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| 3 | A critique of the "Real man idea"And far too many leftists are comfortable with it being at best only half-finished. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/07/26 07:22 PM |
| 7 | A critique of the "Real man idea"It's amazing how our society has largely accepted that womanhood and femininity can be expressed in so many different ways, yet even if the same is extended to men in theory, that theoretical view seems to go out the window at the earliest sign of inconvenience. This is a generalization, but "accidently bump into a feminist gently and a bioessentialist bleeds" (I hold the same view about tradcons, there really is a lot of overlap between those groups in my opinion). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/07/26 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Brazil: Woman can now carry pepper sprays, men cannot.Oh yes, very much agree with you (I'm pretty sure my method of speech comes off as needlessly confrontational even when I'm agreeing, I'm always angry even when I'm having a spectacular day). You make such a good point though! In my part of the world especially, protecting trans women seems to be a touchy subject but is largely the default leftist position. I don't think this is manipulative on our part, but this is a great way to advocate for protecting the mental health of trans women and othe… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/07/26 06:30 PM |
| 16 | Brazil: Woman can now carry pepper sprays, men cannot.The problem I have is that this hurts trans women like me who were almost exclusively harmed (including hunted and cornered like a wild animal by a mob over a "misidentification", still feels like it didn't really happen, although my life was so bad at the time I only had nightmares over that incident for three days) while closeted as men. If men are not allowed to carry pepper spray for self defense and are harmed, it seems reasonable that at least some of the men who will be harmed would be cl… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/07/26 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Is this group even left winged?While I don't want to make it all about the USA (I live in the USA), I find it so amusing (in a maddening sort of way) that these online (often terminally online) leftists think men shift right over them and their issues not being respected by the left but that men don't shift left over them and their issues not being respected by the right. This two-party system in the USA is a huge issue, but I'm not in any mood to define whether the Democrats (in whole or in part) are/are not "actually left-w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/07/26 12:31 AM |
| 12 | Is this group even left winged?I wonder how many men here are also disenfranchised with the right and have ended up here, and especially recently. Expecting perfect behavior from people here is pushing it, especially when the standards of "perfect behavior" from many of the leftists I've had dealings with outside of this sub are completely hypocritical. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/07/26 12:11 AM |
| 22 | Is this group even left winged?I read that thread you linked and I wanted to say that I consider bioessentialism to be a regressive and conservative ideology, which is ironic because OP made a lot of bioessentialist points in that thread. Also, thank you for posting that essay, as unpleasant (I've numbed myself too much, the correct word is horrific) as it is to read about war in general and especially WW1 and WW2, it makes some excellent points, especially the last sentence. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/07/26 11:34 PM |
| 42 | Volunteer wants to stop feeding orphaned boys because they are ‘future oppressors’That is textbook dehumanization. Calling them "cockroaches" wouldn't be worse from my perspective, the same intent is there. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 22/07/26 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Is there any point in labelling a society as 'Patriarchal'?Yes, you are understanding my arguement, but my so-called ability to spell out my thoughts is poor, I mean the ever-shifting definitions of "patriarchy". Is it all men? Is it a BS "misspelling" of oligarchy? Is it whatever is needed to convince somebody who has genuine questions but fears coming off as a misogynist for asking these questions that, yes, a gender supremacist ideology has a place in leftism and has a right to maintain a chokehold on leftism (in the West, at least?) Feminism is divi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/07/26 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Remember Men, the Republican Party is not our friendAgreed. I feel like its gatekeeping the left, even if it's by a loose definition, it might hold us back from dealing with this problem, or from others taking us seriously in working to refocus the left on actual equality. It's like saying that MAGA isn't the Republican Party, they just self-identify as Republicans. I grew up during the George W Bush years and I've opposed them since then because I've seen what they do to people in this country and in other countries. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/07/26 07:15 AM |
| 7 | Remember Men, the Republican Party is not our friendFeminism exploits trauma, that's for sure. Uses the trauma as a way in to sway people looking for community, support, people who understand, who have been there, and who have "taken back their power", unfortunately it's a supremacy ideology. I was bred for use in a doomsday cult that did the same. And that downvote was from me, a trans woman. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/07/26 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Is there any point in labelling a society as 'Patriarchal'?Hegemonic feminism (what I also refer to as Feminism, Inc.) continues to use "patriarchy" and all the motte and bailey's that ensue from that words ever-shifting definitions to argue for the necessity of feminism, especially it's institutional and lobbying arms, as an important part of leftism, when it is so apparent that leftism (at least in the US, where I live) desperately needs an egalitarian focus. I am really, really NOT smart. If feminism stops using the word patriarchy, it risks losing p… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/07/26 04:29 AM |
| 18 | The hidden rape apologist...It never ceases to PISS ME OFF how sexual violence is a horrible thing when done to certain groups of people (sexual violence is horrible no matter who it happens to or who does it) but physical assault and killing is "cool and sexy and awesome", especially if it is victimizes an acceptable group or an acceptable target (especially off an accusation and nothing more) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/07/26 06:34 PM |
| 7 | Saw a comment claiming that Domestic violence in lesbian couples is lower and according to this perpetrators are not women. How true is it?Yes, reducing individuals to "identity groups" for political reasons, dehumanization through erasing experiences of individuals and even large groups of individuals. They even dehumanize "their own" to win arguments. It makes me ill. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/07/26 05:59 PM |
| 7 | Are Men Inferior to Women? Her Campus Article Defends Teaching 5-Year-Olds Misandry as "Necessary"Yes I agree, because I believe that conditioning your child into being a hateful bigot to perpetuate your bigotry needs to be taken seriously. CSA is horrible, but this sort of ideological grooming is also horrible and can open the door to other horrific acts as a result of that degree of desensitization. Source: happened to me, only it was against 99.9% of the planets population, although misandry and gynocentricism were a large part of the cult I was bred and conditioned for use in. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/07/26 05:21 PM |
| 1 | The Hypocrisy of Cis Women complaining about Trans Women "invading" their female only places and sports all while neglecting the history that females have historically invaded male only spacesIf I could DM the details to you when I have the time? I'm going to be pretty buried with errands today, my examples are very specific and there is a bit of a story to them even if i try to be super concise, as I do not spend much of my time online and my experiences with misandry (when I was living as a man or when others forced me to be a man even after coming out due to how they used men) are largely things that happened off the internet | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/07/26 02:54 PM |
| 40 | Saw a comment claiming that Domestic violence in lesbian couples is lower and according to this perpetrators are not women. How true is it?Here is what it comes down to from my perspective: is it about recognizing domestic violence in lesbian relationships and how to address it (what form it may take and who the abuser is) or is this another "man = bad" argument? Because it comes off to me like pointing at male offenders against lesbians is taking the focus off the percentage of lesbians who are abused by women. I really feel like it is erasing them, the same as is done to male victims of rape by using gendered definitions of rape … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/07/26 04:43 AM |
| 1 | The Hypocrisy of Cis Women complaining about Trans Women "invading" their female only places and sports all while neglecting the history that females have historically invaded male only spacesThis may be related only in my weirdo mind but I'm a bit "over it" tonight, but do any of you ever get the feeling that a lot of the people who are super internet-frontline-soldier for trans women are really just using us as meatshields? Kind of like, "but you were raised as men at one point, so you won't mind still being a meatshield, right?" I've gotten those kind of vibes from people, again, who fight online but who have made those intentions clear to me offline. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/07/26 04:13 AM |
| 7 | Is there any point in labelling a society as 'Patriarchal'?We live in a world where neo-pronouns are totally a thing (I mean this respectfully). Like, come on people, it's time to update the language to something other than patriarchy. And I really don't think the refusal to drop "patriarchy" is due to feminists refusal to admit too many women's role in upholding and even (frequently!) forcing gender roles, I suspect it has as much to do with a change in language undermining the relevancy hegemonic feminism insists it holds. It's not just an ideology, i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/07/26 07:33 PM |
