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Yeah man. I know it sucks. You just got to get back to the basics and self respect and self care. Things can only improve even if it's a slow burn.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 11:27 AM
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Solidarity brother. My sleep has only now gotten more consistent. I found diet and exercise to ve helpful and, of course, our good friend time. Good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 11:22 AM
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Bro...what the hell are you doing mate? Edit. I pray that you two nut jobs don't have any kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:59 AM
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I'm sorry brother. You have a tough road ahead of you. You need to start thinking with your head and not your heart. She's no longer the woman you built up in your head.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 11:51 AM
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They turn into a prize not worth "winning" once they decide to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 07:48 PM
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I always do. 🤙
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 10:33 PM
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I'm definitely feeling beastie. Ironically at the time that I'm most disinterested in female attention I don't care for it. Trust me, women are as, if not more, shallow and superficial than men.
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 10:11 PM
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Thanks bud. A lot of work for sure and strict diet but it's worth it. Get after your goals man. Great progress, keep after it.
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 09:27 PM
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Get after it!
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 07:25 PM
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👍👍👍
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 07:23 PM
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Thanks bud. Hopefully your situation isn't a rough one and you're practicing self care.
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 06:56 PM
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Thanks man. I'm always careful when it comes to the bedroom and always protect myself. Accidents do happen but I'm taking out the risk for the ultimate mistake to happen. 👍
/r/MGTOW218/06/21 05:31 PM
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Hey man, sending you all of the support I can. You're young and you've learned a lot about relationships, the world we live in, and more importantly about yourself. You've discovered that you are a worker amd can dig deep to get shit done. Channel that towards making it out there on your own! Leave her in the dust and take that pain and anger and focus on yourself. You got this.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/21 10:58 PM
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Check out Prague if you're willing to make the trip. Beautiful city, great exchange rate (if you're American), and beautiful women (if that's your thing). I was there 3 years ago and am itching to go back as soon as coivd dies down and I get some free time. I'm also an entrepreneur and could use a break from the grind so I know what that feels like.
/r/MGTOW217/05/21 01:09 PM
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Preach. I have no idea why men are so quick to sacrifice their passions. I just don't get it.
/r/MGTOW212/05/21 07:21 PM
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For sure man! Luckily I grew up in household where I witnessed first hand how my dad gave up riding motorcycles because my mom didn't approve. She actually hated them. While I understand where she was coming from I didn't understand why my dad just rolled over so easily. I bought my first motorcycle as soon as I turned 18 and never looked back. I knew then ans there that this was my passion and that I wasn't giving tnat up for anyone. It's only been a problem a handful of times where my girlfrie…
/r/MGTOW212/05/21 06:57 PM
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Good for you man! I'm happy to hear that. Like you I love women and am far from a "women hater" but like you I've given up on serious relationships that can leave you vulnerable to the eventual fall out. It's all about having complete sovereignty over your life and make it the best you can. 👍🤘🤙
/r/MGTOW212/05/21 06:40 PM
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I'm with you on the thought of wasting time in my youth on women. I don't regret having those relationships, I really had a lot of fun like I mentioned earlier. What I do regret is all of the emotional energy and the emotional investment that was made on my part. If I had simply seen relationships as temporal things that come and go I would saved myself a lot of pain and would have enjoyed myself in those relationships more without the pressure to cohabitate, get married, and have kids. I hope y…
/r/MGTOW212/05/21 06:20 PM
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That's not what a vasectomy is. I'm sterilizing myself, not neutering myself. There's a big difference.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 07:44 AM
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I'm anything but lonely. I have a great family, awesome employees and customers, and a very close group of friends that I call brothers. My observations are based on what I see everyday and is typical regaedless of socioeconomic statues. Some of the most miserable men I've met are family men making a high income. They know that they have to keep working to provide a high standard of living for their wife and family. They have a million dollar house full of expensive junk that they never use, to …
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 07:41 AM
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I don't think it's impossible but choose the woman very carefully. I hear having kids is a great thing and, if it's important to you, do everything you can to be the kind of man needed to be a great partner and future father and attract a high quality woman to make it happen with.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 07:37 AM
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There's risk in any procedure however having a vasectomy is very very low risk for things to go south. The Dr. doing the procedure is actually a former customer that has done thousands of vasectomies and was a world class heart surgeon in his earlier career. My boys are in good hands.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 07:34 AM
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I don't have any qualms about it. I'm actually adopted and if I ever want to have kids with a future partner I can always adopt. There's way too many kids out there that need homes. Also, I have plenty of nieces and nephews to scratch that itch. I've been thinking about it for awhile and have realized that personally I'm way too selfish to have kids and to make the kind of sacrifices required. I'm sure I would make a great dad but looking back on my life picturing having gotten any of my previou…
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 07:30 AM
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Done and done. Thinking about kicking back and watching all of the Die Hard, Rocky, and Lethal Weapon movies.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 03:41 AM
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Agreeed. They do sell an attractive product through. A lot of self sacrifice and a lot of problems that no one talks about.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 03:14 AM
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I've seen it more times than I can count. Middle aged couple break up and we move him to a small studio with a full mattress and about 10 boxes. It really is sad.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 03:06 AM
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Will do. I've done a lot of research and as I skip leg day for a couple weeks I should be solid.
