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Question For Womenarsenalfc4life1500/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:09 PM
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It's not since average people have always paired up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:24 AM
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No way that sounds like Hitlers Eugenics programme
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:37 AM
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So double standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:19 PM
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That's what i'm thinking too, too often men get sucked into these obvious rage bait podcasts and they now think that every woman on the street has this mindset. What about all the women who dont use apps, who dont go on social media a lot, who are just I don't know, normal people? My social circle doesn't have women with these over exaggerated standards you see online.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:36 AM
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I made an account on there back in 2011 and had also used it before when it started in 06 and never came across anything as toxic as i've seen on some of these tiktok videos
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:00 PM
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Once could also say TikTok fanned the flames with all the endless content on both sides calling each other out like it's some competition, people are really immature on there both men and women, it should be banned tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:18 AM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:16 AM
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as far as Hinge users go, 64% are men and 36% are women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:10 PM
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Why do you think? Because things weren't so focused on technology as 2024.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:46 PM
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20 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 01:07 PM
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Excellent post!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:11 AM
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A start would be removing apps, instagram, tiktok ( tik tok in particular to stop the endless algorithims of hate towards each gender ) once you get rid of the apps and insta then you push for more in person events to allow men and women to build communities once again so that men and women aren't as isolated and it also takes away the superficial aspect of judging based on looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:59 PM
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I mean the far right are rising up all over the world, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:31 AM
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And get pumped and dumped
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:19 PM
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I agree, it's less to do with feminism and more to do with the influence of technology
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:59 PM
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Polygamous societies are usually bloodier more likely to invade their neighbours and more prone to collapse than others are so in that scenario i don't think a lot of working class men would take that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:56 AM
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Thats why I like talking to women offline, they are a lot less judgemental than on the apps IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:48 AM
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In terms of ratios it was still was much rarer than finding abundances of them on online apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:41 AM
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Technology started it and then COVID was the straw that broke the camels back.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:38 AM
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Because the more attractive aka "chads" are not looking for commitment compared to the men who are not necessarily ugly but average every day guys, think of the single people already in your social circle that you get on with who you know would make good partners based on observing their behaviour and being around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:24 AM
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Foreplay and knowing where her clit is located is more important for a woman, penetration is important for a guy. That's why a lot of women love the "grinding motion" during missionary or cowgirl etc rather than jackhammering like you'd see on porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 07:44 PM
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Actually Gen Z are walking away from them https://fortune.com/2024/05/16/gen-z-millennialls-shun-dating-apps-tinder-bumble-hinge/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:52 PM
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Not picky in real life yes, but with access to the apps it's a different story on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:40 PM
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Lost mine at 18 too, my first experience was awkward though, after i slept with a woman i met at a bar in my local town the next morning the door slammed open and her mother came storming in shouting at me "how dare you this is not a knocking shop!" here i am just tucked up under the covers cuddled up next to her daughter both naked looking shocked 😂 I thought it was gonna be her dad lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:46 PM
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Right and what does it accomplish? - Dates guy out of league who proceeds to pump and dump. Blames all men. Recycle and repeat. Unless you actually measure up to that kind of level you are not gonna get a man like that, no chads are locking down average women end of.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:08 PM
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Another thing it does is it causes the man to be insecure with what he's working with and then he feels he doesn't measure up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:57 PM
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I've disabled my facebook for a few months a couple of times before as it does make your brain go into overload.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:43 PM
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It's not the ONLY trait that matters thats the point, what does it matter if you still get played? Men like this literally know they have options and dont care about commitment unless they meet someone also attractive. Go and read the book called "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lorri Gottlieb and you'll see that fairy tales aren't a reality. People whether they like it or not usually settle with a looks match. There is no reality where average women are settling with at…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:11 PM
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There was actually a book on whats happening I think its called "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lorri Gotlieb And it highlighted how over top expectations can be out there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:01 PM
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Not from what i've seen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:55 PM
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Some few weeks long situationship is hardly a relationship, it's the same old story, flown out for some holiday, taken out for a date, one night stand, man ghosts her and moves on to the next option lined up where he will do the same thing again, woman get upset as she didn't get commitment from him, then jumps on tik tok and crys all men are the same for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:44 PM
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I'm not talking about ugly people, i mean average people, let's face it in preapp days a lot of men who are ignored on there now would have met someone in real life because they had the personality to shine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:40 PM
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They don't really otherwise there wouldn't be so many videos of them on the internet crying over being dumped. However i do see average men with attractive women occasionly and this hasn't changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:34 AM
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Yet the decline in sex for men seems to have occurred after the apps blew up 2020 onwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:52 AM
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There is no such thing as a perfect person everyone has flaws, we're all human. This is just the consequence of social media and dating apps contributing to superficial standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:48 AM
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You put far too much emphasis on it though, personality is way more important, if you only chase looks you'll just constantly run into people who wanna use you and have narcisstic traits not exactly ideal for long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 06:09 AM
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In the UK it's also 9:1 in favour of men
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:31 PM
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You do have to wonder how different things would be though if we handwaved away dating apps, instagram, tik tok etc how the market would look.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:12 PM
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Not for commitment though they just want sex, thats how chads operate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:35 PM
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House parties
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:16 PM
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"He was able to find the spot that worked and once he found it he didn’t let up" Yeah thats it, it's all about the angle of the hips and putting a couple of pillows to use 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 01:34 PM
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The number of women using dating apps is less than the number of men anyway so it doesn't both me, just means less competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:40 PM
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Yes, i think the kind of people you would meet outside would never have given you a chance on those apps
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:08 PM
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"I like to think of social media as the nail in the coffin." Not quite, men need to realise they're far more opportunities offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:01 PM
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With jobs and stuff I understand fair enough, but to commodify dating? That has set things on a collision course. Technology should never have stuck it's nose in when things were already working with communities in society. Now thanks to technology we are more divided than ever before in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:56 PM
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" so to claim all women have high standards is not exactly accurate." I think on the dating apps they do, but in real life they are more grounded and humble.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:30 PM
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Its simply not how a society has ever functioned
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:10 PM
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With OLD personality is always overlooked unfortunately, it's the superficial nature of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:16 AM
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I think this new idea of "settling" is so ridiculous. It's such a shame when someone cuts things off to "see who else is out there", only to circle back weeks later because they realise the grass certainly isn't greener. This constant quest for the "marginally better", never ends. It's not settling, it's recognising how good you had it in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:51 AM
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Comparison is the thief of joy..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:47 AM
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"Which - on account of the biological risk and cost of pregnancy for women - is nothing new at all. Is there research to show that women have objectively become more selective in recent years across all age groups?" I don't think we can deny there has been cultural influences here, I mean let's be honest, you wouldn't ever run into guys like this on a daily basis 15 years ago, the closest you got was seeing your favourite Hollywood film star on TV. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhwoYbt0NAQ&t=1…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:39 AM
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Well if you were an average man on a dating app im sure you'd be frustrated if 90 percent of the attention was only going to a small percent of men and you were getting ignored
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:07 PM
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It's not sustainable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:02 PM
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Check the videos and the group, notice the patterns