| 3 | A Rare Sane TakeWow, a TikTok that didn't make me want to rip my face off in the first few seconds from irritation alone! (I don't use TikTok and I'm not going to. I see them on here and they just UGHHHH) It does go both ways, though. I wish the breaking down of gender roles for women meant that we normalized and even praised men who look after the house and the kids while the women work, that when men are in danger or are being attacked, that women charge in to save them like the reverse is expected/demanded, … | /r/EverydayMisandry | 16/07/26 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Male Misandrist InfluencerI'm glad you are doing better! And wow, first dose of T and they went away? I can't tell you how happy I am to hear that! Also been off off psych meds for a while, it'll be 2 years in October! After being on them for 12 years. I haven't started HRT yet, it's gonna be a while until I'm in financial shape to do so. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 16/07/26 04:27 AM |
| 19 | The Taliban’s war on education: ‘Nobody talks about what is happening to the boys’I get so fucking sick of the implication that it is only women who are suffering in Afghanistan. I refuse to engage with people who say that shit on social media, and this includes extended family members (I refuse to speak with my parents) They know where I stand on it. Here is just a single example (As much as I despise how the Taliban treat people, this doesn't directly involve them): remember the shooting attack against the National Guard in Washington, DC last year? It was a man from Afghan… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/26 07:48 PM |
| 9 | Male Misandrist InfluencerThank you, a lot of the shit I've dealt with (and still do, to a small degree) was/is offline. I'm pretty sure a lot of the things I dealt with and was put through, especially late 2000s-early 2010s, were "from online", but had very real effects in the physical world. My main concern is that internet misandry reinforces the various other forms of misandry that have been a part of society since we have had society. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 15/07/26 12:39 AM |
| 4 | Male Misandrist InfluencerI've read quite a few experiences of trans men here on reddit and a lot of it is just heartbreaking to read. I'm not trying to start a fight, but I choose to treasure the good rather than focus on the good, there is too much bad in this world and there are too many societal and financial incentives to do bad things to those who are "Othered" and I choose to be honest about it so that I can do my part to combat it when I have the opportunity and means to do so. | /r/EverydayMisandry | 15/07/26 12:19 AM |
| 9 | Male Misandrist InfluencerIn theory, yes. Too many of the other ones I've encountered online seem to jump right into misandry like its going out of style...although there are quite a few I have spoken to on Reddit who do a lot to combat misandry. I beat myself up all the time in my mind for not doing more, and I'm not saying that because I want people to pat me on the shoulder and say "your best is good enough", it's frustrating that my body is so beat up after all these years that if I tried to do more, I would tire out… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 14/07/26 11:41 PM |
| 5 | Male Misandrist InfluencerMy suicide ideation finally went away after about 15 or so years of nearly non-stop urges. Moved a few thousand miles away, told pretty much everybody from my past to go to hell, came out of the closet, and finally realizing that my anger and my hatred towards those who abused me kept me alive for all those years, and I must never let go of that anger and hatred, but control it. The stress of the move sealed my fate, though. I know what was done to me, but a lot of the specifics are fuzzy due to… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 14/07/26 11:14 PM |
| 47 | Male Misandrist InfluencerTrans woman who lived as a man for over three decades here. When I was forced to be male, the only safe space I ever had was in my room, with my door locked and holding my favorite knife to my throat. It wasn't "Fuckin' everywhere." And on behalf of men, I will accept no apology and grant no forgiveness to people who keep repeating that BULLSHIT! | /r/EverydayMisandry | 14/07/26 08:49 PM |
| 7 | "Misogyny of male suicide"While I don't have the studies on hand, I've read (I believe it was on this subreddit) it's not a matter of "men use firearms more" but that they have higher fatality rates even using pill/drug overdose, asphyxiation, poisoning, etc. I'm pretty sure I've also read that it's not just a matter of women being less committed to killing themselves, or doing it for attention (although I've known several that did do that, mainly to protect themselves from scrutiny after doing or attempting to do awful … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/26 08:01 PM |
| 20 | "Misogyny of male suicide"No, I haven't TRIED, because when I do commit suicide, I'll just do it in a way that ensures success. Sounds exactly like my thought process for all those long years I dealt with suicide ideation. First commitment? A few people cared for like 5 minutes. The next dozen or so times? I wasn't even supposed to bring it up to anybody, just act like I hadn't gone out of the house for a few weeks. I wasn't supposed to mention I had mental health issues at all, since these people in my life were dead se… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/26 02:07 AM |
| 11 | "Misogyny of male suicide"Thank you! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/26 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Assault in Prison: Either Played for Laughs Ignored or Downright JustifiedI have brought this up before (it was actually in an LGBT+ discord, which I ended up leaving) that even if an accused sexual predator was proven to be guilty, "the inmates are going to have fun with him" is a PRO-RAPE statement, end of story. Also, does it survive the gender swap? Even if it does, does it make them squirm and dart their eyes around awkwardly and maybe throw up in their mouths a bit to accept the gender swap? It's gross anyways. It is advocacy for rape as punishment for crimes or… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/26 10:34 PM |
| 50 | "Misogyny of male suicide""It elucidates how hard men and boys' lives actually are in reality;" Especially when we factor in (I don't remember the studies, my brain doesn't work good) that men and boys do not have higher suicide rates because of using "more violent methods" (I have always seen this as dehumanizing men and boys as "violent brutes even against themselves") but rather having more success across all manner of methods, likely due to them really wanting to die (and mocking that and dancing on their graves via … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/26 10:14 PM |
| 2 | "Believe All Women" is a ridiculous, sexist slogan."they didn't need to adopt me, but they did and then say that". Crap. That resonates with me so hard. I don't usually say "I'm sorry that happened to you", as I freaking hate platitudes, but what you said makes me so angry that you were abused like that. It is extremely unfair that they would do that to you and act like it was even remotely acceptable. No parent is entitled to treat their children, biological or adopted, like a subhuman! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/07/26 11:34 PM |
| 2 | "Believe All Women" is a ridiculous, sexist slogan.Before I had exposure to the term "gynocentricism", I used the word (and still do) "mother worship". As the one who gave birth to me, she claims for herself (and has this claim upheld by others, my father for example) to be judge, jury, and executioner for any wrongs I commit or and inconveniences I may pose. Unborn, I was bound to her for survival. Born, as a toddler, as a child, even as a disabled adult, I was not bound to her for survival but bound to her as her personal creation and therefor… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/07/26 11:15 PM |
| 1 | "When will people stop using the phrase "women and children" to treat men as subhuman and expendable in wartime? Children, yes. They're innocents. But women and men are adults, citizens. Their lives have equal value."What I refer to (I am 100% sure I heard it from somebody else first, and probably here) as Woke, Inc. The politically sanitized, commercially viable, and conveniently divisive (the whole point of it, as I see it) form of being woke. In a similar way to how a right-wing commentator (don't remember which one, just that I have a personal oath sworn against that jerk and the other one that I also got confused with him, even though I know at least one of them is dead) used the term "feminazi"...even … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/07/26 11:02 PM |
| 2 | "Believe All Women" is a ridiculous, sexist slogan.Yes and while I don't want to get into my admittedly conspiratory theorizing, I just wanted to say how easy it would have been for people to get on board with the left (I live in the US, I don't want to generalize about trends in leftism outside of the US as I have limited personal exposure to them) if it wasn't for feminisms tight grasp on so many aspects of US leftism, and especially how easy it would have been to get on board with things like "powerful people treating those they place under t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/07/26 10:01 PM |
| 2 | "Believe All Women" is a ridiculous, sexist slogan.I find the erasure of female victims of abusive women (especially abusive mothers) to be one of the most misogynistic things I've ever had to deal with, even though I was mainly an observer to the aftermath. (While I am a trans woman, I define the abuse I went through as misandry as I was assumed/forced to be male). And as much as I want to blame the hegemonic, lobbying aspects of Feminism, Inc in full for this treatment, I stress that even our (former) personal friends, who hold no institutiona… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/07/26 07:02 PM |
| 2 | "Believe All Women" is a ridiculous, sexist slogan.While I don't want to take the discussion off the victimization of men, yes, it does totally fail in cases of female-on-female violence! (At least, in a case that I am intimately associated with). The mental gymnastics these people pull off to minimize the destruction caused by an incestuous mother is appalling (most of the minimization I witnessed directly was offline, and I was forced to sit in the presence of this minimization and not speak up, much less flip the fuck out.) It is eerily simil… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/07/26 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Why do so few people identify as a "feminist"?Yes, and it's important to note that I was raised (bred and conditioned is the term I prefer) as a Christian fundamentalist. We were conditioned to hate everybody who was not member of our in-group. We were conditioned in particular to hate Catholics. It's pretty obvious that this plus our "convert or be annihilated" manner of looking at who our leadership declared to be out-groups led to our group effectively claiming a monopoly on salvation, in our minds at least (though I and I'm sure many ot… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/07/26 08:34 PM |
| 10 | Why do so few people identify as a "feminist"?This is the same as what I was raised with in a doomsday cult: "If you're not on God's side, you're on Satan's side. And Satan owns the fence." I cannot agree enough with what others have said, that feminism- in particular the mainstream Western version- is a secular religion, and veers dangerously close (completely over the line in my opinion, although it could be my past experiences clouding my perception, I'll admit) to being a secular cult. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/07/26 07:45 PM |
