anthonyprov Archive

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1	What Are The Worst Cases Of Misandry You’ve Seen In The Horror Genre? Ari Aster always strikes me aa a nebbish, self-flagellating weasel.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/07/26 04:57 AM
1	My thoughts on how feminism is especially damaging to leftist men That man has been ideologically hijacked. He needs to withdraw from these spaces and re-compartmentalize his energy. That's a step by step process. The excerpt about needing emotional support but fleeing it due to his absorption of these "generalized" discourses is tragic and sad. What's more us that his self-abnegation will likely cause her to leave him. He needs to own every part of himself, not deny them thinking his false chivalry does anyone any favors.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/05/26 06:55 PM
1	How I avoid spiraling into shame when hearing feminist critiques of men Lost in the sauce.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/01/26 10:25 PM
1	Misandry on BlueSky "Elsewhere, attention has shifted to the framing itself—specifically, whether women are being told, explicitly or implicitly, that the responsibility for fixing this falls on them," As if women's issues aren't laid at the feet of men, explicitly or implicitly, as something they need to fix or take on as a burden. Also, discourse about changing people's perceptions about women abounded for a long time, and those are only perceptions; similar discourses around men appear to be met with hostility, …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/01/26 12:58 PM
1	Have You Experienced or Witnessed Mistreatment of Men Based on Physical Appearance or Social Status? Women will absolutely "hide" their attraction so as to curb your ego or maintain "social power." That's not to say that every woman is fawning over you, or to provoke you to delusion, but you need to have a balanced view of yourself and others that allows for all possibilities. How many guys miss cues because their internal policy is that they should never bother women, that women are never attracted to them, and that they should never assume? I'll offer something adult: sometimes you should ass…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/10/25 03:03 AM
1	They want us to be "soft" I wholly recommend divesting oneself of discourses that have you feeding a perpetual guilt-loop with no real end in sight. Such premises are inappropriate, a double-bind, occassionally a bid for power and control, and ultimately help no one in terms of how they view themselves.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/10/25 10:17 PM
1	This is what I don't get as a guy: Yes, men face issues. But why deny that women face discrimination and violence at the hands of men? Aren't you sort of doing the same thing you claim feminists do? Shed your self-hatred and overt contrition. No one denies anything you've described. You can, surprisingly, hold two realities: the one in which you listen and weigh what you hear from women, and the one in which you are not necessarily afforded the same.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/25 03:04 AM
1	What opinion do you see other women commonly openly share, that you don’t agree with? Sounds like you swung from one extreme to something more balanced, but even when the guy in question is observant, there are still women who simply won't talk things out when necessary, despite the guy asking, opting to remain quiet and expecting him to just know. He might have an idea, but who wants to deal with that level of passive aggressiveness all the time? That's also exhausting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 08:38 PM
1	"Mankeeping" - does this sound like control and emotional abuse to anyone else? Nevermind all of the situations in which a woman is absorbing and extracting all of a guy's time, attention, and emotional reserves! Will that phenomenon be examined at length by various people as problematic, or is that simply a given? Give me a break.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/08/25 04:55 AM
2	"Mankeeping" - does this sound like control and emotional abuse to anyone else? There's a small sliver of reality in which women probably have to overextend, but I wonder if these phenomena, once labeled, are extrapolated to situations in which the woman in question is simply a bad partner.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/08/25 04:50 AM
1	"Mankeeping" - does this sound like control and emotional abuse to anyone else? "Yeah, I just like it when my man isn't smart in the way that I'm smart - he's kind of...you know, like a dog. Don't look at me like that, it's totalllly a compliment. Anyway, it's okay for me to say that because I was once in a talking stage with a literature bro who made me second-guess my self-esteem because I hadn't read Infinite Jest or Derrida." "Yeah, I just like it when my girl is kind of...you know, not as smart as I am. Kind of like a little lap dog you know? A good girl - cute - but j…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/08/25 04:47 AM
2	Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me. Here's hoping that the scales of justice tipped in your favor.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/25 12:03 AM
