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| 9 | Ladies, what are your experiences with a covert narcissistic ex after breakup?Lol trust me, I will never let myself be worked over by someone like that again. He was so good at playing the earnest, sensitive soul that it took me way too long to catch on to what a manipulative jerk he was. As for the innocence thing, that’s actually not what I was trying to prove, though I see why you read it that way. I was pointing out to him that his own purported desires made no sense, and that even by his own supposed standards he was being hypocritical. But yes, he was the king of st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:22 PM |
| 50 | Ladies, what are your experiences with a covert narcissistic ex after breakup?Dated this guy for all of a week. He spent three months pretending to be my friend - as in had “hey we are just friends right?” talk - the day before begging me to make out with him (at one point on his knees) for four hours while I was very drunk. Gah I hate my former pickme self sometimes. I caved, but told him I wasn’t comfortable making out sans relationship. So we “started” one. Except he wanted to keep it secret. At one point I offered to bring him lunch at work but he didn’t want other pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 11:31 AM |
| 10 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”Holy hell. I looked her up on that website, and like a year later she had a stomach parasite - the type that could be transmitted via rimming - and her husband refused to go get tested for it!! She is married to an absolute slug who clearly wants her to be gross and miserable. Her most recent post was four years ago, I hope she’s doing ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 05:12 AM |
| 130 | Just found this on tumblr. They call us ‘femcels’ for having high standards and help each other while incels hate and k*ll women.Guys, I am 99% sure this person is calling out Reddit for saying we are the same as MRA forums. The “y’all” isn’t addressing the audience, it’s calling Reddit the “y’all” and saying Reddit reads these two wildly different things and calls them the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 03:27 AM |
| 31 | Female Researcher undertakes research on Ayuhuasca with NVM Shaman (while trying to be politically correct and ignoring her instincts) and is later sexually assaulted - Sexual Assault in the AmazonThis is true, but I think the point being made here is a lot of women are being convinced that this isn’t true if you’re in cultures you deem “other” than your own. This woman would know to not do this among western men, but she was convinced that having that same level of skepticism in a foreign-to-her culture would be imposing her western mental framework, and was thus wrong to do - so she let her guard down. If we know not to do things that are unsafe around men, but become convinced that vie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 08:56 AM |
| 66 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.My ex used a nice comforter my parents bought me as a paint tarp while he was redoing our ceilings. Instead of an actual tarp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 09:02 PM |
| 51 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."There was a post about the friend zone on Tiktok, and I commented something like “you can always tell when men don’t actually like women as people when being friends with them is seen as something horrible.” Some guy responded with a totally unhinged “why the fuck would I want to sit around being friends with women? We don’t want to sit around listening to your boring drivel with nothing in return!” Dude nearly immediately deleted it but it was the most hilarious backup of what I had just said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:34 PM |
| 43 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postI’m almost positive I read the first lady’s posts on relationship advice actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:25 AM |
| 274 | Carole Baskins husband is alive!! She has been going through an ordeal with Netflix who willfully and maliciously misrepresented her in the Netflix "documentary". She has had to deal with too much bullshit and the real sicko who tried to murder her is in prison(good riddance). Hope she wins!It has always been shocking to me how the only person not breeding tigers, the only one not killing them, and the one doing actual preservations work was seen as the ultimate villain in a show with 1. a man who: bred tigers, coerced men into sex via drugs, ultimately leading to one of their deaths, harassed and stalked Carol for a long amount of time, and tried to murder her and 2. A man who literally was running a sex cult where he starved and abused women, and bred tigers before then killing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 01:58 AM |
| 3 | The Toxicity of It AllReligious woman here. Unfortunately the church has waaay too much compassion a lot of times for these men, and little for the women. I’m divorced, my ex wasn’t much of a porn watcher but he was abusive. I definitely heard a fair amount of advice to try to be more loving, more compassionate, that maybe being the most morally upright person would make him see his wrongs. Of course that wasn’t the case, people’s actions are their own. A lot of Christian women are definitely encouraged to not only g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 05:29 AM |
| 22 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sRegarding the bottle, it had been left there by the guys who lived in the house before, so given it wasn't anything anyone in the house had bought, my friend had no qualms about throwing it away. And yes, I think they associate femininity with weakness, and also view it as silly, frivolous, and even shallow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:32 PM |
| 511 | Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sexMost men will enjoy most sex. Women, most often, feel sexual compatibility when they feel comfortable, trusting, and knowledge of the partner. Testing for “sexual compatibility” is just a way for men to get sex quickly, while putting pressure on a woman to act like a porn star/“be up for anything” to prove she’s sexually exciting enough (aka acts like a porn star) for him. If discerning sexual compatibility were truly important to the guys who insist on it, the focus would be on waiting and ensu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:44 AM |