| 9 | Is red pill manosphere stuff or feminism more of a threat to male advocacy?They've enacted laws, policies and societal perspectives that harm us trans woman too, not just but especially when we are closeted as men, and these societal perspectives have also harmed women who are victims of sexual violence from other women (my experience- stuff I've had to step in and put a stop to a great cost- has mainly been non-IPV woman-on-woman sexual violence, basically incest). It's ironic how holding women who abuse other women accountable is "hatred of women". As well as how hol… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/07/26 03:12 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with misandry while learning about feminism"Complete garbage movement from the beginning" is how I see it as well. I get really tired of the whole "it started with good intentions but got power-hungry and radicalized". A bad start can be changed, possibly redeemed to a degree, if the people who have been at the forefront of the movement throughout the last century or so are willing to put in the work and rein in the problematic messaging and reverse discriminatory practices and push for them to be gender-neutral. At this point, I don't r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/07/26 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Holy Internalised Misandry BatmanTrans woman here, just wanted to give my take having lived for over three decades as a man: A lot of this discourse about men being seen as threats by default and how to get past that is (this is a crude analogy but I will make it anyways, dehumanization has always been a part of the male experience for me) less about providing your kitty cat with a scratching post so the furniture doesn't get shredded, and having his claws trimmed when needed as well, versus declawing him because it seems to be… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 30/06/26 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Time for some positivity: what aspects of male culture/being male are you proud of?Thank you! And thank you for the post topic! I hope you have a great day! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/06/26 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Time for some positivity: what aspects of male culture/being male are you proud of?I'm not male, but men have made such massive contributions to the heavy metal scene (especially melodic death metal, death/doom, and black metal). If that seems a bit silly, it was those styles of metal in particular- and something in particular about certain male vocalists- that kept me from being discovered the next morning dead by my own hand and pretty much guaranteed to be immediately forgotten. I do not exaggerate: if I listened to metal until I fell asleep, however long it took, I would n… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/06/26 11:25 PM |
| 3 | “I’d Work Weekends Because I Just Didn’t Want to Go Home”: The Spillover Effects of Intimate Partner Violence Victimization on Men’s Personal Well-Being and Working LivesAfter a certain point I've come to accept that a pretty good percentage of these people are actively ripping their brains out of their skulls and hurling them at a wall. Simply confronting the thought that they are wrong makes them so uncomfortable that they go into a rage as if that changes the facts or can make them unhear what they have heard! (Again, I've seen this online but my main experience is people reacting this way to me face-to-face) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/06/26 11:09 PM |
| 9 | “I’d Work Weekends Because I Just Didn’t Want to Go Home”: The Spillover Effects of Intimate Partner Violence Victimization on Men’s Personal Well-Being and Working LivesExcellent point about how its not about "men don't report because they find it embarrassing to admit being harmed by a woman." If you are or were married to a woman who is highly controlling, monitors your communications and whereabouts, and sexually abuses you, mentally abuses you, and physically strikes you but not hard enough to leave visible marks, and you are already aware of how the odds are stacked against you, even if you don't report to police. Simply the act of confiding in a friend, y… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/06/26 06:46 PM |
| 4 | Why is misandry being normalised on social media under the disguise of "it's just a reaction to misogyny"?It is so repulsive to me how it can be acknowledged by mainstream society that there are many different ways in which misogyny is demonstrated but misandry is limited to "awww your little feelings are hurt?" Thank you for stating that male disposability is a subset of misandry. You worded it much better than I could have. By failing to treat discrimination and mistreatment of men as a spectrum just like discrimination and mistreatment of women is a spectrum (I don't like oppression olympics but … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/26 02:52 AM |
| 17 | Why is misandry being normalised on social media under the disguise of "it's just a reaction to misogyny"?I know it's been said better by others, but I see "misandry as a reaction to misogyny" as the ridiculous combination of projection and "making it all about yourself" (with regards to the people regurgitating this BS). Misandry is wayyyyyyy more than feminists saying horribly bigoted things on the internet. Misandry has been built into civilization since there has been civilization. Male disposability, androcide against conquered men and boys, just off the top of my head (besides other concerns b… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/06/26 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Consent denial vs. consent suppressionTrans woman anecdotal opinion here: yes, I was raised with the whole "men always want sex" bullshit. I didn't know what asexual was back then. Between gender dysphoria (that I couldn't talk about!), long term effects of being genitally mutilated shortly after birth, being told just prior to being married that my "provider" role wasn't just bringing home the paycheck ("you have to give her sex, even if you don't want to"), side effects of meds, exhaustion from childhood trauma, again the whole as… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/06/26 08:01 AM |
| 4 | why is there so much hate for women here?"dude idk how to help you" Maybe listen to what he's fucking saying? It's even right there in your responses: "most women want-", "most women are not like-", like you realize he and and lot of other men here are talking about the times when saying 'most women don't do that' is no consolation after the things certain women inflicted upon them? Saying that 'most women don't do that' is pretty meaningless when a woman, or several women, harm these men and they have few to no resources or means of h… | /r/MensRights | 13/06/26 06:07 PM |
| 47 | Leaving autism subs due to misandry...It fills me with endless grief and rage when "safe spaces" are only safe for certain people, and extremely unsafe for other people, despite both groups being human, and both groups supposedly being welcome in such spaces. I don't need people on the internet or elsewhere to kiss my ass and tell me I'm great, but that's not even what this is about. How are you supposed to make progress (or, let's face it, even stay alive) when you cannot even safely express yourself in a space where, on paper, you… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/06/26 04:06 PM |
| 3 | Men aren't actually 'allowed' to be angrySomething interesting that I've observed from a few decades of living as a man is that anger, sadness, terror, and so on, however strongly or softly I expressed them or even suggested them (my mannerisms are identical to most of the other women on my mother's side of the family) were generally only permitted based on usefulness to others and what they were trying to achieve or obtain. Otherwise, it was just "you are insane". Something I also wanted to bring up is that it isn't just a double stan… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/06/26 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Essay: This one simple trick made society care for the safety, feelings, and rights of young conscriptsThank you so much for making that point with trans women. This has been my view on it for so long, not just battle slavery, but...well, everything. The hypocrisy is astounding. The things we go through- warzone, domestic, workplace- assuming we survive, I will not accept an "oopsies! Why didn't you tell us you were a lady this whole time? Sorry!" There's no magic switch that erases that shit and makes it all okay. And no "sorry" to trans women, however defensive or sincere, will bring back all t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/06/26 08:55 PM |
| 48 | How do you manage not to become misanthropic?The trauma excuse is bullshit, I am a trans woman who was raped by a woman while I was living as a man (several workplace SA's by women as well, the last one of which I physically retaliated against when it shifted from SA to full-on physical assault). I'm just putting this out there, I'm feeling ill today and not in the mood. But shit like this is the reason I am only involved in men's rights communities on here. These people want to do the "women have it worse" monolithic group generalization … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/26 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think gay men have never been seen or accepted as "men" by other men?Very good point about superficially accepting versus subconsciously accepting. Like, here in the USA they can get married. That doesn't mean the fight is over. That doesn't mean their lives are excellent and discrimination-free now. Look at how disproportionately men are affected by violent attacks, homelessness, poverty, ineffective mental health treatment or even lack of access to it. Given how vicious homophobia has been and still is, even if it's not making the headlines, the last thing they… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/05/26 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Why do you think gay men have never been seen or accepted as "men" by other men?Coming from a Western Christian fundamentalist background, I agree with this. I understand there are many factors contributing to homophobia and other sexual/gender identities, but in my background this was at the root of their homophobia. They would find all sorts of ways to spread conspiracies about gay men in particular, but while they had many bullshit reasons for their many conspiracies, it was really downstream of "God says be fruitful and be many, man and woman blah blah blah, gay men obs… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/05/26 04:51 AM |
