anidealistmind Archive

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0	Would it be fair to say TRP attracts mostly the frustrated, inexperienced, bitter people? Does TRP get more flak than it deserves due to its community? Well it is a fact, thank god someone gave one. It is valid for a good portion of some extreme feminists view. My point is that it is an extreme view just as TRP is and is therefore not a widely held belief. No denying that there are women who think this way, and yes they are wrong since they are victimizing women and men which is not the point of equality between genders. /u/homo_homini_lupus simply stated ALL women are this way and got offended when I asked for facts. Whats the point on debatin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/14 08:14 PM
-1	Would it be fair to say TRP attracts mostly the frustrated, inexperienced, bitter people? Does TRP get more flak than it deserves due to its community? Yay a fact! I agree that they are extreme, I believe that a man learns to hit a woman out of example, environment, and loss of anger and control. It requires all those things, not the fact that we have had a patriarchal lineage in America since the get-go.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/14 05:53 PM
1	Taking a step back from the Never Say No to Sex discussion I don't think any of the women had wigs though they did wear scarfs and such over their hair. Feminist and Orthodox Jewish is a definitely a strange combo but if you can do it, that's great for you!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/14 01:01 PM
6	Taking a step back from the Never Say No to Sex discussion Already read that. Life is not a one size fits all world. While it may work for this woman, how many months in a row did she do this for? That doesn't work for every ones life style.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 08:39 PM
1	Taking a step back from the Never Say No to Sex discussion Anthro class we watched a video about women in the Orthodox Jewish religion and why they chose to live a more traditional life. It was really fascinating and so I tried niddah just because I had noticed that things were always hotter after making both of us wait for week (plus the advantage of feeling cleaner!)	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 06:36 PM
7	Taking a step back from the Never Say No to Sex discussion I've always verified things with my husband first even when we were just dating because I care about his opinions and so try to consult him first before making any decisions that affect him - including money even though I'm the one in charge of the bills at his insistence. I've always considered us a team since we can accomplish so much more together. And also niddah was what gave me the idea to stop having sex on my period since I found the want was much more intense and fun for us after a wait…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 06:22 PM
8	Taking a step back from the Never Say No to Sex discussion Maybe when I've been married long I'll understand what you mean. I like the idea behind it but I think the rebel in me doesn't like being told I have to say yes. It's simple sometimes my husband wants to have sex when he doesn't know I'm sick or hasn't recognized that I have some internal issues going on and telling him "nah maybe later" is fine. He doesn't get hurt - he knows he'll get a surprise bj sometime soon and vice versa. Sometimes I want sex and I don't know he's got a tummy ache (this …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 05:20 PM
2	Brave men and women of both pills, rate your sexual satisfaction. Actually I told you how I treat my husband not only how I think. It's simple - if you don't want the commitment of what comes with a marriage which means NOT cheating even if (heaven forbid) circumstances mean no sex for months on end then don't get married. Obviously if your not having sex for a month there might be mental and medical issues with an individual but sex is not mandatory when a partner wants it. See how simple that is, it's like marriage is only for people who want that kind of co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 05:03 PM
5	Blue Pills, what is your most guilty admission of your behavior, thoughts or preferences in your relationships? it was racist how you grouped several different cultures in to one. I referenced one culture and yet somehow that relates to ALL cultures in Africa according to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 06:37 AM
1	When does it become slut shaming? Perhaps it is not shaming to her since she doesn't know I'm thinking that. Still I don't think it's a very nice thing to say even to myself. It puts down all women when I refer to a woman as a slut, skank, or any other word that basically boils down to promiscuous since there is nothing wrong with a woman choosing to do that with her own body esp. since we don't shame men about that kind of behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 04:37 AM
