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Spousal Support / Alimonyandyc20041/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 12:31 AM
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Her mom worked in the credit card fraud department at a bank. Haha
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 07:28 PM
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My (hopeful) STBX spends everything she makes too. I had a paycheck that was $3k larger than normal because of overtime 2 weeks ago. When I got paid this week we had $178 and some change in the checking account and she had a paycheck the week after I got that check. Nothing extra got paid on any debt so tell me where that money went. 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 05:13 PM
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She said we can only have joint accounts. For the first 8 years I only spent money when she was with me and thought we were in good shape financially. Then I found out she was a hypocrite and was spending more then we make on shit!
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 04:58 PM
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I should have seen the red flags when she told me if I ever hide money from her she would cut my balls off after 3 months of marriage. I tried to set money aside for Christmas so I could surprise her with nice gifts and she got pissed off into a raging fit because I didn’t tell her I was doing that. I make 3 times what she makes and she spends what I make 2-1 we are so in debt I can’t afford an attorney and I am currently staying in this mess so she can’t file for bankruptcy or spend any more mo…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 04:36 PM
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I will never remarry…..ever…. never ever. If I find a new partner we will only be life long monogamous partners with no legal binding except for id make it so she could make medical decisions in an emergency and get what’s left of my (ha) estate after my kids were taken care of. While we are together we would not share financial accounts or money. No major purchases together.probably separate homes too. It would be also long documented conversations between the two of us.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 04:19 PM
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Long answer, NO!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 01:18 PM
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I can’t wait for the day I don’t have to move shit out of the garage attic to get to that one decoration she knows is up there but can’t be found because she never had it. Every year every season for the last 22 F’ing years and after talking to my attorney I’m stuck in this shit for at least another 3 years. I get Independence Day and Christmas but New Year’s Valentine’s Day, Easter St. Patrick’s Day come on man and having 5 (or more) ginormous totes for each is a little excessive!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 06:19 PM
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I’m trying to teach my kids that we are not entitled to everything we want and sometimes we aren’t entitled to things we need. They will always have food and they will always have clothes and they will always have a roof over their head, but they may not have the Xbox or designer clothes. They will have a bed but might not have a sofa for a little while.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 01:04 PM
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You don’t need to spend 10k on furniture. You are not entitled to the best. Grow up and start living with in your means. Sorry that was me just blowing up at my STBXW. She’d drop double that on new furniture for a 1 bedroom apartment and try to fit 2 sofas 3 beds 5 TVs 2 dining room tables and 8 chest of drawers in it. I’m buying a little furniture at a time. I’ve got a lawn chair and folding table to eat on. I bought a new mattress and used bed frame. I’ve been looking for good quality used din…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 11:10 AM
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Oh I’m going to save a ton of money! I make 6 figures currently and will have $700 a month left from that job to live on after paying her. I start a part time job in 2 weeks to help me live and I’ll be pinching pennies and saving money every day. Only 8 more years of child support!
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:52 AM
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I make 6 figures a year and live paycheck to paycheck! She told me when we got married she’d cut my balls off if I tried to tell her what she can or can’t buy. For the last 15 years she tells me every day that we are broke and not to spend money. I’ve done the math and she is spending about the same ratios as the US Government something like 2.33:1 of our income. I’m looking forward to paying child and spousal support that way I’ll have $700 a month left over after instead of -$900 without it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:35 AM
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I can’t wait! 😛 we haven’t fielded yet but it will be soon. Walrus is a nice way of putting it. I’d go into more detail but this is a family show.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 03:28 AM
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I’m not looking to move in with anyone at the moment. You say the distance helps to keep you missing them. I agree with you on that too. I wouldn’t object to moving in with someone after several years of being good friends but it would definitely have to be the perfect person and have an agreement set up if our relationship changes how we will handle things. I’m encouraging every person I know that is getting married to have a prenup no matter how much money they have on the line. I’m not wealth…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 10:18 PM
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Don’t ever have kids it’s messy at best no matter if you are married and stay married never married or get divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 12:48 AM
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I’m 44 and probably not buying any property until I have my STBX paid off probably be 60 before that happens.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 06:47 PM
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She paid all bills and ran the finances. When we got married she told me I didn’t know how to manage money because my dad was an @$$ to my mom about money and I just let her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 07:29 PM
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I’m paying off my credit card that she was “paying off every month”. Long story on that. So the break down on the debt. I have about $18k on one card she has about $70k in credit cards and $5k in medical debt. My credit card is closed so it can’t be added to anymore. Her attorney will argue that her credit cards were used to buy things for the family like clothes for kids school supplies food fuel and so on as she spent what we made foolishly and was only making the minimum payment on her 12 car…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 11:26 AM
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So me and my stbx and kids went on a very eye opening vacation 2 weeks ago. During our 26 hour drive my stbx went on a rant about how I need to work more to help pay down the $100k plus in credit card debt that I only knew about $30k of. She works 40 hours a week at her job. I had planned on and got a part time job on top of my 50+ hour a week full time job and will be paying off the remainder of my credit card balance off very soon. I’ve been looking at apartments (and think I found one 2 block…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 01:43 AM
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It was really good 22 years ago when we first met. It slowly exploded over the last 20 of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/24 03:21 PM
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This is scaring me!! I don’t have $20k to put up for an attorney let alone everything else and I make 6 figures. My stbx (probably longer than I want) is draining me dry I can’t even get lunch at a fast food joint once a week. 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 12:31 AM
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We are on a vacation with our kids and friends for a week and about 1/2 way through it. I’ve been just playing my part as dad and everything is cool. When we (her and I) are alone money keeps coming up from her. She wants me to work more so we can pay down her debt. I am going to keep track of my extra work that I’m doing and what I apply towards her credit cards and if her balances don’t drop by the time we file for divorce that will be used as leverage for myself. I have enough cash available …
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 11:41 PM
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I tried to tell myself 15 years ago we could make it work. I’ve just started to realize it’s not going to. We’ve been married for just under 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 05:10 PM
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I’ve locked my credit. I’m paying off my cards to open up some cash flow to pay for an attorney. I’ll take 1/2 of her debt in the end because that’s less than what I owe on my 2 cards. I’m just trying to get my credit score somewhere useful for renting an apartment. She currently runs the financial side of things and I can not apply anything extra to cards. I’m tired of paying $9k in interest a year on the cards. Because of her stupid spending habits I’m willing to give her the house outright af…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 04:01 PM
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I’m still in the process of figuring out how to start the process of this divorce thing. My hopefully stbx spends money on crap we don’t need and we don’t have room for it. We are constantly getting new furniture and decorative things to hang on the wall. New clothes shoes and purses. We have no space to hang anything on the walls. No place for furniture. When I ask where to put something new she has just purchased she says put it in the closet out in the sunroom (this closet is 12’x 12’ in her …
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 10:54 AM
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I know 4 couples that did it. All are happy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 10:06 PM
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I’m 43m and I’m worried this will happen when I file. I make the money she’ll get the house child support and spousal support I’ll get my 15 year old truck and the house payment and the kids 70% of the time and a part time job to pay all that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 01:42 AM
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Get out of debt buy a Harley and maybe get a vacation home in Florida. Spend less on stupid stuff. Get my classic car drivable again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 10:22 AM
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