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angelicasinensis/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 03:25 AM
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I think what you are describing is privilege, you have it and havent noticed that others maybe dont. Are you a male? Im guessing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 07:15 PM
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Are you fucking joking? Where is the female president? Where is equal pay for men and women? We have a LONG ways to go to gain equality. Still patriarchal AF and we are slowly rolling downhill on that front.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 07:09 PM
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Absolutely feminist 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:25 PM
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No, absolutely not. I like my men on the smaller, more feminine side.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/25 09:38 PM
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Firstly, I am really sorry you are going through this. Sounds like your expectations are not meeting reality, and that is really frustrating. I think the main priority is to get you and your husband BOTH in therapy. I think it sounds like your husband has a lot to work through and you probably do as well (expectations in the relationship, whether you want to pursue). In my opinion, sex isn't the biggest deal (except the few days when I am ovulating lol), but I am not sure how I would feel if I k…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 05:12 PM
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Not normal in circles I am in.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 03:18 AM
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Jennifer Aniston for average? I felt beautiful in my 20s, but less so now than I am 35. Almost a harder fall, feeling beautiful and then feeling unattractive and old.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 02:54 AM
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Yes, kind of for us. Ours was money stress. My husband couldn't provide due to various circumstances and I was at my wits end. I knew it wasn't his fault, but it still was hard not feeling provided for and also feeling sad about our money problems. We renegotiated our roles and that is what saved our marriage. My husband is now a SAHD and I am in school, which fixed our money issues. I am glad we worked it out because we have 3 kids and our marriage is overall pretty good.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 04:55 PM
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I think you have answered your own question here, you do not want to quit. Marriage is a compromise but it seems like your job is very important to you. Trust is important and I think your husband may need to work on trust issues more. Have you considered therapy together, so that he could work through this?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/25 12:35 AM
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This is a great comment, and very true.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 10:01 PM
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Being gentle and sweet, being kind to animals, wanting kids, introverted and tending towards quiet. This worked for me and me and my husband have been married for 10 years with 3 kids. He does a lot of the housework and helps with the kids and treats me well.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 10:00 PM
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I would also consider reaching out to a therapist and having strategies to deal with anxiety before you get pregnant. I personally had pretty bad anxiety in the first trimester, but it got better after that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 02:19 AM
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I am so thankful I had my three kids before the age of smart phones and easily accessible social media. I have anxiety and I feel like I want another kid but now I know all the things that could go wrong and it is scary. Personally, I think if you eat really well and stay active and go into it with enough support you will be fine. I had 3 kids, all with vaginal tearing and I have 0pelvic floor damage. I was active in all of my pregnancies.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 02:45 PM
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Interesting. Would not know about this to be honest, never been on a real date in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:53 AM
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Dont want to have to rely on any man, BUT enjoy and like male companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:22 AM
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Patriarchy is defined as women being controlled by men, accepting a man's offer to buy you dinner has nothing to do with the definition of patriarchy. Sorry just wrote a 20 page professional research paper on patriarchy and just wanted to clarify that the definition is for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:22 AM
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I think its dangerous how much social media portrays having as many babies as possible to be positive. Also, how social media idolozies women's role as mothers above all else. I think that children are amazing BUT they are also hard and its VERY hard on women's mental and physical health, in todays society. I personally have three kids and struggle with feelings of inferiority because I do not have more children.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 05:36 AM
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I think society way overstates how much sex we are supposed to have. Sex is really to make babies, and we arent meant to be fertile all the time.... I just dont stress about frequency at all and we have a happy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 03:45 PM
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I dont have much to say other than I am androgynous, most people kind of laugh at it because I have long hair, wear dresses, am in a hetero married relationship, BUT I am super nerdy and also love STEM, I love talking politics, economics, debating and going in depth into nerdy niche subjects. At parties I prefer to sit with the guys and talk. I am married but I have kept some of my male friendships and my husband is ok with it, he knows its not anything romantic at all and then I still get the b…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/24 04:46 AM
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It is a good combination! been married for 10 years and have 3 kids. I think the biggest thing in determining a good relationship are peoples innate personality traits and also there attachment styles. I am anxiously attached, so I need a partner who is there for me, I talk a lot so I need a partner who is good at listening and is probably more quiet, I find that partners who are introverted do well for me since I am extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:52 PM
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my husband is really smart too, we just have different kinds of smarts I think. he is good at fixing things and I am more book smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:10 PM
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this is too funny I am a woman and my husband looks to me to what to do next LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:03 PM
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I do not know what my IQ is but I have been told I come across as intelligent and was in gifted classes when I was a kid. I think sometimes I rant my husbands ear off with going on tangents, and most of my close friends are pretty nerdy and we go into long conversations about niche subjects, actually most of my best friends are autistic. I think me and my husband go together just fine and understand each other, I am SUPER talkative and he is SUPER quiet, it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:01 PM
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if you look it up mens sperm health is a big factor in the health of the mother during pregnancy and the childs health. over 45 the risks skyrocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:16 PM
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Dont be shameful for that. If you are willing to have learned and grown from things in your past, then that shows emotionally maturity. ALL OF US MAKE MISTAKES, its ok and you deserve to be loved and treated like a princess regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 10:44 PM
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Tattoos are WAY more common and normal now. I have a lot. Just FYI when you stir up all the ink it can have serious health ramifications, I have heard of a few people who got super sick from removal. I don't think they ever get truly removed, plus its costly and painful. All of us have scars, life is hard. All of us are going to have personal, emotional baggage to some degree. Its OK. If you are willing to accept a husband with flaws, then its ok for you to not be perfect in whatever capacity th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 10:43 PM
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I totally 10000% understand where you are coming from. My and my husband almost divorced over this. I think that in hindsight it was the money stress, not the relationship stress or him not being masculine enough. I just felt severely let down by his inability to make enough money to support us, and was so depressed at having to work on top of other obligations to make ends meet. Does this surmise how you feel a little bit?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 03:56 AM
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Does your partner maybe have underlying mental health issues? My husband finally got diagnosed with PTSD last year and it kind of changed everything, I started understanding why he was the way he was (he was suffering). Now he has switched to doing more with the kids and I am in school full time. It's not the way I first imagined it, but it works for us. I still feel feminine and he still feels masculine, but he does the cooking and cleaning and more kids and I am preparing to be working.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 12:43 AM
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yeah I think your right. Im not talking about a man raising a kid that isn't his, that's obviously not ok unless he consents.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:57 AM
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but the pregnancy is because BOTH people had sex. Men know that there is a risk of getting a girl pregnant if they have sex. Women know there is a risk of pregnancy if they have sex. A man having to provide financial support is NOT the same as having to be pregnant. Pregnancy can take your life or absolutely ruin your health. Mens personal bodily autonomy is the fact that they do not have to raise said child, only provide financial responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 02:11 AM
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I second going for the guy who isn't all about himself or obsessed with his career.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:39 AM
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Thank you <3
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 10:32 PM
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yes we are excited but gosh this pukey thing really sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 10:16 PM
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I think it is whatever you are comfortable with. Though I will say last year i tried to pump gas without my husband I legit couldn't figure it out, that's how little I have pumped gas in my life. But, to each their own! I like for my husband to do little things like this for me, but I also am in school to be working while he is going to stay home, so there's that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 09:11 PM
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Not sure about you, but my husband came in me about a month ago and now I am certainly not feeling much joy, other than wanting to puke ALL THE TIME from this baby ;)
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 09:00 PM
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I mean,i dont like it, but if you love him then it is what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 01:20 PM
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sounds like an anxiety issue.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 03:10 PM
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Had similar situation, also involved being young + bad relationship + alcohol. I think its different in that situation. I have been in a relationship now for over 10 years, and am married with 3 kids. Most guys don't really care as long as they can see you are sincere and arent going to be sleeping around once your with them. Its really not a big deal, promise.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 11:59 PM
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Im 34 and my husband is 44. 10 years together. Live together, 3 kids. Honestly amount vastly changes each month depending on stress levels and things going on, etc. We probably average 2-3X a week, sometimes more, sometimes we go like 2 weeks without. Honestly I hardly keep track because we just dont make it a big deal. Sometimes Ill help my husband if Im not in the mood, but its fine either way. When I am ovulating I am SUPER in the mood and it ramps up quite a lot. I literally let me husband k…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:29 PM
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Women have a hormonal cycle. I think acknowledging this is huge. We don't put a lot of pressure on sex specifically over other forms of intimacy. Not feeling on the hook or pressured is huge personally. I usually initiate (female), because my desire can radically change throughout the month. so, the answer is a lot when I am in my fertile week and not as much the rest of the month.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 04:21 PM
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right?! actually worked out pretty good. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 02:20 PM
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I got pregnant with my husband on first date basically. 10 years married, 3 kids. Dont stress.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 08:01 PM
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I only know two. I just know a lot of people.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 03:12 AM
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Met my man in a rural farming community. Followed me around everywhere for weeks like a puppy lol. Still does, LOL! 3 kids and thinking about another :) 10 years together.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 10:30 PM
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I have had good luck going with the more nerdy, quiet, smart and sensitive guys. I know a lot of women like the more masculine typical guys but I see more of those guys having negative qualities. Sounds like the guy is the issue here, I would run. red pill isn't a guarantee that every guy wont be an asshole.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 02:43 PM
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Yeah I was ready for marriage and kids in my early twenties and one of the other men my age were at all.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 08:28 PM
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9 years
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 08:20 PM
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<3 my husband, he helps with the kids, pampers me and supports me going back to school. Dont be afraid of men older than you ladies! We have three kids together ad he is a great dad.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 07:15 PM
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this can come and go. Stress can cause this. also where you are in your cycle. Biggest thing is to know that things ebb and flow and to make sure your husband does not pressure you. Just work on yourself and things will flow in due time. Sex is not the biggest part of a relation ship and over the course of a relationship its bound to go up and down. Good luck,
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 04:12 AM
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I agree with this. I think at the end of the day people want kids at any cost. I think adoption is damaging and is a messed up industry, as is egg/sperm donation as well as surrogacy. I am going to get roasted for this but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 10:49 PM
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body type is a big flag, guys that are kinda big and buff and "jacked". Guys that like to drink a lot. Guys that get angry a lot and have a big temper. In ayerveda there are three "doshas" or body types, and the "warrior" (think big, muscular guys) are the ones who tend to have anger issues (people are usually a mix of two doshas at the same time, so the guys who are like both the warrior are the ones the most prone to anger issues).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:38 AM
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I try really hard but to be honest I use screens more than I would like. I have had to do side hustles, suffered some health issues in the last years and I have three kids....
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 03:19 AM
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milk comes in through the milk ducts, has nothing to do with how much fat is there.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 04:27 PM
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Im flat chested but when I get pregnant and my milk comes in I have boobs. I am a tiny girl weighing about 100lbs and I had healthy pregnancies, average size 7lb babies and more milk than you would believe. Birthed my babies at home, all natural. Never had any issues with milk supply. Now that Im not breastfeeding Im back to flat chested. Absolutely love it. I can run with no bra, no problem.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 04:26 PM
