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| 8 | Men don’t care about women’s career?No, but they do generate sexual access. If Hugh Hefner had been a bus driver he would not have had smoking hot 20 year olds clamoring to be his girlfriends. Or if Leonardo DiCaprio was a high school history teacher he would not be banging super models half his age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 07:25 PM |
| 6 | Men don’t care about women’s career?When I was looking for a wife (I’ve been married over 20 years now) I was much more concerned about whether she had a good sense of humor (or at least laughed at my jokes), wouldn’t cheat on me, and gave good head than what her career/earning potential was. In fact career/earning potential never factored into my evaluation of a potential wife. And if I found myself single again it still wouldn’t factor in. (Though this time it would be nice to find someone who was into anal). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Do men view everything through the lens of sex?I recommend Dr. Carole Hooven. She is a evolutionary biologist at Harvard. She wrote a book called “The Story of Testosterone” and you can find interviews with her on YouTube. I got to see the effects of testosterone first hand on my wife. She had zero libido after the birth of our second child. We searched for a solution for years. Finally found a wellness specialist that tested her testosterone and it was incredibly low. She was given a testosterone pellet and when it finally kicked in it was … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Do men view everything through the lens of sex?You have to remember the fact that on average women have a lower sex drive than men. Almost one standard deviation lower. https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-10-stronger-sex-men-women.html “Frankenbach said between 24% and 29% of women appear to have a higher sex drive than the "average" man.” Men think about sex a lot more than women. Especially when we are in our teens and early twenties. If you read reports by trans men the vast majority report a huge increase in sexual thoughts and drive aft… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?True. Way back when I was a young, single Marine days (pre-internet when you had to go to clubs and bars to meet women) as the night wore on my standards dropped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 03:31 AM |
| 34 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Excellent point. Many men would have sex with a woman they hate if she’s attractive enough. Women not so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:54 PM |
| 11 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Here is an article discussing a meta analysis done on sex drive differences between men and women. One of the authors of the study stated this- “After reviewing more than 200 studies, investigators "found that men consistently report a higher sex drive," said study author Julius Frankenbach, a doctoral student of psychology at Saarland University in Saarbrücken, Germany.” “Frankenbach said that the overall degree to which sex drive differs by gender could be compared to standard differences in m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:53 PM |
| 3 | Would you date a man if you found out he’s paid for sex in the past?In your opinion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Would you date a man if you found out he’s paid for sex in the past?Told my wife she shouldn’t date military guys. She didn’t listen. We’ve been married over 24 years now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 02:21 AM |
| 8 | Would you date a man if you found out he’s paid for sex in the past?I don’t think paying someone for a service is treating them with contempt. Whether the person is a waiter, a masseuse, or a sex worker. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 02:20 AM |
| 3 | Would you date a man if you found out he’s paid for sex in the past?I served over 20 years in the military(Marines, Army). In my experience the service members that went to prostitutes didn’t have problems getting sex the normal way. Many of them, sadly, were married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 01:09 AM |
| 0 | Would you date a man if you found out he’s paid for sex in the past?https://www.theage.com.au/national/us-sailors-wear-out-sex-workers-20020502-gdu6bd.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 12:59 AM |
| 6 | Would you date a man if you found out he’s paid for sex in the past?Is served over 21 years in the military. Paying for sex is almost a right of passage for military men. Hell, the navy shut down the legal brothers in Perth, Australia one year. https://www.theage.com.au/national/us-sailors-wear-out-sex-workers-20020502-gdu6bd.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.Another problem with the multiple orgasm hypothesis with why lesbians have less sex than straight women is that not all women can have multiple orgasm. According to the article below only between 14%-43% women report having multiple orgasms. https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/all-about-sex/202109/how-multiple-orgasms-occur-and-who-has-them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 11:23 AM |
| 5 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.Years ago I read a study comparing adult sexual activity between gay male couples, heterosexual couples, and lesbian couples. I haven’t been able to find it since but I do remember that it found on average gay male couples had sexual activity 5-6 times a week, heterosexual couples 2-3 a week, and lesbian couples 1-2 times a month. So that would seem to show that even though lesbians are having more orgasm they are still having less sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 03:55 AM |
| 5 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.Years ago I read a study comparing adult activity between gay male couples, heterosexual couples, and lesbian couples. I haven’t been able to find it since but I do remember that it found on average gay male couples had sexual activity 5-6 times a week, heterosexual couples 2-3 a week, and lesbian couples 1-2 times a month. So that would seem to show that even though lesbians are having more orgasm they are still having less sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 03:54 AM |
| 10 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.Though this still shows that your statement that the orgasm cap causes less sex is wrong. Even though lesbians have higher rates of orgasm, and more of them they still have sex less than straight women do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 12:00 AM |
| 12 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.If I could have multiple organs per session I’d probably want sex more often than I do now. LOL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 11:49 PM |
| 24 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.I don’t think that’s it. Women in lesbian relationships report much higher rates of orgasm than those in straight relationships, yet lesbian couples have less sex than straight couples. Gay male couples have more sex than either of those. I think it’s mainly due to testosterone. “Among couples in the first two years of their relationships, 67 percent of gay couples, 45 percent of heterosexual couples, and 33 percent of lesbian couples had sex three times a week or more. The numbers drop off some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 11:34 PM |
| 4 | “Low libido” litmus test.This right here. A saying I heard many years ago fits this; “Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place.” Most men could have sex with a woman who they hate, as long as they find her physically attractive. Not so with woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:47 AM |
| 1 | “Low libido” litmus test.This article covers a meta-analysis study done on sex drive differences research. One of the researchers stated this about their findings. “Frankenbach said between 24% and 29% of women appear to have a higher sex drive than the "average" man.” https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-10-stronger-sex-men-women.html I think it’s time we put to rest this idea that the male and female sex drive are the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Are men really struggling to get sex/relationships in real life?Well if my friend explodes from all the sex he’s having I’ll let you know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Are men really struggling to get sex/relationships in real life?It is for him. Like I said I’ve known him since elementary school and this is the happiest I’ve ever seen him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Are men really struggling to get sex/relationships in real life?This is completely anecdotal evidence but one of my best friends (we’ve been friends since elementary school and we are both in our fifties) is having no problems getting sex and relationships. He was married for 18 years and has been divorced for ten. He has a new women about every 3-6 months. Very attractive women. He is not a very attractive man. From our conversations he says he gets 15-20 hits from OLD apps every week. He is able to weed those down to 3-5 that are attractive enough for him.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 05:06 PM |
| 1 | The Wheel of Time and "Gender Essentialism", do you believe men think and feel completely different from women, and vice versa?I do not believe men and women think completely differently. I do believe that there are some psychological differences between men and women on average. Just like on average there are height difference between men and women. Now some of these psychological differences are minor and some are major. I think the ones dealing with reproduction are were we see the biggest differences because men and women are very different when it comes to our purposes in reproduction. Also the more you go to the e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 01:40 PM |
| 5 | Is the “friend zone” real? Why are men and women so divided about the concept?I think it has more to do with the fact that men find more women attractive than women find men attractive and that more women need more than just physical attractiveness to want to have sex. I read an article on research done on how men and women rate the attractiveness of the opposite sex on OLD sites. Males rating women producing a traditional bell curve. Half of women were below average and half above. So 50% of women were average or above looking according to men. For women only 19% of men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 02:31 PM |
| 3 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as them1000% this. I grew up in the 80s and the message I got from society about women and sex was that women were just as horny and wanted sex just as much as men. I was successful at getting laid but always had to work do it. Wondered why was I having to put in so much work if women wanted it just like men. Finally realized that society was wrong. Here is an article about a meta-analysis done on sex defies differences in men and women. In it one of the authors of the study states- “Frankenbach said b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 12:02 PM |
| 1 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”My bad. I thought you were disagreeing. Your also absolutely right that some of our closest male “cousins” also help raise their offspring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 03:27 PM |
| 1 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”Nothing you said changed the fact that human males are an exception in taking care of their young. https://science.thewire.in/the-sciences/most-male-mammals-have-little-to-do-with-their-kids-why-are-humans-different/ I would hypothesis that this is a fairly recent development in our evolutionary history and that we were like other mammals for a much longer period of time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 02:00 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever been having sex with a long term partner and suddenly become aware they’re not enjoying it and having “maintenance” sex with you aka don’t want you sexually anymore?I’ve been married for over 20 years and we have had a lot of maintenance sexual activity. But we have very mismatched libidos. I’m HLM and she is LLF. However, before we got married we had to go through marriage counseling. This was mandated by the preacher marrying us. One of the activities we did was to separately make a list of what we expected and wanted in the marriage. Then get together and compare and talk about our lists. He said to write everything down. Would we have joint or separate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 04:35 PM |
| 6 | The link between male sexual drive and attractivenessSomething I heard years ago is for the most part true. A smart ugly guy can get further than a smart ugly woman and a beautiful dumb woman can get farther than a handsome dumb guy. From what I’ve observed over the 50+ years I’ve been on the planet this is generally true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 11:01 PM |
| 2 | If you could change genders, would you do it?Woman support each other? In my 50+ years on this planet I have never seen men backstabbed snd conspire against each other the way I have seen woman do to each other. Saw it directly with my daughter and her middle/high school friend group. It was ugly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 06:53 PM |
| 9 | If you could change genders, would you do it?Hell no. From my perspective it sucks being a woman. The hormone roller coaster they ride every month. Periods with cramps and all the other problems caused by that. The constant thinking and worrying about things. The biggest thing would be sex. A lot of women have trouble enjoying sex. Hell, there is a whole subreddit called becoming orgasmic that is 90% women complaining about not being able to orgasm, even on their own. I learned how to cum when I was 13. I’m in my 50s and I can count on one… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/22 06:48 PM |
| 2 | q4a for all high n-count people. was it fun? was it worth it?M 50s 21 It was a blast and I don’t regret it at all. I fooled around a lot in high school but was waiting to have sex with someone I was in love with. So I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19. Joined the Marines, came home on leave, and got the opportunity to have sex with an ex-girlfriend so I decided to just do it, love be damned. After that I made up for lost time. This was the early 90s so no tinder or online dating. Old fashioned going to bars and clubs meeting and picking up women. To… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/22 09:17 PM |
| -1 | As a woman, I think gender roles are naturalYes, our advances in technology has allowed some of us in certain parts of our society to be able to disregard gender roles. Problem is we didn’t evolve in this environment. The homo genus that we belong to appeared 2.5 million years ago and the species we came from was around longer. All of our biological and physical differences and same traits evolved under much different circumstances. Also I believe that if society ever collapsed, and we survived, you would see the majority of people return… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 03:23 AM |
| 1 | As a woman, I think gender roles are naturalI think that men and women have evolved due to natural selection to be the same in some areas and different in others. Society usually emphasis those traits that are best for society. Society works best when it goes with biological imperatives than when it doesn’t. Now there is a lost of variation within genders also but some difference are very pronounced. One of these is height. The average height of an American female is 5’3.6” and the average male height is 5’9.2”. Obvious if we bell curved … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 03:18 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Guys on Reddit love to claim that only an incredibly low amount of women can cum from penetration because they don't want to blame themselves.If only a third of women can reliably come from PIV then the majority (two-thirds) can’t. The truth is that for the majority of men orgasm is easy. For the majority of women it’s not. In fact there is a subreddit here called r/:becomingorgamsic. The majority of posts are from women, many of whom can’t even achieve orgasm from masturbating. The big reason for this is biological. On average men have higher sex drives that women. https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-10-stronger-sex-men-women.html Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Women who won't see a man who's visited prostitutes, how would you even know that they have?As someone who served 21 years in the US military I’d recommend that women who don’t want to be with a man that’s seen a prostitute not date military guys. I’d say upwards of 90% of guys in the military have been with a prostitute, myself included. Hell, the navy actually caused a brothel to shut down in Perth, Australia. https://www.seattlepi.com/news/article/Navy-wives-not-happy-with-story-of-mates-1086914.php | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 03:43 PM |
| 4 | Why can't the men that women don't want pay for sex without women hating them for it?You just highlighted one of the glaring differences between men and women. One that I think is mostly rooted in biology. For the majority of women having sex with someone they have no romantic feelings for is repulsive. For the majority of men romantic feelings are unnecessary to wanting sex with a woman. Just being attractive is enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/22 01:11 PM |
| 15 | I think women see male sexuality as inherently predatory especially any situation where a woman wants sex more than the man. This is the true source of a lot of “power dynamics” discourse.Schrödinger’s victim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 03:00 AM |
| 1 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”One guy told me that those were rookie numbers, so maybe it’s higher. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 01:36 AM |
| -1 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”Yes but the difference between the gay couples and the lesbian couples is drastic. I believe that the average straight male would have sex just as much as the average gay male, their partners just aren’t willing to. I also believe that on average straight women would have sex as little as lesbian women do, they just give in to their partners request for sex. It’s like gay males having sex at parks and other public places. Before Covid at least once or twice a year the police would bust gay men h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 04:34 PM |
| 4 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”I think the conclusion is wrong. The reason women’s interest in sex drops over time more than men is because of the different roles the sexes play in reproduction. Men’s primary purpose is to make the child. Nature insure this by giving males a higher sex drive than women. Women’s primary purpose is to raise the child. A high sex drive would interfere with this. Nature makes sure women are horny when they are ovulating and when a relationship begins, to insure conception. Then it dies down so th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 02:56 PM |
| 2 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”That is not the study but thank you for the link. Sadly I read that study back in college in the late 90s. Had a hard copy of it for years and then lost it. Have not been able to find it sense. Your absolutely right, it is not as pronounced in that study as the one I referenced. Still statistically significant. My wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child. We searched for a solution for years. Read a ton on human sexuality and talked to a lot of doctors. Over that time I became co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 02:21 PM |
| 1 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”Depends. Sometimes I’d take an hour or two, sometimes less than a few minutes. Depended on my mood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 02:11 PM |
| 5 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”A study I read years ago looked at average sexual activity in lesbian, straight, and gay male couples. It found that on the average lesbian couples had sexual activity 1-2 a month, straight couples 1-2 a week, and gay male couples 5-6 times a week. Gay male couples were also most likely to have sexual activity outside the relationship, both with and without their partners knowledge. Lesbians couples had a much higher percentage of dead bedrooms (sex less than 10 times a year) than the other two.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 01:12 PM |
