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I'm sorry brother, but I want you to know that you're not alone. A lot of us have been through something similar, and it was a low point for most of us. The wierd thing you're going to find out is just how many guys you know who have been through similar, moved on, and are happy with themselves and their lives, and how encouraging they can be.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 08:56 AM
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Get a lawyer. Don't tell her about it and don't put it off. The 3 way trust doesn't make sense. Why would a six year old be part of that? You want to be able to separate your money issues as cleanly as possible so that you don't have that noose tying you to the past as you create a new, happier, and more fulfilling life without her. A lawyer will be much better informed to your states laws, ask your friends and coworkers if they know of one. Check out reviews. Talk to an attorney this week. Feel…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 04:31 AM
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I knew my wife, she's fucking sexist, she will only hire a man for maintenance type shit. So I knew damn well it would have to be a female counseler and my ex is very successful in business. I knew damn well everything was going to be my fault. It already had been. I was gaslighted to the extent I was keeping an fucking journal to keep track of shit. If I brought up anything she didn't want to deal with I was 'misremembering ' which led to her spending years trying to convince me I have 'early o…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 05:54 AM
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Sounds about right. Mine took the kitten I adopted, it was the only cat left at pets mart and I put my finger in its cage, and the little shit lifted her paw and set it on my finger. She used my leg as a pillow every night until I got kicked out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 05:43 AM
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Lawyer up. Talk to more than one, they'll know your options better than someone on reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 06:57 AM
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Dude, I'm really sorry you're hurting. The reason she can be so cold is because she has thought over and over about the small things she didn't get and it built her resentment and now she acts like, well, someone full of resentment. But you'll become someone full of resentment if you continue down this path of self hate and anger, and getting rid of it will become another thing on your to do list. Let it go. Feel the physical feelings when those thoughts come up. Work on losing the past on the p…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 10:00 AM
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I was a fucked up mess for a while, healing isn't linear. And I lost more than most while having a few extras tossed on the the pile, so I struggled more than I think most do and for a bit longer. The whole 'processing' for me was way different than what I assumed. It's not so much about processing, that happens on it's own later on. And it sometimes is rough and takes you back a few steps. But you don't process stuff on purpose, you deal and move forward. And the first thing you do is you chang…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/25 09:24 AM
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It sure does.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 01:31 AM
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Very valid point.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 01:37 PM
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My take. Women and men feel the same emotions and to the same degree, people that just say woman are emotional are full of shit. But us men are usually raised to suck it up and shut the fuck up. And women are typically raised to talk about their feelings, journal, and vent. Thing is, the brain likes to repeat shit. And each time it repeats something it updates it's neural network so that it's easier to repeat next time. If there is an attached emotion to that thought, it gets a tiny amount more …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:38 AM
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I'd rather be running around having fun. But I tore my MCL and caught a cold, so it hasn't been my favorite week. Being alone for Valentines, it's just peaceful, I never cared for the holiday anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 09:28 PM
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So you're really lonely in your marriage, I get that. I totally get that. Your wife probably is to. The thing is, you can start living for yourself again and not file for divorce. What is the underlying cause of your loneliness? Is it boredom, lack of community, lack of validation, lack of touch... think about that for a few days. What did you do when you two were having fun? How have you changed? What did you used to do that you no longer do? And what things did you just realize you haven't tho…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 12:16 PM
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If you're anything like me, touch is a big part of your love language and it's been a long time. Get a massage. Holy shit, my first massage after not being touched in years was amazing, Upon leaving, I felt almost like I had just returned to Earth. That did more for my loneliness than I ever would have believed. That's awesome your going to the gym and listening to books on tape 👍 but stay are you doing for you?. What are you working on? Any projects? Are you a regular at a coffee shop or a bar,…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 11:44 AM
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With everything I've been through I went a bit over the top with how the mind works and different therapies. So if you were having a hard letting go, ruminating, the voice in your head driving you crazy I might be able to help with some stuff like that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 06:25 AM