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Not sure. I breastfed for 8 years. I am a AA, so not much to sag, but they are slightly lower.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 05:30 AM
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VIPKID. Though, really as a mom of three who has had numerous side hustles, just enjoy that baby. side hustles kind of suck.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 05:59 AM
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So, please dont leave your man who you described so well. You can be red pill and have a great relationship and not do things 100% the traditional way. Could he stay home with the baby? I know its not ideal, but I am kind of in the same situation. My husband is just not able to be the provider I need, whereas I am very type A, booksmart and an in school and on track for a career, it was not my first choice but its just going to be the best overall, so I am making that sacrafice.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 06:30 PM
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also thats a good sign you are going to retain fertility for a long time. My mother had great fertility and got pregnant easily and I did too.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 12:51 AM
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If you really want kids dont be ashamed of letting a whirlwind romance happen and letting things happen quickly. You have another 5 whole years until your fertility even starts declining. Take really good care of yourself, lots you can do to really prolong that egg quality.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 12:51 AM
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you have SO MUCH TIME.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 11:30 PM
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our family of five made it through with about 45K last year! We eat organic as well :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 05:29 AM
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my kids are 10,6,4 and I have been with them everyday of their lives. It's worth it. Were pretty low income but some things are priceless, like the time I spent/spend with my children.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 05:28 AM
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stick with him, have him try using mushrooms as a way to get off of the cocaine, worked for me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 11:11 PM
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You didnt read that correctly, I had my kids at a place where I could afford them, had a place to live and was comfortable. Then things happened and we could not live there anymore. So no, I did not have kids when I "could not afford them", I had kids when I was financially stable and had ample time and resources to care for my children. This same scenario could happen to anyone with a husband loosing a job, etc, things happen. When I complete my degree I will have a six figure earning potential…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 07:41 PM
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well, I met my husband and got pregnant at a monastery like situation, where members were taken care of etc and everything paid for. I had no idea of what my husband would be like in "the real world" or really had no idea about what having kids was like in the real world either. I got pregnant without ever knowing what a mortgage was or even that people put their babies in cribs to sleep normally, this was a time before smartphones or easily accessible internet. I lived in a remote cabin in the …
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 06:03 PM
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As someone who has been a SAHM and has not worked a "real job" since I was 17 (im 34 now), it kinda gets a little boring. Im in school now after being consistently frustrated that we cant stay afloat financially with just my husband's income. I am doing really well in school and I plan on switching to working once I get my masters in a few years. If you can think of a way to make money while also working from home for a few years while your husband can also stay home, this may be the best way. O…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 10:08 PM
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morality is personal and subjective though, not your place to put that on others.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 07:33 PM
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Maybe some people dont want to work in fast food or other really low paying shitty jobs.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 03:02 AM
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Firstly, easier is a subjective term, not everyone is book smart or has in person social skills. Also, I think some aspects of OF are probably really hard, I don't think your giving sex workers enough credit. As someone who works remotely at times, yes, it is hard to get a job remotely, not everyone lives in towns with ample work opportunities and some have kids or health issues that limit their availability. The world needs a little more kindness and understanding, not judgement and labels and …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 08:47 PM
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All of the people I know do it, they actually work but its not enough. People are desperate, lots of women have kids they have to support and also dont want to be away from their kids anymore than they have too. I think its less of a liberal/conservative thing but just more about just plain old cash. Finding jobs online is hard, I am lucky to have a contract with an online teaching company I can work at for money, but its not great hours and not very fun.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 03:48 PM
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as a mother I can understand how important the first few moments of life are for bonding...also the bond that mothers and babies have in utero is pretty intense...no I think that adoption is great for kids that do need it, its obviously better BUT I just think that babies are so in demand it has lead to some sketchy situations such as breeding women in other countries to make cash by selling babies...also its not for everyone and every living situation as they wont adopt babies to everyone. I me…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:38 AM
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Dont even get me started on how fucked up the adoption industry is for babies, its a huge racket, costs a freaking ton and is actually quite stringent. Babies have feelings and go through attachment issues as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:42 AM
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Little harsh? I mean come on, desiring children and pregnancy is basically written into our genetics, its an innate drive (I know some people dont have this..but still)...also kids that are in foster care are going to have attachment issues and it really isn't the same. Sounds like you have some trauma or issues surrounding this topic, honestly we can ALL have a little more respect and understanding for others feelings...its FINE to not want kids or desire them and its also FINE to have your fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:47 PM
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This is what I think too, I have 3 children myself and I think thats about all I can handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:43 PM
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confidence without arrogance
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 03:12 AM
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Even if you decide you want plastic surgery after you get the degree you will have the option with more cash flow. It is a win/win. I am planning on getting my masters in social work eventually, working on a bachelors rn.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 04:44 AM
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get the masters but only for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 10:30 PM
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skinny, not overly muscular. blue eyes dark hair. I specifically do not like really muscular large guys at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 05:15 PM
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how men treat animals and their mothers is how they treat you. I always kind of go for the more sensitive, quiet, mamas boys and I am very happy with my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 12:43 AM
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personal preference, not mental illness.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 03:38 AM
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so he is mentally ill because of clothing and body hair choices? He needs medication? uhh.....
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 07:09 PM
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I personally go for quiet skinny guys lol, I do not like overly muscular overly tall guys into sports. I dont think all women want a chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:50 PM
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HEY GUYS: Just a reminder, WE LIKE GETTING ASKED ON DATES IF YOU ARE POLITE. Even if we say no, it is still flattering! YOU GOT NOTHING TO LOOSE!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:01 PM
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Im monogamous, I would go with one until it did not work out and then try and pursue a relationship with another.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:57 PM
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I have 3 kids....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:45 PM
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My husband isn't tall, rich, super fit and does not have a college degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:51 PM
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This is the issue that I have, that they are obviously highly addicted, especially the online multiplayer games. I also found that he was getting social time and kind of ditching me for the games which made me feel jealous and upset.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 05:06 PM
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I totally relate, my husband is also a gamer and it has been a pretty big point of contention between us. I am a person who loves self improvement and holds herself to high standards. My husband has come a long way and really does not play games that much. I did cringe recently when he downloaded World of Warcraft but we talked about it and he said he would only play on weekends and this seems to be a great compromise. My husband has been working on himself quite a bit too, he is starting school…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 05:05 PM
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Let me tell you that there are so many levels of attraction that are literally subconscious and probably pheromonal- like different immune systems attract to give our babies the best chance of survival- So many things we don’t even consciously understand. Even the egg we have learned is selective over the individual sperm that it selects to let it be fertilized from. How men smell, how they talk or even how their energy feels all come into play- People on this sub want to make attraction a mathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:13 PM
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Looks in mirror: YES! 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 10:13 PM
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It really isn’t that black and white. Lots of us had lots of sex before we got married, and still got married to wonderful men. It’s a nice ideal but if you didn’t start with that, don’t sweat!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 01:00 AM
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😂 I ended up dating my ex for 3 years BC he was reading a Bob Dylan book!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:50 AM
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Lol yes I could see that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:48 AM
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Heck yes. Organic farmers 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 11:17 PM
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😂 I hope you married a musician! I unfortunately did not marry a musician, homesteader or book nerd 🤦‍♀️ My husband is really relaxed and is good with our kids though, so there’s that!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:56 PM
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Haha! I’m married now, so you can have them all lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:51 PM
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I also want to add long hair, beard, if he plays music, likes to read or is a homesteader/organic gardener.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:58 PM
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Reading a book :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:57 PM
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I just read the bullet points and want to point out that in no way is class indicative of your intelligence, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:12 AM
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I 100% believe my husband wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:01 AM
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My man never took me Out on a date before we were married- We met, hung out a lot and then had kids together. My husband isn’t rich (actually broke and in debt when we met), or tall BUT my husband is a good man, he is sweet, he listens to women and is a kind person who loves kids. These over generalizations are getting ridiculous!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 01:43 AM
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I always smile at people, am kind whenever I have the chance , these are just amazing things to do throughout life. Always give others the benefit of the doubt, treat others with love and respect.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 06:30 PM
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“Dating market?” you mean our BODIES/LIVES?? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:51 PM
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I had kids with my husband when I was 24 and he was 34 🤷‍♀️ he was with a 19 year old before me. He was NOT rich whatsoever, rather broke/in debt actually 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:12 PM
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Amen! This is so true!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:10 AM
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Yes I have a few. It’s great! I still call a few of my friends every week, others we hang out and have days where we do dinner/garden together. I will preface this with the fact that I used to live on a commune and so male/female friends are 100% normal. A couple of my guy friends made it obvious they were interested a while ago, I made it clear I was taken and we moved on and continued the friendship, they have partners now Anyways so it’s chill. My BFF has never had a girlfriend, I suspect he …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:09 AM
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Personally I don’t eat processed foods, rice, gluten, sugar, go out to eat and only eat organic or local food- basically I have to be really hungry and actually make real food- can’t eat snack foods really and have to cook healthy meals to eat so I don’t overeat.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 03:48 PM
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My husband 1000% feels needed- I am a tiny woman and I need him constantly all the time to help me with things- fixing the house, car maintenance, heck, even opening jars lol- He also helps with our kids a lot and I need him for that, I also need him for companionship, to go on long trips with me, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 05:26 PM
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I got accidentally pregnant at age 31, without trying, with no more than a tiny drop causing conception, I am sure you have some time. I am a fertility doula and fertility does not even start to decline until age 35- I also want to say that you don’t have to wait years to have a kid with someone, you could meet someone and have a kid rather quickly, if it feels right. I met my husband and we conceived within 3 months, it’s a little fast yet but it all worked out fine. There are quite a lot of th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 05:57 PM
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Why?
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 04:54 PM
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This is really going to be dependent on the individual woman- Some ladies who make bank but maybe perceive themselves as less attractive may want a man who just tends to the house and is a cutie pie. Some ladies who want to be homemakers maybe want a man who makes money so they can stay home. A good relationship complements each other, has a good blend of different attributes where different people bring their different skills to the table. Being able to make money is one skill, but so is being …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:08 PM
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Nah, I’m kinda my own brand of intense, not really hyper sexual at all. No problem with dating/marriage 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:50 AM
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It’s sugar and carbs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:20 PM
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I am going back to school at age 34- you can always start dating and take a long break from school until your babies are old enough if you end up having a serious relationship! I did a year and my credits transferred all these years so you can definitely start and then take a lonnnnng break 😊
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 05:05 PM
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How big was your age gap, if you don’t mind me asking?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:28 PM
2

