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It was honestly just commenting on their accent as an ice breaker since it was a very touristy area with people from all over. Like “i love your accent, are you from X. I hear they have all the pretty girls there”. If they’re interested in talking to you they will answer and start asking you questions, if not then it’s pretty easy to tell they’re not interested and I normally just cheers to their country and go back to my friends.
/r/seduction16/07/23 08:20 PM
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Has this happen to me while traveling. Met a girl on the first night I arrived and we hit it off but her friend was too drunk so she had to take care of her. Then weeks later I come back to the same city and end up at a different bar and saw a cute group of girls. I used the same opening line and when she responded the same I was like waitaminute, we’ve met. Great way to end off the trip and we exchanged contact info and are planning on meeting up again next year.
/r/seduction16/07/23 01:10 AM
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You know the situation best and seems like you know where the boundaries are as to whether you should show up in person. I'll tell you this, Right now it seems she's overwhelmed by a lot of personal stuff and dating/a relationship is just another thing to worry about if she chooses to pursue you. Often times cancer causes us to act differently than we usually do. A mix of being aware of ones own mortality, feeling fatigued and drained, and the loneliness it brings. Often people's attachment styl…
/r/seduction01/11/22 09:11 PM
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it's all confirmation bias. Girls get asked out, offered money to promote beauty stuff, and men assume that it's all desirable and wanted because they wish they had those opportunities. Except the girls don't want the majority of men who are shooting their shot online at them. The thing that most men don't understand is how women filter. It is a human thing to naturally filter noise. It's happening now with ads as people are gettting desensitized to constantly being promoted. My lil sister natur…
/r/seduction26/10/22 08:06 PM
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Women don't need you in their life. They choose you. This goes the other way as well. You don't need to be rich or hot to add to someone's life, it can help though. What people are looking for is a connection. It's about how you make them feel. Look at the qualities a lot of women say they want. They want someone fun, funny, confident, attractive (to them) and can provide financial stability. All of those things are based on connection. Your type of fun isn't going to be everyone's type. What yo…
/r/seduction13/10/22 10:31 PM
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I mean she pretty much said no. Like they’re free to respond however they want but in the end you’ll either get a no or she’ll be down. If someone is that rude to me even approaching them they aren’t someone I’d want to date or hook up. Worst case you get a very rude no from someone who you wouldn’t want a yes from now that you know them a bit better.
/r/seduction09/10/22 04:43 PM
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But you can't tell me "be yourself" and "add value to everyone's night" without telling me how they're connected. So let's setup a goal for dating/putting yourself out there. The ultimate goal is finding a connection with someone. That connection can be purely physical, intellectual, wholesome, and yes even platonic, etc. So with that being said, the person you are going to have the most intense connections are going to be when you are being your most authentic self. If you're not ace, then you'…
/r/seduction30/09/22 08:48 AM
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It’s both. Luck is a mix of random chance and effort. The point of putting yourself out there is to increase your odds. I don’t know what you’re specific problems with social skills are so I literally am unable to give specific advice that is exactly what you need. All I can do is point out the more general social skills that are needed. Ability to hold a conversation, practice active listening, be engaging, and adding value to everyone’s night. Adding value depends on your own strengths. Are yo…
/r/seduction28/09/22 06:30 PM
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If it doesn't happen then that means your standards are either too high or you didn't put in the effort where it needed to be put in. Just because you try and are progressing doesn't mean youre improving the area that will get you the results you want. Look at going to the gym to get girls. You can get fucking ripped but it means shit since your real problem was talking to girls and showing sexual intention. More girls might approach you, you might feel more confident, but didn't get the skills …
/r/seduction28/09/22 05:42 PM
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it is possible. The difference is having an intrinsic goal instead of extrinsic. An intrinsic goal would be to be going out there, meeting a few new people, and shooting your shot when you see someone you want to shoot your shot at. An extrinsic goal is when you go out you want to become best friends with 3 new people and bring home the hottest girl at the club. That extrinsic goal is going to be outside of your control. You can't control how people are going to feel about you and you can't cont…
/r/seduction28/09/22 05:33 AM
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Women trauma dump all the time too. The difference is they do this to a lot of guys who are in the friendzone and the "nice guys" who listen to her vent in hopes of getting laid. Women often have better support systems than men so they're not just dumping everything on one person. If all a girl does is trauma dump on you and you believe that to be closeness rather than not having healthy boundaries that's on you. Often a girl trauma dumping gets interpreted as us getting "closer" from men who do…
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:43 PM
