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| 1 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?How’d you meet him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:31 PM |
| 16 | Just FYI…if you or a loved one are hospitalized, it is ALWAYS ok to insist on having female-only staff.I remember when I was 8 or 9 I went to the family doctor for a physical. I started growing pubic hair and he looked at my public area and then said to my mom something along the lines of “she’s developing quite early.” I was so embarrassed and humiliated for going though puberty, a completely normal thing. I thought something was wrong with me because I developed so young. I remember telling my mom that I did not want to see a male doctor anymore and she respected my decision. From then on I onl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:07 AM |
| 41 | The perks of dating multiple men before commitment (FDS art by me)You are very talented queen. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 12:53 AM |
| 90 | This is too funny 🙄But if a woman snaps at her man she is crazy, emotional, irrational, or on her period! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 10:34 PM |
| 14 | How long is too long for a guy to reply to a text?That’s so true. Like even at work, do people not have breaks?!?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:31 AM |
| 21 | How long is too long for a guy to reply to a text?Depends. I think context is important here. What was your last text to him? Did it warrant a response back? If you said something like “Haha that’s funny” then I think it’s ok to let the conversation die. However if you asked him a question and he took 11 hours to respond then that’s ridiculous and unacceptable. If he doesn’t respond in 24 hours then you should move on. I recently was talking to a guy who would take over a day to respond. Every time he was apologetic, but had a different excuse.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:28 AM |
| 11 | Have you recently met any man who was actually willing to wait to have sex with you under YOUR TERMS?So happy to hear that. I wish you all the best, sis! You deserve it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 05:01 PM |
| 37 | Car mechanics need to respect professional boundariesYou rock!!! Way to expose him to his boss and fiancé!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 11:34 PM |
| 15 | Needle spiking - happened to my best friend last weekend in Denmark be carefulSo scary that it’s spreading to the US now, although I can’t say I’m surprised :( LVM are sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 02:49 AM |
| 31 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!Their hobbies are porn and video games. Don’t forget heavy drinking and weed use too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:20 AM |
| 94 | Would you still go on this date?Your intuition is always right! You’re getting bad vibes and rightfully so. I would cancel. | /r/askFDS | 01/11/21 07:50 PM |
| 34 | Weight neggingGood for you! That is So unbelievably rude of him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:47 AM |
| 7 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?Awww thank you so much ! I really appreciate that. I feel embarrassed to share but it feels good knowing that I can help another woman. We deserve to have HVM who are absolutely in love with us, not LVM who don’t even like us back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:26 PM |
| 15 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?Yeah me too. That guy is an absolute waste of space and a bad influence on me. I still struggle with peer pressure around saying no to alcoholic drinks especially around heavy drinkers. That guy is an alcoholic and his bad habits would rub off of me in a bad way 😬😬😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:24 PM |
| 96 | What are your best tips for letting go of the IDEA you have a person?I am going to buy that book too. I am really interested in the idea of being with my former coworker. But in reality, it does not make sense. He is 12 years older, thinning hair, a heavy drinker, smokes cigs when drinking, was unemployed for over 10 months, materialistic *wastes a lot of money on a new car when he was unemployed*, emotionally unavailable, has no kids but a dad bod, out of shape, and I am sure he has limp dick. I am trying my best to get over him. He does not even want me but I s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:20 AM |
| 1 | FDS is BACK!So happy to be back! Hello queens ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Yeah rationally I know he is not good for me. He has also drank a lot one time then drove home afterwards instead of taking an uber. Which is LV behavior. I know I could not date someone who is a heavy drinker because it would rub off on me. I definitely want to work on having stronger boundaries and being more confident in saying no. Thank you. I am going to tell them something came up and I won't be able to make it to the reunion. | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you. I am getting therapy currently. I see her tomorrow. I am afraid of meeting with them. #1 is because my crush is a heavy drinker, and so are my other coworkers. #2 I give into peer pressure easily and have trouble sticking to my boundaries, so I’d probably drink a lot too. This is something I really want to improve