Great advice!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:27 PM
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Yeah and see as a woman who has had 3 kids … it took me about 6.5 years of being pregnant/breastfeeding to make that happen… about 5 years between my first and last baby, if you want 3 kids you should realistically start in your mid twenties , maasaaybe later twenties, but it’s been a long hard road for me and I can’t imagine starting now at age 34! Pregnancy is hard on your body, not to mention it’s healthier for everyone in your twenties.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:26 PM
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Honestly, I think having a man who has the same priorities when it comes to a family as you is one of the single most important things. It’s a big decision BUT since women have to carry and give birth, I think our decisions should be weighted. I also understand what it’s like to have baby FEVER and want to have babies so badly- that it hurts to wait any longer. My ex did this to me when I was 23 and we broke up and I had my kids with my now husband at 24, I WAS ready then and I am still happy to…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:24 PM
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This ^
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 04:21 PM
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Yep, I have had 3 kids. I weighed 95lbs before having kids, 10 years since having my first and I weigh 101 now. I would actually like to gain weight. I don’t eat processed foods, go out to eat ever, eat gluten, refined sugars or rice. I snack on pecans and blueberry smoothies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:17 PM
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It was so hard for me to eat after having kids BC I wa so busy I lost weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:14 PM
3

Uhhh of course not I’m Married 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:13 PM
2

Oh heck yes, nope outta there on highway speed
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 02:32 PM
1

Of course I help and share with others- I do this for everyone regarding of pregnant or not- everyone deserves love, respect and kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:31 PM
2

Yeah I probably would but they would have to work doing something while I raised the little ones. My husband works right now, but I am in school and planning to work once my kids are older- Being pregnant and breastfeeding means I needed to be home with the kids for their younger years. Ultimately we plan on working part time for each parent eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:06 AM
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Meh. I think I’ve hit the wall, or starting too- I loved drinking in the sun and have smoked on and off for 20 years- I used to get attention from guys, not so much anymore- But really I don’t care so much, my husband is attracted to me and my body produced 3 beautiful healthy kids. I’m focusing on my education currently and other things in my life :) So my answer is you’ll probably know.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 03:19 AM
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Not everyone cares about looks and money. I wouldn’t say I was ugly in my youth, but I ended up running away to a wilderness community and married a broke guy haha never even crossed my mind to chase guys for their material wealth- more about personality, looks and companionship 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:55 PM
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So to a degree how big or small you are is dependent on your metabolism and your bones, you can be a larger healthy person or a smaller healthy person. People have their individual preferences for what they find attractive. That’s the end of it, end of story. There is no ultimate attractive or not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 08:53 PM
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Have been into alternative scenes most of my life- I tend to like broke hippie musicians with dreadlocks or long hair 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:58 AM
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I was ready to marry in my early twenties. Had my first baby at 24, engaged by 27, waited a while to actually tie the knot but married with 3 kids by 30. Can’t complain, glad I had my kids younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:53 PM
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exactly this. I was in a bad place in my life after my last kid- pandemic, 3 kids, no help, no friends, never leaving my house- I refused to take anti anxiety meds because I knew it was my situation. Years later I am so glad I did not take anything because I have healed so much on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 01:05 AM
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thank god for someone talking sense in all this mess. I support LGBTQ rights but this whole take a bunch of hardcore drugs is out of control. My good friend committed suicide after taking synthetic testosterone. the healthcare practitioner that they trusted gave them drugs that caused severe emotional side effects KNOWING they had a history of mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 01:04 AM
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You don’t need to ask on Reddit, lol, just kidding but forreal, when you know you KNOW.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 07:58 PM
2

Also don’t feel like you need a big wedding. I got married without any guests, in an extremely low budget/chill situation with my kiddos in tow. It’s about the commitment, that’s it. Also, just because it feels like everyone else does announcements and parties for these things like babies and marriage, you don’t have too. I didn’t do any of those things with any of my kids or my marriage or anything.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 02:17 PM
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You’ll never feel ready, pregnancy is always an emotional time of change and even if you think your ready- pregnancy always throws you for a loop. You’ll get through this, just try to Not overthink it. Pregnancy hormones 😊
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 02:16 PM
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I also want to say that really what is attractive is health- Good skin, healthy hair, good teeth, healthy weight for your body(because people have different body types.) Also I think what isn’t being talked about is men can be beautiful, and a handsome, symmetrical face goes a LONG way for guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:33 AM
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This is true to a degree but I’m just not attracted to certain body types sexually. I’ve noticed an innate preference for eye color even 🤷‍♀️ I’m female.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:25 AM
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Personally, guys/girls that are too muscular are a 100% no for me. I just have a preference for men with a smaller body frame, but I’m very tiny and maybe that’s genetics speaking in me wanting to find a partner that won’t give me kids that will be too big? I think people largely choose/have a preference for partners with a similar body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:23 AM
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I am personally all about the feminine but I think others should do what makes them happy. We’re all different. I personally prefer to just have babies, cook and not work, but I have always been super feminine, I lived on a farm where it was venerated for women to do the “masculine work” and I TRIED to run chainsaws and work on cars- that stuff sucks lol i hate power tools, not for me. I do like gardening and I do enjoy chopping wood though ;)
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 11:48 PM
1

Free universal income for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:04 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 06:10 PM
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I disagree. Porn is disgusting, degrading to women and creates a feedback loop where you want more and more. It’s all about brain chemicals- the more you stimulate dopeamine the more you need BC it causes a crash, also causes you to enjoy the basic, simple things in life less. I wouldn’t date a man who watches porn and my husband does not watch it. As a result we have a good sex life. I think porn leads to crimes against women, unrealistic expectations in sex and women’s bodies. Jack off if you …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:38 PM
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Dated a man that was gay. Wouldn’t do it, grossed him out 😂 all I’m going to say.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 09:23 PM
2

Relationships aren’t as black/white as jobs or business transactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 06:30 PM
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Ok, I understand that, child neglect sucks. I do think anti Natalism is a personal choice however, because it is a philosophical decision based on personal morals and beliefs about the nature of life. I think to a degree that there are a multitude of personal reasons that drive people to have kids, some of it is not even a choice IMO. It seems that we both despise child neglect, but instead of blaming the parents I personally blame capitalism and our messed up distribution of wealth for a LOT of…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:22 AM
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I think overall girls are preferred in our society for a multitude of reasons. Mostly I think parents want both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 01:11 AM
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We’re probably what most people would consider working class to be honest. We bought one week before 2020.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:19 PM
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Oh dang, yeah that’s tough! We are lucky and bought a decent sized home in a nice neighborhood with a large yard (almost an acre), that’s not too expensive and we are scraping by on one income for now, so I can stay home. Housing has gone up a ton here but we bought before it got insane, back in 2019, when in our area you could afford a decent home for one low income job.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 07:07 PM
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What’s hard to do? Be an engineer? I spend hours with my kids homeschooling everyday and I think my son has a good chance at this is he plays his cards right.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:33 PM
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Ok so you consider just clothing and food to be necessities? Others in this discussion were saying processed foods, their own room And college paid for. Yea kids need to be clothed and have food, I agree with that. I don’t agree that kids need vacations, piano lessons and private school.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:31 PM
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Adequate resources is totally subjective. Loving parents? Sure! Lots of time and opportunities, sure! But not everyone needs vacations and expensive clothes and their own room.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:27 PM
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Ok this is disgusting, fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:15 PM
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Excuse me, I am low income and have 3 kids, I spend a lot of my Time homeschooling and working with my kids, my middle son wants to be an engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:13 PM
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What does this mean? Maybe people with less know they can’t afford all the things for their kids, but thanks to a shitty corrupt system they can either be poor and have kids or never have any kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:12 PM
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This may be the issue if your single! Of course love exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:37 PM
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Redpill is generalizations, generalizations aren’t always true, people still have personal preference, and love can always surprise anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 12:23 PM
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I am a stay at home mom, my husband works. We homeschool, I take care of the kids, clean and grow food in our garden. I have worked in the past, part time from home, but this was getting too stressful for me. I plan on doing a side hustle from home when my kids are a little older and I have more time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:31 AM
2

Yes seriously! Being social, smiling, being funny and being able to hang——- underrated!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:34 AM
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If your hanging out and having fun (I have to say even though I don’t drink a LOT of romantic relationships start with alcohol/social gatherings with alcohol), your way more likely to meet people! People who sit at home and work and have no social skills are going to have less of a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:09 PM
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If porn useage correlates to not having kids or relationships, my relationships statistically fit that-
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:51 PM
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Well this would make sense as all 3 of my long term partners were not porn watchers
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:39 PM
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You think lowered birth rates are correlative to porn usage?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:18 PM
1

Interesting. Marriage specifically though? Lot different than relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:14 PM
3

How are you assuming there is a decline? Most people I know are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:57 PM
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So firstly, just want to say a lot of men wear makeup. Secondly, people do what other people do, they get cues from others on how to dress, act, look, etc- it’s called culture. Women probably feel like they need to wear makeup because it is culturally normal. Personally, I wear mascara some days but that’s really it- for me, I don’t like makeup but I generally don’t like the ingredients in makeup and don’t use. I grew up in a culture where makeup and shaving were considered abnormal, was noticed…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 07:42 PM
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I enjoy hearing others opinions that differ from my own and I’m interested in what others have to say. I didn’t really “date” as I lived on a rural isolated farming community and met my husband there, so it’s a new world haha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 03:24 AM
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Well yes I am saying that, but I am also saying most violent crimes are committed by men. In my twenties I went to a lot of festivals and I always watched my back, men were constantly hitting on me, heck I even got proposed too, I had a man offer to “buy me for a night” for a ten strip of LSD once, I constantly got followed around, hit on, woken up in my tent by guys- I mean as a woman you learn pretty early on that men are trying to have sex with you and a lot of times they are aggressive about…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:35 PM
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Have you listened to true crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:36 PM
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Yes I think this too.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 12:34 PM
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We dated when we were really young, 18 to early 20s. He had dated women before but hadn’t had a long term relationship before me. All of his best friends were women though and he called himself bi sexual. Never had another relationship with a woman after me, only hookups but has had some longer relationships with men. Vaginas grossed him out, never seemed super into me, should have been a red flag. I was young too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 12:28 PM
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My ex wouldn’t do that, turns out he is gay. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 01:35 AM
1

whaaaaat? I LOVE skinny guys, I actually do not like super muscular guys whatsoever, but the skinny guys? Totally my body type that I love. But, I am also very tiny also.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:31 AM
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Something changed in me when I was pregnant for the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 03:33 PM
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Not often at all, but I am kind of a weirdo, lived on a commune my whole 20s, so I wasn’t exactly dating/finding a partner the way most people do. I always enjoy getting different perspectives from others though, so I enjoy reading and learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 10:15 PM
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I stay home with my kiddos, we share our bank account and I do the finances, I usually mention purchases to my husband but he isn’t super concerned with spending if I want to get something like a dress or something. Our budget is pretty tight but we try not to stress about it too much. We have a loose budget we do for most things every once in a while to know where we are at. Things change month to month obviously, some months our expenses are higher and other months they are lower.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 12:53 PM
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Statistically your more likely to meet a man who isn’t rich- it depends what you want- do you want companionship and to have two incomes? Do you want kids? My husband isn’t rich whatsoever, but he has great health, is very handsome and is a great dad- yeah, we struggle financially with me staying home with our kids but I still think of myself as lucky to have a husband, own a home and have 3 beautiful kiddos!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 06:10 PM
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Trans women are that, trans women. I don’t think trans women are the same as women, obviously having a female hormonal system, the ability to get pregnant and growing up in a society where women are treated a certain way and being female bodied is different than having a mans body. People can do what they want, and that’s fine, but you can’t just decide your female and claim equality with people born female. I see there as being many shades to gender I guess and trans women are trans women, kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 01:53 AM
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Nah, I love my man and love my kiddos.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:01 PM
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My man Definitely gets that!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:39 AM
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Of course, silly, that’s how kids are made! But forreal, yeah of course we have sex! But also, sex isn’t the most important thing in a relationship, especially when you have 3 kids 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:34 AM
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I’m happy with my “normal, common man” lol - we have three kids and he may not be super tall or super rich but he’s my man and I love him- we have 3 kiddos.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:25 AM
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I really think if there is any option for someone to keep the baby it’s the best option, or to adopt, I really really do. I have 3 kids and I love them more than life, I act as support for women trying to get pregnant and in labor as my job, BUT I also think at some point when it’s risking the mother’s life or mental health (and I’m not talking a little bit of discomfort, I’m talking like really worried about psychosis), then abortion is the best option. It’s also the best to do it as early as p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:35 PM
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Everyone’s choice. What people don’t realize is for some mothers going through pregnancy and birth can be life threatening or cause severe mental illness. Even people that think they’ll never be in this situation could be. It sucks, and life is precious but people should have a right to choose for their own bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:41 PM
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Not a big deal at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:01 PM
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I see beautiful women EVERY DAY, they aren’t all taken, they aren’t all dumb or mean, they aren’t all super picky either. Are your standards crazy high or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:27 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 03:05 PM
5