| 10 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”I know from about thirteen to my mid twenties I was having sexually activity (with myself) 2-4 times a day. From talking with other men that is about the norm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 01:07 PM |
| 3 | “Among heterosexual women who reported having engaged in sexual activity, only 6.1% wanted to have daily sexual intercourse”Thanks for the article. My own personal hypotheses (from years of research) is that if we could directly measure sex drive the female sex drive would be at least one standard deviation lower than the male sex drive. This study would suggest it’s even worse than that. The average female sex drive may be two or more standard deviations lower than the male drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Most women find very few men attractiveYes, if you really want to see the difference in mating between males and females look at lesbian and gay male couples. One study I read showed that on average lesbian couples had sexual activity 1-2 a month. Gay male couples 5-6 times a week. Gay male couples were also most likely to have sex outside the relationship both with and without their partners knowledge. The male gay community has an app, Grindr, just for casual sex. They also will meet in parks, restrooms, bathhouses, etc. for sex. Y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Most women find very few men attractiveThere is some debate on which species we are most like. https://www.bbvaopenmind.com/en/science/bioscience/chimpanzees-or-bonobos-closest-relatives/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 01:54 PM |
| 3 | Most women find very few men attractiveThere is some debate about which primate species we are most like. https://www.bbvaopenmind.com/en/science/bioscience/chimpanzees-or-bonobos-closest-relatives/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 01:53 PM |
| 4 | Most women find very few men attractiveIf you look at our nearest relatives, primates, we do see rape but also see that females also pick who they wish to mate with. In fact in most species of monkeys the females select their mate. Most likely it was the same with our ancestors. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091124204320.htm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 01:21 PM |
| 5 | Most women find very few men attractiveI would imagine that women having no choice was a fairly recent occurrence in our evolution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 12:37 PM |
| 13 | Most women find very few men attractiveI believe that this difference is rooted in biology. Reproduction is very costly for women. Both in terms of what it does to their bodies and in time. So they have to be picky. For men reproduction cost very little. As the old saying goes; “Sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive.” I saw a study once that looked at how men and women rated the opposite sex on dating apps. Men rated a lot half of women as attractive and half as unattractive. Forming a traditional bell curve. Women rated only about 10% … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 10:46 AM |
| 1 | What do you think is the reason for promiscuity being a better predictor of infidelity in men than in women?I agree they are just as hurtful. But a woman cheating is much more dangerous to a relationship on average. The vast majority of women who cheat are looking to leave the relationship, the men aren’t. As far as your statement about men being 100% sexually satisfied in their relationship, In my entire life I’ve only come across three men that stated they were getting enough sex in their relationship. This is from many, many, conversations I’ve had with men down through the years. Me personally the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 10:43 PM |
| 2 | What do you think is the reason for promiscuity being a better predictor of infidelity in men than in women?I’ve been married for over 22 years. Dated, and had my share of one night stands before that, and always saw other women I wanted to have sex with while with someone else. My wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child. We began researching and seeing many doctors to try and find a cure. Finally found it with testosterone therapy. What all that research convinced me of is that testosterone is the driving force of sex drive in men and women. And women just have a lot less than men. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 03:50 PM |
| 0 | What do you think is the reason for promiscuity being a better predictor of infidelity in men than in women?Tell me you don’t understand men without telling me you don’t understand men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 02:27 PM |
| 11 | What do you think is the reason for promiscuity being a better predictor of infidelity in men than in women?I read a study years ago that found when men cheat the majority aren’t looking to leave their current relationship. The majority of women that cheat are looking to leave their current relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 05:25 PM |
| 27 | She can't orgasm? His fault. He can't orgasm? His fault.There is a whole subreddit called becoming orgasmic that is 90% women complaining about not being able to orgasm, even on their own! (This is something the majority of males learn to do in their early teens.) If you can’t figure out how to get yourself off how in the hell is someone else going to do it for you? | /r/MensRights | 28/09/22 10:56 AM |
| 1 | “Masculinity” and “Femininity” are a myth!You are correct that women’s sex drive is influence my their cycle. My wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child. Spent almost ten years looking for a solution. Over that time researched, read, and talked to many doctors about human sexuality. From that I am convinced that on average the female sex drive is lower than the male sex drive. So much so that I believe if you could measure sex drive (you can’t measure it directly) and bell curved the male and female sex drives the femal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 02:37 PM |
| 1 | “Masculinity” and “Femininity” are a myth!Yes. I think another area that this is noticeable is in sex drive. On average men have a higher sex drive than women. So at the extremes there will be more men with a high sex drive and more women with a low sex drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 01:57 PM |
| 4 | “Masculinity” and “Femininity” are a myth!Exactly. 90% of all violent crime in the world is committed by men. Does that mean all men are violent criminals? No. Does it mean that no women commit violent crime? No. It simply means that men are more violent on average than women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 01:48 PM |
| 9 | How ''matched'' are most couples?Yes, and I would bet nine times out of ten that the ugly dude with the hot woman has money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?I think men also have a reason, Orgasm. It is a lot easier for men to orgasm, no matter who their partner is. Or whether it is a short term or long term relationship. Woman are also more selective in who they find attractive. Saw a study on how men and women rate the opposite sex on dating apps. Men rate women in a traditional way resulting in a traditional bell curve. In other words half of women are above the mean and half are below Women rate men much harder. Women only rated about 10% of men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 11:57 PM |
| 0 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?I would never argue that it is completely biological. Environment can have a huge impact. One thing I have noticed from reading the dead bedrooms subreddit is that there appears to be a qualitative difference between a situation with a HLM/LLF and a HLF/LLM. In most HLM/LLF the female seems to have no sex drive. I don’t see many stories of the male finding the female masturbating or cheating. In most HLF/LLM it appears that the male is still masturbating or is cheating. He still has a sex drive … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 08:22 PM |
| 0 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?You mention that it’s rare for you to feel a physical need for sex or fro pleasure. One of the many things I found interesting over the course of my research was statements from people who had transitioned from one sex to the other. Males who transitioned to female reported how surprised they were at how low there sex drive became. Many described that as a man they would often become horny for no apparent reason to a point where they felt compelled to masturbate. That as a man they would often t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 07:59 PM |
| 0 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?The textbook definition of libido is “sexual desire”. So not sure what you mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?No. It scared her. But some of the effects are still there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?I was looking for a solution to my wife’s list libido. Finally found it. Testosterone therapy, | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 03:02 PM |
| 4 | Is there a married man that doesn't masturbate or watch porn?When my wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child we spent years looking for a solution. Researched and read a lot on human sexuality. From all of that I am convinced that, on average, women have a lower sex drive than men. If we could actually measure sex drive and bell curve that results I think the male bell curve would be one standard deviation above the female curve. So if you placed the bell curves on top of each other the 50th percentile of the male bell curve would line up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 02:18 PM |
| 4 | Is it a deal breaker if she does not want to ever try anal?No. A lot of women do not do anal, at all. Of those that try most don’t like it. Now you can have whatever standards you want. But you will be seriously limiting the number of partners you can have. On a side note in my younger, single days (early 90s) I dated two women that not only did anal, but loved it. One was a submissive and enjoyed being dominated and the other was very religious and thought it was less sinful than vaginal sex. They both either would play with their clit or have me play … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 05:40 PM |
| – | College men are increasingly shifting right, while college women are shifting left. Why do you think that is?Yes. And for most of my adult life (50+ years) the democrats have been the party that was most against the establishment. Don’t trust the police, corporations, etc. Until recently the republicans had been the party most likely to support the establishment. It is very possible that Bernie would have done worse than Clinton. Hard to tell. Bernie supporters were just as energized as Trump supporters. They were both more energized than Clinton supporters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 02:25 PM |
| 101 | College men are increasingly shifting right, while college women are shifting left. Why do you think that is?To me the most ironic thing about the 2016 election was that the democrats, the supposed party of the working class, were able to stop their populist candidate from getting the parties nomination. While the republicans, the supposed party of the rich, were not able to stop their populist candidate from getting their parties nomination. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 03:57 AM |
| 6 | Why do modern studies show that men have more sexual partners than women.And those in the military. I served 21 years and it was very common for men to see prostitutes. Heck, a couple Navy ships pulled into Perth, Australia back in 2002 and wore out the local prostitutes that that a brothel actually shut down to give them a rest. https://products.kitsapsun.com/archive/2002/05-04/0031_uss_bridge__war_stress_wears_out_.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Why do modern studies show that men have more sexual partners than women.I bet it’s because men exaggerate and women minimize. My number went into the double digits when I was a single, young Marine stationed in Hawaii. Many of those were one night stands with women who had come out to Hawaii for vacation after graduating high school/college. I would bet not one of those women include me in their body count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 10:13 PM |
| 2 | What is the male equivalent of daily sexual harassment as a child?This is just my observation from 50+ years on the planet but girls primarily deal with the threat of or actual sexual abuse (which can be violent) while boys primarily deal with the threat of or actual physical abuse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 05:59 PM |
| 11 | Watching porn is the same as cheatingThat’s why I only watch porn with my wife. That way we are cheating on each other together. Though she only looks for porn with titles like: “Wife gang banged while husband is at work.” Don’t know why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 03:28 PM |
| 10 | Watching porn is the same as cheatingDo you have a source for your claim that 70%-80% of women watch porn? All the studies I’ve seen have it at 20%-30%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Men cannot talk to women the same way they talk to men, it is bad advice to tell men to treat women like they would their guy friends.Maybe your not familiar with the Marine Corps. Here’s a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt about the Marines that might give you some insight. “The Marines I have seen around the world have the cleanest bodies, the filthiest minds, the highest morale, and the lowest morals of any group of animals I have ever seen. Thank God for the United States Marine Corps!” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Men cannot talk to women the same way they talk to men, it is bad advice to tell men to treat women like they would their guy friends.I saw this in the military. Years ago (early 90s) I was in the Marines. We were running one morning and the SGT leading the chanting said: “ok, on this next one all the women just say dick instead of pussy.” He proceeds to then chant- “Driving my ford with a tank full of gas. Got a mouth full of pussy and a handful of ass.” Later that day the SGT was given a negative counseling, and an ass chewing. Later a bunch of us male Marines were gathered talking and the SGT was there. He was complaining a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 02:54 AM |
| 2 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?Yes. Have heads this from scores of men over the course of my 50+ years on the planet. Had a buddy in the Marines who had been married about four years and after the birth of his first child his wife stopped giving him blowjobs. He asked her why and she said she never liked doing it and wasn’t going g to do it anymore. He said she should have told him this before they got married. Long story short he would go out with us guys every once and a while and would either try and pick up a girl and get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?If I remember right it was North Carolina. And according to wiki they are one of six states that still have the law on the books. And they have 200 cases filed a year. “Alienation of affection and criminal conversation lawsuits are allowed in North Carolina. It is estimated that over 200 alienation of affection cases are filed in North Carolina each year. Million-dollar verdicts have not been uncommon in North Carolina for alienation of affection and emotional distress.[14] In March 2010, a wife… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 08:22 PM |
| 4 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?I’m sorry but not having sex with your spouse for four years and thinking everything is fine is delusional. She was a stay at home. Her whole job is taking care of the house, the kids, and her husband. I’ve been married four over 23 years and have two kids. My wife and I have sexual activity 2-3 times a week. If she turned me down for even a month straight we would be talking about it. If we couldn’t come up with a way to fix it I would be out. I signed up for monogamy, not celibacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 02:17 AM |
| 6 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?When people get married the vast majority of people go into believing that regular sexual activity (barring any illness) is part of that marriage “contract”. People sign up for monogamy, not celibacy. Years ago I was watching a show (dateline, 60 min, one of those) that had a story about a woman suing her ex-husbands new wife for alienation of affection. They interviewed the woman and said the they had been married 15 years, had two kids, she was a stay at home mom and he worked a high pressure … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Women, what exatly do you feel when you see a naked man?Your absolutely correct. There have actually been studies done on that. But it does depend on what they are dressed as. One study I read had the same men wear business suits or fast food workers clothing. Same men but women rated them higher when they were in the business suits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Women, what exatly do you feel when you see a naked man?As a man this is such an alien concept to me. Seeing an attractive naked woman (which to me is about 50% of the women out there) makes me hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Women, what exatly do you feel when you see a naked man?Hit the nail on the head. Mean see 50% (or a little higher) of women as fuckable. Woman do not see men like that. I told my wife one time that every man that said you look nice, and who were not related to you, was also saying I’d fuck you. She didn’t believe me until years later when she had to go to a hormone therapist and was put on testosterone. She was shocked how much it changed her thought processes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Do you care less if you're cheated on by a woman with another woman?If we were just dating I wouldn’t care if she just kissed another woman. Where if it was a man I would dump her immediately. Of course I would then suggest to her that she kiss a woman again while I was there. If it was my wife of 23 years I would be very mad. Though it wouldn’t be an automatic divorce like kissing a man would be. Though I would insist she kiss a woman again with me watching. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 08:02 PM |
| 1 | For those who hook up/have casual sex often with different partnersWhy? I don't think I'm unusual in that regard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | For those who hook up/have casual sex often with different partnersIn my young, single, Marine days I had a lot of casual sex. It never got boring. To me it was like getting presents. Each woman was different and unwrapping and seeing them naked was a thrill all by itself. I never felt icky. In fact I always felt great afterwards. Like I had accomplished something. Like winning a football game. I felt the same way about kissing a women. Just not as intense. I’ve probably kissed over 50 women over the course of my life. I remember my first French kiss vividly. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 02:24 PM |
| 1 | If men could choose their sexuality, would they choose to be bisexual?It’s an abnormality. I’m sure there are a lot of parents, me being one of them, that if they were told that their child was going to be born gay would want that corrected. Or perhaps screeding will be developed and allow parents the choice to abort their homosexual child. Much like parents abort children with Down’s syndrome or other abnormalities. https://lozierinstitute.org/new-study-abortion-after-prenatal-diagnosis-of-down-syndrome-reduces-down-syndrome-community-by-thirty-percent/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | If men could choose their sexuality, would they choose to be bisexual?Interesting. I’ve previously read the amount of exposure to certain hormones in utero may play a part. If we ever figure that out we may be able to come up with a cure for homosexuality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 04:03 AM |
| 1 | If men could choose their sexuality, would they choose to be bisexual?I’m not so sure about that. Twin studies have shown homosexuality to be somewhere between 20%-50% genetics. Seems there is a large environmental part in determining homosexuality. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8494487/ https://www.science.org/doi/full/10.1126/science.350.6257.148 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 11:41 PM |