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Being vulnerable has succeeded for you many Times. It caused you to no longer have somebody who doesn’t care about you. As sad and disappointing as this is, this is what happened. We should all want to be with someone who wants to be with us. if i can’t be vulnerable with my partner then what’s the point of being in an intimate relationship if I can’t be intimate with them? There are so many girls out there why settle for one who can’t give me the bare minimum. Guys mainly focus on one form of v…
/r/seduction26/09/22 07:48 PM
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Confidence has nothing to do with your life. It has everything to do with your attitude and mindset. Confidence is not arrogance so you don't know for an absolute fact that you are hot shit and every girl is lucky to talk to you. Confidence is going for what you want and knowing that regardless of that answer you'll still be okay. It's making a move because you want to make a move. Knowing that your actions aren't creepy but authentic and honest and knowing you'll respect their boundaries if the…
/r/seduction22/09/22 09:59 PM
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You gotta interact with her again irl. Next time you're going out with those friends just tell them to invite that coworker again since she was fun to hangout with. If the friends are homies then they'll invite her and you'll get a second shot. I will say all the people here are being dumb of you getting her socials by calling it creepy and such. It's only creepy if you're spamming her asking her out non-stop when she says no. I would've recommended just asking for it sooner from your friends th…
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:38 PM
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Ah so you don't know her. So here's some helpful perspective, you don't like her, you like the possibility of her. I'm saying that not to be an asshole or anything but as a reminder that whatever her responses are it has nothing to do with you and you aren't losing much if it goes negative. That being said, it's simple. You gotta talk to her and see if she's willing to have a convo with you. You're first message was weak since there was nothing for her to latch onto. That emoji shows low interes…
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:28 PM
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The conflicting messages come from them addressing similar problems but not looking at the person as a whole. Advice of working out, getting a good job, etc... are meant to get you into a mindset where you feel lie you have value and increase the odds of women being attracted to you because you are appealing to the vast majority of women. Except it doesn't necessarily address the problem at hand which is lack of connection. So men are constantly focusing on things in "their control" hoping that …
/r/seduction20/09/22 05:27 PM
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Tinder is a horrible place to try and get relationships. It's known as a hookup app and you're hoping to find a meaningful relationship. Try Bumble or Hinge instead. But better yet do it in person. You don't need to ask them out but you do need to approach people you find interesting. Look at it lie this. You're not being desperate, you're going for what you want. If you are passively looking for a relationship then you will get a lot of people who are approaching because they're trying to fuck …
/r/seduction18/09/22 01:49 AM
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Being at the right place at the right time is all about luck. We have no control over luck but what is in our control is our actions to help increase the odds in our favor. That's why going for what you want and being okay with getting rejected is important. Each approach, each hello, each time you get out of your comfort zone you increase your odds of being at the right place at the right time.
/r/seduction15/09/22 10:28 PM
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ahhh again it's how you define success that matters. Your definition of success is not in your hands. Same goes with weight loss, you're not doing it for yourself since you feel defeated because a girl is not interested in you in your current weight. funny you brought up the type of dudes who shouldn't approach when that was me a couple years ago. 5'10 285 lbs, making $17 an hour, and living with 4 other guys. So not the best situation but no matter what your situation is you're still deserving …
/r/seduction13/09/22 03:07 PM
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It ultimately comes down to mentality. A lot of men put a lot of pressure onto themselves for the end result which is often a result of random chance. There are so many things outside of our control that it's best to focus on what we can do which is increase the odds in our favor. Day game or simply living life and extending an invitation to vibe with a stranger is a way of increasing the chances of meeting someone who is attracted to us and us to them. We do this by cold approaching, apps, blin…
/r/seduction13/09/22 04:37 AM
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If you're handsome and not talking people are allowed to project who they want you to be onto you. The moment you speak you start the disillusionment of the fantasy they made in their head and the reality of who you are as a person. That's why there's the fantasy of the "dark and mysterious" guy. You don't know who he is or what he is thinking and that's intriguing. Maybe it's because they're secretly a softy and are suffering, maybe they're just that intelligent, maybe they remind you of an abs…
/r/seduction09/09/22 06:03 PM
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The reason it comes up is your mindset toward it. Anxiety is a warning system trying to protect yourself. Just because you've approached or even dated people you've approached doesn't stop the stranger danger and self-preservation from kicking in especially if you ended up not getting the ultimate result you wanted. So, how do you change this? View it as something you want to do that has less stakes. Part of the fear of approaching is that you are hoping for a certain result. That's why you'll m…
/r/seduction08/09/22 06:10 PM
