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Any man telling you that men don't care about your job or degree has neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:57 PM
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What's your level of education?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:52 PM
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Military and police. Lawyers. Surgeons. Any job that requires traveling constantly. Artists of any kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:45 PM
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I have no clue and I don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 09:39 PM
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Why is this sub so obsessed with autism? Is obvious that lacking social skills, missing subtle cues and low empathy is going to seriously affect dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:57 PM
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Of course. I have nothing to hide, I don't mind my partner knowing where I am. Sometimes we share the location with eachother to see when are we coming from work home. That way food can be ready and warm when the other arrives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:38 PM
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I think you're personality disordered.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:46 PM
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I'm not saying successful women don't exist. None of these women call themselves "boss babes". These women are still women outside work. Why are ambitious women called boss babes and ambitious men are just that, driven people? Plus, this scenario is completely made up because the men who don't want the "boss babes" are way below their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:01 PM
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When men say they don't care about a woman's education or career, it's because they have neither. The boss babe woman is a mythological creature created by terminally online men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:47 PM
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Yes. There's no way on earth I'm taking care of someone else's kid. I don't want to deal with baby mother. And I want to have kids of my own, so I want that our kids are also his first children. I want my future children and I to be his first priority. That's simply not possible if he already has a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:50 AM
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A classic example of this would be any man preaching that he doesn't care about a woman's career and education, probably has neither. Highly educated and high earning men, or even those who come from family money, date other highly educated women, not the sexy cashier. Men claiming otherwise, as most red pilled men do, just show how clueless they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 12:49 PM
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Link? I didn't find the post, I'm interested :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:14 AM
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True. When I say there's no benefit, I meant for women. For most people, being promiscuous is just a phase and not a permanent lifestyle choice. But being against hookup culture it's not only about being wary of promiscuity. It's also going against the idea that monogamy is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:12 AM
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There's no benefit. Casual sex is usually subpar sex. I wonder how many women actually come in those encounters. What's the benefit of being like a hooker but for free? What's the point of being objectified by men who don't care about you? Even if they care somehow, they don't know you, so they can't please you like an stable partner can. The sexual revolution is the biggest scam. Be an empowered woman! But always through the male gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 05:31 AM
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That has been my experience too. I have never been "pumped and dumped". I simply can't relate to all of these women complaining men don't want to commit. At the same time, being optionless and settling for a relationship for the consistent sex it's really not the same as committing. I only count as committing if said man is crazy in love with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 10:04 PM
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Extremely promiscuous women are also, more often than not, mentally ill too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 06:33 PM
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Consider yourself lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:20 AM
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If you're advertising as a tradwife, odds are you're also mentally ill too. So they are complementing eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 08:00 AM
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And who's fault is it? Checks notes Aaaaaaaaaa, men. Men here claim that they only care about women being hot and young. So what's the injustice about men choosing attractive women ignoring if they are mentally ill too?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:56 AM
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Not at all. Go to the amIuglybrutallyhonest sub and see how many pretty women think are ugly. Not only that, body dysmorphia and eating disorders are more prevalent in women than men, which proves that women on average have higher rates of body image dissatisfaction. I have seen only a few cases of extremely obese women rating themselves as 9. But I think they are just trying to overcompensate and cope with the general rejection they usually receive. Cheers to them. Why do you care if people you…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:55 PM
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It's obvious that when I say no one, I mean most, but I get some people have difficulty not reading things literally so yeah I could have said most instead. I'm not shitting on fat women. I'm stating the fact that most men won't be attracted to them. Being overweight or obese are diseases and they should seek proper medical help. I refuse to tell women it's perfectly okay being overweight in the name of body positivity. Same as I would do with an underweight eating didordered woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:43 PM
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You call yourself "pink pilled" and don't know that 90% of people are not attracted to fat people? Why is reality so offensive to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:29 PM
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You are coping. Tell me you are overweight without telling me you are overweight 😂 You know there's a lot of skinny women who are not severely underweight with an eating disorder, right? No one is attracted to fat people, get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 01:16 PM
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I did not day better. Men and women are valued over different things. Appearance, providing sex, conceiving doesn't make women "better". But it can be considered intrinsic value given that we don't have to work for it, every woman has those easily available "assets" while men have to work for their own. If you don't want to put any effort, that's fine, go with the cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 07:43 AM
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So true. I've observed that the men I dated were more excited about me making them feel wanted than complimenting their competence or intelligence. They already know they are somehow competent, so being valued because of it, is not so special. The sexual market already "forces" men in some ways to be competent just to have a chance. It's like in my case, I'm attractive, I'm aware of that. I'm pretty, but what more? If you only like me because I'm attractive, so do the rest of the men, you don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:27 AM
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false demand for women, There's no false demand for women. Women are always in demand because we have intrinsic value, while men are valued based on what they can do. Of course, this is an oversimplification but my point is: no one is forcing those Chads to date the "subpar" woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:15 AM
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Maybe the friend you think is below you looks wise it's actually not 🤷🏼‍♀️ I am just saying after a certain looksbase more Social skills/Money/status gives you MORE SMV then More looks. There's no denying that money/status/social skills have some influence, but if a guy is good looking, and I mean, really good looking not average, women will overlook that he has no status and still date him, specially if he's under 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 09:49 AM
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My father has taught me everything I don't want in a man. I feel so sorry for my mother, they are still together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:14 PM
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Most very promiscuous people with "very high" body counts as you self-describe have mental disorders like BPD. From my experience in college, all the girls with high body counts were fucked in the head (self-image issues, eating disorders, survivors of largely avoidable SA situations, poor choices of friends and relationships, cheaters, hard drug usage, etc) I can agree with you on that. That's usually the case. You literally seem like a caricature of who nobody wants to bring home to their pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:38 PM
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Let's not act like every unattractive woman has some sparkling personality. Let's be honest. Exactly. They are usually bitter and tend to have worse social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:43 AM
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Why do you think ugly women are going to have a better personality? You can have both, looks and personality. Most men have low standards for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:40 PM
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You can't blame men for wanting attractive women. No one wants to date an unattractive person with an amazing personality. You don't get preferential treatment for being pretty and putting on makeup. Mmm, no. That's what pretty privilege is. If you don't like pretty privilege exists, don't blame individual men for it, but the whole beauty industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:35 PM
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Or just that they had a hoe phase. It's not that deep. Most people are not perpetually living the Playboy lifestyle banging different people all the time. That was my case, I had my promiscuous phase when I was really young and "settled" down later, I'm still in my 20s and still waiting for the "consequences of fucking around" you all talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:55 PM
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Promiscuity is absolutely linked with higher libido. How can you explain that these women are having so much sex with different partners, if it's not because they want to have sex? Non promiscuous women, don't want to have sex outside of a committed relationship. Which means, that they are okay with not having sex if they don't have one. That's lower libido if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:49 PM
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My point is that men who have options are not worried about women having too much sex with them. It's always the dudes with no options who want to "punish the hoes". Where is that guy now? Happy with his new girlfriend. Or you think that because he has a high body count all of his relationship are doomed to fail?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:44 PM
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The promiscuous woman: Probably has higher libido, which is important long-term. We already know what we like. We won't have the late 20s crisis of "oh, I never went out to have fun". Experience translates to being better in bed. And it's usually not the optionless men who end up with the "hoes". If he has no options it's because he's not attractive enough for whatever reason (below average appearance, poor social skills etc). What makes you think that a promiscuous woman who has plenty of optio…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:20 PM
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Exactly. Men who are successful with women are not worried that these women are having too much sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:04 PM
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Fair point and I can see how inexperienced men can be oblivious to women flirting with them but OP's case is quite extreme. He literally stated that he fears that a woman wouldn't say no to him because she's convinced all men are rapists. I have yet to meet any woman who thinks that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:34 PM
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I didn't call you autistic. I asked you if you are autistic, edited my comment to word it better, precisely to be clear that I'm NOT insulting you. My question is genuine, because your post makes me think that you have difficulties with obvious social cues, since it's very obvious when a woman doesn't want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:57 PM
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Are you on the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 07:55 PM
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I just didn't like him. I kept postponing meeting him with excuses. I kept flaking him hoping he would break up with me first. I saw no future with him but he was an entertaining chatbot. I'm so glad I let him go, after him I met an amazing man which is my dream person and current partner 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 11:31 AM
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I can't believe I read something sound here 🥺 Couldn't agree more with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:23 PM
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Of course. It's no-brainer question.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 09:33 AM
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40k difference is not that big of a difference. In that scenario, I would go 50/50 and he pays for the dates/outings. If the difference was significant, let's say I make 60k and he makes 200k, then I would expect a 20/80 split.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:39 PM
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I'm Gen Z too and I've had the opposite experience: most couples my age met on dating apps or through Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 07:06 AM
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You sound bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:42 PM
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This is one of the most ridiculous takes I have read on here. If my partner stopped giving me attention and affection, I would fall out of love for him, eventually. In fact, most women lose interest in sex when their man stops being romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:40 PM
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Look, I have a personality disorder and I'm doing an internship in an addiction recovery center. I'm aware of how much mental health problems affect people's lives but using your first date as a therapy session, trauma dumping, is very disrespectful towards your date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:32 PM
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You should drop them real fast. I can't think of any good reason as to why someone would disclose such info to an unknown person. To me talking about your mental issues on a first date shows that: They have no boundaries. They are too lonely. They are doing it as manipulation tactic trying to rush emotional intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 10:27 PM
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Doesn't look like his pics Is way shorter than what he claimed Is against marriage Doesn't pay the first date He's not a good listener Doesn't ask questions about me Mentions their ex Is not on time for the date Doesn't have a job Smokes marihuana Refers to women as females Misogynistic remarks Overshares about their mental health problems
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:16 PM
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I'm curious as to why someone would disclose their mental issues on a first date ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:10 PM
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Women are usually worse off after divorce, not men. First, because women in general tend to choose worse paid careers. Then, you have to add that most women keep the children the majority of the time, while men get to be weekend parents. I live in a very egalitarian country in Europe and lots of men don't even pay child support or even if they do, the set amount by the judge is so low that it does not take away the financial burden for the mother. Then you have to add that a lot of women stopped…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:11 PM
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FDS preaches advice that seems very obvious: don't fuck around, don't have sex on the first date, don't date until your finances are together, don't date bums, block and delete men who are not aligned with what you want, be aware of obvious red flags and manipulation tactics. How is any of that advice toxic or detrimental? Why following those principles is seen as negative for you? But you guys are only focused on being expected to pay for the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:30 AM
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Standards like expecting oral sex but refusing to give it in return? Where did you got this? I have never read something like that in FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:23 AM
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Unconditional love only exists for pets and children. Love is always conditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:39 AM
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If you are going to stalk me, do a better job and update yourself bro
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 03:22 PM
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Exactly. There's nothing unattractive about being nice and kind. Is being weak and needy what's unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:39 AM
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Our culture has turned men into pussies... There's nothing more repulsive that weak men and only desperate women fall for those. Where did the lead, protect and provide go? "Men have to show their emotions more!" "Men have to get rid of their toxic masculinity!" "It's okay to reject gender roles, let's paint your nails 💅" The same women who preach things like that don't actually date feminine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:36 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:49 PM
