arjay8 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
14	Why are most college graduates women?	Discussion	arjay8	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/21 04:00 PM
4	How do you get out of this dumpsterfire of a mindset?	Purge week!	arjay8	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/21 09:16 PM

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2	(Traditional) marriage is outdated and should die The idea is that the oxytocin response that one enjoys during a new sexual encounter can act as a reinforcing mechanism. And can be most powerful during the novel phase of the sexual encounter. So, if we generally encourage waiting until marriage, the oxytocin and novelty (new sex partner) boost can act as a double positive reinforcer for attachment and make the duty and obligation of marriage reflected upon as an all-encompassing, and hopefully more positive, environment. Its more complex than …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 10:21 PM
1	(Traditional) marriage is outdated and should die Marriage was mostly a kingroup alliance. Two families gained power in hunter gatherer groups by marrying their eligible members together. We don't get to the modern nuclear family until about 1300s Britain when we see the male and female marry and immediately leave the home to forge their own path. There is speculation this led to England having an economic advantage as the industrial revolution approached a few hundred years later. Their population, with smaller, more mobile, families rather th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/25 11:07 PM
1	Getting good sex is immensely beneficial for your mental health and sometimes getting into an exciting relationship CAN solve your mental health struggles It would seem wild to suggest that sex wouldn't, for a time, make people feel better. Sex is a powerful physiological experience precisely because our biology wants us to do it. But the hormonal experience of new passion is different than that of long-term committed relationships. And it would be folly to assume that the powerful chemical cocktail that one experiences with a new partner will last. I think long term relationships that are successful tend to show a chemical makeup in the brain com…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/25 03:42 PM
1	Men: what is your perfect waifu like? blonde, blue eyes, a little tummy, witty, wants to have 3-5 kids. willing to work from home. not a cheating whore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/21 06:18 AM
3	Men - would you be satisfied with a lifetime N=1 if she was N=1 as well? If we could define happiness as a series of tradeoffs, rather than specifically "I didnt bang alot of hot chicks so im unhappy." Guys mostly arent brought up to appreciate the kind of life that would come with being with one woman, and society doesnt reinforce it as a positive thing. It all sounds good when you think of the 2 kids playing behind a white picket fence with the classically feminine wife in a dress. But the kind of society that produces those women, and the men that deserve that, is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 01:46 AM
3	People who have been married and are no longer.... What was the reason for your divorce? Do you take any responsibility in it or was the cause on them? My parents weren't really involved in much of my decision making, joined the military at 18 and left the area. Met her through a mutual friend who was tired of her dating bad guys. Her parents were far from model citizens as well. Pretty sure her dad does lots of drugs still and lives in a hotel. And her mom is somewhere in NC. With a boyfriend half her age. We've actually talked a few times over the years. She is back in our home state living with her boyfriend and working the same fast food jo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/21 03:07 PM
2	how true is the thing about men with female friends? I imagine that there are guys who can be friends with girls. But if these girls are attractive, he's definitely thought about sex with them. He may not act on it. But he's definitely thought about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/21 02:32 AM
13	People who have been married and are no longer.... What was the reason for your divorce? Do you take any responsibility in it or was the cause on them? Married at 18, divorced at 24. She liked to party and slept with quite a few dudes. I knew that she had cheated on me once. But years later after some time working overseas to get away, hung out with her best friend who spilled the beans to me over drinks. They would go clubbing while we were married and just about every weekend over a 2 year period she would sleep with a different guy from the night out. This friend of hers who was married with kids would also. I gained alot of weight, and beca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/21 08:40 PM
15	For those who have ever been overweight: how do you view weight in the context of social and dating life? If you were overweight but lost weight, what motivated you to lose it? Did you see changes in your social life after losing the weight and did you expect those changes? Guys I work with were talking about keto. I talked some shit about it and set out to prove it didnt work. My intention was to eat an assload of baconators wrapped in lettuce and lots of bacon and eggs for breakfast, and wings when I wanted them. All this shitty dirty keto friendly food. But after a month my appetite dropped off a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/21 01:28 AM
1	Why are most college graduates women? I'm not saying it's a problem or bad. Just curious what would be the reason for why this is so, and will this have any noticeable change in current society? Honest questions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/21 01:18 AM