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:03 PM
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I would also add the group AWDTSG
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:01 PM
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Tbf there are endless videos of it https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=crying+over+chad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:58 PM
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Because you're not sitting in a que of thousands of guys, instead you're meeting her in person before they get that chance to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 06:24 PM
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Removing Instagram and Dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 06:37 AM
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Who will she respect more though the guy hiding in doors like a wimp or the man whos actually going out putting his pride on the line infront of everyone? I know which one takes more courage. Taking risks in life is a big part of being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 02:44 PM
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Except being Selective is the reason there are so many singles still, no one wants to compromise on the apps people are chasing the illusion of perfection.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 09:36 AM
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Not for those getting pumped and dumped 24/7
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:23 AM
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Yes and you can stand out by meeting offline and beat the competition to the finish line
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:20 AM
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Doing it in person takes more confidence then hiding indoors, it's called risk taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:59 PM
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I'll put it another way, your competition online on apps is an ENTIRE city literally hundreds of thousands to millions of men, probably as bad odds as winning the lottery, your competition outside is just the locals there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:44 PM
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Only 2-1? That's over 64 percent men and just 36 percent women. Hardly 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:38 PM
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If it worked for us late 20's and early 30's millenials theres no reason why you can't try it, take a leaf out of our books and take a risk, theres nothing worse than regret 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:26 PM
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Not for those of us who actually have the courage to go outside
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:19 PM
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The outside is easier though, no where near as much competition as being on OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:18 PM
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Influenced by dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:53 PM
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It's important that there's a balance, if you just have one over the other rather than both it's how you end up running into sociopaths and arrogant obnoxious people. I simply can't have attraction and no personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:02 PM
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You're proof that the average guy is far from doomed, i think personally it's OLD that changes that dynamic and takes a more superficial turn when people are mostly chosen on the basis of physical attraction. Theres a lot of guys who met their partner in real life who would have probably been swiped out of the stack on a dating app. The whole industry is flawed when you judge someone just by a couple of pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:58 AM
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Not any time soon most people look down on polygamy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:56 PM
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No they dont know about it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:54 PM
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Not to the womans knowledge though, the man is doing it behind her back with the promise of commitment to only her
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:53 PM
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No they came into existence as a social experiment to see if people could connect over the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:52 PM
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They are on the decline though match stocks have fallen and tons of users have dropped out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:50 PM
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Nah offline still exists, a chance to stand out more
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:41 PM
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Tinder is 78% men and just 21% women so clearly most women have left them or dont even use them in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:39 PM
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A snake a snake, snaaake it's a snake ohhhh it's a snake 😂 haven't seen that in years! Weebls stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:01 PM
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Yet there's not enough "attractive" men to go around, but there are still regular non ugly men who outnumber them that are just as compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 06:17 AM
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If it wasn't for dating apps i doubt that study would exist
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:55 PM
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There would be a siginificant boost in the offline dating scene
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:09 AM
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I only used the apps a few times before deleting them and just sticking with real life approaches. But it was basically over a couple weeks at least in 2014 coming up to christmas.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:04 PM
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I do, at the end of the day you're giving a person priority and making an effort it's no excuse to just disappear off the radar, at least with a rejection in person you're face to face and they are honest about it internet turns people into cowards
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 06:52 PM
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Rejection in person is still better than being ghosted on a dating app tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:14 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 12:43 PM
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Admittedly the one app that does seem quite viable is Thursday as it also sets up social events to meet the person you're talking to so you aren't just sitting in doors relying on someone to say yes to a date or getting ghosted, the events are already organised and you can organically approach them there. Surprised it hasn't been mentioned a lot. If all of the Match owned apps start collapsing I can imagine users upon finding about more about Thursday might turn to it, it has an appeal that's fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:38 AM
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Truth. It's basically a sausage fest.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:01 PM
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How can you have chemistry with a robot compared to a human being?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 07:40 PM
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I wouldn't be worried since a lot of guys only watch porn according to a lot of women, if you're one of those guys who LISTENS to her, then already you're ahead of the competition lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:50 PM
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Given that i have for most of my 20's managed to meet women in real life as opposed to online dating that kinda contradicts that point, it's already well known that social media pushes superficial standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 07:49 AM
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I agree, personality recieves bigger priority when it comes to in person interactions. Online is built to be more superficial, hence why the swipe on a photo culture which shows how damaging technology has been to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:14 AM
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Nah its a consequence of social media/dating apps and instagram
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:10 AM
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I reckon if dating apps and instagram were banned like tiktok, it might resolve some of the issues
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:22 PM
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think Technology is the biggest factor by far, I mean 15-20 years ago you would never be able to meet guys like this so easily https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhwoYbt0NAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:55 PM
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When you're exposed to the illusion of options online you would have that view, but go outside and it's a completely different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:52 AM
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It's largely online, there's no girls or guys i know of in my circle who are participating in any kind of gender war
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:20 PM
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Yeah she looked out for me in school when i got bullied, always been good to me, so i had to protect her
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:41 PM
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Apps have 100 men for every 1 woman a lot worse odds lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 01:18 PM
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Oh I am definitely aware of the creeps out there, i had to personally sort one out who was harassing my sister in a night club, she went there with her boyfriend ( my now brother in law) and i happened to be inside the same night with four of my mates, she was trying to get a drink at one of the downstairs bars and some guy was groping her up saw her pushing him away, so i confronted him and he wouldn't back off so i dropped the twat and i got thrown out by a bouncer lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:32 PM
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It's very easy to mask your features and body weight with filters too, read so many stories of men getting catfished ( it happened to me before) one of the reasons offline is superior, at least the person you interact with is who they say they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:31 AM
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"I'd imagine a pandemic impacted this." It's defo had a knock on effect for industrys, in London alone for example around 3,000 bars/pubs/clubs have closed down.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:55 PM
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" either have an equal number of gender 50/50 or more women than men."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:18 AM
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Yes and it shows confidence, you're not hiding behind a phone, you're a man who's got some balls to put his pride on the line lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:34 PM
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The looks matched couples outside says that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:31 PM
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Are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:56 AM
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Whilst real life is more 50/50, 80/ 20 does not sound generous to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:55 AM
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Well im happy they worked for you, i tried it once back in the day and one of my dates completely catfished me, she was heavier than she looked in the photos ( clever camera angles) after that i didn't want anything to do with them, as my preference is to know that who i meet is exactly what they look like so i stick with organic approaches offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:21 AM
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Yeah most of the problems of those apps are a consequence of the bad proportion of men and women on the app ( 90% males users), the only way to counter this and to lessen the amount of rejection and pickiness there is to either have an equal number of gender 50/50 or more women than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:18 AM
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Yeah people are disposed of instead of getting to know them it's a joke really. Sums up the selfish superficial nature of dating apps. Never liked them, it's like shopping for a human on a menu.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:45 PM
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"Why is this a problem?" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Paradox_of_Choice
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:28 PM