2	Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me. Are they still practicing? I'm inclined to want to leave a terrible review somewhere on your behalf but I don't know how advisable that is. In any case that sounds like a violation of confidentiality, along with just a violation of good will and decency. I'm sorry.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/08/25 10:44 PM
3	Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me. I sincerely hope you reported her. Good grief.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/08/25 10:19 PM
1	I feel for her poor son. If she's self-aware enough to understand that her traumatic experiences have colored her perceptions of men, then she can do the internal work to separate those misperceptions from reality.	/r/EverydayMisandry	11/07/25 03:51 AM
1	I feel for her poor son. "Go to therapy."	/r/EverydayMisandry	11/07/25 03:48 AM
10	I asked trans men about their thoughts on masculinity. They feel bad for teenage boys Women fight to be seen as individuals and actual people, yet they themselves hold a litany of myths and misperceptions about men, socially and in their personal lives. Good grief.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/06/25 12:11 AM
7	How My Algorithm Changed When I Stopped Hating Men It's a phenomenon I've heard about before, where women want a man to "be in their masculine", such that they don't have to think. It sounds like a desire to want to retreat into an infantile state, where the man becomes a psuedo father-figure. Not to say that men aren't protective, but to romanticize it to extremes (as someone phrased it), is weird. Meanwhile, a guy can never step outside a certain perceptual framework, lest he tax on a woman's Emotional Labor and shatter some internal myth she …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/05/25 12:13 PM
1	Help Finding Study On Anti-Male Teacher Bias in Grading This is a good one.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/03/25 01:55 AM
18	Misandry’s impact on young men We're seeing a turn where people now want to associate the so called "gender wars" with elites who want to divide us, or Russia wanting to destabilize the West, or something in between, but we all have selective short term memory apparently. Legitimate misandry flourished for a time; open and brazen prejudice was acceptable under the guise of healing trauma or the empowerment of marginalized groups. To raise a voice against prejudice is natural, but you seriously couldn't protest or levy critici…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/03/25 12:18 PM
1	A Shape of Manipulation and internalised Misandry to come? Can I scream?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/03/25 12:30 AM
1	I talked to the DEI officers at work about men's issues - Part 3 "I could have chosen to bring men's issues to them years ago. I had wanted to do that, but I was convinced they wouldn't want to hear what I had to say." You were convinced for good reason. Anyone entrenched in that ideology and framework has participated in the alienation of men and the general atomization that you reference. You had good reason to hesitate. The fact that you tried is more than most would (and perhaps should) do.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/03/25 01:52 AM
1	I talked to the DEI officers at work about men's issues - Part 3 "I could have chosen to bring men's issues to them years ago. I had wanted to do that, but I was convinced they wouldn't want to hear what I had to say." You were convinced for good reason. Anyone entrenched in that ideology and framework has participated in the alienation of men and the general atomization that you reference. You tried. It's not your fault.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/03/25 01:48 AM
2	The Man Carrying Thing Makes Fun of Male Loneliness Sexual assault allegations forthcoming.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/02/25 05:35 PM
1	I talked to the DEI officers at work about men's issues - Part 2 People like this have contributed to a lot of toxicity and are responsible for enabling views, values, and attitudes that alienate, create prejudices, and discriminate against half the population. All the while, you're gaslit into tucking your tail between your legs so you can subject your conscience to the lashings of an ideology that's taking advantage of your good will and convincing you that immutable traits of who you are in need of reformation. A decade-long struggle session.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/02/25 12:04 AM
1	There is a narrative to paint all men who are cautious around women, as paranoid Incels with victim complexes. Ruined is the right word.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	29/01/25 12:26 AM
1	"Call out misogynistic behaviour in your friend groups" It's not enough to post on male-oriented and offer "sympathies" and assurances that they're "not all like that" or that "feminism is for all."	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/12/24 04:20 PM
5	What do you think are important safety tips for men when dating? Do not accept disrespect; curb it if you start seeing it; know your worth in these situations and in general. A lot of men conflate forbearance with a lack of boundaries.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/12/24 01:58 AM
