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I get it, you want to imagine you have more control than you actually do, but it’s a comforting lie. You aren’t in control of what the men in your life will do, and some of them are LVM. You can vet and vet and vet and vet and still have bad experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 03:45 PM
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This should be required reading - absolute 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 04:06 PM
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I remember that post and suspected this would happen. I even commented some encouragement. Well? Let it be a lesson I guess? You can choose to stop participating in the bullshit. Just stop hurting yourself through these men. You’re the one choosing to continue in this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:57 PM
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Cat calling is violent, it is harassment, it can be terrifying and traumatizing…I think it’s casual terrorism….in many places men openly state they do it to impress other men and make women uncomfortable… if a woman says she enjoys being terrorized, I feel pity for her, but if she criticizes other women for their own fear and reactions to harassment, I have no sympathy for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:10 PM
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Sorry, this is waaaay too much internalized misogyny for me. Now, I'm convinced, I no longer am fresh Oh boy, you’re so wrong and self-disparaging. What is this? Therapy can help; stop dating and start working on leveling up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:40 AM
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You’re so young and you DONT need to waste your time on an older guy who has ALREADY proven to be a waste of your time. They’re users you know - older men use younger women. He’s using you and dangerous to your well-being. Do you want children? Think of this man taking time away from you, your future, your plans, and if you want kids, your potential to have a family. Every day spent talking to him is bringing you further away from yourself and what you truly want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:30 AM
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This is absolutely tragic, and so sad that she is STILL “asking for insight” after receiving his answer point blank. He will not ever marry her - except as a power play to keep her around if she actually begins to take moves to leave. It’s crushing to read. It’s hard to think about what that environment will do to the kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:03 AM
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Yes and not one peep about the maladjusted impaired development and stunted sexual health of boys overexposed to porn and masturbation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:39 AM
29

All he had to do was apologize and respect the fact that it’s a boundary issue for her and vow not to do it again. What? What is this? “All he had to do” was think “I don’t take her card without her permission.” His perspective should be not to steal… None of these pandering excuses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:57 PM
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This is seri-l kil—r talk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:20 PM
66

She has been taught to value male comfort over her very life and safety - this is not an isolated case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 07:21 PM
2

Is that true? How do you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 06:47 PM
1

Adele is a pick me, she can keep her male-obsessed bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 06:23 PM
38

Don’t let the fear of other people’s opinion lead you to act against your own self-preservation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 06:20 PM
51

It’s his fault it’s gone, live and learn dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 06:19 PM
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Yes I understand that, but the OP didn’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:13 PM
6

Yes the whole piece was gut-wrenching, but especially the mother. She was excited to have her child-like daughter served up to a famous middle aged man she had only just met? It stings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:02 PM
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This is my experience as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:15 PM
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He doesn’t sound high value then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:14 PM
60

Do you bring up his own relationship? Do you ask him “would you treat a girlfriend that way?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:43 PM
54

In what way does he act like it’s too much? What’s an example of something he calls “too much”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:37 PM
249

Then why would he balk when you mention having high standards for your own dates? Does he counsel you to protect yourself or act concerned about YOU when you discuss your dating life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:34 PM
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How do you know he treats his girlfriend like a queen? Things on the outside are not always the truth. Also, many men hate hearing about confident women centering their own well-being. That’s not a high value trait
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:31 PM
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This is brilliant. This is art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 09:32 PM
3