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" “the next one will be better than the current guy I’m seeing” fallacy?" This is the current issue with the apps, because theres sooo many to choose from no one gets chosen at all, no one ever makes up their mind.. it's not even 50/50 in terms of gender ratio either when you've got a system where the bulk of the users are men and only a fraction are women you're gonna get pickiness. But in a location where there's an equal number of both men and women, pair rates are often more successfull.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:24 PM
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It does with me, i've often said on here that guys should go out and meet women more instead of wasting away on apps complaining, i speak as a millenial that is sociable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:58 PM
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Yeah that's a good point, i don't know why men are taking their anger out on the women instead of the chads who are screwing things up in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:54 PM
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Thats reasonable 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:45 PM
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You know they suck when even women complain about them, plus there's the fact the organisation Match Group are being sued for this. I saw an article that said infact more of the younger generation are getting off them and dating through social circles. They MAY have been ok before Match took over, but now they are basically useless, full of bots, scammers, ghosters, catfishes etc. Better off staying offline and meeting a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:33 PM
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A question i ask myself as well lol i guess there are a generation who weren't that socialised and just resort to it, a shame really because as a millenial with experience outside i know getting out there is totally worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:00 PM
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Because the chads are using them for sex when the women want commitment, that's why there's dozens of videos on youtube of girls crying out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:41 PM
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You're saying that OLD and Social Media has not had an influence? I disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 07:28 PM
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Yup, Msn and Myspace, meeting up at the parks on our bikes, climbing trees, going off to the malls and arcades etc good times. Even the house parties of 10-15 years ago seemed more fun, my neighbour had one last year he's around Gen Z age and i thought it was so boring hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:03 PM
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"The vast majority of women aren’t dating toxic men" I agree with this, offline is definitely more equal, but I do believe at least on OLD that there are certain men such as these two here who are basically getting most of the attention https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhwoYbt0NAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:58 PM
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Nice, 1994 here, I remember my first phones were Nokia's and Sony Ericson Walkmans, used to download music onto the walkmans via Limewire. I think we're lucky to have come from a generation where we had a sense of community, spend time outdoors etc Went to one of my local bars a month ago and everyone was just sat around tables in their own closed off groups eyes glued to phones couldn't believe it! And Yeah even my friends are completely unaware of all of this content lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:44 PM
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It would be a shame for reddit because besides the threads like this one i found a lot of valuable information about skin conditions on here, thats how i originally came on here literally just to search for awnsers for folliculitis i was unaware of the purple pill stuff, im a millenial so it was quite new to me when i found out about this place lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:29 PM
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Before Online Dating it was more like 50 men in a bar, 50 women in a bar and around 30 men are selected, now online it's 1,000 men, 1,000 women, but only like 50 men are selected out of 1,000 men because of the unlimited options. In the end no one wins with these odds because people are unable to make their mind up for fear of missing out. So that one guy who may have had a chance with that girl has now had his opportunity messed up because a chad among those 50 men has simply got in the way and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:35 PM
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I think another factor is how much bigger the competition is becaue of italso, so i was going to bars and clubs a lot around 2012 to 2015 and i was never really that bothered about the local guys also being there as i knew i always had a chance, but for any man that is on a dating app he is now not just up against the locals he's up against probably at least half the country. Those are definitely NOT the kind of odds a man wants to deal with. It makes sense for a guy to do everything in his powe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:12 PM
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Yeah and it's flawed even you have to acknowledge that just look up the lawsuit that Match Group are facing, dating has never been based on that, it's usually on a category of things like personality and compatability. And how do you define unattractive? The idea that most men are ugly is just nonsense, given the rate of average looking people outside who are coupled up. Well you only have to see the videos online of the same model looking guys who are pumping and dumping, do you see unattractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:43 PM
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It's not entitlement it's more that they are not even given a chance! Thats' how the superficial swipe culture works. It would be like if i was talking to a nice looking woman and then half way through the chat a super model pops up who's liked me and then suddenly i ghost them for the only reason of attraction being that the other person was better looking, it's stupid because you don't realise when someone already good is in front of you. What if that person who i quit on was actually a decent…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:32 PM
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Hardly restricts there's social circle, hobbies, school and college, bars, travelling etc people have always met outside. Online dating makes a mess of everything because a small portion of men are running around shagging left right and centre and dumping women again and again. Catfishing is another problem, anyone can hide their true self with old photos etc. Isn't it better to know what the person actually looks like in reality? Besides there's a reason that the head of all these apps ( Match)…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:18 PM
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Yeah a lot of content especially on Tiktok is used as a weapon to create a divide, world would be a better place without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:30 PM
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I guess the one example is dating apps where certain men are running wild while others are unsuccessful, of course when it comes to meeting offline standards don't tend to be as high and even regular guys do meet someone. So it's mostly online where the inequality exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 12:14 PM
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Yeah at the end of the day it's just a vicious cycle of someone looking for the perfect person which is unrealistic and until apps/instagram get removed it's just gonna be the same old storys, people bouncing from one person to the next with no one ever committing and broken hearts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:16 PM
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Yeah they see it as "he's safe to be around"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:25 AM
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The girls i grew up with at school etc are one of the reasons i managed to get invited to a lot of house parties and a couple of weddings too, it certainly opened up other opportunities to socialise. I think it would be foolish to just be confined to your male friends only.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:59 AM
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Yeah and its flawed because it basically comes down to nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, oh sorry you're still not good enough for me lol it's overcomplicated things. I've had much more luck offline. Online dating is so rigged it's a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 07:36 PM
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Give Anonymous a call, maybe they'll get involved 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:40 PM
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And ban instagram and dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:29 PM
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Monogamy was apart of society for thousands of years how do you think tribes came about?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:58 PM
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In the past it was also the father/ parents who did the selecting and there were arranged marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:40 PM
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I think the dystopic era really kicked off after 2019 when COVID screwed everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:24 PM
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I don't even think you need to go THAT far back, i'd say 2000's up to around 2012.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:20 PM
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A lot of people are looks matched, it's not a case where every girl has some henry cavil lookalike lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:01 PM
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"My observation is women in the west have tried casual-polygamy and found that is suits them just fine." Historically, it was always men who practiced polygamy, think of all the rulers like Alexander the Great and Ghengis Khan who had dozens if not hundreds of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:58 PM
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Beauty is largely subjective what one girl might see as an attractive her friend might have a different opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 02:45 PM
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"Not every hot popular dude is a dick head" True i have a best friend who's a bit of a "Tyrone" in terms of looks, but he's definitely not a dickhead, he's one of those guys who would help you if you wanted to get some attention on a night out, he was always a good wing man, i have a circle of like a 5-6 friends from school and out of all those it was mainly him who always ended up getting both of us the best looking girls lol had some brilliant nights out with him. I think my best hook up to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:00 PM
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Which is why IRL interactions should always be focused on instead of OLD where you're only measured by how good you look in a photograph.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:24 PM
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Social media is essentially using a divide and conquer strategy to keep both genders locking horns, it's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:58 PM
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I think "ugly" is best applied to people like incels not the average every day guys with hobbies, jobs and fulfilled lives who i'd say are not ugly but maybe 5-6 on a looks scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:35 PM
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Yeah but the thing is whats to stop her from getting bored of him and then going out with another actor that was better looking on the market? The point is not so much about status but the fact she's with a director who's not a handsome chad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:05 PM
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I mean Mike Flanagan is certainly no chad and he's got a gorgeous wife like Kate Siegel!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 02:30 PM
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I would argue it's worse than traditional methods as the competition is A LOT higher why would i place myself among 100's of guys when i can meet someone offline without that worry? It's always been my method as im a 29 year old millenial who grew up socialising most of my life long before dating apps came around
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:17 PM
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In small pools there's more chance to vet someone, i'd rather take my chances offline than be catfished and ghosted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:54 PM
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https://www.cnbc.com/2023/11/01/match-group-stock-plunges-after-decline-in-people-paying-for-tinder.html https://www.google.com/search?q=bumble+stock+falling&sca_esv=12fe31487ad231eb&sca_upv=1&source=hp&ei=aiYZZqfXMuaPhbIP3ZyQiAk&iflsig=ANes7DEAAAAAZhk0eoML__Y1jH8debSOI4yeP3cVx_D2&ved=0ahUKEwintM6T1LyFAxXmR0EAHV0OBJEQ4dUDCBc&uact=5&oq=bumble+stock+falling&gs_lp=Egdnd3Mtd2l6IhRidW1ibGUgc3RvY2sgZmFsbGluZzIGEAAYFhgeMgYQABgWGB4yBhAAGBYYHkjrDlAAWOINcAB4AJABAZgBxQGgAYcQqgEEMTMuN7gBA8gBAPgBAZgCE6ACpQ_C…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:18 PM