You are correct! Not 30!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 02:44 PM
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I have LOTS of friends who conceived easily at 36 and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 02:43 PM
3

I had kids at 24 and can’t stress enough how happy I am that I had 3 kids before 30, they are my life and I love them so much, we’re actually considering going for a fourth. I think though that to be a really good mother trying to do both is really unrealistic, I have tried working from home and I always feel really unhealthy and stressed, but that said I also homeschool my kids, so maybe if they were in school it would be ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 02:42 PM
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I still think if a man loves you he won’t care about your N count, or if he does then he isn’t the right man for you, plain and simple. If this was such a dealbreaker why wouldn’t be bring this up earlier? I think that speaks to his personality and integrity and raises some red flags in my personal opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 03:36 PM
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Sounds like he is using RP to justify his own intentions. Sounds messed up and like you deserve better. Sex can make babies and no birth control is 100%, also sex is a highly intimate act, I would be PISSED. Also, he could literally give you an STD that could harm your unborn child. Don’t have sex with him anymore and look into breaking up, that’s what I would do.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 01:55 AM
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Well I can relate but on the other side, meaning I am not always wanting sex- which I think is normal considering I have 3 kids. I think it’s important to not push your partner and also you should understand that in a marriage you should be ready to satisfy yourself and sex is a great bonus if both couples are into it. I think there are some natural supplements they could help your partner by the way, my first thoughts are maca, shatavari or pine pollen-
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 01:25 PM
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Well, when I was a 21 year old female I spent my days on a rural farm commune, played tons of folk music, hitchhiked around, had lots of sex and drank a ton of beer and went hiking/hung out in the creek. No regrets lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:19 PM
2

Sarcasm? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 10:44 PM
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Do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:01 PM
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Is this sarcasm? I’m assuming so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 04:51 PM
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Ask your partner how to please her! It’s that simple!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 03:17 PM
1

Ok, thanks :) 10 years strong so far, three kids in!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:34 PM
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Nah, I feel confident about myself, I don’t need to think about myself as unattractive due to a random internet stranger who has never met me telling me so. I lived on a rural farming community in my twenties and met my husband there, I didn’t choose a man based on their money, we all made the same monthly stipend. My husband is sweet, kind and super attentive and I think super handsome (he isn’t super tall though.) Not all women choose men for the same reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:32 PM
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I like to think I’m pretty attractive and my man isn’t rich or tall lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 06:26 PM
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If we didn’t have kids my husband would be ok with me staying home, I do like to keep busy though, if I didn’t have kids I would probably devote myself full time to homesteading/gardening or work on projects for money or else I would get bored.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 01:24 PM
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Sometimes man/woman friendships are just awesome- most of my long term good friends are men 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:48 AM
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Well, I get where your coming from, I do….but not all men are like this. I think that our toxic capitalistic culture has created perverse versions of men and women in some ways, but not all men are like this. My best friend (not my husband) is a man and is smart, sweet, kind and very smart- he spends his life gardening for a community to try and help heal the planet, he adores animals and small children. My husband does not give a F about how many men I slept with before him, he is kind and cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:38 AM
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Look into people who want to homestead.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 01:07 AM
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I’m female and I have always gone for the nice, sweet guys. Married to one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 01:50 PM
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Yes I mean anyone that thinks that taking care of your husband is "being his mom" is going to have a hard time with a relationship... Yes, I take care of my husband but he also takes care of me, we play to our innate strengths. This week we are sick and so my husband has been helping more with kids/house and if he gets sick I will do the same for him. My husband has NO style sense and I do a lot of deep cleaning so of course I buy his clothes for him, I am good at it. I feel really lucky me and …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 07:00 PM
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Hey psychotic nurse- I realized you are commenting to the lady who called me out- not me- sorry, I am sensitive being called a “mom” to my husband…. It’s shitty. Of course I take care of my husband, he’s my man and he also takes care of me. I take care of my kids BUT they don’t take care of me in return, that’s the difference .
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 05:41 PM
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Ok, firstly I’m happily married to an amazing man. Secondly you said that I think “it’s bad to take care of my man”- when I literally just posted in this thread how much I do to take care of my man… sooo how does that add up? I’m a stay at home mother of three, happily married to my wonderful husband.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 05:38 PM
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Dang that’s harsh lmao
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 03:19 PM
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You said it yourself, you love Him so much. Your in love. Don’t overthink it, you don’t need to be sobbing everyday when he is gone, it shows your healthy in my opinion. We adapt, we handle situations with grace! You got this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 06:47 PM
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Can we define mothering?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 04:20 PM
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Mothering your husband is a good thing…. I mother mine… don’t see an issue with it
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 03:40 PM
3

Thank you, I will accept your pseudo award lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 09:54 PM
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I agree with you. I do most of the cooking and cleaning in our home (I’m female) because I’m better at it, and my husband does the handy and fixing stuff because he is better at it. I still do some handy stuff and help with yard work and my husband does dishes and helps with the kids. In a relationship having a good mix of skills is essential, as is mutual respect and playing to your strengths, an equal partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 08:33 PM
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First and foremost, modeling good behavior. I think having my husband modeling what it looks like to help with chores, be consistent and be a good husband is important. I also am a firm believer in attachment parenting and gentle parenting. We are homeschooling our children, so he will be less exposed to certain aspects of toxic American peer culture. We do family outings, we talk about our feelings a LOT, we show physical affection often in our family, we emphasize being empathetic and showing …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:26 AM
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Usually I cook and clean for my husband and take care of him when he is sick. I buy all of his clothes and shoes. However my husband does take care of me when I’m sick as well and I get a daily massage and he helps me with my garden and he does all the dishes (I do most of the rest of the cleaning , but I’m also home all day with the kids.) I make my husbands doctors appointments and attend to his medical stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 04:12 PM
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Exactly! I look back on my twenties and feel like I had an absolute blast and I had 3 kids before 30. Now I’m 33 with three gorgeous kids and I feel like I have learned so much and have something to show for my hard work and dedication.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:57 AM
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I can’t imagine this. I’m 33 and I feel so much older than I did in my early twenties. I had 3 kids before 30 and had 3 very low risk, healthy pregnancies and births. Can’t imagine starting a family now and having to go through 8 years of breastfeeding and years of pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:53 AM
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Starting having kids at 24, has 3 by 30. No regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:50 AM
1

Men that love kids, animals, their family. Men who love books, the environment, taking care of themself and eating well. I personally like men who are feminine , quiet and gentle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 12:32 AM
1

Him and his ex weren’t really close, didn’t sound like at all. They don’t talk regularly or else I’d be weirded out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 12:30 AM
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My husband is friends with his ex wife 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:21 PM
6

So so so many men out there who would absolutely love a partner. You sound like your a catch, just gotta get out there and don’t give Up.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 10:25 PM
1

It seems like your wanting to put a lot of control into your weight… do you have a regular diet you eat? Maybe just focus on a specific exercise routine that isn’t too strenuous and focus on eating healthy but without being restrictive and see where that gets you. I bet that would get you to a gorgeous weight, and then it’s win/win without having to put too much work into it. I think there is no objective answer on what the most attractive weight is, different men are going to have different pre…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 02:12 AM
1

Looked at your photos, your gorgeous! You have a beautiful face and complexion and look super sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 01:17 AM
1

I’m really small and have a small frame, I have given up trying to gain a lot of weight because it isn’t happening without binge eating junk food. I’m 5’5 and 103 lbs, I’m happy with my build and weight. I got a lot of attention in my twenties at a little smaller than that, I used to weigh more like 95-100. I don’t have conventional breasts and butt so much but I’m healthy for my body type :) don’t stress so much about it, just try and be healthy! I also think different guys like different body …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 01:14 AM
1

Hey- my BMI is 15. I’m tiny, I’ve always been tiny. No problem getting pregnant, had 100% low risk healthy pregnancies, easy uncomplicated natural births, breastfed my babies for years. Please don’t say that women look “scrawny” and are unhealthy if they are too skinny. It’s really hard to have heard nasty things about my weight my whole life. There is a natural variation in build and body type that’s healthy for other people, my percentile with weight is .02% and that’s healthy for me. I’m 5’5 …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 01:11 AM
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I think many mental illnesses can be prevented or at least highly managed through diet and lifestyle choices. The founder of the GAPS diet (https://www.gapsdiet.com/), who is a neurologist noticed a huge correlation in gut health and mental illness and started a diet that helps people to heal/reverse the symptoms. I think reducing toxic exposure and really embracing a whole food diet during pregnancy really gives your child the best start, as well as having a natural birth without antibiotics. M…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 09:03 PM
6

Nah you get it girl. I’m a stay at home Mom Now, I wish I would have been told staying home was a valid career choice when I was younger.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 08:24 PM
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Your dodging a bullet here.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 02:17 PM
2

The femcels I know fit with what your saying.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 07:24 PM
2

The matrilineal Minangkabau- they still exist today in Indonesia. There is a whole book written on them actually. I don’t know how you are going to chance what other women are attracted too… Personally I don’t like overly muscled or large men being that I am smaller and I like my men a little quieter and a little more shy… I have a great husband that was picked over I feel by others but we work really well together 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 12:21 AM
1

I think you are taking what you see and projecting quite a lot, most of the USA is not polyamorous whatsoever. Also, you slept with a married man?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 09:54 PM
1

So your saying women are sleeping with multiple men and that’s super hurtful to the men? That you want to try and champion the cause of these men who are being taken advantage by a whole culture of women who cheat on them? That’s a LOT of generalizations and seems like an impossible task. Seems like you would feel better changing your personal environment, all of my female friends are married and monogamous…. I see 0 of what your talking about… I think worrying about yourself and your own relati…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 09:51 PM
2