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Living is not about being strong. Living is about working towards what you create as your purpose. Some people's purpose is creating art, others is gain as much capital as you want, and some is to create relationships, and some is to live hedonistic and others is to commit their life to the service of others. Don't give up. Find something that you want to flourish in. The greeks called it eudaimonia which is a combination of well-being, happiness, and flourishing. That's what life is about. It's…
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:21 PM
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The point is that you tried to improve yourself and your situation. If you fail then that means you've discovered one of the things that doesn't work for you and now you're free to work on one that will instead of wondering what if. Moving won't fix all of your mental issues. It will give you an opportunity to grow and be in an environment where you have a higher chance of flourishing in your craft and relationships. You'll deal with problems anywhere you go, it's about finding the set of proble…
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:23 AM
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Life is pointless until we give it meaning. It's through our actions that we give ourselves meaning. If you have elderly grandparents and are taking care of them, that means your life isn't pointless. It's in the service of others which is an admirable trait. Also you can move, it might just be more difficult to move with your grandparents or you can move after the inevitable sad passing. At the moment it sounds more like you're depressed and lacking a drive which means you'll most likely shut d…
/r/seduction08/08/22 06:47 PM
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what do you want? What are you looking for? What kind of career or lifestyle is ideal? I worked my ass off saving for 2 years to be able to move since I wasn't happy in my hometown. Moved to San Diego because I like the weather and one of my gaming buddies lived here. It's hard but if you want something there are ways to make it happen. Long term and short term goals are key here. Break up the long term goals into a bunch of smaller short term goals. Like saving money for a deposit and 3 months …
/r/seduction08/08/22 04:10 PM
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then do the little there is to do there. Still don't like it? Move. You are as stuck as you let yourself be. It can be scary but you're not happy as it is so what's a little bit of courage to get yourself into a better situation. Life's too short to be unhappy with your decisions.
/r/seduction08/08/22 03:52 PM
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I just happened to land during the big storm earlier this year that was tossing up all the dust from the sahara. It's normally great weather in Seville, Malaga, and Cadiz, I just had bad timing. Luckily it got better by the second half of my trip once I came back from dublin and I was able to not get drenched when I went out.
/r/seduction08/07/22 12:12 AM
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Well I'm not ethnically Caucasian American, the closest insult I'd receive would be "beaner" or "spic" In Mexico you'd still be considered a gringo since it means you're american not necessarily that you're white. Right, but from your experience it seems like your biggest point of attraction was that you smoked weed? I mean I don't even know how to meet girls to begin with, I've never done anything with any girl before. Smoking weed is not a point of attraction. Smoking weed was a thing that we …
/r/seduction08/07/22 12:10 AM
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Haole is basically a name for a not polynesian person. It's most often used on white people and depending on the context can be an insult. Gringo is the closest thing I can think of that resembles it. it's funny you say that since I also don't surf. I didn't even expect to get weed but goddamn it's really nice weed there especially since it is homegrown on volcanic soil. You don't need to be a stoner to get hawaiian girls. It's just an easy way of getting some alone time or setting the mood. In …
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:45 AM
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Trust me I know they were taken. One girls friends were getting super upset with her because she had a boyfriend and she told them was “if he doesn’t know it won’t hurt him”. Another was recently engaged on holiday with her friends, found out cause her wallpaper on her phone had her and her fiancé kissing. One was my cousin’s (who i was visiting) work colleagues wife. And there were a bunch of “open relationships” which I personally don’t like getting involved. Sure there were a couple that coul…
/r/seduction05/07/22 08:57 PM
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I love the cold which is probably why I'm also drawn to travel and even lived in those places. It's funny because my most recent trip to spain the weather was so horrible that I had to escape to dublin to stay dry. Hawaii is great for us brown guys cause they're brown over there too. If you know a bit of hawaiian culture you'll get far and not be treated like a Haole. If you smoke weed and surf you're pretty much in. I've had nothing but amazing times there and the kick back food is amazing. It'…
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:49 AM
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it's hit or miss. Overall I, late 20s hispanic dude, did have way better luck than in the US. The hardest ones were in asian and latin countries. Peru and Columbia I experienced the big shift when they realized I was american. In Europe, my luck depended on the country. Worst luck in a European country I had was Spain. In my experience, even the girls who were interested and all over me would tell me that they would rather still try and get a white guy. Like the white american dudes, especially …
/r/seduction05/07/22 01:05 AM
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if he does, then is that the person you want to put their arm around you?