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In 2012-2015 it was, but it's not as good now and evidence shows that bumble,tinder, match stocks etc are falling and revenue is down more than ever and lots of users have dropped out and started meeting offline instead. Match are also currently facing a lawsuit. They are a sinking ship at this point in time. Well past their sell bar date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 11:13 AM
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In reality most people are looks matched, OLD is just an illusion
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:24 AM
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Nice, have you ever been to Tomorrowland? It's pretty live there if you're into the rave scene, was over in 2015 the whole crowd was humming the wolf of wall street song haha!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:45 PM
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I just assumed with the new generation of youngsters things would be different now, yes i have loads of times although my clubbing years are well behind me at 29, a few of them that i frequented have shut down in my town but i went on a bar crawl last friday and ended up at a pub where they had a karaoke on and live music which was good fun
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:44 PM
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If you went now it would be just a room of people either sitting at the bar on their phones or dancing with a phone in their hand lol how times change
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:59 PM
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Only the chads and tyrone don't want commitment with them, it's a losing situation. Anyway there are still plenty of average guys who are dating offline.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:40 AM
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As someone who clubbed a lot in the 2000's im not sure i can agree, there were average guys who did pull, it wasn't just chads
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:54 AM
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Its simple. OLD/Instagram is largely to blame for whats going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:06 AM
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She is right, It's actually declining if you look at statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 08:00 AM
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If i had a solution it would be ban dating apps and instagram ( or only allow Instagram to be used for work purposes) lower the price of alcohol in venues so that those who want to meet IRL have an incentive to go out again instead of staying indoors because of the cost of drinks etc and organise much more match making services at third places, single nights, speed dating events etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:57 AM
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I know i also factor in kissing, how to touch and caress, fingering, dirty talk, depths and rhythm in sex positions, sex toys etc
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:06 PM
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Yes and being good also includes being able to eat pussy properly, it's one of the best selling ones out there btw used by a lot of couples and partners
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:12 PM
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I think you can easily compete if you've read books like she comes first and other stuff lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:51 PM
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Yeah they've got to go tbh, these apps need to die off
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:19 AM
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It would take the removal of OLD and Instagram to reverse the issues of modern dating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 05:45 PM
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Easy awnser - dating apps and instagram
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:21 PM
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Even their stocks are not doing well, it's a sign that a lot of our generation are walking away from these apps
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:40 AM
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We need that sense of Community again
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 04:30 PM
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Match will be first to crumble
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:37 AM
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You realise that one of the big companies behind Dating apps is being sued right? This is only the beginning https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/feb/17/are-dating-apps-fuelling-addiction-lawsuit-against-tinder-hinge-and-match-claims-so
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:33 AM
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"Toward the end of our relationship when we hadn't fucked in 4 months I came out in this cute little lacey sexy set in a last ditch effort to seduce him and he just asked me to move out of the way so he could finish a level on Final Fantasy" What??!! I enjoy gaming but if that was me in that scenario i'd be fire men carrying my girl straight up stairs xD he was mad!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 08:54 PM
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But tbh even when you dont factor in dating it was also better, there was a time where i would walk into a bar and would know at least half the people inside and everyone would talk to each other. I go in nowadays and i dont know anyone and there's a sense of isolation with groups of people just sticking to their own with eyes glued to their phones it's sad really.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 08:32 PM
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Didn't hear anything about incels, fresh and fit podcasts or are we dating the same guy either
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:48 PM
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Oh yes I remember the house parties, there were loads of them in my years around 2010's so many people in my school organised them ( I even had one myself with about 100 people haha) good times
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:37 PM
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Isn't there a free one called Facebook dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:14 PM
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Ok and which of those are men and women actually seeking relationships and not pump and dump casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:59 PM
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Such as? Match group controls the majority of them mostly and btw even the younger generation are ditching them also https://www.wired.com/story/end-of-dating-apps/ they are wayyyy past the prime of 2012 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:07 PM
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We're definitely out there, i am more than happy to take time on a date with a girl, when you've had a lot of one night stands in the past you're not that bothered about how quick sex comes. I like to get know someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 05:00 PM
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Its the younger generation probably
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:45 PM
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As soon as Match was appointed and took control it turned into a corporate shit show where it might as well be a casino fruit machine. Funnily enough it's backfired on them as they are now facing a lawsuit over it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:13 PM
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I've heard apparently that even some single events only women are showing up to them and not enough men, what an earth is going on?!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:09 PM
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Well Match are being sued so I imagine OLD wont be around for much longer, stocks are falling, users dropping out more and more etc
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:55 PM
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Yes, there was none of this "what if something better is out there?" nonsense you get with the apps, it was you gave it a try and if it didn't work out you both left on a good note and you would eventually meet someone else in another social setting if you tried hard enough
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:51 PM
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I think it was because the competition was mostly people in your local area rather than across the globe and expectations were much more reasonable IMO. Having no social media definitely humbles people. With OLD/Instagram there's a lot more arrogance and exaggerations of ones own importance. Communities were also a lot closer in the 90'-2000's. If you were a millenial like me or even a older generation before mine it was a lot better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:28 PM
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I did see a youtube vid once of a chad in the backseat of a car with two girls in the front and he was saying to himself quietly these two are friends and don't know i'm sleeping with both of them, that's what these "harems" are
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 03:54 PM
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I think one of the qualities of femininity is being compassionate/ affectionate it's nice to be around someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:27 PM
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You're familiar with the orgasm gap right? This occurs in pump and pump hookups, not in committed relationships where both partners have a long time to study each others bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 01:54 PM
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Sorry to hear that, it's good to be able to protect yourself though
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 10:51 PM
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Yeah its illegal here in the UK so self defence classes are the only option, but if it meant women were much safer going out I would support having them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:06 PM
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That's rough, have you thought about taking up a self defence? One girl i'm friends with is a black belt in kick boxing was doing it since she was 14 and whenever a guy tried to harass her she fucked his leg up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 07:19 PM
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What kind of stereotypes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 06:39 PM
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True.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 09:59 AM
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There are people challenging the system https://www.independent.co.uk/tech/tinder-hinge-lawsuit-dating-app-b2496617.html
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 11:42 PM
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It's dating apps that are driving the imbalance i would say
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 11:34 PM
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It wont last much longer https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/feb/17/are-dating-apps-fuelling-addiction-lawsuit-against-tinder-hinge-and-match-claims-so
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 02:27 PM
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"People like to fuck," Ever heard of the orgasm gap? Hookups dont offer much
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 09:32 AM
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"Furthermore, the constant availability of potential matches can foster a culture of "grass is greener" mentality. The ease of swiping and scrolling through profiles can lead to a lack of commitment and a fear of missing out on better options. Instead of investing time and effort into building a connection, individuals may be inclined to quickly move on to the next person, perpetuating a cycle of shallow interactions and preventing the development of deeper emotional bonds." A good reason why th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 10:27 PM
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I think the fact that the majority of women have left the apps in droves ( which explains why there's 10 men for every 1 women) kinda showcases that things are changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:49 PM
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It's true though, people are more expendable than ever before, no one gets a chance to shine with their personality, they're just brushed aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 02:46 PM
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I've been catfished twice on them before and ghosted too many times to count, was always more successful approaching offline at least i know the person im seeing is legit and i don't have the competition of thousands of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 11:27 PM
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Thats fair enough, but the thing is people sometimes don't realise the perfect fit was already in front of them until its too late when they've been chasing 100's of options and given up on the right person, that's what the paradox of choice does.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 11:23 PM
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Of course you'd say that you must be a chad 😂 average dudes are brushed aside compared to real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 05:38 PM