Men seem to be under the delusion that simply by existing around their child there kids will be functioning members of society and only those single mothers raise delinquent children. Trust me it’s not just men. In this very sub, single mothers are treated as less capable than fathers or a two-parent household. Believe me, single mothers do not create the circumstance for LVM in any capacity greater than men to two-parents also do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 09:21 PM
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Pursuing a high value relationship is a valuable and worthwhile goal, but sometimes things just don’t work out. If it’s a struggle to let go and move on, without pining or feeling like you’ve disrespected yourself, maybe it’s a sign to introspection more and realize that even a HVM is not the answer to your happiness. No relationship can fulfill us, not in all the ways we crave. There’s a reason that being single and leveling up are focused on in this sub - our first duty is to take care of ours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:54 AM
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I’m sorry you’re struggling with feelings about this, but I hope you take heart, take courage knowing that you’ve grown and learned and developed as a person, and even if the journey wasn’t easy, you are as worthy and lovely as anyone else on the planet - you deserve your love ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:51 AM
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I was raped by a man who had both parents, what exactly is your point? Throwing rape around to make some indignant point is not logical nor respectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:08 AM
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You’re just plain wrong. Families come in all shapes and sizes, and an absent father is often better than an abusive or toxic one. Every single item on your list exists in families with both parents anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 06:33 PM
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Mods enforce the rules VERY strictly, they do a great job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:52 AM
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Reddit hates women. Most subs are tools of misogyny and the Reddit admins protect and uphold sexism and sexist culture against women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 08:19 AM
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Honestly it seems like an ego thing for her - she’s so hot and her bf isn’t, she feels like she’s the Queen of Sheba and a good counterculture rebel at the same time. Imagine what it will be like when she starts aging and her “nice” but unattractive partner decides to trade in for a newer model
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:05 AM
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I used to say there are no feminist subreddits, but now I’ll add a caveat - none of the mainstream feminist subreddits are actually feminist. They are male-focused and male-identified and usually censor actual feminist discussion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 03:30 PM
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Fuck any father who would do this to his kids or in front of his kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:10 PM
175