/r/seduction19/04/22 02:44 AM
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First off You’re assuming a lot of things. Does it matter? People are going to gossip or say or do whatever they want regardless if the truth. It sounds more like you were hoping for quick and easy Sex and now you gotta put in effort. If you decide to go it should be “I want to go to a house party and have fun.” Everything else is an expectation and speculation. You can’t control anybody’s actions but yourself and your mindset
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:14 PM
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Mental health is different than ego. Mental health is knowing that regardless of what happens you know who you are and you'll be okay. Your worth doesn't go down because of the actions of others. I personally find humor in rejection and often times the ones who act over the top are hilarious since there was no need to go to that extreme. What is it that you hate about approaching women? Do you think it's a waste of time to talk to someone and finding out they have a boyfriend? If it is then you'…
/r/seduction13/03/22 04:54 PM
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Don't worry about how long it's going to take. It's about the journey, not the destination. No matter what your destination is your going to habituate to it and your expectations are going to be raised once you've experienced it. So focus on setting a goal and the process it takes to get there. Do it because you want to do it not because you want some external validation. You talk to a girl because you want to go talk to the pretty girl and not because you want her to like you. Her liking you or…
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:01 PM
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there's a catch-22 in dating for men. It's hard to believe you are a high value man if nobody wants you but you can't be a high value man if you don't believe that people want you. If you are unattractive then the odds aren't in your favor for the majority of women. But those odds are never 0. If you think the reason you're failing at dating is because you're aeshetically unattractive then you should focus on makign those changes for yourself. This is to maximize your chances but you can be attr…
/r/seduction23/02/22 04:16 AM
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It works but like many things when it comes down to women...it doesn't work every time. When you pull up on her she is then free to make a decision of whether or not she's interested in you. You have no real say in the matter except by putting your best foot forward. Some girls will be fuck yeah he's cute and other's will be like "ew" like in this case. They have their own desires and attractions so you never know. The biggest mistake this guy did was walk away in shame. There is no shame in goi…
/r/seduction18/02/22 09:01 PM
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eh. I get the not getting walked on. I think the bigger problem is everybody is trying to make assumptions out of why they're doing it. You could just communicate and set healthy boundaries. Some girls like the validation but have 0 intention on cheating, some are just proud of their bodies, some just have the habit of doing it without putting in much thought, and some are out there making a brand for themselves and are luring horny dudes to make money off of them. People use social media for di…
/r/seduction04/02/22 05:28 AM
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it is her right to know since she has the right to make an informed decision especially when it comes down to her own body. If he chooses to not tell her then he is lying by omission and removing her right to consent and choose what is best for her. If he lies then he's an asshole who is purposefully lying to get what he wants. Just because something is legal doesn't mean it's ethical or right. All he has to say that he is also seeing other people and reinforcing his original stance that he is l…
/r/seduction30/01/22 06:17 PM
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Enjoy the moments in person. If you want something more serious then find someone who wants to be more serious or is more available. Sometimes they're legitimately busy. Or maybe it's her ADHD where object permanence is a problem where if she isn't seeing you in person she will forget to reply. I am talking to someone right now and that is my problem. We're both very busy people and I have adhd. My anxiety might kick in if a lot of days go by without her responding but then I will see the messag…
/r/seduction24/01/22 08:08 PM
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Do they need to feel like you care about them in order to get what you want? It's fine if you need that bit of care in order to have sex. Here's how I view it and how it's helped me work through what seems to be your issue. You are giving someone an opportunity to share a moment with you and they have the ability to choose to accept it or pass on it. There's something great about being attracted to someone and them choosing you. Teasing, escalating, and release are all pleasures that we all enjo…
/r/seduction19/01/22 10:23 PM
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Make it obvious you're on a date means you call it a date and you make a move that shows interest. Most of the advice about acting like a friend tends to come from the belief that you're comfortable with your friends. You don't need to ask for permission to give them a hug or get close to them. Some friends aren't that physically affectionate with each other and some are, but on a date it's best to act as though you've already got that closeness where you can be affectionate with them and not ge…
/r/seduction19/01/22 07:37 PM
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Similar problem. The biggest thing is a lot of the women I do meet are there with their SO. Which isn’t a bad thing per say but most of them didn’t maintain their friendships during COVID or are new in town so I don’t meet women through them either.
/r/seduction10/01/22 05:23 PM
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You're focusing on things that aren't in your control and are completely subjective. Most people aren't going to end up with those top 20%, men nor women. People will find happiness and love dependent on what they're looking for and what they want. We're all chemical reactions that don't work the same way. What one person values and wants another person doesn't, for example Kids. Let me tell you something. In the end, you want to be with someone who wants you for you. If you're putting up a fake…
/r/seduction23/12/21 05:10 AM
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I wouldnt necessarily call it love just yet. I think you're attracted to her and you might even be attracted to the fact that she is so different from you. I say you should ask her out and see if she feels the same pull. If not, then you know your answer and you can move on if you like. You're still in the infatuation stage and there appears to be some care. There's something magnetic about someone who is the opposite of you. One of my favorite past relationships was with someone like this becau…
/r/seduction28/11/21 07:03 PM
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You're trying to control things that may not even happen. I had this problem too and then I realized that all you can do is your best and communicate what you want. if you're mind changes you communicate that. No matter how great your intentions may be you will grow and evolve over time. If either of you get attached then you'll communicate and figure out what you both want then. Pain, hurt, and heartbreak are all natural things that happen and can be good things. Those things teach us what we w…
/r/seduction28/11/21 01:39 AM
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photoshop. Or you could actually go do things you like and make time for it and when you do you make sure to take a bunch of pictures or get your picture taken a bunch for social media. It doesn't have to be an everyday thing but capture it whenever you are actually capable of doing it.