5	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ My dad is very socially adept, disarmingly honest, and gentle in both his manner and with his hands. He is also seemingly always capable of making one feel safe. A lot of his brothers (my uncles) are somewhere similar on this spectrum; that is, the spectrum of non-brutishness. In my own life, my friends and I were also nothing like the bizarre caricatures presented to us later down the road by indiscriminately discriminatory social discourses. Why do women get to presume much about my "lived exp…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/12/24 04:34 AM
2	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ You're not alone, and I suspect that there are a lot of guys who have experienced this to varying degrees.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/12/24 03:26 AM
25	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ "When that carries on and becomes mainstream over the course of generations, eventually kids who had no say in being born male are going to get fed up with their life experience of being demonized from their earliest memories." Well stated. We're soon to be a generation from major societal shifts, ushered by the rhetoric of feminism and intersectionality. Young men growing up today, or "tomorrow", will largely not be aware of a world in which they are systematically favored because they probably…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/12/24 09:33 PM
1	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ If you don't mind my adding: we're soon to be a generation from major societal shifts, ushered by the rhetoric of feminism and intersectionality. Young men growing up today, or "tomorrow", will largely not be aware of a world in which they are systematically favored because they probably aren't systematically favored, or as systematically favored. Their experience of reality will likely be the opposite, even if there are still social, political, and legal gains that feminism feels the need to ma…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/12/24 09:24 PM
97	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ It's sad that people will only lend an ear for these issues when it's a trans person. That said, this person's analysis rings shallow and relies too much on tired generalizations; an entire group reduced to a monolith. At the risk of contradicting myself in the same sentence, these issues seem overstated and understated all at once. My concern is that social analyses like the one conducted by this person, will become more fodder that people will use to continue to justify a ideological re-educat…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/12/24 08:02 PM
1	Just a reminder to those who haven't left. This site wants you to feel hated. They want men to be pushed into further radicalization. For the sake of your own mental well-being. Leave this website. Reject the premise; rediscover your worth; don't act defensively in order to prove to others you're "decent" as there's no end to the trial; own who you are; try to do what's right; keep healthy; trim the fat in your mind and heart; forgive yourself.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/12/24 08:41 PM
9	An admission that feminism is not for everyone Are people really still talking like this?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/10/24 01:34 AM
2	If feminists truly hate the male gaze. Then they should call out women who encourage other women to use sex as a tool of control. Agency does not equal moral or social good.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/09/24 04:24 PM
1	Thoughts on this Twitter thread. Stuck in 2017.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/08/24 06:10 AM
6	Thank you guys Hey, man. I'm sorry that Culture and Society has convinced you that you are something ugly and monstrous by default. It's not true. I've struggled with similar. The best thing to do is develop integrity, regardless of social validation and accolades. That's easier said than done sometimes. And yet it's not unproductive to acknowledge that the discourse around this is partially to blame. The same people who would tell you to get over it are the same people who wanted to dismantle grand narratives…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/24 10:13 PM
11	The way feminism wants men to act/feel about gender issues feels very religious/catholic to me you're not alone in this observation.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/24 01:27 AM
1	The male gender role of being the stoic rock in a romantic relationship is the most pronounced example of emotional labour that exists in life, and those who believe women do more emotional labour on average are either lying or ignorant. You'd think we'd encourage more women to be proactive in dating, but that doesn't seem to be happening at any capacity. Endless passivity for women, endless agency for men; add to this an extreme culture of consent and you have a really weird social landscape. The best thing is to act situationally but some wisdom comes by learning, and that learning comes with experience; yet the price of experience seems higher than it might have before. Shifting social dynamics do that. But then you're told i…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/07/24 01:55 AM