Ah, I was wondering if maybe you had personal hurt related to this topic before. I ask you how it makes it harder for you to be happy when others practice polyamory? I had an ex who wanted to be poly, I also got burned, but I don’t blame polyamory, I blame my ex. My husband is also 100% as into monogamy and ME as he can be and so I don’t worry whatsoever. There will always be competition whether or not someone is RP or feminist, it’s just the natural world. When you find your Man I would hope yo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 09:10 PM
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Yeah but I don’t think we should socially enforce either. Even if someone else’s poly relationship looks like a mess to you, it’s their choice to go that way. The beauty of the world is there are so many people in it! History does not prove anything necessarily, that’s your view on the small amount of history you have studied. A lot of groups had successful forms of polyamory pre industrial civilization. Sorry but this mindset of you being right and everyone else being wrong and then wanting to …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 06:48 PM
2

Yeah I agree with you but the sentiment of letting others make their own relationship choices goes a long way :) to each their own.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 05:55 PM
8

Yes exactly. When women are forced into the workplace instead of being allowed to be mothers and homemakers it creates a lot of issues. Our whole system is F’ed up.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 03:56 PM
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Honestly where as I am into monogamy I can’t say it’s best for everyone, what others do is their own business and I do not judge.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 03:55 PM
10

I like feminine men.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 12:46 PM
1

Wishing the best for you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 03:15 AM
2

Yea I agree. It always felt right with my husband and we both really were on board with kids from the get go, it worked (actually currently working) nicely. Just put it out there on first date you want kids soon! You may meet someone who is just as excited as you are about it!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:48 AM
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Also, I had kids with my husband after knowing him for not very long, we actually got pregnant before we were even dating 😧. Where as my story is not the norm And I don’t advise, I just illustrate that you can go from single to in a great relationship pretty quickly. Me and my husband have been together for 10.5 years and are happily married with 3 kids now!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 11:32 PM
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You have time, relax.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 11:31 PM
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Chemistry is important. I think you saying it’s all about penis size is misleading, sounds like it was more about it being awkward and you not enjoying it. I also think him beating himself up afterwards is a huge red flag also, sounds like he has some unresolved confidence issues. I personally don’t care about penis size at all, but is important for me and my man to have good chemistry, for me I actually prefer men with smaller body types in general because I am super tiny myself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 06:54 PM
2

I don’t tend to base what we do as a family on what is considered normal to be honest, our western society has become toxic on so many levels and we make decisions based on our own research and intuition on so many subjects. I read a study recently that basically said relationships with porn were way more likely to have issues. I think our society in general is over sexualized to an insane degree and I am really happy with putting a priority on communication and closeness in general, not necessa…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 05:00 PM
2

I love gardening, environmental education/study/awareness , cooking, reading, playing guitar
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 09:33 PM
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Yeah and it works for me and my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 03:12 PM
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Yes this. Never had a boyfriend who was into porn, made things a lot easier as I consider it cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 04:13 AM
1

Yea!! I love classical too
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 10:55 PM
5

Classical music. I have been listening to Vivaldi.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:49 PM
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I think that using health foods, supplements , fasting and exercise can bring about way more positive changes than surgery.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:48 PM
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I try not to ascribe to the "all men want one thing" deal. I personally do have a flat stomach, even after having 3 kids BUT I also have a flat chest and a mostly flat butt, it comes with the territory of having a tiny frame and a fast metabolism. We all have nice things about our bodies and things that maybe we do not love. No one is perfect. Also, not all men like the same things. My husband was obsessed with my pregnant body when I was actually curvy, I also loved it!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 02:27 PM
1

This is a fetish BDSM thing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 11:22 PM
2

Rural farming community ;)
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 02:46 AM
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If you still want to make money after you have a kid? Something where you don’t end up in debt, something that is flexible hours, part time and WFM. I’m a SAHM and I have taught online , had a bread business out of my house and also re sold clothing. I’d love a job where I was NOT a 1099 contractor with regular work but that I could do in my own time with flexible hours. Flexible hours is a must.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 03:51 PM
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I have seen the women my husband used to date. We shall just say they aren’t like me. I still married him. My husband was one I think a lot of women looked over for marriage. My husband really shines in his calm demeanor, work ethic, ability and desire to raise children and his faithfulness to me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 01:32 AM
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Because inevitably a fight is going to happen and if you speak your mind he will likely view it as disrespectful. Just seems like a lot to have to speak perfectly at all times or else he will leave, or get angry.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 02:29 PM
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Your femininity is not defined by your clothing, it is defined by your essence, and literally your menstruating which is the epitome of feminine. In a relationship your partner will eventually see you on bad days, through illness and through health, it’s the way it goes. My husband has seen me through natural childbirth, stomach flus, bad days, etc, it’s normal, no one looks beautiful all the time. Relationships need vulnerability and honesty. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Your human.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 09:51 PM
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I think the “disrespectful” thing could be a big red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 07:39 PM
1

Oh gosh I totally understand where your coming from. Hang in there! Postpartum period is so tough! I go back and forth on #4, but that postpartum period is what gets me and makes me nervous.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 03:54 PM
1

Yea on the have not stopped, it’s so wild, I hardly have any time to eat either most days and even on the days where I don’t stop I still feel guilty I didn’t do enough.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 05:02 AM
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I got baby fever like that at 23 and got pregnant the month I turned 24. It was a little hard if a transition BC none of my friends had babies but I just was OBSESSED with my baby, loved pregnancy and had an easy time with it and now I’m 33 with 3 kids 8,6,3- so I’m still energetic and feeling good but they are old enough to do fun stuff. Overall, would recommend starting young. Plus I’m 33.5 and have the option for another without being too old!
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 05:01 AM
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Omfg this is so cute!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/23 08:54 PM
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When we first met my husband wouldn’t leave me alone, hanker chief or no.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 10:03 PM
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Yes for sure. Look for inspiration in some of the Goddesses like Kali who was both creator and destroyer.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 12:43 PM
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Gosh well I’m married with 3 kids and it hit me that I’m turning 34 this summer, I only have maybe 3 years to get pregnant and then I wouldn’t feel comfortable and I’m like damn….. I feel old. I also looked at some photos of myself at 24 and I look so much older. Damn.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 09:58 PM
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I would seek therapy, I am sure you look amazing at 27 and if your this stressed at 27 how are you going to feel at 37?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 07:19 PM
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But…. But…… pocket leggings are the best and so comfy!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 01:38 AM
1

I just said something really similar To this haha
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 01:37 AM
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It’s similar style but just wear more colors! Go for natural fibers (always better), like linen and cotton dresses but keep it a little more youthful with floral prints, pastel colors and minimal tasteful jewelry. Less is way more with makeup. Even in my Thirties I still only wear mascara and maybe a touch of eyeliner. The more simple your clothing hair and makeup are , it allows your natural youth and feminine beauty to show- as that is really your main attribute, not the clothes. I see some cu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 01:36 AM
2

Oh sure I would love to be mom Friends!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 01:38 PM
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That’s good! We live in Arkansas, so similar COL. How old are your kiddos? Send some prayers over for my husband to get in a better spot soon- we’re really hoping! I’m glad it’s working out for you :) we are getting by and I will admit yesterday was a pretty stressful day with all days considered, hoping today is better :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 01:26 PM
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Wow I’m Impressed!! My husband has been trying to level up in the career and so taking a ton of extra time for that, not to mention we are low income so I make all of our food from scratch, sell bread out of our house (lots of dishes!), we homeschool and we have 0 family and can’t afford a babysitter. I miss having my husband to help more, it’s so hard with him working 60 hours!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 03:12 AM
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Dang. Mine are all out of diapers and I am so exhausted I could cry right now- my house is still trashed and I haven’t had 10 mins to myself in Over a week.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 12:40 AM
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My husband was with a 19 year old when he was 34 (before we were together)- I knew him and we were friends and it was a complete shit show. Seemed to be a world apart in maturity levels, but that was them. They broke up and we got together- Honestly I was embarrassed for him when they were together, it was embarrassing and spoke to his maturity that he was with a 19 year old. They had completely different priorities and end up Breaking up BC she wanted to party and he had a kid and needed to set…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 10:41 PM
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That’s crazy honestly. You can’t say how your going to Look in the future and that’s shallow af. What about if you get sick? Or loose a limb from an accident or something? He sounds shallow.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 01:58 AM
1

Well I wasn’t raised by my dad, just my Mom- I would say that it was hard due to the fact that my mother was forced to focus on her career and money and as teenagers we had really no parenting- but other than having a disadvantage with having help to prepare for college/school and more guidance I feel like I turned out OK. I’m happily married now with 3 kids, we own a home and I’m happy I didn’t go for a career- I’m only 33 and could take classes in the future if I wanted. I would say from perso…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 05:33 PM
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Love this
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 01:24 AM
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There is no ugly! Men come in all shapes sizes personalities and ethnicities and so do women! I believe there is someone out there for everyone and even if you are more unique looking you’ll find someone who thinks your gorgeous!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 01:20 AM
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Yes exactly us too!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 10:17 PM
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4 kids! That’s a lot!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 10:17 PM
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Crop tops make me very uncomfortable lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 09:22 PM
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I really love natural fibers, comfortable clothing in pastel or earth tones- I wear a lot of short cotton dresses in the summer - I feel ok with having my legs exposed in shorter dresses but I also don’t like low cut tops or clothes that are garish or loud. Maybe there is a compromise with pretty and feminine but maybe dresses that show more legs and arms but without cleavage or anything too revealing? And FYI bras suck, you’ll love it!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 09:22 PM
1

I love the “boring” with my husband- I get a little massage every night and we watch movies sometimes- we don’t have money for fancy date nights or babysitters but it’s alright. Honestly when you have one partner working a job, running a side hustle and then you have 3 kids and 3 cats and a vegetable garden life is always so busy! Not much time for drama 😂
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 03:37 PM
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I’m not bored I have 3 kids
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 02:23 PM
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Check out Mountain Man- beautiful feminine folk music. I really like straight up classical also.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 10:12 PM
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Women can also be attracted to power or status. There are different levels of attraction and you can definitely be attracted to someone's kindness or personality also. I do not think the attraction to status will fade. That being said I married my husband because he is a good and kind person and we get along, not because he was the richest, most educated, had the highest status or because he is the most physically attractive man I have ever met.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 02:59 PM
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A study just came out that I happened to see in the "science" subreddit about how basically across the board couples are less happy when there is porn in the relationship. I really just do not understand how porn does not bother people. I think it may be just another toxic element of our culture that has been so normalized and used we have forgotten what life was like without it and somehow feel the need to venerate or defend it. I am starting to feel the same way about caffeine.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 12:14 PM
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Never been with a guy who watched porn. They exist. I consider it cheating personally and think it’s highly disruptive for relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 12:16 AM
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Yes I think it’s damaging the image that society puts on women, that we need to be super sexual beings or something is wrong with us. I used to feel the same way as OP, but I realized my sex drive is FINE- I have a week where we enjoy it almost everyday and then the rest of the cycle not so much. We can do other things such as massages or cuddling or I can get my husband off if I’m not into it! I feel normal and like that’s healthy! I don’t think very many relationships can sustain a super frequ…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 02:11 PM
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I have an unpopular opinion that it’s 100% normal and natural for women to really only be horny around ovulation and before their period due to hormones. I also think it’s normal to not feel horny when your pressured or feel like something is a chore. I’ve been in relationships where I felt pressured and sex was the last thing I wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 04:17 AM
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What’s a sigma male
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 10:29 PM
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It’s ok I got banned for posting on another forum this week- can’t even remember the name 😂
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 12:39 AM
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Women who run with the wolves!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 08:53 PM
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I feel you, I’m 33 with 3 kids (would like a fourth but probably shouldn’t due to finances), and my husband currently makes 15$/hr working at a grocery store- we’re pretty broke almost all the time and despite my husband putting all of his free time into job hunting and interviewing it’s tough. It feels like we’re always hustling for an extra dollar or worrying about money. I did start a little side hustle this year baking bread, and that helps a little- it’s a job I can do while watching my kid…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 02:14 PM
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My now husbands count was WAY higher than mine ever was 😂 he does not care what I did before, as long as I’m his now.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 11:59 PM
2