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They are a scam, why do you think Match Group are getting sued?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 04:00 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 03:00 PM
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They just want to sleep around with thousands of women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 12:04 AM
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Exactly, if anything in person you skip the waiting line to an extent and bypass all the competition that you would have online.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 12:03 AM
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Sure if you enjoy being catfished XD I prefer the women i meet to actually look like who they are which is where offline triumphs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 11:47 PM
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Thats the solution. There's no need to go back to any crazy times like the 1950's when women had less rights, just have things more like the 2000's-2010's, where social media was less toxic IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 11:45 PM
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I mean lets face it if you were an average guy wouldn't you be pissed off if you knew just TWO guys were the ones recieving 80% of the attention online? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhwoYbt0NAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:38 PM
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My mum is 73, she's not some man hating "boss babe", she's from a different generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 04:02 PM
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Of course it exists, even now my mother has NEVER moved on after i lost my father. That kind of love is so rare nowadays, to be connected to someone for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:33 PM
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Dating apps and Instagram were one of the worst things to ever happen to society
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 01:07 AM
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No it's a symptom of the online dating/ instagram influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:41 PM
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I dont think anyone can deny it went up after dating apps/instagram took over, we're not used to being able to access models at the swipe of a finger. This is what the average guy online is now competing with https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhwoYbt0NAQ
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:42 PM
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Yeah Im personally more into homely girls that wanna chill out instead of party all the time. At least now that im in my late 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:05 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JSTfGCqso7c&t=7s Far from zero fucks given 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:13 AM
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Sorry to hear that, i think it's wrong that people always gossip like that, it's no ones business about if they could do better, if you as a couple both get on and love each other and he/she does not treat you badly, it's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:42 AM
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I think the biggest cause is the paradox of choice, before dating apps and instagram, people were given a chance and were not just treated as disposable, unless thats's restricted there always will be the idea of someone "better' even if the perfect fit is already in front of you in all aspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 11:54 PM
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I've also seen average men with gorgeous women but never a good looking guy with an average woman
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 10:46 PM
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That's it, the sense of community.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 11:01 AM
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This is all i can find https://www.inc.com/rebecca-barker/match-group-owner-of-hinge-tinder-league-sued-for-predatory-business-model.html
/r/MensRights06/03/24 07:28 PM
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There is currently a lawsuit in the process against Match Group
/r/MensRights06/03/24 07:17 PM
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What the chads usually do is fuck down with no strings in their 20s and then when they get to 30 or older thats when they start going after women in their own league for relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:12 PM
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See the group Are we all dating the same guy lol everyone knows they are only pumping and dumping average women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:18 PM
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They're not getting relationships, it's the opposite, these out of league men are sleeping around, its the women that want commitment, these chads are messing them around
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:58 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PhwoYbt0NAQ this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:57 PM
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Cuddles in bed/ aftercare, passionate sex, cuddles on the couch, being able to express emotions and open up as women are good at understanding, teasing each other and having a laugh, romantic dinners together, holidays together, enjoying the outdoors in each others company whether thats a walk in the park or going on a hike, spending christmas together etc. Overall, it feels like a mix between friends and family but in some ways stronger than either. Unlike your family, you chose her and she cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:12 AM
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The Match group are getting sued lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 09:02 AM
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I would argue that it is a culprit since it opened up the gate to abundance options. And as the Paradox of Choice explains, the more options you have, the more chance you're never satisfied, and are constantly searching for something better. Currently Match group are being sued for their scammy system so people are waking up it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 08:54 AM
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How young? 24-25?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:33 PM
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Yeah im an ambivert too! I can socialise but also need time to recharge and be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 07:24 PM
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It's not the sex that the every day average single guy wants, it's the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:14 AM
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Yeah i imagine all of the creeps on there are have driven the women away with their horny messages
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 11:58 PM
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Yeah looks fade no matter what, a good heart is what counts in a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:25 PM
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Comparison is the thief of joy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:10 PM
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https://www.inc.com/rebecca-barker/match-group-owner-of-hinge-tinder-league-sued-for-predatory-business-model.html
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 01:11 PM
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No, they were only effective around 2012 when the gender imbalance on it wasn't as lopsided and it wasn't a sausage fest. Back when it was less about swiping. They are wayyyyy past their prime at this point in time. Better to meet girls through social events, bars and meet up groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 07:36 AM
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According to a Google search, men supposedly outnumber women 9:1 on Tinder, 7:3 on Bumble and 5:1 on Match. No wonder it's bad on there for the average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 06:00 PM
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Populations should be taken to account thats for sure a city of 1 million or 500,000 will be better than a city of 100,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:58 PM
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OLD sucks for three reasons 1: the Paradox of choice - You weaken your position by putting yourself in a deck of cards where the women has endless options of men to choose from when you could be skipping the waiting line by meeting them offline instead and getting ahead of the competition. 2: Cat fishing - people from my experience look NOTHING like they do on there. I've had girls who tried to cover up their fat by taking photos that zoomed in more to hide it. I prefer to get to know someones p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 03:49 PM
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Yeah if anything these platforms are only causing a further divide and tension between the two sexes, they aren't healthy for society thats for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 11:53 AM
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Yeah hookup sex is so meaningless an empty compared to with an actual partner you care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:51 AM
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Yeah it's ten times more fulfilling to meet someone in person, OLD is just the path of least resistance. And judging by the collapse in match stocks things aren't looking up for those companies, more and more people are dropping out of the apps, which means less money coming in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:38 PM
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Removing Instagram, Tik Tok and OLD apps. Get people socialising again like the days before those 3 never came about. It was a happier time when third spaces and community were prioritised and there was zero unrealistic standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 06:02 PM
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Yeah the problem in the OLD space is that the above average man is not chasing the above average woman but is instead poisoning the well for the average man when he uses an average woman for nothing but sex instead of dating in his own league.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 12:53 PM
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OLD apps are to blame
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:24 AM
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It's an ego thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 01:16 PM
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No its an exaggeration, only a fraction of the population desire polygamy, the majority want monogamy and there's already a current backlash against the behaviour of polygamy anyway it's always been controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 09:59 AM
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When they look like this 😂 <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:04 PM
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Yeah i've been told before that i have kind eyes, not sure what it meant at the time but i assume its a good thing :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 12:23 PM
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Yeah maybe some girls like short men as they don't feel as intimidated, whilst some girls like tall men because they feel protected, people's attraction varies.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 12:00 AM
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Does any girls here like brown eyes? I feel like we're a bit underrated compared to the men with blue or green 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 11:21 PM
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I think facial symmetry is mostly genetics isnt it? Unless a person loses weight when getting into shape which can lower the fat in cheek bones etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 11:12 PM
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I remember my sister was telling me a story once, where one of her colleagues was approached by a stereotypical "chad" they both worked downstairs in Harvey Nichols on the makeup & aftershave floor and apparently he just went and dumped a chanel bag on her desk with 5,000£ inside it and then offered to take her out. She turned him down lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:57 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttPre2uLbx4&t=205s See the couples around 6:02, 1:27, 3:20, 3:00, 3:32, 4:21, 5:42, 5:51. Not everyone is "punching up" you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:36 PM
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Yeah I've noticed in one of my local bars that all the friend groups drinking inside usually just stick with their own and are face down on their phones. I miss the days of walking in around 2012 and recognising half of the bar, loads of people inside i went to school with. Lots of new faces now who aren't as open to talking with strangers sadly, COVID and social media changed everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 08:35 PM
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Yeah this idea of all women love being dominated is no different to when guys ignorantly say all women only want chad
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 07:19 PM
1

Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 11:42 AM
1

Yeah theres a reason a lot of women dont like getting pressured to go straight back to a guys apartment, because things like that can happen, they have to be cautious these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:31 AM
2

Yeah but then she knows if she says stop im not going to ignore her, thats how one night stands can go wrong and the girl can get raped i've heard these sorts of stories before
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 03:25 PM
0

But what if that person has been traumatised by a past experience? The last thing they'd want is to be reminded of it by doing the same thing grabbing her throat, pinning her down etc consent is important
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 02:35 PM
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Yeah sorry, I meant by selfish as in for a man to do that to a woman when she didn't consent to it, it's important to put her needs first to make her feel safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 02:27 PM
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I dont watch it as much now but when i was, it was usually "Bellesa films" porn made by women which had really passionate scenes not the unrealistic stuff with all the dodgy positions just for the camera angles
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 10:38 AM
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Yeah i feel like vanilla and passionate isn't taught as much, there's just endless videos on dominance, the only coach I follow now is a guy on youtube called Alexey Welsh who teaches more "sensual and loving" sex. He has a very big fan base of women in fact on his channel.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 10:33 AM
1

No of course not I stated that in the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:18 AM
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Haha if you have head phones 😂 as you can see there's no choking or any rough acts it's just two people holding, kissing in the moment, none of that choking, slapping bdsm stuff just passionate sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:16 AM
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Men who love women like spending their time, being passionate, etc. Yeah that's what im like, i enjoy the foreplay build up and anticipation, i've never been one to be rough with a woman it's just selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:08 AM
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Yeah this is more what i love personally, i'll choose this anyday. https://heroero.com/videos/24210/sex-act-of-tempting-celebrity-erica-durance-from-feature-movie-butterfly-effect-2-2006/ https://www.xvideos.com/video5508656/erin_cummings_-_spartacus_s01_e07_2010_
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:01 AM
2

Me neither,but it's sad that there's a rise in this on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 11:09 PM
1

Ok what are your boundaries would you say
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:46 PM
1

So it dates back hundreds of years ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:27 PM
1

It's a film about sex fantasties with several couples in Sydney Australia,, some of them are really strange, i remember there was one where a woman wouldn't have sex with her partner unless he cried about something which turned her on 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:25 PM
1

Have you ever seen that film the Little Death
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:00 PM
2

I am also in shape and have been approached at house parties and night clubs before in my teens and early 20's. I'm 29 now but had some fun in my younger years. Now im more interested in meeting someone for commitment than a ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:58 PM
2

It's porn and grifters
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:39 PM
1

I'm average in face but 6 foot tall height, and can say that's not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:31 PM
2

Have you ever had a guy do it and you've slapped him in the face for attempting it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:28 PM
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It's this kind of sex that really turns me on i'd say https://www.xvideos.com/video5508656/erin_cummings_-_spartacus_s01_e07_2010_ kissing and penetration at the same time as we hold each other
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:59 PM
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That's good, it just shows that men should not assume it's what all women want
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:30 PM
1

Yeah when I think of loving and passionate, i mean like the scenes with Spartacus and his wife Sura in season 1 ( played by Erin Cummings) or Erica Durance in the Butterfly effect. Less of the aggressive kind of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:26 PM
1

Yeah it's terrible ,and all it takes is for one thing to go wrong and that's it looking at 17 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:15 PM
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I'm not listening to them, i'm actually calling it out for being controversial, it's not my style.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:10 PM
0

Yeah the risk of death is too high with choking which is why i would prefer not to, and yet it's normalised these days isn't it? People don't seem to be aware of the danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 08:06 PM
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Yeah i was reading up about it and came across this, https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jul/25/fatal-hateful-rise-of-choking-during-sex A man ended up killing his wife
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:58 PM
2

Good to know that someone doesn't like it, theres too much of it around tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:44 PM
2

What is the mild side of bdsm? So things that are not as risky as choking?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:39 PM
3

Yeah it just seems dangerous, the last thing i'd want is to hurt someone in the act
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:25 PM
1

Yeah i've never done it, i've always held and caressed them and treated them gently. I remember on one ONS i was teasing a girl in bed and said to her now say no, and pulled back and said that i want you to understand that at any level if you say no i am going to stop what i'm doing. Did that to make sure she felt safe in my presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:06 PM
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Is there a lot of cases where it's gone wrong and the girl has been injured/died? yet it's so pushed by porn and so called " sex coaches"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:02 PM
1

To gradually built up to it was it something that you had to discuss after sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:34 PM
5

Does it become a problem if all the guys that buy those online courses or watching videos start doing this to women assuming it's what they all like instead of communication?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:32 PM
3

If it's not my thing, how does one make it so it's safe for both partners? Like I said im naturally quite gentle.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:21 PM
3

Is it not risky though? Especially choking and things like that, I don't know if i ever would be comfortable with it. I did have a girl digging her nails into my back during missionary once, think she was rougher than me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:17 PM
2

So what is the misinterpratation for the 80/20 study? What does it actually mean? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 09:07 PM
7

Only if that aggression is turned towards somebody breaking into your house to hurt your family, not aggression towards your girlfriend/wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:49 PM
1

Hmm, perhaps it was the "swipe culture" that turned things upside down, it was different around 2012 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 10:19 AM
-1

Dating in real life isn’t 1:1 tho. It is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:30 PM
1

Increased Socialising
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:44 PM
2

Personality is more important than looks though, which is why OLD is so flawed. No one wants to be with some arrogant narcissist who only cares about himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:17 PM
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I don't think they'll be any consequence, just go outside and count the numbers of couples every where, all the pessimistic attitudes are only due to OLD apps, too many guys as you said "sitting at home" and not going out and seeing how different the reality is which is more balanced and 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:02 PM
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I don't know where being a dick comes from, from what I see in terms of advice it's stuff like "spiking her emotions with humour and teasing" etc and not being logical and boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:58 PM
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There's not fewer options though. College, Social Circle, Gyms, Libraries, Supermarkets, Work, Parties, Bars and Clubs, Meetup groups etc. OLD apps have never been the norm, there's always been opportunities to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:46 PM
2

They don't though it's a myth, dating apps don't paint a picture of what it's like out there. Often i've seen regular looking guys with really attractive women outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:31 PM
0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a5apcxCrshg
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:16 PM
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Women enjoy casual sex with hot men. Not when they get pumped and dumped instead of recieving commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:37 AM
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Judging by the drop in Match Stocks they're losing revenue anyway now, users are starting to wake up to the shit show that it is and dating more through social circles https://www.wired.com/story/end-of-dating-apps/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:31 PM
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It all began with OLD and Instagram, people saw that and thought to themselves "why can't i have that lifestyle too?" So long as these exist, no one will ever be content with anything, it will just continue the same never ending cycle of searching for the next best thing....which is just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 09:27 PM
1

Because they try to push for it as if the rest of society wants it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:34 PM
1