1	The comics subreddit is having a bit of a reckoning It's easy to rally people in defense of women when it comes to sexual assault. That's well and good. It's difficult to do the same for men, as cultural narratives and discourses currently show us. There just isn't as much social mobilization against those issues for men, and the lopsidedness of the conversation around it is a bummer to think about. I need to be well-educated about women, mature in my relationship to them, and pay for the sins of my gender as a default attitude; there's no impetu…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/07/24 11:06 PM
1	The comics subreddit is having a bit of a reckoning It's easy to rally people in defense of women when it comes to sexual assault. That's well and good. It's difficult to do the same for men, as cultural narratives and discourses currently show us. There just isn't as much social mobilization against those issues for men, and the lopsidedness of the conversation around it is a bummer to think about. I need to be well-educated about women, mature in my relationship to them, and ready to be an "ally"; there's no impetus on the other side socially a…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/07/24 10:45 PM
8	Misandry from a popular webcomics artist and more Yet we're a culture that says "words matter" and believes in the power of rhetoric to act upon individuals, manipulate perceptions, and spur to action. Give me a break.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/06/24 03:32 PM
1	Misandry from a popular webcomics artist and more Except they do talk like that shrugs. It's almost as if neither insufferable group is on the moral high-ground and can very well slip into being the exact thing they hate.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/06/24 02:44 AM
1	There's victim blaming everywhere I go Are men not also conditioned in similar ways, often to their own detriment? But that, of course, is somehow their fault.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/06/24 06:48 AM
–	There's victim blaming everywhere I go So you can't be there for the men in YOUR life because of...social conditioning?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/06/24 06:45 AM
8	When did you first notice society's shift toward mass-produced misandry? When did it start, and what made it worse? Glad to hear someone mention the sharp cultural turn towards irony, a lack of earnestness/sincerity, and "post-modern tendencies" as coinciding with hostility in the discourse around gender. Somewhere during or after 2013 is where everything starts to shift.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/06/24 06:23 AM
1	I’m starting to worry that the discourse is pulling me to the Right. You're not a misogynist, you just hate uneven narratives and cultural double standards that involve you/your identity directly.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/06/24 08:41 PM
1	I’m starting to worry that the discourse is pulling me to the Right. "I don’t want to become a misogynist." You're too hard on yourself. You don't hate women; you hate uneven narratives and peculiar, cultural double standards. You're not going to succumb to the depths of social undesirability by having one (or even 3) imperfect thoughts about women. Recognize it for what it is, forgive yourself, and move on. There's always room and space to be the person you want to be, which is often the person you actually are.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/06/24 08:32 PM
5	Addressing the issue of societal attitudes towards masculinity… A lot of girls and women absolutely have fantasies about what a man is and only think of them in terms of what they can provide for them. One hears that women are tired of "mothering men" but that dynamic absolutely exists at the other end of the continuum. Too many men find themselves in situations where they are Emotional Support / Protector / Swiss Army Knife Boyfriend #300 with little reciprocation or regard for them as a human being. What OP said about women wanting a surrogate father and n…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/05/24 11:19 PM
3	Why Do I Get The Ick When Men Are Emotional Around Me? It's completely possible that this guy ran into some family issues, had no time to phone a friend, and had to keep his engagement with this girl, who got the brunt of his emotional processing. But is it not a potentially Green Flag that the guy isn't bottling all of this up? Meanwhile, it's a red flag that she was trying to manipulate him later on in the evening, not properly articulating her thoughts or feelings at all: "I spent the rest of the night not exactly ignoring him, but trying to demo…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	08/05/24 04:31 PM
1	Why Do I Get The Ick When Men Are Emotional Around Me? Oh boy.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	08/05/24 03:45 PM
4	Has anyone noticed a lack of awareness for the male anatomy? Yet you are faulted and shamed as a guy for not knowing everything about minora, majora, etc.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/03/24 03:46 AM