| 3 | I have noticed that the phrase "not all men" is mostly used by Feminists to say "not all men... but ALWAYS a man/mostly men"Honestly I can't even read anything on it because my blood will boil so badly I'll be incapacitated for some time and I can't afford that as I have a house to take care of. I had a lot of health issues when I was smaller and being mutilated at some point, allegedly shortly after birth, was a contributing factor, even if it took me a few decades to realize that's why I hurt so much when I was smaller. I'm not the best at English (autism, head injuries, PTSD, blah blah blah) but I was referring to… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/26 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Talk about emotional labor and unpaid labor is helping capitalistsI really really love this comment, it reminds me of "enshittification" sort of things even outside of platforms. Decaying the value of community, family, so on, in favor of something supplied by a service or a manufacturer. Easier for the people dominating the show to set the terms and conditions. Even outside of those systems, people are encouraged to apply similar principles, almost like some viral trend taken too far. Some of us here didn't have very nice families or communities (myself for s… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/26 08:40 PM |
| 2 | I have noticed that the phrase "not all men" is mostly used by Feminists to say "not all men... but ALWAYS a man/mostly men"I think it would be far more comparable to "no penis, no opinion" on matters of male genital mutilation. As abortion-related issues are not the only women's rights issues, nor are male genital mutilation-related issues the only men's rights issues. Attempts to coerce silent support for movements in general by gatekeeping such issues is just raising a bunch of footsoldi- I'm sorry, let me be more accurate: raising a bunch of meatshields. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/26 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Autistic man mistreated, and a "feminist" group mocked it and muted me for respectful disagreement.I'll admit I haven't done a great deal of reading on the topic, but isn't the term "toxic masculinity" tied to the mythopoetic men's movement? I'm pretty sure the term was appropriated by hegemonic feminists and their propaganda arms, much like incel was, as it was originally a gender-neutral self-identification (clarifying for visitors who don't already know that). I consider the misuse of these terms to be nothing less than subcultural appropriation, and for the detriment of said subcultures r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/26 07:06 PM |
| 8 | The Male Loneliness Epidemic And The Homeless: Similar DiscourseAbsolutely, and let's also keep in mind that loss of social support systems (male loneliness is more than just not having a GF, no matter how people may spin it. I had no time in my life when I was more lonely than when I was living as a man, was married, and had my friends selected for me and all my old friendships that were not approved sabotaged by her and her friends, and could not speak out against it for safety reasons...anecdotal, but still) increases risk factors for homelessness, direct… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/26 06:51 PM |
| 9 | The Male Loneliness Epidemic And The Homeless: Similar DiscourseOh my gods, the parts about "shopping malls, suburban sprawl"..."dirty city slickers who things everyone lives how they live"...dammit I can't stop smiling...you absolutely nailed it! I think about this so often (also the lazy "blame it on capitalism and leave it at that" vs how you are looking at the ways it presents or even how it intersects with other factors...the terms are escaping me right now) I will often say in my personal life that this "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" BS comes fr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/26 05:35 PM |
| 3 | A study done on 361,645 job applications in almost 30 countries over the last 40 years discovered the hiring bias in society is actually against MEN, not women.It was a great study to post, thank you! I'm not really "science-minded", but we need more articles like this (we as LWMA's and we as society as a whole) So much of what we are up against is either "vibes as facts" or "twist/cherry-pick facts to suit the vibes". | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/05/26 06:14 PM |
| 3 | A study done on 361,645 job applications in almost 30 countries over the last 40 years discovered the hiring bias in society is actually against MEN, not women.Read this article yesterday and I was not surprised by the results, but also glad a study on it was done. Hegemonic feminist narratives don't seem to account for bias against men in woman-dominated workplaces, which I find troubling as so many people report (here, as well as anecdotally from people I know face-to-face) that many jobs tend to treat people as replaceable and disposable, and bias against men in woman-dominated jobs therefore becomes a huge risk when a man has rent to pay and needs … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/05/26 05:03 PM |
| 3 | My thoughts on how feminism is especially damaging to leftist menOf course! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/05/26 07:08 PM |
| 6 | My thoughts on how feminism is especially damaging to leftist menI apologize for the slow response, I was at work! And you articulated this very well, and I agree with a lot of it. I wouldn't even say an "awakening" for me, there's more to it than that. As much as I resist boxing things into a category of "this is masculine, this is feminine" for people outside of myself and even for myself up until a few years ago, I've always been "feminine-brained". As far as in my early teens, I daydreamed about becoming a mom, carrying my babies and raising them and all … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/05/26 07:02 PM |
| 18 | My thoughts on how feminism is especially damaging to leftist menIt's not my place to speak for other trans women, but your question isn't transphobic to me. I ask myself that question regarding myself very often, and I can't say it's a 100% no in my case. On reflection, I believe being genitally mutilated at a young age also contributed, I'm missing the first 6 years or so and a lot of the rest is murky, but I remember lots of pain, infections of some sort, but no doctor visits. Always felt disconnected from my body. I didn't understand anything about MGM un… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/05/26 12:32 AM |
| 6 | Why men don't go to therapyAnother example of "Great job making this about you/your ideology". If the system has some parts that already work for some people and some parts that don't work for other people, why not fix the parts that don't work and try to make things better for everybody? I think a lot of people would get behind that? Or you could keep people at each other's throats and people dying needlessly, dying unheard, dying mocked and blamed. I guess that option is more gratifying or whatever... | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/05/26 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Child marriage happens to boys but they ignore itAt least there is consistency between outcry (or lack of outcry) when internationally recognized governments and non-state actors do it! It's not good, but it's consistent. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/05/26 02:29 PM |
| 18 | Child marriage happens to boys but they ignore itThis is what pushes me into maximum rage: hearing about "women and girls" when people are being activists, for whatever reason, about how bad things are in Afghanistan. I don't give a shit if this is how they get people to be on board for caring about what happens in Afghanistan. Be inclusive from the start or I will not listen! Otherwise I'm just going to assume the usual: their activism will turn a blind eye to victims of bacha bazi and male victims in general. Policies of US occupation forces… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/26 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Why men don't go to therapyGods, yes! Whether I'm trying to go for killcam finishers or furnishing my house, it's the perfect game for somebody like me who is sometimes intensely serene, sometimes intensely bubbly, but always so enraged under my skin that I wouldn't have been shocked to have died on my own and not from suicide. It's kind of ironic that a panacea like therapy fails so badly for so many of us and "dumb fixes" like a game from 2011 work so amazingly! (I'm using panacea in both the original sense and as a cri… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/26 08:48 PM |
| 24 | Why men don't go to therapyIt's the modern version of "you need to talk to someone you love and get help" (bonus points if you hear it from one of your "besties" or your then-spouse, I don't remember which it was, memory is so bad). I've had two great therapists and the rest made me feel like "what am I even doing here?" Lost both great ones due to factors beyond my control. Been without therapy for a few months. I'm pretty good because I stay busy, and when I'm even more angry than usual I'll boot up Skyrim (it calms me.… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/05/26 07:19 PM |
| 34 | Can we stop pretending men aren't indoctrinated by the exact same system as everyone else?Real progress can only happen when we admit that the same system that produces misogyny in people of any gender also produces misandry in people of any gender, that it is not a competition because both forms of prejudice have the results of needless suffering and death, and that attacking systemic injustices against women without attacking systemic injustices against men doesn't even deserve to be called a half-done job because it is an outright failure to do what is right! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/05/26 05:25 AM |
| 5 | Why is SA and rape not so traumatizing for men as it is women?I'm going to give you my trans woman opinion (I am legally non-binary, I haven't even started hormone therapy yet due to my medical coverage being screwed up), I am a victim of female-on-assumed-male marital rape. It wasn't so traumatizing for me because it wasn't allowed to be. Getting raped while I was trying to sleep couldn't bother me because what was I going to do? I had to go to work the next morning, and most of the money I took home didn't go to me. I was getting financially screwed and … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/05/26 01:08 PM |
| 6 | This was in my School’s Library Social Justice sectionI love doing this: swap the genders. Is it still acceptable to say? If not, then it's not acceptable to say before the gender swap. Watch the mental gymnastics ensue. I don't think egalitarianism is unpopular because it's ineffective, I think it's unpopular because it's too radical. I'm not going to elaborate because my brain is fried from running errands and it barely works anyways. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/05/26 03:57 AM |