Those that mind don’t matter and those who don’t mind, matter :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 11:57 PM
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It was a crazy story actually, I was with another man off and on for about 7 years and it was an awful relationship in a lot of ways because he is essentially Homosexual and a musician who always wanted to travel- he eventually kept wanting an open relationship and we broke up- I was crying one night (a little drunk) to a friend about how badly I wanted babies and he confessed he did too- we got pregnant the next month…. we weren’t together for then first year of my sons life except to co-parent…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 11:27 PM
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I didn’t have any plans really, didn’t grow up with two parents and my mother always told me to go for the career- I moved to a rural farming community at age 17 and when I was 23 I got baby fever, 24 got pregnant with a friend after confessing I wanted babies and he did too- we then got together when my son was a year and had two more children by 30. Moved away from Farming community at age 30. Happily married now at 33 with 3 kids, we talk about a fourth but no serious plans. Very happy with h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 11:19 PM
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“This is your brain on birth control”- is pretty interesting. I really love “Taking charge of your fertility”- as a general guide to female cycles. “The period repair manual” is a great guide to helping our cycles into balance naturally. I think diet is key to helping our bodies have a healthy hormonal balance, as is avoiding endocrine disrupters as much as possible, filtering out water, buying high quality food, avoiding toxic personal care products/makeup/clothing. I really love the book “Real…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 02:27 PM
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You got many good years of fertility left- take care of yourself and stay away from chemical birth control, eat well and try to live a low toxic lifestyle- so much can change in a short time- me and my husband got pregnant within weeks of getting together- now we are happily married with three kids. Don’t stress- fertility does not even start declining till 35. I got pregnant at 30 very easily and feel my fertility is still super strong at 33.5 years.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 03:53 AM
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I have heard some regrets the other way but it seems to be women who feel like they are missing out on some thing they are supposed to have in their twenties, or who do not have a good support system or friends with kids. I did a lot of fun stuff with my first like going to festivals, travelling and backpacking and it was pretty fun :) I am also a natural caretaker, nurturer and homebody and so I enjoy being with my kids, not to say there havent been hard times (after I had my third and moved to…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 03:04 AM
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Thanks! You too! Congrats on putting family first and your plan sounds solid- you won’t regret having kids young I love it so much
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:53 AM
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Fingers crossed for you! When I was your age my boyfriend didn’t want kids (still does not have them and he is mid thirties) and I ended up getting with my now husband who is 10 years older than me who REALLY wanted kids ASAP- we basically got pregnant right off the bat- worked out well! He is basically like whenever you want a baby let me know I won’t pull out 🥰 love it
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:25 AM
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So, don’t worry about the birth control, that’s not a long time… but I do think women who are on it long term do not realize it could basically rob them of their fertility. If you want 3 by 30 and plan to breastfeed I would start by 24- we have 2.5 age gaps between my 3 and I physically got pregnant the first time I was able with all 3 of mine, breastfeeding made my cycles start later and it’s really best to have closer to a 3 year age gap for your body. You can start now with your fertility by …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:59 AM
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I was so lucky to read taking charge of your fertility and spiritual midwifery at age 18- changed my life! I never went on birth control, always ate well and was into nutrition and had my first baby at 24- so happy I was able to have 3 before 30- I had an easy time getting pregnant and easy low risk pregnancies and natural births with a midwife. Now I’m 33 and have the option of a fourth if I would like. I’m a homemaker and I’m glad I get to stay home with my babies and am not saddled with loans…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:39 AM
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My husband gets up with the kids and sleeps in their beds sometimes as he falls asleep with them, so I understand. I do not like to cuddle while sleeping, I just want to sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 07:25 PM
2

I don’t! I have Birkenstock’s for summer and cute knee high leather boots for winter!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 01:03 AM
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You seem like you are into natural botanicals so I may have some to add: look into hydrosols, technically witch hazel that you mentioned is a hydrosol. I really love rose or lavender, you can mist your face/hair and skin and it smells great. I have also been doing lymphatic skin brushing every day for better skin and all-over health. I have been using sea buckthorn before bed on my face to improve my skin tone.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 03:20 AM
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It will say the vitamin and then (from algae or whatever they derived it from)- naturelo brand is what I take- it’s priced well and I feel like they work well!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 08:12 PM
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The thing with multivitamins is to get one that is made from Whole Foods, you want one with folate instead of folic acid. I take naturelo, I also like new chapter organics. I have a MTFR mutation so it’s vital for me to get folate and B12 daily. I also take magnesium, a mineral supplement made from bones, liver capsules (loaded with nutrients), a daily probiotic as well as some herbs that promote a healthy immune response. I take vitamin C in the form of acerola cherries daily also. I have heard…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 06:01 PM
2

Yes I think the personality thing is huge, all of my guy friends are probably somewhere on the Autism spectrum, super nerdy and intelligent, quiet and introverted and we hang out and usually chat about obscure topics, or they enjoy hanging with my kiddos.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 06:44 PM
1

Some of my best friends are male, BUT I also lived in a rural farming community for years with some of them, and the culture is just different. My best friend is coming over on Friday, we usually have a day where we hang out and chat and have a meal together. He is a sensitive, introverted person and has never, EVER tried anything weird, we have been close friends for about 16 years now. Am I trying to make male friends in town nowadays? NO, and I have a happy marriage BUT I really love and cher…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 06:42 PM
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Hooking up isn't just "hooking up"- it is engaging in a spiritual act, the act that CREATES NEW LIFE, It creates strong emotional bonds no matter how it is done in my opinion. In my opinion, a good man does not want to cheat on his wife, he wants to nourish her with his fidelity and create a strong, sacred union with his lovemaking. My husband does not even watch porn- I consider that cheating, no way would I be ok with him getting with other women. This is called "Polyamory".
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 04:07 PM
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My husband has never been pushy or weird about sex, it's really nice. Keep trying for a nice man, they do exist. I have a firm line with porn for my husband, to me its cheating and neither of us watch it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 04:20 AM
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we homeschool, so I work on homeschool with my kids but that is usually about an hour, go to playdates, go to the library and mainly I cook and clean (the bulk of my day.) I also sell bread that I make while at home for a little side hustle. If your kids are in school you could start a little side hustle like baking from home or making something to sell.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/22 07:07 PM
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that's smart. Root canals are dead teeth and they are basically all infected and can cause some serious health issues, sounds like he is choosing health over looks-
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 01:42 PM
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Lots of people are missing teeth because root canals can have some really bad long term health implications- some people just have teeth that rot easily and implants are not only expensive but it is a HORRIFIC surgery, (I had something similar with bone graft and my jaw...10/10 worst thing ever.)
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/22 01:57 AM
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I personally think you can be blessed with more kids than you can handle in my opinion-
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 07:31 PM
2