1	Why are most college graduates women? Fair. Reading some of the other posts here got me to thinking generally about being in a place where the majority of women in my age group lean toward dating men who are equally educated, and considering I'm one of the unwashed masses, lol, it would be detrimental. But there are still an abundance of women here. So the odds maybe balance out a little.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/21 05:44 PM
4	Why are most college graduates women? But plenty of men manage to be independent without a college degree right? Ah. Yes that seems to be what much polling indicates honestly, women seem to do better, live longer, earn more, poll happier without marriage. Men on the other hand are the opposite in literally every category.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/21 04:03 PM
2	The argument isn't about "Nice Guys", the argument is about whether or not decent men are getting laid. You made plenty of sense and I completely agree with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/21 03:47 AM
15	The argument isn't about "Nice Guys", the argument is about whether or not decent men are getting laid. Its not that its complicated, Its that the social programming for boys goes in the entire other direction. Just to elaborate. The social conditioning for boys revolves around telling them to not be aggressive, dont approach women, be an "ally", people will love you the way you are, masculinity is toxic....	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/21 02:27 AM
1	Promiscuity is bad for men and women At the risk of talking completely out of my ass. Isnt there some hormone responsible for bonding that we can become resistant to from being promiscuous? And if so, this would naturally lead to worse relationship outcomes over time as promiscuity rises. But the last few articles ive read on the subject of sex seemed to state that people are having less sex not more. So is this an overall issue?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/21 03:22 AM
2	Women struggle to find relationships, but get sex easily. But if men struggle, they struggle in both. Lol sad? It's a joke.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/21 05:58 AM
2	Women struggle to find relationships, but get sex easily. But if men struggle, they struggle in both. Cool, thanks. Guess ill have to brush up on my Kafka for those lucky ladies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/21 10:01 PM
3	Can men be alpha/Stacy widowed? Is it common? I would think so. personal experience has left me at a place where I obtained the ideal partner in a woman, and just couldnt keep her around (because of my own failings). Meeting girls since then has been... a major disappointment. All of the things I would now consider markers for what I want out of a girl were present in her, but are vanishingly rare in todays dating market. At some point my standards will have to lower, or my marketable self will have to increase. And now being over 30, feels…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/21 09:37 PM
3	Women struggle to find relationships, but get sex easily. But if men struggle, they struggle in both. what is a kafka? I could google it. but I dont wanna.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/21 09:22 PM
4	Marriage can be an acceptable risk for some but for the overwhelming majority of men, it's an arrangement that leads to bad outcomes. I wonder how many guys look at their own history and experience and come to any positive conclusion about the direction of our society as it pertains to sex and family creation. It's all anecdotal, but throughout my life I have witnessed countless women that cheat on their boyfriend or husband. Now I was in the military for a bit, so rates are probably higher. But it's just about every single girl I know that has done this. Literally 7-8 separate instances off of the top of my head. All dude's w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/20 07:23 PM
4	I think this idea that both red pillers and blue pillers seem to have that attractive men benefit from hookup culture is not necessarily true. Promiscuous attractive men benefit from hookup culture but not all attractive men. All men who are serious about monogamy should hate hookup culture. Men generally aren't wired that way. What good is being monogamous as a high value male if the women you pursue aren't? Women control the sex market, and thus govern sex related morals. Women have at their fingertips access to countless attractive men who are all willing. So if one attractive man won't, there are here hundreds that will. There is no power on the male side because we're all willing. Women get to choose. Hookups may be bad but good luck convincing literally anyone of the value of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/20 07:07 PM
4	Why should women even bother to enter monogamous relationships with the average man anymore? They shouldn't. It's perfectly fine to spend your life alone because your too good for the opposite sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/20 05:33 AM
2	Have you ever been cheated on? Dude, been cheated on twice, hundreds of times with ten or more dudes by ex wife, and once by girl I dated when I was young.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/20 12:45 PM
1	CMV: All men are misogynists. Read the full text before posting. Excellent post, and I'm going to agree with you basically. I do think that most men want access to as many women as possible naturally. Women however, only allow access to the most successful men. And to the extent that men are cut off from access to reproductive chances as mate finding has become streamlined along the lines of hypergamy with online dating and easy access to the best males no matter where they are, these other men will pull back from society. It sounds so good that we are allowi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/20 06:46 PM