| 5 | This was in my School’s Library Social Justice sectionAnd if I'm understanding these people correctly, that characteristics assign people a place on a hierarchy of oppression in a rigid sense, rather than a framework of "these are ways in which a person MAY be discriminated against or placed at higher risk of discrimination". Even when used as a means to claim higher status in the victimhood hierarchy, it is an act of dehumanization. It reduces individuals to generalizations. And it is applied in a manner than creates competition and dismissal of v… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 06:22 PM |
| 4 | Man I still can’t believe how acceptable misandry isI think that people might say "they're probably bots" to feel better about the world? Like, as a way to process anxiety over "there really are that many people with such horrible opinions?" I feel better when I tell myself "no, most of these are real people who are really typing out this garbage". Better, because it doesn't create a convenient off-ramp for the severity of misandry and the need to combat it. Blaming Chinese and Russian bots for damn near everything is such an excuse and reeks of … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 04:48 PM |
| 8 | This was in my School’s Library Social Justice sectionI mean, when they are making statements about men as a group, they are by default including Black, Native and Hispanic men. I also take issue with making statements about "white cishet men" as a group, as I'm not even positive how they define "white" or if there is a set definition. History, including recent history and even current events is/are full of examples of people with lighter skin slaughtering people with lighter skin over ethnic hatred and nationalistic fervor (Generalplan Ost, just a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 04:20 PM |
| 17 | This was in my School’s Library Social Justice section"What is better- to be born good, or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?" -Paarthurnax, Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim In this aspect, too many progressives aren't even making an effort to overcome our human nature, they are proud of their misandry, and they are enjoying it! But that we are here choosing to make the effort to combat misandry, even if it costs us, really says something. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 02:20 PM |
| 3 | On incels.Deviant is an excellent word, I appreciate your comment! The usage of the word really reinforces the existence of a moral hierarchy in society. I also really appreciate that you link "deviance" not just to actions but also appearance/states of being, including appearance/states of being that aren't even the "deviant's" fault! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 01:12 AM |
| 6 | On HasanHaving been homeless for a few months after relocating a couple thousand miles for safety reasons (I don't want to say anything further on that) and living in a city with a pretty large homeless population, I wanted to say that while I wasn't sleeping rough (we were in an encampment run by an agency for the most part, I found it to be very safe), I feel really bad for the people who are sleeping rough and wandering around the streets were we live now, high and shouting randomly, often at nobody … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 12:48 AM |
| 3 | What's the point of the title of this subIs the repealing of Roe Vs Wade a result of patriarchy, or a result of a combination of Christian nationalism, conservative values in the US in general, anxieties by MAGA-aligned voters over the ethnic/religious composition of the US, and the unfortunate prominence of the "Great Replacement" lie? I think it would be a mistake to view the repealing of Roe Vs Wade as solely an attack on women by men. Taken with everything else going on in this country, I believe all these policies revolving around… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/05/26 12:28 AM |
| 5 | On HasanOh I hope they resist, I hope they win and I hope it embarrasses the government and everybody who acted like "why are you making such a big deal about it? You have nothing to worry about!" | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 11:10 PM |
| 4 | On HasanI think of the phrase "women are human beings, men are human doings". Not in the sense of "men get things done", but in the sense of "you have claim to being a man only if you get things done". And that, here in the USA at least, we seem so apprehensive of saying or even implying "a real women does this", yet "a real man does this" is outright stated or heavily implied so frequently and with such weight! (I am against both statements and I wish more people were!) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 11:06 PM |
| 3 | On HasanOf course, I totally get that the idealized version of communism is a bit of a daydream! And having been in a doomsday cult, I am scared shitless of any behavior on the part of others, and especially of myself, that "you're trying to recruit people for an end-of-days militia, aren't you? We know." I like to add in some flavors of anarchist and/or communist stuff in the way I handle some things on a small scale, but is it feasible on a large scale? I don't think it is. And I don't trust my fellow… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 11:01 PM |
| 1 | On HasanI agree that "toxic masculinity" is mainly something men do to themselves and other men (but I also want to stress that it is something societal norms incentivize men to do to themselves and other men). In the sense of "poisoning themselves" to make themselves more useful or tolerable to what society dictates that a man is measured by. The lie that masculinity is only sacred if it is useful to others, and not sacred simply for itself. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 10:48 PM |
| 10 | On HasanThat is why "they haven't called up the draft since Vietnam!" doesn't fly with me. If the government is not going to use the draft and it's "nothing to worry about", then bury it in the ground for good! Oh, but "it'll save the government money". Did they seriously think we wouldn't notice? That we wouldn't take it seriously? Especially with what I'm hearing about China's plans for Taiwan in the next few years? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 10:42 PM |
| 8 | On HasanTo add to "I'm not saying that this is 100% universal and poor men are without faults", I favor looking at things from the angle of "poor men may be prone to making bad choices or, more often, pushed into making bad choices from desperation, falling into criminality, drug abuse, so on, so what can be done to reduce these risk factors?" The same with pushing harmful narratives about "what it means to be a man". I get a strong feeling (for whatever a feeling is worth) that a lot of this is downstr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 10:34 PM |
| 4 | On HasanRegarding the first paragraph, I dislike the authoritarian tendencies of communism. I consider myself more anarcho-communist leaning. And I also agree on "based in their aptitude rather than their willingness to risk injury or death". I don't speak English the best, and am bad at explaining things. Do a task or perform a role because you are good at it/because you enjoy it, not because society says you're not a man if you don't. On toxic femininity? I'm a trans woman so I probably shouldn't say … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 10:24 PM |
| 15 | On HasanI also question that these narratives, even if men push them, originate from men, whether individual men or men as a group. And even if they come from individual men or men as a group, I think a lot of these thoughts are rooted in a desire to be "socially acceptable". Not simply to "control other men", but to avoid making oneself a target for not upholding "proper social norms." I think a large part of this ties into male disposability (including being disposed while continuing to be alive). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 10:08 PM |
| 4 | On HasanI totally agree. And I'm tired of the "evolutionary" side of explaining away societal flaws. A key marker of our species is that, at this stage in our evolution, we have civilization. That is why I reject bioessentialist arguments. I also believe that if men must be forced (directly or indirectly, both are unacceptable to me) to defend that society on the basis of his gender and assumptions made about him because of his gender and not his skills, his willingness, or his desire or need for safety… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 10:00 PM |
| 4 | On HasanI'm a firm believer in "from each according to their ability, to each according to their need", if not feasible on a large scale societal sense (I am prone to being both an idealist and a pessimist), then perhaps feasible within our personal lives? Provided that "ability" is decided by the individual rather than dictated by society, and to what degree an individuals choice is influenced by expectations of society in whole (that's an entire discussion in itself, and honestly I'm not smart enough … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 09:47 PM |
| 6 | Man I still can’t believe how acceptable misandry isRegarding the first paragraph of your comment, this reads as a textbook example of "how to wage a forever war", and this forever war will ensure there is always an oligarchy of some sort at the top. No war but class war! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 03:22 AM |
| 6 | Man I still can’t believe how acceptable misandry isI think doing everything within our power to stand against misandry, and to push back against it, is one of the most leftist things people can do right now. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/05/26 03:01 AM |
| 5 | On incels.Very much agree on this, it is very similar to how we who have been in LGBT+ spaces are told not to assume peoples gender, and to maybe ask first. Incel is a means of self-identification, it doesn't specifically refer to adherence to a set ideology or political orientation. It doesn't even refer to a specific gender (personal experience, I will say no more, but not talking about myself). It's used as a misandrist "gotcha" instead, a way to paint people as the "violent male Other", a way to shut … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/05/26 07:09 PM |
| 8 | On incels.I refer to this as (I'm sure I heard it from somebody else but I have horrible memory) "fear of the violent* male Other" violent as in "you seem different, I will treat you seeming different as a threat rather than try to understand you." While mainly a theory on my part (I'm bad at reading and get overwhelmed easily), I believe that even if the push for (and really the "need" for) "violent male Others that we must fear" predates the existence of modern capitalist nations, these certainly exploi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/05/26 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Genuinely curious where women get the idea men sexually assault men more than womenDamn, I hope things are going better for you. I can't say much more besides what's gonna come off as empty platitudes (I hate those). This is my take: even when I could pin down all the evidence I needed that these people were wrong about anything, and held onto that information for years (mostly inside my skull), there was always the creeping, searching, then grappling doubt of "what if the Devil gave me all that evidence that I read, even from the groups own sources, or he manipulated it in so… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/05/26 02:10 AM |