I have three- maybe I will have a fourth but my last the postpartum period was traumatic. I think that being pregnant and having a baby is extremely physically tough on your body/mental health/finances and where as big families are lovely not everyone has the ability to do that in a healthy way. I would rather have less kids and only have kids when my body feels physically strong/healthy and I am in a good financial and physical state to have them then have more- I also choose to homeschool my k…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 07:30 PM
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yes he says he is tired a lot of the time anyways (in school and we have three kids) but he is always down to have sex if I am- he says he is happy :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 02:03 PM
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I am just going to say I really think this is the BIGGEST relationship killer- I am so happy with me and my husbands sex life because he does NOT pester me whatsoever, I never feel pressured and so when I AM in the mood its super nice. When sex becomes a chore or an expectation it is bad news IMO. I personally think our society over emphasizes sex, there are so many ways to be intimate or connect and sex IS awesome and a sacred act but it is NOT the end all be all.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 01:28 AM
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I would be terrified to do this, sounds really sketchy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 02:04 PM
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your overthinking it- they are your child and you will love them so much it will come naturally, I promise. Really kids are just kids and you love them and support them and have fun and its awesome. I have two boys and a girl- I am super girly and my first was a boy- we STILL have an amazing connection, we cuddle and we tell each other we love each other all the time- I personally do not like playing legos and such but we do so many fun things together like going for walks, cooking and baking an…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 12:03 AM
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Copper IUD has a lot of risks, including copper toxicity, heavy painful periods and even uterine perforation- I also have a friend who got pregnant on one.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 06:22 PM
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Withdrawal (alone or in combo with fertility awareness), condoms alone, fertility awareness with condoms or withdrawal. Very fertile when I wanted kids (first cycle every time for getting pregnant)- no other oops (even though I kind of want one sometimes, LOL)
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 06:20 PM
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We had been together for 6 years, we were 23 and 25- I guess it had been about a year of me asking and him kind of brushing it off- we also had other issues. I will say though that my now husband when we met was 32- so more mature and a bit more ready for kids.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 12:33 PM
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This makes me worried when you have kids he will kind of hold it over your head and will not help out so much....I tried to have kids with my EX and THANK GOODNESS..he kept pushing it off and we ended up breaking up over it....When I got with my now husband he was like jumping at the chance to have a baby and he is a GREAT and amazing dad (we have three and he is on board for #4 despite being 42...)..my EX is still a travelling musician, in a polyamorous relationship and will most likely never h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 01:47 AM
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Met my husband on a commune ;)
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 02:11 AM
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I have some cute leather knee boots that are SO CUTE with dresses and a sweater. Im a feminine boho lover at heart so I am just all about the anthropologie type look with lots of layers, color and sweaters. Check out poshmark I love them for cheap outfits.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 11:03 PM
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yes and they can attach to their peer group and then they have a conflicting attachment with their families, do not listen to their families and then get mad and enraged when they cannot be with their peers (because they are their world due to attachment..) So glad we are keeping our kids homeschooled.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 12:28 AM
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I totally agree with you, no one wants to say this out loud though due to fear of offending someone.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 08:16 PM
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I think we need to be more frank with the fact that attachment is HUGE and it actually continues into teenagerhood- I 100% believe I had attachment issues in my teen-age years and they caused so many issues- that whole stigma of "teenage rebellion" is really just teenagers attaching to their peers instead of their families (see the book by Gabor Mate- Hold On to Your Kids" for more information on this subject, amazing book btw.) I think that daycare is detrimental for children- and of course a n…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/22 08:15 PM
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Yes....this....I have three children and we are keeping it open as a *maybe* for a fourth...I am going to wait at least a year (if we even decide to have another) because it is pretty fun moving into the next stage of kids instead of babies/toddlers (it gets easier!!)
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 04:46 PM
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Our youngest is finally turning 3 this month, I have noticed I am feeling way more sexy and playful in my marriage- I am getting a little more time to be myself instead of just a mother...It is so sad to see them grow up (we have 3) but having time to be yourself again is great.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 04:31 PM
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I think that having toddlers may be the cause of this...it gets better.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:14 PM
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thrift store
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 02:17 AM
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this is why I am starting school to be a fertility awareness coach to help women achieve pregnancy or birth control without drugs because the hormones really affect women-
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 02:16 AM
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I am sorry- what is a "shit test?" it sounds like basically being mean to someone?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 05:38 PM
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For me and my man, any porn is unacceptable, I do not think porn is normal and natural....how is it natural to be able to look up images of other women anytime? If my husband was looking at porn it would be cheating to me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 11:26 PM
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EXACTLY!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 05:24 PM
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What others are saying is good but also know that ruts in a marriage are totally normal in my personal opinion- sex is essentially great but I think having expectations of a vibrant sex life at all times can be misleading.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 04:01 PM
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I would love to gain weight but do all of this for health reasons and this is what leaves me constantly small so here ya go; gluten free/no refined carbs/ no processed sugar, daily intermittent fasting of 16-18 hours (I usually go 14-16 but for trying to loose weight I hear 18 is ideal)- I eat mostly vegetables, protein and tons of fat- fat and protein are important so that your body is full- I love doing vegetable (no fruit) juice instead of lunch some days or as a snack- I also focus on lots o…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 04:41 AM
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I also want to add that I don't know if food stamps would make a difference but once you have kids you may be eligible if your low income and that may help quite a lot-
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 07:29 PM
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I totally 100% feel you- my partner makes a low income and I stay home with our three kids- its tough and I am considering going back to school but with kids its really not an option right now- I really wish I had a job I could do in my own time and work from home- this seems like the best option. Its a hard call between option A and option B- it really depends what kind of personality you have I guess- I had my kids young at 24-30 and I am SO THANKFUL because my body was younger and now I am 32…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 07:27 PM
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oh my gosh I am disgusted with how your being treated at your OBGYNs- have you considered getting a midwife? Mine is still a good friend of mine, I seriously love her so much :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/22 02:22 AM
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My husband is 9 years older and I don’t ever notice
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 09:17 PM
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Husband does the trash, dishes, helps with childcare as soon as he is home, helps with laundry, helps With deep cleaning on weekends, does bedtime for the kids every night…. I need a break after 8 hours a day with the kids and I’m really glad he helps a lot. I basically just love doing things with my husband so we enjoy doing chores together as a team on weekends.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/22 03:00 PM
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My husband is almost the same height- maybe 2 inches taller? We have the same feet size and hand size, which is funny because we can share sandals (lol.) My husband is pretty small physically (I have strong preference for small guys), but I am also extremely fine boned and small (5’6 and 95lbs) so I feel feminine- BUT I think I’m just extremely feminine natured and the energy is there-
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 03:02 AM
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A lot of my friends had babies close to 40 naturally and had healthy pregnancies- You could meet someone and decide to have kids rather quickly- I definitely think you have time. Better to be 30 and free than have kids and then figure out your relationship sucks, as a child of a single parent it’s super hard and dating with kids is a nightmare. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 08:47 PM
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We make less than 30K and have three kids- it’s getting tougher and I am pursuing a side gig I can do from home whilst watching my kids-
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 07:28 PM
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I think your personal level of health determines your general health- doctors have what they call a “cellular age” because depending on health people at the same biological age can vary quite drastically- 30 is barely out of your twenties. But I digress, I’m sure the world is black and white and age is everything including a #.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 05:34 PM
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I think physically and hormonally I would say it is :) I think stuff starts declining at 35.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 01:08 PM
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30 Is still in your prime :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 12:04 PM
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I’ve been doing side hustle stuff but with everything being expensive and my side hustles not working anymore we’re scrambling- we are low income though at about 36K total.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 06:21 PM
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I have kids and all of my friends I’ve met through Christian homeschool groups or the library-
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 10:49 PM
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Well you held your ground, didn’t have sex with him and you didn’t have to compromise yourself in any way to figure out this guys bad news- good for you you didn’t end up pregnant or with a nasty STD for this guy who is obviously bad. It’s not you, it’s him- he’s a cheater and always will be. Run and look forward to someone better :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 09:06 PM
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My cooking and homemaking is so good I’m pretty sure I rule my husbands world 🌍
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 01:27 AM
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You sound attractive :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 07:31 PM
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I really think social media is overall not positive- I stopped using Facebook when I noticed my anxiety would skyrocket after scrolling- I don’t watch the news because if it isn’t something I can directly help or make better it’s useless other then bringing me down- serves absolutely no purpose. Plus, what’s scary is that politicians are using social media to sway our emotions and thoughts- don’t want to sound like a conspiracy theorist but it really is low key mind control- all of us based on a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 01:00 PM
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I don’t use any social media other than Reddit and I M Proud to be a SAHM- literally never felt like it wasn’t anything other than a respected career….
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:24 PM
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Gosh I’m So busy too! I feel you! We eat mostly Homemade meals, organic, I even go the extra mile and do sprouts, kombucha and bread baking- I also homeschool three kids, generally like a clean home, do all the yard work on our .8 acres and have a garden (want it to be bigger)-
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:23 PM
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Don’t know where you live but in my area I think it’s looked upon in high esteem- people always smile at me with my kids, tell me I’m doing a good job, compliment my children when we’re out and say I must be a “very busy woman”- lol.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:22 PM
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In different cultures sex/body count are viewed differently- stuff happens, like in your case straight up sexual abuse and a reaction to that- I think having sexual integrity and treating intimacy as special is powerful - it sounds like that’s where your at now and that’s awesome- but your body count number over things that happened in the past does not reflect who you are now- in fact I would say a huge learning experience and getting over/working through that trauma has made you EVEN stronger …
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 02:48 PM
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For me it’s cheating- I have a 100% no porn rule and he is OK for that- it goes both ways.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 02:28 AM
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I want some of those silk ones 😻
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:29 PM
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Victoria’s Secret
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:28 PM
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I totally agree with you- I’m very feminine but i don’t necessarily think of it as the way I present myself- it’s more than that. I like to think my husband always sees me as beautiful, I kind of think he does to be honest. My husband has supported me through all of that, yes, he holds my puke buckets and tries to be consistently reassuring as I need it. I have a high need to feel comforted, beautiful and safe and I think my husband provides that for me. Marriage is for the long haul and it’s me…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 12:00 AM
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Yeah it’s super tough- I mean my husband was with me pushing out three babies and through two pregnancy losses….. not to mention 2 jaw surgeries, pleurisy, bronchitis…. No way could I always be put together, the first year after having a baby I’m like in zombie mode covered in milk and sweat pants too- I’m just now starting to put more effort into my clothing/hair/skin now that my daughter is 2.5 and still it’s not possible all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 11:48 PM
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My husband sees me looking tattered, sick, tired, upset- he sees it all- I would be really sad if he said something like that to me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 11:35 PM
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If you get high quality essential oils (therapeutic grade or organic) and not ones that are basically synthetic and made to be smelly they should be totally fine- some of my favorites are Rose Otto, ylang ylang, sandalwood, verifier, vanilla- you may have a lot of fun mixing your own blends in carrier oils (I love jojoba) and get to do some fun scents without the negative :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 11:52 AM
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R/FAMnNFP I think , lol I always forget. Do you like essential oils? I use a natural nail polish that works well :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 03:14 AM
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Oh that’s so great! You should join us over at the natural fertility charting group! If you want to ever message me I love talking about holistic health, I’m also a doula and so I love combining the two subjects especially when it comes to helping women have healthy cycles, babies and all of that :) I hate to say it but I think the biggest issue in today’s modern world especially for women are endocrine disrupters- they are really everywhere BUT we can mitigate our exposure by a whole lot- there…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 01:56 AM
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I definitely do- what I was trying to do was to help her with detox and holistic supplements to help her body get healthier- I do believe that natural and holistic treatments can do wonders for all aspects of female health and I strongly advocate for this in all ways.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:39 PM
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Ok now I see that. I’m just stating an interesting scientific stance that I think in terms of females reproductive capability is very interesting- that’s all- I also said I do believe having children younger is advantageous for many reasons and I personally do advocate for this- I just have a friend who went through menopause at age 9 and I did a ton of research on the subject personally trying to help her with holistic treatments to regenerate her fertility-
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:30 PM
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I’m not sure what cancelling out the wall means?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:27 PM
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Like what
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:13 PM
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I’m aware of what red pill is I just don’t know what the dang abbreviation is- jeez! Red pill is about femininity and traditional gender roles/values and so much more, I just don’t feel like typing it all out lol.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:08 PM
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I know what RP is I just didn’t get what TRP is?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 09:00 PM
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Just because I like to read scientific articles and don’t know some random abbreviation? Lol!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 08:49 PM
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Wait, no, sorry I just re read the article and it is saying that studies are showing that women specifically have stem cells that mean women are replenishing eggs throughout their fertile years- they say there is a possibility for more fertility treatments from this research but the article is specifically talking about how they proved that the human female stem cells can in fact regenerate - which is a huge clue to the fact that the old literature on the subject is outdated.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 08:02 PM
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Dang I didn’t send the right article then- what I have read is since they have found female stem cells in women it points towards women making new eggs- which I personally 100% agree with because the science points to it and it makes sense. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:35 PM
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No they are saying it DOES happen naturally
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:19 PM
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I do agree with you that having babies in your twenties or early 30s is ideal- I’m turning 33 next month and If we have a fourth I want to get pregnant in the next year or probably not do it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:11 PM
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Read the link, they have replicated it in humans and isolated the human ovarian stem cells :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:11 PM
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https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2012/02/27/147344258/study-suggests-way-to-create-new-eggs-in-women
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:09 PM
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I do agree that age is a factor but I think it’s also how we treat our bodies in the meantime- lots of toxins and chemical exposure and poor choices bring us into infertility a lot quicker than healthy choices, and I agree generally with the fact that it’s better to have kids younger (I had 3 by age 30), I just have done a LOT of research as I am very interested in the subject of female aging and egg health/regeneration- there have been cases of women who had gone through menopause early actuall…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:07 PM
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Your genes and hormone shift tell the egg stem cells to stop Producing more eggs- but it can actually reverse due to many factors- In recent studies intermittent fasting brought rats OUT OF MENOPAUSE and they were able to have babies again!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 07:05 PM
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What is TRP
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 06:53 PM
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Science has now proven women have stem cells in their ovaries and produce new eggs, 30 is still a great time to have a baby!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 06:53 PM
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As a birth doula I absolutely do not agree that pregnancy is “extremely risky” past 35- lots of my friends had natural births and healthy 100% complication free pregnancies at ages 25-40.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 06:51 PM
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Thanks! Kind of a super crazy story of how we got together but it worked out well :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 02:57 PM
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Leggings, leggings, leggings- sometimes dresses or jeans but man I love those leggings, cardigans, tank tops :) sometimes jeans
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 03:17 AM
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Don’t feel bad at all/ your not any less of a woman whatsoever- know your power and know your worth as much as anyone else.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 03:08 AM
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I met my husband when he was 32- we got married last year and he was 40.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 03:01 AM
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Try not to overthink it to be honest, I just breastfed my babies when they were hungry and asked for it and it went well- I have seen mothers get super stressed about how much they are feeding/how many diapers- I just fed when they were hungry and my babies all gained well and we had a great feeding relationship with all of them- breastfed my first for 5 years! Cloth diapers are really intense- gave all my kids rashes pretty badly no matter how many we changed- I recommend using disposable for t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 11:19 PM
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I was in a relationship like this in my early twenties- I just want to say don’t beat yourself up too much but also realize that you had a one night stand because he wasn’t available for you emotionally , it’s a two way street. I did the whole back and forth thing with my partner for YEARS and it ended up such a mess, I wish I would have gotten out of it sooner.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 02:47 PM
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It’s so much work but seriously SO rewarding- try not to stress about the money aspect - you having kids when your younger is more important than the ups and downs of the economy, you’ll make it work. I’m a big gardener! We are trying to squeeze in time For a big garden at some point this year too :) it helps with food costs and medical costs!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 11:16 PM
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That’s awesome for you too, congrats! In a lot of fields it’s not about the degree but what you know how to do- we just purchased a nice home also, though we do need my husband to start making more money pretty soon with rising inflation, it’s tough in our local market but my side hustle helps a bit :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 02:20 PM
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Yes a lot of schools are basically daycare for older kids- I am strongly into family first and attachment parenting, even outside of the infant stage, children need to attach to their caregivers not random people- my daughter was left with a babysitter recently for the first time ever and she’s 2.5! I really disliked school, the stress of it all was a LOT for me and really made me anxious and depressed, I think my kids have awesome confidence in themselves and don’t obsess over what kind of clot…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 01:51 PM
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That does seem like way better hours and such! I wish the schools around here were about education and not basically childcare- people keep telling me to “take advantage of the free childcare” that is school and I am solidly not doing that- I really like homeschooling, my kids eat well and are literally sick once a year and that’s it, also their bond together is super special.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 01:47 PM
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I will add that I wish we had an alternative school that had limited hours, I would be cool with that, our local school is not great, it’s huge and kids have to go for a full 8 hours which I’m not cool with.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 01:07 PM
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Refuse to put my kids in daycare- refuse to put my kids in school. I want my kids home with me where I know what they are being taught and exposed to- I didn’t have kids to pawn them off on strangers for 8 hours.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:34 PM
3

