anneofgreensuburbs Archive

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2	SAHM to-do list once kids are older? I am in my early 40s, and have been a SAHM for 12 years. Before that I was a SAHW. This is my fourth year homeschooling my children. Currently I am responsible for Meal planning, grocery shopping, and cooking 2-3 meals a day. The kids and I have lunch out once a week, and my 12 and 8 year old children will sometimes cook for themselves. My 12 year old is learning meal planning and cooking, and I trust her with the oven and stove. My 8 year old can cook ramen, quesadillas, and PBJs, but I don't w…	/r/RedPillWives	11/09/24 12:04 AM
1	Advice for taking care of depressed husband He sounds like a good man. When he texts you, any reply that you hear him, you love him, and you appreciate him would probably be what he needs. You can ask him if there's anything you can take off his plate. If it's in the budget, maybe take a cooking class together.	/r/RedPillWives	10/05/24 04:04 PM
5	Advice for taking care of depressed husband What is his love language? If you aren't sure, how does he express love to you. Most people love the way they want to be loved. Does socializing energize or drain him? Having dealt with depression before, getting sunlight and taking a double dose of fish oil has been helpful. Some gentle encouragement to go for a walk in the sunshine, and if he isn't open to fish oil capsules, maybe cook some fatty fish like salmon often. I know exercise also helps, but he has to decide to do that for himself. N…	/r/RedPillWives	10/05/24 02:05 AM
5	How do I get my bf back? Leave his friends alone, too. No calls, texts, emails, or handwritten letters. Delete his contact info, but don't block him. That way you won't be tempted, but he can still contact you if he chooses to. When you are tempted to communicate with him, write it down in a journal. Journaling might really help you process all of this. Finally, find something else to do. Get off Reddit, get some fresh air, work out, watch a cooking YouTube. Cleaning your room can be very therapeutic. Maybe try to make …	/r/RedPillWives	16/02/24 05:23 PM
2	How do I get my bf back? Unfortunately, all the wanting and hoping doesn't make it true. All the love on your end will never make him love you back. You need to give this man space, and not contact him or his family/friends about this again. If he does love you and want a relationship with you, he will pursue you. Take time to be sad of course, but then you need to move on with your life.	/r/RedPillWives	16/02/24 04:53 PM
2	How do I get my bf back? You don't reach out. He might, but it really is up to him. He knows you love him. If he doesn't, you will know if he loves you back, but you can't make him.	/r/RedPillWives	16/02/24 04:09 PM
1	How do I get my bf back? I'm so sorry that happened to you! That's awful behavior, and if he's not suffering from a mental health episode, or an emergency of some sort, then it really is unforgivable of him. What I am afraid might have happened is that he made promises about your finances that he couldn't follow through with, and because he is still quite young, he took the cowardly way out, finding a reason to break up with you so he wouldn't have to admit he either can't or doesn't want to provide for you. In all hone…	/r/RedPillWives	16/02/24 03:39 PM
2	Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the time As far as what crosses the line, saying at the start of your relationship that your body is not to his standards, unrealistic body weight standards, telling you that you are not worth supporting, and that it's your fault because you have an education are all out of line. It's more than a dress to be taken care of "for the rest of your life." He got to be willing to actually commit to the rest of your life by marrying you, and trusting you to serve him as a wife. He's got to love you more than he…	/r/RedPillWives	15/02/24 03:03 PM
1	Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the time He is kind and understanding; he leads me well. He asks my opinion, and values it when making decisions, but if we come to an impasse, he will make the final call. I am a stay at home mom, and homeschool our children, and he's very supportive of that. I get behind on housework often, but he knows I am at capacity, and will pitch in if I ask. I try not to, though, because he gets up early, works hard, and comes home happy to see us. He asked if I would be willing to switch to mostly skirts and dr…	/r/RedPillWives	15/02/24 12:03 AM
1	Boyfriend only lets me wear skirts/dresses majority of the time This is coming from a skirt/dress wearing, submissive, traditional wife who asks permission to wear pants/shorts from time to time: You are wasting your time with him. Precious time you can't get back. He's not husband material. He's immature, not willing to own his problems. Not willing to cherish, provide, and protect. Trust issues. He has a lot of work to do on himself before he might be husband material, but no one can do that for him, or convince him to do it. He cannot change unless he see…	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/24 05:02 PM
