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| 1 | "Take a hairpin, leave a hairpin" to let girls know it's a one-time thingThat, dear sir, is just the funniest "meh" way to deal with the situation. | /r/seduction | 18/04/12 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Hugs and putting arms around girls just feels unnatural. (But I'm fine with other touchy kino)"Kino" stuff is very much something that has to be developed personally. Up until a couple years ago I was all about the handshake, then I met a woman who wouldn't do anything but hug/kiss hello/goodbye, and after a few years (yes, years) of seeing her now and then I started doing it with other girls I knew, and they loved it. Then I had a girl who used to like being picked up in a hug whenever we met, and I eventually started doing that with other girls I knew, and then eventually girls I just … | /r/seduction | 03/04/12 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Feeling inspired, starting 5 approaches daily for a month tomorrow!This guy inspired even me. I'm not an approach machine - far from it - I'm not afraid of approaching, I'm just not particularly inspired to most of the time as the attention I get from women is "enough". But reading that, I was like fuck, he met 221 new women last month, I met probably 20, he got 34 phone numbers, I got maybe 5. (neither of us got laid, but honestly I wasn't even trying to meet new girls, I just went out a lot with friends last month. Back to the point, my game is pretty good, I… | /r/seduction | 03/04/12 12:58 PM |
| 5 | Knowledge is powerA little knowledge is key, if you spend time learning stuff you're not legitimately interested in you're probably wasting your time - not just the time learning it, but the time talking about it also. If a girl is talking about something pointless (to you) it's easy to manouvre it to something interesting to you, or ideally to you both. If you're in the mood to keep her talking, a little knowledge is exactly the right amount. Remember to turn questions into statements, egg "you seem like the kin… | /r/seduction | 03/04/12 12:49 PM |
| 1 | How do you establish a frame such that you are a challenge while simultaneously chasing?Heh, point is it's not meant to be seen as "how to treat women", more as a method of framing yourself as a man to be a leader. | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 01:48 AM |
| 6 | How do you establish a frame such that you are a challenge while simultaneously chasing?This will come off sounding bad initially, but women need to be lead like a dog on a leash. You're the one dictating where you go, but she sets the pace. Next time you're with a woman - doesn't matter if it's a date or a mate - just picture yourself walking a dog. Now and then she'll be distracted and pee on a tree (look at shoes in a window), let her linger a bit, but then pull the leash and get her moving again. | /r/seduction | 27/03/12 08:23 AM |
| 3 | Answer to this shit test: "Is this a date?""No, it's a sultana." | /r/seduction | 27/03/12 08:14 AM |
| 2 | [FR] The reverse open and 30 second # closeWasn't awkward, she was keen to give it - the funny part was I didn't even think to take out my phone until she mentioned it, normally I'd have phone in hand and yeah do the gimme-your-digits gesture. | /r/seduction | 24/03/12 03:03 AM |
| 3 | How to Internalize Seduction ConceptsI did similar, but for programming languages (I know like over a dozen) and loads of other skills, and I'd like to offer a corollary to Tofu's guide... Study heaps, but only in-depth that which you can immediately apply. If I studied a language exhaustively and didn't do any programming, I'd still suck at it. My approach was to only study what I needed to know RIGHT NOW, use it until I really understood and internalised it, then studied my next sticking point. | /r/seduction | 22/03/12 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Conveying Sexual Intent Early On: How to Avoid the FriendzoneNot 100% sure but I think it was on the Roissy/Heartiste blog. | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 06:50 PM |
| 8 | Conveying Sexual Intent Early On: How to Avoid the FriendzoneIt's not an instant process, if you digest a million topics you can still only practice and internalize a few at a time. For instance before worrying about anything Tofu has said here, you want your body language and tonality sorted out. I'm a complete nerd, I created a system using a notepad like app, chock full of advice and tactics and quotes and links - all in a small digestible format so I can just read one thing out and about and it triggers all the other parts of the story. Eg here's a si… | /r/seduction | 21/03/12 12:56 PM |
| 4 | [FR] This is a mini-FR but it's mostly a Thank You to this subreddit, which I admittedly was bitter towards for a long time. But I get it now.It seems we all start out wanting to be better with women, then we get success for a while, then realise we really just want to be better men, at which stage success with women is just a byproduct of pursuing Awesomeness. | /r/seduction | 20/03/12 09:04 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Met a fellow PUAYeah, see I've got other friends who are fairly natural with women, but they're hopeless when it comes to multiplayer, destroying the sets with aplomb, lowering the value of their wing, turning things into an interview etc. So yeah, interested to see how things go when I'm around someone who knows what's going on. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 03:03 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Met a fellow PUAYeah will do, I seldom go out with the intention to meet women, I just keep the mentality that I can whilst out, so it will be interesting actually going out to test our team game. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 01:19 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Met a fellow PUAHaha, we're pretty similar, nothing much to look at. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 01:17 PM |