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Thank you, it will. Emotionally I'm doing way better. If you're struggling on that front I might be able to help.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 04:20 AM
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Sorry brother.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 04:06 AM
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She convinced me to stop working after I had a stroke, she contacted friends and family members behind my back up to convince them. She's a director at one of the 5 biggest medical device companies, she fought to pay 0 alimony and won. I'm. Fucked. I wasted 14 years with her, and now I have to rebuild completely. And to rub it in after she said, 'you might want to get tested for autism, your going to need the assistance. ' rather than have her even more in my head I did. And I have AuDHD. No car…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 03:48 AM
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Yes, and the book has four plays.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 01:10 AM
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I never did. We will never talk again. I spent fourteen years cheering for her and she fucked me up pretty hard. So I am continuing to build a new life, having lost my financial security, best friend (he died), cats, career, home... And she wasn't affected in anyway other than being rid of me. There's no getting those years back, only moving forward. I'm still struggling on the new career front. Until that is resolved, I don't think I will think that things are ok. With that said, my anxiety is …
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 01:02 AM
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Half of all marriages end in divorce. It's that most men after moving on don't waste their time dwelling on it. At the same time, I met men everywhere who had been through similar when I was running around lost and in shock. It was really really weird how common it was for men I had never met before offering me a beer and some slice of advice to try and help me through it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 10:08 AM
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Absolutely! Have a giant hug brother, and between you and me, it's not a linear path, but you'll be feeling better than you've felt in years, it's coming. And a part of you fucking knows it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 02:16 AM
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You're bored. You're lonely. And you likely are craving validation. I reccomend getting a couple cats the have some fuzzy lunatics around to take care of and hang out with. Whether you do that or not... you need more people in your life. Take an art class, join a gym, and a book club, look at meetups for groups you're interested in, and find out if they are something you could enjoy for a while or if it's a go once and call it good. That emptiness you are feeling more than likely is a combinatio…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 06:39 AM
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I wouldn't tell them shit. It's her family and her narrative, its none of your business. And it's pretty likely they know already anyway. But it doesn't matter. This sort of thinking is a trap. Its a way for that shitty part of your brain that loves narating and if unchecked often becomes a repeating dick, to obsess about your ex unchecked. Thinking about this doesn't help you move on. And contacting her family will just make you look bad, and after you very well could regret it. And it could be…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 11:39 PM
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It would depend on the circumstances, if they hadn't had sex in years and they went to counseling together or something that way, I would be pretty sympathetic. If on the otherhand, she was bored and was being vindictive, I would be really disappointed, would lose respect for her, would probably say something and distance myself from her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 09:31 PM
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Have you thought she might have ADHD? Which would mean she lives life with a lower level of dopamine. So she is more apt to feel depressed and like shit when most people would feel average. And as a result, she would lean into impulsiveness as a way to combat that. Seriously, take her to the doctor. For people with ADHD, meds aren't a cure all, but meds like Adderall and Vyvanse can help a tremendous amount with impulsiveness, anxiety, and depression. Please have her talk to her doctor. I found …
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/25 07:10 AM
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My ex was amazing for years until she wasn't. There is no way I'll find anyone to replace the amazing years. But the not amazing years, anyone who acknowledges me and isn't being mean is an upgrade. I figure, I'll click with someone and we'll have a lot of fun and in the mean time, I lost a myself and a lot of time during the marriage that I can't get back, but I sure as hell can use my time now to make up for it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 08:22 PM
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My ex wanted to redo our honeymoon for our tenth anniversary, two weeks before our trip she decided she would rather go on a roadtrip with a girl from her stitch and bitch who 'loves to fuck and will fuck anything' instead. She dumped my ex four months after our divorce was finalized. I know because she reached out wanting support.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/25 09:08 AM
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Nope. I got fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 05:44 AM
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I didn't get awarded alimony even though she makes over 200,000 and I was a stay at home husband. So I got a giant fuck you from the court.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 05:17 AM
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And a ton of voices telling her to ditch him, she doesn't need him...