1	Do left wing men or right wing men have more sex? Furthermore, do atheist men or religious men have more sex? Shocker. I think most people are this way. Not insulting you btw. Just commenting while drinking my coffee	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/20 03:49 PM
2	A culture of sexual permissiveness is incompatible with male paternal investment. Convince more intelligent people to have more children. Make it somehow a priority within our culture. How do we do that? Make people less self centered and more interested in family. Lol I don't know how to accomplish this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/20 08:39 PM
8	A culture of sexual permissiveness is incompatible with male paternal investment. This isnt universally true. Working with a guy right now who just got left by his wife. Has a few kids, great six figs job.... Didn't matter. She left for some dude who lives near our work in a double wide. But of course this dude still has to pony up the dough to the tune of 2k a month and he has to give up the home.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/20 08:36 PM
2	If the n count obsession is about avoiding infidelity, why aren't male n count discussed? N count judgement , by men of women, allows for an approximation of paternal certainty. A mans only guarantee he isnt wasting his resources on some other guys child is that his woman isnt cheating on him. It follows that commitment to a woman with a low n count is more likely to ensure he is the father of the children he provides resources for. A woman rejects promiscuity, and ridicules promiscuous women, so she can secure a mans resources for childrearing. In todays society, with divorce courts…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/20 06:06 PM
1	Women constantly try to water down the meaning of cc riding? Monogamy and hypergamy do not mix. ...Just like mobile infantry and fleet...	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/20 04:08 AM
1	Is monogamy a lie/doomed to failure? In that case, why does monogamy exist? Why bother maintaining the illusion of a monogamous society? Single dads and moms are a thing. Monogamous societies allow the most men the largest chance to reproduce. Women participate in monogamous societies because they have historically needed a mans resources to raise children. A society in which we have a large percentage of men that no longer have a chance of reproducing will probably lead to some pretty bad stuff. Of course the road to this kind of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/20 09:35 PM
1	Are men in authority positions (doctors, teachers) more likely to enter an inappropriate relationship with a patient than females? It's more likely that they will have more sexual options due to their position of power. But is it their fault that women gatekeep sex often giving in for powerful men? A man rarely is in a position of abundant choice when it comes to sexual partners, so naturally they are more willing to accept sex when in positions of power. Of course women have a part to play here. They are the people who perpetuate the dynamic of powerful men having more access to sex due to being attracted to high status me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/20 03:09 PM
3	Do women lie more than men? I don't think so. I honestly think that for a long time women have been unfairly considered the moral counter to the more typically rational male. This led to women being put on a pedestal of purity of goodness that they can't live up to. So it's probably a little more shocking when that pretty girl who says she unconditionally loves you, and will never do x, y, and definitely not z.... Ends up sleeping with X, blowing y, and leaving you for z.... Fucking z! Argrgrhgh!?? Anyway, women do lie mor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/20 10:35 PM
5	Those of you who are married or want marriage, why ? I still hold on to the dream of having the classic Christmas experience. My wife, and my children in my livingroom, snow outside, Christmas music playing in the background, fireplace roaring. I want those moments. I still want the traditional family Christmas card. Just have to find the right girl who also wants that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/20 04:40 PM
1	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? You disagree that the traditional family unit is collapsing because women were introduced into the workforce? The family unit started to decline in the mid 20th century, 15 years after ww2. This sounds like a consequence of women entering the ww2 workforce. Additionally, millions of men were shipped off to war which likely altered the marketplace of available mates for women as well. Couple that with a much more conservative culture at the time and I think it's reasonable to assume that it would…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 05:38 PM
1	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? I agree that to some extent they still are. I'm oversimplifying for the sake of describing the primary mechanism for the shaming of promiscuity was resource extraction. Women have other avenues to extract resources now that don't require the shaming of promiscuous acts, so we see a rise in this behavior. Women having access to resources in non traditional manners is leading to a massive shift in society away from the traditional family unit. I think this is bad. Men want children that are their …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 05:32 PM
1	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? You worry far too much. The global increase in thots-per-capita increases the sexual opportunities for men, it does not decrease them as you fear. I'm not arguing about getting laid. I'm arguing about traditional family units, and the paternity guarantees that come along with this social arrangement. Getting laid is fine if that's your thing. I want a secure genetic future from a woman that is interested in that arrangement. I want guarantees that the woman I commit resources to for the sake of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 03:20 PM