/r/seduction27/09/21 05:21 PM
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I am a bit disappointed that you got downvoted really hard. It's sad that they were so quick to shut you down instead of paying attention to what you're actually saying. Relationship dynamics are more than just the people directly involved. There are stressors outside of them that impact how people interact with each other. Whether it's work, previous relationships, current goals, or values they all impact. A lot of people want things to be black or white. Either she wants to be with him or she …
/r/seduction21/09/21 07:19 PM
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I don't even think he needs to tell her he's low on funds. It's a boundary. I literally had to have this conversation with a girl recently who had been wishy washy with me about not wanting to be in a relationship but still expected me to act like a boyfriend and pay for everything. I told her I'm down to spend time with her and go out and do cool things together but me paying for everything is something I only do for my girlfriend or really good friends that I know are unable to pay for things …
/r/seduction21/09/21 06:27 PM
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Either way it comes down to how the person interprets that connection. If he's saying "but she's taken" then he wants that connection in a non-platonic way. I've tried this method and so far they've gotten jealous or don't want me dating their friends. A lot of girls who are flirting while in a relationship want attention and get upset if you switch it up to their friends. Sure I've dated a couple of their friends but it was never due to their help. If they truly feel a connection then they will…
/r/seduction02/09/21 06:24 PM
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I think the issue here, and that many other people have problems giving advice, is that you're giving tips on how one person was able to catch your attention. Lightning doesn't always strike twice and just because they made you excited to meet doesn't mean they will maintain attraction upon meeting. This advice works for you at this very specific stage in your life and the person who did it may not even be aware that they're doing this. I'm not saying it's horrible advice nor am I saying it's go…
/r/seduction22/07/21 11:32 PM
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Are you being a "nice guy" or a good guy? A "nice guy" is acting out of fear. They don't push the limits because they're afraid of not getting what they want and that niceness makes people feel uneasy because you're not being your true self. When you approach strangers they know damn well youre trying to fuck them so there's no reason to hide your intentions that you are attracted to them. Women's guards are naturally going to be up especially if you're not honest with why you're interacting wit…
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:06 PM
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Basically if you know a girl is into you you're not going to act needy because you know they are already attracted to you. So no need to impress them, talk like they're a stranger, or act nervous since they already like you. All you gotta do is keep being the person you are because that's who they are attracted to. You don't act with fear in making a move since you believe they want you to make a move. You touch them, get close to them, show interest, etc... since there is mutual attraction and …
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:55 AM
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How so?
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:47 AM
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and if it does? you apologize and stop going for it with this person simply because you want to be with someone who wants to be with you and it turns out it's not that person. This is why open comunication about what you want also helps prevent it from backfiring. Either way you gotta assume it until proven otherwise and one should build up rather than rush in.
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:42 AM
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It's how it affects you. Sure you can seek only short term pleasures but if those short term pleasures causes you more problems and hurt long term then why waste the few bits of time solely on creating pain derrived from pleasure? Often times people waste their time being a pleasure seeking junkie as OP put it because of fear of wanting something more. People who seek solely pleasure often meet more problems because they don't bother to have those short term goals leading into something long ter…
/r/seduction03/07/21 12:40 AM
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What do you think makes someone a creep? We often worry so much about this because we have no control in how other people perceive us. So I ask did you do something creepy like corner a girl and make it impossible for her to leave or did you show interest that wasn't matched? Are you acting like a creep trying to force them to give you what you want or were you paying attention to their body language and leaving them once they say they're not interested. Someone can be seen as creepy just becaus…
/r/seduction30/06/21 03:04 PM
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100% recommend this book. I'd also recommend "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and how it Can Help You Find--and Keep--love" by Amir Levine. It's a book about adult attachment styles and how to overcome yours if you are anxious or avoidant as well as how to deal with people who don't have secure attachment. A lot of problems people tend to have with dating tends to come from their attachment style. To get someone who has an avoidant attachment style it often means playing a lot of g…
/r/seduction28/06/21 07:13 AM
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if you're a pushover then you're not putting your needs or opinions as equally important as someone elses and that makes you not dominant. When women say they like dominance it's because they want someone who is going for what they want and because their actions / demeanor show that it makes them more secure when a guy shows his desire toward them. A man who is a pushover removes the agency part of it and it isn't down out of an internal desire. So there is a difference between being a pushover …