| 9 | [FR] Met a fellow PUAJust read that back, sounds like I number closed a PUA. Gah. | /r/seduction | 19/03/12 12:28 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Pre-selection by WomenThis is only half true, if that. Being around other hot women gives you a mental safety net, I approach and am approached by far more many people when in this scenario, usually when I'm away from her/them. The trick is trying to internalise this state. | /r/seduction | 18/03/12 02:26 AM |
| 2 | This is short, but an important thing I have just realized.I'll be honest, I wish I could maintain that state, for the most part I've internalized it, I know from hundreds of positive experiences that when I talk to a girl it will be fun and interesting for us both - I'm a charming motherfucker - but I still have AA most of the time, especially alone. It's funny how being out with a hot chick gives you the balls to talk to other hot chicks - a few months ago we were hiking a popular trail, and in the hour it took I chatted to probably 20 hot women, most… | /r/seduction | 14/03/12 02:02 AM |
| 1 | This is short, but an important thing I have just realized.My ex is a smokin' hottie and nowadays we're best friends, she gets approached, but it's always by douchebags or losers. She's actually outright told me she wished guys like me would come up and talk to her, a guy who's confident but not a wanker, a guy who can make her laugh but isn't a clown, a guy who can generate a conversation and not just talk boring shit. This came up as a specific subject last year when we were out drinking one night and I approached a couple other women at the bar, and … | /r/seduction | 14/03/12 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Sedditors, advice on how to proceed with this girl?Watch out, I may be reading this wrong as it's hard to tell with little material, but unless you've actually been intimate with a girl the "I miss u mwah" etc texts are indications you're friendzoned. Without going creepy/grubby, next time you're around her you'll have to escalate to a level which makes it clear that you're into her, but moreso - that it is unequivocal that she realises you believe she is completely into you. This way if she does outright FZ you, your frame isn't "I am disappoin… | /r/seduction | 11/03/12 02:52 AM |
| -1 | Horse Girl: does anyone know the followups to BradP's opener?Beating a dead horse opener. | /r/seduction | 11/03/12 02:44 AM |
| 3 | [Seddit] How to get a guy's number for friendship without looking gayThis is where the difference between "picking up" women and men exists, with women it doesn't matter if you don't really share interests, it's more about sharing time together. Some of my best relationships with women are with those whom our lifestyles and passions and goals are completely different, which is why I never care whether a girl is into the same shit as me. However with men, you need a common interest, and the best thing is the guys you'll find yourself most drawn to (no homo) are th… | /r/seduction | 11/03/12 02:29 AM |
| 9 | I am SASHA DAYGAME - and I will help you GET SOME SEXY GIRLS IN YOUR LIFE! Ask me anything! :)Pool/8 Ball seems to be the optimum activity, it's fun, you can make fun of her and yourself, plenty of opportunity to trade touches, still plenty of time to talk, etc etc. The hot-n-heavy rule needs to be more widely known: don't do anything more than short-n-sweet unless logistics/opportunity allows full private intimacy VERY soon. Full snogging and grinding with a new chick in public feels awesome at the time, but if it doesn't lead to anything right away, it almost never does. | /r/seduction | 29/02/12 03:41 AM |
| 3 | I am SASHA DAYGAME - and I will help you GET SOME SEXY GIRLS IN YOUR LIFE! Ask me anything! :)No need to read when you can perform I N C E P T I O N. | /r/seduction | 29/02/12 03:30 AM |
| 1 | I've come to the conclusion that I'm terrible with women.No, I can look at a photo of a spider and conclude I don't want it on me, no trials or tests required. | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 02:50 PM |
| 1 | I feel that I have great potential for success but don't know what the missing link is.Observational assumptions are great for starting or re-igniting a conversation. You don't have to go all Judge Judy on their ass, but make a statement of what you perceive about them - or just make shit up - instead of asking questions: You look like you've got blah heritage That hair must be a nightmare to control You seem like you're having fun/bored I bet you're a whiskey drinker You probably have 15 cats You're Team Jacob Etc etc, if you get it right they can be impressed that you know them … | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 06:29 AM |