3	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? The point is that women were dependent on men to have access to resources to raise children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 03:13 PM
3	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? Traditional marriages were more than just tool of survival to women. They were social mechanisms that provided men with assurance that their resources were being directed to their own children. This is the major issue with the changing social landscape around sex, marriage, and monogamy. Men lose any footing in the mating world. I'm assuming trends continue to the extremes here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 03:08 PM
10	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? I think it's reasonable to say that the traditional family unit reached it's zenith in a time when women were out of the workforce entirely. Over the last 60 years we've watched women's employment rise in line with a decline in marriage rates, and an increase in divorce. I agree that welfare and child support are supporting factors. But those factors pale in comparison to the rise in women's employment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 01:34 PM
29	Why is /r/adultery predominantly filled with women on a male-dominated sub? Are more women cheating on their spouses than men, and are just less likely to admit to it on surveys? The reason why the vast majority of thinkers in history are men is because we are so much more capable of challenging the herd, of breaking the mold, etc. Women seem to be much more the social creature than men are. And this is why i think they spend more time and energy promoting and pursuing relationships and general social bonding than men do. Men resolve things with violence and confrontation much more often than women. Women tend to work for social cohesion, even through sometimes manipulat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/20 04:31 AM
1	Do you think it's okay, for you, to be friends with your ex, while you're in a relationship with another man? Hell no. Im a dude though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/20 10:36 PM
7	Why Are So Many Dudes Here Worried About Raising Secret Cuck Babies Its a very natural fear. We want to continue our genetic line. And its a small percentage, 1.5-3.0%, but there are 4 million births a year. 60000-120000 men each year are raising children that arent theirs. Thats a scary number, even when I rationalize it by saying that its a very small percentage. Lets add those numbers up over 17 years. at 90000 new cucks each year, at the 17 year mark, there are a grand total of 1,500,000 million men raising children that arent theirs. so on average there are…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/20 07:57 PM
1	Young men are sexless because they're inferior to women their age Everyone wonders about the causes of sexlessness in young men. However, what if it's simple. What if men at that age are really inferior to their female equivalent? Inferior? Within the context of a society built on the mountain of dead 20 year old "loser" men sure. You exist within a society that allows you, a woman, to be treated with kid gloves, shielded from a world that was subdued by throwing the bodies 20 year old "loser" men at it by the millions until it was civilized. No thanks or sex …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/20 07:29 AM
1	Question regarding my relationship Think about how shitty things could get if she cheated on you with your best friend. If shes worth that risk then by all means go for it. But shes not different, shes not the exception, none of them are, and its not their fault that we put them on this pedestal. Theyre people with urges just like us, how they manage those urges is governed by the society theyre in, and more importantly, by the friends they are around. Saying she is different and would never do something is a mistake every man ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/20 06:27 AM
3	General standards in regards to casual sex partners and long-term partners I think disgust is the proper moral rooting for disliking casual sex. It has to do with purity and cleanliness. Lots of sex increases the chance of disease. Its a perfectly normal reaction to experience disgust with an act that increases the chance of disease spread. I understand that you can practice safe sex, im not arguing that. Only making the point that disgust/purity is a proper and legitimate moral foundation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/20 03:33 PM
0	Do you accept the idea that your partner could have had different standards in different situations? Men, can you accept the idea that a partner had different sexual standards for other men in the past? Maybe she slept with other guys on the first date but made you wait. Not personally no. But I imagine the typical guy who describes himself as more progressively minded could. I just dont want to marry or date a sloot lol. My resources and time are precious, cant be throwing that stuff away on a girl whos morals regarding sex seem to shift to fit the moment. Hard pass. The context of this was …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/20 08:27 AM
3	CMV: The supposed threat of 'Societal Collapse' because men aren't getting laid sounds like ridiculous wishful thinking and projection I dont think the idea of social collapse due to "sexless" men is realistic. But the problem of birthrates is a sure road to economic downturn. The alternative is replacing us with immigrants, which will present its own set of issues. But I think there is a real problem with completely removing the incentive for men to "civilize", or participate in society at all. Its possible that pornography and video games will keep men docile for a while. But eventually, as the value of the men who do remain …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/20 05:06 AM