2	Brave men and women of both pills, rate your sexual satisfaction. I like how you pick and choose the sentences that suit your purpose but ignore everything else. Selective hearing eh?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 04:34 AM
7	Blue Pills, what is your most guilty admission of your behavior, thoughts or preferences in your relationships? I said "ONE culture in Africa" not ALL cultures in Africa. Pretty sure the women move back in with their family though, not entirely sure since I don't have my anthro textbook on me where I read the article. You sound pretty racist though, grouping and generalizing all of Africa that way....	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/14 04:33 AM
1	When does it become slut shaming? I can see where your coming from but at the same time judgmental attitudes can result in an unhealthy frame of mind. If your constantly making negative judgements about people it's because you want to make yourself feel better - not to protect yourself from them. I think it's better not to do it at all and just think about your own actions and not somebody elses. It doesn't affect my life what choices she makes and therefore it's not needed that I make a comment on her choice of lifestyle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 06:35 PM
7	Is Anyone Modding This Sub Anymore? I'm still seeing a lack of proof......if you can't show me proof then it's most likely a bias opinion. Personally I love men and I'm a BPW. I just don't agree with TRP's message.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 06:32 PM
6	Brave men and women of both pills, rate your sexual satisfaction. Nah, it doesn't. I respect my man for the person he is not the fact that he could sleep with someone else. In fact that would show a lack of respect for me. He knows that if he cheats, I might forgive him the first time but maybe not. I'm extremely loyal and would never cheat so for my partner to turn around and do the same or even act like it was an option would be a huge betrayal of trust. Cheating shows a lack of respect and communication. Obviously to you disrespect means "If I don't get wha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 06:30 PM
1	When does it become slut shaming? It's not that I police my own mind, it's simply being aware of negative thought processes. Thinking negatively and judging people harms only myself and it's far better to think positive thoughts anyways. Makes you happier and thus the people around you happier. To be fair though there were times when I couldn't trust my mind - like when I had body dismorphic image which is basically thinking your fat when your not. I truly could not trust my mind and had to learn to think positively or I would h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 06:08 PM
1	When does it become slut shaming? Simply because I am judging someone. I am not perfect, I am not almighty. Judging someone is way of saying to yourself "I'm better..." I am not better than someone simply because they dress differently or sleep with more men. That is their truth and I'm okay with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 06:04 PM
3	Blue Pills, what is your most guilty admission of your behavior, thoughts or preferences in your relationships? I think it comes down to what you are taught and using the tools available to you. For instance there is a culture in Africa that practices an interesting form of divorce. If the wife leaves the husbands boots outside the door, she has divorced him. There is no need for manipulation because there is already a clear simple way for her to get out. Whereas in a culture where divorce is almost forbidden and very shameful, a woman will use manipulation to her advantage. Also it has a lot to do with y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 06:02 PM
4	Brave men and women of both pills, rate your sexual satisfaction. it's not "withholding sex" it's simply I'm not in the mood when I'm upset and vice versa. If my husband is upset, he's not gonna want sex and that's okay. Sometimes you are not always in sync with your partner and it's important to set aside time to have sex but it's not something that should be forced. Saying my husband should cheat on me because sometimes I don't feel like having sex as I cry is pretty callous and shows that you'd never make it in a LTR	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 05:57 PM
1	When does it become slut shaming? I think it's done by both. Any time you think "she's a slut." That's slut shaming. Male or female doesn't matter. You are making a judgement about a woman that depends entirely on her sexual choices that may or may not have anything to do with her personality or character. I know as a BPW even I've thought "man she's skanky" if a woman is dressed really provocative. It's definitely not okay for me to do that, but I do try to be aware that my thought process went that way and to correct that kind…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 09:24 AM