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women often say that to highlight how men are losers on average to end up like that Literally no woman said this, but let's ignore it. Agreed. Men are less risk averse in general and usually more interested in entrepreneurship, and that also translates into starting shady, controversial or illegal enterprises. Women don't earn less because they are getting paid less for the exact same job. Women as a whole earn less because they tend to choose worse paid careers. As anecdotical evidence, my bach…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:00 PM
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It's not catering to men what is annoying about pick me women. It's that they feel superior to other women for being a doormat. Men here claim to love pickme's yet when they find one they abuse and degrade her. I know this by heart because I was a huge pickme in the past, and guess what brought me: being mistreated, because that's what happens when you have no boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 07:18 PM
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Completely agree. I certainly won't give kids to a man that is incapable of proving his commitment to me via marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:57 PM
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Or they are already dating one without knowing it. Most former sex workers are not going to out themselves, unless we are talking about a former famous porn actress.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 11:38 AM
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No one does sex work for validation. If an attractive woman wants stranger's validation, she can be an instamodel posting bikini pictures or jump on any dating app with sexy pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 11:35 AM
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FDS doesn't encourage anything of the things you listed. FDS encourages women to wait for sex, to not date bums, to earn your own money and reject being a SAHM, to find a good provider man etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 07:53 PM
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Move on. A month is nothing. It doesn't necessarily mean that she returned to an ex, she was probably also talking to more guys and decided she liked the other guy more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:37 AM
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The standard I expect for him is based on his previous relationships and my own desires. He has to treat me better than his previous one. Long ago, I had a fight with my boyfriend at the time because of this. We were planning vacations, and he wanted me to pay 50% of everything. While he had taken his ex to various much more expensive trips and paid everything. He claimed that "he had learnt better by now". I was very pissed because if he claimed to love me, why I was getting treated BELOW his e…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:09 AM
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Very well written.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:51 PM
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I wouldn't date a guy who is an OnlyFans subscriber, period. Given that, I don't care about how men who are not my boyfriend spend their money. I don't have anything against OF girls. Hate the game, not the player.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:48 PM
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I was a classic thot. I was promiscuous, had an Instagram ages 18-20 with sexy pictures only, I did photoshoots for Playboy photographers, I was travelling around hoeing, had an unmanaged personality disorder (BPD)... I didn't have anything going for myself. I was very depressed. My life revolved around sex and looking pretty. I know I sound like a troll given how cliché it sounds but that's how it was. I attracted the worst kind of guys during that time and I was attracted to the "bad boys". Ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 03:32 PM
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I don't seek anything because I have a partner. But I arrived here because I was interested in dating subreddits, given my repeated failures with men. I discovered FDS, and then Purple Pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:31 PM
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I'm trying to make you realize that if you're affected by what a bunch of bored people say on reddit, you are not interacting with the real world as much as you should
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 11:40 AM
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Wtf is wrong with you. Go outside and touch the real world. Nothing said here can have any impact on my mood. I don't take it that seriously, I'm here because I like to argue, not to find the ultimate gender theory lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 05:12 PM
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I tell you what men here often say to women. Which kinds of women are you dating? And how old are you? Maybe it's a you problem if you keep finding women who don't have their shit together financially. There's the public perception that women spend more, but reality is that men spend as much but typically women's purchases are seen as frivolous (beauty and fashion). Meanwhile, you have men buying expensive gaming computers or cars that are over their budget, but because it's a one time purchase …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 04:39 PM
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Makes sense but I was thinking more of anxiety than depression. If a woman has severe depression and hasn't showered in a month and doesn't have any energy to get out of the bed, obviously it's less likely that she will be accepted. It's totally valid to reject someone because of their mental illness. I wouldn't date someone with depression either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:35 AM
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Which women are going to be okay with a man that expects them to be the virgin tradwife with no other goals than popping out kids with no marriage (coz according to RP, marriage is bad for men). Certainly, it's not stable adjusted women. Women who fall for Tates are mentally ill: dependency and attachment issues, often BPD, extreme insecurities etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 10:00 AM
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BPD or dependency disorder, which is what the red pill filters for. Red pill doesn't weed out BPD/DPD women. Quite the opposite because BPD woman will make you the center of her life to an extent that no sane person would, which is exactly what many red pilled men seem to want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:07 AM
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Men are very accepting of neurodivergence, mood disorders or personality disorders if said woman is hot. I have a personality disorder, the men I have dated know it and they don't care... Because I'm attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 01:00 AM
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they enjoy paying for dates buying me gifts, not because they’re interested in money You don't want women to value you because of your money yet you value women because of their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:43 PM
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Are you kidding? Everyone needs money. And if you don't need money, your wife and kids will.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:40 PM
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I love your honesty lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:25 PM
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I don't see how it's a problem other than for cheaters. If I was man I would want to know for sure. Trust is a feeling, and feelings are not reliable. I would rather trust a test than make guesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 10:44 PM
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No way on earth. I won't take care of children that are not my own and I want my child to be his first child too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 09:34 PM
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I don't care if my child is homosexual or child-free. I think transgender people are mentally ill and I won't support my children transitioning while still a child. If they want to transition once they are adults, I would accept it despite still considering it a disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 11:26 AM
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The past always matters, but how you handled difficulty and the willingness to change also plays a big role. But there are a few past no go zones like for example: he has been a cheater in most of his relationships, has had any addiction, has DV charges etc. I wouldn't date a man with a past like that no matter how much he claims to have changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:58 PM
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I fail to see the functional difference between "sugar dating" and almost any marriage in which the man is the primary financial provider. Exactly. But those women delude themselves into thinking they are very different from sex workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:14 AM
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All men pay for sex in some way or another. The question is either if they do it directly by paying an escort, deluding themselves trough sugar dating (who are just cheap escorts) or through having a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:09 AM
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Because he thinks that if he's contributing more financially, she should compensate by doing chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:04 PM
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Outearning your wife doesn't entitle you to do less chores if she's working the same hours. What an asshole move.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:02 PM
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Assuming some basic financial stability... To me a partner is more important than my career will ever be. Sure, you can obtain a sense of self-efficacy and fullfilment through your job but personally, the highest of the highs is being with the love of your life. But of course, your relationship won't be able to give you satisfaction if you are focused on basic stuff like having a roof over your head. So, a good partner is more important than a good career. But without an okay-ish career, you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:20 PM
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I don't even think those numbers get shared anyways. I have never met a single man irl that has asked me how many sexual partners I've had or any indirect/subtle question to know the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:50 PM
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Is it because you don’t want consequence for sleeping around ? Yes, such a tragedy that redpillers don't want me because of my sexual past 😢😢😢
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:39 PM
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If you fail to realize how our preferences are not really innate and are influenced by the culture we live in, you're hopeless 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:57 PM
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There's nothing to fix on a societal level. Women who realize they are better off being in a LTR do so and stop fucking around out of their own choice. What do you expect? Lecture 17 and 18 year old girls on why casual sex is not as good as they expect?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:54 PM
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Men being repulsed by the thought of their current girlfriend having a sexual past is not "natural" aka driven by a mysterious biological urge. It's actually very congruent with our culture's narrative of women being objects that lose value each time they are "used", just like a car. We can debate if it's cultural or due to individual factors like insecurity. But there's not much evidence to support that being attracted to low N number women it's a sexual orientation just like being homosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:43 PM
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It's about the number of men they give sex to without requiring as much investment. Because at that age we don't know better. Haven't your standards changed as you gather more experience? That's why it's called hoe phase. It's a phase some women go through before they start to realize there's absolutely zero benefit in it. Most women who engage in casual sex are really young.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:30 PM
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As if there was any pleasure in being promiscuous. Most women don't even orgasm from one night stands. And I say this as someone who had their hoe phase at 18-19. Casual sex is subpar sex. They are just bitter and envious women can have as much sex if they wish to while for them it's a struggle. They are insecure and don't want to be compared to previous partners and they justify their insecurity under the guise that women who have a sexual past are more likely to cheat, which again, is nonsense…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 04:05 PM
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Yes, that's learning from past mistakes. Have you tried to really change the kind of guy that you're drawn to.....and what were the results? I was always attracted to assholes and narcissistic men but my ex was so high on narcissistic traits that I started feeling repulsed by men who can't shut up about how great they are. I decided to go for a complete opposite. My boyfriend is truly confident, 0 narcissistic, has real empathy, can listen, is securely attached and so on. I couldn't be happier a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:36 PM
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I love being stared at and random men complimenting as long as they don't approach me. I feel good about myself when men reassure me I'm attractive but at the same time, I know being attractive and being fuckable is not the same thing and men have a lower bar to what they consider attractive. So, I feel more flattered if it's an attractive guy looking at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:56 PM
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You've been playing for 2 years with the woman you're with but somehow women are to blame for dating emotionally unavailable men. Then... You look down on your own girl for being dumb by dating you for 2 years without giving her the title of a girlfriend? 🤡 Maybe you are surrounding yourself with party girls who date players like you but most of the girls I know are in LTR with good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 09:34 PM
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OP is asking about those women who find younger men appealing. Where did I say my list applies to most women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 05:21 AM
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Men don't want older women and most women don't want younger men despite them being hotter. Young men are appealing to a very specific demographic of women only.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 05:16 AM
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Yes but we are talking here about those who prefer younger men, so not sure what's your point Captain Obvious. Their subjective preference doesn't mean that 40 yo are hotter than 25 yo. Young people are objectively more attractive than older people, no matter how much you want to argue against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 05:11 AM
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Same as to why men like younger women. A 40 year old can't compete in terms of physical attractiveness with a 25 yo. Younger men are hotter. They are usually better in bed. The stamina a 25 yo has is not comparable to a 55 yo. They don't carry the drama that divorced men do, or those who have children. Hypergamy is more of a thing of the past. A 40 year old career woman already has her own money, she doesn't need to be dating for money. Who sound more appealing to a 40 yo single child free woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:25 PM
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No one is that busy to not be able to go to a date for weeks. Even if it works because she ends up going out on a date with you, that means she gave priority to other men first, and if you are not her first option, she will treat you as disposable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:56 PM
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Don't do it. I would say pushing her to reject you three times is too much. I've also seen these married couples in which the guy chased her for years, but you know what... Why would you want a woman that's settling for you? You are literally the option Z and are proud? These men need some self-respect. I only want men that would chose me as their first option, anything else is not worth it. Do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:40 PM
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Isn't that obvious? She can't be trusted with dietary choices when she let herself weight 250lbs. How do you want her to cook healthy meals for the kids when she probably has a shit diet?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:35 PM
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Because there are men desperate enough and a hole is a hole. But just because they are having sex with her doesn't mean that they want a relationship. Skinny and attractive women get pumped and dumped too or have a hard time finding guys to commit to them, so imagine when you're a woman that's unattractive. The difficulty to find a boyfriend is much higher. My male best friend regularly fucks fat women. He's a successful architect but ugly. In his own words, he fucks those women because they hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:33 PM
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I'm 23. I'm also kinda obsessive when I like someone, so 2 days would feel like 7. But I guess your way can weed out women with attachment issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:33 PM
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After just one date, it's still a person I barely know so of course I can unattach myself as quickly as that because I lose interest once someone rejects me. And disappearing for 2 days would make me feel rejected. Btw, how old are you? This seems to be like age related thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:21 PM