| 2 | I've come to the conclusion that I'm terrible with women.A conclusion is what you come to when you've stopped thinking. | /r/seduction | 26/02/12 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?TBH the advice opener is kinda transparent and weak, you're starting out right away asking for advice (imagine yourself kneeling and praying to a God asking what to do), in everyday situations it's better to go for an observational statement, and make it loaded so it's not exactly a question but something she should respond to in order to qualify herself. The other problem is there's the startling effect, this isn't mentioned much in PUA literature, but the reason openers don't really matter is … | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?This is just the sort of stuff we say between friends, in this case I didn't give myself time to think "oh there's a hot chick, what can I say to her...?", I just said what I'd say to anyone I knew and who I knew wouldn't be offended by my dialogue. Pretty simple when you assume a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?You gave yourself the answer right there with your assumption of stance. In this case she entered my bubble of reality, a playful "woah steady on turbo" kind of response is the best opener. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 01:47 PM |
| 12 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?I concur. This guy clearly fornicates with ruminant defecation. | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 01:45 PM |
| 2 | How to handle when a girl throws the "L" word at youHaha - way better than mouthing "elephant shoe". | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 05:39 AM |
| 37 | Seddit, what are your favorite places to go out alone and meet new people?BAM - see how you're already thinking yourself out of it? You're standing there near a cute girl in the fresh produce section and thinking she's hoping this creepy guy doesn't say anything and if you do she'll have a go at you and shame you in front of everyone and make you piss your pants. Yeah, nah. She's in her own head, thinking of her recipe, what she needs, how much it costs, how she had a shitty day at the office, etc etc. She reaches for a potato, you go "hey, leave some for the rest of … | /r/seduction | 25/02/12 04:44 AM |
| 2 | 24-year old guy, going to a bar for the first time Thursday. Any last minute advice?CurveBall is right, if you're heading out to clubs to pick up you'll be anxious and spend the night people watching, or being creepy. Go out to have fun with a mate, being open to meeting new people. Perhaps try a pool bar first, one of the easiest ways to bring new people into a 15 minute fun interaction with you. Also, I haven't done it for years, but online dating is like shooting Plenty Of Fish in a barrel, the women are typically lower quality and often damaged, but great for building confi… | /r/seduction | 21/02/12 07:19 PM |
| 29 | Rule #1 For Attracting Beautiful WomenConfident self-loving introvert checking in... I don't have social anxiety, I can be the life of a party, organise get togethers, meet groups of strangers and form new groups, and yes - I'm decent with women. Knowing seduction inside-out is more an academic pursuit in applied psychology for me, having the self-esteem to know you're good enough to be at least equal to anyone of "high value" (wank term) is the biggest factor, social dynamics awareness just helps hone the craft for someone like me … | /r/seduction | 21/02/12 07:05 PM |
| 0 | Sunday Reflection Thread - What did you learn this weekend?As a carnivore, I find this to be not a problem. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 11:57 AM |
| 16 | How do you start conversations, and keep them?This might help: 90% of the time when I've had a great time meeting someone new, I can't remember how it started. Out of all my friends (and lays), I can't really remember how we met exactly, the only important thing is that we actually met. | /r/seduction | 20/02/12 11:49 AM |
| 3 | How do you go in for that first kiss?It's one of those things - you just know. If in doubt, do it anyway. | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 10:32 AM |
| 3 | To Shave? Or Not To Shave?This be true, and perfectly elocuted. I'm not going to give a dissertation on attractiveness of male genitals, because well I don't need to give a bunch of reasons - cocks are just plain ugly. However, you can minimise unattractiveness (which is all we are trying to do as men) by losing the forest for a number 2-4 around the trunk, and use the naked trimmer on the trunk itself - hair of the cock is not any girl's favourite appetiser. However - complete baldness is just plain weird, you look and … | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 10:30 AM |
| 2 | Picking up guys and girls: How do you feel about high heels in bar/clubs/day-time?It's all about comfort. Just this morning a girl was leaving my place and all she had were her hooker heels from the night before, standing there she looked fantastic, but walking was awkward and she was thinking about every step, so I told her she looked ridiculous in heels. Another girl I know routinely wears 6 inch heels, but she walks naturally and it's just so fucking sexy. So, wear what you can walk naturally in. Trust me, if you're one of those chicks who stumble around, we're just lookin… | /r/seduction | 17/02/12 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Best Openers...and keeping the conversation goingNamed after a legendary fighting bull. Source: I run Aussie Exotics. | /r/seduction | 17/02/12 07:14 PM |