I wouldn't go that far, Youtube is still useful, Facebook is still good for keeping in touch with friends and family or adding new people you met like whatsapp etc the paradox of choice is mainly whats causing the issues everyones experiencing in modern dating, which wasn't such a problem 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:17 PM
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That could work to an extent, I mean when you think about a lot of the problem comes down to the paradox of choice. If you remove instagram, tik tok, dating apps and even some reality tv shows like Love Island from society that would go away and people would be less superficial and picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:58 PM
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Doubt it, only a small minority want polygamy most people with good morals and values don't approve of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:52 PM
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The reasons they're so bad now is because 1: the ratio of gender has changed, 2: it costs hundreds to even use them now when they were originally free 3: it's all just about swiping over looks rather than getting to know someone with similar interests etc. When they first came out it wasn't as much of a struggle as nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 11:11 PM
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It's the paradox of choice, the abundance mentality, the idea there's always something better out there that's preventing people from locking in a long term relationship. Which is why it's futile to use dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:07 PM
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Dating apps are past their prime, they were ok in 2012-2015 now they suck
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:02 PM
3

Nah the early 2000's were better, before we had social media and OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:38 PM
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Yes, ultimately, as they say you're a product of your own evironment, bad goes with bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:41 PM
3

The real hero of the lotr
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:04 PM
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Not at all, he is the embodiment of positive masculinity. Hard working, bold and brave, Loyal, etc. When Frodo wants to give up and give in to the corrupting power of the One Ring, it's Sam who keeps the journey on track and drives them toward Mordor. And let's remember this is the guy who confronted the WITCH KING when Frodo, Merry and Pippin were terrified of him and he defeated Shelob single handedly. Never had an army to back him up either or experienced fighters like Aragorn, Legolas, Gimli…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 12:02 PM
2

Can't be more bad ass than defeating Saladin as a 16 year old suffering with Leprosy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:36 PM
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Samwise Gamgee
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 10:35 PM
3

Sounds like too much porn influence lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:44 PM
0

The Root cause is probably OLD apps
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 11:49 AM
4

Insta models maybe, but there are a lot of easy going average women out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 09:11 PM
1

Nope https://www.businessinsider.com/gen-z-dating-trend-online-apps-friends-romantic-partners-relationships-2023-3?r=US&IR=T
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 09:39 AM
2

6 ft 4?! Bloody hell lol In the UK we have a group of people known as the Gurkha's, they come from Nepal and move over to serve in the British army and for a better quality of life, they are some of the toughest people around and as a man who's 6 foot I would NEVER mess with them lol they are 5 foot 3 and scary as hell but also very friendly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:53 PM
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Say you're an airline pilot to get a one night stand. Lmao I remember talking to a Taxi driver once on a lift to catch up with friends up my local town, was about night life in general, and he was like I told some girl once I was a Rescue Air Ambulance Paramedic just to get laid lol 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:57 PM
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I've never been wingwomaned before, I imagine it must be interesting though since girls are good at reading body language and cues etc I'm usually shy with new people so it's my mates that have helped me out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:33 PM
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I think that Reddit, Facebook, YouTube are fine to use as far as social media goes but stuff like OLD, Tik Tok, Instagram should be cut down
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 10:38 PM
1

If it was just a business I would get it, but the way it operates, it's no different to OLD with the promotion of the highlife and sliding into DM'S. Which has the effect of Grass is Greener when someone using it is comparing themselves to someone in that life style across the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 01:18 AM
1

Or limiting the use of things like OLD and Instagram?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 01:11 AM
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Haven't you see the content on the internet of endless videos of women crying out and being angry at men? This is caused by the Chad on OLD who's just using them for sex when she expects a loving partner. Women are more likely to meet their soul mate offline than online.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:27 PM
1

I remember you posted that before, yes and it has an advantage because both people have vetted one another as opposed to a random meet on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:24 PM
1

Always been monkey branching from one person to the next so frequently? No, this is a symptom of Online Dating and over abundance of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:11 PM
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It is kind of flawed in a way though, because of the "Grass is Greener syndrome" when is someone ever truly perfect? The truth is no one is, and the fundamental problem with things like OLD is that people who are already good matches, get overlooked and thus the Grass is greener thing continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:36 PM
4

Thanks to OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 03:53 PM
3

I do think some people get the impression that the hot girl will be a bit of a bitch, but often they turn out to be quite nice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:57 PM
2

Then it's singledom for them lol just cos I can't have Kate Winslet doesn't mean i am gonna ignore every girl i meet
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 10:18 PM
2

Video games and the internet are fine, it was things like Instagram, Tiktok, Tinder and dating apps that lead to societies downfall.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:59 PM
5

Technology by far IMO, 20 years ago the world was not such a small place.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 05:22 PM
1

I actually never started using reddit until this year, what it was like when it first started?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 12:19 AM
2

Hasn't been the case for me, can't complain about my results at the bars
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 10:52 PM
2

But it always come down to Choice Paralysis, and that's whats causing all the issues society experiences today, the truth is we were never meant to have so much choice, it becomes overwhelming and messes with our heads because we are comparing ourselves to whats around the world when we dont realise there's someone decent already in front of us. It's not a good thing. I'll put it like this Before Online Dating it was more like there was 50 men in a bar, 50 women in a bar and around half of the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:43 PM
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Are you quite patient when it comes to choice though? Because some girls treat it like you can just order your perfect man based on height, money, looks, and that can takes away the entire human element completely, the personality connection.. the “Vibe” .. etc i'm above average height and not exactly ugly but whenever someone's stopped talking to me in the past on there i had that gut feeling in my mind oh i know whats going on here, some model looking dude has come along and probably just took…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 09:28 PM
2

For Online Dating it's mostly the case, but in real life there are lots of average men able to meet someone
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:43 PM
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When I first starting going out to bars and clubs around 2010 yes, I did see average men attracting women. What you must understand is that OLD has fundamentally changed EVERYTHING in our day and age. It creates an atmosphere that forces Choice Paralysis where you are always searching for another option and then another one, and another one, it's and endless cycle that doesn't go anywhere and leads to a lack of satisfaction as you are never content with the person thats in front of you, which is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:33 PM
2

That factor is one of the reasons that OLD is a struggle for average men. Luckily Offline offsets that as you dont get compared to somebody else's 100th profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:22 PM
1

Again, social media ie Tinder/ Instagram etc opened the flood gates to those sort of men 20-30 years ago they were not as easy to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:19 PM
-2

But that small percentage only became available because of social media, before that it was limited to men who were either in your social group or living in your local area.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:12 PM
1

Interesting, so in the end it's really just an exaggeration? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 07:27 AM
5

Of course. Being friends with women got me invited to house parties and multiple weddings, oh yeah and if they know you're single, they are likely to know someone or at least be willing to observe if you're out together that theres someone in the same room who likes the look of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:33 PM
3

Dating apps cause the imbalance, but outside, the standards from my experience are mostly 50/50 where personality tends to shine more than just looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 06:14 PM
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Don't be disheartened man, this is mostly prominent on dating apps, not in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:28 PM
2

Yes, too much exposure to social media is not healthy, there are plenty of lovely girls outside who aren't just OF and Instagrammers. They are in your exisiting social circle, they are at the jobs you work at, they are at librarys, malls, grocery stores, pubs, bars, bowling alleys, coffee shops, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 11:42 PM
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I agree with you, before Online Dating it was more like 50 men in a bar, 50 women in a bar, 10 men are selected, now it's 1,000 men, 1,000 women, but only 200 men are selected because of the unlimited options. In the end no one wins with these odds because people are unable to make their mind up for FOMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:01 PM
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That's fair enough, in reality it's 50/50 normally when it comes to choice as personality comes into things more, but I do think that at least in the OLD space there is a lot of selection of men who look like this and they do indeed attract most of the attention on there. Because of the algorithm they are usually brought to the front of the stack on the app while the regular guy who may have had better luck in real life is often ignored on the app https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=Phwo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:48 PM
0

