anthonyprov Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	They want us to be "soft" I wholly recommend divesting oneself of discourses that have you feeding a perpetual guilt-loop with no real end in sight. Such premises are inappropriate, a double-bind, occassionally a bid for power and control, and ultimately help no one in terms of how they view themselves.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/10/25 10:17 PM
2	"Mankeeping" - does this sound like control and emotional abuse to anyone else? There's a small sliver of reality in which women probably have to overextend, but I wonder if these phenomena, once labeled, are extrapolated to situations in which the woman in question is simply a bad partner.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/08/25 04:50 AM
2	Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me. Here's hoping that the scales of justice tipped in your favor.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/25 12:03 AM
2	Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me. Are they still practicing? I'm inclined to want to leave a terrible review somewhere on your behalf but I don't know how advisable that is. In any case that sounds like a violation of confidentiality, along with just a violation of good will and decency. I'm sorry.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/08/25 10:44 PM
3	Years later, I'm still mourning what was taken from me. I sincerely hope you reported her. Good grief.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/08/25 10:19 PM
10	I asked trans men about their thoughts on masculinity. They feel bad for teenage boys Women fight to be seen as individuals and actual people, yet they themselves hold a litany of myths and misperceptions about men, socially and in their personal lives. Good grief.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/06/25 12:11 AM
7	How My Algorithm Changed When I Stopped Hating Men It's a phenomenon I've heard about before, where women want a man to "be in their masculine", such that they don't have to think. It sounds like a desire to want to retreat into an infantile state, where the man becomes a psuedo father-figure. Not to say that men aren't protective, but to romanticize it to extremes (as someone phrased it), is weird. Meanwhile, a guy can never step outside a certain perceptual framework, lest he tax on a woman's Emotional Labor and shatter some internal myth she …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/05/25 12:13 PM
1	Help Finding Study On Anti-Male Teacher Bias in Grading This is a good one.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	31/03/25 01:55 AM
18	Misandry’s impact on young men We're seeing a turn where people now want to associate the so called "gender wars" with elites who want to divide us, or Russia wanting to destabilize the West, or something in between, but we all have selective short term memory apparently. Legitimate misandry flourished for a time; open and brazen prejudice was acceptable under the guise of healing trauma or the empowerment of marginalized groups. To raise a voice against prejudice is natural, but you seriously couldn't protest or levy critici…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/03/25 12:18 PM
1	I talked to the DEI officers at work about men's issues - Part 3 "I could have chosen to bring men's issues to them years ago. I had wanted to do that, but I was convinced they wouldn't want to hear what I had to say." You were convinced for good reason. Anyone entrenched in that ideology and framework has participated in the alienation of men and the general atomization that you reference. You had good reason to hesitate. The fact that you tried is more than most would (and perhaps should) do.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/03/25 01:52 AM
5	What do you think are important safety tips for men when dating? Do not accept disrespect; curb it if you start seeing it; know your worth in these situations and in general. A lot of men conflate forbearance with a lack of boundaries.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/12/24 01:58 AM
5	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ My dad is very socially adept, disarmingly honest, and gentle in both his manner and with his hands. He is also seemingly always capable of making one feel safe. A lot of his brothers (my uncles) are somewhere similar on this spectrum; that is, the spectrum of non-brutishness. In my own life, my friends and I were also nothing like the bizarre caricatures presented to us later down the road by indiscriminately discriminatory social discourses. Why do women get to presume much about my "lived exp…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/12/24 04:34 AM
2	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ You're not alone, and I suspect that there are a lot of guys who have experienced this to varying degrees.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/12/24 03:26 AM
25	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ "When that carries on and becomes mainstream over the course of generations, eventually kids who had no say in being born male are going to get fed up with their life experience of being demonized from their earliest memories." Well stated. We're soon to be a generation from major societal shifts, ushered by the rhetoric of feminism and intersectionality. Young men growing up today, or "tomorrow", will largely not be aware of a world in which they are systematically favored because they probably…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/12/24 09:33 PM
97	„The one thing I didn't prepare for was how lonely it is to be a man.“ It's sad that people will only lend an ear for these issues when it's a trans person. That said, this person's analysis rings shallow and relies too much on tired generalizations; an entire group reduced to a monolith. At the risk of contradicting myself in the same sentence, these issues seem overstated and understated all at once. My concern is that social analyses like the one conducted by this person, will become more fodder that people will use to continue to justify a ideological re-educat…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/12/24 08:02 PM