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It comes across as clingy and desperate Who said that? Definitely not a woman. It doesn't come as clingy, it means that you are actually interested in your date and look forward to get to know her more. If a guy pulls this shit to me and doesn't text for 2 days after a first date, he's out. And I think most women will take it as a sign that you are not that interested, hence, they will talk to other guys instead of you. And when you come back after a few days, she will not be interested anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:45 PM
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You’ve been debating whether to text her….no…you’ll leave it a day or two. Sunday morning comes, you decide to text her. “Hey, enjoyed friday, we should do it again. When are you free?” If a guy did this to me after a first date, he's out. It's literally the most important part the beginning stages of dating and you are already playing games trying to seem not interested? If a guy doesn't text me for 2 days after a first date I assume he's not interested and as you said, I have other 15 suitable…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:38 PM
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Meaning: "Give me the roadmap to fake being your best match". Never eveeeeer give a guy your list of dealbreakers. He will hide his shitty self for awhile and you will lose the opportunity to truly judge his character for who he really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:27 AM
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I laughed so much w your list because it's painfully accurate 😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:23 AM
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Flashing cash in the pictures. Just comes across as trashy and extremely cringe Or a car (that's probably not even theirs). It's so cringey. This is a really good list minus the height. I'm 5'7, I would rather avoid wasting my time by talking to a guy only to find later that he's shorter than me. But lots of men lie about their height too, which is shitty because then you see them irl and realize they are about my size.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 11:20 AM
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I don't disagree with you. I'm just mentioning the implicit gender expectations. And yeah, dating workaholics is the worst. I dated a plastic surgeon once who worked 80h per week and it was like being single. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:00 AM
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Gender expectations are not the same. If a man prioritizes his career, he's seen as ambitious and desirable by most women. But if a woman prioritizes career over nurturing the relationship or spend time with family, she will be seen as someone who can't meet the basic expectation all women have: to be the ones who create a home out of a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:58 AM
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Hobbosexual? What is that? Men who live at their mom's basement at 30 and find themselves a gf with a beautiful apartment 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:28 PM
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A successful career won't increase a woman's SMV. Men don't care as much as women do, but most do care that you have something going on for yourself, even if it's not that profitable. And if they don't care, his family surely will. I have found that the only men who care excessively about a woman's career are usually hobosexuals or men who want to go 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:23 PM
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Because lots of men don't care about past sexual history? I don't know why you take what red pilled men say on reddit as the ultimate truth. "Sluts" have no problems attracting and marrying successful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 05:40 PM
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straight up say they have a preference for older men. Older, yes. But not 15, 20 years older.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 06:42 PM
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female PPD users goes something along the lines of: "why would he choose a woman that much younger" You made this up. No woman here is asking why older men would like to get younger girls. What we question is why would a young woman choose older men. I'm in my early 20s and among all the women I know which are mostly 19-25, no one is dating or hooking up with significantly older men. We prefer guys closer to us. Hell, my boyfriend is 28 and my friends say he's too old.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 06:36 PM
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Thats blackpill. Pink Pill is the equivalent of Black Pill for women 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 06:17 PM
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Except that he wasn't coerced into paying?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:32 PM
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So you plan is to be a whore until you have a receding hairline and then have to pay for escorts? 🤡 I mean....I understand your game but most people are not psychos and they want to build meaningful relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:30 PM
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Just because you are confident doesn't mean that younger women are suddenly going to choose you over a guy closer to their age. Gaps of more than 5 years are exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:26 PM
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I see this happening over and over again. And dead bedroom is the future that awaits to all the men in their 30s who are now attracting women only because they are financially stable. These women would have never looked their way if they weren't established, so they have lower libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:23 PM
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Pink Pill is just recognizing the importance of physical attractiveness. Which is pretty obvious but guys here think that women are going to overlook their low physical attractiveness once they are in their 30s and have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:15 PM
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I'd say depends on the profession, but yeah you need to hit your stride by mid to late 20s if not earlier or you're not suddenly getting good younger women (22-28) in your 30s generally. Agreed. The thing is, if you're over 35 and never had much success with the women you would want to date you have other problems (physically unattractive, poor social skills and charisma, low confidence because of years of failures with women) that are not going to magically resolve just because you have more mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 05:12 PM
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Omg you guys here can't stop whining about paying 50€ for a dinner. Thankfully, I have never met men in real life like you. Tell me how being invited to a dinner date is abusing the man? No one took the wallet out of his pocket. He willingly paid for it, as he should do if he likes her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 03:13 PM
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Who lied to you? It's a myth that once you are +30, younger girls are going to come to you easily just because you are more established financially. It's also a myth that dating women your own age +30 is going to be any easier if you were already failing dating in your 20s. Women in their 30s are more demanding, a large % is already taken and those who are not are likely in a rush to start a family/marry unless you find a child free woman, which again, reduces your dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 02:59 PM
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Question for women under 35: I don't allow orbiters. I think it's disrespectful. I don't have that many male friends nor talk to exes. And I expect the same in return. Men who have too many female friends are a huge turn-off. I have a male best friend which I've known for years but none of my boyfriends has ever been jelaous of him because like you have very well observed: I don't treat him as a boyfriend without the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 01:15 PM
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Maybe you're dating in the religious Midwest and we just have different cultures. Hmmm not at all? I'm in Europe, in a pretty egalitarian country and I have never paid or planned any dates in the beginning stages? Maybe suggesting places to go and see eachother but that's the maximum I will do. I think this definitely has to do with the kinda men you are choosing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:54 PM
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I don't know what's your question and you're a terrible writer. Can you go straight to the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:19 PM
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I know it for sure because she has told me multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:26 PM
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23
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:55 PM
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Talking to their ex from years ago even if they claim there's no romantic interest. Smoking weed once in a while. Following too many women on Instagram. Watching porn on a weekly basis. Having female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:46 PM
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Agreed. I'm very unforgiving with guys and when they do something that I dislike, I simply can't forgive them no matter what other great qualities they have. But I'm also young and I'm completely convinced that I will meet "The one" sooner or later. Maybe when I'm +30 and the one hasn't appeared, I will be more forgiving but til that I will remain like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:23 PM
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Please, enlighten us with what "the real world is like".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:52 AM
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Not at all. Men want easy and regular access to sex, and a small minority realizes that a relationship is the easiest way to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:58 AM
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Dead bedroom awaits him real soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 09:13 AM
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Yes. I'm 23 and I want to be a mother while still young. I can't think of any period in history in which people have been as comfortable as now (poverty levels, access to healthcare, technology, opportunities). You are being way too fatalistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:21 AM
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I'm confused. You are attracted to a power imbalance and seek women who have less experience than you in all regards of life or you are exclusively referring to wanting an inexperienced woman in the bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:11 AM
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And, in my experience, men suffer it way more often than women. Your experience doesn't align with reality. My opinion is that such cases are exceptions rather than the rule and I have yet to see how many men are killed by their female partners or ex-partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:07 AM
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Then you are spending way too much time on the internet. I'm a woman and reading what some men write about women hasn't affected any bit my dating life. Most men irl are not outhere thinking in terms of "spinning plates", "Chad, Becky and Stacy" or "the wall". I'm not afraid of getting outhere because I will meet toxic/lying men. I can spot them rather quick. Most of the times, the red flags are there in plain sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 03:45 PM
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I think college is only important for STEM or Law. Going to college for a business degree or any other useless degree is a waste of time and money. I don't place great value on whether or not a man is college educated, but he has to be knowledgeable and cultured by himself. I dislike people who's last book read was in high school. At the same time, I would consider it a red flag and I wouldn't date someone who didn't finish high school. I meet someone who's married to a man who dropped out of sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 07:42 AM
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The reality is that other options are always going to exist. There is always someone prettier, richer, smarter etc. These other "better" options become invisible when you are within a happy amd fulfilling relationship. The more time you are in a relationship with someone, the less likely you are going to leave them for shiny new person because you are growing more attached to them and humans don't want to throw away a relationship they already invested in over the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:48 PM
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Not at all. I can assure you that having sex with a woman you are paying is not the same as having sex with a woman who loves you. A sex worker has strong boundaries about what she will allow or not (unless you are going to desperate cheap girls). She might not offer kissing and even if she does, she will try to do it as little as possible. You can't fuck her without a condom and the list goes on. And most importantly, she will always have the eye on the clock. I know that you don't care about f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:23 PM
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A couple of days and maximum 1 week. 2 weeks? I'm out, I'm not interested in having a chatbot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 05:28 AM
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Steve.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 11:33 PM
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I basically seek someone who is the opposite of me. Extroverted 4: I prefer someone who is mainly extroverted but still enjoys plans alone or small groups. Neurosis 1: He has to be low on this because I have Borderline Personality Disorder and being around unstable/neurotic people dysregulates me. Orderliness 5. Agreeability 4-5: Someone who is mostly agreeable with me but without being a doormat. He doesn't need to be agreeable outside the relationship. Openness 3: Middle ground. Not too open a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 02:50 AM
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Since when being a functional man is "feminine"? I love men who can cook, do chores and are good with children because I want to be a mother one day. That doesn't make a man any less of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 11:35 PM
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A murderer or a guy who is a 2/7? I prefer the cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:20 PM
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Did Stacy ignore you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:59 PM
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This is nothing special. Any attractive woman can get a following if she works on it. Most women already have orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:55 PM
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This is so obvious yet men in real life pretend to be oblivious to subtle rejection and keep pushing. A few weeks ago a classmate asked me out on a date despite me having a profile picture with my boyfriend. Before that, I had already rejected him subtly, but he didn't take the hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 06:27 PM
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This is so true. Once you give an ugly person a chance, and specially if you are above their league, they feel so validated that someone attractive is giving them attention that they start to believe that they are more attractive than what they really are. What happens next is that they believe they are settling with you so they go to try find their Calvin Klein model.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 09:33 PM
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Couldn't agree more with you. I can accept that he paid for an independent high priced escort but going to a parlor with trafficked chinese women is a big NO.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:56 PM
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My partner follows me on reddit. He already knows my opinions 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:38 AM
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Maybe if he's in his early 20s but a man older than 25 who doesn't have a job and deals with psychiatric problems is surely not getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 01:31 PM
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As long as she's pretty most guys will overlook that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:56 PM
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As a woman with an insanely high body count, I would say that yes, I'm harder to please because I know what I like and I'm not willing to put up with subpar sex without saying anything or faking an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:23 PM
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I'm 23 and I would be ok with that gap as long as he doesn't have children. But why would I? Plenty of guys within my preferred range of 25-28, so why would I date a 33 yo?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:48 PM
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I'm not discrediting the effort he makes. He is as fucked up as her, but he gets to have a day off while she doesn't. I grew up in a similar situation, my father worked 80h per week and my mom was a SAHM. My father still walked the dogs, and took us out on sundays and he did the dishes late at night on sundays. My father would have preferred to stay on the couch on his only day off, and guess what, he did not because he took responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:01 PM
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🤡 I really don't understand why this woman chose to have so many kids when he was already like this with the first baby... Poor thing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:39 PM
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If your wife birthed 8 kids she: - Ruined her body. - Ruined her career and earning potential. - Ruined her dating potential if they ever divorced. You say "just because she birthed kids" as if that was easy. You are minimising the sacrifices she had to make in order to build a family so large. And how do you expect her to take care of her husband if he doesn't let her have time off? She literally can't. They both work have full-time jobs working crazy hours. Just because her job is inside the h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:37 PM