| 4 | If men could choose their sexuality, would they choose to be bisexual?Many years ago I was a new employee at a job and a guy didn’t show up for work. Someone said “Maybe he got arrested at the park again”. I asked what that meant and was told a few years ago the guy had been arrested having sex in the local park with another guy. Now this guy was in his late 50s, married many years, with two grown sons. Though he did act very effeminate. This happened on a Friday. On Saturday the local paper had a front page story of police busting a bunch of men having sex with m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Why are women so much pickier when it comes to men than men are when it comes to women?This is an older study, so things may have changed. Though I grew up in the 80s so it’s relevant to that time period. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8476336/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so much pickier when it comes to men than men are when it comes to women?Yes, and it scared her. Previously we had talked about sex differences between men and women. Specifically I’d say most men are ready to have sex at a moments notice. That in high school when guys talked about doing something with her or her friends most meant it, they weren’t just talking. I don’t think she believed me at the time but after her experience with testosterone she did. I said now imagine being that horny but having no one to do anything with. She agreed it would suck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so much pickier when it comes to men than men are when it comes to women?Thank you for your insight. Like i stated previously I didn’t masturbate for awhile because of being taught it was sinful. So I felt as if I was going to explode at times. In my teens I masturbated at least once a day and often several times a day. May I ask was there any changes in your thought process or how you viewed women after you started the testosterone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Why are women so much pickier when it comes to men than men are when it comes to women?My wife completely lost her libido after the birth of our second child. She couldn’t get aroused or have an orgasm. She also seemed to have suffered nerve damage in her nipples from breastfeeding. They would stay hard constantly and be sore. She said they would hurt just putting her bras on. Knowing that a lack of desire in woman is many times the result of psychological issues I first suggested counseling, but she refused. She doesn’t believe in it. We then spent almost ten years reading and se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so much pickier when it comes to men than men are when it comes to women?I think this is mostly due to biology. Once boys hit puberty they will start to have wet dreams if they don’t masturbate. (So will grown men). I had my first wet dream at the end of the my 7th grade year when I was 13. I was raised in a religious environment so believed masturbation was sinful. I kept having wet dreams. I also vividly recall being incredibly horny just looking at a girls but in class. It was so bad that I thought I was going to actually explode. This went on for a few months unt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Why are women so much pickier when it comes to men than men are when it comes to women?Sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive. Women put a lot more energy into creating and raising a child. Women who weren’t selective were less likely to have their genes survive to the next generation. Men could insure their genes passed on through two ways which were both effective. Through quality, mate with one woman and stay and help raise the offspring. Quantity, have a bunch of children with many women and some are bound to make it to adult good and pass on those genes. One of the variables to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?Sex is not a physiological need like eating, breathing, and sleeping is. If we are using Maslow’s hierarchy of needs it is smack dab in the middle and equal to being loved and belonging. You won’t die without it but for most people not having it can negatively effect your well being. I personally would never stay in a sexless marriage. I’ve been married to my wife for 23 years and love her dearly. We have built an amazing life together with two wonderful kids. If she told me today that she just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 01:24 PM |
| 2 | How many of you have actually dated/hooked up with someone that you don't find attractive?Several times when I was a young single Marine. Most were one night stands and it was either them or go home alone. Back then my thought was: “A wet pussy is better than no pussy.” They were all good because I came. A couple were really good. Like they didn’t get dick a lot so they were trying to impress me with their skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Abortion Mega-ThreadThought you might be interested in this- https://www.reddit.com/r/FeMRADebates/comments/um0axj/does_anyone_have_a_solid_modification_to_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Abortion Mega-ThreadFalse equivalency. Those all involve two distinct individuals not dependent on each other in anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/22 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Abortion Mega-ThreadYour reply was excellent. I do not have a medical degree, though I do hold a masters degree and am very well read. My wife and I have two children and I read a lot about pregnancy during those times. I understand your viewpoint though I disagree with it. As far as the violinist example goes. You believe bodily autonomy trumps life, I believe life trumps bodily autonomy. The problem I’m struggling with right now is that if I apply that same reasoning to abortion, and stay logically consistent, I’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/22 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Abortion Mega-ThreadI have changed some of the parameters if your violinist dilemma to make it more neutral. I really want to thank you for exposing me to this. It is very similar to the trolley problem and I’ve been mulling it over quite a bit. I still keep coming back to the same conclusion, it should not be legal for the person to detach themselves from the other one unless their life is at risk. This has caused me to question my current stance on abortion. If I believe person A should have to keep person B atta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/22 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Abortion Mega-ThreadI’ve actually never heard that one before and I would actually answer it in the negative. Those that kidnapped you and connected you to him should be prosecuted. However, if he will be fully functional in nine months then no, I would you do not have the right to disconnect him. Edit- that analogy is poor in one way. Instead of being kidnapped the person engaged in an activity that they know could result in them being connected to the violinist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/22 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Abortion Mega-ThreadI appreciate your logical consistency. I feel the same way but come to it from a different direction. I believe that human life begins at conception. Just as a majority (95%) of 5,502 biologist surveyed believe. https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3211703#:~:text=Overall%2C%2095%25%20of%20all%20biologists%20affirmed%20the%20biological,life%20begins%20at%20fertilization%20%285212%20out%20of%205502%29. But under our laws “all persons born or naturalized are citizens of the United S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 11:17 PM |
| 0 | Abortion Mega-ThreadSo if I’m understanding you correctly you believe that a woman should be able to abort a child up until it leaves her womb? For example if a woman was in the middle of labor, no part of the child is outside the womb, and decided she just didn't want to take care of a child she should be able to tell the doctor to abort the baby? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Abortion Mega-ThreadActually accosting to Roe a mother is obligated to keep the fetus alive after it reaches viability, except in the case of a mothers life being threatened. This was set at the beginning of the third trimester. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 10:15 PM |
| 1 | What percentage of men even want that "High Value Male" lifestyle?That’s a good point. I was pretty promiscuous when I was a young single Marine. Been with the same woman now for almost 30 years. Love her dearly but still sometimes yearn for variety. But if I got the variety would it eventually get old? I don't know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 09:20 PM |
| 1 | What percentage of men even want that "High Value Male" lifestyle?Personally I would have loved a set up like either Gene Simmons or Hugh Hefner. Gene started dating Shannon Tweed in 1983. However he made it clear that he would not be faithful and would be doing his thing while on tour. She bore him two children and they eventually got married in 2011. He got the best of both worlds. He could go home and be a family man and then on the road get as much pussy as he wanted. Hugh Hefner had one of his ex-wife’s living on the playboy mansion grounds with their two… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 08:26 PM |
| 1 | would you be in a relationship with someone if sex is off the tableIf we were just dating, yes. If we are married and she developed a physical medical condition where she couldn’t then no though I would search for a cure. If this was physically able to hav sex and just decided she didn’t want to have sex anymore, and refused to go to counseling or try and fix it, then yes I would. My wife seems to have damaged the nerve endings in her nipples when she was breastfeeding our 2nd child. (She also lost her libido completely) Nipple play had always been a sure fire … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men?Don’t have it. It was a research paper I read back in college in the late-90s. Have not been able to find it since. Edit- it really stuck in my head because I was very envious of the gay males. At the time I’d never been with any woman where we had sex 6/7 days a week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 06:45 PM |
| 27 | Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men?I had a gym buddy that had been a marriage counselor for 30+ years. (He was older than me but about 20 years but still jacked). One time I asked him what he thought was the cause of most divorces. He told me the men do the big stuff-they cheat, gamble, get into drugs, etc. Woman are just hard to live with. They never let anything go and just are generally unhappy in life. So pretty much what you said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men?I wonder if it’s tied in with woman suffering higher rates of major depression? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4478054/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 02:52 PM |
| 10 | Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men?Bingo. I read research years ago that compared the sexual activity of lesbians, straights and gay men. It found that on average lesbians had sexual activity 1-2 a month, straights 1-2 a week, and gay males 6-7 times to week. It also found that gay male couples were the most likely to have sexual activity outside the relationship. And this activity was most often done by both partners and was known by both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Why is the female dating strategy sub reddit so obsessed with anti porn views and "porn addicted men"?Heard something similar a to what you are saying way back in high school;”women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place.” Of course we can see this in action by observing the sexual activity of gay men and lesbians. Gay men are way more promiscuous, have anonymous sex in parks and other public places, and more likely to have open relationships. You don’t see any similar activity in the lesbian community. Before covid every few months the police would arrest men having sex with each othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 02:00 PM |
| 10 | Why is the female dating strategy sub reddit so obsessed with anti porn views and "porn addicted men"?I saw an interview with an escort once where she said something along the lines of; “If wives would stop thinking they have a golden vagina and just have to lay there during sex, and give their husbands blowjobs once and awhile we’d all be out of business”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 01:39 PM |
| 1 | What age do you think Men and Woman are at their most sexually attractive?There is a lot of truth to what you say but noticed I said more people. Men, and women, in their teens and early 20s, have all the energy of youth, more are likely to be involved in sports or other physical activities, etc. so for every 43 year old Jason Momao there are 100 fat, out of shape guys in that age group. For every good looking 20 year old guy there are 20 fat, slobby guys in that age group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 10:22 PM |
| 4 | ‘Sexual Compatibility’, the way that most people understand it, is a total mythOr he accepts the fact that your not into that and decides your relationship is more important than that. I like my sex more rough and was lucky enough to date two women that liked it that way. My wife on the other hand is not into that at all. Decided her other qualities were more important than rough sex. Now I’m with you 100% on not giving or enjoying oral. That was an automatic disqualifier in my book. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 06:17 PM |
| 11 | ‘Sexual Compatibility’, the way that most people understand it, is a total mythHard disagree. My promiscuous days taught me a lot about what I like and don’t like and therefore what I wanted in a relationship and what I didn’t want. It also gave me insight into what was common and what wasn’t. Do not regret my days of being a young, single Marine sowing my wild oats. I think it’s one of the primary reasons I’ve been able to be faithful to my wife over the last 20+ years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 06:15 PM |
| 2 | What age do you think Men and Woman are at their most sexually attractive?I think on looks alone more people look better at ages where they just finished puberty and about five years after that. However, on average women are not as visual as men and need more to be sexually attracted to a man. This more is status and wealth. In our society it takes men many years to acquire status and wealth. So George Clooney, who was better looking when he was younger (though he is still attractive now) he now has high status and wealth which makes him more attractive to women than … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Prostitution and mainstream datingMay at ask how bad it was. From what I’ve read in my states divorce laws she would get half and it would last one year for every three years of marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/22 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Prostitution and mainstream datingI’d suggest googling “Do men have a higher sex drive than woman”. There is numerous research showing this is the case. It’s also primarily due to testosterone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 11:43 PM |
| 7 | Prostitution and mainstream datingI don’t think it’s men v women it’s just that men and women are different in some ways. One of those is that on average have a higher sex drive than woman. In fact I’d hypothesize that if you could bell curve male and female sex drives than laid them on top of one another the 70th percentile of the female sex drive curve would line up with the 50th percentile of the male sex drive curve. How does this look in the real world? It means that its much more likely in a straight relationship for the m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Prostitution and mainstream datingOn a related note I remember reading a story years ago about Hollywood prenups. It said that many of the men put into them a set amount of frequency for sex. Some even specified the type. The example they gave was one that said they would have sex no less than three times a week and one of those times had to be in the doggy position. Of course when your that rich you can make those kind of demands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 09:36 PM |
| 22 | Prostitution and mainstream datingI love my wife dearly. But if she just decided she didn’t want sex anymore, in other words there was no medical or other reason for her no longer wanting sex, and would not seek any treatment to restore her sexual desire, I would be out. 20 plus years of marriage be damned and even if she would get half of the income. (She’s a SAHM). I got married with an expectation of regular sexual activity. If that stops then I’m out. Sadly, I’ve known many men in my life that have stayed or stayed to long i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Do women realize how little maintenance men need to be statistically faithful?I think for some this is true, for others not. Watch a program with my wife (who was my fiancé at the time) on dateline or one of those shows. An ex-wife had sued her ex-husbands new girlfriend for “alienation of afffection”. During the interviews the wife claimed everything was great in the marriage until her husband hired the new secretary and she “stole” her husband. That the husband was very loving and would get her flowers, etc. (she was also a stay at home mom and the husband obviously mad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Your partner gets paralyzed from the neck down, do you stay?Yes, a thousand times yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Statements like “women don’t owe you sex“ and “men aren’t entitled to women’s bodies” are not accurate depictions of how the vast majority of men think and simply more deflectionsA woman I was dating in my early 20s(90s) was having a discussion with her mom about being upset that men kept ogling her. Her mom said, “Sweetie, one day they will stop and you will miss it”, in a very wistful tone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/22 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Statements like “women don’t owe you sex“ and “men aren’t entitled to women’s bodies” are not accurate depictions of how the vast majority of men think and simply more deflectionsAgree. And telling a woman that you are in a relationship with or married to that the frequency of sex is not sufficient for you and you will end the relationship if it doesn’t improve is perfectly acceptable. (And so is a woman doing the same thing.) Women don’t owe men sex and Men don’t owe women a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/22 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Almost all gender behavior differences boil down to socialized behaviors and different hormonal cocktails.Agree. I’ve read a lot on this topic and our biology impacts us more than people are ready to admit. A recent book I read on this topic was T: the story of testosterone by Dr. Carole Hooven. She is a evolutionary biologist at Harvard. The book takes a really in depth look into the effects of testosterone. https://www.amazon.com/Story-Testosterone-Hormone-Dominates-Divides/dp/1250236061/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?adgrpid=1346902561799695&hvadid=84181522030887&hvbmt=bp&hvdev=m&hvlocint=115720&hvlocphy=61336&h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe Men and Woman experience causal sex differently from an emotional level?On average I think that is true. There are more men than women that can have casual sex without any emotional attachment. There are more women than men that get emotionally attach during even casual sex. I think this is a basic biological/hormonal difference between men and women. This is caused by the higher cost to women of pregnancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 03:31 AM |
| 11 | Maybe it's a modern thing, but I always thought of relationships and sex as a product of attraction. Not something you do for the sake of it.My wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child. After many years of searching for a solution we finally tried hormone therapy. She had a testosterone pellet inserted and when it kicked in she wanted to have sexual activity 3-4 times a day and would have an orgasm each time. She also was wanting to try new positions, wanted to get new toys, and asked to watch porn and even specified the type of porn she wanted to watch. (This was completely out of character for her). The testosterone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:40 PM |