| 8 | Genuinely curious where women get the idea men sexually assault men more than womenI had a long day and I really don't want to start stoking the fires of my conspiratory thinking (I try really really hard to be rational but I screw that up a lot): I think at least some of these people want men to be full of doubt, to lose confidence, to be more malleable to conditioning. To feel the "need" to be led so as to be "good and acceptable". I was raised a Christian fundamentalist (in from birth, not like I was allowed to choose, and they scare you into staying. I left very quietly). … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/05/26 01:00 AM |
| 10 | How do you other queer LWMA's connect with other LGBTQ people without risking exposure to missndry?I'm gonna try to be brief because I have errands to run: As a trans woman who is also a metalhead, wearing a bright green shirt at a metal concert doesn't make you a POS. Wearing the same Manilla Road or Imperium Dekadenz shirt as me doesn't mean you're not a POS. In group signaling can rapidly become just as desperate and repulsive to me as virtue signaling. Walk the walk and talk the talk to be "one of us" doesn't matter if the walking and talking in question is hateful/harmful behavior. Maybe… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/05/26 05:56 PM |
| 14 | How do you other queer LWMA's connect with other LGBTQ people without risking exposure to missndry?"I don't get the point of connecting with people exclusively on "personality/sexuality differing from social norms."" And there it is! I just had to comment on this as soon as I saw it. That resonated with me so hard. Just because I'm a trans woman doesn't mean I'm automatically going to get along with all or even most trans women, as I don't automatically get along with all or even most people in general. I don't think this is always intentional (but sometimes it so obviously is), but in being … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/05/26 04:11 PM |
| 3 | How do you other queer LWMA's connect with other LGBTQ people without risking exposure to missndry?As far as LGBT+ online spaces go (when I go outside, I am either alone or with my partner, I am not social and have little desire to be) I have given up on them, there is just too much misandry. I will also say that the more "out" I am and the more I feel like the woman I always was, the more I feel I have in common with the men who have had similar experiences as me. I haven't had a nice life, but joining various LGBT+ groups online and getting hit with misandry (even if it wasn't directed at m… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/05/26 03:47 PM |
| 7 | The 'Pill' people and internet macho-posturers hold back/are counterproductive to opposition to feminist misandry and/or critique of feminismAs far as clogging the airwaves and wasting space, that's my main issue with "gender wars" stuff in general, from any gender and any political ideology. Especially short-form content type of stuff seems designed to chase away accurate commentary, nuance, and civil discussion. Besides short-form content, I've noticed that a lot of social/political issues in online spaces have a "policy" of "no news is really really bad news". And extreme grabs attention like nothing else. I wish it weren't so. As… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/04/26 04:21 AM |
| 4 | Quote of the Day: Karen StraughanMale children are often tormented into submission by tyrannical parents would have been such an improvement. "Tyrannical fathers" set me off. I'm not the only person I know who had both parental figures act as tyrants, jailers, and stalkers. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/04/26 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Quote of the Day: Karen Straughan"Unfortunately even when you walk on eggshells with your words, it feels impossible to not activate ppl's personal vendettas" I take that as victim blaming, I mean that when I say that, and I will not apologize for saying that. And I'm not going to go into detail on my past, there is too much that happened and I don't care to talk about it right now. Advocacy for men and boys (including, among other things, domestic violence shelters for men and boys) would have helped me (and so many others) ha… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/04/26 02:51 AM |
| 4 | The popularity of low effort bioessentialist retorts and responses among online feminists; is anyone else noticing this?And George Floyd was murdered by male police officers. All of a sudden, it seems a problematic thing to say, doesn't it? (Perhaps lazy on my part, just the first one that came to my mind) Low effort retort, yes, but these erode solidarity, especially if people will pounce on you to defend these low effort retorts (bonus points if they call you every name in the book) At which point it becomes, "what are you even trying to accomplish?" (I ask to both those who post these low effort retorts and th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/04/26 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Some people seem really angry that "62 million men are in a rape academy" is incorrect.I just had the thought this morning that this is so similar to another tactic (here in the US at least) that MAGA and adjacent groups use to demonize trans people and LGBT people in general. And people need to consider the obvious risks. While MAGA is no friend to men in general (despite what both their advocates and their detractors may insist), this propaganda against men as a group risks further endangering men as it is. Just look at MAGA's claims against immigrants, especially immigrant men,… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/04/26 07:13 PM |
| 1 | "Women and children. Why in the hell do men not matter. It is okay for men to be hurt. Like what the hell."I'm a few days late to this, I was trying to think of how to word this, as I have seen "women and girls" used on social media (especially by Westerners) to call attention to the situation in Afghanistan following the Taliban takeover. I'm just going to be blunt: It's 20-fucking-26. You have the internet. You can find lots of information on the internet. If you are freaking out over Afghanistan and you are not freaking out over male victims of bacha bazi, what the fuck are you even doing? I say t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/04/26 04:29 PM |
| 8 | The 62 million stat is the newest demonize men psyop.It is amazing to me, but sadly not surprising, that among people who speak up on behalf of marginalized groups, our marginalized group (men/AMAB rape victims) gets left behind so badly, and so intentionally. And that statement that "that's bad, but doesn't happen much so we don't need to focus on it" needs to be called out for what it is: rape apologia. I have heard those words, said that way or close to it, too many times and especially to my face. And for the record, I was a victim of "sleep r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/04/26 04:01 PM |
| 38 | The 62 million stat is the newest demonize men psyop.Ask these people if the number of women who rape men is "too many, it should be zero". Ask these people if the number of women who rape other women is "too many, it should be zero". Ask these people if the number of infants who die from having their genitals mutilated is "too many, it should be zero". Ask these people if the number of men who are raped while detained for being "suspected" terrorists/criminals, which often means "yeah, you're a terrorist/criminal because we said so" is "too many,… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 18/04/26 08:51 PM |
| 2 | DIY Circumcisions: This has to stopI am going to show you how insane this really is. I am a trans woman. I was mutilated as an infant, because I was born in a male body and that was "just how things are done". Hearing my misandrist mother telling me years later, overjoyed, how "oh, you screamed so loud, you were in so much pain, hahaha" (I don't speak to her anymore, and it has very little to do with me being trans). I don't know if having my bodily autonomy sliced up and bloodied caused all of the pain and discomfort I experienc… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/04/26 05:07 AM |
| 16 | A lot of feminist identifying women are red-pillers when it comes to male gender roles.I see no difference between "you have an obligation to sacrifice yourself for the king/for your god" and "you have an obligation to sacrifice yourself for women". I don't mean sacrifice in the sense of throwing your life away either, though that is often the connotation. Sacrifice as in "submitting to a cause greater than yourself", to your "betters", because they said so. Come to think of it, that is throwing your life away, just without immediate death. I shouldn't speak on this as I am a tran… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/04/26 05:12 PM |
| 7 | Feminism is a mask-wearing Cluster B ideologyRegarding "if you bring men's issues, you're trying to blame women." I go back to times I've been told that mentioning being put through marital rape, having my needs neglected (primarily financial abuse, some medical neglect) and well as a pretty serious case of woman-on-pretending-to-be-male workplace physical (and sexual) assault is "making this about myself", when I don't want this to happen to anybody, even if I'm trapped in male body. There are generally two ways this can go. Path one: "It… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/04/26 03:57 AM |
| 14 | Feminism is a mask-wearing Cluster B ideologyHaving been born into a "Christian" fundamentalist cult, I'm more and more alarmed by how these people talk exactly like them. They basically do this "the worst of us is better than the best of the outsiders" and "oopsie! They screwed up? We will just say they were never one of ours!" I'm noticing this more and more with online leftist groups in general (especially leftist LGBT+ groups), to the point where I don't bother anymore, it's too exhausting and I didn't finally physically remove myself … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/04/26 02:58 AM |
| 8 | Debate over the term "sexism"I am, and thank you. We have been divorced for a number of years. I ultimately moved from one side of the country to another for safety purposes, and not even for my own (non-trans woman perp, won't say much more). Coming out kind of just happened...opportunity presented itself, I guess. Life is better for myself and those under my care, but at unimaginable cost. Which is why I speak up when I do. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/03/26 05:24 AM |
| 18 | Debate over the term "sexism"I really, really apologize if I make you cry for saying this, but I had this discussion offline, around 2013, with the woman I was married to. That sexism does not equal misogyny, but that misogyny is a form of sexism, just as misandry is. Due to by upbringing and certain matters in which I was heavily controlled (not just by her), I had very few resources to work with to dispute matters regarding statistics and so on. I remember little of what we arrived at, other than "so maybe misandry does e… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/03/26 10:51 PM |