/r/seduction03/04/21 05:57 AM
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regardless of how not scientific the 5 love languages are I think it's a great example of the problems that can come up from treating others how you want to be treated vs how they want to be treated. Some people's love language isn't their partners and resentment can happen if they don't feel loved in their language. Example: I don't receive gifts that well and don't know what I'm supposed to do with them especially since I have very specific tastes and growing up gifts were just things that wer…
/r/seduction17/03/21 07:50 PM
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it's funny because I work in marketing and see that corporations are also starting to lose money now because social media and online advertising is no longer working for people. We've been so bombarded that we've all habituated to it that brands are seeing there is less value in it than originally thought. sure you can be extremely targeted but it doesn't translate to real life the way we thought it would. That's how I feel about online dating. Online dating there is no commitment to the person …
/r/seduction15/03/21 02:52 AM
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Honestly, you just do it. Confidence isn't about knowing it's going to work out. Confidence is going for what you want because you want it and being okay with whatever the results are. In the end most of these girls you'll never see again. If they reject you your life stays pretty much the same. As for confidence in speaking. Focus on your strengths and ask questions. Be an active listener and engage in the conversation. People love talking about themselves and they like getting feedback. You do…
/r/seduction22/01/21 07:41 PM
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Same here about knowing when they're not actually interested. However, I'll still text them since sometimes I can misread the situation. If they respond back then great, if not then I know what their answer actually is. I'm glad you found your soul mate. It does take some pressure off feeling like we might be seen as creepy. I think what makes someone creepy is when they don't pick up the hints and keep trying and not stopping. All we can do is be respectful of what the other person says and the…
/r/seduction22/01/21 05:37 PM
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^^^This is honestly the most accurate answer u/AlexandraSenaviev. If you're awkward chances are you are giving vibes that show that you're not interested because guys are looking for signs that she wants us to keep talking to them. If you're being awkward then it might feel like you don't want them to continue talking to you so they will be respectful and end the conversation. A lot of guys don't like asking someone out unless they feel it's a for sure thing. As someone who does strike up conver…
/r/seduction22/01/21 01:45 AM
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Same here. I love using it as an excuse to do things I should be doing anyways and it's a reminder that either I'm not happy with my current situation and should make make a change or that I want to do something that I'm currently not doing. I think the hardest part is just that initial push. I couldn't get myself to start working out for myself but then I did it because I wanted to ask out a good friend of mine when she came back from working abroad. I didn't like how I looked and had self-este…
/r/seduction24/12/20 05:43 PM
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that's even weirder tbh unless you were both young and still living at your parents place. I get why you would want to have it BUT a lot of men will assume that if their SO or girl they've been seeing is travelling just to see them that they would at least sleep together and I'm not talking about sex. The only reason why somebody would do that is out of respect for the other person only because they went out of there way to ask for it or they're using you as a beard. Like I said I understand you…
/r/seduction18/11/20 03:01 AM
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I agree. If you're noticing they're not receptive then you don't try to force them to talk to you. Spend your energy on people who are receptive instead of trying to convert someone who is not because it's a lot harder to move a border that's completely still than one on wheels. You did good my man. You went for it. Now you just gotta learn when to end it. There's no reason to feel bad about it because they just weren't open to it and you didn't do well that first time. That's fine. If you're wo…
/r/seduction18/10/20 11:06 PM
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I try to see it as their friends being protective but sometimes I really do think it is either jealousy or being too overprotective. I've had times happen when the girl is trying to continue talking to me and the friend continues to pull her away. I've had another time where the girl went off on me for lightly touching her friends shoulder. I've even had to be cockblocker a couple times too since I was given the cue to come save them. Sometimes it also is because the girl is dealing with her own…
/r/seduction25/09/20 07:54 PM
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keep in mind that not every girl is used to a guy not being very forward or going for it immediately. I've had this issue in the past. People want to feel desired. If they don't believe you desire them then why should they be with you? Also not every girl will verbally ask because they may feel like they shouldn't have to ask. This whole situation can easily be solved with some good old fashion communication. Even just being straight up and saying "I wish I kissed you yesterday. I got a little t…
/r/seduction01/08/20 09:06 AM
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again a lot of guys who are buying these books are useless at figuring out why they suck. Sooooooo many guys that I know don't dress well, have some BO, and just don't understand social cues. I have one friend who is the least needy person possibly and yet he can't get a girl because he cares so little about his appearance and attitude that he isn't attracting people. It's a self-help book bro. People are looking for guidance. If they're reading the book it's because what they're currently doing…
