aoishimapan Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	I posted about a man's charity seeking volunteers and most of the comments were about how women were oppressed and feminism is good ! the post got only one upvote while comments talking about women more than 15. another example that society only care about women's wellbeing. for example domestic violence against men is mocked ! where is the "'power" here ?!! I don't see how this shows a contradiction, going by the theory of patriarchy it would be very shameful for a man to not only be unable to exercise power over his wife, but to let his wife abuse him. It is mocked exactly because there is no power there when it is expected to be.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/04/21 03:17 AM
1	I posted about a man's charity seeking volunteers and most of the comments were about how women were oppressed and feminism is good ! the post got only one upvote while comments talking about women more than 15. another example that society only care about women's wellbeing. To be fair I have seen "patriarchy" often being defined as something that is meant not to benefit men, but to put them in positions of power.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/04/21 10:42 PM
9	A Crisis of Masculinity I think this could have been framed better in order to make the message more clear, because this isn't really about masculinity. Calling it "A crisis of masculinity" gives the impression that what is being presented as an issue is men not being masculine / masculine enough, when in reality it talks about the lack of men's influence growing up as having negative consequences.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	23/04/21 02:21 PM
6	I’m turning 26 today as a virgin. So what? You might not date the people you meet (and you shouldn't expect to!), but you'll get a ton of practice socializing. I think that while "just treat women like people" isn't helpful, this really refers to this. I think this part in particular is pretty solid, you shouldn't socialize with the sole goal in mind of getting a girlfriend, you should socialize just to socialize, with no goals in mind, focusing only on enjoying interacting with people, and with those people being either women or men. Ge…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/04/21 02:25 PM
15	I’m turning 26 today as a virgin. So what? I would like to see someone try to make a good forum for dating advice, but at this point I doubt dating is something that can be taught, every attempt I have seen devolves into dehumanizing people into products (e.g TRP, PUA, FDS). There are some advises that one could give, but they're pretty generic and even condescending because of how obvious it is, I mean, advises such as "just treat women like people", "just go to the gym" or "just take a shower" are pretty useless, and when trying to go …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/04/21 12:04 PM
12	"Men get assaulted and murdered more than women because they beat each other up." I don't think I can fight back, or rather, I don't have a gun so I wouldn't risk my life trying to fight with my fists someone carrying a knife or a gun, and I doubt I'll be getting assaulted by an unarmed person. Your point about not fearing rape is true, at least being raped is never a fear for me, what I fear is being assaulted, robbed or murdered. Regardless, I can't relate to not being scared of walking alone at night, because I definitively am, and I believe most men are and for very well …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/04/21 02:07 PM
9	Can we talk about this rising kink of "financial domination" (findom) it's nothing more than exploitation of lonely, emotionally broken and, sometimes, mentally ill men. As someone who's very into femdom, it kinda saddens me to see findom rise in popularity as opposed to other more healthy femdom dynamics. BDSM ultimately boils down to play pretend for horny adults, or maybe it's more like roleplaying, but what I'm trying to say is that it's all fake, even if some of it could look like abuse from an outsider's perspective, it is just a play two people agreed to take part in. I'm fine with findom in those terms, even though I still dislike it, I don't have an iss…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/04/21 04:23 AM
2	What does it mean to be a "true man"? That's something with only subjective answers tied to the culture of the person you're asking that question. What's generally considered to be a "true man" is someone who follows the established male gender roles from that culture, so in our case things such as being able and willing to provide, being confident, assertive, strong, etc. In my opinion there is no such a thing as a "true man", just men. Being a man has nothing to do with following a guideline, it's not a title you have to earn by p…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/04/21 09:29 AM
1	I'm just done reaching across the aisle. I'm so tired of going out of my way to understand women's perspectives to have them not spend a minute considering a male one I agree with you for the most part, I don't think the concept of "toxic masculinity" is necessarily flawed, at least in the way I understand it, because I think rigid gender roles are shitty for both men and women, but I still have an issue with how so much about feminist theory is framed in a way that antagonizes men, instead of portraying both genders as victims of a system that affects both of them in different ways. Things such as calling this system "patriarchy" is not exactly the most idea…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/04/21 07:32 AM
2	I'm just done reaching across the aisle. I'm so tired of going out of my way to understand women's perspectives to have them not spend a minute considering a male one but aren’t they men’s own fault due to toxic masculinity? Isn't the idea of "toxic masculinity" supposed to be about how men get pressured into fitting rigid gender roles that can be damaging to them by framing it as masculinity? I mean, by the way I understood it, it's about men being victims of traditional gender roles, so I don't really see how that concept blames men unless "toxic masculinity" means something different than what I thought it means. Rather than "men have problems but they are…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/04/21 01:04 AM
16	Why is it kam till trans? I'm not any less of a man because I'm not amab. I don't consider you a real man, so you get a pass I wonder how she doesn't realize how transphobic this is	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/03/21 08:51 PM
9	We should teach all people INCLUDING men that it's OK to assert your needs, desires and set boundaries on others You are correct that, as much as I dislike traditionalism, it was balanced in the sense of forcing everybody into that put-up-and-shut-up role. So in that sense, the conservative guys get it. It is more balanced, but in the sense of being bad for both. I know that you're not defending traditionalism, I just wanted to point out that most male issues that exist nowadays are leftovers from traditionalism, and making things worse for women won't improve men's situation at all other than being more "…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	18/03/21 10:11 PM