| 1 | False Accusations and fake empathy (for feminist guests)I apologize for the late response, but I feel the same way. That stuff is no way to win over people. Part of me believes they don't want to win over any of these people...which is so foolish given the current situation. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/03/26 11:38 PM |
| 5 | Why are post so LOOOONG in here ?I don't want to change the subject but I love that you brought up discourse on social media and how to curb it, because a lot of this gender war stuff that drives me to anger online is almost word-for-word stuff that got shoved in my face by my peers offline (that is to say, my ex-wife's friends who were the only people I was allowed to socialize with). I'm aware they were online way more than I was, when I was online at all, this was 10+ years ago, and this is just anecdotal, but I feel that wh… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/03/26 03:21 PM |
| 4 | TIL why autistic men have it so much harder indeed, while reading "The assertive woman" by Bloom/Coburn/Pearlman from 1975. Non-assertive men are interpreted in a very malicious way, further encouraging aggressive and dominant behaviours while activly punishing sensible characters.I'm not one to say, "I'm sorry that happened to you" because a lot of times it seems like empty words, so I just upvote. I'm not sure how significant typing that was for you, but it is significant for me to read this, and it stirred something inside me. I wanted to say you deserve better than that what you were given/not given, this happens to too many people, but even if it happened only to you, it still happened to one person too many. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/26 04:35 AM |
| 2 | TIL why autistic men have it so much harder indeed, while reading "The assertive woman" by Bloom/Coburn/Pearlman from 1975. Non-assertive men are interpreted in a very malicious way, further encouraging aggressive and dominant behaviours while activly punishing sensible characters.I also wanted to say that I do not know if austism was suspected or diagnosed when I was smaller (my family was against any form of mental health treatment, as well as being "anti-mental illness"), only that I was told I had been diagnosed/rediagnosed in my early 20s, but was not informed until a few years later when a health worker pulled up my files (I guess I was never given my discharge paperwork, or all of it). I didn't call what I did througout my life "masking", nor did my family teach it… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/26 03:34 AM |
| 6 | TIL why autistic men have it so much harder indeed, while reading "The assertive woman" by Bloom/Coburn/Pearlman from 1975. Non-assertive men are interpreted in a very malicious way, further encouraging aggressive and dominant behaviours while activly punishing sensible characters.Yes, and since I was expected to mask a lot (I don't care what others say. I was raised to be male and expected to mask or face severe punishment) or to not use my autism as an "excuse" or even mention it at all, I would think that indicating that I was tired, my speech slowing and becoming flatter, would give the indication that "do I not seem tired to you? Do you have everyone else run you around the county this long? You know I wake up in a panic every 20 minutes at night, right? Because I te… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/26 12:32 AM |
| 20 | TIL why autistic men have it so much harder indeed, while reading "The assertive woman" by Bloom/Coburn/Pearlman from 1975. Non-assertive men are interpreted in a very malicious way, further encouraging aggressive and dominant behaviours while activly punishing sensible characters.Diagnosed autistic for years, officially non-binary/X marker (plan to transition to woman if things line up right), I just wanted to mention this, maybe some of you can relate? When one is kind, helpful, and some people take advantage of that, the moment one starts putting their foot down (it can be an eyeroll, change in tone of voice, body language that says "I've been helping you for four hours! I need my recharge time!") all of a sudden one is "scary?" I'm sure sometimes one reminds these peo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/03/26 12:17 AM |
| 5 | Paul Eastwick, a psychologist and relationship researcher, has recently released a book promising to bust all the manosphere myths about relationships. His solution to the masculinity question? BRING BACK CHIVALRY!I am horrible at putting quotes in my comments, so I'll say this, yes, 100% the "fuck you option + time capsule scene". What makes my head hurt even more than all those sports and workplace injuries combined is, the information in the time capsule to give us our best shot to defeat this grave threat is available right now! But "nobody" wants to use it, even though/because it's our best shot! Even people on the ground level with their traumas and grievances, even if those are just fuel for their … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/03/26 10:05 PM |
| 10 | False Accusations and fake empathy (for feminist guests)Agreed. What a pathetic comic, and a pathetic message. It's far from just Trump making these false accusations, it's far from just Trump making repeated statements about that mans guilt and how he's never coming back, and saying horrible things about him at every turn. Nope, it's not a cruel system on social-media-steroids, turning up to 11 stuff that should have been nipped in the bud decades ago, it's entirely Trump, Trump, Trump! Right? Right? (CIA black sites, anyone? I seldom stop thinking … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/03/26 06:20 PM |
| 4 | Paul Eastwick, a psychologist and relationship researcher, has recently released a book promising to bust all the manosphere myths about relationships. His solution to the masculinity question? BRING BACK CHIVALRY!I am going to sound ridiculous making a pop culture referece, but whenever I think about the fight men and boys and those of us who side with them face, my mind cannot stop going back to the Mass Effect 3 "Refusal" ending "I reject all of your bullshit options, I choose the fuck you option!". Like, everybody loses, but the Reapers lose in a future cycle. I'm not calling feminists the Reapers, that's the oligarchy, the feminist institutions are probably closer to Cereberus or something (doing som… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/03/26 05:24 PM |
| 16 | Paul Eastwick, a psychologist and relationship researcher, has recently released a book promising to bust all the manosphere myths about relationships. His solution to the masculinity question? BRING BACK CHIVALRY!I'm not 100% comfortable with people who are not men defining/redefining things for men and boys, or at least, dominating the conversation (I mostly mean outside this subreddit and on other platforms). But dammit, I would love nothing more than for "healthy masculinity" to be defined as "all of these boxes you are trying to force men and boys into can go to hell!" I also wanted to add that I often get the suspicion that some people think not forcing men and boys into these boxes will lead to the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/03/26 04:51 PM |
| 15 | Question about the influence of online discourse on women's perception of danger"We don't experience these things as men". As a trans woman, I just want to say that is one of the most disgusting things I have read in some time. This spits in the face of so many men, and this spits in the face of us trans women who experienced these things when we had to pretend to be men and looked the part rather convincingly at times. But you are right about one thing, "they don't appear in your statistics". Both the situations that end well, and the ones that don't, like the threatened a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/03/26 05:57 PM |
| 7 | Questions for the sub, and hopefully something positive for you guysWell I'm gonna say this right off the bat: it was a man I never knew, JRR Tolkien, who had a huge role in my life. Beyond that, there are so many men I met in my life who had an impact. Even in the fundamentalist group I was trapped in for so long, there were men who I cared deeply for, and they for me, and we protected each other, even if it meant we had to go our own paths to keep each other safe. There were, too, men I worked with, men I stayed in homeless camps with, and one man who ensured … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/26 10:41 PM |
| 30 | For the women and non binary people on this subI am a trans woman. I was given little option but to identify as male for 30+ years. While I have substantial memory gaps and some of the things that happened to me sound too riduculous to be true, I want to make it clear that this is not about me and what I was put through while forced to live as a man (and not forced even exclusively by men, despite being trapped in a "Christian" fundamentalist group, and what's more, it was the fundamentalist women who were openly radfem who insisted on keepi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/26 04:18 PM |
| 31 | MenEngage barely bothers trying to hide the fact that they don't care about boys or men at allWhich is so fucking insulting because as a trans woman who was closeted for over 30 years, the one thing that would have helped save me from putting a blade to my throat so many nights would have would have been if mens rights were taken more seriously, especially where workplace issues and mental health issues intersect, if the Duluth Model was just erased, if DV shelters existed for men and people who had little option but to identify as male at the time. I'll say this loud and clear: I do not… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/26 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Dear Feminist Lurkers,As I am an egalitarian and oppose blanket generalizations, I will say this: I do not oppose individuals who use the term "feminist", I look at their actions. Some are uninformed, some are blinded by trauma, some only look at the positives they've been sold and don't read actual history or viewpoints outside their echo chambers. These individuals may not be my enemy, but the enemy of my enemy is not my friend, especially not if they are causing harm- intentional harm- to those who are supposedly … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/02/26 05:09 AM |
| -3 | “Dress better, go to bars...”As a trans woman: why do these clowns stomp on the working class, especially neurodivergent working-class men/people they assume are men? The number of them calling themselves "queens" and "goddesses" is a dead giveaway. I have zero desire to rule or dominate others. Neither will I serve fools such as these. That short-term high is causing long-term and severe harm for us all, and I'm sick of it. Edit: noting that there is battle slavery of Iranian men who, here in the USA, would be counted as m… | /r/MensRights | 09/02/26 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Could the Epstein files trigger a new #MeToo style backlashThere is at least one teenage boy who has come forward as of 2021, I would need to search further if any others have come forward. But one is too many, this is my stance towards girls and my stance towards boys, and any other gender identity of any other victimized minor. So yes, you are erasing male suffering. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 11:56 PM |