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 02:56 AM
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Yeah, my ex isolated me. After I had a stroke she was all about me being a stay at home husband to the extent are called my friends and family behind my back. We then moved around as she built her career. The last place, she promised me we'd only be there for two years, i wouldn't move there otherwise. Two years hit, I brought that up and I was misremembering. That led to years of abuse. 12 years without sex. Several years of her trying to convince me I have early Alzheimers. She kicked me out. …
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 02:50 AM
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Well, incoming generalization, a lot of that is the difference between how men and how women are with there social circles. Unless the dude is getting Blatantly abused in front of people, his friends aren't going to tell him how much better he is than she is and that he should just get rid of her. Instead it's, I'm sorry dude, i hope it gets better, have a beer. But on the flip side her friends are telling her how much better she is, and how he is the cause of all her problems, she deserves bett…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 08:40 PM
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It had a hand in it. But we probably would have divorced anyway. I broke a promise I made myself years earlier for her, and when the time came for her to fulfill her end of our agreement, she chose gaslighting instead. And she really really went down that road to the point she was trying to convince me i have alzheimers. So i can think of a handful of things behind our divorce, and covid was just one of them.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 04:15 AM
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We will never speak or interact again, that's a hell of an upgrade so...
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 01:20 AM
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Sounds about right.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 03:26 PM
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What? No, that's ridiculous. She wanted me out of her life, and she has successfully done that. My life is not her business. Just like how her life isn't my business. She put me through hell and I'm successfully overcoming it, just not as quickly as I would have hoped. I owe her nothing, and things like respect and courtesy are included with that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 09:49 PM
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It's funny you say that. I never thought I would get married. My ex-wife proposed. And I was the one who ended up holding the commitment and the vows. She broke every single agreement we had.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 02:10 AM
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Wow. Get an attorney asap, don't tell her. Write everything down, all of it. Dictate the lies and the abuse. I was heavily gaslighted and did that just to make sense of shit. Get a therapist. Join a divorced men's group. Join a gym. Take a big breath. And look at who she is right now, would you want to spend the rest of your life as this being a high point? It will be if you don't realize how much better you will be once you get out and start moving foward. Time stranger Doesn't heal shit. Actio…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 09:54 PM
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Yes. But not cbt that's not very effective for me. RBET was very helpful, and I strongly recommend it. EDMR, helped lose some of baggage and was worthwhile too. The most important thing for me, was learning how the brain works, and it's thoughts that create feelings. And the way to stop feeling awful is to stop the thoughts. Its like when you have an anxiety attack, if you focus on your breathing, and then on the physical sensations. If it tight? Where is it? Is it moving? Does it vibrate? What …
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 02:30 PM
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I would get a different attorney!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:03 AM
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We didn't fuck for a decade. It started as friends with benefits. Our relationship started as two people using eachother for sex, no bullshit, we were both very open about it. She got fat and asked to take a break, and we never fucked again. Its too bad. But not my problem now. 👍
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 08:57 PM
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I think that sounds great. I got a haircut the other day and she massaged my head, kneck and shoulders and I realized that's the most I've been touched in years. And I scheduled a massage. So that seems like looking into, touch is part of my love language, my ex used to playfully call me a touch whore.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 07:25 PM