| 82 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sA friend of mine and I are both very unapologetically girly. We both, but she in particular, have had this exact type of girl treat us like absolute dogshit. Just be openly rude and condescending constantly. I think these type of women truly have a lot of underlying hatred for women who aren’t playing the “one of the guys” game, and women in general. For example. There was a time when one of them insisted her friend (btw another tomboy, but not the type who was that way to impress men or reject … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:04 AM |
| 87 | What are some vetting strategies to ensure a man won’t turn like this on you after giving birth?While generally helpful, this didn’t prove true for me. One time, a couple months into marriage, while driving home from a differing city, my nvex, who insisted on not using GPS (because he would get ragingly mad at the Google voice) suddenly wasn’t sure if he should take the next exit or not. He started saying “crap I don’t know if this is the right one or not!” And I said “do you want me to bring up the gps?” And he said “I don’t know!!” Given he tended to go into a fury over the gps, I didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 08:11 AM |
| 31 | [Update] Good news about the post with the fiance telling his fiancee he wasn't attracted to her for two years. She left him.I’m so glad. She sounded like such a sweet woman by all her comments, but lacking in self esteem. I hope being away from him allows her to build that. I cannot imagine being with a guy who knowingly used her for two years was a walk in the park, and I cannot imagine he built her up at all. On to bigger and better, sweet OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 04:45 AM |
| 76 | Pervert pretends to film wife at the beach but is actually recording woman in bikini behind her. Trash. Things like this are why I thank my lucky stars everyday that I never married or reproduced with a scroteThe amount of women in the comments saying “it’s literally just looking. Adults look. You all are insecure.” Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:26 AM |
| 35 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Loool this reminds me that my abusive NVex was jealous of my cat and would always say I loved it more than him. Well yeah buddy, my cat doesn’t call me a “fucking retard” all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:48 AM |
| 5 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Case in point: had a friend (super sweet girl, but definitely raised to have strong pickme tendencies) recently hook up with some nasty dude well known to be a nasty af hoe. They went condomless (with the “I always use a condom, it’s just with you I haven’t!!”) excuse). Well surprise surprise, dude gave her a luckily curable STD. He claimed he’d only slept with one girl since his last STD check, and that they did it with a condom. I think my friend totally believed him. First off ladies: if a ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 07:21 AM |
| 252 | listening to Gotye song “Somebody that I used to know” after discovering FDS made me laugh at the whiney scrote lyrics ..Yes, and one detail I like in the music video is when her verse ends and he goes back into his self pity refrain, she starts on her “aaahs.” In the video she’s basically yelling them in his face. It feels like she starts her verse calmly, but is getting more angry in recollecting as it goes on, until she is just unleashing total frustration with him and his version of events by the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:46 PM |
| 130 | Pickmes will blame other women even when it has nothing to do with them. Classy.She's also blocking anyone who quote tweets her with anything other than pickme praise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 96 | I asked on another sub for gift ideas for my boyfriend and someone suggested I take him to a strip club. Imagine the absolute state of my relationship if I even consider letting him disrespect me like that 😒 cOoL gIrLs TaKe ThEiR kInGs To StRiP cLuBs 🤪🤪🤪I remember a post asking what the equivalent of giving flowers to women would be for men. Basically all the top responses were “a blow job!” Ummm… what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:55 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Yes, it's absolutely gorgeous, and delicious. I like to use it to make lavender bees knees. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 10 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Empress 1908 gin :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:36 PM |
| 152 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.I recently texted my husband to ask him to pick up a very specific, unusual liquor for a party we were going to. He immediately sent back a photo of him with it in his hands at the checkout counter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:38 AM |
| 15 | Dating men who are better at academics than youMy grandfather helped develop radar, and started the electrical engineering program at a well known university. Dude was a completely abusive POS to my grandma and his kids, and also cheated on her with a longterm mistress. He loved to slap around and mentally terrorize my mom, and to a much lesser extent, his other kids as well. Not saying a more academic guy is necessarily going to be bad. Just that extreme intelligence certainly does not indicate that someone is a good partner. Vet as hard, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:29 PM |
| 86 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡If you look at her recent videos she honestly seems to be living her best life now. He had to create his own tiktok, which is a flop because he has the charisma of a potato. And then of course you get some whiny men and pickmes in her comments screaming "they built this channel togetherrrr, it's not fair she's the one who gets to keep it!!!" There are also, on every video, several weirdos commenting "Wow, you're recently divorced, it's totally inappropriate that you're partying and acting this h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:50 PM |
| 6 | Doctors are performing pelvic exams on anaesthetised women without consent. If you’re going into surgery you need to explicitly state you don’t want one. Stay safe out there.You just know the creeps that always say this would totally consider this horror part of "easy mode" - like some sort of "see, women even get free sexual activity when they're asleep, sluts!" After all, these are the same dudes that think putting in a tampon and giving birth are akin to masturbating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:38 PM |