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Taking care of your kids for 1 day is slavery? Go touch some grass. He choose this life as much as her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:20 PM
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One person for 8 kids is not enough. If they can afford 8 kids they should be able to afford a nanny that helps her. And because that's her full time job, yes she should get at least 1 day off, so father should take care of the kids with the help of the nanny on his day off. That's the life he choose. If he's too tired to take care of his kids for 1 day he really should have used a condom. Now it's too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:18 PM
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Working class and poor men have no problems dating and have been doing so trough all the history of humankind. The problem with incels is a quite new phenomena and it's not exclusively related to money, it's a mix of undesirable traits (low physical attractiveness, poor social skills, addictions such as porn or videogames that further worsen their social skills). Saying that men have to achieve financial success to even have a chance at dating is a blatant lie. And if you have tried consistently…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:41 AM
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And then they spend the money they sacrificed their youth to make in various rounds of failed fertility treatments 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:32 AM
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Fertility starts to decline after 27. The ideal age is younger than what I stated, hence why the in my opinion. Within the range 26-32, you should have graduated from college and graduate school with some years of work experience under your belt. Unless you plan on getting into a career that requires more years than average, you should be financially stable way before 35. In that scenario, women should choose a reliable and financially stable partner to have kids with while still young.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:30 AM
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You can be financially stable way before 35. If you have to wait so long, there's some other issues going on. And young single mothers who are not widowed... most of them made bad choices by letting a waste of space impregnate them. If you wait too long, all your "financial stability" is going to be destroyed by fertility treatments (which most of them fail).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:17 AM
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Women are pushing maternity way too far out of our biology for the sake of keeping a career. Ideal ages imo are 26-32.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:56 PM
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I don't really know if women reject you because of being asian but I can personally say that I generally don't like asian men because they look physically feminine to me (skinnier than white men and feminine facial features) and they have small dicks 😭. So I guess you have a point if you come to find other white women like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:39 PM
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I've seen many average looking women irl that don't add any value to their male partners, but they still keep them because they don't want to be alone. Single mothers under 30 (unless they are widowed, this screams bad choices). Multiple baby daddies, no matter the age. Doesn't care about her education or career. She only post thirst traps on Instagram. She's boring, too agreeable, 0 assertiveness. She has let herself weight more than 180lbs. General rudeness, can't make a house a home.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:17 AM
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I know a girl in her 20s who dates a famous painter in his 40s and he has multiple side pieces and girlfriends that she reluctantly accepts and she is monoganous. This man is not providing for her, I really don't understand what she's getting out of this deal. She's so pretty and a lawyer. She could do so much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:38 AM
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You didn't get it. I don't fear that he would cheat or leave, there's no difference on the likelihood of that happening between an heterosexual man and a bisexual man. I fear that I will be stuck with someone who can't really love me because he's not really attracted to me just because he was too insecure to come out and for whatever reason he wants to keep the facade of a happy family and marriage. I risk way more by giving my youth and kids to a man who could end up being gay than a man who is…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:55 PM
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I refuse to date bisexual men because I fear they are closeted gays, so I would rather minimize risk by going for 100% heterosexual men. I don't care if it's sexist, homophobic or both. I don't think it's comparable. You are not going to date a woman with a high N number and wonder if she's just trying to keep facade.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 06:09 PM
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I am 22 and I prefer guys in their 20s. I don't like the re-used and recycled 40 year olds with a receding hairline. I am not into casual sex, but when I was, I always picked hot model-like men in their 20s. A well kept man in his 40s can't compete with a hot 25 yo man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 02:56 PM
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I wasn't raised to stand up to men or disappoint them. Men being angry is a huge trigger for me and I will do absolutely anything to avoid it. This is the case for many women. I've heard countless of times women who have sex with men on the very first dates just because they feel they owe it to them because they payed for the dinner or because they just feel pressured to it without having a true desire for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:20 PM
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Why not? I had a boyfriend who lost his virginity to an escort and another one who had booked escorts in the past for parties. If I don't care how many sexual partners my current partner has had... why would I draw the line on wether they paid for it or not. I just don't see anything morally wrong in sex work. I, myself, hired an escort once for a thresome with my partner at the time. Men already pay for sex, indirectly. Escort-client relationships are one of the most honest transactional relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:34 PM
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In my country (Europe) if you refuse a paternity test, you are automatically considered the father, something known in juridic terms as ficta confessio. I think it's amazing law so that cheaters or biological parents can't get away.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 02:42 PM
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you're definitely teetering on the edge of the line. Correct. But I like agressive men in bed (and only in the bed) and I have a rape kink, which I understand not all women have.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:09 PM
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I'm not redpilled, I don't agree with everything this guy has written. So no, I don't think a man is a "simp" because he gives oral to his partner nor horrible at sex. Wtf man
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:03 PM
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Feeling masculine aggression and desire is essential for a woman's sex drive. Without rude boys, most women can't get off. And this means ironically the generation of pussy munchers and consent beggars is training a generation of men to be horrible at sex So true. You know it's fucked up when your own boyfriend is asking for permission for morning sex. It's like dude....don't be a pussy just do it and I will wake up. I want to feel your prey and you being aggressively focused on getting me no ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 11:57 AM
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There are lots of dominant women / submissive men outhere and they usually just date eachother. It's not better or worse, just different. I'm naturally submissive but I have been forced by society and circumstances to be masculine, so I don't think I could easily let myself go and be my real self because I don't trust any man (yet) to lead me. I don't want the burden of making choices and be my own person. I would love to outsource that and be lead by someone who cares about my well-being.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 11:12 AM
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Both. Each other has their own bank account and then a joint account to pay things like mortgage/rent/utilities
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:50 PM
0

In my experience dating, men do apologize more but only because they use it as means to stop the conversation and stop listening to my complaints "what do you want? I already apologized!" is a quote I have heard more than once. Women are more likely to communicate which is seen by a lot of men as "nagging".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:43 PM
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I know that diamonds are not a good investment, but I still want one. I don't know why lots of guys take this with such a logical approach, it's not supposed to be an investment, it's more like buying a fancy car. Is it necessary? Absolutely not. But car passionate guys still go for it 🤷‍♀️ I want to feel like a princess so my partner better be buying a nice ring. And it's something that I intend to use FOR LIFE. Why would I want a pop ring?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:46 PM
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Yes. I can't believe the amount of girl friends that believe in astrology, try to read my sign to me or make dating decisions based on "oh they are a Scorpio and I'm Pisces so we are not a great match". I have never seen a single man talking such bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:34 PM
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It comes across as you are preempting an answer to have something to complain about later. Sir, you are reading way too much into my question. In fact, there are lots of men here who do value loyalty more than the next shiny fuckdoll 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:18 PM
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Based 😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:31 AM
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Men age as well, there's no denying of biological aging here. But men can compensate being slightly below average with status/money, while ugly rich woman is still ugly, meaning, her dating pool is smaller than her male counterpart.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:28 AM
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You can love your wife and not be sexually attracted to her anymore because she aged and gained weight 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 11:34 PM
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Well, you are an exception because lots of men marry out of pressure or with average women just for the sake of having consistent sex and companionship. A lot of times men settle for women who are not their dream girls, just "good enough".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 11:17 PM
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So you go purposely find women below your league just so that they don't leave you? No judgement here but is it worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 11:05 PM
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Because I want to enjoy being a wife and a mother for a limited amount of time. My partner and my kid would always come first 🙏🏻. This sub is so stuck in black and white thinking. Why do we have to choose between being purposeless armcandy SAHM or bossgirl Ms. Independent? I want neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 10:29 PM
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Absolutely not. I am not going to waste my intelligence changing diapers and posting hauls on Instagram. While I want to be a mother and I would want to be home for awhile, I do not want to be a SAHM long-term. I want to be a research scientist in neuroscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:01 PM
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You guys are always blaming women for choosing the wrong men and not vetting better and when there's a group of women who take the vetting process seriously you guys also make fun of it? 🤡 PD: I can't with your flair 😭🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:55 AM
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2) Don't date someone based on potential. If you're thinking anything like "I just need to fix a few things about them and then they'll be perfect", you're most likely going to be bitterly disappointed Can't stress this enough. I was listening to my dad complain about how my mom never really wants to go out of the house, or how she doesn't do chores etc. I told him "Yeah that but that's how she has always been, why did you marry her then" and he told me "But I thought she would change!". Dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:50 AM
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I would tell them but adapted to their age and without telling them any messy details.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:57 PM
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Nope. Only men want to fuck their best friend. The things I seek on a friendship are very different from what I seek in a relationship. A best friend is a best friend, different thing than life partner. I don't want to date someone who is exactly like me and had the same tastes in everything. My bf likes programming and computer stuff I don't have a clue about and I like chemistry. My bf loves the gym and martial arts and I hate working out, he likes to cook and I like eating 😂... and the list g…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 11:03 AM
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This hasn't anything to do with men being "more bitter" than women for being single. Men are just more prone to aggression than women, in every aspect of their lives. This is true even when men are depressed. Women try to kill themselves more, but actually men are more likely to complete when they try. Suicide is the ultimate violence against oneself. This phenomena is also seen in misandry vs misogyny. Women who hate men, avoid men, they are paranoid and scared of them. Men who are very misogyn…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:59 AM
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I only used "wallet" because the other guy is saying "meat wallet". I don't think men should be a "wallet". This is ridiculous and you are intentionally interpreting it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:53 AM
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Cheers to you for being honest. May I ask, why unrealistically? You don't think you can get a submissive woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:36 PM
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Being masculine doesn't mean being ONLY a wallet. It means lead, protect and provide. But you only seem to hear the last. It means that I prefer my man to make important decisions and I am in a supporting-nurturing role. And it's not providing for the first random girl that comes along either, but for your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:27 PM
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I would never date a man who has been with a man, even if he claims he didn't really like it. I don't want to risk ending up with a closeted gay man. That wouldn't really happen because I always pry and I get out of them the info I want. They don't usually come up with that convo themselves. Again, unless they actively lie, I wouldn't be in this situation, but if it happened, of course I would feel betrayed and lied to (by omission).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 09:18 AM
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The difference between a creepy man and confident man, comes down to it's attractiveness. Hot man doing the same exact thing as ugly duckling is not going to get the same reaction. Tale as old as time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:23 PM
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Makeup doesn't change my face that much. The equivalent to men lying about their height and wearing platforms is a woman putting a picture on OLD where she has 110lbs lighter. False advertisement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:19 PM
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I don't care but wearing it on a first date would putt me off because I don't want to be tricked into believing he is taller than what he really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:23 AM
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F22 and yes, I had my fun and I regret nothing. And it hasn't impacted my life in any negative way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:00 PM
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Hey, but do you know that most women do not share her body count? So you might just end with some h0e without knowing it 😉☕
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:14 PM
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Couldn't agree more with you. Communication is almost never the issue, and also, healthy communication doesn't work with pathological people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 12:44 AM
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This is so wholesome. I hope I can have a rs like yours one day 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:21 AM
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If my partner makes significantly more than me, I'm not going to split expenses 50-50, it's not fair. We are a couple, not business partners. Doing half the childcare is already a myth because you can't split pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and so on. Mothers tend to do more childcare even when both work, that's how it is. So, given that I know I would be doing 60% of the childcare, that's another reason why I wouldn't be willing to go 50-50. And just because he has a job OUTSIDE the house,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:13 PM
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It's biological differences. I'm guilty of this double standard. I'm so disgusted by the thought of my potential bf being with another man that I could never see him the same, let alone have sex with him. And then, it comes with the fact that I would suspect he's a closeted gay man and only want to keep the facade. Women usually have threesomes for their man's sake, and even if they are bisexual, they usually end up dating men anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 12:04 PM