| 6 | Maybe it's a modern thing, but I always thought of relationships and sex as a product of attraction. Not something you do for the sake of it.Sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Maybe it's a modern thing, but I always thought of relationships and sex as a product of attraction. Not something you do for the sake of it.I think it’s just the basic biological difference between men and women when it comes to sex. Men, on average, have a higher sex drive than women. Men also have a higher rate of sexual congruency than women. In other words if a man’s genitals are aroused his brain gets aroused and vice versa. A good way to examine these differences is to look at the mating habits of gay men and lesbians. On average Gay men have many more sexual partners than straights and lesbians. They also engage in much more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 05:26 PM |
| 2 | The fact that women are so repulsed by dick pics or photos of naked men is proof that they are not anywhere near as horny as menProbably because women have higher levels of sexual disgust than men do (on average). https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1754073917709940 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Romance/erotica novels are no better than pornographyA good friend and I were talking about this. If a women really enjoys sex she can be labeled either a slut or “in touch with her sexuality”. A man that really enjoys sex is just a pervert. There is no positive expression for a man that really likes sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 03:30 PM |
| 4 | Romance/erotica novels are no better than pornographyI read a few romance novels in my younger days to see what woman liked about them and what they were about. In my opinion they set up more unachievable expectations than porn. In romance moves the male love interest is, a lot of time, a prince, owns a company, or is otherwise very well off. This is very hard/impossible for most men to achieve. The other common theme I saw in these was what I call the mind reading power. There will be phrases like; “He knew without her saying to take her in his a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Women want casual sex just as much as men - but only with partners that will probably give them an orgasmThis reminds me of a saying I heard way back in high school. Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place. Of course the reason that men have is that they typically have an orgasm when they have sex. Since there is little to no way for a women to know if a casual sexual partner will be able to give them an orgasm this info is useless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 01:07 AM |
| 5 | PPD community: Do you believe this sentiment is accurate or inaccurate?I read a great book called “The evolution of desire” by Dr. David Buss that explained this using an evolutionary model. He theorized that men are hardwired not to miss mating opportunities and so they see them even when they are not there. In some of his research he showed men and women videos of men and women interacting and the men were much more likely to say that a women was flirting (by a wide margin) then women were. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Most women are demisexual.I think there is a lot of truth in your statement. I think it’s very enlightening to study mating/sexual habits of homosexuals. To me this shows how the sexes would act without the influence of the opposite sex. When we look at gay men a large portion of them engage in very promiscuous activity. Once study in San Francisco found on average gay males had over 50 partners. We also see that gay men are much more likely to have anonymous sexual activity in public places(parks, rest stops, etc.) Lesb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/22 01:03 AM |
| 1 | How many people here have had their heart broken?Agree. I grew up in the 80s and the message I received from society was they men and women were the same except that women could have babies. That women were down to fuck just like men. Yet what I saw in the real world did not match that. After much reading and life experiences I found I’d been lied to. I think studying homosexuals relationship and sexual happens is a good way to see the difference in the wiring of men and women. With the majority of gay men we see a lot of promiscuity and anony… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/22 04:12 PM |
| 14 | How many people here have had their heart broken?Twice when I was younger. Got friend zoned and kept the friendship going instead of running away. However, I don’t hate women and have been married to a wonderful women now for 23 years. Here’s the thing I’ve learned over the course of my 50+ years on this planet. Men and women are very similar with some things and very different with others, especially when it comes to love and sex. It is the way we are wired and the difference in hormones. To hate the other sex because of the way they act(excl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 11:40 PM |
| 2 | When is explicit(verbal) consent ever given by women for initial intimacy(touching and kissing). Is this practiced in reality?I have never asked for consent to kiss or touch a women. I’m a little older (50s) and have been with the same women for over 25 years. But in my younger dating day it just wasn’t done back then. This lead to a few times where I thought they wanted me to kiss them and I went in for a kiss and they pulled away. One let me kiss her and but she stiffened up and so I stopped and asked her and she said she didn’t want to and I apologized. Now mind you I am an extrovert and tend to jump first ask quest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/22 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Am I supposed to assume every nice thing a guy does for me is to get in my pants? It feels wrongAbout 90% of the time when a single man does something nice for a women he wants to have a romantic/sexual relationship with her. That is just the way it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/22 12:56 PM |
| 1 | would you be willing to date a woman who did not have sex?No. For me a romantic relationship must include sex. Otherwise you are just good friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 12:58 PM |
| 3 | "Power Imbalances" are part and parcel of consensual relationshipsWomen tend to marry up. Some women will try and marry way up. There will be imbalances. There is a reason people say if you see an ugly man with a hot women he must be rich. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?It took along time to find someone that would even acknowledge her lack of libido was a problem. We went to many doctors and they all acted as if it was normal. In fact her gynecologist, who was female, was so dismissive that we both found it insulting. We actually exchanged some very heated words. Finally had to go to a hormone specialist who was very understanding and knowledgeable. She had actually been a general practitioner then when she lost her libido after the birth of her third child, c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/22 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?I do not mean this in a mean way but you sound very angry. And I understand it because I went through a similar phase in my life. But it’s not healthy. For me it happened in my 20s when I was in the Marines. Got very mad at the fact that women didn’t want to just jump into bed. That I had to put in a bunch a work and stuff. When I started reading more about the sexes and realized that most women are just wired that way I was able to let go of the anger. It would be like being mad at a shark beca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?You sound like a typical women as far as your fantasy and focus on only your partner.(and that’s not a bad thing). Thing it sounds like your current partner is atypical as far as men go. Growing up in the 80s the dominate message I got about women is that they were just like men when it came to sex, just a little more hesitant because of the possibility of pregnancy. My life experiences and more reading about women taught me this is wrong. Most women want an emotional attachment with sex. I have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/22 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?From everything I’ve read, and I have read a lot on sexuality trying to find an answer to my wife losing her libido, you are not unusual among women about only fantasizing about your man. This is another key difference between men and women. Men will think about having sex with other women even while in a relationship. When men masturbate they will typically think of several different women during a session. One thing I read is that with many women if they start thinking about having sex with ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?That’s interesting. I’ve never read anything about ADHD and wanting sex more. I’d say that you are probably in the 99th percentile on my imaginary female sex drive bell curve. Though I also find it interesting that you never have the urge to look past your partner. If you are in a relationship do you have sexual fantasy about other people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?She did have some mustache hair growth, and that was it. In my opinion a small price to pay. The only other side effect was psychological. Her response to the testosterone scared her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/22 12:47 AM |
| 4 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?It was incredibly difficult for my wife to have an orgasm before the testosterone therapy. Since the testosterone therapy she can orgasm in about 5-10 min. This is with direct clitoral stimulation with a dildo. (After the testosterone wore off she only likes to orgasm in one specific way). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?Yes. It might be higher. Thing is it’s ultimately impossible to know since we can’t actually measure sex drive. We have to use self-reports and surveys. From my bell curve example this would mean that 70 out of 100 women have a lower sex drive than 50 out of a 100 men. And at the extremes it would be even worse. In the 90th percentile of men (let’s say this is a sex drive of wanting sex 6-7 times a week) you would have ten men and this would overlap with the 99th percentile of women. In other wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 05:58 PM |
| 14 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?I consider it low. I like to have sexual activity 2-3 times a week. Luckily for me my wife is willing to help me with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 05:08 PM |
| 6 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?I think the problem with your statement is that what’s a normal sex drive for women is different than a normal sex drive for men. Read an interesting article years ago comparing average sexual activity between lesbian, straight, and gay male couples. It found that on average lesbians had sexual activity 1-2 a month, straights 2-3 a week, and gay males 6-7 times a week. (Gay male couples were also most likely to have sexual activity outside the relationship, both with and without the partners con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 05:07 PM |
| 124 | Why don't women have fetishes at the rate of men?I saw this first hand with my wife. She lost her libido after the birth of our second child. Absolutely zero libido, couldn’t become aroused or have an orgasm. After many years of searching for a solution we found a hormone specialist that put her on testosterone. Once it kicked in it was amazing. She wanted to have sexual activity 3-4 times a day and would orgasm each time. She wanted to go out and buy new sex toys. Asked me to pick up porn, and told me what type she wanted, when I was coming b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 04:22 PM |
| 0 | Why are men okay with their young sons being sexual but not the other way around?I would not be ok with sexualizing or having my child witness/participate in a sexually orientated event at such a young age. Having said that I do have a daughter(in college) and a son (in high school) and if my reaction if my daughter fucked the entire football team would be much different then if my son fucked the whole cheerleading squad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/22 05:18 PM |
| 2 | How tf can such a huge and widely dissatisfaction of women with their sex life even be a thing?!No, I get that. But I think a lot of women, even without the hope of orgasm, will have sex to please their significant other. Or because they want children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 3 | How tf can such a huge and widely dissatisfaction of women with their sex life even be a thing?!I understand. But according to evolution a trait that is necessary for the survival of the species will be selected by those who have the trait being more successful in reproduction. Looking at the research I posted we can see that the orgasm is vital for males to be successful in reproduction. 96% of men report having an orgasm 96% of the time they have intercourse. Women report only orgasming 31%-40% of the time during (only) intercourse. If a trait is not vital to reproduction it tends to dis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 3 | How tf can such a huge and widely dissatisfaction of women with their sex life even be a thing?!My mistake. I still find it doubtful. A lot of women are having sex and not having a glimmer of orgasm. My wife and I do the same thing. She always comes first, when she wants to. Though she is low libido so one orgasm a week seems to be enough for her. I am HL and like 2-3 a week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 03:23 PM |
| 10 | How tf can such a huge and widely dissatisfaction of women with their sex life even be a thing?!Considering the rates at which women currently have orgasms during heterosexual sex, I doubt it. According to this study; https://blogs.iu.edu/kinseyinstitute/2019/01/24/how-often-do-women-orgasm-during-sex/ Women reached orgasm with unassisted (no clitoral stimulation) only 31%-40% of the time and even with clitoral stimulation they only reached orgasm 51%-60% of the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 03:16 PM |
| 15 | How tf can such a huge and widely dissatisfaction of women with their sex life even be a thing?!I think it is primarily due to biology. The male orgasm is necessary for reproduction to occur, the female orgasm is not. In fact there is currently no accepted theory on why females even have orgasms. This book; https://www.amazon.com/Case-Female-Orgasm-Science-Evolution/dp/0674022467 Looks at many of the hypothesis on why the female orgasm exists. The author then postulates that the female orgasm exists for the same reason male nipples do, because the other sex needs them. This is called the b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 11:33 AM |
| 1 | "High value men" don't make high value partners.I remember reading an article years ago during the Monica Lewinsky scandal that cited research showing that 90% of married men that make over $100,000 a year have cheated on their wives. If true you have one criteria of a HVM, money, which seems to correlate with a criteria of a LVM, cheating. They sorta of cancel each other out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/21 01:25 PM |
| 6 | If you’ve done everything other than PiV, are you still a Virgin?Yes m, still a virgin. You have to have PIV to lose your virginity. Hell, the definition of virgin is; a person who has not had sexual intercourse. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/virgin As far as I’m concerned this includes homosexuals. No matter your sexual orientation if you never have sexual intercourse i.e. PIV you are a virgin. No matter what other or how much sexual activity you have had. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/21 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Hook Up Culture For Women Is Equivalent To Prostitution Culture For MenThis idea I got from hard earned experience. Specifically the 21 years I served in the US military (Marines/Army) and the two deployments I did to Iraq and actually being in combat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/21 11:41 AM |
| 5 | Hook Up Culture For Women Is Equivalent To Prostitution Culture For MenThe ultimate value of a male is if he can protect his wife, his children, and his community. A man that is capable of great violence, but uses it only when necessary, is the ultimate high value male. A man not capable of great violence isn’t peaceful, he’s harmless, and has zero value. https://youtu.be/4p5oKIDYtDE | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/21 03:45 AM |
| 23 | Hook Up Culture For Women Is Equivalent To Prostitution Culture For MenI served 21 years in the military. I’ve seen hard charging, stone cold killers, pay for sex. I’d hardly call those men low value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/21 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?All good points and you may be correct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/21 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?It’s hard for anyone to really know how it feels to be anyone else. The other problem is that men and women tend to think the other sex acts just like them. Obviously, in many ways we do but sex is one of the areas were we are definitely different I was guilty of this growing up. Though I also blame feminism for it to. I was in high school in the late 80s early 90s and I would read a lot. Especially things about women. The prevailing idea of the things I read was that men and women are basically… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?If they make you happy(and you make them happy) that’s all that matters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?I think I read a same or similar study but I remember the conclusion differently. They concluded that in men there seems to be a direct connection between the brain and the penis. With women there is not a direct connection. They had some of the women read excerpts from a romance novel before watching video of people having sex. These women reported much higher rates of being aroused by the videos than women that didn’t read the except. They concluded that for women you have to stimulate both th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:55 PM |
| 0 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?The problem is human males have no clue when human females are fertile. Human females are one of the only mammals to have concealed ovulation. I’ve read research that postulated that is one of the big reasons why men are ready for sex anytime and why we are sexually aroused just by finding a woman visually appealing. Since we can’t know when a woman is fertile we have to be ready for sex at anytime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?I hate to ruin your day but a large majority of men think exactly like that. Always have, always will. Unless we genetically alter men’s biology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:36 PM |
| 7 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?You’ve never been in the military, because we definitely talk about women like that in the military. (At least the Marines and Army). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:31 PM |
| 17 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?If you want to understand it I’d suggest trying testosterone therapy. My wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child (completely gone, couldn’t get aroused or have an orgasm no matter what we tried) and we spent years trying to find a solution. Finally stumbled on hormone therapy and she was given testosterone. Once it kicked in she wanted to have sexual activity 3-4 times a day. It was awesome. This lasted about three months. We were talking about the effects after word and she tol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 7 | Why do most men associate beauty with arousal?In reproduction the primary purpose of the male is to create the children. The primary purpose of the female is to raise the child. (Not saying the only, saying primary) Males have, on average, a higher sex drive than women. Men’s sex drive is proactive, constantly looking for sex. A women’s sex drive is primarily reactive. There is saying I heard years ago; “Women need a reason to fuck, men just need a place”. This is glaringly noticeable when you look at the difference in sexual activity betwe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/21 03:15 PM |