Also if he’s making more than her, then she ISN’T wealthier than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:39 PM
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Slate is often women-hating garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:32 PM
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Disagree all you want, but the mods will shut down any attempt to change the purpose of this sub - a dating and advice sub for women. It is not a feminist support group, it is not for the sociopolitical advancement and enfranchisement for women…it is about dating and relationships. This is not a feminist-focused sub, it is a dating sub incorporating some feminist ideology. Please understand that users who forget that have often gotten their posts removed, and can be subject to bans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:23 PM
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This one is close, but the purpose of it isn’t feminist - it’s a dating sub. So far that’s the best women have on Reddit - unrelated interest groups that espouse feminist rhetoric far more than any so-called explicitly “feminist” subs. Reddit hates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:19 AM
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There are NO feminist subs on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:03 AM
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I don’t think this is about conflating an actor and a role - but the cultural impact of SATC is huge on women and having a rapist be part of that is sadly unsurprising. It’s all very pertinent in the overall contextual lens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:38 PM
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PSA: there are NO feminist subs on Reddit. Not one. They’re all run by men or people who center men in every discussion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:02 PM
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TikTok is spyware, worse than Facebook… that’s my only complaint with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:57 AM
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Be careful of non-straight ones as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:31 PM
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Straight and any other… non-straight men aren’t any different
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:30 PM
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I see women here saying “straight men” aren’t your friends, but it applies to non-straight men as well… I was digitally r*ped in a public place at a party by a gay male “friend” years ago and no one did a thing to help me… Gay men often think women’s bodies are fair game for them as well and that they get a pass because they’re gay… I’ve cut off every single person who was there and did nothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:27 PM
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Better yet, just don’t do it… “long distance relationship” usually means “not a real relationship at all”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:28 PM
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Understand that pursuing a decent partner IS NOT eugenics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:26 PM
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Why is this even a question? Why isn’t she running for the hills? It’s like there’s an epidemic of women living in a fantasy world, not participating in reality…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 01:06 PM
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It’s sad that a child would even know about those things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 01:00 AM
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What are the chances this is NOT glorified porn for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:39 AM
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You’re giving too much credit. Start believing what men say when they reveal their sexism - it’s much more straightforward than you seem to think. Believe his words. Jordan Peterson was not talking about mythos - he is talking about his view of functions of reality. And it’s a misogynistic view EVEN IF it were metaphorical. Why would you try to justify misogyny? You’re doing emotional labor on his behalf, for what purpose I could never understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 02:50 AM
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A guy you really want in your life and future would not require such a long post as this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 02:46 AM
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What you’re feeling is a mix of love and codependency. If he’s an alcoholic, it’s very likely he is in a codependent relationship Al-anon and therapy are wonderful resources
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:12 AM
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Newsflash: plus size women are like any “regular” women, and they deserve love and healthy relationships just like anyone else A woman’s body and size have no bearing on her worth as a person or a partner. HVW come in all shapes and sizes. If you think your appearance or size affect your self-worth, therapy is a great place to start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:07 AM
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I don’t agree with your interpretation at all If a sexist snake oil salesman like JP tickles your fancy, who am I to stop you? Enjoy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:22 PM
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He is actively misogynistic and thinks women are “chaos” men are “order”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:21 PM
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He is aligned with the red pill. He advocates that society-wide male violence can be solved by “enforced monogamy” for women…basically that means gifting (trafficking into sex slavery) women to lonely bachelors with no families
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:53 AM
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It just goes to show “a broken clock is right twice a day”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:51 AM
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He’s way more than “condescending to women” - he thinks they’re lesser than men, despite the feel-good video presented here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:50 AM
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You’re giving JP way too much credit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:48 AM
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Jordan Peterson is a raging misogynist and his opinion is worth nothing, but he does get a few things right on occasion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:45 AM
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Brava! This is the quality content I love to see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:58 AM
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“Emasculating” men isn’t real, it’s just a made up term by patriarchal society that indicates men’s ego and identity are in some way inherently superior to, and different from women’s, when really they’ve just been conditioned to be entitled and domineering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 06:21 PM
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“At least 2 to 3 more years” After what he did dropping his first wife Anna Ferris (who is awesome) I find this joke extremely cruel…Chris Pratt is an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 01:48 PM
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The vast majority of all people, both men and women, prefer mates around their own age. Huge age gaps are rife for abuse and manipulation. Successful age-gap relationships are outliers - they are not the norm. Any man who makes this his goal is a predator who views women as objects. And when I was 20 years old, older men (10+ years older) who hit on me disgusted and frightened me. I have never regretted ignoring or refusing their sexual advances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:49 PM
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Ok cool I still think that language is not an accurate depiction but there’s no point debating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:11 PM
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I’m not a fan of any art that uses the abuse and destruction of women as some metaphor for higher meaning. I want art that depicts women as people, not ideas. I found it extremely trite and derivative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:02 PM
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Maybe you just don’t understand that some women don’t watch abuse and find it culturally valuable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:01 PM
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You might think it’s great, but I don’t, and yes I do “get it.” I’m tired of abuse of women being trotted around as “great art.” I found it inflammatory, disturbing and honestly lazy to use the destruction of a woman as an allegory. It’s been done time and time again. And no, I’m not just ignorant about film. You can keep the snide attitude to yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:00 PM
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Yeah I really resent that you call working mothers not “present” You know who doesn’t get the option? Any mother poor enough to need to work. It’s not right to call them not “present” just because their needs require them to work outside the home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:58 PM
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You mean top earning men have a stay at home wife? Is this true for high paid women as well? I would love to see the stats on that. I just don’t think it’s true for high earning “people” - I think it’s true of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:56 PM
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It’s an illustration of the patriarchy, which might be revelatory to filmmakers like Darren Daranofsky but… doesn’t mean it has any entertainment value to women who already know and experience those things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:06 AM
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You and the business are better off without him. He’s clearly unprofessional and unstable, and who knows how much worse it could be down the line. Good riddance to bad rubbish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:46 AM
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Spanx has been astroturfing Reddit for the past week or more, posting feel-good marketing pieces about how great the founder was. This isn’t cute or inspiring - it’s just corporate propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 07:55 PM
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A lot of low value people have that perspective. It’s the crab bucket idea played out in real life - I can’t remember the correct term for it, but basically it describes how crabs in a bucket will pull down any one of them who is starting to get out - they pull down collectively anyone starting to get free. Pickme’s and low value folks try to tear down anyone with enough dignity and self-respect to expect better, because low value folks have to convince themselves that “it’s just the way it is” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:44 AM
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Pretty obviously no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:30 PM
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If everyone is telling you to shut up or that your voice doesn’t matter, you have to scream to be heard. There is no other choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:24 AM
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The answer is to never talk to him again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:19 AM
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Yes absolutely! One of the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:55 AM
3