1	Modern relationship are very parasitic and one sided It can seem like there's more pressure "to do the work" as a guy, so as to not overly burden and inconvenience a potential partner. I don't see that there's nearly a lot of pressure on the opposite end. I'm at my university a lot, and I'd venture to say that there are just as many guys being "fathers" to their girlfriends. And I'd say this goes beyond the context of early adulthood. The most self-awareness about this I've seen or heard is Billie Eilish's song in Barbie. There are probably a lot …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/02/24 02:11 AM
40	Government guidelines on teaching children sexual consent advise starting early and using plain language (with arbitrary focus on protecting "women and children") "And they encourage pushback against 'harmful' gendered assumptions that normalise sexual violence, but anticipate 'backlash' from young men and recommend a 'non-judgemental' approach." What kind of gendered assumptions that normalise sexual violence? What kind of backlash are they anticipating specifically? Say it with your chest. I'm skeptical of a non-judgmental approach that doesn't also acknowledge a young man's own personal boundaries and right to "consent", as well as the implicit message…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/01/24 06:06 PM
7	what label and school of thinking would you apply to Bell Hooks besides the broad term feminism? Have you ever been in a male only space, or had male friends? The toughest guys can be extremely tender-hearted and compassonte, while supposedly sensitive men can be cruel, manipulative, and full of insecurity. Your claim that most men are only comfortable showing vulnerability with women is outdated, and ignores a reality that gets brought up on places like /askmen, wherein a guy's vulnerability is weaponized against him by his girlfriend or wife. This reality of chuds that you're describing j…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/12/23 08:56 PM
6	When have women ever been the gender more expected to do emotional labor? If she isn't your mom, then you aren't her dad. See how messed up that sounds? My issue is that the concept, like all others used to slice reality into discrete parts, might be used as a cover for a person's own lack in a relationship situation. It becomes an idea in one's toolbox that has the potential to be used in contexts that you deem inconvenient because you're selfish and a bad partner. Self-deception and poor relationship skills. You think you're being put upon, but what the other person…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/12/23 04:42 PM
1	It's okay to be a man. Being a man is not a crime. In fact, the world is a better place with you in it. 2 years late but cheers, friend.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/10/23 02:46 AM
1	I think my sister is a misandrist and dislikes men "Its payback for all the things that men have done to women." Revenge therapy.	/r/EverydayMisandry	22/09/23 08:32 PM
6	Why Men Can't Talk About Their Struggles A lot of is abuse. People can use this type of rhetoric as a cover for bullshit, and it's unfortunate, if not irritating. A lot of men will accept it because they have a low view of themselves and a lack of self-respect.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/09/23 08:18 PM
1	Why Men Can't Talk About Their Struggles "Men should have a space, but only if it meets our criteria and standards." Why does anyone need the validation or approval of these people? You're exactly right about this cognitive dissonance regarding emotional labor. If you are, as many say, tired of "mothering" men, then why don't you allow them to leave Barbieland and figure it out on their own, as beloved sister Greta Gerwig succinctly articulated? Why do you insist on power and control? Listening is a two-way street. Accountability is a …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/09/23 05:39 PM
1	R/menslib feels like so weird They are living in Barbieland.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/09/23 08:31 PM
2	The Toxic Matriarchy in all it's glory. You do not need to feel responsible for the actions of someone else, or even the actions of many, if it has nothing to do with you.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/08/23 12:53 AM
1	Objectification and Sexualization Her experience isn't normative. Plenty of women objectify men in similar ways. Obviously you want to be mindful in public, but there's nothing wrong with the fact of you being attracted to women. It's not an inherently degrading, disgusting or base thing. Women who say this have their own issues to work through; you shouldn't feel vilified for what's essentially her problem. Wish her healing, safety, and comfort. But remove yourself from the presence of those who are prejudiced against you, for …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/23 03:47 AM
3	Have you ever been shamed by another man (or men in your life) for showing certain emotions? My friends growing up had no issues with expressing emotions, being honest, and showing vulnerability. My dads and uncles are all emotionally expressive, tender-hearted, and passionate. It's not what's portrayed culturally and socially. Life is more nuanced and complicated than the grab-bag of concepts we've reduced it to.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/05/23 06:54 PM