| 4 | This OP is a neuroscientist and wishes you to be aware: Manhood and womanhood have cultural manifestations, but are in essence not cultural "roles". They originate from innate traits, the rewriting of which, due to how brains operate, can be achieved only through oppression of human drives.I think a good way to look at differences in mating habits between men and woman is to study the mating habits of gay men and lesbians. These two groups are not influenced by the opposite sex and are participating with people that are wired like them. What do we see in these two groups. Gay men, on average, tend to be more promiscuous than lesbians. They have casual sex in public places (it seems like every few months the cops do a sting in our small sized city’s park and arrest gay men there ha… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/21 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Women do not want sex as much as men do, otherwise we'd overpopulate the world within a generationAnyone who claims there is no difference between men and women’s sex drives are delusional or have an agenda. On average males have a higher sex drive than females do. I’d actually bet the average male sex drive is one or two deviations higher than the average female sex drive. One way to prove this is to compare average sexual activity between lesbian couples, straight couples, and gay male couples. The studies I’ve seen have reported on average lesbians have sexual activity 1-2 a month, straig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/21 11:28 PM |
| 3 | So what's the reason male prostitutes for women are still FAR more uncommon than female prostitutes for men?This was an excellent explanation. I also liked your use of homosexual behavior to explain heterosexual behavior. (Something I do myself.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/21 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Are woman as horny as men ? What do you guys think about itWomen are not as horny as men. Or do not have as high a sex drive as men. Study after study has proven this. However another good way to show the difference is comparing lesbian, straight, and gay male couples. On average lesbians have sexual activity 1-2 a month, straights 1-2 a week, and gay males 6-7 times a week (also gay male couples report going outside the relationship more than other couples). | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/10/21 12:31 PM |
| 41 | When men are drunk, it aint rape. When women are drunk, its rape.About 10% of women report having an orgasm when they were raped. So if they have an orgasm I guess it isn’t rape then? At least by that persons logic. | /r/MensRights | 06/08/21 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Are men upset that having money is considered an attractive feature?No. Should I be mad at gravity because if I jump off a building I’m going to fall to the earth? We have evolved and developed strategies over millions of years that helps our species to survive. Why should I get mad about that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/21 03:59 PM |
| 16 | Teacher's aide who took her baby along to sex romps with her teen boy students claims she didn't know it was illegalAll my female teachers in high school (late 80s) were dried up old crones. Even as horny as I was I wouldn’t want to touch them. Go to my kids high school and their are some young smoking hot teachers now. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 01/05/21 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Men that have been successful casually dating do you ever feel like it's a performance? If so how do you deal with it?When I was young and in the Marines we would refer to it as hunting. Yes, there is a bit of acting that goes on but is well worth it to get sex. I always enjoyed it though and was more successful than most, even though I’m not the best looking guy in the world. Though I found confidence and perseverance go along way. The one thing I noticed though is that it’s very easy to blow it with a woman. Women are like deer, very skittish. Say or do one wrong thing while trying to hook up and your done. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/21 12:00 PM |
| 9 | Are you forgetting the part where she was punished for it? Another stupid take from FDSWell yes a woman did disobeyed God. And because of this both her, the man, and all their descendants were banished from a paradise and cursed with death and other punishments. To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat f… | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/04/21 04:27 PM |
| 0 | Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men?And yet we have had women complete Ranger school. And from what I’ve read this is because standards were lowered/changed. I never went to Ranger school (Marine Corps boot camp kicked my ass so even at my peak physical performance I don’t think I could have made it.) However, when I situated over to the Army I eventually went to OCS. I’m not the best runner in the world but had no problem with any of the runs in OCS because women were present. Even when we broke into ability groups to run having … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/21 10:25 AM |
| 5 | Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men?I’d agree with you but some of our politicians in the US will push for a certain level of representation and therefore lower standards. It has happened and will keep happening. https://www.armytimes.com/news/your-army/2020/10/21/senators-ask-for-pause-on-armys-new-fitness-test-call-it-premature/ The six-event ACFT is a noticeably more difficult test than that which it replaces, with higher failure rates recorded among women. The increased difficultly is often attributed to the ACFT’s emphasis on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/21 06:57 PM |
| 8 | Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men?I get that and agree. But opening up all combat positions to women is the wrong move and is being done for politic reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/21 06:25 PM |
| 9 | Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men?I saw that. Reality is a bitch. But the powers that be still think it’s a good idea to have women in combat units. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/21 05:42 PM |
| 20 | Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men?Yes they do. When I was in level 1 Army combatives training we had one female in the class. A really high speed LT that was a tri-athlete and score 300 (out of 300) on the Army physical fitness test. In the afternoon on the second day of class she while we are rolling on the mats she starts crying and runs out of the gym. The MSG in charge of training asked me and another officer to go talk to her. It’s been a few years so I don’t remember what she said word for word but it was something along t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/21 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Did female economic liberation cause the birth rate to decline?China has entered the chat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/21 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Casual sex for gay men is ridiculously easy to find. Yet, there's still a huge market for M-to-M prostitution. What does this tell us about straight men, if it were also easy for them to get sex?It’s even worse in the military and your deployed somewhere. There was a female soldier on our base who I swear looked liked a shaved Wookie, and she has 8-12 male soldiers outside her quarters every night just to try and talk to her. We called them deployment princesses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/21 09:35 PM |
| 21 | Casual sex for gay men is ridiculously easy to find. Yet, there's still a huge market for M-to-M prostitution. What does this tell us about straight men, if it were also easy for them to get sex?I think studying homosexual sex behaviors is an excellent way to see how straights would behave without the effects of the opposite sex. I read a study back in college which looked at the sexual activity of lesbian couples, straight couples, and gay male couples. It found that on average lesbians had sexual activity 1-2 a month, straight couples 1-2 a week, and gay male couples 6-7 times a week (gay male couples were also the most likely to engage in sexual activity outside the relationship both… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/21 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?I think, that the average female sex drive is two or three deviations lower than the average male sex drive. For example, if a male with an average male sex drive was in a relationship with a female with an average female sex drive that male is going to want to have sexual activity more than the female. As far as what that means in the real world it means that it’s much more likely for the male in a heterosexual relationship to want more sex than the female, but not always. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/21 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?I never said there weren’t. There will be cases of women on the high end of the sex drive having relationships with men on the low end. Testosterone is the primary driver of sexual desire, but not the only. There are also social and biological factors. Again to really see the difference in the male and female sex drive just look at lesbian and gay males sexual activities. The difference is astonishing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?Of course there is. This happens when a male at the low end of the male sex drive dates a women at the high end of the female sex drive. This does not negate that every study on sexual desire shows that on average, men want to have more sex with more partners more often than women do. I think looking and comparing sexual activity of homosexuals and straight couples gives us an insight on sex drive differences between males and females. I read a study years ago that looked at the sexual frequency… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/21 12:42 AM |
| 7 | The babylon bee is savageAnd yet the US now allows women to serve in combat units. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/03/21 10:46 AM |
| 3 | The activating signal of women's arousal is different than men's. Generally, men are activated internally, by sight, women are activated externally, by a man's activeness and touch. Feminism teaches women to wait for an internal cue, and men not to entice women, preventing their stimulating signal.Testosterone therapy. That fixed it for awhile. It took awhile to kick in (my wife has always responded to medications weirdly) but when it did she wanted sexual activity 3-4 times a day, and I was very happy to oblige her. However the second time we tried it it made her deathly ill, though they also gave her other stuff. We just found out recently she has an auto-immune deficiency disorder that is making her very unwell. We are thinking she has had this for years and that is why her body didn’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/21 12:11 AM |
| 3 | The activating signal of women's arousal is different than men's. Generally, men are activated internally, by sight, women are activated externally, by a man's activeness and touch. Feminism teaches women to wait for an internal cue, and men not to entice women, preventing their stimulating signal.My degrees are in education (science- physics and earth science) but about 16 years ago when my wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child I started reading everything I could about female sexuality. (We did find a solution about sex years ago thankfully) I learned a lot and one of those things is that most men and women are very different when it comes to our sex drives. In fact if we could accurately measure sex drive and created bell curves of the male and female sex drive I bel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/21 03:06 PM |
| 6 | The activating signal of women's arousal is different than men's. Generally, men are activated internally, by sight, women are activated externally, by a man's activeness and touch. Feminism teaches women to wait for an internal cue, and men not to entice women, preventing their stimulating signal.A book I read years ago from a female neurologist and she explained it this way. The male sex drive is like a car engine that is running but in neutral, and it’s very easy to put it into drive. The female sex drive is like a car engine that is off and cold (depending on the time of the month it could be warm) and it takes some effort to start it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/21 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Does this describe you? "I have a job, a house, and a loving group of friends, family and a dog. But I'm willing to throw all of that away if it meant I could be a guy who can get constant endless casual sex on demand."Starting in nearly puberty own of my favorite fantasy’s was finding a love potion of magic spell that would make a woman want to have sex with me. Currently I have all those things you describe and I honestly don’t know what I would do if given the choice to have that. I love my wife and kids dearly but the thought of being able to have sex with any woman I desired is incredibly tempting. So to answer your question I honestly don’t know. To never see my wife and kids again would be horrible. But… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/21 05:02 AM |
| 0 | Women have more freedom than they’ve ever had in history, but they still choose to sell their bodies for incomeFrom what I’ve read street prostitution is about 10% of all sex work. The rest is online, in clubs, etc. I saw a research article on Atlanta strippers which reported the average income for them was $100,000 a year. Many of these woman were high school drop outs. There are very few jobs were a high school drop out can make $100,000 a year. It’s basic economics for these woman. I think it’s only because of the social stigma, societal upbringing, and brain wiring, that more women don’t engage in se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Should clients of prostitutes be villanized?I think those people would make shit in their pants and cry for their mama if they were ever actually in combat. A defining characteristic of a man historically across all civilizations is being able to defend that civilization. Civilizations were men won’t do that tend to be destroyed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Should clients of prostitutes be villanized?I’ve always found that view that men that have been to a prostitute are weak or less than a man. Over my 20+ career in the military I knew a lot of guys that used a sex worker and they were anything but weak men. Hell when the Navy stopped in Perth after many months of operations in the gulf they wore out the sex workers so much that the brothels shut down. https://www.theage.com.au/national/us-sailors-wear-out-sex-workers-20020502-gdu6bd.html | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/21 12:24 AM |
| 6 | Video link in commentsI agree, except that women have had different standards since they were allowed in the military. Here is a link to the old Army PT standards. https://usarmybasic.com/army-physical-fitness/apft-standards If you look for men to pass the push-up portion in the 17-21 age bracket they need to do 42. Women need to do 19. Years ago I read an article that explained if women were held to the same physical standards as men only 5% of women would be eligible to serve. Hell, the Army has put the new Army Co… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 01/02/21 03:31 PM |
| 13 | Video link in commentsTo some degree that’s true. But size matters in hand to hand combat. The bigger the person is the harder they can punch. It’s the main reason we have weight classes. As far as distance running goes men still beat woman by a large margin. https://www.angelfire.com/electronic/ultramentor/records_running.html The men’s 50km record is 2 hours 52 min and 47.5 sec. The women’s is 3 hours 20 min and 23 sec. You also have the Australian woman’s Olympic soccer team getting their ass handed to them by a b… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 01/02/21 12:01 AM |
| 26 | Women beating up men in the movies -- because girl power?Just because women, on average, have 40% less upper body strength than men and about 30% less lower body strength. That Women’s hearts are also 25% smaller than men’s hearts which means that woman fatigue faster than men do. And that women have about 30% less lung capacity than men, have 20% fewer blood cells than men resulting in less oxygen carrying capacity than men and have less bone mass than men because their bones are shorter and smaller which gives men a mechanical advantage over women. … | /r/MensRights | 31/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 103 | Video link in commentsBuT WoMEN Can Do AnYTHing a Man cAN Do. That is if you completely ignore biology. I mean the fact that on average women have 40% less upper body strength than men and about 30% less lower body strength. Women’s hearts are also 25% smaller than men’s hearts which means that woman fatigue faster than men do. On average women have about 30% less lung capacity than men, which makes men better runners than women. Women also have less oxygen carrying capacity than men containing about 20% fewer blood … | /r/PussyPassDenied | 31/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Do you think that cheating is different between the genders?I remember reading a study about adultery during the Clinton-Lewisnky scandal. It founders that 85% of husbands that cheated on their wives had no intention of leaving the marriage. 92% of wives that cheated on their husband intended to leave their marriage. I think that this is a reflection of a lot of men being in dead bedroom situations. Everything else in the marriage might be good, or there are children involved and they don’t want to put them through a divorce, etc. However they aren’t wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.I distinctly remember the first time l realized reality didn’t match what I’d been reading. I was at a small party in high school with some friends, both male and female. Parents were gone and we had got some alcohol and were having fun. My buddy who’s house it was brought out a porno flick his parents had. (Good old VHS). All us guys wanted to watch it and only one of the girls did. Because I had seen porn before and knew it got me really horny I thought once we started watching it the girls wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.So the message you got was that men were like woman and were selective about who they slept with? Or you got the message that men and woman were the same and assumed that men were as selective as woman? Because the message I got was men and woman were the same and woman wanted to have one night stands and have alot of sex. They didn't always act on those urges because of fear of pregnancy and being called a slut. When I figured out woman did not want to have sex as often as men I was angry at so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 05:26 AM |
| 4 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.When I was in my teenage years (mid to late 80s) everything I read about woman said they wanted sex just as much as men. They were just more reluctant because of the fear of pregnancy and being labeled a slut. I quickly discovered from observation and personal experience this was not the case. There was a research study done in the 90s at a college campus were they had five attractive men and five attractive woman go up to the opposite sex, engage in conversation for 10 minutes and then ask thre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 12:59 AM |
| 4 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.Thank you. And you bring out a good point. I read one study in college (mid to late 90s) that looked at average sexual activity between gay men, lesbians, and straights. It found that lesbians had sexually activity on average 1-2 a month, straight couples 1-2 a week, and gay men 6-7 a week. And it also stated that gay men in relationship were the most likely to step out of the relationship or be in Ana open relationship. I don’t think most straight woman really understand how often straight men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.For those that still argue that men and woman’s sex drives are the same I think studying homosexual’s sexual habits is a good way to disprove that. Research shows that gay men have a much higher number of partners over the course of their life than straight men, straight woman, or lesbians. They also engage in more casual sex and engage in it in public places than the other three. When they are in a relationship those relationships are more likely to be open. Lesbians do not engage in any compar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.I think that your description is spot on. Think I’m going to steal it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 08:54 PM |
