asambique Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
44	What is wrong with some men	asambique	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/25 11:19 AM
9	Ridiculous thing's you have to deal with.	asambique	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/26 08:35 PM
5	STBXW refusing everything.	asambique	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/26 12:01 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	STBXW refusing everything. All contact is kept to the logistics of child arrangements only from my end and as minimal as possible. I've received numerous long winded emotional and abusive messages from her which I don't engage with. Nor have I ever recprocated it. The un solicited contact she is refering too are the estate agents giving her a call to get her signature to list the property. Also the mediators contacting her to get her booked in for the session. I have left word with my solicter so awaiting a response now t…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/26 02:04 PM
2	STBXW refusing everything. Yeah been out over a year. I'll check out th FBook groups. No idea on legal aid, she works full time and is on a decent salary so I imagine she doesn't qualify. And the fact she emailed me a month or so ago requesting £1000 for solicers fees (I don't think so)	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/26 01:02 PM
14	What petty things became your fault? Oooh I have another! Falling asleep on the sofa at 23:00 after working a 13 hour day! That was my favourite one.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/04/26 11:00 PM
7	What petty things became your fault? Leaving dishes in the sink overnight. I'm talking maybe a knife and fork now. Possibly a cup.......	/r/Divorce_Men	02/04/26 09:37 PM
2	Ridiculous thing's you have to deal with. Everything is being documented. Screenshots, chats downloaded etc etc	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/26 12:30 PM
3	Ridiculous thing's you have to deal with. Damn that sounds heavy!	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/26 10:20 PM
5	Ridiculous thing's you have to deal with. This is it, controlling my access to my son is the only power she has left now. Unfortunately I'm left playing that game until I can get a real custody arrangement signed off.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/26 10:20 PM
9	Better as friends than married? My STBXW also said the same. We'll still be friends, bla bla bla. For a period of time it did work, we still did things together 'as a family' for our son. Then she found out I was dating someone (even though she has 'been in a relationship' for 2 years! With her AP.) Then it all went tits up and started the stereotypical high conflict scorned woman trying to destroy the man during divorce. It may work for you guys and I hope it does!	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 12:18 PM
3	Can’t imagine myself ever being in a relationship again You may get there lads. I was the same. 15 yr relationship. I took well over a year to lick my wounds, rebuild myself and get to a better place. Met someone a couple months ago and it's been fun. My barriers are still way up and I too do not think I could ever allow a female into my life in that same capacity again. But that's a conversation for a later date.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/01/26 01:15 PM
1	I'm finally ready to move on. Yeah hinge has been the best for starting conversation tbh.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/25 02:46 PM
1	I'm finally ready to move on. Hey OP and all the guys here. Same story as you all, I'm 1.5 years out from my ex. Ready to meet some people so got on the apps (because really as a late 30's guy and limited time and a 7 year old) they are probably the easier way to meet people. Downloaded Hinge maybe 4/5 weeks ago. Had some matches, some broken conversations, and get used to that as it will be god awful. That's the new reality, the choice, the ease of 'naa i'll just not respond anymore'. Don't be too invested. My experience so…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/25 11:47 PM
2	What is wrong with some men This wasn't a post regarding divorce law. It was a comment on the moral compass of someone who would actively pursue a married woman.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/25 04:25 PM
3	What is wrong with some men Unfortunately that was the case for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/25 04:23 PM
3	What is wrong with some men Thankyou for that POV. My own pain is driving my emotion on the matter. I just personally have more boundaries when it comes to sex and couldn't ever envision myself in that situation. Again that's due to being the partner of someone who had an affair.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/25 01:14 PM
10	Covert Narcissist You should read 'stop walking on eggshells'. By Paul t mason if you haven't already. It was like a lightbulb went off, I have never related to words in a book more. The traits you listed seem consistent with someone with BPD or even NPD. It gave me a lot of peace knowing that I wasn't going crazy. P.s the audio book is free on Spotify if you have premium as well.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/24 09:39 AM
4	Friends become unavailable? My friends have been incredibly supportive and listened to me in the hard times. Offering places to crash, and checking in regularly with me. One is currently engaged to be married (still not phased by what I've told him lol) Another actually reached out to me as he believes his own marriage may be going the same way. As I was 'slightly further along" I was able to support him somewhat with what he is dealing with. 2 are single and nowhere near anything resembling a relationship. I guess we are …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/24 08:34 PM
3	She is making this easier to let go https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lRdz5zkX2r3tuUcGSQG7e?si=z0HCcYuMQ_mBK4ZYzzkz9w Here you go.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/24 07:45 AM
10	She is making this easier to let go This post reminds me of a podcast I listened to recently about finding miracles in divorce. If our lovely STBXW's were operating as their best selves it would make the process so much harder. But seeing as they are being the worst, the idea and eventually physical reality of walking away is so much easier (not that any of it is easy, but hopefully you catch my drift). Brother, my STBXW behaved the same (minus the alcohol). But her behaviour even on a human decency level was just absurd. It helpe…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/01/24 08:03 PM
12	Friends with your ex wife Yeah my STBXW said she wants to remain friends after separation/divorce. I straight up told her we won't be friends when we are separate. Civil, co parents, polite to each other....sure. But we won't be friends.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/23 06:12 PM
3	Christmas Eve Sorry to hear this brother. It's the worst time of year for all this mess to be out. I'm so far on the same side it's ridiculous. STBXW is already in another relationship, I'm not even out the family home yet..... I know she spends time with him and his family multiple times a week, my son has also been over his house. He asked today is AP's daughter was coming to Christmas with us. Ouch. I asked my wife to be discreet, seems that is an impossible request. 2 nights ago when I went to bed I could…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 09:27 AM
3	How many of you have had an amicable divorce? I'm with you, in a very similar situation. My son is 5, I didn't want to separate. It was actually me who brought up divorce though when she asked for a separation. Leaving our home will be the hardest thing I'll have to do and I won't look back when I go. Now filling is currently on hold (mainly due to cost) we could afford to actually divorce but sealing off of financials is another matter. That can't be done untill everything is split. She doesn't want to ruin me, as how could I provide anyth…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/23 10:40 PM
4	How many of you have had an amicable divorce? Yeah exactly, I have had to remain calm throughout. I know the rocky edge I stand on. She could (try) to take everything. Fortunately when she had a consultation with a lawyer they gave her good advice (who'd have thought it) and she actually agreed to my original offer of how to split/sell/divide our lives. Initially she opened with remaining in our family home until our son turned 18. He's 5 currently. My plan, the current plan. Ride out the fixed rate term, sell when it ends. Split it and par…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/23 07:04 PM
2	How many of you have had an amicable divorce? Yeah I feel this, currently going through the motions and will be moving out in January. Agreed a sale date for our property (or she can buy me out, whichever comes first!) I look at my wife now and I have no clue who she is anymore and how she can honestly feel justified by her behaviour. We don't argue (much) and get on 90% of the time. But I'm living with a stranger I've known for 13 years! My head is all over the place.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/23 06:56 PM
14	How many of you have had an amicable divorce? I guess mine is currently amicable. Amicable in the sense that we agree on how to split assets and co parenting plans without the use of lawyers (neither of us could afford to fight it out in court). Neither of us wants to financially ruin the other. Amicable only because I swallow the anger for my STBXW moving on with her AP weeks after separation discussions. Amicable so I can stay close to my son. I've been trawling this sub since discussions began. It would be good to see some other 'amicabl…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/23 03:55 PM