9	An admission that feminism is not for everyone Are people really still talking like this?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/10/24 01:34 AM
6	Thank you guys Hey, man. I'm sorry that Culture and Society has convinced you that you are something ugly and monstrous by default. It's not true. I've struggled with similar. The best thing to do is develop integrity, regardless of social validation and accolades. That's easier said than done sometimes. And yet it's not unproductive to acknowledge that the discourse around this is partially to blame. The same people who would tell you to get over it are the same people who wanted to dismantle grand narratives…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/24 10:13 PM
11	The way feminism wants men to act/feel about gender issues feels very religious/catholic to me you're not alone in this observation.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	30/07/24 01:27 AM
8	Misandry from a popular webcomics artist and more Yet we're a culture that says "words matter" and believes in the power of rhetoric to act upon individuals, manipulate perceptions, and spur to action. Give me a break.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/06/24 03:32 PM
8	When did you first notice society's shift toward mass-produced misandry? When did it start, and what made it worse? Glad to hear someone mention the sharp cultural turn towards irony, a lack of earnestness/sincerity, and "post-modern tendencies" as coinciding with hostility in the discourse around gender. Somewhere during or after 2013 is where everything starts to shift.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/06/24 06:23 AM
5	Addressing the issue of societal attitudes towards masculinity… A lot of girls and women absolutely have fantasies about what a man is and only think of them in terms of what they can provide for them. One hears that women are tired of "mothering men" but that dynamic absolutely exists at the other end of the continuum. Too many men find themselves in situations where they are Emotional Support / Protector / Swiss Army Knife Boyfriend #300 with little reciprocation or regard for them as a human being. What OP said about women wanting a surrogate father and n…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/05/24 11:19 PM
4	Has anyone noticed a lack of awareness for the male anatomy? Yet you are faulted and shamed as a guy for not knowing everything about minora, majora, etc.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/03/24 03:46 AM
1	Modern relationship are very parasitic and one sided It can seem like there's more pressure "to do the work" as a guy, so as to not overly burden and inconvenience a potential partner. I don't see that there's nearly a lot of pressure on the opposite end. I'm at my university a lot, and I'd venture to say that there are just as many guys being "fathers" to their girlfriends. And I'd say this goes beyond the context of early adulthood. The most self-awareness about this I've seen or heard is Billie Eilish's song in Barbie. There are probably a lot …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/02/24 02:11 AM
40	Government guidelines on teaching children sexual consent advise starting early and using plain language (with arbitrary focus on protecting "women and children") "And they encourage pushback against 'harmful' gendered assumptions that normalise sexual violence, but anticipate 'backlash' from young men and recommend a 'non-judgemental' approach." What kind of gendered assumptions that normalise sexual violence? What kind of backlash are they anticipating specifically? Say it with your chest. I'm skeptical of a non-judgmental approach that doesn't also acknowledge a young man's own personal boundaries and right to "consent", as well as the implicit message…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/01/24 06:06 PM
7	what label and school of thinking would you apply to Bell Hooks besides the broad term feminism? Have you ever been in a male only space, or had male friends? The toughest guys can be extremely tender-hearted and compassonte, while supposedly sensitive men can be cruel, manipulative, and full of insecurity. Your claim that most men are only comfortable showing vulnerability with women is outdated, and ignores a reality that gets brought up on places like /askmen, wherein a guy's vulnerability is weaponized against him by his girlfriend or wife. This reality of chuds that you're describing j…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/12/23 08:56 PM
6	When have women ever been the gender more expected to do emotional labor? If she isn't your mom, then you aren't her dad. See how messed up that sounds? My issue is that the concept, like all others used to slice reality into discrete parts, might be used as a cover for a person's own lack in a relationship situation. It becomes an idea in one's toolbox that has the potential to be used in contexts that you deem inconvenient because you're selfish and a bad partner. Self-deception and poor relationship skills. You think you're being put upon, but what the other person…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/12/23 04:42 PM
6	Why Men Can't Talk About Their Struggles A lot of is abuse. People can use this type of rhetoric as a cover for bullshit, and it's unfortunate, if not irritating. A lot of men will accept it because they have a low view of themselves and a lack of self-respect.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/09/23 08:18 PM
2	The Toxic Matriarchy in all it's glory. You do not need to feel responsible for the actions of someone else, or even the actions of many, if it has nothing to do with you.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/08/23 12:53 AM
3	Have you ever been shamed by another man (or men in your life) for showing certain emotions? My friends growing up had no issues with expressing emotions, being honest, and showing vulnerability. My dads and uncles are all emotionally expressive, tender-hearted, and passionate. It's not what's portrayed culturally and socially. Life is more nuanced and complicated than the grab-bag of concepts we've reduced it to.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/05/23 06:54 PM