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 02:55 AM
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Thanks bud. I tend to agree with the societal pressure that is really pushed in the media. All of the Disney movies, and greeting cards, and the commercials pushing for "true love". It's all a shame and while I consider myself a hopeless romantic by nature that feels deeply, I have to let that part of me go. I've been with some amazing women and have lots of greet memories of times spent together but I've realized that in life 2 people can meet, build a connection, and then go there separate way…
/r/MGTOW211/05/21 02:54 AM
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Exactly. I used to have a lot of shame and guilt and disappointment in myself for feeling what I felt which, unironically made feel worse. Now I don't beat myself up for being the kind of guy that I am. I feel deeply and wouldn't want to change that anyway. There's no shame in feeling what you're feeling. Everything fades eventually in it's own due time. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:25 PM
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Don't fight it, just let it pass and then process the feelings. Something that helped me is that I started making an effort to treat feelings as things, naturally occurring biological things, and allow them just to pass through me. Feelings don't require actions if that makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 08:45 PM
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That's it boys, pack it in. Marriage is done. Unless Bill is a raging alcoholic, abusive man, which I highly doubt, this was all on her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 11:19 PM
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Hit the gym my man. It's become my sanctuary, place of worship, and therapy session. Friends unfortunately come and go, women walk away, but the weights are always there. Seriously, I don't know where I'd be without the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 12:50 AM
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Also 39. Still very much have the drive!
/r/MGTOW202/05/21 02:07 PM
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Amen to that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 03:36 AM
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Jesus...hope you're doing better my man.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 01:04 AM
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Powerful insight. I can't imagine the pain. I was left but I don't think anything was going on behind my back. Good for you working.on yourself (I'm currently doing that as well) and taking the time to put yourself back together. We got this!
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/21 06:48 PM
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Been there. Funny how good we are on talking ourselves out of what are gut tells us. It'll hurt either way but your gut never lies and will lead you to self-preservation.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/21 02:29 PM
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Solid advice.
/r/MGTOW228/04/21 02:26 AM
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As a 39 year old male that's never been married and with no kids I visit this sub from time to time whenever I get the inkling to settle down and finally get married. All of your stories and insights is like a slap in the face back to reality. I have no interest in getting married. Ever.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 10:04 PM
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I was in a spot where I made similar calls, sometimes multiple times a day. There's no shame in it. Stay strong man. The darkness does lift, it just takes time.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/21 01:06 AM
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I definitely get where you're coming from on all levels. As a 39 year old man I've been there, done that as it were. But for me, honestly, the sensation of having "raw" sex with someone that you're really into and have that intimacy with a partner can't compare, at least for me, to any sex toy. I realize that the price for love is pain and am currently putting my self back together after a 6 month relationship ended about a month ago at her decision. Maybe that old romantic in me is still alive …
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/21 09:09 PM
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I'm slowly swallowing the red pill and, based on what I've experienced in my 39 years mirrors everything you've said. I can count only one or two partners that I've had that wasn't selfishly motivated. It's sad but true, women love opportunistically and rarely, if ever, date down.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/21 09:26 PM
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"What you don’t understand is that women can achieve a level of indifference that’s foreign to most men’s idealistic concept of love." This is something I still have a struggle fully comprehending on an emotional level. It really makes me scared of the future and being vulnerable with another woman again. Straight terrifying.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/21 04:12 AM
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Set small goals my man. That's what I do. I wake up and say today I need to make my bed, go to work, eat some food, go on a short run, brush and floss. That's all I expect myself to do. Everything else is bonus.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 05:01 AM
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Preach my man, well said! These horrible situations can either make or break you and you choose the correct path. Despite all of the pain you rebuilt your life exactly how you wanted it. I'm currently dealing with this myself and am slowly putting myself back together and fighting through the pain. Thank you for the motivation and congratulations.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 08:40 PM
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Damn dude, I'm so very sorry you're experiencing this. I can't add anything more than what's already been said except I know EXACTLY what that sickening, dreadful feeling feels like. Good luck bud and take care of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 08:35 PM
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Kudos to you for being a decent person and thinking of other people. Give potential partners the info and they'll make the decision for themselves. That's all you can do. Again Herpes is no big deal.
/r/MGTOW201/10/20 06:24 PM
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A buddy of mine was diagnosed about 7 years ago. He actively dates and hooks up but always discloses his condition beforehand. Surprisingly he says that it's only been a deal breaker a handful of times. Just protect yourself and your partner, get on suppressive meds if needed, and you'll be fine. In this hook up culture herpes is everywhere. It's not that big of a deal. The social stigma is way overblown.
/r/MGTOW201/10/20 03:56 PM
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Amen to that!
/r/MGTOW228/09/20 11:56 PM
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Likewise bud! Ironically when a man subjects himself to an overbearing woman and loses his freedom he, atleast in my mind, becomes the "man child". In some cases he traded one mother for another.