on. But being a people pleaser I would likely drink as much as them. Also I am still working on trying to control my intake of alcohol. I would just be so embarrassed if I g… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thanks for the comment. Well no. But we really don’t see each other very often. I haven’t seen him in 1.5 years. So it’s not like I am running away from him. My thought process is why would I want to interact with him at all since doing so will just keep me hooked. It’s clear that I need to get over him. :( Kinda pathetic that I need to get over someone I never even dated… I did the right thing by blocking this guy, right? I also blocked out all of my other coworkers besides my good friend. Shou… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…You’re right. Thank you. I have a question though. Hey so I have a question. So I blocked this guy and also canceled our meeting. But we are supposed to have a meet up with other former coworkers in a few weeks. I was the one who initiated it. What’s the best way to go about this? I assume I shouldn’t go, right? Since it will just make me want him more. What’s a good excuse to not go? Just say something came up? That I forgot about it and made other plans? I do consider one of the other former c… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you 😍🥰 | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Hey so I have a question. So I blocked this guy and also canceled our meeting. But we are supposed to have a meet up with other former coworkers in a few weeks. I was the one who initiated it. What’s the best way to go about this? I assume I shouldn’t go, right? Since it will just make me want him more. What’s a good excuse to not go? Just say something came up? That I forgot about it and made other plans? I do consider one of the other former coworkers a close friend…the others I’m not that clo… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Hey so I have a question. So I blocked this guy and also canceled our meeting. But we are supposed to have a meet up with other former coworkers in a few weeks. I was the one who initiated it. What’s the best way to go about this? I assume I shouldn’t go, right? Since it will just make me want him more. What’s a good excuse to not go? Just say something came up? That I forgot about it and made other plans? I do consider one of the other former coworkers a close friend…the others I’m not that clo… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Hey so I have a question. So I blocked this guy and also canceled our meeting. But we are supposed to have a meet up with other former coworkers in a few weeks. I was the one who initiated it. What’s the best way to go about this? I assume I shouldn’t go, right? Since it will just make me want him more. What’s a good excuse to not go? Just say something came up? That I forgot about it and made other plans? I do consider one of the other former coworkers a close friend…the others I’m not that clo… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you. I am seeing a trauma-informed therapist from a local rape crisis center, focusing on my sexual assault. I imagine I can discuss these issues with her too. I will bring them up to her. I do have a lot of trauma :( | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 01:11 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you for saying that I’m not less than or broken because of my dad. That always made me feel less than but it should not. That was on my dad, not me. You are right those personality traits are learnable over time. I will be out the lookout for my dad’s shitty characteristics in other men and friends. | /r/askFDS | 21/09/21 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you ladies. Another fdser mentioned the term hurt locker ...so interesting. It seems like we did fall for the guy due to similar reasons. You’re right sleeping with him would just make everything worse | /r/askFDS | 21/09/21 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…I am not a dude, however I’m not sure what I can say to make you believe me. I am sorry that I come across as a dude due to my remarks. I feel embarrassed that’s how pathetic I’m being towards this guy. Understand if you don’t want to respond anymore. I don’t want to get into any arguments or fights here. If this is inappropriate then please delete the thread. Thank you for taking the time to write out these comments though. They are very helpful and even though it’s not what I wanted to hear I’… | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 10:10 PM |
| -10 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…I don’t know why I am obsessed with him. Maybe because I want to be like him (assertive, outgoing, and confident) Maybe it’s because my dad rarely gave me affection as a child. | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 08:14 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…You’re right. See my update! Maybe I am trauma-bonded to him because we worked in a toxic environment? Also my dad was never affectionate or loving towards me as a child so perhaps I’m used to men not liking me back… | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…You’re right. You ladies are so right. It’s painful to hear. See my update. Maybe I am so attracted to him because I want to be like him. Also my dad was never loving or affectionate when I was a child so maybe that’s why I am attracted to guys who don’t even like me back? | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 07:23 PM |