/r/seduction10/07/20 03:41 PM
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Exactly. Value is subjective which is why there's the 3 types of women. The ones interested in you see you value already. Neutral are those who aren't sure yet. Negative don't see enough to want to date you. This book helped me by focusing on what it is that I want to do and not what I should do in hopes of getting girls. I was very needy and anxious about not finding one. You need to improve because you want to improve and that's why people like myself read this book. Honest living and stoicism…
/r/seduction09/07/20 08:34 AM
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I believe that neither are desirable long term. Bad boys are men who show strong desirable traits like knowing what they want, strength, and a bit of mystery since you don't know what you're going to get. This is great for short term and is what women are attracted to. However, bad boys often carry traits from the dark triad which make it harder for long term healthy relationships. These are great for short term flings since they tend to be more dominant and their ability to go for what they wan…
/r/seduction04/07/20 09:09 PM
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Ultimately he is liable to himself. He is operating on very little info and doesn't want to wait till her knows more about her and her situation. He can choose to fuck her now and deal with the consequences of it. For all we know is that they fuck and they weren't that connected anyways so it had no conflict in his everyday life. But he should know that an action did impact another persons actions in some way. It could've been for the better in the long term or worse, but whatever he decided he …
/r/seduction19/06/20 06:05 AM
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Can I be absolutely blunt with you? You're going to have to engage in conversation with somebody in order to build interest. There are many pretty girls in the world and every guy isn't going to have the guts, energy, or time to engage with all of them. By simply approaching you increase the odds of a guy that you like. Also simply talking to someone doesn't mean they have to be attracted nor that you have to be attracted to them after said conversation. If either of you are interested then it's…
/r/seduction26/05/20 06:06 PM
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As someone who is currently working on this and have been improving I may have some tips that can help. First, it feels unnatural because it is unnatural to you. Your natural state is to not escalate because it feels safe. It isn't until you've done it enough times that it becomes natural. Similar to the first time you learn to ride a bike. You'll be very self aware and you may fall a couple times even if you really badly want it and are consistently comparing yourself to other bike riders. Some…
/r/seduction17/04/20 07:22 PM
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Think about it like going to the gym. You're not going to get that 6 pack abs immediately. You're older so it may even take more effort now to get into the shape you want to be. But you've already started to attend and start practicing. No you're not going to be able to deadlift 200lbs immediately and you may even hurt yourself if you do it. If you want to get those results fast it means you have to put in the effort and deal with the growing pains that come with it. It means cutting out the bul…
/r/seduction22/06/19 10:17 PM
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Body language is hard to be aware of when you think about yourself. Little subtle things come out of our body that shows how we're feeling. If you're nervous your body tenses up and you can see it in your shoulders or even your jaw. Fidgeting and constantly moving or having your body facing completely away from someone shows you want to leave (lots of girls do this. Their feet kind of show where they're currently at). These are just really specific things that you may not know because most of th…
/r/seduction22/06/19 10:12 PM
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Yeah you were still a stranger who grabbed her hip and pulled her in. It's an honest mistake and one that you know not to make again. That's part of the learning process. It's okay to fuck up as long as you learn from it. You shouldn't be grabbing her unless you already have it built up to it. If you wanted to hear her better you could've either gotten closer or lightly touched her shoulder while leaning in. The hip is still a pretty intimate spot and one that should be saved once there is a con…
/r/seduction22/06/19 10:07 PM
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Two questions. Was there any touching prior to putting your hand around her hip? It could just have been that she wasn't open to it yet or it wasn't built up enough. and what caused you to put your hand around her hip? You may have misread a sign or she may not have expected you to have done that. There could also be a bunch of other reasons why and some may not even have anything to do with you. Things like her just getting out of a relationship, her not wanting to be touched in general due to …
/r/seduction22/06/19 07:14 AM
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Why don't you try to force yourself to get rejected? Do the most ridiculous thing you can think of when you approach and just see what happens. I know it sounds counter intuitive but it does help. Right now you're too focused on doing things perfect so try to purposefully fuck up. You'll learn one of two things. Either that fucking up isn't that bad or it doesn't matter what you say as long as you do something. If you purposefully go out and try to fuck up you don't have the pressure of doing th…
/r/seduction22/06/19 06:20 AM
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disagreeing isn't bad at all unless it's something really important that is a dealbreaker for you. she's flirting and she pretty much gave me a chance to ask for her number and you didn't take it so now you gotta go bring her your book. she's laying it out for you now you just gotta take it. She's confident and knows what you want. Now it's your turn to do the same thing.