| 3 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.That is a key difference between men and woman. Most woman can look at a man and find him attractive but not have a desire to have sex with him. Most men if they find a woman attractive they would want to have sex with them. One description I read about the difference in the sexual urges of men and woman was that men have a straight connection between their brain and their penis. If one sees or gets aroused a signal is immediately sent to the other. Not so with woman. They have to be independent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Women feel the same way about men they’re not attracted to as men feel about gay men.Had a conversation with a group of friends (male and female) along these lines many years ago when I was in college. It goes back to woman being much more selective than men in both short and long term mating strategies. Unless the woman is hideous most men take sexual interest as being a compliment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Which scenario is the most common when it comes to the reasons women divorce?Do you have a source for that claim of younger woman cheating more? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/21 05:52 PM |
| 3 | Why do women hate my wife because she chose to be a SAHM even though she’s brilliant?She said it to me. If she had said it to my wife I might have slapped her. | /r/MensRights | 10/01/21 04:59 AM |
| 28 | Why do women hate my wife because she chose to be a SAHM even though she’s brilliant?Well you thought wrong. My wife is also a SAHM and has gotten much of the same. Had a woman I worked with ask me what my wife did, told her she was a SAHM. She asked if my wife went to college and I said yes. She said “What a waste of a degree.” Pissed me off so much. She was in her mid-30s and married. I badly wanted to say “Your in your 30s with no kids. What a waste of ovaries.” Didn’t do it though because I knew I’d be the bad guy. | /r/MensRights | 10/01/21 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Question for everyone: if you could get rid of your sex drive without damaging your body or motivation in any way, would you?Fuck no. I had a short period when I got back from my first deployment from Iraq when my libido went to zero. Don’t know why and it lasted about two months. I was miserable. I love sexual activity, even masturbation. Sexual activity is my favorite thing to do. By a long shot. If I have a choice to have sexual activity and do anything else I like (spending time with my family, lifting weights, reading, traveling) 10 out of 10 times it will be sexual activity. Now having said that I would not want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/21 12:16 AM |
| 1 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Well I did. As I assume 99% of all people that get married do. That doesn’t stop 48% of first time marriages from ending in divorce. I served 21 years in the US military and one of the (many) lessons I took from that time was know yourself and seek self improvement. I know I have a weakness for woman. Therefore I take steps to avoid being tempted. Have a best friend (since high school) who worked his way up to VP of a local medium sized company. He wound up divorcing his wife after 18 years and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Let’s say I would hate to have the type of temptation that would come with having that much money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 08:43 PM |
| 1 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Because I love my wife and wanted a family. Many years ago I read an article about a prairie voles that was monogamous.(most prairie voles are not). The article stated that they believed they had found the gene that caused this difference and in the monogamous won it was long and the other species it was short. The author (a woman) said if this was true for human males it would be great if a test could be developed to determine if they were more monogamous or not. If such a gene exists in human … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 08:35 PM |
| 1 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Oh, your a woman. That’s why our dreams are different. 😉 All kidding aside I would never want to win a huge amount in the lottery. I love my wife and kids but I know if I became a millionaire with the “opportunities” that would open you I’d probably not be married anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 2 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Add some smoking hot babes on the yacht and that’s mine too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 3 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.No. The best scenario is where I have great consensual sex with a hot chick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 04:24 PM |
| 1 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.I have a lot of stories from that time. A lot involving what we called barracks bunnies, hopping from room to room spreading joy and STD’s wherever they went. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 02:48 PM |
| 10 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.I solved this problem with my wife before we got married. Told her on a day she wanted sex she should pull on my dick once. On a day she didn’t want sex she should pull on it 100 times, or until the creamy white stuff comes out. It’s worked like a charm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 02:45 PM |
| 3 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.I remember being in an 8 hour briefing on sexual harassment and one of the videos said that looking a woman up and and down was sexual harassment. We all had a good laugh. Actually we laughed at the whole thing. This was in the early 90s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 02:41 PM |
| 6 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.She drove to my place. She was young,19 or 20, I think. I was about the same age. A young Marine who was willing to fuck any girl that would let me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 01:12 PM |
| 21 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Because she was hot and I was horny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 12:32 PM |
| 4 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.Well, yes, yes it is. But the best scenario would have been her saying yes and us having sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 12:31 PM |
| 22 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.I was mad because I missed out on a chance to get laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 04:50 AM |
| 131 | You know women screwed themselves over when even the superman is afraid to chase women.In my younger days I was making out with a woman and she told me no. (We had been seeing each other for about month) So I stopped. We sat and watched tv for awhile and then she left, seemingly upset. Before she left I asked her what was wrong and she gave me the old nothing. Next time she came over to my place we talked about what happened. She told me she wanted to have sex but said no so I wouldn’t think she was easy. Said she wanted me to try again and then she would have had sex. Told her if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Do you think women's breasts are way more sexualized than they should be?Short answer- no. Long answer- Hell, no! I love titties!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/20 08:40 PM |
| 1 | No, biology doesn't say that you "should" reproduce / spread your genesI agree that biology doesn’t have a purpose for you. Evolution is an amoral, non-sentient process that does lead to two main outcomes, survival and procreation. As humans we look at evolution and label these outcomes as the “purpose” of evolution. Every living thing on this planet is shaped by the process of evolution. And the results of this process can be downright horrific. Often when a male lion takes over a pride he will kill all the cubs still nursing to make the female lions lore receptiv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 01:22 PM |
| 17 | What in the fresh hell is thisIf you have a penis you are a man, if you have a vagina you are a woman. If you get your penis cut off and have a hole made that you need to maintain so it doesn’t heal up, your still a man. If you get a penis made out of skin and whatever, your still a woman. You can call yourself whatever you like, but it doesn’t make it so. As far as I’m concerned a man calling themselves a woman is as nutty as a person calling themselves Jesus or napoleon. But for some reason the world has gone batshit crazy… | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/12/20 06:22 PM |
| 11 | Penis-size-manifesto: bigger is better up until the point of inconvenience?Sex is a small part of a LTR? Have to completely disagree with you there. LTR needs three things to survive; love, communication, and sex. Its like a three legged stool and you lose one of those legs and the stool will fail. Been married over 20 years and sex is a very big part of our relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/20 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Penis-size-manifesto: bigger is better up until the point of inconvenience?A woman I dated many years ago said to me (when we were talking about sex) “women who say size doesn’t matter have never had a big one.” As we talked more she told me her previous boyfriend was 8.5”. Then went on to say that I was average. Probably one of the reasons she is an ex. I also have known a woman who didn’t like big one’s. She said anything over 6” hurt her. So I think this is really dependent on the woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/20 01:39 PM |
| 3 | Marriage hits historically lows! Lowest Level in over 100 years!It will have an enormous negative effect on society. Marriage and the family are the basic building blocks of any society. Marriage has many beneficial aspects for society. For one children raised in single parent homes have much higher rates of negative outcomes in life than those raised by their biological parents. Another is that single men commit more crime than married men. This will most likely result in an eventually breakdown of society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/20 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesTrue it’s relative to each individual but I think it is possible to have a set standard for society as a whole. A 120 IQ puts you in the 91st percentile. I think the majority of people would agree that anyone in the 91st percentile in any area would be considered high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesTrue it’s relative to each individual but I think it is possible to have a set standard for society as a whole. A 120 IQ puts you in the 91st percentile. I think the majority of people would agree that anyone in the 91st percentile in any area would be considered high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesTrue it’s relative to each individual but I think it is possible to have a set standard for society as a whole. A 120 IQ puts you in the 91st percentile. I think the majority of people would agree that anyone in the 91st percentile in any area would be considered high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesTrue it’s relative to each individual but I think it is possible to have a set standard for society as a whole. A 120 IQ puts you in the 91st percentile. I think the majority of people would agree that anyone in the 91st percentile in any area would be considered high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 0 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesSince 110 to 119 is classified as high average I would classify 120 and above as high, even if I wasn’t in the 120s myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesGotta agree with you there. When I think high IQ I think 120 or better. But that could be because I’m in the 120s. If I was in the 110s I might classify that as the beginning of high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesThank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 03:08 PM |
| 15 | Unattractive people suffer worse life outcomes but men face HIGHER penaltiesReally? I know its just anedoctal but most of the high IQ people I've known in my life have been average looking at best. I noticed this again when my daughter started college a few years ago. She is in the honors dorms and when we went and visited her most of the students there were average(a 5 on a 1 to 10 scale) at best. My daughter is probably a 7 and she was one of the most attractive ones there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/20 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?Your absolutely right about our one experience dissent disprove a study. However, the medical doctor we went to for the hormone therapy told us she has successfully treated thousands of women for hypoactive sexual disorder with testosterone therapy. And that is hard evidence that it works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/20 01:49 PM |
| 9 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?I just read the study you posted and can tell you from personal experience it’s full of shit. My wife lost her libido completely after the birth of our second child. She could not become aroused or achieve orgasm.(also her nipples stayed hard and sore continuously). We spent ten years looking for a fix. Finally found it in hormone therapy. Testosterone to be precise. Her sex drive went through the roof. Wanted to have sexual activity 3-4 times a day. When she got her testosterone levels checked … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/20 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?Study after study has shown that women want sex less often and with fewer partners than men. Even cross cultural studies show this. Why? Because sex drive in both men and women is primarily controlled by testosterone and men have a shit ton more testosterone than women.(men are much more likely to engage in risky behavior because of testosterone than women, but you don’t see anyone arguing that this isn’t true) A good way to look at the difference between men and women’s sex drives is to study g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/20 10:53 AM |
| 7 | Do men dislike being approached by women romantically or is that just a myth?Myth, for me at least. I can count on one hand the number of times a women has initiated and even if I wasn’t interested in her I always appreciated it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/20 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Although women seem to be genuine in their belief that opposite-sex friendships are platonic, men seem unable to turn off their desire for something more.I have told several women I’ve known casually that their best male friend wanted more. None of them believed me and all felt hurt and confused when the guy finally made a move. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 01:03 AM |
| 7 | "Depressive symptoms were associated with engaging in casual sex differently for males and females. Males who engaging in casual sex reported the fewest symptoms of depression and females who had a history of casual sex reported the most depressive symptoms."Some men certainly supported the feminist movement of the 60s and 70s but it was lead by women. And those women sold other women a lie. They said you can be just like men and have casual sex, you can have a career and be a mother, you can have it all. The truth is no one can have it all. The other truth is their are deep evolutionary biological differences between men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/20 01:50 AM |
| 9 | "Depressive symptoms were associated with engaging in casual sex differently for males and females. Males who engaging in casual sex reported the fewest symptoms of depression and females who had a history of casual sex reported the most depressive symptoms."I would agree with most of what you say but both males and females also have alternative mating strategies. Males will also mate and pair bond long term to raise their children. Pair bonded women will cheat with a man of more desirable evolutionary potential in hopes to have better children and then get her mate to raise them. I think for many men both the spread the seed and pair bond strategies are near equal. For women I think the pair bond strategy is strongest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What percentage of women do you estimate marry men that they aren't sexually attracted to?I read something many years ago that would be the opposite of this. It said the first time women marry its for love the second for security. In other words they fall head over heels for a guy that isn’t good for them (blinded by love) have a kid or two, get divorced, then settle for a man they don’t love as much as the first but he’s stable and a good provider. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/20 12:29 PM |
| 4 | is there a link between exessive porn use and extreme fetishes.Excellent point. I stand corrected. Then I actually have no fetishes, just kinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/20 12:24 AM |
| 4 | is there a link between exessive porn use and extreme fetishes.I’m sure there’s a lot of people with a nun fetish, even now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 15 | is there a link between exessive porn use and extreme fetishes.I remember reading an article along the same lines. It said one of the reasons that many males have the cheerleader, schoolgirl, nurse fetish is because of seeing hot girls in outfits like that in their adolescence when their hormones were at their highest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/20 06:18 PM |
| 5 | is there a link between exessive porn use and extreme fetishes.That’s why I only watch lesbian porn. 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/20 04:44 PM |
| 8 | is there a link between exessive porn use and extreme fetishes.That sounds like the religious garbage I was raised with were all sex except marriage and in the missionary position is wrong. Once I got over that I no longer felt shameful about masturbating. As far as fetishes go Men have more fetishes than women and it’s probably due to the higher sex drive. I developed a fetish of cumming on a women’s face before I ever saw it in porn. But the reason I did is because I would use the school pictures girls would give me in high school (I grew up in the 80s wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/20 04:41 PM |
| 0 | What Would A World Where Women Are Just As Horny As Men Look Like?Is your hormone problem abnormally high levels of testosterone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/20 07:55 PM |
| 2 | What Would A World Where Women Are Just As Horny As Men Look Like?I don’t think civilization would have ever risen. The male sex drive can be very destructive if not checked in some way. Now I am assuming here that with the same sex drive women would also be less selective and have lowers levels of sexual disgust, just like men. I think that’s a pretty good assumption from everything I’ve read and from personal experience. My wife did testosterone therapy to fix her low sexual drive and for a couple months she wanted sex 3-4 times a day and she would initiate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/20 07:54 PM |
| 2 | [Updated] Excerpts relating promiscuity specifically to infidelity with APA citationsI can’t do that, it would cut my number in half! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/20 05:32 PM |
| 3 | [Updated] Excerpts relating promiscuity specifically to infidelity with APA citationsI agree. If someone asks me how many sexual partners I’ve had I only include women I’ve actually had PIV with. If we just did manual or oral I don’t count it. Now if someone asked how many people I had sexual activity with then I would try and add them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/20 04:28 PM |
| 1 | [Updated] Excerpts relating promiscuity specifically to infidelity with APA citationsSo this applies to both men and women? Because I could swear i read a study that showed more partners for men didnt affect there rates of cheating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/20 04:23 PM |