| -17 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Can I want to fuck him and also get knowledge for his expertise? We worked for a very toxic company. Could I partially be trauma-bonded to him due to the toxic nature of the workplace? It’s true when I left the company back in April of this year he never even reached out to ask me how my new job was going…even as a friend. :( | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 06:48 PM |
| 23 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you. You’re right. And I heard a comment another coworker made when they went to the bars together. The guy I have a crush on is super confident when going up to women. He’s never made a move on me…even after I told him I thought he was hot. 🙁 | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 05:38 PM |
| -32 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…But that was when we were coworkers. In my heart (I know I’m not thinking rationally) I am hoping that something has changed now that we are former coworkers. | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 05:34 PM |
| 14 | Ladies, In Desperate Need of Advice…Meeting Up with A Former Coworker who I have a crush on…Thank you. I’m glad I posted here. I need some tough love. :( You’re right…I’m not thinking straight. Thanks for bringing me back to reality. | /r/askFDS | 20/09/21 05:33 PM |
| 3 | Friends discussing anti-abortion laws in a group setting -Do I still be friends with her?Thanks so much. I met with the detective yesterday. I feel like I have gotten some much needed closure from the incident. And there are others, but these are the only two other young women in the organization. There are some young and older men, but I’m not trying to be close to them. She apologized again and said she will be more sensitive next time when considering bringing up topics like that. So I forgive her. She’s a nice person but I am going to focus on making other friends outside of thi… | /r/askFDS | 18/09/21 04:45 AM |
| 3 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?You make a good point. I’ve been ghosted by several guys in the past who I’ve been on multiple dates with so I guess I didnt think about common courtesy. I stand by what I did but in the future I will keep your advice in mind. | /r/askFDS | 14/09/21 01:35 AM |
| 1 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?No I’m not seeing him. We have been talking since Friday. He never even asked me out on a date yet. I’m a bit confused about being harsh. I thought we were supposed to block and delete any males that don’t meet our standards… | /r/askFDS | 14/09/21 12:33 AM |
| 17 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?You’re so right. I deserve better! I deserve a financially stable man who has time and energy and money to spend on me Blocked and deleted. I feel powerful. He’s the second guy who I’ve blocked and deleted. If he doesn’t meet my standards, he’s gone. | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 11:39 PM |
| -8 | How Does FDS feel about Older Men Going Back to School to Level Up or Change a Career Path?Graduating with his bachelors degree in biology in May 2022 🤮🤮🤮 You’re right. I value stability and lots of quality time together. Blocked and deleted | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 11:25 PM |
| 30 | Feeling stressed, depressed, and unfocused due to a LVM. Having a very sad day. Help! How do I snap out of it?I meant what can you do for yourself to make yourself feel better. I am glad you realize that is toxic. Because you can’t control his actions. And you are putting the state of your happiness in his control. That’s not good because what if he doesn’t respond? You will feel upset. You said he’s an LVM. I hope you can find the strength to block and delete. Turn your phone off, put it in another room and enjoy your meditation and music :) | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 07:55 PM |
| 37 | Feeling stressed, depressed, and unfocused due to a LVM. Having a very sad day. Help! How do I snap out of it?F that guy!!!! You deserve happiness, joy, and success on your terms!!! It’s ok to be depressed and unfocused. You’re not supposed to be motivated 24/7. Give yourself some grace. What’s one thing you could do for yourself in this moment that would make you feel a little better? | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 07:29 PM |
| 20 | From pickme to picky: This sub has made me fall in love with being single!Love to see it! Congrats on getting into your grad program! Wishing you all of the success and joy you deserve! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 30 | Men continue to stay in power because the average woman does not understand how they truly think.You’re amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Friends discussing anti-abortion laws in a group setting -Do I still be friends with her?Thank you so much. Yeah this is the first incident. I guess I will give her another chance. Like the other poster said, I can't expect people to read my mind. But it's true. I also don't owe anyone anything. I'll continue to go to the organization as it is good for my professional growth and development. Thank you. I do get therapy with a therapist specializing in sexual assault. | /r/askFDS | 05/09/21 04:34 PM |
