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I think this is the best, most measured response here.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 02:38 PM
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So, from a woman’s perspective…it doesn’t feel good when you text and ask to chat tonight and when she replies wanting to finally meet in person you say, actually I’m busy for the next few days… I would take that to mean you are using me as an “emotional support pet” to use the OP’s gal’s phrase. You aren’t interested in meeting me in real life. You just need someone to listen to you. Well, that’s what therapists are for…you pay for that service. I’m not saying you’re wrong to move on. She shoul…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 02:31 PM
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I do agree. I have absolutely no weight to any of those criteria when I got married at 24. Just went head-long into it, out of a sense of loyalty. Nearly threw away my life (literally). I barely got out of my abusive marriage after 5 yrs. I know a woman who was hand-picked by her husband at 20 yrs old. Imagine getting married as a college sophomore!!! He has a great family, good morals, etc., he took very good care of her for 17 yrs. They’re now getting divorced…but still, 17 yrs of mostly happy…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 03:21 PM
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A divorce without any parental support must be totally awful - especially when you have two young kids. I think the loss of vision in life would also be extremely difficult for me at my age now. I was divorced 10 yrs ago and it was hard then, but in my head I still had a chance to have a family and kids. Now somehow a decade passed and I have nothing, and both my parents are dead too. I was talking to that same guy I mentioned, and he insinuated that a woman in her 20s actually has less time to …
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 02:58 AM
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I just want to thank you for this response. I know this is a subreddit for men, but I sometimes read threads here because it helps me get a different perspective. I have male friends, but none that have been through divorce in this way (long marriage, with kids). I’m divorced, but for over a decade and it was a 5-yr marriage marked by a lot of DV so it’s just not comparable to a decades-long marriage filled mostly with love and mutual support. I’m in kind of a similar position to OP except not f…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 03:55 PM
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Seems like you hate everything about this woman. Why’d you marry her, out of curiosity? Because there’s no way she changed into this overnight…she’s almost certainly been the same person with no hobbies and not a big social circle, who prefers to do chores at home, and who either isn’t motivated or has imposter syndrome and doesn’t know her value in the workplace/job market. Complaining about her on Reddit isn’t gonna do anything. Either talk to her, get counseling, or ask for a divorce. And nex…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 11:46 PM
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My point is that this guy’s post isn’t about him. It’s about his kid. It’s all well and good if he stands his ground and tells her to stop playing games, but if she’s serious and kills herself while their kid is in her care…I mean, that’s an awful, awful thought and OP is right to be concerned and to ask for advice on the best course of action to protect his son.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 04:26 PM
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I think the problem is there is a child involved. 🙄 Baiting his ex to kill herself if she wants is probably not the right move for the health and wellbeing of his son. Regardless of her intent, this is probably not the right choice.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 03:14 PM
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After reading this post, the approach I would take is “she initiated it, but we had both been unhappy together for a while. I was going through the motions because I saw our marriage as a commitment I wanted to honor, but once she no longer felt that way it freed me to be honest about our situation as well.” I feel like that’s as honest as it gets and makes it a little less sus why you moved on so quickly.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 12:02 AM
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I’d be honest and don’t worry about the tension. Honesty is refreshing. But I’d also say you moved on to a new relationship 2 weeks after your wife first brought up separation, so to some people on the outside it might seem as thought you both wanted it and she just made the first move. Not saying that’s what it is…but two weeks is very short to already have found, met, and started dating a new romantic partner who you trust. Still, be honest….she initiated it, and you accepted her feelings and …
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 11:49 PM
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Yeah I get this point. Some guys do say stuff like a 10/10 woman is great in theory but every man is always trying to get her, LOL. Then again I think that’s what men like - they feel powerful and get validation from being able to “keep” a woman like that. By “keep,” I mean keep her attention…imagine if you wake up next to a woman who chooses you every day despite every man who looks at her wanting to have her…like, despite all her options she chooses you. That’s built-in, daily validation. It’s…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 03:45 PM
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Have you been evaluated for major depressive disorder? I know therapy is like the new buzzword these days, but seriously you might need short-term SSRI therapy to help “jump start” or reset your neurotransmitter levels (I’m not a doc…) By the way, apathy (which is what you’re describing…kinda just not being able to bring yourself to get out and “do life”) is part of major depressive disorder. It doesn’t always look like, “I don’t wanna live anymore.” Men especially can experience it differently …
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 04:46 PM
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I feel the same way. Also, yes it seems he got the transplant but transplants generally don’t magically make people “normal” healthy again. They make them healthier than they were (which was sick enough to need a transplant…so really sick). He’ll be on immune-suppressing meds his whole life. Raising a child, with all the germs they constantly bring home, could actually pose serious dangers for him. Not that anyone needs an excuse to decide they don’t want kids…but this guy has the best excuse if…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 01:38 PM
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I follow this subreddit occasionally but hardly ever post obviously, out of respect that it’s a men’s space. But I just want to say I agree with you here. There are a lot of ways in which men are kinda getting a shit deal today. I don’t know if it means anything to hear that from a woman, but just wanted at least one person to know that at least one woman does see this happening. (Source: most of my closest friends are guys; I’m kinda direct and brazen in my communication style so I have always …
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:39 PM
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It’s also possible that your daughter is simply empathetic. She doesn’t WANT your ex to feel guilty over not being able to afford new clothes. She doesn’t WANT to flaunt the expensive clothes you bought her in front of her mother and make her feel inadequate. If that’s the case, then good on her. It’s good to have a teenager that can feel empathy and make choices for the good of other people. In fact, find out if that’s the reason and if it is, encourage it. That’s called being a good human.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 12:37 PM
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Well for one thing, it’s almost impossible to maintain the same social class after divorce. Your assets get split in half (or whatever it is..) but your expenses are not halved. Single families will almost universally have less wealth than married families. Not saying it’s the explanation for your observation; just pointing out that the relationship between divorce and socioeconomic status is complex.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/24 02:49 PM
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It’s based on the 35 highest earning years + the age you elect to start receiving benefits.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 01:33 PM
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100%. I would add that if during those inevitable times of stress the couple leans away from one another instead of towards each other (e.g., not communicating what you need or not being sensitive to your partner’s needs), that’s a recipe for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 09:46 PM
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This is what I think too. One of my guy friends recently said, “We (Americans) will never be as happy as when we were forced to stay in a marriage…,” and I’m like, dude no. Men or women alike…I mean, I get where he’s coming from, people who try harder and communicate before they just “take the easy way out” (which is not easy) or cheat (which is easy but shitty and leads to an even worse time with the not-easy path)…but still. Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 09:08 PM
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Upvoting because of your comment about laughing when ppl idealize non-western women… because, yeah… (same thing goes the opposite way, too, btw - a lot of my female friends think they want a super-traditional guy like Eastern European or Russian and I’m like, yeah that’s cute but try it out and lmk how it goes…)
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 09:06 PM
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That’s fair, I did actually misread the part about kids in your initial post. So I apologize for that assumption. I agree that infidelity is a good reason to leave a marriage, and I’m sorry you experienced that. I still think it might be worth carefully assessing what you’re looking for and how you approach dating, though. The reason I say that is because I hear a lot of men say that the problem is women (the same way you describe here). I’m a 40-yo woman (ended up on this subreddit actually bec…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 09:43 PM
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she’s gonna want to have kids, which you don’t want… and she’s no more likely to be able to have intellectual conversations with you than your average American woman. So I think what you’re really saying is you want a woman who cooks and cleans and has never been divorced. Which is fine. But just be clear (with yourself and with women) about what you want before you go shitting on the entire American culture.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 06:23 PM
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