Gay is definitely different.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 01:09 AM
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We do withdrawal/fertility awareness/condoms.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 05:18 PM
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I think your body knows by smelling and being around someone whether you are compatible to make healthy babies- research shows that differing immune systems are best for making healthy children- I think type is important but seriously how someone smells somehow makes a HUGE difference, for me personally I am a tiny woman and I do not like very muscular or large men, at all. I think it makes sense for me as my frame supports a smaller baby. My husband smells so good to me, always has!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 02:47 PM
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I have three and I’m not going to lie it’s challenging, but doeable- spacing kids three years apart though is optimal for health for mother and baby. The risks having kids two or less years apart are significantly higher due to the body needing time to recap. Almost all of my friends have 3+ kids- some even have 6+! You can do it for sure but just take some time to heal and be very good with nutrition.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 06:54 PM
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Yoko Ono once showed up to a feminist group wearing heels, makeup and looking fabulous- the other feminists wearing their jeans and men’s clothing chastised her- she retorted with something along the lines of that she was enjoying and embracing her femininity, why should feminism look like trying to be a man basically? I like that. I love being a woman and I embrace my feminine nature- because that’s what I’m good at, I make children, I make amazing food, I am good at nurturing life in all forms…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 01:10 AM
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I don’t think most guys care about that, at least not in my experience .
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 07:02 PM
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If he wants you to stay home then maybe he should be driven to go to medical school and work long hours…I think being a doctor sounds amazing and I think you’ll be able to make it work. If you have your own practice you could do part time potentially, or make enough to hire a nanny… sounds like making great money would be a huge benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 01:46 AM
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Also I had my first baby at 24… my husband was totally on board. Just ask him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 04:11 AM
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My husband is 10 years older than me and he is healthier and has more energy than me- his grandparents are alive and I haven’t had any in years.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 04:09 AM
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I have long hair and I can understand not wanting to cut it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 05:48 PM
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Why would your husband say this to you, that’s not nice and a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 05:32 PM
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What is it a red flag for though? My wedding anniversary is coming up and my husband is my best friend, have a great marriage. In fact me and my husband is laughing about it right now. Most of my friends are long distance and we don’t get to see each other often though we do speak on the phone regularly. All relationships are different and I love my friends and my husband :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 01:06 PM
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What’s a red flag
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 07:05 PM
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All of my best friends are males. My husband is fine with this as he trusts me and understands I am very social and need friends.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 04:32 PM
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Congrats! Some of the advice I have is to let yourself rest as much as you can (some days I slept 16hrs!), eat really well (I love the book “real food for pregnancy By Lily Nichols” my midwife also loves this book.) Make sure you take your vitamins (including a little bit higher vitamin D before you get pregnant.) Also getting out in nature was the absolute best when I was pregnant, I did lots of hikes and spent a ton of time outside and it was blissful :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 03:30 PM
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Your seeing some huge red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 02:15 AM
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My last birth was honestly enjoyable and joyful, I loved being pregnant. I think if you get enough nutrition, rest and care it’s one of the most joyous and amazing times in a woman’s life. I had all three of my kids with the most amazing Christian midwife who is still my friend to this day, she has supported me through hard times and even did a birth for free for me when I needed it. Enjoy and congrats! We have three and I’m not sure if we want another at this time but I still look back on my pr…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 01:58 AM
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Sounds like you got a lot of feelings on what others should do and the ideal situation for raising kids. I hope you find your happiness, I really do. Raising kids and finding a partner is really tough. There isn’t really a perfect situation, we all do our best. Have a good weekend. By the way, I’m English too, don’t live there anymore but I miss my homeland.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 04:48 AM
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Do you have kids?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 04:34 AM
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You sound like a hateful person and a bigot. I’m coming from acceptance, love and being a kind, supportive person. I support others when they do no harm, as should you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 03:57 AM
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I literally said that wasn’t an ideal or great situation but I’m just saying incest in terms of birth defects is rare unless it’s multi generational.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 03:10 AM
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My mother in law married her cousin, they were both widowed and had obviously fell in love, they didn’t want to say anything until me and husband pointed out there isn’t any risk of genetic deformities even if you were to have kids and it’s legal in over 50% of states I believe. To have incest be an issue it has to be multiple generations, and even then it’s a toss up. I knew a woman who was raped by her father and had the baby and her child was fine, I’m not condoning this but it’s just an exam…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 02:16 AM
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No problem! There are some cool fasting apps and a great way to start is with a 16 hr fast which isn’t too bad. I have a few friends with PCOS and a lower carb/sugar diet and more fats seems to help immensely. Congrats on your relationship :) I had my first baby at 24 and I had three by the time I turned 30, and I am so grateful to have had them in my 20s because I had easy/healthy pregnancies. Best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 01:25 PM
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Read this when I was 18 and it changed my whole life :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 12:10 PM
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Recently read a study where intermittent fasting was a very powerful Took for PCOS, also try adding in the herbal extract (Vitex), as well as more whole, organic fats like grass fed butter, cold pressed coconut oil and more meats and stews.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/22 12:07 PM
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I have three kids and I’m not wanting another currently but I still am always paranoid I’m pregnant even though we’re careful and a little part of me is always sad I’m not pregnant, even though if I was I would freak out 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 04:34 AM
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English as second language and self written classes for Pre K level- generally English but also some fun topics like botany.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 11:42 PM
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your not going to be able to work at the same time as watching your one year old. I work and I teach virtually online in the mornings or evenings or on days when my husband is off I also sell vintage clothing.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 10:37 PM
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So coming from a holistic health background have you thought about doing some Cleansing and a diet overhaul for pregnancy? I recommend the book “real food for pregnancy by Lily Nichols”- I’m 32 and we’re still considering a fourth, but I am pretty strict on making sure vitamin D levels are high before pregnancy, taking B12 and Folate in the first trimester, no processed foods, no processed sugar or sweeteners, nothing out of cans whatsoever, no synthetic body products, no caffeine, lots of exerc…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 01:44 PM
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If anything one kid would be possible with all that! Also when I was backpacking South America we met a couple with a newborn and a two year old traveling!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 05:33 PM
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if your on the fence about kids, dont do it. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but all of my childless friends are having a blast in their lives and a lot of my friends with kids are really struggling, its super challenging. I think its important to take things one at a time, focus on your relationship and potentially getting married and then worry about kids or no kids UNLESS it is a 100% dealbreaker before getting married and then you need to discuss it now. Unless you want more than 3 or ma…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 01:16 AM
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Does he like having sex with you or is he grossed out by female genitalia “up close”….. just a warning…. He may be more homosexual than he lets on… just speaking from experience from my “bi-sexual” ex who liked girls a little but was terrified/disgusted by vaginas and is basically gay.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 12:16 AM
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I look young and I’m a natural blonde/blue eyes and I have a tiny figure (100lbs and 5’6) and I’ve always gotten a lot of attention in the romantic sense. Though it gets annoying because most of it is unwanted- I was even proposed too once from a stranger on vacation 🙄.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 05:01 PM
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hell yeah.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/22 02:16 PM
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I think that so much goes into a good partnership but most important are personality types….
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 06:02 PM
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Just make it about when you need to have kids. Your biological clock is ticking. Also to be fair if your having a hard time talking to him about this it may be because the level of trust/communication is not where it should be anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 01:08 AM
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I had my first at 24 and I am so happy! I am now 32 and can consider a fourth if I want one due to my age.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 10:27 PM
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I’m a small woman, not short but fine boned and tiny. My hips got bigger after having kids, though I kept my flat stomach and didn’t get any stretch marks, I think having bigger hips looks good on me. I don’t weigh any more than I did before kids in my twenties (I eat healthy and don’t have the metabolism to gain weight easily.)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 03:45 AM
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I look better after having three kids than I did before :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 03:01 AM
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2-4 hours daily, plus my husband does 45 minutes about of dishes a day. We probably do 8-10 hours cleaning some weekends and this does not count mowing our one acre or fixing things on our home. ​ EDIT: Wait, does this count homeschooling and then cooking too...and childcare? Okay then its probably hmm.......every waking minute?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 03:22 AM
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I'm a stay at home mom AND my husband does half of the household chores. We have three kids and I homeschool, so this is fair. Ideally for me would be me and my husband both working 50% of the time and doing 50% of the chores and kids.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 10:43 PM
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