2	When does it become slut shaming? I'd like to state that not all women avoid promiscuous men, in fact I'd say it's the other way around. Let me share a life experience with you. It probably won't help, but I don't like generalizations so I'm gonna dig my own grave anyways. My now husband was very attracted to me when I decided to become celibate for over 6months because I was tired of dealing with a relationship and one night stands are just scary for me. He liked that I'd only had sex with 3 dudes (no my number is not doubled d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 09:19 AM
4	What attributes, qualities, items, behaviors, etc. immediately 'scream out to' and inform a woman that a man is low value? Well that's easy to say if your grouping all BPers together. The facts are that just like TRPers, we are a group of individuals that can have very different thoughts and ideas on things. Some may care what you do, some may not. I'm of the mind that if you aren't harming someone - mentally or physically, I don't care. Whatever, live your life. But once you cross in to the territory of being a bully or mentally/emotionally or physically abusing or harassing someone you have crossed a line and shou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 09:03 AM
2	What attributes, qualities, items, behaviors, etc. immediately 'scream out to' and inform a woman that a man is low value? Your first sentence made me giggle. You state you can't claim to know the female mind but then make an assumption on how it would go down. As BPW I do like an aggressive man in bed but other than that I truly do like that my husband listens and respects my thoughts and feelings just like I do his. I think it's important to find a partner that shares similar life goals, core philosophies and communicates well. Treat your SO like an equal and everyone will be happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 09:00 AM
2	Brave men and women of both pills, rate your sexual satisfaction. Married 25F 4-5 times a week Probably a lot more because he's been tired and working often 6-7 a week honestly. I don't turn him down often since I do kinda feel bad about it haha 10, that man is amazing in bed. Learn to love the clit men, it will really help you out. I'd also like to state he gets more sex when he's sweet and horny. It's a good combo. Being an asshole to me would result in a fight and thus no sex for that day since I'm just not in the mood when I'm upset.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 08:42 AM
7	Is Anyone Modding This Sub Anymore? Do you have any proof that TBP members have stated they want all men to die? Because otherwise your just spouting opinions....	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 08:34 AM
8	Blue Pills, what is your most guilty admission of your behavior, thoughts or preferences in your relationships? I think when we were younger we all did things that weren't nice or smart. The point of maturing is to grow in to a better person. This being said I know that I have a capacity to hold grudges and be vindictive. I can find myself thinking evil thoughts like "If I cry, I know he'll feel bad for me." The difference is I don't act on these thoughts because I'm just really mad and upset and not thinking clearly and am obviously following a vindictive train of thought. I've learned I need to walk awa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/14 08:25 AM
4	Never Take the Couch Or you could have never taken that approach in the first place. If I'm pissed at my husband I usually go to another place if I wanna be alone. I don't bother telling him to go anywhere (bc that's just rude to anyone let alone your partner) so therefore I take myself to the living room. I don't end up spending the night there anyways since my husband either comes to talk to me to resolve it or I do. Collaboration and treating someone how you want to be treated is how to make a marriage last.	/r/TheRedPill	14/11/14 01:43 AM
10	The Price for Obtaining Women is too High I don't think women are "mysterious," women like different things. Just like men have a wide variety of what they want in a partner. Some women may want an aggressive man because it makes her feel safe and protected. That's fine. Some women want a sensitive nice man because it's nice to have someone to talk to and make her feel respected. The hard part is finding out if they know what they want. It's funny because a lot of people in this world don't truly know what they want in a partner, and th…	/r/TheRedPill	09/11/14 01:10 AM
2	Lena Dunham kissing, masturbating next to, and "experimenting" with the vagina of her little sister is not sexual abuse, but drunk sex is rape. Hmm why would I care about what a male wants to do as long as it's not hurting anyone? Big surprise here, but I don't know what it's like to be a man so I don't think that I should be making judgement on what is good or bad. Women like different things, but most people just want balance. Like i said if you aren't hurting someone, then who cares? I'm not here to pass judgement on other people's lives, I'm here on this planet to help people - at least that's the meaning I place on my life. Differe…	/r/TheRedPill	04/11/14 01:33 AM