3	Belle Delphine's new video What guy wants to date a girl that acts like this? Speaking for myself, I simply want a girl that wants a family. Still working on my traditional Christmas card lol. Shit on the internet never goes away. One day her daughters could see this shit. How do you explain that kind of behavior? Maybe on a cute superficial level sure. But not as a long term subversive way. Thats just too dishonest. But I think all of this is kind of pointless. Its going to be rare for a girl to need to do any of this st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/20 09:34 AM
2	Where do Tradcons fit into all this? Tradcons are the antagonist to the feminist narrative. RPers dont care as long as they can sleep with the feminist while the world burns.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/20 10:12 PM
2	In AFBB, isn't the beta the winner? I think this is rooted in a fear of being unknowingly cuckolded. At least for me its one of my worst fears to betrayed in this way and end up raising another mans child with my resources. Id be curious to know if there is any research on the number of men raising children not their own. The idea i think is that if a woman is easily bedded by multiple men during her sexual prime, she has poor impulse control and is likely to do so later in life, even in a committed relationship. Thus putting the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/20 10:59 AM
24	Sex - Big Deal or not? How do you feel about it? Sex is awesome. But contrary to the narrative on here. Not all men will sleep with anything that moves. Coming out of an LTR almost a year ago now and dating again. Meeting up with some girls that are... not my type. And im no prize. But id rather never have sex again than sleep with some of the girls ive met the last month or so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/20 10:50 AM
2	[Q4W] What Do You Look for in a BF? Its perfectly reasonable lol. Im just messing around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/20 10:46 AM
2	[Q4W] What Do You Look for in a BF? ...Well.. Fuck...	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/20 10:37 AM
1	If you could go back and give you're 12 year old self a talking on reality of sex and relationships/lifes insanity in general as you see it as an adult what kind of talk would you give yourself? Don't put women on a pedestal. You are setting yourself up for disappointment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/20 04:01 AM
1	Women who use Tinder: What do you see and want in male users? Non sexual object. Just some girls that are so unattractive that I cant find any interest. I havent been really annoyed by a girl yet. Alot of boring ones. but i guess if youre a girl you can be boring lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/20 06:40 AM
0	Women who use Tinder: What do you see and want in male users? Its interesting honestly the difference between a girl and a guys experience with this stuff. i fucking mass swipe right on everything lol. Get a few matches, and then i sort those matches and unmatch with the ones that are NSOs, or if its a slow day ill chat it up just to pass the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/20 06:26 AM
1	Women who use Tinder: What do you see and want in male users? Lol no i dont imagine a guy crawling to you after you initiate by lobbing an insult would seem very much worth your time. But guys are.... fucking desperate many times in online dating. My own firsthand experience has shown me that ill even talk to girls i find repulsive. Just to fill the time between matches that i actually want to pursue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/20 06:19 AM
5	Women who use Tinder: What do you see and want in male users? lol, im gonna be honest. Most girls can message first and say "sup fag?" and the dude will probably respond enthusiastically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/20 06:12 AM
1	What is your body count? male, 30. 5 partners total. spent 10 of 12 years married for 6, and then dating and engaged for the other 4. single now... lol. As far as numbers? probably around mine or lower.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/20 05:58 AM
1	Are you aware of/do you agree with the Halo Effect? I think that looks play a role. And it's wildly amplified by online dating, where a picture is your lead. No bio will overcome a bad picture. But it's easier to cover your physical shortcomings as a guy than as a girl. I've recently turned to online dating myself. And I've met a few girls that were... Larger than I'm interested. The fact that these girls were smart and witty, absolutely didn't matter. It honestly made me feel kind of shitty, as my main selling point is my personality... I think.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/20 12:49 AM
1	Is my life over? 26, about to turn 27 and husband wants to leave me How did she waste her youth? Finding what she thought was a good man and staying loyal to him while he worked hard isn't wasting anything. She deserved his loyalty in return and didn't get that. That's too bad.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/20 12:11 AM
5	Is my life over? 26, about to turn 27 and husband wants to leave me You're life isn't over and this guy doesnt have a clue what he's giving up. Just be a lady through the whole thing and put yourself back out there when you're ready. Being a graceful woman through difficult things will help you feel some semblance of control. Take the high road. All that other road gives you is regret. If you're going to be a memory, be this guys best memory, trust me. Nothing will fill a man with regret the way losing a high quality lady will. There's alot of trash out there co…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/20 12:05 AM