| 1 | If men magically turned into women for a day, they'd do the same thing as us and deny casual sexYour absolutely correct. If a man wants to know how it feels to be a women he should take testosterone suppressors. And if a women wants to know what it’s like to be a man she should take testosterone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/20 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Q4BP: Why do some of you BP believe "nature doesn't matter?"Because they hold to a belief that mankind can be greatly improved with the right upbringing or societal influences. If a large part of our behavior is biological than that is not possible. So they have to believe, that unlike all other animals on this planet, mans thoughts, actions, and beliefs are primarily influenced by how they are raised. The truth is much more complicated than that. IMNSHO some things are primarily dictated by biology (like males having a higher than average sex drive than… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/20 10:31 PM |
| 2 | The difference between a girlfriend/boyfriend and a friend is NOT just sex.I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily good or bad. It’s definitely different than the vast majority of men, and much more like a woman. Me personally I could have sex with someone I hate as long as she was attractive enough and willing. It would be a grudge fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/20 12:42 PM |
| 2 | The difference between a girlfriend/boyfriend and a friend is NOT just sex.For a man sex is the cornerstone that the rest of the romantic relationship is laid upon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/20 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?Most women, my wife included, have what I call the princess syndrome to some degree. They think they are princesses and men should just do whatever it takes to make them happy, and they don’t have to do anything in return. Before I got married I knew several men in sexless marriages and determined I was not going to be one of them. One of the main reasons I got married was for a steady sex life. Now I don’t have documents but I know if I was rich I would have a pre-nup. I wouldn’t go so far as t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?That happened to my wife after the birth of our 2nd child. No libido whatsoever. She still engaged in sexual activity with me but it’s not as fun when their not into it (though it’s still better than nothing.) Tell him to look for a hormone therapy doctor. My wife did testosterone hormone therapy and it helped improve the situation tremendously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/20 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?There was an exercise our preacher had us do before we got married were we each listed everything we expected in marriage and then made a single list that we both agreed to. We had many of the same things on our lists but one only I had was frequency of sexual activity, at least twice a week. She told me she had not even thought about that. She agree to put that on the list. Fast forward to the second year of marriage and she was not holding up that part of the bargain. I kept track on a calenda… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/20 01:00 AM |
| 4 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?I’m going to steal that expression. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/20 05:17 PM |
| 11 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?I agree that there is more to a relationship with a woman than sex. But almost all of that other stuff I can get from my male friends, or even female friends. For instance sharing my most intimate thoughts and feelings. The only thing I can’t get, or want, from my male friends are blowjobs.😉 I will say, after thinking on it some more, that once you have kids then you have a connection that cannot be replicated with anyone else. I love my wife, dearly. Hell, if I didn’t I wouldn’t have spent the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/20 12:30 PM |
| 31 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?God, that’s an excellent answer. One thing that has always burned me up about women is their desire to talk about a problem endlessly but not seek a solution to it. And the older I get the less tolerance I have for it. It’s gotten to the point now when my wife wants to discuss for the umpteenth time some situation that bothers her I politely listen and say yep that’s horrible. Then she accuses me of not caring and I say your right I don’t really care anymore because if I did care I would want to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/20 11:14 AM |
| 16 | Why do so many dudes see sex as the best thing in the relationship, and other aspects as secondary or boring?I would never had bothered with women if it wasn’t for sex. I’ve always had close male friends to talk and share with. My male friends and I enjoy doing the same things. The only thing I don’t want to do with my male friends is cuddle, kiss, and have sex with them. I’ve been married for over 20 years and if my wife just all of a sudden, for no medical reason, said she was not having sex/sexual activity anymore and refused to go to therapy or work on fixing the problem, I would leave the next day… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/20 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardThank you! I definitely will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardFor background my wife has always responded weirdly to medications, and alcohol. She was given testosterone pellets implanted in her butt cheek. We were told by the doctor that it would take two-four weeks for the testosterone to kick in and that the effects would last for about six months. It took three months to kick in and only lasted 2 months. For those two months she we would be having sexual actors 3-4 times a day and she would orgasm every time. I say somewhat fixed because for about ten … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardI in no way mean this as an insult but I just don’t believe you. From everything I’ve experienced in my life, everything I’ve read, the only place I’ve ever heard of straight men having sex as often as your claiming is in fantasies. Extraordinary claims require extraordinary proof. If you are telling the truth then bravo to you. You have male friends correct? So you've heard their stories and realize how far out of the norm you are claiming to be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-murder-and-the-meaning-life/201006/homosexuality-queer-problem This article says the higher promiscuity in gay men is not a myth, but a documented fact. And is also one of the reasons AIDS spread so rapidly in the male gay community. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-passion-paradox/201206/the-ins-and-outs-sexual-frequency “A few large-scale studies in the U.S. provide some sense of how much sex couples are having in their relationships. Married couples report having sex, on average, seven times a month (slightly less than twice a week).1 But, not surprisingly, sexual frequency differs with age and relationship duration.2 In one study of 16,000 American adults, the typical participant reported having sex two to thr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardI mean no offense, but I find that completely unbelievable. I'm fast approaching 50, served 21 years in the US military, hold a masters degree, and have traveled around the world. I have and had many male friends over these years and many conversations about sex. Not once have any of them claimed a level of sexual frequency that you are. Let me highlight just one of them. After a hard day of training myself and 10 other officers and senior enlisted were drinking beer and shooting the shit. The c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/20 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardJesus Christ! What world do you live in? Studies have shown that most straight married couples have sex, on average 1-2 a week, gay male couples 5-6 times a week, and lesbian couples 1-2 a month. I dated quite a bit in my younger days and the most sexual activity I had with a long term partner (I’m a straight male) was once every other day. The only time I’ve had more sex than that was when my wife was on testosterone therapy and we were having sexual activity 3-4 times a day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardTo fix a problem you have to correctly identify the problem. Up to 40% of women report sexual dysfunction during their lifetime that causes stress on themselves and in their relationships. In my own marriage my wife lost her libido completely after the birth of our second child. Absolutely nothing for almost ten years, she had no desire to have sex, she could not get turned on or achieve orgasm. We went to multiple doctors and got absolutely no help. Her female gynecologist actually told us it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardFrom the article; “After months of reading and compiling results, the answer was clear. There is a substantial difference, and men have a much stronger sex drive than women. To be sure, there are some women who have frequent, intense desires for sex, and there are some men who don't, but on average the men want it more. Every marker we could think of pointed to the same conclusion. Men think about sex more often than women do. Men have more sexual fantasies, and these encompass more different ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cultural-animal/201012/the-reality-the-male-sex-drive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardYou make a good point. Most women need more than just good looks. Most men just needs the good looks. For the majority of men if he tells a women she looks good it’s the same as saying “I’d fuck you.” In fact I’d go so far as saying a man could have sex with a woman he couldn’t stand if she was good looking enough. One book I read on sexuality compared male and female to car engines. A mans engine(sex drive) is always on and in neutral and easily slips into drive. A women’s sex drive is for the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardhttps://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare https://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/matty-silver/men-want-sex-more-than-women-do-apparently_a_22092533/ https://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a5856/men-want-more-sex/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardYou touched upon a good pint there. I think by studying gay sexual activities it gives us a much clearer picture of how men and women would act if the opposite sex wasn’t influencing them. Within the gay male community we see multiple partners (one study showed the average gay male had over 100 partners) and anonymous sex in parks, rest stops, bathhouse, etc. Hell, every year at my local park the cops run a sting and catch gay and bi-sexual men having sex there. The lesbian community has no simi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardDisagree with the statement both from what I’ve read and personal experience. After my wife’s libido disappeared after the birth of our second child I spent many years reading and researching female sexuality. Their sex drive is influenced primarily by their testosterone and estrogen levels, just like men. However, women have much lower testosterone levels than males do, they therefore have a much lower sex drive than men do, ON AVERAGE. Saw this first hand when my wife went in testosterone ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardI’m using stronger in the sense of wanting it more. The studies I have seen show that men across all cultures want sex more often, (and with more partners) than women. So hypothetical speaking the average point on the male sex drive curve would be wanting sex 3-4 times a week while on the female sex drive curve the average would be 1-2 times a week. I saw one study years ago (and I didn’t save a copy) that looked at and compared sexual frequency between gay male couples, straight couples, and le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 06:21 PM |
| 6 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardGood point. From all my reading and research my hypothesis is that if you could measure the female and male sex drive then graph those on a bell curve the average female sex drive would be one or two standard deviations lower than the male sex drive. Consequently at the high end you would find more men and at the low end more females. For example say you had a random sample 1000 men and 1000 women that were evenly distributed among this curve. At the high libido end you would have 100 men and fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 12:15 PM |
| 9 | Women aren't less horny than men: it's just the fact that their physical standards are so high that so few men actually meet that standardVery true. I’ve done a lot of research on female sexuality because my wife’s libido vanished after the birth of our second child. We somewhat fixed it through testosterone therapy. One research article explained the difference this way. For men there is a straight shot between the brain and the genitalia. If one gets aroused by something the other does too. Not so with most women. You have to arouse both because arouse just one won’t necessarily turn on the other one. Of course it also depends o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/20 12:08 PM |
| 50 | How would women react to an erotic fantasy book/film in which an ugly man rapes/kidnaps a woman?That would not be erotic fantasy, that would be a horror book/film. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/20 11:25 AM |
| 13 | Sexless men are in that situation because they provide little to no value and expect high value in returnFor a long time in human history men traded resources for companionship with women. Women married a man so he would provide for her and her offspring. As women have advanced and no longer need a man to provide for them many don’t settle. Add to that the fact that more women than men now attend college and that women generally want to marry up and there is another reason to stay single. Now whether this can be sustained in western culture is the big question. I have my doubts that it can be and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/20 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Women feel bonded after sex. Men feel rewarded after sex.Your absolutely correct. We also still have “tribes”, they’re just called nations now. I would argue that something that has worked for 100,000 years or more should be changed only with much caution. For instance the increase of single parent families. Research shows children do much better in a family conditioning or their biological mothers and father than in any other arrangement. Yet our society seems hellbent promoting other arrangements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/20 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Women feel bonded after sex. Men feel rewarded after sex.Your absolutely right the human race wouldn’t survive like that. That is why all society’s have attempted to limit/control male sexuality. Women want to also insure that the male stays with the children because the children will have a higher chance of survival. Male sexuality is extremely destructive. However, you still see high status males acting like this in almost every society. The gay men you know may not act like this, or maybe don’t let you know they do. I have read many studies on male… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/20 11:41 PM |
| 8 | Women feel bonded after sex. Men feel rewarded after sex.I think they are both complementary and oppositional. In other words we evolved both in cooperation with and in “competition” with the opposite sex. Studying the sexual habits of homosexuals is a good way to determine how males and females would act if not for the effects of the opposite sex. What do we see there? Extreme promiscuous behavior with gay men. One study found that 28% of homosexual men have over 1000 partners. https://carm.org/statistics-homosexual-promiscuity You also see this beha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/20 10:00 PM |
| 5 | Women feel bonded after sex. Men feel rewarded after sex.Im also a combat vet. I felt that dopamine rush after combat. It was the same feeling I got in high school after winning a football game, except way more intense. I can also say I would also get almost the same dopamine rush after sex with a women but the more I had sex with the same woman it would lessen. Get a new woman and it would be right back. I’ve been with my wife for over 20 years and the dopamine rush has almost completely disappeared, it just feels good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/20 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Women feel bonded after sex. Men feel rewarded after sex.I’ve seen other studies that report these same findings. I think it is tied to the fact that biologically women are the primary caregivers of our young and so nature wants to insure they bond to them. Men’s primary purpose is to create the young and protect them. Therefore when we protect them, or win against a saber tooth tiger or another human, we get a huge dopamine release. We have to remember that the nuclear family is a relatively new invention in human history. Evidence suggests that we m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/20 08:48 PM |
| 19 | Is this true??And never stick your dick in it. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 30/05/20 08:41 PM |
| 6 | Pessimistic thought of the day: People say they prefer to have sex with someone they feel attached to, but what happens is that they feel attached to any sexy person in their surroundingsIt’s different for men and women. Most women need a strong emotional attachment with someone to truly enjoy sex. Most men don’t. I’ve been married over 20 years, my wife and I have had some great sex. When I was single I had some great sex with one night stands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/20 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Is there a problem with the marriage and birth rate dropping so low?Yes people have natural rights and one of the things they do with those natural rights is to form governments/countries to ensure those rights. Once they’ve formed their country they then have a natural right to decide who can or can’t become a member of it. “A nation that can’t control its borders is not a nation.” Ronald Reagan | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Women, not men, are responsible for the proliferation of pornography and casual sexI blame the feminist women of the 1960s for the rise in casual sex. They sold women a lie that you can be just like men and have sex just like men, with no emotional attachments. One night stands? Ladies, you can do it too. The problem is that men and women are not hardwired the same, especially when it comes to sex. The majority of women want and need emotional attachment to want and enjoy sex. When they dont get it i think it can cause severe emotional distress for many. There is an old saying… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I, and my wife, like to watch porn. Spices up the sex life. I’m sure some people can become addicted to it. Just like gambling or alcohol. Good for them for recognizing a problem and trying to solve it. But I don’t blame the porn itself, just like I don’t blame the gambling or the alcohol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I think there is a lot of truth to want you say. But seeing the effects of testosterone first hand on my wife, and talking to the hormone doctor and the results she has seen, I think testosterone plays a big role. Of course it’s possible that the testosterone is able to override all those societal influences. I will say one thing I’m sure of, female sexuality is much more complex than male sexuality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 06:08 PM |
| 1 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?You bring up a good point. At our young age it was impossible to be exposed to porn as often and as young as males are today. Our brains were set before we started to really be exposed to massive amounts of porn. I helped out with our local high school football program a few years ago and one thing I noticed Is there was hardly any talk about girls. When I played football 50% of the time, If not more, we were talking about girls when we were standing on the sidelines or working out. The boys see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 05:25 PM |