It's perfectly fine to have standards, but I feel like the dream of expecting every single guy in the room to look like Channing Tattum and then getting upset that they aren't is not exactly realistic. Most average dudes don't look like these incels that sit in doors all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:24 PM
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As a millenial who grew up and socialised without iphones and advanced technology, just go outside, don't fall for the narratives that we can only meet people online or do things at home. There's a world full of opportunity out there and you are missing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 08:57 AM
2

Ahh that's really sweet, im happy for you :) tbh looking back when I was younger I feel like i might have let an opportunity slip. Although im a more confident guy now, when I was 17 i was a bit shy and I remember my father got a new job in London and was telling me there's a girl at my work who's asking if you have a girlfriend haha he wanted me to come down to his office one day to meet her but i never did in the end, she was quite pretty tbh when he showed me a pic of them two sitting togethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:08 PM
2

Technology. We are connected but more isolated than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:50 AM
3

I got matches but none would meet up, offline is a better experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 10:49 AM
1

Im curious how does it usually transition from friends to lovers? Is it like 2 months down the line and it comes out like "I want us to be more than friends" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 10:50 PM
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Isn't pair bond defined by a life long bond with a partner? For example when US marine John Basilone was killed on Iwo Jima in WW2, his wife Lena never remarried again.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:03 PM
1

And that's good news! We humans are social creatures, we were never ready for OLD, it only serves to keep us divided.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 04:23 PM
0

It certainly doesn't help that 80% of male porn is violent and abusive with lots of choking, slapping, spitting etc personally i'm not into rough sex as im quite a gentle person
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:07 PM
3

Yeah its a divide and conquer strategy, none of these gender wars are happening outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:35 PM
6

Yes and the only girls who are chasing those chads are the ones who are always on these fresh and fit podcasts and tik tok videos on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:19 PM
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Fair enough, i just think why would men want to stick themselves in an environment where they are clearly only being judged on looks when they could go out and meet someone at a social event where they will be judged more on their character and personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 10:49 AM
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Whats funny is i never hear about these preferences in real life, it only seems to be exist on tiktok videos from a small minority of people. I go outside and observe and I see plenty of different heights of men coupled up, including shorter men etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 10:21 AM
1

Beauty standards maybe high in the West but they aren't as much in Eastern Europe and Asia etc my friend is shorter than me, average looking and actually dated a taller Ukranian girl for about 3 years who he met in London. She looked like the type who would probably swipe left on him had it been on a dating app but of course they ended up together for some time. Just shows that any superficial standards only exist on social media. That is why the average guy needs to step outside and delete all …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 10:16 AM
1

Pub quiz nights are quite good too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:16 PM
1

It occurs when you're presented with too many choices that are difficult to compare, instead becoming overwhelmed by all of them and not choosing any of the options effectively paralysing yourself from making progress. This is prominent in online dating apps, but of course it's not the end of the world, as women are far more reasonable and nicer in person from my experience when you actually get out there. Once you get a feel of each others personality instead of just a picture on social media t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:39 PM
0

Women on Tiktok or women actually outside?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:53 PM
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Thats what the problem is people taking things on social media at face value, in reality it's not like that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:40 PM
0

Personality for me is most important, i dont care how good looking you are if you are still a Narcissist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:58 PM
-1

If men actually went out more instead of complaining on social media they would see a totally different reality, and that's where even the average man is meeting someone. While I don't deny that in online dating the odds are usually in favour of the most conventionally attractive men, I don't believe the same for actually going out somewhere. I met girls through social gatherings in fields ( large groups meeting up to get drunk and listen to music etc) school, house parties, pubs and bars, night…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:26 PM
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The solution is to date offline and stay away from apps and social media
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:07 PM
9

Because of dating apps we are in a state of "looking for the next best thing" no one is ever content anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:35 PM
1

Not sure if anyones seen it but there was a debate on this between a YouTuber called Wheatwaffles and a Woman called Jazmen Jaffar and he got absolutely destroyed XD https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k45DrmdTans&t=732s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 08:06 PM
2

Maybe he should Google the following couple, Mike Flanagan and Kate Siegel, to see that looks aren't everything lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 03:30 PM
6

Yeah wanting to perform oral just shows a man who wants to put her needs before his own which is what she wants, no one desires a selfish partner in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 02:08 PM
8

Social media also contributes to the "Grass is always Greener" problem as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 02:10 PM
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A ban on dating apps would also help as then everyone would be forced to interact in person again
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 02:02 PM
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Or you could just learn about body language and indicators of interest? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBOtj1RmaUE&t=1s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:50 PM
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Ok fair enough, did you watch the video? , at least you acknowledge that it's a problem that needs addressing. As a 29 year old millenial i do feel bad for what a lot of the Gen Z generation and younger men and women are going through right now. I realise i was quite lucky to have been around at the time before dating apps blew up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:37 PM
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Limiting? Except there's bars, coffee shops, markets, malls, meet up groups, festivals, community events etc meeting someone in real life is a lot more fulfilling from my experience than staring mindlessly at a screen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:29 PM
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Theres nothing fulfilling about staring at a screen compared to meeting someone in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:26 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HUzQpqrDpM&t=56s Watch this. You know it's bad when your own parents and older sister also agrees with how terrible online dating is for society ( i showed this to my family )
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:18 PM
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Traditional in the sense of meeting people in communities and social events like our mum and dads and grand parents did.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:47 PM
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Dating apps only create unrealistic expectations, at least in real life if you go to a third space you can get a feel of someone's personality and see what they look like, oh and there's no cat fishes. I would also say OD is more risky as people can lie about who they are, and theres the potential of being set up and robbed etc. If we didn't have them people would just socialise as normal. I know i met people without them since 2007. Nothing says society would just stop turning if Dating apps go…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 12:47 PM
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Based on what CluePublic5213 said in the comments above 2 days ago yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 08:25 PM
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And that's exactly why meeting someone in real life is superior to OD.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 08:15 PM
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Thats an exaggeration
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:46 PM
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Yeah when you see how lopsided the figures are for both genders on Dating apps it's no wonder it's not that good, real life is more like a 50/50 where you at least have a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:57 PM
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It would be more discouraging if all of those guys who met offline were chads, but luckily there are some regular looking guys which shows reality is a better place than the online world. These chads people complain about are in fact only like 1-5% of the population and very rare. Most people are either looks matched or the girl is better looking than her man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:09 PM
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Those options still do work, but I would also add there are now meet up groups you can join and of course there's cold approach etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:51 PM
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No ones boxed out, the dating world doesn't just exist online, and that's what a lot of guys forget, offline also exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:32 PM
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He did another one that was a bit better https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLIEDNsmvqE
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:22 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XO0HDqI0JH0&t=588s It's a lot more balanced than you think. In this video 16 people met offline compared to 8 online.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:25 PM
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This problem is prominent in OLD but not in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:02 AM
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Even cold approach is under threat... watch this video. Guy got expelled from a college https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRRwTGdQlAc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:15 PM
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The work one is nonsense. My sisters neighbour who i'm good friends with met his girlfriend who he lives with through work and even my mum and dad met through work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:44 PM
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It could be the cause because OD and Social Media is what gave the access to those kind of top 1 percent men in the first place..
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