| 4 | Could the Epstein files trigger a new #MeToo style backlashIts the same as the whole "the USA becoming Christian nationalist is going to do to women and girls what the Taliban did to them!" and completely ignores bacha bazi and the boys victimized by that awful practice. Seriously, I almost never hear it get brought up outside of these spaces, and I've known about it for years. I'm aware the practice predates the Taliban by a massive amount of time. I'm aware they said they were against the practice, and that it was said to be part of the motivation for… | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 09:02 PM |
| 8 | I'm gay and genuinely tired of misandryTrans woman here and I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut for now because there is too much rage bottled up inside me and its too early in the morning for that, I have errands to run, a house to clean. But this whole discussion here, wow, I thought I was insane for seeing what I was seeing even before I openly identified myself as trans. Thank you all so much for speaking up. This is very important, and so too for those who cannot safely speak up yet but need to know people like you here do exist. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Could the Epstein files trigger a new #MeToo style backlashI believe this will lead to a second, and even more intense MeToo that will likely, once again, ignore, minimize, and erase woman and girls who are victims of women (nothing new here), men and boys who are victims of women (nothing new here) and of course, men and boys who are victims of men (unless its as a "patriarchy hurts men too!" as a gotcha and never gets discussed beyond that, or as a "see how evil they are, they even abuse males!" which then never gets discussed beyond that). Of course … | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 03:37 PM |
| 6 | To Advocate for Women, you must Equally Advocate for Men.I'm not sure what to say other than, thank you! And, I want to keep this as brief as I can: equally advocating for men is also advocating for us trans women! I can't speak for all trans women but...I couldn't come out until the time was right. A little advocacy for men would have helped me so much. Yes, I was raised (coerced) as a Christian fundamentalist. Yes, they were often brutal to boys and young men, as they often were to girls and young women. Yes, these people had an unoffical and super … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/26 10:41 PM |
| 1 | The claim that "if you want equal rights then you are a feminist" is wrong and the actual word is egalitarianism.Oh my gods, thank you in particular for that last paragraph. Quite a few things I've noticed, between the L being in front of the G, trans men being largely invisible/sidelined in much LGBT+ stuff I've seen, and more than a few trans women who I've seen having a particularly obnoxious take on feminism (usually 4th wave), has led me to the conclusion that feminism's grasp on LGBT+ circles is for the purpose of using us as a fresh source of meatshields, especially as its become so much more obviou… | /r/MensRights | 01/02/26 05:41 PM |
| 11 | If we can’t get people to agree abusing men is bad for their health, we have a long road aheadJust to add something (I am AMAB, I don't have a very "masculine" body and never did, so maybe this is to be taken into account), I never hear this getting talked about, especially offline, and if my suspicions are correct, exposes a huge flaw in the "men are stronger" arguement: do people take into account that a man, especially one with, say, PTSD, might freeze up and be unable to defend himself until he unfreezes, potentially leading to worse injuries than if he did not freeze up and had bett… | /r/MensRights | 31/01/26 08:06 AM |
| 22 | Question for the women who are on this sub and support it.I am a trans woman. I am not going to make this a long sob story, but I am so deeply traumatized by the things forced on me because of who I was assumed to be when I had little say to be anything besides what was forced upon me (including/especially by women). And I know many men who have been victimized, traumatized, and died who are silenced if not outright erased at all stages of their suffering. I am outraged by what I have witnessed. I know there is little I can do, I'm just one weirdo. But… | /r/MensRights | 23/01/26 08:54 PM |
| 2 | We Need Men (and heres what that actually means)I did read them. I still stand by what I said, not just to you, but to anybody else who sees your post and takes what you said for what it comes across as, or gets any ideas to use these sorts of "civil discussions" as a beachead for further inroads/attacks (I am not speaking specifically about you, but have seen others do this). For context, I am also diagnosed autistic, and have been diagnosed as such for many years. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/01/26 04:50 PM |
| 2 | We Need Men (and heres what that actually means)I know it's annoying to see my introductions identifying who I am but here we go: Trans woman here. Those of us who are not men, or had to live as men while being unable to identify as male at all (nothing to do with assumptions about traditional/stereotypical masculinity, rather whether we can see ourselves as the general label of "man" at all) are not entitled to tell men how to live their lives. I believe any blueprint for "positive masculinity" must be entirely left in the hands of men: a gr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/01/26 04:17 PM |
| 9 | A Man’s Right To Have A Say Without Moderation by FeministsThis is a bit of a tangent, but I wanted to note that just because it is the woman who goes through the hardship of childbirth, does not give her the right to ruin that childs life by being an abusive monster, whether that child dies by her hands early in life, gives in to despair in teenage years, or becomes a hateful husk of a person as an adult. Just because the mother is the one "doing all the work" doesn't make her inherently virtuous or deserving of being shielded from criticism for what i… | /r/MensRights | 15/01/26 12:18 AM |
| 1 | I'm so tired of male victims of women being tone-policedTrans woman here. Masked as a man for over three decades. I'm only going to share one thing here, I have seen too much. My post history shows marital rape (by a woman), workplace SA (very public), and a host of other things. I will speak on one thing. To make a long story short, I was working a low paying job just to get out of the house (was living with parents again) and my supervisor started yelling at me. I said "whatever" and she got up in my face and snarled at me with a finger in my face … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/01/26 08:30 AM |
| 2 | Has misandry ruined the left?Dropping in to add to what you stated, "doesn't it make sense to try to get as many of them on side as possible?" Gatekeeping victimhood in SA, for instance, was completely mishandled. The belief that people of all genders would band together in the fight to stamp out SA while simultaneously silencing male/AMAB victims, minimizing or hiding woman perps, and pushing narratives and thought-terminating cliches that treated victims like perps on the basis of gender/assumed gender was bound to backfi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 02/01/26 10:13 PM |
| 9 | Misandry and anti-masculinity in queer and trans spacesI'm just here to add that it seems any form of discrimination or persecution LGBT+ people face is virtually always traced back to "misogyny", no matter what mental gynastics one must pull off to reach that conclusion. I am not sure if these people had even heard of "Othering". I have noticed in the handful of communities I was in and then left, a person is "Othered" for displaying even masculine-coded traits or speech, save the select few who are granted permission to do so. Denial of misandry, … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/12/25 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Misandry and anti-masculinity in queer and trans spacesThank you. Was typing out a longer response, but it's me trying to rationalize my excuses and fears. I appreciate what you've said, and I agree with you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/12/25 07:26 AM |
| 9 | Misandry and anti-masculinity in queer and trans spacesThank you. I am safe right now. I have lurked here on and off for quite some time, even when I didn't have an account. You people seem to be the ones who "get it", at least, "get me". The saying "men are human doings rather than human beings" has such an impact on me as a trans woman. It was my job to serve others, to handle peoples problems, to sleep on the couch with my boots on so I could be out the door in ten seconds when somebody was having a hard time. I was granted personhood only when i… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/12/25 06:50 AM |
| 20 | Misandry and anti-masculinity in queer and trans spacesAMAB nonbinary person here (mentally I'm completely feminine, I am nonbinary because I am not getting bottom surgery because I don't even like having a body, the damage from living as a man under coercion and the ill treatment it entails, especially from women, led me to dehumanizing myself to make things easier because thats what the majority of people did anyways, especially offline) I mostly stay away from those spaces because the misandry is too much. Multiple workplace SA's by women, abusiv… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 30/12/25 06:37 AM |
| 8 | "you're ignoring the context in which we say this" exactlyThat "not all men but always a man!" thing pisses me off to no end. Take it from a woman trapped in a male-ish body thats doesn't make sense in some ways, made to live as a man for years and to listen to this feminist crap while trapped in a highly conservative Christian group and being given orders on the night before my (arranged) marriage that as a man it was my duty to submit to marital rape, which did ultimately happen (she was a feminist by the way), not being able to tell her I had been p… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/12/25 06:36 PM |
| 3 | I'm new to this sub and want some confirmationsFirst time posting here, hope it stays up, I am an AMAB pretty-much trans woman, and I agree so much with what you are saying. I won't go into detail regarding my experiences, but the narrative pushed by feminists has caused significant harm to myself and others in my life, both through action and inaction, and I am not talking about what happens online. I am not here just because fighting for the rights of men helps everybody in the long run, including trans women who have not had the chance to… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/12/25 04:54 AM |
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