably will find her opinion worthless as well.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/24 06:36 AM
1	Just filed for Divorce in Texas An ugly divorce is not “uncontested”, just FYI. But as stated, record all interactions. TX is a one-party consent state (applies only to audio). This can help protect you against false claims (e.g DV if it gets to that point), and give you ammunition with any admissions she might make about things in dispute.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/03/24 05:14 AM
5	Child Support Payment Options You want as “little connective tissue as possible” yet want to maintain a joint account with her?	/r/Divorce_Men	04/03/24 07:11 AM
2	UPDATE-lawyer wants to quit my case after giving him $10,000 he can’t take the heat You make 250k-350k a year and are worried about a 5k retainer for a new attorney? Your priorities are mixed up man. Not that any of your story really adds up.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/24 05:51 AM
1	Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I know It has probably already been said, but if the laws in your jurisdiction provide one-party-consent, record everything. Especially if things go south. Just the existence of certain recordings saved my ass in my divorce. Although ours was highly contested due to custody issues… I doubt it would have been necessary otherwise.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/23 07:54 AM
3	Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I know In theory, but no, not in practice. Most of the military would rather look the other way on something like adultery. If they are forced not to, then administrative action would be typical (reprimand, reduction in rank, NJP, etc). But a dishonorable discharge? Nah. Only indirectly if it were to get tossed in as an extra charge on a court martial for something more egregious...	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/23 07:41 AM
3	Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I know Agree, the laws on separate property can be vastly different state-to-state. Without knowing which state this would fall under, it’s impossible for us to say. But some other examples: In Colorado, only the net value brought into the marriage remains separate property. ANY increase in value, say from appreciation or reduction in principal, is marital property. In Texas, a spouse can claim reimbursements against the others separate property to the degree that marital property was used to increased…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/23 07:26 AM