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My ex was the breadwinner. I was awarded $0 alimony. I'm fucking homeless and she makes over six figures. She convinced me, and behind my back my family and friends, to not go back to work after having a stroke. Nine years later.... covid killed us. Turns out i have autism. And being together all the time when moods are shit, is exhausting. And because of that, i did less around the house because she was frustrated and angry, and i was being a bitch. I was trying to avoid fighting and stupid shi…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 11:18 PM
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Nope. Thank God.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 03:48 PM
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I didn't. She was abusive as fuck, when I heard separation I was shocked, and furious I put up with that shit. I grabbed a few things and was gone in under an hour.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 10:26 AM
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Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 09:27 PM
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This. About fucking everything. I can pretty much promise you that no matter how she acts to your face, your are the villain in all of her stories. She is no longer an ally or even an old friend, it fucking sucks and it can be a bitch to accept but you are less than nothing to her, and you need to make sure as shit you stand up for yourself in every possible way from here on out. No benefit of the doubt. Only doubt. She is only about her interests now and you need to be the same. I know she chos…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 10:18 PM
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I joined a divorce group for that very reason.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:24 AM
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Dude, visit an attorney ASAP. If you haven't call and make an appointment, first thing today.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:21 AM
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It will be rough. Try a different type of therapy, CBT doesn't do shit for me. DBT and EDMR, are much more helpful, but I'm also AuDHD. My brother, who it turns out always hated her and was the one with me while I was debating backing out before the wedding, she proposed, said to me when I was struggling, 'would go back to that? Seriously, you can't tell me you would go back to that.' Talk to a lawyer, hire counsel. Pay someone to watch out for your ass.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:17 AM
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Same, I have had too many friends become full blown alcoholics during their divorces, so I quit. I have had a lot of NAs when out and about, some of it isn't bad these days. It's not the old days with O'gluells. But yeah, I've had 2 actual beers in two years. It will sure be nice when that changes.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:14 AM
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Sorry dude, I've been so tempted to pick it back up. I liked myself more as a smoker, but damn I smoked a lot and it was a bitch to quit. That was twelve years ago. I don't think I could go through the dizzy hell I went through the first time. I don't know when the empty feeling lasts, I'm going through it too. My guess is that it's because my ass made her my purpose, which was a terrible thing to do, and now I need to find my own purpose and until that happens, I will have that void.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:11 AM
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I'm two years in and I've got a ways to go. But first things is first, don't make self help, youtube divorce shit whatever your entertainment. The point is to move on and better your life. Not sit in place and think about it. I set a timer for ten minutes and I journal whatever the fuck comes out of my head in that ten minutes. I can cry while furiously scribbling cunt over and over, it doesn't matter. After ten minutes, it's time to focus on something in the now or something to better my future…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:02 AM
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Here's my take. It's always time to meet new people. Meeting new people, creating new and growing social cirles is one of the more important parts of life. We are tribe based by default. But that's different than seriously dating. And i would very much advise against serious dating for a while. Since you're still living together you have yet to exodus a lot of the feelings you're going to have to feel, and accept, to get over your divorce. And running and hiding from these feelings will just mak…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 04:14 AM
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Guilt is understandable, shame is not. Shame is a part of you, guilt is something you feel. "I'm a failure, " that's shame. How do you improve on that? Where as "I feel like a failure." That's pretty easy to make steps to get over. Don't shame yourself. Pay attention to your self talk I don't know the circumstances, so I can't really answer your question. But I can say 'you look at them with sad eyes for a short time, knowing that you did the right thing.'