/r/seduction26/01/19 09:21 PM
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I would also like to add a concept that was huge in Models. That you don't want to be with someone who will judge you because of your inexperience. If it is a deal breaker then you're not meant to be with that person. Hell I personally wouldn't want to be with someone shallow enough to not at least give it a try. You don't need to say you're a kissless virgin on the first date, but if it comes up you be honest (just don't sound desperate or mad). If you've accepted your past, a lot of women will…
/r/seduction10/04/17 04:02 AM
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Continuing off with what /u/fadeawaybro said. From what i've learned from experience is that you shouldn't be making the decision for them on whether or not they like you. You escalate and let them decide. If they don't want to then you move on. Assume attraction and read their reaction. As for flirting, you're supposed to have fun. If you're coming off as weird, creepy, or a dickhead then you're clearly not having fun or providing an atmosphere where she feels comfortable. Comfortable doesn't m…
/r/seduction21/02/17 09:28 PM
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Honestly this is really true. My best friend is ridiculously into trains and that's his favorite thing to talk about and he honestly won't shut up about it and he isn't the most attractive guy out there, but for some reason women are really into him when he talks about it. why? Because he's passionate, happy, and loves what he does. I eventually learned to talk about my passions in an almost story telling way. you make it personal, not just list out your hobby's. For instance I love writing film…
/r/seduction21/02/17 09:08 PM
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I've pretty much have been in the same situation. Bullied growing up for my looks and a lot of rejection growing up, sheltered background (parents are pastors), etc... Same thing about the social skills improving out of nowhere and actually around that same age as you. Now the one thing I've learned is not everyone is going to be attracted to you physically/sexually, but there are people out there who will. So treat women that you find attractive like they are attracted to you and let them show …
/r/seduction20/02/17 07:04 PM
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I'd suggest catching them on your way out of class. Most people in CC go to class and move on to their "real lives" in which they either go back home or work. Honestly the hardest part is opening and getting them to follow through. I'd suggest just approaching them on your way out of class and introducing yourself followed by asking them to join you on something, a get together, a drink, lunch, etc... Most people in CC are in the same boat of finding it hard to meet new people. So don't be afrai…
/r/seduction20/02/17 06:44 PM
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Imma try that next time. Also just don't look up jolly rancher on reddit and you'll be able to sleep well at night.
/r/seduction06/12/16 01:22 AM
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GDI. I hope this isn't a reference to what i think it is
/r/seduction05/12/16 08:14 AM
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I've pulled off some salsa moves while clubbing. I'm a decent dancer and had a couple salsa lessons but twirling is actually a lot of fun when you can pull it off when the club isn't too crowded. It's different than a lot of girls are used to but it can make the night more fun and memorable for them.
/r/seduction04/12/16 09:37 PM
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Having been in this situation and still kind of there I can tell you that a relationship won't fix it fully and sometimes it can even break the relationship. First focus on creating a support system of friends and family. People who you can be open to and be comfortable with. This is great practice when you do get into a relationship being able to be honest with someone. But when you do get into one don't ignore your structure, keep it alive. second. Start occupying your time with stuff you enjo…
/r/seduction07/10/16 03:21 PM
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I personally laugh at everything. I think life is funny and I enjoy the little bits of humor that come off. I still have standards and a sense of humor. some things make me laugh hard, some a chuckle, and some don't make me laugh at all. IMO you want to find somebody who likes you for you and that includes laughing. Laughing isn't a commodity that you choose when to give out or not. It is an emotional response. Laughing also tends to mean that you are comfortable with someone, if you can get the…
/r/seduction07/10/16 03:07 PM
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honestly i don't know why you're being downvoted either.
/r/seduction17/11/15 06:02 AM
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Same here. I open up because i like people being willing to share and I love hearing stories about people whether they are considered to be crazy or not. People's perspectives are pretty interesting and hearing about what they are passionate about is even more awesome. I've experimented quite a bit and am very inexperienced in others. I just wish there were more people like us who aren't scared to open up and voice their opinions
/r/seduction16/11/15 09:03 PM
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I completely understand how you feel. I've gone through this and have had it happen repeatedly to the point that it's just a cycle. soulmates, love, and all that is bullshit. This a hundred percent based off my prior experiences in which i've had multiple girls either cheat or leave me to get with my closest friend at the time, one girl got pregnant while we were together, i've had some admit that they were just bored so they decided to lead me on, others simply don't want to commit, or just rej…
/r/seduction08/12/14 03:32 AM
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no comment
/r/seduction12/08/14 03:04 AM
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then try something different or you know get to know her better by playing would you rather, or just have a regular conversation
/r/seduction12/08/14 03:04 AM
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which gives this a little risk factor ;)
/r/seduction12/08/14 02:59 AM
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i like creating situations for them that we may never actually do. For instance, my favorite one while texting (and has shown the best results) is "Do you want to rob a bank with me?" This tends to throw the girl off and she'll respond either "what?" "WTF" "Sure" "wait...what?" then i say, i need some extra cash. You want to be the be the runner or the driver" no matter what they say you call them a badass and then proceed to make "plans to rob a bank" then ask what would they do with their cut …
/r/seduction11/08/14 02:22 AM
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