She hates herself and other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:51 AM
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Welcome to Reddit. Most women-focused subs are “about” women and not “for” women, and most content containing women is porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:26 PM
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Watch out for how his controlling behavior comes through in his parenting, for your child’s sake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:51 PM
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“If he wanted to he would”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:47 PM
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Totally true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 10:08 PM
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Absolutely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 10:03 PM
8

Chef’s kiss - perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 09:55 PM
8

100% all of this - everything is correct and true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 09:48 PM
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Lawyers will tell you “never talk to the police if you can help it” because they know the police are not there to protect anyone especially average people without money or connections
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 09:45 PM
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What does working from home have to do with friends? Many people don’t socialize with their coworkers, or their coworkers make up just a small fraction of their social world. What about networking with others in your field? Taking classes like art or dancing? Martial arts? Get involved with many different communities and activities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:23 PM
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You have to realize it’s not about him, he can’t define your worth, and any pain you feel is temporary. Someday he will be a distant memory and the idea of his love will be meaningless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:49 AM
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When was this written? 1942?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 04:00 AM
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Closure is a myth…stay strong everyone makes mistakes, now you know better for next time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:58 AM
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Eating his infant’s food? Jesus Christ. Not to mention that if he isn’t sanitizing the bottles, then he isn’t really taking care of the baby’s needs when feeding… why why WHY is this mother allowing this to happen…I know women are not responsible for men’s behavior, but why isn’t she saying “no” and putting a stop to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:56 AM
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That’s a man who doesn’t care about his partner… Good riddance to bad rubbish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:24 AM
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The message is directed at Korean women so that isn’t the part of it with a problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:33 PM
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Yes seemingly in all ways she seems lovely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:03 PM
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No, and the reasons those fields are so damaging is because of the influence of men in them. Remember, even in female dominated fields, men are still the vast majority of leaders and top salaries employees
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:16 AM
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What does that mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:09 AM
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My thoughts are you haven’t understood Jordan Peterson very well. Keep reading his words especially about the subjugation of women as a natural course of being for humanity. His fans are generally women-hating teen boys but sometimes idiotic adult men as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:06 AM
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He’s Canadian but a huge cultural influence throughout all the English speaking countries, especially for misogynist men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:04 AM
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This guy views women as property of men. Plenty of misogynists think hookup culture is bad - they also don’t believe in women’s agency to govern their own lives or bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:04 AM
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The phrase “shit test” is slang from the red p ill subreddit - we don’t need to be using their terms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:14 AM
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Yeah I have a question - what about studies that show women with guns are more likely to have it used against them, than use them against an attacker? Guns are not some magical overall answer to the problem of safety
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:15 PM
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Even feminist subs or ones talking about women’s rights have been completely taken over or ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 10:18 PM
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P R O J E C T I O N
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:03 AM
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Ewwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:53 AM
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I want to be me, and loved regardless. Why is that too much to ask? It’s not. Stop settling for less
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:39 AM
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No, your dad has nothing to do with your worth. The dynamic however will affect your life. If it is a toxic father, do the steps a high-value person would do and get therapy, establish a support network outside of dad, and recognize the limitations of an inadequate parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:36 AM
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It is so so SO goddamn pathetic that otherwise healthy young men get erectile dysfunction due to porn usage or addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:33 AM
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Scrotes gonna scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:44 AM
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Yes it seems like an ultraconservative publication
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:31 PM
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This writer is an enemy to all women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:29 PM
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You made a passive-aggressive remark asking me whether I’ve dealt with narcissists. That’s not a neutral tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:22 AM