| 5 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingI found her update post. Her parents died when she was a child, she was raised by her grandparents who are also dead. I saw in a comment that she met her ex husband SEVEN YEARS prior to the first post when she was working a minimum wage job, and moved her out to a rural town that had no jobs. So the dude met a teenager and groomed her into a situation where he thought she would be isolated, unable to work, and fully dependent on him no matter how he treated her. After that first post she went to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:23 PM |
| 17 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)Exactly. Seeing how much this upset her gives him power. In another tiktok of the same incident she made, she goes on to list all the things she did for him, which include giving him a home, getting him a job, cooking, cleaning, etc., literally picking him up from being nowhere in life. This woman saved his life. If he doesn't care enough not to cheat, he sure doesn't care that she is upset he cheated. She would have been better off telling him "Hey I don't find you attractive anymore, I want to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:40 PM |
| 4 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!Same. :( One woman even said she’s going to refuse to listen to this episode. I think if they would be more open they’d find they have more in common with me than a lot of more liberal people in their lives. It’s just demoralizing, we all have the same goals, why not work together to achieve them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:01 AM |
| 4 | A common DM I get from scrotes - “you’ll be forever alone”. Let’s discuss this..Some crusty 50 year old man was bragging on tiktok that he was dating a 25 year old because "she's not jaded yet!" I told him that sounded like code for "easy to manipulate into taking your BS" and we got into it. At one point I said "You know, if this works out, when she's merely 55, she'll be having to wipe your butt and be your nurse. Then you'll die, and she'll want to remarry because she's fairly young, only to be rejected by men like you, who will mock her for being old and jaded. You're r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 08:43 PM |
| 17 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!Oh man. I think I may fit exactly into what you all are looking for, but I don't think I could handle the harassment, both from the freaks who lurk, and I suspect, the members on here (I really think whoever you get is going to get flamed by a lot of FDS members for having conservative views - as you can see even in the comments just on this post). Have you considered keeping whoever you bring on anonymous? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:39 PM |
| 12 | This is what we mean by all men. When they’re left alone, they allow misogyny to thrive.After listening to this video like 20 times in horror, I actually think the dude that said this maaaay have been trying to point out how awful what the guy before him said, but instead of realizing that, the rest of them were like "hyuk hyuk yeah!" and then this dude cowardly backed down. Possibly giving too much credit though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 04:38 PM |
| 12 | It isn’t that bad…I kinda had the opposite - I had a ton of spotting and bleeding for my first couple months on it, which has finally tapered off mostly now. But I definitely think it could be related and I would get it checked out. It could be that its placement moved some and is irritating your uterus more than it was. Or possibly a little bacteria got in there and it's causing some mild vaginitis, which can also cause some bleeding. Or, like me, it's possible you've developed some endometriosis, which is not a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:39 PM |
| 43 | It isn’t that bad…I got a copper IUD a few months ago. I once had a reconstructive jaw surgery where my entire jaw was sawed apart, rearranged, and put back together with titanium holding things in place. The swelling lasted a year from it. Getting the IUD inserted was at least comparable, and I think actually worse, pain. And now I have endometriosis which was spurred by said IUD, so I have to get it removed and a hormonal one put in. Don't you let anyone, anyone tell you you're a wimp for what you do or don't w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:02 PM |
| 8 | Marriage is more beneficial for men than for women – at least for those who want a long life.Honestly, the "men mature slower" thing seems like a social excuse. In my experience, men either mature at a fairly comparable rate, or they don't mature at all. The boys who become mature, stable and good men don't take all that much time to do it, usually, and the boys who are immature nightmares just become nightmarish manchildren, regardless of how old they get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.What's sad is she got decent advice on all these posts. Men and women alike were telling her to move on - a couple guys even said "as someone who has pulled this on women in the past, this is what he's doing and you should leave." She asked for advice over and over, stubbornly ignored all of it for this slog of a relationship, and now is surprised Pikachu facing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Worried about coworkerDo you think it would be inappropriate to basically say you’d like to stay in touch and be her friend now? Maybe having you in her life in a more personal capacity could be good for her? Letting her feel that someone else is there for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 04:57 AM |
| 8 | I’m beginning to think all dating subreddits here are anti-woman to some extentHoly crap OP. Did a little stalking, and the woman who came down on you the hardest - the one who basically said you’re a sex negative stereotype, and smarmily said she pitied you? Look at what she posted not even 24 hours later. The cognitive dissonance I included her response to you at the end. This is why we don’t cow to the PickMes. This is why their disdain and their insults and even their blocking can almost be taken as a compliment. Look at what their faux “sex positivity” gets them: men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 07:22 PM |