1	Awkward sex question I'm a Christian, and waited for marriage as well. It took a few months for sex to be painless, and my husband had to adjust his expectations for a while about what "should" feel good, and how often we should be intimate. He was under the impression that multiple times a night would be a good idea. I also found out I am allergic to most commercial lube, but coconut oil works great for us. I promise it gets better. There is some wonderful advice on this thread. If you are ok with alcohol, a glass …	/r/RedPillWives	01/02/24 04:18 AM
2	Struggling to be a good wife while trying to be a good mum? What about a transition activity either when your husband gets home, or when baby goes to sleep? Something like a shower or bubble bath, a walk, listen to a podcast or audiobook, with headphones, etc, so that you get some alone time to recover from the day, and can be there for your husband after? Or plan to do something non-intimate to reconnect with your husband after baby goes to sleep? Play a card game, listen to a book together, or workout together?	/r/RedPillWives	31/01/24 10:42 PM
1	Advice or suggestions? My husband isn't big on gifts, and doesn't really see the point of birthdays, or getting attention for something he didn't accomplish. He does really appreciate acts of service, though. I have organized the garage for him, made his favorite cake, and cooked his grandmother's gumbo recipe. All were so much more well received than anything I could have bought. Do you know his family? Are you on good terms with either his mom or siblings? They might be a good source of insight as to how your guy mi…	/r/RedPillWives	16/12/23 12:55 AM
12	How to submit to husband's decision even when I think it might be unsafe? No. Don't give an inch to a manipulator. Actions have consequences, and assaulting a child means he no longer has access to children, whether family or not. Your children are not a peace offering to prove your BIL has been forgiven. It will not make everything ok. Your husband is not choosing a brother over his children, he is choosing to avoid conflict over seeing a painful reality. He's being a coward. You cannot bend to cowardice, too, and call it respecting your husband. You have GOT to prot…	/r/RedPillWives	01/01/23 03:44 PM
2	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge Thank you. It's SO hard to remember! But I have it switch to blue light reduction mode, and that's been a good visual cue.	/r/RedPillWives	20/11/22 11:29 PM
4	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge Still trying to break my cellphone addiction. So same as last week, put it down at 9.	/r/RedPillWives	12/11/22 02:01 AM
11	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge Put my phone down at 9:00, whether hubby does or not, making me more approachable to him in the evenings.	/r/RedPillWives	04/11/22 07:13 PM
3	Tea Time I am considering giving up homeschooling, and outsourcing my kids'education. I'm so overwhelmed and stressed.	/r/RedPillWives	04/11/22 01:14 AM
1	Help! My husband and I are at a complete gridlock as it relates to personal belonging boundaries. Playing devil's advocate for a minute here, bear with me. There are some people that get off on power exchange and control as a part of bdsm. Sometimes couples do have an agreement of 24/7 power dynamics like this, where one partner is completely submissive and subordinate to the other. I wonder if your husband wants to explore that with you, but maybe took the wrong approach by demanding too much all at once. The thing about this type of dynamic is that it is negotiated, not demanded, and it st…	/r/RedPillWives	02/11/22 12:55 AM
3	Relationship Challenge Field Reports Have let overwhelm get the best of me, and it has translated to a poor attitude, and dropping the ball with the kids' schoolwork a bit, and getting behind on chores. (We homeschool, and I am a homemaker.) My goal is to catch up on laundry, and declutter one room, and also prepare two weeks worth of schoolwork for the children instead of flying by the seat of my pants each day, so that when we leave for vacation in two weeks, I won't feel guilty about taking a break, and the house will be more in…	/r/RedPillWives	10/10/22 02:39 PM
3	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge Perhaps take one of the other suggestions? Or focus on an area of self improvement that you know needs work?	/r/RedPillWives	20/08/22 02:04 AM
3	Tea Time Extremely stressful day. I want to eat my feelings, but am choosing to channel it to something productive, so I am stress-cleaning and listening to podcasts. It's helping but not providing the dopamine hit I would get from diving face first into a bag of Doritos or flaming hot Cheetos. At least the clean(er) house will probably help more with long term stress levels.	/r/RedPillWives	06/08/22 09:38 PM
1	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge I like Mrs Midwest, too! We live near a walking trail, so that's a possibility, but maybe next month when it's not so hot. August is miserable in the South.	/r/RedPillWives	06/08/22 02:35 PM