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There aren’t any feminist subreddits unfortunately. There are only ones that claim to be associated with feminism and they’re mostly run by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:21 AM
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I’m so sick of hearing libfems parrot the same party line - “it’s my CHOICE to shave my body hair and wear makeup!” Yeah sure Jan, but why is it ALWAYS women choosing this? And not men? Why is it men don’t feel pressured to shave their armpits? Why is the cosmetic industry marketing to women? It’s not a “choice” made in a vacuum. It’s behavior conditioned by a patriarchal society. And going against that is brave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:14 PM
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I’m sorry you were offended but your story was very confusing and it made it seem like you were lying to your friends in order to placate your ex. And yes, I was raised by a narcissist, so I do in fact have some experience with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:27 PM
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Boundaries. If someone violates our boundaries, the answer isn’t to lie and violate them ourselves. It’s good to learn how to enforce your healthy boundaries, which help us protect ourselves abusive people. You don’t have to lie to your friends or your ex that it’s ok he’s there if it isn’t. You deserve to treat yourself better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:34 AM
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It’s a good policy to never have office workplace romances. All it does is put a woman in a position of vulnerability. There’s some good advice in the post, but then a lot of this seems far too specific and not applicable in most cases, especially when saying “ The guy in question showed no interest in me when I first started there (Red Flag #1)” What? how is that a red flag? And men will flirt at work whether they’ve done it before or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:45 AM
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Men are used to being catered to at every life stage, in every aspect of society. Women even having opinions is offensive to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 08:14 PM
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I’m sorry for everything, and just a quick note - the adoptive mother was not abused - that was the story of the birth mother, who gave up the child for adoption
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:05 AM
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The mother failed and betrayed that poor girl. She told her the sexual assaults were happening, and she didn’t believe it. The poor child. No sympathy for handmaidens or pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:04 AM
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No, high-power men suffer almost no consequences for rape. Look at Trump. Look at Brett Kavanaugh, beer-drinking rapist and now supreme court justice for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:41 AM
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100% this. And he uses women around him to make himself look better, like choosing Kamala as VP, just like Bill Gates did by attaching his wife's name to his foundation "The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation." Don't think for one second it wasn't about the optics to help soften his image
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:33 AM
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Her child can't walk away from having a shitty dad, though... when pickme women choose LVM to procreate with, it's the kids who suffer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:27 AM
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She was supporting him, doing all the housework...he didn't clean, cook, work, pay any money towards living expenses, and yet she STILL chose to have a kid with him... I pity that poor child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:26 AM
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They just want whatever benefits them most, and they want women to shut up about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:25 AM
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That’s exactly my perspective as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:17 PM
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Most women are brainwashed into the patriarchy and are its vehement defenders. Most women don’t even see their own oppression, and many actually believe women are secondary or worth less than men. It can’t be understated how important marriage and being tied to a man is for women who buy into the patriarchy - it was the defining factor in survival, or social acceptance for women through millenia. I know there are positive aspects to marriage, and there really is nothing wrong with wanting it. Fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:09 PM
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If you don’t go along with the acceptable script, that women are the caretakers of society, it’s amazing the backlash you get. Men and women both become furious and disgusted if you don’t comply. Do it anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:08 AM
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This is some guy’s fantasy dream journal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:50 AM
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The Joy Luck club is legendary, an amazing classic. It should be mandatory viewing. Amy Tan is a goddess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:36 AM
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You have NO basis for thinking it’s a “cultural issue.” You are making wild assumptions and made-up justifications from nowhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:45 PM
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Your opinion is based on nothing. Defend male mediocrity on the rest of Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:43 PM
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Why be dismissing and contradicting the OP? You have no reason to doubt what she wrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:13 PM
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Are you sure about that? You think lying about charity work, making pointed condescending remarks is considerate? What part of the described scenario is “considerate” on his part?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:56 AM
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He lied about doing charity work, that was the issue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:54 AM
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Why are you doubting her interpretation of her own experiences? You do not have any evidence at all and yet you’ve rationalized all the red flags she has identified. Do you have some sort of agenda for doing this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:54 AM
98