| 14 | Got a 🍤🤏 pic once due to my activity here, but today I woke up to my first hate-spewing PM.Hmmm. Took a look at your comment that (somehow) ruffled feathers, and I think it’s pretty obvious who the culprit is, based on his public responses to you, and his comment history. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 07:24 AM |
| 59 | Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂The Greek word used to forbid sexual immortality is literally "pornea." Hmmmmmmm. Edit: Ruh roh: As a frothingly furious little man just popped into my DMs to say, the word is "porneia," because this definitely changes the point I was making. While I'm here: "Sebastian," Your comments get auto-removed from FDS. So you are just screaming into the void. If you can't keep your angry little fingers from spam commenting, then this isn't your favourite place to "lurk" now is it? You messaged me to mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:11 PM |
| 8 | Peak pick me behavior celebrated on Instagram discover feed . FACEPALM.Several of the top comments are like "well that's nice but I hope she doesn't hold it over his head or bring it up ever or act like he owes her." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 03:31 PM |
| 27 | Thank you mods!Thank you mods indeed. Please, don’t ever, ever compromise on who you let in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 06:46 AM |
| 54 | DO NOT fall for a man claiming to be "traditional".In Genesis, during the fall passage, Adam and Eve are given the curse that women will desire their husbands, and the husbands will rule over them. I’ve seen this widely interpreted in the church as “your desire will be to rule over your husband, but he’ll rule over you” even though there is absolutely no reason for it to be interpreted “desire to rule” based on the original Hebrew word used (the “rule over” interpretation was invented by some random tradwife in the 70s and the church went wild w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:41 PM |
| 29 | How to tell if your partner is becoming red pilledLol, this reminds me that my NV ex, who was emotionally abusive and literally took the stance of "there's no point in foreplay, since you're not going to enjoy sex anyhow" once asked me to make noise, pretend I was enjoying it, and fake orgasms so he could enjoy the sex more. Ha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:21 PM |
| 261 | What is the Bare Minimum? (A Reminder)As I used to say back when I was dating: "The bar is me." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 05:39 PM |
| 12 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreI agree, although I do encourage women to go to individual counseling fairly often, because it helped me realize a lot of things about my marriage and situation that ultimately helped me leave, and be a lot better off after leaving than I would have been. Granted, that depends on the quality of the counselor. Maybe I got lucky. When I see these miserable relationship posts, I very rarely think "mmm couples counseling" because it will so obviously just be another avenue for the guy to manipulate … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:11 PM |
| 11 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreMost often, yes. Especially given how resistant a lot of men are to counseling - if your relationship has degraded to the point where a counseling-resistant person is willing to try it, things are probably irreparably bad, and one or both parties are hoping the counselor can wave a magic wand and fix the other person. Which isn't going to happen. The only time I think counseling can help is if both people are just really poorly communicating, but neither are full out in the wrong, they are still… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:06 PM |
| 298 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreI went to couples therapy with my NVM ex husband. He ended up storming out of our third session because the therapist (a kind old man who had been in the game 30 years) called him out on his abusive behaviours. As my ex huffed out the door, the counselor watched him go, turned to me, and said "run." Realizing that a counselor with a ton of experience in being neutral was this freaked out by my ex was honestly really helpful and refreshing for me. It's definitely not your responsibility to be the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 08:44 PM |
| 11 | I bully men into having good gym etiquetteUgh, one time at the gym a guy was literally yelling out EXACTLY like a dude having a huge orgasm would, with every rep. My friend and I couldn't stop laughing, but I almost think it had to have been some weird kink thing. There's just no way someone could sound that ridiculous accidentally. Why are they like this? Don't they notice none of the women are shrieking on every rep? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:40 PM |
| 3 | I shudder at therapists like this giving out this advice to vulnerable women.Oh holy shit. I couldn’t help but look this lady up and as her how this is different than being upset at cheating and told it’s just your knowledge of the cheating that’s a problem. Got this bad therapistresponse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 09:28 PM |
| 17 | Just scrotes being scrotes 🤷♀️OK for real, I had always heard this was a girl's incel sub and didn't bother looking at it, because looking at incel subs even for a second is so upsetting. The other day my husband mentioned a post here so I went to look... and found myself loving all the hot posts. I figured "hmm maybe it's a fluke" so I sorted by top of all time and loved it all even more. Now I want all of my single girl friends to see this place and internalize it. But the dudes of reddit really have done a bang up job of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:56 PM |
| 6 | There needs to be more birth control options for men.I chewed out an old coworker because his wife was pregnant, they didn't want any more kids, and she wanted him to get a vasectomy. He was going on and on about how that's too scary and they should just tie her tubes while doing the c-section. I went off about how insane and selfish that was, and how adding a major surgery to an already huge and traumatic surgery is a much, much worse option than a procedure he'll be fully recovered from in like a day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:04 PM |
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