3	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge Going to get serious about weight loss. My size larges are getting a little snug. Not good. Trying out intermittent fasting and calorie counting in the My Fitness Pal app. I need to figure out a workout that's beginner friendly but not so easy it's a waste of time. Any suggestions? If I can do it at home with minimal equipment, that would be awesome.	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/22 11:00 PM
2	Tea Time I think the desire to serve a husband and raise a generation of good humans is a noble calling, and that God put that desire in our hearts for His good purposes. ♥️	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/22 03:16 PM
2	How can I encourage my husband to dress better/have better hygiene? I would not recommend showing him this post and the comments. Shaming someone into doing something rarely ends well, and asking him to read strangers' responses to his personal hygiene problems seems unhelpful at best, and deeply disrespectful at worst. This situation can be handled with love, tact, and kindness.	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/22 02:09 PM
2	How can I encourage my husband to dress better/have better hygiene? I'm seeing some covert contracts here. Showering and practicing good hygiene yourself, and expecting him to do the same without telling him is one from you. Expecting you to do the things his mother did without telling you is one from him. None of these actions or expectations are inherently bad. I wash my husband's clothes, and would have no problems reminding him to put on deodorant, or take a shower. I've actually done this when hubby has been overly stressed and depressed, or sick, and it's …	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/22 02:04 PM
1	The Cute Kid Report I haven't, but my grandma was an Air Force wife, and my grandpa was stationed in Germany for months trying to figure out housing while my mom and uncle were very young. My grandma was in California at the time, and wound up driving across the country to New York, and taking a ship to England where she was supposed to meet my grandpa so they could travel to Germany together. I think my grandma was in her mid to late twenties. If you know some military wives, you might ask how they manage. Is ther…	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/22 01:40 PM
1	The Cute Kid Report We are in our second year of homeschooling. Fourth grade and kindergarten. We started at the beginning of the month so that we could take breaks and not feel rushed. My daughter is a super diligent and disciplined fourth grader, and my son, a happy go lucky, I'll do it if I must, kindergartner. Today we are taking a field trip to two local art collections. I love the arts, and hope we have fun slowing down to enjoy something beautiful or interesting. My son has a deep cavity that needs a crown. …	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/22 01:23 PM
2	Relationship Challenge Field Reports I'm not in the habit of wearing makeup, so now that I have started to wear a little, I keep forgetting to wash it off at night. Need to keep working on good grooming habits. I have enjoyed changing up my hairstyle from the constant ponytail or bun. My hair is in a French braid today, and I wore it half up to church yesterday. Tomorrow I might do milkmaid braids. I still need to shave my legs so my poor hubby doesn't have to cuddle a sasquatch. I'm ashamed of my lack of self discipline in this ar…	/r/RedPillWives	25/07/22 11:05 PM
3	Husband snores!! My husband snores when he gets past a certain weight threshold. He knows, and is sensitive about it. He knows he needs to take care of the root issue, but it won't happen if it doesn't come from his own motivation to lose weight. What has helped me sleep more soundly has been magnesium citrate (Natural Calm is a name brand.) Sometimes if the snoring wakes me up, I rub his back to gently half wake him, and ask him to please roll over to his side. He grumbles a little, but usually does it, and doe…	/r/RedPillWives	25/07/22 10:56 PM
3	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge We all start somewhere. Good for you putting this out there!	/r/RedPillWives	24/07/22 08:57 PM
9	Tea Time Have been working all summer to try and declutter enough so that if we were to hire a housekeeper to come once or twice a month, the house would be ready to be cleaned, and no one would have to clean around my junk. It's been a slow process, and there are still some bits of clutter here and there, but our master bedroom is starting to look like the peaceful retreat from the world that my husband and I want. We also implemented a rule with the kids that worked very well: when our door is open, th…	/r/RedPillWives	24/07/22 02:16 AM
4	The Good Wife Weekly Challenge Going to step up my grooming this week. Shave every day, lotion on my feet and elbows, fix my hair in something other than a bun or ponytail, and a bit of makeup. (Full makeup in this Texas heat would slide right off my face, lol!)	/r/RedPillWives	24/07/22 01:55 AM
3	Tea Time My fantasy is to have a team of maids, professional organizers, handymen, landscape artists, personal trainers, and chefs come and sort my life out for me. Our bank account indicates that I must rely on my own hard work, good decisions, and delayed gratification. Bummer.	/r/RedPillWives	17/06/22 07:52 PM