Honestly I think it’s just the proliferation of the internet. Movements like the r ed pill could never survive without the internet, or at least not as well. It’s been a backlash against feminism, a lot like the rise of right wing fascistic political sentiment over the past decade. Also, internet porn. Oh brother. The affect of porn on the brain, 24/7 easy access to often brutally violent porn, has increasingly been hurting the brains and destroying the capacity for relationship in many men, you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:47 PM
50

It’s so sad because in the end the child will suffer from a noncommittal father more than the mother would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:58 AM
5

Yes there are individual heroes, thankfully, but it doesn’t seem to match broader trends in behavior Still thankful for good people and good men out there, anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:56 AM
1

I appreciate your comment. There is indeed a zombie statistic myth that women own 1% of the world’s property. That’s a bit different from my comment, which was wrong nonetheless. However the 30% stat you mentioned is an estimate for income, not land ownership. The numbers I found showed closer to 12% land ownership by women, and 36% land ownership by men, with the remainder held jointly or some other form of community/corporate property. It still seems men own property at 3x the rate of women de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:48 AM
26

There’s a whole joke in leftist communities “yes he reads communist literature, but does he wash the f**king dishes?” The answer is no, he doesn’t. Leftists and even “feminist” men are just the same as any other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:16 PM
7

You’re extremely wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:30 AM
16

A lot of women are handmaidens of the patriarchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:21 AM
38

Exactly if it were important to them they would actually spend some amount of time and effort on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:06 AM
24

My NVM ex was exactly like that - he didn’t want me to initiate but got mad if I wasn’t game for some b ondage sex like chok ing or hi tting… it was a nightmare scenario
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:05 AM
3

This is a winning comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:04 AM
18

Maybe if they bathed regularly or put a brush through their hair they might get compliments more. Very few men I’ve dated even owned moisturizer let alone a hair brush
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:02 AM
7

They think their actions should count if they “didn’t mean it.” They think there should be no consequences for their actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:59 AM
48

I love that the FIRST answer he wants is “weight,” but he doesn’t give his. One guess at how he looks in person (hint it’s not good)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:54 AM
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Men own 90% of all land and money. Women need to stop playing nice to them thinking things are “fair” Edit: it seems my stats were off, and I’m still searching for better estimates, but it’s hard to find. So far it seems women earn 33% of the income worldwide and on average own 12% of land in most countries whereas men own 36%, triple that amount, and the remainder is held jointly or in community properties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:39 AM
318

This same belief is parroted even here on FDS - women think HVM men were “protectors” throughout history, but they never were. Don’t believe the lies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:36 AM
23

If you really wanted him you would never have left. Being HVM isn’t enough you actually have to want to be with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:13 AM
245

No, if they view sex and relationships as something to fulfill a craving, instant gratification, they aren’t able to engage in a meaningful relationship without significant therapy. To clarify: is it possible? Yes. Is it probable? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:18 PM
114

There are no feminist subreddits. Reddit hates women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:47 PM
44

And without the kids? Does he love the children at all? Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:53 PM
94

Hahaha being single is soooooo much better than being shackled to a shit husband like this… literally SHIT husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:51 PM
7

I’m so happy for you! You have left a toxic and probably abusive relationship. For your own sake and the sake of your child, please start going to a therapy program, or a group therapy like Al-Anon, or something to help you move forward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:50 PM
13

Yeah average men do this, not just narcissists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:07 PM
5

The brainwashing is so deep they can’t even spot what happens before their eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:02 PM
9

They ignore it, and have been trained to overlook it or rationalize it. The average woman, ignorant of feminist concepts, thinks there is no power imbalance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:02 PM
228

That’s….so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:48 PM
10

Thank you mods
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:27 PM
11

Sounds like a rapist to be honest. What other women has he pressured into doing stuff they don’t like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:24 PM
3

Yes and it’s misogyny to blame the single mothers, the parents who stayed, for the sins of the fathers who took off. Some of those men are disgusting abusers who would shape the sons in their image, and those children are far far far better off without their abusive fathers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:31 PM
8

As ever, women are responsible for the MEN’S poor behavior. Eye roll. This post might as well be in men’s lib or the red pill as it fits in perfectly with how they see single moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:28 PM
7

You’re pretending as if two-parent households are better at raising men, which they aren’t. Everyone knows women do most of the child rearing even if the dad is around. Many married men use and abuse their wives - is that the model you want for your partner? This whole post seems self-hating and delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:23 PM
9

You are buying into patriarchal lies, and you’re defensive because you’ve been called out on it. Mostly the men who are protective or providers. The times when women are in danger and men come to our rescue. Men who are physically stronger protecting us from harm. This is a patriarchal LIE. At no time in history was this ever true on a large societal-wide scale. This was a lie put forth to justify treating women like cattle. Women need protection most from MEN, including their own husbands and f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:09 PM
12