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YES. OP, listen to this wise person only lol . If men didn't crave sex as much as they do, they wouldn't put up with half the shit they already take from us women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:36 PM
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do you find the idea of having sex with multiple men at once appealing as a fantasy Not appealing at all. I'm 100% monogamous. I just need 1 man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:12 PM
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The problem comes down to the dosage. I don't have a problem with a partner watching porn once on a while, maybe twice a week. I do have a problem when my partner can't mantain an erection (porn induded erectile dysfunction) and with unrealistic expectations, when a man expects me to act like a pornstar, which more often than not, that's what happens. I'm not the only nor first woman who has heard unreasonable demands from their partner and 99% of the times it comes from men who watch too much p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 06:14 PM
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Because with that question, you put me in a position of having to prove myself (and that's a position of inferiority, you are the evaluator and I'm the one being evaluated) by having to provide a list of why am I worthy and lovable. If you are trying to date me, clearly I bring something already. Otherwise you wouldn't be trying to date me. That question is lazy and vague. Isn't up to my date to decide if they see enough qualities to date me? Why do I have to do your job? Dating is not s job int…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:17 PM
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I've paid for my brother to go to a good private HS, paid for his two first years of college and have given him thousands for various stuff. Then tables turned and he has helped me when I have needed it. If I was rich, I would gladly let my brother leech of me. I don't see how it's a problem that men help their sisters if they can afford to or vice versa. Specially when we are talking about people who can afford to. Different story is if a man is giving his whole salary to his single mom unemplo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:53 PM
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You are a man that doesn't like sex; you have to understand you are an exception, a minority. So what I said doesn't apply to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:04 PM
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Most women don't need a man. They don't need it, so why would someone be unhappy to not have something they don't need? They do want them, but if they don't meet anyone that meets their standards they are happy being single. Whereas men do need women for sex and emotional support, since they don't have the opportunity to have those on a regular basis outside of a LTR. Since women at this day and age provide for themselves, the only thing that made men indispensable is no longer a thing. A single…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:47 AM
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Not at all. Ugly men who somehow land a hot woman without being rich suffer more through a breakup because they are aware of their possibilities. I'm not trying to be a cool girl, but more often than not, I find there are more women who tend to be delusional about their own league; and even as an ugly woman, you have more options than an ugly man. And the scenario you mention rarely happens, because why would an attractive man date an ugly/below average woman given all the options he has? The op…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:19 AM
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What an ignorant comment. Classist bullshit. Domestic violence rates don't have that much to do with socioeconomic level. There is as much abusive men who are well-off as blue collar workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:17 AM
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I am not comfortable with the idea of being a single mother, I wouldn't ever possibly be in the position of getting pregnant from a random because I don't have casual sex BUT I life happens and the future baby Dad's could turn around and be nasty, and in that case some men are better as absent fathers than anything. Or he could cheat on me, so I would divorce. Or he could die. That's why I wouldn't have more than 2 children because that's the amount I'm comfortable raising by myself if for whate…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:14 AM
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I have found it to be true. When men are over the heels for their woman they are very direct about it, it just can be seen by everyone. Five years into a relationship and still no ring? If he wanted, he would. He can't see you as often because he's busy with work? If he wanted, he would make it happen no matter what. He doesn't plan dates, forgets your birthday and is not thoughtful? If he wanted, he would The point is that men make a lot of excuses to explain why they are not doing X or why the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:45 PM
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No. Anyone can struggle with depression at some point in their lives. I would be wary if said depression is chronic, or extended over a long period of time. Behind treatment-resistant depressions, more often than not, there are undiagnosed underlying issues: personality disorders, Bipolar disorder, neurological disorders and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:52 PM
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Based 😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:19 PM
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• Any Personality Disorder. • Any past or current addiction. • Pattern of entitled behaviour and self-centeredness. • Doesn't really listen; just waits for you to finish without asking any follow up questions, so that he can continue talking. • Rapidly changing mood. • Doesn't have any female friends or close female relatives. • Can't make me orgasm or doesn't want to give oral. • Dislikes children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:03 PM
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Correct. Women outlive men in almost every country. Women re-marry less after being widowed. Women are already dying alone. When men throw that insult, it's all projection, it's what they fear the most as you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:55 PM
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Yes, I honestly don't care. My current bf was a virgin and he didn't told me at first, he waited a few months for this confession, and honestly, it didn't change a damn thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:20 AM
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You are 29, still young. If you want to date a low n number woman, there are still. At 40, there will be none.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:35 PM
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I don't know why you are so defensive, I'm not shaming you for wanting to have fun hoeing. I'm just saying that you have to make a choice, either fuck around for the following years or overcome your trust issues/insecurities and settle down now; but you can't have both because at 29 is too late. I'm telling you the market will be much worse at 40 than what it can be now. It's true that a lot of women have a hoe phase and then settle down with no problems, but they usually have that phase at 17-2…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:32 PM
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I'm 22 and when I mention I want to have kids by 28~32 I scare men off. I don't think there are that many men looking to settle down this young, it's just not the cultural norm where I live (Europe). Sure, I have many options to fuck around, but that's not what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:43 PM
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Single dads are not better either. In fact, they are much worse because they expect new woman to act as free nanny. Not wanting to date parents, independently of their gender, it's a perfectly reasonable standard to have. I don't understand why men should choose single moms over childless women nor the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:33 AM
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You are not going to be able to find any decent woman to settle down at 40, all the good ones will be taken years ago. You will find the jaded and recycled divorced women and single moms. If you already felt insecure with your partner because she had more sexual experience than you, what makes you think that you will be able to be comfortable with all the baggage that comes from settling down with a woman who has had over 15~20 years of experience dating men. You don't make any sense, you want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:29 AM
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Okay, let's take into consideration me being the one dumped. If I still prefer an ex that broke up with me that would mean that I'm not over him. If I'm not over an ex, I would not be starting a new relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:20 AM
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This doesn't make any sense. Why would I have to prove him that he is more special than my ex? Isn't that obvious that I prefer him over being with an ex because otherwise I wouldn't be with him? Do you mean if I took ex to short trip now I have to take current bf to Cancun? I don't even talk of what I did or what I didn't do with my exes with current boyfriend. Men do stay in relationships with women they barely tolerate for the sake of consistent sex, but women are fine being single, so being …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 11:18 PM
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I am not sure; as a young hot woman I can see how I can get more attention than your average girl, but that attention doesn't necessarily translate to stable relationships which is my ultimate goal. Plus, I used to date older men, and they obviously weren't looking for anything more than a trophy girlfriend. Being agreeable only lead me to find subpar men, so I kinda agree with your point. But at the same time, that's where vetting comes in, you get more unfit leads, but because you also get mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 07:39 PM
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Dating apps because I'm mainly at home or volunteering.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 01:55 PM
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Women who are +50 are not generally jealous of younger women, they are generally wiser and have protective instincts for younger women. They know a man dating barely legal girls only is not a catch, he's a predator. Why they would even be jealous? They feel sorry. I have seen younger women, 28-35 mostly who are jelaous and petty with 18-22 year old women. They are just very insecure and are still caught up in the "wall" bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 08:21 PM
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In fact is a turn on because it opens the possibility of a threesome, which is many men's fantasy. Do you think I care men would date a bi woman? I'm entitled to my standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:28 PM
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I don't date bisexual men, so yeah, it would matter
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:47 PM
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I don't see a problem with being selective about the things I care about from the past because what matters to me is current behaviour. My point is that past does matter, but only up to a certain extent. There are other things I take into consideration like what's their current attitude about their own past. Even the worst criminals obtain redemption in our society. I would not immediately discard someone who has made mistakes or things I don't like in their past.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:40 PM
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It matters, but not for the things this sub is obsessed about, like promiscuity. It matters if you have a criminal record. If you have a history of agression. A past addiction. Things that still matter in the present. If my partner has had 0, 10 or 500 sexual partners, I couldn't care less. If he has paid for sex workers, I couldn't care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:32 PM
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No one wants to date fat people, period. Fat women would prefer to date muscular men, fat men would prefer to date skinny women. Both have to settle for what they can get because their aspirations are way above their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 01:22 PM
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The reality outside reddit is that most men don't even ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:06 PM
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A daughter is often the first woman that some men will ever truly care about as a person, rather than as an asset to himself. So true. Your flair makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:29 AM
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Enjoy your feminine men, all for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:40 PM
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Relying on a man is extremely dangerous and leaves you in a vulnerable position to not being able to leave but my point is that women should be kept and (secretly) independent. Act damsel in distress. Let him play hero. Never be a real damsel in distress.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:07 PM
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I’m not a damsel for him to save or protect, I’m not a petty princess, I’m human just like him. Speak for yourself... there are many women like me who actually like to be entitled princess. Wtf??? You have to let a man feel like a hero sometimes?? Because they all want to feel that. Well, not all, but the masculine ones. If you want a passive feminine man you are free to be a girlboss.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:59 PM
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It’s more about mindset than anything. Everyone should be able to provide for themselves if needed as a life skill, but as a woman you have to let a man feel like the hero sometimes. Yes. It's actually a dangerous position to be in if you can't provide for yourself BUT that's why you have to act damsel in distress without being really one. Most men will feel emasculated if you don't need them for anything, being independent as a woman is not a desirable trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:56 PM
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Yeah, but only the most conservative ones are actually coherent and don't have this cognitive dissonance. Growing up, my father never pressured me for school or for getting a job as soon as I was legal to work while my brothers were constantly pushed with the "work hard" mentality because as he used to tell me "you will be a great mother and housewife, you have to find yourself a great husband, no need to stress over grades". Most non ultra conservative men have this wife/daughter cognitive diss…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:52 PM
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Yeah, but only the most conservative ones are actually coherent and don't have this cognitive dissonance. Growing up, my father never pressured me for school or for getting a job as soon as I was legal to work while my brothers were constantly pushed with the "work hard" mentality because as he used to tell me "you will be a great mother and housewife, you have to find yourself a great husband, no need to stress over grades". Most non ultra conservative men have this wife/daughter cognitive diss…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:52 PM
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You are intentionally getting it wrong. We don't say treat your wife and daughter the same. We say, treat your wife how you would want your daughter's husband to treat her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:44 PM
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Oh, okay, so he would just be passive. Still a dealbreaker though, because this reversal of gender roles would make me feel not desired enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:32 PM
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Dealbreaker. I need a partner who has equal libido, otherwise is just frustrating and doesn't make me feel desired enough if the man I'm with sees having sex with me such a core for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:20 PM
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Not wanting to be in an actual relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:33 PM
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It's just an internet myth. In real life, there is the policy don't ask don't tell. I have never been asked how many guys I've slept with and my body count is so high I lost track of it, +400. Never ever had a single issue because of it. I know this is just my personal experience but I don't know where the guys who reject hot young women because they have a high body count are. Where are those mystical creatures?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:25 AM
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Don't you see how misogynistic it is that you dehumanize women comparing us to an old car? I'm not an item that losses value each time it's touched.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:21 AM
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Yes. I understood supply and demand when I was 12. It is a women's market. What's so wrong about it? Women put effort later on; once we are in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 10:51 AM
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I never said that? I literally wrote that I was talking about my brother not about people with autism in general. My brother has also has Aspergers, which is an outdated term nowadays btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:20 PM
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I'm a heterosexual woman and when I have met autistic men, it has been very off-putting because their obvious lack of social skills and their bluntness. But that's my personal experience and there are tons of people who don't care about that... My brother is autistic and has never had any issue dating tho. But as her sister, I recognize things that if I was his gf, I would be very annoyed, for example not having any concept of what privacy means, not understanding unless explicitly told so that …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:09 AM