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 04:02 AM
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I'm not sure when we separated, roughly 20-22 months ago maybe. I'm ready to run around have fun and date. But I'm also no where near over the baggage of being with my ex for over 14 years. And I'm thinking you probably aren't either. I miss the fuck out of having that partnership. Being a part of a team, running to someone with good news and bad. Having them run to me for the same. I miss that close connection where you can be yourself and not feel judged. Where you can be an embarrassing jacka…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 03:55 AM
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It sucks. But remind yourself, all the time you were confused as fuck, had your feelings hurt, and were ignored she was going out of her way to make sure she saw you in as poor a light as possible. It might of taken a lot of effort or none, it didn't matter. She knew she was done long before you did. Her friends and her family knew more about your marriage than you did, which is petty fucked up. And all this time you've spent missing her, feeling like shit, wallowing, crying, what iffing, wantin…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 11:34 PM
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It was weird. I found it kind of therapeutic. Don't get me wrong, the tears were running down my face, but it was one of the many ways I said goodbye to my old life. But if I couldn't do it, didn't want to, my brother would have been ecstatic. I didn't know till later, but my brother hated her day one. And when I was having a panic attack before the wedding, she proposed to me, he really wanted to just grab me and run away to the bar. So fuck it, have someone else delete that shit. Or start a ne…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:29 PM
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I threw it all on an external drive in case at some random point I give a shit. And deleted it every where else.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 10:03 PM
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Atleast I mostly didn't.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 08:50 PM
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I would want more space than that. That just sounds really unhealthy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 02:17 PM
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You're under thirty, dude you're golden! She did you a favor, you just can't see it yet. Mix that rinse repeat shit up. I'm guessing, it's during your food/chill time you start to feel lonely and bored. So that's where you need to start fucking shit up. After the gym, go to a coffee shop and do the crossword in the paper. Another day take yourself to ice cream. Basically, figure out what shit you enjoy doing for you. Did you used go to amusement parks, movies, ect? what shit did you do for you? …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:39 PM
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Back up to a an external drive and create a new google account.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:17 AM
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When women are done, they are usually done. And that means not meeting up. Something is amiss. I wound go so far as saying it's a trap. She probably wants something and meeting could cause you to regain more feelings and have a harder time moving on. At this point, I would recommend passing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:15 AM
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My ex came up to me after a session with her betterhelp online therapist walked into the room and said, 'my therapist thinks we should get a separation. So, I'll get an airbnb for two days while you get your shit out. ' and walked out. I was fucking floored and after a couple what the fucks and I'm sure there was an i love you in there. I told her she wasn't getting and airbnb, and I'd just go. I grabbed some shit and left that night. A few days later I showed with a truck and got what shit of m…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 06:08 AM
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I miss a lot of shit. Just not so much from the last four years. She was my best friend. We did a ton of shit together. She was the only person I've been completely honest with. She built a huge carreer and after a stroke and a lot of rehab she was all about me not working, now i'm fucked. So yeah there's a lot I miss. But fuck those last four years were lonely as fuck. And at this point, if I could forget the rest, that would be great.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:35 AM
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That's fucking awesome! And extremely refreshing to hear.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:32 AM
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And when you remember it better than they do.... They get fucking furious and go off about how you're misremembering and storm off.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 07:09 AM
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I can't think of a great way to put this...The more you try and placate her and make her happy. The more you look weak, and unattractive. It really makes you look bad in her eyes. A good portion of the men in this forumn got left by our wives because we were trying to make them happy. When instead we should have been living for ourselves. And after all the tears and frustration. To know that the worste part is that you quit living for yourself years ago and that's where so many problems came fro…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 07:04 AM
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In my case it was a meddling woman.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 03:00 AM
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I'm of the opinion, it's worth a try as long as the financial cost isn't very much to you. Saying she checked out two years ago, it's doubtful you reconnect but I'm a cheese ball. And if she isn't willing to do the work, you can choose to use it as a tool to get closure and help you process a lot of shit. And this could save you an insane amount of grieving, pain, self esteem hits, and frankly just time struggling. So in my opinion, would totally make it worth it. And if you two put in the work …
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 02:57 AM
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Not at all. Shit, she had mediation scheduled four weeks to the day of kicking me out, I didn't know anything at that point. So she agreed to push it back a couple months so I could at least start to accept n the divorce. I controlled the finances, but she made the vast majority of the money. So there weren't any weird hidden assets sort of thing. We talked on the phone twice, and made an agreement between the two of us. We had our mediator meeting on zoom, and where we had already had most of i…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 02:24 AM
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I've always hated the holidays, I struggle with obligatory get togethers. My exes birthday lands on Thanksgiving an awful lot. And I got 86'd Nov 2 2022, so really not my favorite month. So you're not the only one. I'm new to this town, well... as of Nov 2 last year, but I don't have any close friends. So i joined a bunch of meetups. There's an extremely active group of self proclaimed geeks, , that has its own discord, and these great people have been a godsend. So look into something like that…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 02:06 AM
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Sorry bro. That sucks. But thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one. Ugg..