No. Women are objects to be abused under patriarchy. You’re buying into the lie that men were “protectors” when really they were just “owners” and “oppressors”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:57 PM
13

This post is misogyny in action. “Women can’t teach men to be men” wrong, women can raise children to be upstanding adults. This is complete trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:56 PM
85

A rich man is more likely to view his money as his money even after marriage - do not think that dating or marrying a man will secure your finances. The rug can always be pulled out from under you. Rich men are not generous as a rule, and being rich does not mean he is high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:28 PM
6

Get a new therapist if you can. I wasted years on ineffective or incompetent counselors because I couldn’t stand up for myself or thought it was rude. No. It’s not rude. She is not prioritizing your needs, drop her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:28 PM
21

Honestly I don’t think people understand how badly society pressures and stresses that women need a man to be acceptable. Society treats single women like a disease. Sadly some women would rather be miserable with a man than happy and single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:06 PM
1

But she is doing harm with this post - she is normalizing the idea that female pleasure is not important, and secondary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:02 PM
12

It’s so sad the level of misogyny that’s accepted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:35 PM
34

No, she was a psychopath, but she was right about many things. Including the fact that her husband sucked, although her response was not sane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:25 PM
35

Be careful, low-value friends can bring you down, just like low value men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:24 PM
59

14 and 29???? That’s monstrous. It’s disgusting. That makes me want to vomit - a quinceanera the same year as a wedding and baby shower? The girl was a child herself. That’s evil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:22 PM
3

My sweet dear, I hope you can approach these struggles with a professional therapist who is knowledgeable about codependency or other attachment issues. You have the ability to stop engaging with this, but you’re choosing to continue engaging and giving him your attention. Even reading a message from him is too far. Your feelings for him aren’t really for him, in fact it’s not about “him” at all. He is a mental and emotional fixation. I sincerely hope for the best for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:44 PM
23

Looking hot can be fun, but yes, it is always related to the patriarchy. Ask yourself why men don’t wear makeup. Why they exist in the world and seem to enjoy themselves without needing to be “hot” at every given opportunity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:46 AM
2

Don’t ever EVER forget the cultural misogyny inherent in age gap relationships or in older men pursuing dating - the entire society has been telling them that women are objects and playthings and nothing more, and they act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:00 AM
2

Murder is the #1 cause of death for pregnant women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:35 AM
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That’s a good point, makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:37 PM
80

No, this one doesn't jive with me. I understand short guys can have a complex and be bitter, but it's completely false that "bigger" guys are nicer. This is the same flawed logic that says "nerds make better boyfriends." That's conventional wisdom, but it's wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:44 AM
9

"Even if they...don't like doing it" EXCUSE the FU*K out of me?? That sounds like rapist talk. Or maybe plain abuser talk. Maybe he thinks his own poor boundaries should be mirrored in his partner? Regardless he needs to stop entering into relationships until he has been through several years of therapy, and maybe not even then...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:13 AM
3

She's asking for advice on how to cope with the painful physical injury she is suffering after her boyfriend anally raped her...and not for advice on how to get away from her rapist...I can't think of how horrifying her life must be to not be running for the hills. I feel so so sorry for her. My heart is aching for her. This poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:52 AM
1

Remember that whole thing about men saying the opposite of what is true? This thread reminds me of the movie "Braveheart" where an English soldier notices Braveheart's wife, tells her "you remind me of my daughter" and then tries to rape her. Men might talk a big game about suddenly thinking "that's someone's daughter" but not much actually changes about their behavior. The dude in the thread is actually LAMENTING the fact that he no longer enjoys going to strip clubs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:45 AM
12

You think you found a good one, and then even after decades of living and loving together, you realize he's still, in the end, just a man. That's just how they are. They don't view women as people and they most often aren't capable of loving women. It's why they murder their wives and girlfriends "loved ones" so often - the love of a man is deadly to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:31 AM
1