11	Cycle of fighting off and on after birth of second child Adding another baby to a family is more than twice the work! It was soooo much harder than I thought it would be. Also, hand foot and mouth is horrible. My heart goes out to you! As a mama who has been there and survived, I have a few bits of advice for you: Are you in a mom's group like MOPS? Having other mom friends can be a lifeline! Find friend to vent to before your hubby gets home, so you get it out of your system. It is important to vet those friends, though. Feminist perspectives can be …	/r/RedPillWives	17/06/22 07:33 PM
2	Husband's consoling technique with baby doesn't work, advice needed Part of the reason for baby's distress may be that he senses you near, especially if you are nursing. You smell like milk, comfort, and cuddles. Leave the room. Ideally, leave the house for a little while. Let them have time to figure it out and bond. Thank your lucky stars that your husband is willing to get through the fussing, and do the work so that he and your baby understand each other. This will take time, and trust from you. That doesn't make it easy on you, I know. It's SO hard, but thi…	/r/RedPillWives	14/06/22 11:54 PM
1	Tea Time I am ill. I don't know if it's flu or covid or what, but I feel pretty awful. Still can smell and taste though. Managed to wash the dishes over the course of a few hours because I had to keep stopping to rest. Hubby brought it home from work. Hope the kids don't catch it. 🤧	/r/RedPillWives	13/06/22 01:51 AM
2	Tea Time What about a maxi dress, or t-shirt dress? They're pretty comfy, but still feminine and pretty. Save your bathroom to clean last, and put in a hair mask while you work. Then you can clean your shower while rinsing the mask out, and do other spa stuff in a nice clean bathroom.	/r/RedPillWives	09/06/22 10:46 PM
3	Tea Time Hang in there! I was in the last trimester in the summer with both of my babies. I at lots of popsicles, and swam a lot, which really helped when I just felt humongous and uncomfortable. Never understood those that loved being pregnant, but envied them.	/r/RedPillWives	09/06/22 10:39 PM
5	submission I am in my late thirties, so probably too old to be considered "around your age." My husband and I have been D/s for I think the past 4 years out of the 15 we have been married.	/r/RedPillWives	29/05/22 01:34 AM
2	Tea Time I don't think I can speak to prioritizing self care, because it is not my priority. I do prioritize my relationship with my God, my relationship with my husband, and caring for my children. I only have so much energy, and everything can't be a priority. However, I have been in your shoes, where anything more than the bare minimum in personal hygiene feels like a chore. This usually happens when I am feeling either overwhelmed, depressed, or both. My advice would be 1. Just start. Take yourself t…	/r/RedPillWives	18/05/22 09:21 PM
4	Tea Time This is our last week of homeschool for the year. Trying to finish strong, but we are all burned out. Planning to spend the summer decluttering and organizing in the hopes that I can hire a house cleaner. Right now our home is just too cluttered for a housekeeper to be able to accomplish much. I've already got two giant bags ready to go to Goodwill.	/r/RedPillWives	18/05/22 08:58 PM
2	Tea Time Nordstrom has lovely sleepwear if you want something special. I bought a silk nightgown and robe for my honeymoon 15 years ago, and felt really fancy. I'm sure Macy's will have pretty little things, too. You could check Tj Maxx and Marshalls. They usually have nice options on a budget. I've also found beautiful things on Amazon.	/r/RedPillWives	18/05/22 08:53 PM
1	Tea Time MIL is in town. She is a toxic, narcissistic peace of work. Not looking forward to this week. I just don't have the energy to deal with her. At least she is not staying in our house.	/r/RedPillWives	15/05/22 06:26 PM
1	Hubby/Boyfriend/SO gratitude chain? It is a shame, isn't it, that common courtesy and human decency is becoming less and less common? I wonder if it is due to more entitled mindsets, and a lack of expressions of gratitude toward each other. OP, I applaud you for appreciating the little ways your man makes you feel loved!	/r/RedPillWives	05/05/22 05:37 PM
2	Tea Time Thank you. My husband sure had fun with the fact that I wasn't supposed to talk. 😆 I am feeling better. I sound less like a squeaky balloon, and more like I smoke 3 packs a day.	/r/RedPillWives	05/05/22 05:29 PM
3	Hubby/Boyfriend/SO gratitude chain? My husband works hard at a job that doesn't thrill him, and is up before the sun to do so. He's generous with our household income, of which he is the sole provider. He's never made me feel like a dependent, and constantly voices appreciation for the things I do as a homemaker and homeschooling mom. We don't take each other for granted, and are so grateful to be with each other.	/r/RedPillWives	04/05/22 05:54 PM
1	Hubby/Boyfriend/SO gratitude chain? Happy birthday to you!	/r/RedPillWives	04/05/22 05:49 PM
2	Tea Time Laryngitis and possible strep throat makes parenting and homeschooling interesting. In other news, Instacart feels like a decadent luxury!	/r/RedPillWives	04/05/22 05:48 PM