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I don't want a marriage so that "he can't abandon me". That is nonsensical. I see marriage for what it is, a legal contract to protect myself and my future children. Of course, there is the romantic part of the actual wedding. Plus, there are a lot of things that you are not entitled to if you are not married. For example, when my fiancée died, I was not allowed to see the forensic report because we were not legally married. During covid times, I knew many couples that were not allowed to visit …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:20 PM
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No way. Marriage is absolutely necessary because it's the ultimate commitment. If by year 4 there is no ring, I'm out. Which is more than enough time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:11 PM
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I am naturally submissive but I have had to repress that side of me and reduce it to sexual submissiveness because most men are not worth my submission. Ask any woman in your immediate circle about their exs: most of them have stories of being in toxic relationships with men or have been taken advantage of by men in one or another way. Most women are indeed more passive and nurturing than men, it's biological and exacerbated by socialization. But as we gather experiene in the dating world we nat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 07:46 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:31 AM
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I'm glad you could get out before abuse escalated. What warning signs did you see if you don't mind sharing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:20 AM
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I mean... Why have a LTR with someone who you wouldn't consider marriage material? I certainly wouldn't be in a long term relationship with someone I don't consider husband material because I want to have kids at 28~32, so I don't want to waste my time. But I can see how men stay in relationship they don't see a future with just to have consistent sex. My ex did wanted to marry me but he passed away. I don't think my two other past bf would say I'm wife material. They would probably say I'm too …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:17 AM
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That would not fullfil my fantasy. It's like being rich in the monopoly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:53 PM
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I have the fantasy of being in a bdsm relationship where I'm a slave, an accessory to my partner with no other goal than satisfying him, my life would be completely managed. I realise this is utterly stupid, risky and impossible. It doesn't influence my dating choices, I wouldn't even want to be a SAHM because independence is key. So it's just a fantasy in the background.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:41 PM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:22 PM
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This. I don't know why the myth that men aren't emotional persists. Men are way more whiny and emotionally dysregulated than women, mostly, because they don't build a support system besides their partner. Just by looking at the rates of men being violent or agressive during outbursts proves that men are emotional and "lose control" easier than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:59 AM
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This post is all over the place, your title it's not related to the content. But anyways... What does being emotional mean? You put as an example of being emotional by following along astrology bullshit to get into a woman's pants. Let me tell you, that's not being emotional, that's just having basic social skills as guy. He deep down still thinks it's bullshit, but expressing so would prevent him from achieving the main goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:51 AM
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Side piece. I don't want to pop up children from a non loyal man. Plus, less responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:05 PM
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I have only not used them within LTR, and even that, if I suspect the guy could be a cheater, I use it even at the one year mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:02 PM
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This is not how men think. No man would refuse sex even if he's looking for a LTR unless he's some religious weirdo that wants to wait til marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:37 AM
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I've never been pumped and dumped. Before I even have a first date I make sure they want a LTR too, if that's what I was looking for. So, I've never had to play these silly games. I don't wait because I could not care less about bodycount nor making a man wait just for the sake of waiting. I would be very disappointed if I waited six months, where I'm already emotionally invested, only to find out later thar he has an small dick, low libido or is not interested in BDSM. Sexual compatibility is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:26 AM
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WTF? Why is your GF such an extreme case of people-pleasing? Does she have a dysfunctional amygdala or what.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 04:51 PM
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I think people are entitled to having whatever physical standards, no matter how unreasonable they can be. I don't get your point. Men will fuck a fat woman, simply, because they are more desperate. Women don't fuck a short man, because they don't need to, they are not as desperate for sex, so they prefer to stay alone instead of having sex with a man who is not their type.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:32 PM
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E. Female. I just need tons of physical affection, not just sex to feel cared for. But B is also important. Choosing just one is difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 09:51 PM
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Before the dodge the bullet comment comes up again, when it happens enough times you realize you are in fact the bullet to be dodged. I'm not a native speaker and I don't understand what you mean here It was because they were in their early 20s, drunk, arrogant and with their friends. All ingredients for the classic “ let me shit on this midget in front of my friends”. I don't live under a rock but I haven't seen this situation that much. While girls being approached by persistent weirdos is som…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:26 PM
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Indeed, you are too empathetic. I have Cluster B personality disorder, so take my words with a grain of salt...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:17 AM
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Yes. You should have told her that so that she learns to take a no for an answer. Or in the case she's not fat, just tell her she's too ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:14 AM
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Because this sub is fun and I like to argue. I'm not seeking knowledge nor dating advice because I already know where I stand in my dating views. Plus, I'm banned from r/RelationshipAdvice
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:08 AM
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I am not fat. I would think the guy is just trying to be hurtful for whatever reason. I've never rejected a guy by telling him he's too short or ugly because I appreciate the confidence it takes to cold apprach women. I just go with "I have a boyfriend". The reason why women are sometimes intentionally hurtful is because a lot of men feel entitled and keep insisting after you tell them you are not interested, so you have to make sure to ruin his self-esteem momentarily so that he goes away. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:04 AM
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Why are you so offended by me stating most men don't have a clue about women's fashion (and makeup)? Isn't that obvious? Sorry pal, I missed that you were the biggest expert in women's fashion here, my bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 08:24 AM
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I still have these expectations in the dating market Yes, as a woman you will always have the expectation to look good just to be noticeable. Men don't have such aesthetics pressure. A career is in no way a ‘get out of jail,free’ card for effort I didn't say that as a man all they have to do to date women is have a career. I say that having a career is a pre-requisite to exist in the dating market as a man if you are +28 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 08:14 AM
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And overall, I agree with you in that men don't have a clue into how much "looking natural" takes. But if you are conventionally attractive, the money you spend doesn't need to be as much as you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:54 AM
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Men do put the effort for the right woman because they simply have fewer options even if they are attractive and financially stable. What are these new rules of dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:50 AM
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If you're buying $140 bras to appear hotter... sorry you're just kidding yourself about them helping I concur. Men can't tell the difference between Shein and Agent Provocateur lingerie 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:41 AM
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Most men can't even tell a full face of makeup. They preach they like natural women while following girls on Instagram who are a collage of the best plastic surgeons outhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:39 AM
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Dying hair, makeup and nails is time consuming but it's not much of an effort compared to ie having a career just to be noticeable for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:36 AM
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No way. Men have to do most of the work dating wise, while I get to sit back and just be pretty. I choose being a woman every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:29 PM
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True. I thought you meant average pretty, not ig model level pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 10:04 PM
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Hot women have no reason to date a broke guy. You are delusional. Pretty girls are everywhere. Is nothing special to be pretty nowadays. Haven't you seen pretty women working at Starbucks? Why the fuck they are working then if they would have it so easy by just dating rich men? And look, I'm pink pilled and I'm all about maximizing looks to get your best bet dating as a woman but saying that only ugly women date broke men is out of touch of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:24 PM
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I aspire to provide and spoil my future daughter so that she will never be in the position of having to prostitute herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:03 PM
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Damn, you know too much. You have had a BPD girlfriend, right? I cope by isolating myself until it passes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:24 PM
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Not really. I'm obsessive and monogamous. Why would I want to mess with his social circle when all I want is his full undivided attention, no privacy and unconditional love?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:18 PM
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What's the ideal life that you could get as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:01 PM
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No problem :) I alwas used to believe that "settling" This could be because you are not a native speaker? Just asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:39 PM
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Humm, no. He literally said women are expendable, which is a great indicator that he is not capable of a long-term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:21 PM
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You have to be kidding to say that men doing basic adulting is romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:01 PM
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Haven't you seen the statistics showing men are more likely to leave their wives after being diagnosed with cancer / other life changing diagnoses? Haven't you seen or heard about men leaving high school sweetheart wife because now he's financially successful and has access to a new pool of women? And now repeat that women are the same as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:13 PM
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I have BPD and I need more time with my partner than the average, so if he has fewer friends it's better because then he can spend more time with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:01 PM
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Why do you think you got such a hard time finding a compatible partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:53 PM
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It's called Borderline Personality Disorder
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:46 PM
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Women date broke men all the time, as long as they are at least employed, doesn't really matter if it's minimum wage. Your struggle was probably more related to a lack of social skills than you being in a bad place financially. So women are going to be extremely expendable to me from here on out This mentality of "they didn't want me at my worse, so now they are not going to have me at my best" is going to hurt you in the long run because you are approaching women with resentment and general mis…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:41 PM
3

It originally came from ugly incel women BUT nowadays there are many attractive pink pilled women. We just want to maximize our pretty privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:09 PM
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Immediate divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:01 PM
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This is so far the most beautiful and mature response I've read. You are a catch!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:57 PM
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Oh, there are plenty. These are the ones men leave for a hot 20 year old when they are well-off. Men don't value loyalty as women do. They say they do, but reality is otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:49 PM
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Loving husband who is my type, is going to be a great dad and makes me come first? Where do I sign? 2000 USD is too low to give up love. Up the number and see if the responses change!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:46 PM
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This idea that you should only expect what you can provide is absurd. You are basically stating that you have to find a partner that has the exact same preferences as you. Why not find a complementary partner instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:25 PM
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I don't think it's sexist, no one here is saying that women are less capable in the workplace or that women's sole purpose should be a SAHM. It's just that women are valued more for traits other than being the provider. When people say men do care about a woman's education, etc. more often than not, they're talking about the class she represents herself with. Exactly. It's more like "someone who will not embarrass me in front of my family".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:16 PM
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He means: not submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:26 PM
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You are an exception that proves the rule
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:22 PM
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Totally. But the trick also is, that earning more as a woman doesn't increase your sexual market value
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:21 PM
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It's not that they don't want career women, it's literally that they don't care. If you are a career woman who thinks being well-off is going to increase your overall attractiveness as a person for having your shit together, then you are totally wrong about how most men think. It's not even that men don't want them, it's that these women don't want them back. Because the more educated and rich a woman is, the smaller her dating pool is because usually they want someone who is even better. Most w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:17 PM
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Agree with you. People are arguing on semantics, but call it whatever makes you sleep at night: non-conforming of gender roles, unique, against nature, not attractive preferences for most women and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 11:17 AM
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Fuck no! I prefer becoming a happy catlady than share. I'm strictly monogamous, I expect the same. I dislike open relationships or threesomes. I want to feel special and "the one" for my bf, adding another wife would ruin my self-esteen so I would be out very quick. The only scenario where I would be okay with bringing another woman is within a long term relationship and with a sex worker. I don't really care if my partner goes to have sex with a SW once in a while (and doesn't repeat dates w sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:10 AM
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I chuckled so hard at your comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:29 AM
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Yes. I have good taste so it's only normal that other women check my man. The other day at the gym my bf was being aggressively checked out by a woman squatting next to him and I loved it. I don't want to feel a man has settled for me because he is so unacttractive that he doesn't have many options. I want to be sure that my BF has many other options and still chooses me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:27 AM
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Ha, you wear makeup for yourself not like other women. Your whole comment screams internalized misogyny. Do you go with a full face of makeup when not going out and without seeing anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:10 AM
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I get your point but bringing out those issues would weed out the crazy retroactive jealous women faster. Better to know someone is that insecure sooner than later...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 03:12 AM