3	After posting about my abuse on /r/ukpolitics, a popular IG page made a commentary thread on it. I thought I'd share their take I thought this was satire because of all the blatant victim blaming and how over the top it was, so much that it was hard to imagine someone could write this seriously. Given the subreddit this was posted it, I assumed it was made by the OP as social commentary on how people react to make victims of domestic abuse. Then I read the title and realized it was serious, someone sat down and wrote all of that without ever realizing how messed up it was.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	17/03/21 09:03 PM
8	Thoughts on feminists complaining about "Not all men" and trying to pin responsibility on men as a group This is something that I think a lot about but I never see it being acknowledged, how violent and abusive men are not just a women's problem but an everyone's problem, including of course men, and arguably are an even bigger problem for men than they are for women, considering how men are statistically more likely to face violence. Those people don't treat men well, and arguably they treat men worse unless it's a close friend, a family member or someone they respect. Men aren't really any more c…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/03/21 11:39 PM
7	How is this any different to the concept of the male chaperone that you see in patriarchal countries? Ehh that's pretty reasonable actually, and not only for women, if possible men should also try to accompany their male friends so they don't have to walk alone through a dangerous area or at night. The flaw is that the article mentions it as a mean to protect women, when in reality men need that protection from their friends just as much. I mean, I can't be the only one who offered many times to walk with a friend to take the public transport, or vice-versa, and then notified each other that we …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/03/21 08:24 AM
1	Do you think the undersexualization of men is a barrier in the conversation about the oversexualization of women? Well, then it wasn't the 1950s term for femboy, because femboy isn't an insult. I get that tomboy was used derogatorily back then, but I was comparing it to how tomboy is used nowadays.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/21 07:11 AM
1	Do you think the undersexualization of men is a barrier in the conversation about the oversexualization of women? No, sissy definitively has porn connotations, and far stronger than femboy. Sissy is primarily associated with BDSM and masochism, it is considered a fetish; while femboy is just a style. I don't know what sissy meant in 1950, but nowadays it only refers to the fetish. I have never seen someone call themselves a sissy outside of a kinky context.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/21 07:04 AM
1	Do you think the undersexualization of men is a barrier in the conversation about the oversexualization of women? Well, much like tranny and shemale took another meaning (exclusively porn) I think there is a very big difference with those, trans women hate those two terms and consider them slurs, but most feminine men chose to call themselves femboys. you got to accept that porn ate the term, and take another if you don't want to invoke porn. I think lesbians have the same complain about how the term "lesbian" became so heavily associated with porn, and some even prefer to call themselves in a different way…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/03/21 06:57 AM
5	Do you think the undersexualization of men is a barrier in the conversation about the oversexualization of women? A femboy is just a feminine guy, it doesn't has to be something sexual. It's basically the male equivalent of a tomboy.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/03/21 08:24 AM
5	Do you think the undersexualization of men is a barrier in the conversation about the oversexualization of women? Femboys are super sexualized and even fetishized in some contexts, things like posting a SFW selfie and getting DMs asking them to be their "sissy slave" or something along those lines are pretty common complains I have read. And it isn't only limited to sexual comments, femboys are portrayed pretty much exclusively in a heavily sexualized way, and it's not uncommon for people to speak of them as fetishists perverts. Just searching "femboy" in Google will most likely going to give you links to p…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/03/21 05:46 AM
15	Do you think the undersexualization of men is a barrier in the conversation about the oversexualization of women? The only kind of men I'm aware of who are overly sexualized are femboys, and it's not uncommon to see them complain about it. It's more accurate to say that is femininity what is sexualized, rather than women, because women who are very masculine also don't tend to get sexualized. I think both extremes are bad, never being sexualized can make you self-conscious and question if other people even find you desirable at all. When you're not used to it, being sexualized can be very refreshing and fla…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	12/03/21 03:15 AM
12	I am so glad that I found this sub. Here's why.... The blatant censorship is exactly my main issue with it. Menslib could be a good sub for discussion, and the main reason I use it is because I have seen plenty of interesting discussions take place on it, but it can't be if the mods are way too trigger-happy with anything that goes against their ideology, and instead prefer to reduce it to a circlejerk. I don't have an issue with it being a feminist sub, I just want to be able to engage in their discussions without the risk of being banned the m…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/03/21 09:48 AM
5	I am so glad that I found this sub. Here's why.... I have been lurking both this sub and menslib for a while and sometimes participating in them. I have some criticisms about that sub, but I don't really view it as misandrist. I mean, I know it is a feminist sub while this sub has an anti-feminist stance for what I have seen, but I also don't see it actively going against men. Is it only because feminism is considered to be inherently misandrist, or there is more to it?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/03/21 08:07 AM
21	The pejorative term "manchild" is part of a pattern of gender norm enforcement where men are expected to spend their hard earned money on women and children instead of on themselves and their hobbies From my own experience, the men I see being called manchild are just adults who simply like something some people consider to be childish, for example cartoons, comics, videogames, anime, etc; and I wouldn't consider that to be immature, it's just a hobby.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/03/21 07:32 PM
21	Jail sentences should only be for men, according to the United Nations. Wow, I already got very good reasons to hate the UN, primarily the whole pedophilia thing, but I didn't knew I could get to feel a lot more disgust towards it than I already did. I had no idea they were so blatantly sexist and misandrist. Is the UN big enough to count this as misandry even in feminist terms, meaning that it must be institutionalized to count? Because this absolutely is institutionalized misandry.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	04/03/21 06:58 PM