/r/MGTOW228/09/20 04:21 AM
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I think that's where it comes from. All of my buddies regardless if they're in short or long term relationships just look tired. Even something as simple as trying to arrange a poker game turns into a huge ordeal let alone an overnight camping trip. No thanks.
/r/MGTOW227/09/20 07:51 PM
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After abusing my body for the last few months I've shifted back to self care. I dropped about 15-20lbs, wasn't eating, drinking beer for dinner, and my sleep schedule was a mess. Even if I feel shitty doesn't mean I have to look it lol.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 09:07 PM
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Same here man. I've been down this road before with ex girlfriends. Not going to make that mistake either. I'm an all or nothing kind of guy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:35 PM
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I'm hoping that day comes sooner rather than later. Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:31 PM
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Good luck bud. It's almost worse than if they were horrible people and made moving on easy. I'm too old for the pyscho ex dance but part of me wishes she would do some a little dancing lol. I guess it's important not to idealize them. Our exs are still humans with flaws and are from perfect. Do you plan on being friends with them post divorce? My ex was pushing for that but I told her that was a no go. I can't go from being a life partner to grabbing dinner 2x a month.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:30 PM
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Yeah man, you're right and I get what you're saying. The last 4 to 5 months I've been forced to accept it. That's the main reason why I had to cut contact. I couldn't pretend that I was ok with our divorce. She would text me and talk like nothing happened after I moved out just checking in on me and asking how I was doing. How the hell do you think I'm doing?! When I asked her to stop reaching out she was confused. It wasn't easy but I am proud of myself. I haven't reached out since. No calls, n…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:27 PM
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I'll check it out. Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:21 PM
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As soon as I get into therapy I'm going to take a hard look at my part that I played. It's just feels so one sided you know? She wasn't very good at communicating so I feel like I was left in the dark if that makes sense. I really was willing to work on our relationship but you can't play ball with yourself. Live and learn I guess. Onward and upward.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:20 PM
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Thanks bud. I'm definitely not running away from my feelings. I feel what I have to and cry when I need to. I'm done feeling sorry for myself though. Moving forward and not looking back. Now is the time to get my head right amd hopefully we'll both be in a better place and we can both move on. Good luck man, we'll get through this.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:18 PM
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Thanks man. As soon as Covid calms down I'm getting my ass on the sofa. I've been down this road before and no contact is the way. When I moved out and was feeling low I took the money that I was saving for our future and invested in a bunch of new tools. When I was feeling low I bought even more tools. I have a quite a sizable metal fab tool collection from a Miller 302, 211 millermatic, plasma cutter, tube bender etc. Picked up a 3m speedglas hood that's awesome. I'm doing a lot of work to my …
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:15 PM
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Thanks man, I'll check it out!
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 04:09 PM
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I haven't but am interested in looking into it. Any suggestions where to start? My mental health could definitely use some improvement as well as how I see things. I'm pretty active and am pretty good shape already. I work a physically demanding job but miss the sanctuary and mental boost from going to a dedicated place where I can move some iron.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/20 09:41 PM
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I'm working on it brother. I'm just trying to look to the future but better days.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/20 09:26 PM
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I like this quote a lot. I am 4 months out of a 5 and a half year marriage with the end initiated by her. This reminded me that our definition of "love" was very different.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/20 08:01 PM
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Preach. They really are adults. Treat them as such. It's what equality and the women's rights movement is all about.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/20 08:26 AM
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Solid intel right here.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/20 05:42 PM
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I hear ya. My ex wasn't perfect but was very civil and mature which, like you said, can make it more difficult. I do wish her the best and everything but I'd be lying if I said there wasn't a huge hole inside of me. It gets better with time though. Learn from your mistakes and soilder on.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/20 08:00 PM
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7 weeks out myself. This is a solid roadmap.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/20 08:03 PM
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Let me know when you're doing this again! I could use it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/20 05:27 PM
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Amen! Edit. I can't agree with this more. I loved my ex to her core. I really tried to make it work for 5 years. My parent's didn't have the greatest marriage. My mom was very controlling and my dad was very passive thus I didn't have a great example on how to communicate. When we would have problems I was more than willing to talk them out and and asked her to help me a long the way and to remind me and communicate to me what she needed. I never really got that from her. 2 months ago she eneded…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/20 05:09 PM
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Yeah, you're probably right. Depressing really. They do seem to be creatures of convenience. I just got dumped after 5 years with my fiancee despite offering to go to couple's counseling. I guess she didn't want to put in the work.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/20 07:11 AM
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You got some old buddies you can reconnect with?
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/20 07:00 AM
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Shit, I'm afraid he's right. Good luck bud.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/20 06:50 AM
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No shit. If I ever get a divorce I'm calling this guy. I was dumped a week ago a few days after Valentine's day by my fiancee and everything he says is truth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/20 06:49 AM
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I'm curious as to why you say this. The "naturally less grateful" part. I'm not disagreeing with you just curious.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/20 06:43 AM
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