| 8 | Friends discussing anti-abortion laws in a group setting -Do I still be friends with her?Yeah you're right. I guess I am being too hard on her. I can't really expect everyone to read my mind. I'll give her another chance. I told her via text message about the morning after pill and pregnancy test after she texted me "I'm so sorry I didn't mean to offend you." I also told her that I was disappointed in her because I told her about the rape last week. I then blocked her because I don't want to deal with back and forth text drama. I was angry and wanted to let her know how I felt about… | /r/askFDS | 05/09/21 04:31 PM |
| 1 | TW!!! Should I report my rapist?Thanks so much! I do want to report but I’m worried about potential retaliation . The rapist knows my first and last name and the apartment complex I live at. Not saying he is a violent person but I don’t trust men 😬 | /r/askFDS | 17/08/21 12:45 PM |
| 3 | TW!! Did I do the right thing by cutting my friends off after they left me by myself at a night club?I know. I am just afraid of the potential retaliation. He knows my first and last name and my apartment complex. Idk if I would feel better with fear or anger...I can’t stop thinking about this | /r/askFDS | 17/08/21 01:50 AM |
| 2 | TW!!! Should I report my rapist?Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/askFDS | 16/08/21 11:28 PM |
| 13 | TW!!! Should I report my rapist?Thank you so much. For the rape kit, do I go to the hospital? I assume it is free, right? And yeah I did not wash the clothes specifically for that reason. I’m on the fence of reporting. I didn’t know about the internal trauma. Thank you, I will do that. And yes I do want justice. I understand if he doesn’t get convinced but I want him to know what he did was wrong and not ok. I want it to effect him. I am very uncomfortable with him just forgetting about the night and for me suffering in pain f… | /r/askFDS | 16/08/21 11:27 PM |
| 2 | TW!! Did I do the right thing by cutting my friends off after they left me by myself at a night club?Thanks so much! I’m so sorry something similar happened to you. It sucks that this is all too common. Yeah I’m furious at him too. He gets away with everything and I have to live in shame. If I do report him I will live in fear of repercussions. Fuck him!!! :( | /r/askFDS | 16/08/21 02:30 AM |
| 7 | TW!! Did I do the right thing by cutting my friends off after they left me by myself at a night club?I live in the USA. And yes, I was raped. I am furious. I had to spend $50 on a morning after pill and $10 for a pregnancy test. And all this emotional baggage and trauma. And fuck that stupid guy. He is out there living his life while I am hurting over the assault. It’s not fair that he can live his life normally like nothing was wrong and here I am struggling day in and day out. I can barely work cuz I’m so angry and guess what? I’m a commission only job so if I don’t work hard I don’t make any… | /r/askFDS | 16/08/21 02:28 AM |
| 1 | I feel like more of our message is getting out there!!Please share your concerns with your sister! It’s not overstepping you are looking out for her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:56 PM |
| 5 | TW!! Did I do the right thing by cutting my friends off after they left me by myself at a night club?Thanks for the kind comment and support 💜 | /r/askFDS | 13/08/21 11:03 PM |
| 10 | TW!! Did I do the right thing by cutting my friends off after they left me by myself at a night club?Thank you for your kind words. 💜 Yeah I can only rely on myself | /r/askFDS | 13/08/21 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.So happy and inspiring to hear that you are doing better. Depression is a hard battle! Sending love to you queen 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:52 AM |
| 15 | Low value vs high value traits“It’s narcissistic and delusional to expect you must be the best looking most successful woman in the room always or ELSE everyone must feel the wrath of you. It’s unrealistic and stupid. No - women who’ve done nothing to you do not deserve shade or being knocked down a peg because you’re insecure. They’re also humans and many have their own personal problems to deal with. Address your ego problems first instead of offloading them onto other people.“ You are so right. Thank you so much for writi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 09:03 PM |
| 16 | Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted ToAwww my heart aches for all of you women. This feels so real to me. I grew up and got thin and attractive in college. I still can't seem to shake off those comments about me being gross or fat and ugly. :( any tips? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:50 AM |
| 2 | TW Feeling Lonely and Desperate After Sexual AssaultThanks...I needed to hear that. Do you have any advice on ways of dealing with the loneliness in healthy ways? | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 03:11 AM |
| 22 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'Also, Women are bombared with advertisements of beautiful models everyday...in public places...at the mall, on tv, social media, etc. We don't choose to see those images, they are flaunted in our faces everywhere we turn...so I have no empathy for a man who choose to watch porn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:46 PM |
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