| 1 | success after a few months... then I screwed everything up (not the good kind)Yeah, note I didn't tailor it to dealing with women, A&A works in almost any situation, eg say a mate calls you gay - if you go defensive and like "nah man, you've seen me hook up with chicks before" etc etc you show weakness in your frame and neediness in someone else's opinion. If however you said "yeah, your Dad could barely fit my cock in his ass", you've taken ownership of it, deftly deflected the "shit test", had fun, and probably gotten a laugh out of someone. Just train yourself to the c… | /r/seduction | 14/02/12 01:36 PM |
| 3 | I guess this counts as an EpiphanyIt's great to have a platonic entourage, but don't go exclusively women unless you want to put in a lot of work. My social circles are probably 80% chicks, it's awesome always knowing at basically any time you can call up any number of girls to go for a drink or dinner or just hang out, but believe me on this - there's an attrition rate. You have to remain active on your turnover to be able to keep more than half a dozen who at any given time would come out and hang with just you. There will alw… | /r/seduction | 14/02/12 11:44 AM |
| 2 | success after a few months... then I screwed everything up (not the good kind)She kept calling me scandalous so i wanted to dispel that label People think what they will about you - correct or not. You can't change this, trying to convince someone just solidifies their opinion, if they say their opinion has changed purely on you arguing the point, they're almost certainly placating you. Whenever someone "accuses" you of being a certain way, agree and amplify. By agreeing, you are taking ownership and demonstrating a who cares what people think of me (this becomes natural … | /r/seduction | 14/02/12 05:47 AM |
| 2 | When I have the #-close should I advance for a K-close?No hard and fast rule, but most times when you snog a girl on a night out and that's as far as it goes that night, that's as far as it ever goes. Enjoy it in the moment, but chicks love to kiss, and think nothing of it the next day - or more to the point, they'll post up lots of winky smiles and stuff on their Facepalmbook. | /r/seduction | 04/02/12 06:07 PM |
| 4 | Converted EX GF to FWB AMAI once broke up with a gf and never had sex with her again. AMA. | /r/seduction | 02/02/12 09:55 PM |
| 11 | We are Simple Pickup AMAOnly a girl's? | /r/seduction | 02/02/12 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Sisterzoning - military defense against spazzing out with hot chickswhoosh | /r/seduction | 29/01/12 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Sisterzoning - military defense against spazzing out with hot chicksOne of my favorite self-amusement responses to "where's XXXXX?" is a deadpan "oh she's taking a dump" then ploughing the conversation. | /r/seduction | 28/01/12 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Having some trouble with inner game...When you like like a girl, you switch modes around her to try and show what your "heart" believes is the best version of you. It's annoying as hell, once the interaction is over you're over analysing and going WTF is wrong with me? When a girl friendzones you, but is still in your outer social circles - sisterzone her. | /r/seduction | 28/01/12 06:41 PM |
| 12 | [FR] Worst blowout I've ever had!Some girls are just of the "everyone wants me" mentality, hell, I dated one. Every single interaction she had with a guy - at the bar, in the office, the barista, the damn pizzguy - was about him trying to get in her pants. Funny thing about girls like this - they have chronic victim mentality, ie everything wrong with their life is because something someone else did/is doing. We caught up months later and she asked me why I dumped her, I told her matter of factly I'd tired of the drama, and sai… | /r/seduction | 28/01/12 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Rebound became much more too quickly. No idea where I stand now.She's not in your daily social life, be honest - but not a pussy. If it's a poor outcome - NEXT. | /r/seduction | 26/01/12 02:14 PM |
| 5 | First FR (kind of): Clubbing with drunk friends, few questions, very pleased with my night for a new guyStandard Mystery stuff to start with, but if it gets you actually talking to women then cool. Obvious lesbian test answer is "now kiss", and aim for 3-way makeout. Less obvious is negging the pretty one asking less pretty girl what she possibly sees in the other girl. In field snogging is fun, but it only occasionally leads to anything further. Girls can be massively intimate one minute, then off the rails the next - don't try to understand it, just accept it and move on. Point is, enjoy the tim… | /r/seduction | 26/01/12 02:05 PM |
| 9 | [FR] An impossible success and an ordinary failureI think you already knew the mood had plateau'd and was going to dive once the lights went up - if actually interested in the girl beyond a one nighter, this was the moment to check the time, furrow your brow, say you gotta go, grab her number, and head out for some early morning junk food feeling awesome. Add Breakfast Club fistpump for emphasis. | /r/seduction | 24/01/12 02:45 PM |
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