| 2 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I know that personal experiences are just anecdotal evidence. And please don’t think that was a jab at you or your husband. I’m just saying there are differences in averages between men and women when it comes to sex and intimacy. For example, before I retired from the Army my wife and I went to a couples retreat. During it we were broken into small groups. Our group had five couples. Each person filled out a questionnaire. Then we presented and talked about the results. One of the questions dea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 3 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?The exception is not the rule. There are averages that are valid would looking at the whole population. From my research you and your husband are the exception for your sex. Men, on average m, see sex as a stress reliever. Women, on average, need to be relaxed to enjoy sex. In other words you married a man form the 20% that need to be stress free to want sex and he married a women in the 20% that use sex as a stress reliever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 02:56 PM |
| 1 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?Completely agree with that statement. Was having dinner with a high school buddy of mine before all this coronavirus shit happened. He’s divorced and dating. He was saying how he’s a pervert because he wants sex a lot and if he was a women he’d just be in touch with his sexuality. Our society definitely sends the message that if your male and think about sex too much your a pervert. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 02:51 PM |
| 0 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?From my research I agree with your assessment on dead bedrooms. 2/3 LL women, 1/3 LL men. Women, on average, have a lower sex drive than men. My educated guess would be if you could bell curve men’s and women’s sex drive, like IQ. The male average would be at least 10% higher than the female average resulting in (guessing here) 10% of men being high libido and 5% of women being high libido. I don’t completely agree with your assessment that it is all the males fault. Studies show that women are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 02:48 PM |
| 3 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?From the research I’ve read female sexuality is influenced by environment more than male sexuality is. I think that’s due to testosterone. When my wife was on testosterone therapy she suggested things and did things she had not done before. She even asked me to pick up a porno movie from the adult store and told me what kind. She had watched porn with me before but had never asked me to get one or tell me what she wanted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 02:39 PM |
| 2 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I think you hit the nail on the head with your first observation. Men, because of biology, do have orgasms more easily than women. I mentioned on another thread that my wife lost her libido after the birth of our second child. We searched a long time for an answer and I read a lot about female sexuality. One thing that I kept coming across is how hard it is for some women to orgasm. In fact the statistic I saw a lot was that roughly 20% report having an orgasm always or almost always, 80% report… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 12:53 PM |
| 1 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I know I’m a little older so I came of age when you still had to sneak and get your dads porn VHS tapes or have your older brother rent one for you to see it. I watch porn regular to this day and have been married over 20 years. I can truthfully say there has not been one time when I’ve picked jerking off to porn to having sex with my wife. I’m not suggesting there’s no truth to what your saying, but it boggles my mind that a man would pick porn over a ready and willing women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 12:44 PM |
| 5 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I’m nearing my 50s and that was not my experience at all. When I was young and single I only dated one woman whose sex drive was as high as mine. Of course even for a male I think I had a high sex drive. I know this is completely anecdotal evidence but one of my best friends around my age got divorced a few years ago and has been dating women 10-20 years younger than him (he’s a VP at a local company) and says the younger women are sex freaks. I wonder if women raised in the 90s have a different… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 12:40 PM |
| 5 | I find it weird how Dead Bedrooms is mostly women. Why is that?I do find that interesting too. Me wife lost her sex drive after the birth of our second child, we searched for years for a solution and finally found hormone therapy which fixed it. During those years I did a lot of research on the female sex drive and every thing I read was that the majority of dead bedrooms were HL males and LL females. I’d say 80% males in a DB compared to 20% females in a DB. You look at that subreddit and it appears to be close to the opposite. One thing I noticed though i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/20 12:11 PM |
| 3 | So where are all the outraged pussy hat wearing fems now?That would be a great analogy if the original OP mentioned Trump. However, it mentions Kavanaugh and a lot of people did wonder why the allegation against him didn’t come up in all the years that he was working in government or as a judge but suddenly appeared after he was nominated to the Supreme Court. Personally I didn’t believe the accusation against Kavanaugh and I don’t believe the accusation against Biden. I think any accusation of any crime after all those years should be met with skepti… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 03/05/20 09:36 PM |
| 4 | What's your minimum requirement in a women for you to date her?Great list. I would add one requirement; 1) must enjoy both giving and receiving oral sex. I would also take away the single mother, but I’m older and if I started dating again I don’t think there would be any women around my age that didn’t have children. I would also add one dealbreaker; 1)Low libido | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/20 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Dating world summed up: Most men can't get most women, most women don't find most men worthyIf your perspective was true than we would have died out as a species long ago. What you are saying does have some truth to it but is not the whole picture. The piece your missing is pheromones. There has been research showing that pheromones can effect a women’s attraction to a man. Personally I believe it can have a major effect. For instance men are attracted to far more women for both short term and long term mating then women are. But when a women meets a man whose pheromones she finds attr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/20 03:26 PM |
| 7 | It is generally accepted as common knowledge, and backed by research and statistics, that men are more likely to have sexually deviant fetishes that are widely seen as morally upsetting or disgusting. Why is this? Is it nature, nurture, porn, or something else?That is not what he is saying. Your conflating minors with pedophiles which a lot of people do. In some states the legal age of consent is 16. So a fifty year old man/woman could legally sleep with a “minor”. The definition of pedophilia is -a sexual attraction to prepubescent children. Prepubescent meaning before puberty. If your attracted to someone in or past puberty but still under the legal age of consent it is hebophilia. Though society lumps those two together. Most people though would se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/20 10:32 PM |
| 14 | It is generally accepted as common knowledge, and backed by research and statistics, that men are more likely to have sexually deviant fetishes that are widely seen as morally upsetting or disgusting. Why is this? Is it nature, nurture, porn, or something else?From my research and personal experience I believe it is testosterone. Testosterone has been shown to increase aggression and sex drive. Research has shown that women who are treated with testosterone therapy for sexual dysfunction show an increase in sex drive and aggression. I experienced this personally when my wife received testosterone therapy. Her sex drive shot through the roof. She was more open to trying new things and even suggested new things to try. She even asked me to pick up a por… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/20 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Are most men really attracted to everything?Most women are like that. When they have a man there sexual desires are for him only. They also tend to stop masturbating. Men not so much. My advice is not to get so hung up on something you can’t change. I went through a period in my early 20s when I was mad at women for not wanting to have casual sex as much as I did. (And i was fairly successful at getting laid.) I was like why do I have to put so much effort into getting laid? When I realized it was biology and not just a choice by woman th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 01:32 PM |
| 6 | Are most men really attracted to everything?Men are much less picky when it comes to short term mating. More picky when it comes to a long term mate. But yes men find a larger percentage of woman sexually attractive than the percentage of men that woman find sexually attractive. If you want a see how often men would have sex look at gay men. Studies have shown gay men have, on average, 100s of sexual partners. They also have anonymous sex in parks, rest stops, bathhouses, etc. Straight men would also act this way of straight woman would a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Is sex validating for women like it is for men?There was a study I read years ago that found the more sexual partners a man had the higher his self-esteem was and the more sexual partners a woman had the lower her self-esteem was. So according to that the answer is no. I also think the answer is no. Women and men are different and have evolved(or been created) for two different main purposes when it comes to procreation. Men to create babies and women to raise them. Feminism sold women a lie. It said they can be just like men and have random… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/20 02:35 PM |
| 1 | An even better analogy to “women can always get sex”Exactly. The defining difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship is sex. You can love a best friend as much as you love a romantic partner, but you don’t want to have sex with the best friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/20 01:49 PM |
| 5 | An even better analogy to “women can always get sex”That would be hard to find. I think for most men, myself included, I wouldn’t even bother with a romantic relationship with a woman if sex wasn’t a part of it. I’ve been married for more than 20 years and if my wife tomorrow said she was done having sexual activity, and I could not change her mind or get her to go to counseling, I would pack my bags, leave, and file for divorce. (I have had some buddies that have had that happened to. Some stayed because of kids, and some left and divorced.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/20 02:45 AM |
| 1 | The red pill as a necessary evil even though it is generally ineffectiveYour right that the scale can be very subjective but sociologist believe there is a generic scale that would apply to a majority of people. For instance I do not find Angelina Jolie to be very attractive, I would rate her a 5-6 on my scale but I realize that I’m in the minority on that. Therefore even though my wife is a 6-7 on the generic scale on my personal scale she is a 10. Of course one of the things that make her a 10 to me is that I love her. So no lying is necessary. Now If she were to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/20 08:26 PM |
| 1 | The red pill as a necessary evil even though it is generally ineffectiveYep. Perseverance pays off. On a different track I only went out with my alpha buddy twice because it seems liked I was less successful with him then with someone closer to my level. Women travel in pairs or packs mostly and on the two occasions him and I went out his presence seemed to make the second one not interested in me. Was in fact making out with a chick when he was in the next room and she was distracted and actually said what does he see in her (about her friend). Very jealous vibes. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/20 02:31 PM |
| 12 | The red pill as a necessary evil even though it is generally ineffectiveThere is some truth to what you say, but also some falsehood. Most women like confidence, without confidence your chances are slim to none. The more attempts you make the more likely you are to be successful. I’m not the best looking guy in the world. But when I was young Marine I was fairly successful at picking up women. I was very extroverted to begin with but the Marines gave me confidence in spades. There were very few nights when I went out to the bars that I did not leave with a woman. My… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/20 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Women make terrible dating choices out of lust, just like menI think your correct but because of a women’s average lower sex drive and cost/benefit of mating (sperm is cheap, eggs are expensive) they don’t do it as much as men do. Personally I know of one woman that did this. In college was friends with a woman who would always go back to her high school boyfriend even though he treated her like crap. Finally one day after much talking she finally admitted why she always went back to him, he was the only guy that ever made her orgasm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/20 10:07 PM |
| -2 | If you're in a relationship, would you still want to have sex with other hot women?Yes, often. And I’ve been married over 20 years. Monogamy, in my opinion, is much harder for men than it is for women. Would I? I can’t say never. Haven’t yet hope I never do. I know my ability to resist the temptation would be dependent on the circumstances. I am pretty certain if the opportunity to have a threesome with two women presented itself it would be very hard to resist because that is my number one unfulfilled sexual fantasy However, since I know this is a weakness of mine I take step… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/20 05:45 PM |
| 16 | How can a woman respect men knowing that they all want to fuck her?This reminds me of a conversation I participated in in college. Lunch one day 7 of us had lunch after class, 2 girls five guys. Of course sex came up and one guy told this girl let’s go have sex right now. She laughed and said sure. He said ok and she said no. Then she asked him was he being serious, and he said “yes I would go have sex with you right now.” She then asked all of us if we would go have sex with her right now. We all said yes(me with the caveat of if I wasn’t engaged). The look of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 08:01 PM |
| 3 | The Telegraph: "Women are being strangled, choked, slapped and spat on during sex - we need to stop pretending this is normal"I thought it was creepy before I had children, now it’s 100x creepier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 07:43 PM |
| 1 | The Telegraph: "Women are being strangled, choked, slapped and spat on during sex - we need to stop pretending this is normal"I’m obviously a little bit older(😉)and have been out of the dating game for about two decades. If what you say is true(and I have no reason to doubt you) then I’m truly sorry. I would recommend(as I recommended to both of my children when they got old enough girl/boy) that before you become intimate with someone you discuss your boundaries. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you put the boundaries out there then if/when they are violated you need to end the relationship. (Again easier sai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 07:39 PM |
| 10 | The Telegraph: "Women are being strangled, choked, slapped and spat on during sex - we need to stop pretending this is normal"Wrong. Early 90s had a girl break up when me because I wouldn’t choke her during sex. Not saying it was super common but this did happen. That’s one of my two non-negotiables in the bedroom;no choking and don’t call me daddy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Men aren’t angry because they realized women want Chad. They’re angry because they realized they aren’t Chad.Women want men that have high earnings or high earnings potential and wealth gives you a higher status in society(in other words popularity). Not a lot of women that will date a man that’s good looking but dumber than a box of rocks. Plenty of men will date a women that is good looking but dumber than a box of rocks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/20 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Women are the stronger sex and hypergamy is a good thingThat is a very good and accurate point. In the modern world men’s status is, for the most part, tied to their wealth or wealth potential. Had not thought of it that way before. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/20 08:07 PM |
| 7 | Men aren’t angry because they realized women want Chad. They’re angry because they realized they aren’t Chad.Some people win the genetic lottery and some people don’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 07:45 PM |
| 6 | Men aren’t angry because they realized women want Chad. They’re angry because they realized they aren’t Chad.There are very few men that are overall chads. In other words that are A 10 in looks, a 10 in intelligence, a 10 in physical ability. But I do agree that men (and women) are very defensive of their social status because social status effects your mating value. Also women’s mate value is highly influenced by their looks. Sure there are now ways for women to change their looks and such but most women’s mate value decreases as they age. Men’s mate value is more influenced by their status. In the we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 07:43 PM |
| 0 | Women's options and being picky.I think you hit the nail on the head as far as the difference between how many are available and how many are desirable. Women are more selective in who they mate with either short term or long term. There’s a good biological reason for this, women bear the brunt of procreation. Or, as the old saying goes, “Sperm is cheap and eggs are expensive.” It doesn’t matter that we now have birth control and other means of reducing the chances to get pregnant but it took millions of years for the programm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 06:28 PM |
| 2 | "It's only sexual harassment if he's ugly"I think you make some good points. One thing you left out, and most men don’t understand, is women overall are much more selective in who they choose to mate with than men overall. For example, and I know this wasn’t a scientific survey, but a researcher compared how men and woman rated the looks of the opposite sex on dating sites. When analyzing the ratings of men it formed a typical bell curve. A few women at the beautiful end, a few at the ugly end and the rest in-between. The ratings of wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 01:24 PM |
| 9 | Women are the stronger sex and hypergamy is a good thingExactly. There was a Supreme Court case(can’t remember the name) that declared it was discriminatory to withhold welfare benefits from unwed mothers. The unwed mother rate starting climbing soon after but had leveled off. You get more of whatever you subsidize. Feminists sold women a lie. That they could be just like men and have it all. But men don’t have to all. We sacrifice our time with our families to support them. And women and men are biologically different, both physically and psychologi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 09:13 PM |
| 11 | Women are the stronger sex and hypergamy is a good thingDisagree. Both sexes have their strengths and weaknesses. Women are in competition with each other for the alpha males because there’s not enough alpha males to go around. The only universal rule is that might makes right. We have to work very hard as a species to make civilization work because we evolved without civilization. Women, and their reproductive capacity, are a resource and men have banded together since ancient history to attack other groups and steal their women. From the Jewish tri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Does attraction mean anything to men?Men in general have lower standards of who they will have sex with compared to who they will have a relationship with. Woman tend to have the same standards for both casual sex and long term relationships. This might be a case of men applying their standard to woman. i.e. I'm just looking for casual sex so I think I meet (the male) standard for that and therefore you (the woman) should want to have sex with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 12:42 PM |
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