5	Embracing Your Truth Loudly Why are you so dressed up? "It makes me feel good." "New dress, and I couldn't wait to wear it." "I needed a little pick me up." Who are you trying to look good for? "Myself." Look down at cute skirt, little heel kick pose. "It's working. I'm very attracted to myself!" With a smile and chuckle. Wow, I didn't know you were a 1950s woman This is where the agree and amplify technique works: "Just wait until you taste my Jello salad/ pot roast/ casserole! It's love in a dish!" "Yeah, too bad my man …	/r/RedPillWives	04/05/22 05:45 PM
7	Tea Time Husband has been extremely stressed at work, came home to our chaotic home. (We have young children, homeschool, and the washing machine is broken.) He made a sweet comment that he loves coming home to me, and I think I said something about even though our house looks like a tornado riped through? And he gave the most encouraging and loving response: "I'm not coming home to furniture and our stuff. I'm coming home to you, and it's the best part of my day." I don't deserve him, but I'm glad to ha…	/r/RedPillWives	25/04/22 03:22 AM
2	Tea Time He is risen indeed! Hallelujah!	/r/RedPillWives	17/04/22 10:07 PM
2	Tea Time Maybe you could slip something fun into his luggage?	/r/RedPillWives	17/04/22 10:05 PM
1	Tea Time Tired. So very tired today. Motivation for homeschool has deserted us all. Contractors working on the outside of the house means our dog can't go out to play, so she's being a...female dog. Husband is stressed at work, and less than impressed with the contractors. Pulled my back picking up a bazillion Legos, miscellaneous toys, and trash. Weight loss has stalled. My tooth hurts. I think I have a cavity. I am usually able to see the bright side of things, but it's been a rough week. Just want a s…	/r/RedPillWives	12/04/22 07:59 PM
11	Tea Time Late 30s, married 14 years, together 15 Last night I had a very good conversation with my daughter. She heard me discussing with a friend complications I had postpartum with her (extensive Deep vein thrombosis and a pulmonary embolism) and got it in her head that if I had died, it would have been her fault for being born. She came into our room crying, and curled into my lap. (She's upper elementary aged.) I told her, no absolutely not. I have a genetic blood clotting disorder, and if I had neve…	/r/RedPillWives	06/04/22 12:43 PM
6	Insecure and smothering! Has your husband said your intensity is difficult for him? Or is he pulling away from you? Maybe he just needs some time to decompress when he gets home. Your post mentioned insecurity; when you get clingy, what are you trying to manipulate him to do or say? Is it physical closeness you are craving? Verbal affirmation of his love for you, or acknowledgement of your work at home? 72 hour shifts sound like he desperately needs to recharge and recover when he gets home. How does he do that best? A …	/r/RedPillWives	04/04/22 12:40 PM
1	Tea Time Nine hours into cleaning our bedroom, and it's half done. Still, it took months of neglect to get it into such a chaotic state. I'm glad it won't take that long to straighten it out, and turn it into a peaceful retreat for my husband and myself. Also, I love getting into bed with freshly washed sheets! Usually, I ban people from sitting on the bed, or messing it up after I have put fresh linens on the bed, but I looked at Hubby with a twinkle, and asked him if he wanted to dive in and rumple it …	/r/RedPillWives	03/04/22 10:00 PM
1	Tea Time I had luck mixing it with other herbal teas to mask the taste. Can you drink it with meals?	/r/RedPillWives	03/04/22 09:47 PM
6	What’s for dinner? Found a decent deal on thin Ribeyes, so we will have those with buttered carrots, green beans, and a salad. I have a whole chicken and extra chicken breast marinating in the fridge, so one night will be roast chicken with baby potatoes, and the leftover meat will make enchiladas verdes another night. I made Salisbury steak this past week using ground lamb instead of beef, and served it on top of risotto, and it came out pretty good. Probably my favorite out of the things I have cooked this week.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/22 07:03 PM
3	Non-Obvious Benefits to Staying at Home Late 30s, Married 14 years, together 15 I have been a full time housewife for 11 years. At first I didn't do it very well at all. I regret the fact that it's only been in the past few years have I really been able to manage our home well, and in the past month, since being "redpilled" has shed some light on uncomfortable truths about my character as to why it took so long for me to get my act together. Some unexpected benefits: Having the time to learn cooking techniques for better tasting, heal…	/r/RedPillWives	31/03/22 01:03 PM
14	Tea Time Late 30s Married 14 years, together 15 Finding myself briefly annoyed picking up my husband's dirty clothes scattered next to the bed when the hamper is about seven steps away. "Gosh, is it really hard to take a few seconds to put them in the hamper??" As I thought about this, I remembered all the tasks I have put off out of habit, and then forgot. Who am I to want to call him out, when I do exactly the same thing, usually more often? One of the things I put off, that only takes a few minutes, i…	/r/RedPillWives	30/03/22 05:38 PM