4	Lena Dunham kissing, masturbating next to, and "experimenting" with the vagina of her little sister is not sexual abuse, but drunk sex is rape. Hi, one of those dreaded feminists you called for. I personally (cannot speak for everyone else) find this DISGUSTING. That's right, I'm siding with you guys. It's fucking sick. I know sometimes children get curious, I myself remember kissing a neighbor girl at only 7-8years old while playing house. But vagina touching, masturbation??? That's not normal, that's fucking weird and yeah she should get investigated. Girl or boy, no one should be forced or touched like that. I'm truly mad at the peop…	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 11:35 PM
0	In theory, Feminists should LOVE TheRedPill - heres why God you are so full of SHIT. I'm not gonna bother with a long essay in return, your first reply made it abundantly clear that it doesn't matter. Regardless of examples that exist (me being one of them) that completely refute every single fucking thing you wrote, you don't care. You want to trade happiness and treating other humans with decency for life of supposedly superiority and self righteousness. But ya know at the end of the day I'm still happy. You can write all this bullshit that you and…	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 10:54 PM
0	In theory, Feminists should LOVE TheRedPill - heres why There's no argument biologically we are different. Like hello, the differences are obvious. But mentally are we truly so different? Sure, usually men are better at spacial recognition, but does this mean women should be completely excluded on something that is the usual? We're arguing treatment of an individual, not biological differences. Life is a spectrum, not black and white. Nobody is simply anything because of their gender, race, or nationality. What you'll find is most people want balance…	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 07:53 PM
1	A 7 step guide to swallowing the pill Well you're welcome to your opinion. I wouldn't say it's completely accurate, but it doesn't make you view invalid. Just keep in mind that life is not black and white but rather a spectrum :)	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 07:25 PM
1	A 7 step guide to swallowing the pill Definition of an idealist: In philosophy, idealism is the group of philosophies which assert that reality, or reality as we can know it, is fundamentally mental, mentally constructed, or otherwise immaterial. Epistemologically, idealism manifests as a skepticism about the possibility of knowing any mind-independent thing. In a sociological sense, idealism emphasizes how human ideas—especially beliefs and values—shape society.[1] As an ontological doctrine, idealism goes further, asserting that a…	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 06:53 PM
1	In theory, Feminists should LOVE TheRedPill - heres why I wish I could upvote you more. What I don't understand is the concept that TRPer's can't grasp: the women you are talking about are fanatics. They are not accurately representing what Feminism is about. A true feminist wants equality. Not a disparity between either gender. Like hello, each gender has assholes. Just because you find a few crazy, slutty chicks doesn't mean ALL of us are like that.....	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 06:05 PM
1	A 7 step guide to swallowing the pill I think it's common sense that most women don't want to be treated the way TRPers think we should. According to you guys, I would cheat on my husband because he's fat if Brad Pitt walked in to the room. But I love my sweet, understanding, larger husband so why would I cheat on him. TPers need to understand that there are asshole people in each gender and it doesn't mean ALL women are slutty cheaters who lie. Just like how men aren't all TRPers (thank god) Keep fucking a hole and tell yourself it…	/r/TheRedPill	03/11/14 03:58 PM
1	Obama on Stay-At-Home-Moms: "That's not a choice we want Americans to make" Maybe he does leave it up to interpretation but he's got a valid point. Mothers don't get enough time off for maternity leave and day care is so expensive.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/14 10:19 PM
5	The Relationship Advice That Wrecked My Marriage THIS. Ladies when I was in college I took an intrapersonal communication class with my husband. It changed the very way we fought. I use to yell and get super emotional because I grew up w/ parents that always yelled. But I learned the only way that everyone wins in a fight is collaboration. Working together to find a solution where everyone was heard, because honestly I wasn't really listening to him. I was listening to myself. Sometimes I still lose my cool, but more often than not we can each…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/14 10:16 PM
1	Obama on Stay-At-Home-Moms: "That's not a choice we want Americans to make" I don't think he's saying that ALL mothers shouldn't be stay-at-home moms. I think he's just refering to the problem that a lot of mothers do face. It's not wrong to represent both sides of the argument. Live your life as you see fit. I think we can all agree to that.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/14 10:06 PM