I'm sorry but I highly doubt couples in your area "do this together" as this is across the board a part of the mental load and emotional labor that is the forced responsibility sphere of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:11 AM
58

That’s still pushing the work to someone else? And it’s still usually a woman. Why can’t they just DO THE WORK that women are expected to? After all the post itself shows they still think women should do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:21 PM
15

She is so great and so right. This feeds my soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:50 PM
11

I love doing this in any setting regardless! Vocally supporting and celebrating other women - it is truly amazing how rare it is for some people to witness that, male or female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:37 PM
9

Attraction is socially conditioned and not usually related to health. Those connections are often extrapolations applied in order to justify attraction and ignores the concept of social constructs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:32 PM
23

I know I made a few comments on a different thread about this, but it bears repeating - surgery is almost always life-threatening primarily because of the use of anesthetics. To be blunt, surgery is dangerous. There are people such as Kanye West's mother who lost their lives in elective cosmetic surgeries. Like you say, as it is 90% women who undergo cosmetic surgery, this issue should be taken seriously for women. Surgery is not usually a simple out-patient procedure. It is often very serious a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:30 PM
6

Those people, including yourself, risked their lives undergoing surgery. Let's not make believe it's something that doesn't matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:25 PM
6

All surgery is life-threatening. You take your life in your hands every time you undergo anesthesia. It is NOT some simple, silly and insignificant thing to undergo surgery, of any kind, especially elective plastic surgery which is not done for any purpose other than cosmetics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:16 PM
2

Ha no it was a scrote version of the image from this OP...the guy talked about buying gift cards, thereby tricking his wife to going to the restaurants he likes, to avoid the dreaded "choice fight" that scrotes perpetually complain about (you know, how women can never choose where to go on dates, because scrotes expect women to do everything for them including dating)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:11 PM
12

Just so you all know, this is actually copied from a post from a dude about his wife. I saw it posted to Reddit years ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:48 AM
9

Getting older is a privilege. It does not matter at what age you become disillusioned, the only thing that matters is to become the best version of yourself however you exist in the present moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:08 PM
0

I think you’re giving him the benefit of the doubt, but I’m not. I don’t believe that’s the explanation, although the logic does hold up and it could be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:04 PM
3

Because he’s a shitty brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:52 PM
16

He didn’t seem to have any sense of urgency or protection over his sister. He seemed like he was more concerned about the dude’s feelings than his own sister’s safety or well-being. Happens a lot with LVM brothers of sisters and even with LVM fathers of daughters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:46 PM
8

Amen to ALL that. And most people don’t know this - while the Ivy League is exclusive to the general public, and has a general acceptance rate of about 6% for most applicants, for legacy students (meaning those who have a family member who graduated from the institution) the acceptance rate is around 30% at Ivy League schools. That’s on par with most state schools for average students. It’s not so exclusive at all, if you were born to the right parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:29 PM
68

Is there any feminist subreddit that isn’t actually catering to men and men’s issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:04 PM
29

It was a good school, but still not an Ivy League or t20 so you got a lot of underachievers mixed in with some genuinely brilliant kids. Just a reminder, every school is like this. The Ivy League is an institution created to support the status quo in class dynamics, and plenty of low-value students with privileged backgrounds attend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:58 PM
21

People hate when women are important in a conversation - it goes against what they’re used to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:33 PM
11

Pathetic. This man doesn’t deserve to be a father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:41 AM
33

This is the reason I never reported my rape in college
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:38 AM
2

What “nuances” does she refer to?!? this is normalizing abuse!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:34 PM
6

You can’t buy good behavior by being submissive to a man. That’s a lie they’ve been pushing since forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:06 PM
3

He said women were a waste of time and a distraction which is meant as an insult. Don’t be obtuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:27 AM
24

It’s not gross and thankfully many girls and women are refusing to buy into the bs nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:29 PM
1

This is insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:27 PM
22

it's even worse - it's the depiction of a man raping a woman as a sexual fantasy, without the realistic aspects of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:04 PM
15

"fantasy is far from a cut-and-dried issue" Imagine trying to project so much nuance onto something like porn usage, if only they would put this much effort into condemning rape culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:02 PM
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