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I mean... You are entitled to to your own boundaries and how much you want to disclose to your potential partner BUT it's seems weird as fuck that you consider that matter such a private topic (?). This is like not being comfortable sharing your past job. And if I'm going to commit to someone as a life partner, I think their past is basic info I'm entitled to know them better and make an informed choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:01 AM
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This is SO accurate. Some say that men don't care about a woman's career but I always say, if he doesn't care, his family surely does!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:56 PM
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Do you really think all successful men are outhere roleplaying Hugh Hefner? Sure, they have more options, but I don't get why you think these men don't commit, have marriages, are in love etc normal stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:45 PM
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But why? Your past relationship and sexual habits are an important part of yourself. So, why try to hide?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:34 PM
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These are all normal questions but don't be too direct. The key is to make it seem like you are not going to judge them (even if you internally are) and to not do an interrogatory. Just gracefully leading the topic of conversation where you want it to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:32 PM
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That is pretty reasonable. No one wants to feel the placeholder until partner finds someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:04 PM
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That would be the logical conclusion following their reasoning, but they don't actually use logic. They want to have the cake and eat it too It's like men complaining about paying for dates without getting sex and at the same time not wanting a woman with a high body count. If they supposedly care so much about that, they should be glad that they found a woman that will not fuck the first random man in her way. And these are the same men that are usually pissed off at hypergamous women because t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 07:56 PM
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When it will be finished? I'm eager to see the rest of the cards already. I want to be Aela the elf demon 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:40 AM
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No way. If a woman has feelings for their partner, she will allow things that the one night stand would never get. If anything, casual sex is masturbating with a body for men, and disappointing for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 06:29 AM
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My comment was intended to be applied to people with NPD only. You can feel proud and satisfied when people enjoy your art and it certainly will feel different from people enjoying your meals, but your entire self-worth doesn't depend on it hopefully. When pwNPD say they want to be appreciated for X, what they actually mean is admired and adored. So, constantly changing sources of self-worth doesn't mean much, because the problem is not whether you get attention from your appareance or your pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:31 AM
1

I wish I had something interesting to say to write a book but I'm just an average Cluster B yandere girl. Adopt me and I promise daily drama 🤡😘
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 12:32 AM
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Single at the moment, but I remember how my first bf broke up with me after a suicide attempt that leaved me in a coma. I was still in the hospital when he broke up with me and he never visited me. He had the audacity to return when I recovered and years later after that, is still begging for forgiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:02 PM
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Wow. You're a keeper. You restored my faith in humanity by 20%.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:53 PM
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I don't see how women have high standards... Women are constantly entertaining subpar, abusive or toxic men. I've seen so many women and close friends being played over and over. You just have to open the relationship advice subreddit to see that it's mostly women asking if they might be expecting too much by not wanting their deadbeat boyfriends to do drugs or some shit like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 12:23 PM
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Damn girl, you have been through a lot. Congrats on finding a partner that respects and values you!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 12:20 PM
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Couldn't agree more with you. Most men don't have an insanely body count, simply, because they can't. If they could get around having casual sex every week, they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 12:06 PM
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I am a hetero woman, so not exactly your target demographic but I couldn't care less if a man is a virgin or has slept with 300 women. I do care if he has a history of sex addiction, porn addiction or paying prostitutes. That is a huge turn-off. But just being promiscuous without any particular reason behind is fine. Let's be honest, most men would have insanely high body counts if they could, because men as a general rule, need sex whereas women want it, but not need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 11:59 AM
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Lol your comment history is a wild ride. But crazy in the head, crazy in bed 🤫
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:07 PM
2

Ewwwwww looking for a new baby daddy... You dodged a bullet there
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:41 AM
2

Xanax Pill 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Why do people on this sub have the most hilarious flairs?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:39 AM
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Real life example: Me: Hi I think you look...[gets interrupted] Cute guy: Sorry, I'm not looking into buying anything thanks! 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:37 AM
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FYI I'm approached on a daily basis and last year I did a photoshoot for Playboy. Me being unattractive is totally not the case here 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 08:48 AM
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I try to leave on a high note and end up never seeing the chick again. Can you elaborate on your feelings? Is that, as other commenter said, that men are not socialized to be approached and when it happens they just don't know how to proceed from there?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:46 PM
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It's not just a desire to have sex: I'm not into casual sex. It's just physical attraction that makes me want to get to know them better. I like shy guys, so it was more of thinking, why not try my luck?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:44 PM
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Are you sexually attracted to them yet before talking to them? Correct What is drawing you in to want to approach these men? I've only done three times in my life... But I did it because I figured out though body language that they were too shy or not confident enough, so if I waited to be approached, I would still be waiting for their move 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 10:24 PM
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Yeah, this is exactly why I don't approach men, I just don't need it but I wouldn't mind doing it because I'm not shy. It's just that I don't want to come off as desperate. Edit: you even have to take in account the thousands of men trying to get with her online. But eventhough online options are endless, most women wouldn't even give a chance to 95% of men online. So they are not competition
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 09:39 PM
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Women approaching men who would have ignored them otherwise is a great way to get fuckzoned. This is exactly my fear. They do act interested after it through text or on following dates, but their first immediate reaction is too weird, so I wonder if it's always doomed to fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 09:32 PM
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Women who say men don't care are deluding themselves hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:36 PM
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I feel so sorry for this poor woman😭. Thanks FDS for teaching me that men can and do stay with women that they don't really like just because they are the only ones giving them attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:47 AM
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I love this sub because people can say the wildest things and not get banned. That's how every should should be like
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 11:32 PM
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I called her a prostitute because she is actually a prostitute) Are you really trying to convince us that you didn't say it in a derogatory way rather than descriptive? Lol I've been banned from offmychest for arguing with an anti-vaxx person who was saying we're all going to die from the vaccine 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 10:14 PM
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Yeah and it's literally 90% of people lmao. That's why dating apps work. That's not true, specially for men. Dating apps only work for handsome men, which is not the majority. And even then, the ratio of 8 men per woman guarantees a high percentage of failure. The line between friendly interaction and romantic interest is often small and blurred. Only certain men have trouble distinguishing friendly interaction with flirting. Again, social skills come to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:40 PM
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And a lot of people consider is creepy The problem is poor social skills and men not accepting rejection. You can rapidly tell if the woman you met on the cooking class is interested in you. You already know which person is taken if it's from your daily life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 07:51 PM
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No, my disgust doesn't come from the fact that he is a virgin. My disgust comes from the issues that cause him to be in that situation. There is another guy here that commented that he was obese during his 20s and at 28 lost weight and had sex. I wouldn't have any issue with a guy like that. But that's not the usual scenario. The usual scenario are the things I mentioned. I don't want to deal with men with mental illness, social anxiety or whatever it's preventing them from getting laid. You can…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 07:46 PM
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That just screams poor social skills to me. How does one not have time to meet people? Are you working 16 hours a day everyday? It's a good thing that you are working so hard for your future but you are lying to yourself if you really think that's the reason you are not having relationships or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:11 PM
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I do find it a redflag if you are older than 21 and a virgin. There is probably some kind of issue: Poor social skills, videogame addiction, porn addiction, religious or too ugly. All dealbreakers for me. Usually, the resentment towards women for not being choisen builds up and they have biased core views that aren't compatible with my values.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:07 PM
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No. Being stopped out and about is annoying and usually these men don't take a polite no for an answer, they keep pushing like it's going to make them attractive somehow. If I'm in a restaurant or coffee shop then I don't mind. Why not approach women in their day to day lives? Acquaintances, co-workers (proceed with caution!), hobbies and so on. I personally dislike online dating because is full of desperate NVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:03 PM
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You are rambling and not getting to the point. How did we go about the genetic basis of behaviour to Biden?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:28 PM
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And usually it's the most awful people who are obsessed with passing their subpar DNA instead of adopting if they are so worried about making the world a better place
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:07 PM
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Genetically, if they are hoping to be anything other than losers, Behaviour can be explained at various levels, and evolutionary psychology is just one way to see it. People's priorities are not always aligned with what's considered best from a natural selection standpoint. People don't make choices based on "what's best for the specie". Interesting that you don't apply this logic to the people who are not chosen in the sexual market. Following your logic, being picky is good for the human race …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:02 PM
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Do you understand that they prefer to be single than date down? They don't see it as losing. I also don't see how they are stupid self harmers. I rather be single than date someone below my league.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 10:05 AM
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I don't know who is more stupid, a girl who chooses partners based on horoscope or men like you who lie despite thinking they are retarded but still want to fuck her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 09:33 AM
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Just realized this after seeing another comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 01:14 AM
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If you have to resort to this, no wonder why no woman wants you. Geez, TRP has really ruined you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 01:11 AM
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he doesn’t have your interest. Why? If I loss interest it will be for other factors. But if he doesn't do the bare minimum to take me out on a date and pick the tab for sure there will not be a second time. The 5 guys or the 8 guy? The 5 guy is begging for dates. A five or eight for who? For you? The men I have dated are men I've been attracted to. You're the type of guy who thinks that men who pay for dates are desperate simps. And that's not true. I like handsome, tall, intellectually stimulat…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 12:29 AM
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This. 50/50 is the ultimate scam. Men expect women to perform the same old roles while not being willing to be a provider. And paying for a meal is no5 even providing, the bar is so loooowwww. I take my friends out to places because I want them to enjoy. Why is such a hard concept to grasp that if a high value man is interested in you, he will do everything to treat and impress you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 12:18 AM
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I don't bring anything to the table because I'm the table If he is investing his time and money in me, he already sees me valuable, I don't have to prove anything, he does. Most relationships are 50/50 these days. I know. I personally have never had any issues in with men paying for dates, so I don't care if other women are going 50/50. There are plenty of traditional men outhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 12:06 AM
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Exactly. Love your response and username by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 06:56 PM
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It's a vetting strategy. I want to make sure that he is truly interested in me. If you're a man trying to "spin plates" like TRP says, you have to invest as little as possible into each first date to maximize your chances of success. You can't risk spending your time and money on a woman only to her reject you afterwards. And men who use that are proving my point. Men who say "but what if she is only here for a free meal?", you are indirectly saying that if you could be sure that she would like …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 06:02 PM
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Yeah, you are right but as I said, I don't also recall any time that I've needed actual physical protection, so it's not based on real world facts but feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:13 PM
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Because they can fuck hot girls without any hassle and maximum privacy. A mistress can be messy: she caughts feelings and threatens to tell the wife. It's time saving.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:35 PM
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5'10 or more. I'm 5'7. I honestly prefer a 6'3 guy with average face. I love feeling protected next to a tall man. It's not really something tangible, as I don't literally need anyone to physically protect me from anything nor is a realistic scenario, but I love the idea of it. My late partner was 5'7 and I was deeply in love with him. But he was extremely intelligent, he was a brilliant academic and for me, his intelligence compensated his height. To consider dating a short man, he would have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 11:27 PM
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On a side note: It is legitimate that someone doesn't want to date a former sex worker and drug addict. I would also not consider dating a man who bought sex on the past, but out of the millions reasons and logic you could use to justify it, why say that they are at the same level as a murderer? Is just ridiculous
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/10/21 11:15 PM
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Because most people don't act on those desires. A man may fantasize about having multiple partners and still don't do anything about it because they are comfortable in their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:11 PM
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r/HolUp 🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:14 PM
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I'm with you sis. Everyone here trying to give deep answers yet the one thing on this sub we all have in common is free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 08:40 PM