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 12:39 PM
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It could be. My ex talked about how she wanted to renew our vows on our upcoming anniversary. Two weeks before it she changed her tune. She spent our anniversary on a roadtrip with her friend who just had dumped her trans boyfriend because the sex wasn't good enough. And I hung out with my cat. 14 years wasted.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 05:38 AM
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I have a long list... but early on she said something fucked up to me and I replied, 'that's a hell of a fuck you. ' and I thought that was the end of us. I bumped into her about a week later, just said hi and asked how she was doing. Then went about my day. That night she knocked on my window and things continued like nothing happened. That fucked up shit she said became a theme. And I wound up becoming codependent and putting her life and career before mine, so now I'm fucked. I knew better. W…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 05:28 AM
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I lost my job. It wasn't that great anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 11:41 AM
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I understand that. I had two cats, one followed me around everywhere but was afraid of everything. The other was a kitten, she'd use my calf as a pillow to sleep. The last time I was at my old house, I said hi to the cat that's afraid of everything, and he got all excited and ran to me. About half way across the room, he froze, and while staring at me he moved in super slow motion to hide. That hit me hard and I cried. My ex probably thought it was her. But it was that fucking cat.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 01:56 AM
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Yes I do. And a small part of me will until she's forgotten. And frankly, I wish I didn't, it would be easier to move on. God knows she's been done with me for a while.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 05:08 AM
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Yay yay! That's huge, congratulations!
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 05:06 AM
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I am one of those dumb fucks, I liked being married, excepting over covid and after, that's when everything went from fucked up to hell. But we were toxic the whole fucking time. Both of us were. She gave up more the first few years, I gave up more on the last few years. The fact is, we both loved eachother very much. Went through a ton of shit. Some awesome, some fucking awful. At the same time very much a dead bedroom, to an insane degree. Before marriage kinky as shit, after... nothing. I tho…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 05:02 AM
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She got me drunk and asked me to marry her and she was the only person I've ever felt that I could 100 percent be myself with.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 02:22 AM
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Meet up groups. There's a Maker space near by. A group that's into live music. A group of people in their fifties that have various social events. I joined a nature group that hikes every Saturday and Tuesday. And an art group that paints and goes to exhibits. I quit drinking, only drink NA beer, thankfully they're actually some good ones these days, unlike colors cutter and o'dgluels yuck. I've had too many friends become full blown alcoholics during their divorces so I'm kinda paranoid. Go to …
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 02:03 AM
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Partly, maybe. I never thought I'd get married and was content not being married. My exwife got me drunk and asked me to marry her. I thought it was a hypothetical. We had several good years. But it was a sexless marriage and after being really depressed for a couple years, living in a place I promised myself I'd never live again, she got sick of my shit and spent our tenth anniversary with someone else while I hung out with my cat. We were together for fourteen years and I put my shit on a back…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:47 AM
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5k she paid it. Fuck she left me, she should. We didn't really fight about anything, she makes a lot more than I do. Fuck it, it's done.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 09:48 PM
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I'm at eleven months and I care way more than I feel I should for my exwife. I wouldn't reconcile. But after the gaslighting and being told I wasn't attractive for ten years. Her emotional affair. Spending our tenth anniversary on a road trip with the person she was having an emotional affair with, after saying she wanted to renew our vows... Yet I still care a lot for this person. It's wierd, I've written so many motherfuckers off for so much less. I'll never talk to her again and I have a lot …
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 04:16 AM
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