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Watch how he talks over her, she tried to speak but this loser doesn't shut up to listen to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:10 AM
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They are not "orbiters", what I'm expressing is the reality that I'm being hit on multiple times a week wherever I go, sometimes unwanted attention and sometimes hot men who I'm attracted to. Given the pool of options, there will always be a % of them that want to get to know me first. It's not making men wait for the sake of waiting: it's because I don't like causal sex, I don't want to have sex with someone I barely know, because I don't like promiscuous men, because I value emotional connecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:59 AM
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women weren’t bad communicators Now women are bad communicators when they don't want to answer offensive questions. The concept of body count is in itself misogynistic, as men who use it have this mentality of women being degraded by sex, they are an used toy therebefore they don't want it anymore, or even thinking women get looser by sex lmao. Oh, and don't forget insecure guys who don't want to be compared to other men sexually. It's not OP's case tho. You claim women are bad communicators yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:09 PM
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You are contradicting yourself. You admitted previously that most women won't reveal that, so why you keep being ineffective about it? Has your tactic of asking directly had any success?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 12:40 PM
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You can't ask directly "what's your body count?", that's having 0 social skills, but there are many ways in which you can ask the same question in other ways that won't make your date stand up and leave lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 11:02 PM
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I think it's pretty difficult to find women who don't have a past of casual sex. Just straight ask her, most women will be honest about it. And you can guess too, if she wants to have sex early on, she is doing the same with all men. But don't be an autistic potato and ask "What's your body count?", you can try to start the conversation with: How was your last relationship? How many LTR have you had? Talk me about your past dating experiences and what you like in a guy! Just test the waters.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:59 PM
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What makes you think that men that are not chosen for casual sex are going to be chosen for LTRs by women? Women want the top 20% no matter if it's for sex or having a relationship, some may settle with a below average man with great personality, but definitely they are not the first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:48 PM
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So do you know any pick me’s in real life? I was one not long ago 🙄. And yes, I have friends who still are. Do they go with the first guy they see? Two options: basically any man who would give them the attention and validation they crave or a really hot guy which they are very desperate to chase. Do they keep switching guys? Sometimes yes, specially if you try to get away from the clinginess at the first stages. But pickmes usually don't end relationships, they put up with whatever to not be ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 10:17 AM
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You are not alone and it's not you: Most men have the exact same experience. I have also seen men who IRL date easily get zero matches on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:07 AM
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Everything you have said just proves my original comment. Pickmes are co-dependent, insecure, neglect themselves, and are happy with a one-sided relationship. If you enjoy being a doormat, then be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:03 AM
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You seem very hopeless about women. What I would say is avoid online dating. Online dating is not an accurate representation of real life. Online dating is much difficult to men and can leave you very frustrated. Women get a lot of attention online but mostly is from fuckbois and LVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:47 AM
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Pickmes are abundant, don't know why you imply they are a minority
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:33 AM
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Also chores? That's basic life skills. Who is supposed to do your chores otherwise? Your mom? It was obvious that I was referring to them doing house chores for MEN. Yeah, I agree with you, these man childs should do their own laundry or hire a maid. It's not having sex itself what makes them a pick me, my point is that fulfilling every feminine role while also don't getting a man to do his part is the ultimate definition of a loser. These girls are doing both, what are they getting? It's only d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:30 AM
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I really don't understand this logic. Why would a man who is already getting plenty of casual sex fake wanting to be in a long term relationship to be with an specific girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:06 PM
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First, I don't want to tolerate that. Second I don't need to, since I have plenty of other options as a high value man. Fair enough. That's exactly also why I don't need to have sex early on. I have plenty of options and men willing to wait, so why would I change my behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:58 PM
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Such a person doesn't want anything to do with other people, but they want something from you. As long as someone wants something from you, regardless of their sex, they'll be on their "best behavior" until they get it. But if they treat other people well, people from who they don't want anything, that will tell you much more about them as a person then anything else. A good person is a good person towards everyone. They don't pretend to be good only until they don't get what they want. This is …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:53 PM
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Because they are insecure, co-dependent and mostly mentally ill women who neglect their basic emotional needs and life to be chosen by any man. The important thing here is ANY MAN. They don't have any standards. If I was a man, I wouldn't see the value in someone who would date anyone who gives her the bare minimum of attention. They are also magnets for abusive and toxic men who will take advantage of them, because they don't vet men. They also take the men's role aka proposing to men, buying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:31 PM
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You still don't understand that waiting to have sex works because it repels men like you. Ask women outhere, MOST women who want a long term relationship don't want to have sex in the first date, if they did, how they would know who is serious about getting to actually know her and not men who only see her as a hole? Women who have sex on first dated are mostly insecure women who crave validation and sex is a means to obtain that or want to be seen as the cool girl because they naively think sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:19 PM
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It seems the consensus here is that desperate men are willing to wait whatever it takes to have sex and then ghost the girl because they never were interested in a LTR... If that's true then you guys are making me loss faith in men lmao 🤣. I truly have never seen that IRL many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:09 PM
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And most high quality men who even want serious LTR won't put the effort to deal with such type of women bullshit for so long That simply is not true within a reasonable timeframe. I would say between one or two months, with a maximum of three. What does it mean to be a high value man for you? . If you don't even give me pussy for months, what the fuck am I even doing with you? Well, men like you are what I'm trying to avoid. You really can't tolerate being with a woman without sex for two month…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:48 PM
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I don't think many men have the patience to date a woman for 3-4 month without sex if he is desperate to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:35 PM
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True but those are the desperate minority. Most men who only want casual sex won't put the effort to fake their intentions that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:30 PM
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The block and move on at the very first moment he shows any signs of LVM. Doesn't pay for the date? Block. Any red flag? No more ignoring my gut. Blocked. Having sex early on won't make him want a relationship with me just because I'm the cool girl. Pleasing him will not make him love or respect me. I've always felt pressured to do BDSM to please men. FDS teach me hard to swallow pills about and made me question my own desires. I used to think Sex= Validation = Love. Paying myself for dates to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:44 PM
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Wow, the level of delusion 🤡🤡🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:26 PM
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It's not about fertility neither about looks. There are not many changes physically between 20 - 25. Why then predators prefer 19 year olds? They get off "building" them, training them like if they were a dog, they can push boundaries because they don't even know what theirs are and for example pressuring them into BDSM and other sexual acts that would be harder to appeal to an experienced woman. They want to be in a mentor-professor role, someone who can be easily impressed who looks up to thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:20 PM
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So? Call it gold digging, hypergamy, being attracted to successful men, whatever makes you sleep at night. I don't consider paying the tab goal digging but I also don't see anything wrong with gold digging.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:55 PM
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Why do you think there is a shortage of employees in fast food? Do you think McDonald's trying to offer slightly better conditions "just because"? Edit: I'm talking about the US
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:34 PM
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Agreed. Seems that people in the comments have not dated in a while
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 08:32 PM
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These questions alone are great for a few therapy sessions 😭. Will think about it. Thank you for your comment, I really like when users challenge my views.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:31 PM
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Not a native speaker here. What does it mean giving cheeks? Giving cheekbones is kissing??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:10 PM
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No, it doesn't mean tolerating abusive behaviour or low effort, it only means that dating is not "fair" and never will be. Of course all men/women would like to date the top 20%, but each person has to be honest with oneself and assess how feasible his/her expectations are. Expecting men to pay for first dates it's not something crazy to me. I don't know why some men are so angry with women's entitlement. These are the kind of men that are the opposite of what we are looking for. A lot of them s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:06 PM
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LMAO didn't know that 😂😂😂😂 Who the hell admits that in public?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:48 PM
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Lord, I'm trying to have a constructive debate and it's impossible with your judging self. Whatever, you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:47 AM
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That said if you want a serious relationship then look at how you are marketing yourself to guys if all you get is guys wanting sex. Good point. What do you recommend to me? As I said, doing 50/50 has not improved the number of men who get past my looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:12 AM
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Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:09 AM
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I don't bring nothing to the table at the very beginning of dating. That doesn't mean that I don't have other qualities. And I don't have any problem finding men who do meet my expectations, so I don't care. My ideal man is Ben Shapiro, not some dumb sugar daddy type 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:07 AM
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Because I like traditional roles and like care-taking /provider kind of men. It's not about the money itself because I also like other outdated things like opening doors or that he orders food for me. And it's nice to be generous. Generosity can be expressed thorough many things: time, care, affection and also but not only money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:49 AM
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Otherwise, all that women do in these situations is give off the impression that they either think they're worth more than the men they're dating by default, or that their appearance is the only thing of value that they have. I like your insight. This really made me think. Deep down I don't think the only thing I have to offer is my appareance but everyday I'm reminded that it's the deciding factor. I get treated better dolled up. I have been offered opportunities only because I'm hot and only t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:38 AM
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I'm not talking about lots of money. I don't expect to be taken out to a three star Michelin restaurant. It's about the effort and attention to detail. Can't you guys see there is a middle ground btw taking someone to Burger King and "paying for an escort" type of dating ? Putting an extreme example: taking me shopping for a first date will not workout and it doesn't matter how much he spends. I'm not looking for a man to fund my lifestyle. And I agree with you that he doesn't have to spend mone…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:12 AM
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Men who think like that are just whom I'm trying to avoid. How is trying to impress me organizing and paying a good experience for both of us equal to paying for my time? Take it to a non-dating context: inviting a friend on a nice vacation mean that they owe me something, whatever it is, after it? No, I did it because I wanted to do it. I wanted to treat my friend and have fun with me. I don't want a man that pays just because he expects sex or feels obligated but because he genuinely cares abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 08:55 AM
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I do agree with the article, eventhough the wording comes off as entitled in my taste. I do expect men to pay for first dates, it may not show how he will treat me in the long run but it gives me a lot of clues: - He puts his money where his mouth is? Does he want to make an effort to impress me? - Does he expects sex just because he picked up the bill? If yes, then run, that's cheap prostitution. I don't know why it's a so hard to understand the concept of treating to a nice experience and spoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:03 AM
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I laughed so hard at this comment. Thank you😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 04:03 PM
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As a woman in my 20s, there's always the worry in the back of my mind of "hitting the wall" and being replaced for a younger woman, or just stop being attractive to a potential partner as I age, so that would be a petty reason to accept that reality 😂. I have found teenage guys in the gym between 15-17 attractive, but the thought of being with a younger man than me feels too weird for me. Also there something that disturbes me is that if I can distinguish a 16 year old guy from a 22 one and some…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 03:52 PM
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But my response proves your point tho, as a woman I find it hard to believe it happens that much
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 03:25 PM
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"Men know we can be tricked, and some of us have been lied to". My point is that your post can come across as justifying to the older creeps who prey on barely legal girls. I know you didn't mean it in that way, but it can easily be read wrong. But I agree with you in the sense that, yes, 16 years old are indistinguishable from a 23 year old om their appareance depending on how they dress and do their make-up...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 03:24 PM
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Mental gymnastics to say that a lot of men are attracted to teenagers. Nothing new under the sun
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 02:37 PM
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When I was 17 years old, I was groomed by a 37 year old scrote which used me to find him other teenagers because we was a "progressive polyamorous" man. I've learned the hard way how old men who seek young girls are predators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:28 PM
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There are many women who supported their so in the beginning of their business and were there at the worst time. And you know what happens to these "Bob the Builder" women? They get substituted for a hot 20 year old once they reach their 40s. Men stay with women out of convenience or because they know they can't access certain kind of women, but the second they can upgrade, they do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 09:37 AM
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They only come back for two reasons: -They only come back to satisfy their own egos and test the waters. They want reassurance that they weren't that bad. -They want to fuck and have no one else up to it. You're option Z.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:26 PM
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